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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Do you read forum threads and feel like you can't be honest about who you do and don't want to have sex with? Has it made you less open about your preferences because you know that people will slate you for it? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oddly enough I've never really looked at forumites as people I'd consider.
The whole thing is so subjective I'd not really care what other people think about my choice. |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
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No, because I have no set in stone preferences. I sometimes think fab life would be easier if I did rather than harder. I may get grief from those who don't match said preferences but if I didn't want to meet them anyway then would it really matter? The question also presupposes that the forum is the main vein to search for those to meet as well (otherwise it wouldn't matter what other forumites think) and that isn't the case for me either. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People can be judgemental and people don't like others some bitchy not just here in real life
If you said you was interested in me but the guy who you like best on your hot list don't like me it could affect your chances maybe |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you read forum threads and feel like you can't be honest about who you do and don't want to have sex with? Has it made you less open about your preferences because you know that people will slate you for it?"
No, not at all. |
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By *eesideMan
over a year ago
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"Do you read forum threads and feel like you can't be honest about who you do and don't want to have sex with? Has it made you less open about your preferences because you know that people will slate you for it?"
Mabey ??  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I tend to be evasive for a number of reasons. Im quite shy so naming random people I just like the look of but haven't spoken with is out.
Im worried if I name people I do speak to I'll either miss someone by mistake or not name someone who sees me as a potential where I see them just as someone I chat to. Either way I don't want to offend.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I tend to be evasive for a number of reasons. Im quite shy so naming random people I just like the look of but haven't spoken with is out.
Im worried if I name people I do speak to I'll either miss someone by mistake or not name someone who sees me as a potential where I see them just as someone I chat to. Either way I don't want to offend.
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Good point about the kiss fuck pass type threads. I agree so I avoid those.
I was thinking more of threads where people discuss preferences.
Bum size tit size cock size car size. |
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Nope, if we like the look of someone’s profile enough to think they’re hot, then we’re fine with letting them know our interest in them. After all, that’s what the majority of us are here for, to meet likeminded, mutually attracted people to see if we get on enough to get it on |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you read forum threads and feel like you can't be honest about who you do and don't want to have sex with? Has it made you less open about your preferences because you know that people will slate you for it?"
Nope. I have no preference really, and the guys I chat to with an intention of meeting, of have met, have nothing similar about them looks wise.
My taste seems to be quite eclectic, so it doesn't bother me to state who I would want to have sex with. Only thing I don't do is say who I wouldn't, as I'm not here to make people feel bad, and I feel saying who you wouldn't would make it seem like some sort of bashing post. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Nope, if we like the look of someone’s profile enough to think they’re hot, then we’re fine with letting them know our interest in them. After all, that’s what the majority of us are here for, to meet likeminded, mutually attