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over a year ago
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"On POF are weird.
Just saying  "
They so are!
Do you think it's because we're swingers that we don't know how to "do" these men?
I thought it was just the age bracket that is message me on there 
They all have loads if baggage and emotional issues 
And the ones that were never married no children etc..
Are also just .... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not been on there or tinder. But I enjoy listening to stories. Do tell  "
Chatting to someone and offer to take it to WhatsApp - silence.
Chatting to another in what appears a friendly debate - block.
Registering interest in a few (a bit like winking here), they do likewise. I then message them and then get ignored.
If i gave men here that much attention, they'd be worshipping at my feet by now 
Conclusion - I'm definitely not suitable for the vanilla world anymore
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"On POF are weird.
Just saying
They so are!
Do you think it's because we're swingers that we don't know how to "do" these men?
I thought it was just the age bracket that is message me on there
They all have loads if baggage and emotional issues
And the ones that were never married no children etc..
Are also just .... "
I'm so glad I'm not alone  |
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Are these men in the category of - if you show any attention it’s akin to wanting marriage.
Perhaps if you tell them from the outset you promise not to look them directly in the eye, you may have more luck  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Are these men in the category of - if you show any attention it’s akin to wanting marriage.
Perhaps if you tell them from the outset you promise not to look them directly in the eye, you may have more luck "
The ones i make contact with mention dating, not hang out on their profiles.
In my profile i state non-vanilla. I had one man ask me if that meant i only date black men |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"They are,I've been seeing one for a while now. Think I may be heading for the 'r' word
Rid or rut?
Or rmaybe relationship "
I'm doomed, that thought never crossed my mind |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Some of the women on there are equally as weird. "
I'm sure they are but i wouldn't know as I'm not seeking one .
Tell me, how does the weirdness materialise, in your view?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I met an ex on POF years ago. Okay, she’s now an ex which obviously says something, but my point is that POF isn’t all about sex. She was one of the best women in the world. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've also come across many weird women on there.
1. Loads of emotional baggage
2. Send winks. I wink back. Never hear from them.
3. Chatting online. Ask for phone number to take it to WhatsApp...and they dissappear.
4. Desperate and needy. I dont want to know straight on that you want children within 6 months!!
But hey this is online dating... Everyone is different and have had different experiences. There is someone out there for everyone. Pof just might not be the right platform. Match is a lot better! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My ex is on there, he had the balls to swipe meet me on one of my friends profiles, so she messaged me of course. His profile is amusing, basically full of lies about him having is own house (we rent together but I’ve left it at the moment but still paying my share) about him going to musical and sporting events... nope doesn’t do that either. About him liking weekends away... meals out ( only if someone else pays!) being a gentleman- well when we broke up it was me that slept on the sofa even though I paid for the bed- basically his profile is full of bullshit- I wouldn’t trust any guys on that site to be honest. At least here usually what you see is what you get |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh and not forgetting the women who I met for a date. But looked nothing like her profile pics.
Then the other one who didn't reach in her purse once or even offer to buy a drink. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My ex is on there, he had the balls to swipe meet me on one of my friends profiles, so she messaged me of course. His profile is amusing, basically full of lies about him having is own house (we rent together but I’ve left it at the moment but still paying my share) about him going to musical and sporting events... nope doesn’t do that either. About him liking weekends away... meals out ( only if someone else pays!) being a gentleman- well when we broke up it was me that slept on the sofa even though I paid for the bed- basically his profile is full of bullshit- I wouldn’t trust any guys on that site to be honest. At least here usually what you see is what you get "
Why didn’t you stay in the bed and keep ‘accidently’ kneeing and elbowing him? Might have made you feel better... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"On POF are weird.
Just saying "
I did get called that once but then their are some real strange birds too.
One wanted me to move in after I’d said I was married and we had spoke twice on the phone.
Thought her and her mate were going to hunt me down  |
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"They are,I've been seeing one for a while now. Think I may be heading for the 'r' word
Rid or rut?
Or rmaybe relationship "
I keep joking we're still at the 'dating' stage,let's see how long he can put up with that for before he bin's me again  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've also come across many weird women on there.
1. Loads of emotional baggage
2. Send winks. I wink back. Never hear from them.
3. Chatting online. Ask for phone number to take it to WhatsApp...and they dissappear.
4. Desperate and needy. I dont want to know straight on that you want children within 6 months!!
But hey this is online dating... Everyone is different and have had different experiences. There is someone out there for everyone. Pof just might not be the right platform. Match is a lot better! "
Match is an awful platform. POF gives you plenty free, Match takes your money then demands more and more for upgrades that POF views as basic. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"My ex is on there, he had the balls to swipe meet me on one of my friends profiles, so she messaged me of course. His profile is amusing, basically full of lies about him having is own house (we rent together but I’ve left it at the moment but still paying my share) about him going to musical and sporting events... nope doesn’t do that either. About him liking weekends away... meals out ( only if someone else pays!) being a gentleman- well when we broke up it was me that slept on the sofa even though I paid for the bed- basically his profile is full of bullshit- I wouldn’t trust any guys on that site to be honest. At least here usually what you see is what you get "
The degree of honesty appears higher here. |
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Wow. Way to tar everyone with the same brush!
Pof isn't the problem, people are, and in general, the older they are, the more baggage they have accumulated.
I found myself suddenly single in my mid thirties. I tried going to bars, speed dating, match and pof.
I met women with baggage everywhere, so my guess is that men are the same.
Anyway, I had a happy ending (disney style). Met my partner on pof and eight years and two babies later we are still together.
Then again, maybe we are both weird...  |
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By *olly gMan
over a year ago
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"My ex is on there, he had the balls to swipe meet me on one of my friends profiles, so she messaged me of course. His profile is amusing, basically full of lies about him having is own house (we rent together but I’ve left it at the moment but still paying my share) about him going to musical and sporting events... nope doesn’t do that either. About him liking weekends away... meals out ( only if someone else pays!) being a gentleman- well when we broke up it was me that slept on the sofa even though I paid for the bed- basically his profile is full of bullshit- I wouldn’t trust any guys on that site to be honest. At least here usually what you see is what you get "
Well I'm sure you body would look better in that bed so go claim it back |
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"Are these men in the category of - if you show any attention it’s akin to wanting marriage.
Perhaps if you tell them from the outset you promise not to look them directly in the eye, you may have more luck
The ones i make contact with mention dating, not hang out on their profiles.
In my profile i state non-vanilla. I had one man ask me if that meant i only date black men "
I chatted to a 'non-vanilla' one on there who looked quite good - one phone call totally put me off though, ghastly voice!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Wow. Way to tar everyone with the same brush!
Pof isn't the problem, people are, and in general, the older they are, the more baggage they have accumulated.
I found myself suddenly single in my mid thirties. I tried going to bars, speed dating, match and pof.
I met women with baggage everywhere, so my guess is that men are the same.
Anyway, I had a happy ending (disney style). Met my partner on pof and eight years and two babies later we are still together.
Then again, maybe we are both weird... "
Cos my OP wasn't tongue-in-cheek  |
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"Are these men in the category of - if you show any attention it’s akin to wanting marriage.
Perhaps if you tell them from the outset you promise not to look them directly in the eye, you may have more luck
The ones i make contact with mention dating, not hang out on their profiles.
In my profile i state non-vanilla. I had one man ask me if that meant i only date black men "
Think he thought you were on about ice cream lol |
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"Cos my OP wasn't tongue-in-cheek "
To be fair, I understood your post was, but some of the others...
Anyway, mine probably sounded like a rant when re-reading it, and it wasn't meant like that at all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would say that "some men and women" are a little odd.
Lets not generalize now !!!
There are some real decent people on there and on here. People that just want to be wanted, valued and loved.
Guys like myself. I have a good career, nice home, car, solvent etc. Yet i am unable to find anyone.
If thats weird then fuuuuuckkkkk youuuuuu!
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"I would say that "some men and women" are a little odd.
Lets not generalize now !!!
There are some real decent people on there and on here. People that just want to be wanted, valued and loved.
Guys like myself. I have a good career, nice home, car, solvent etc. Yet i am unable to find anyone.
If thats weird then fuuuuuckkkkk youuuuuu!
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Ok...so this is a rant... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I would say that "some men and women" are a little odd.
Lets not generalize now !!!
There are some real decent people on there and on here. People that just want to be wanted, valued and loved.
Guys like myself. I have a good career, nice home, car, solvent etc. Yet i am unable to find anyone.
If thats weird then fuuuuuckkkkk youuuuuu!
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Well said fella |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I would say that "some men and women" are a little odd.
Lets not generalize now !!!
There are some real decent people on there and on here. People that just want to be wanted, valued and loved.
Guys like myself. I have a good career, nice home, car, solvent etc. Yet i am unable to find anyone.
If thats weird then fuuuuuckkkkk youuuuuu!
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You wish |
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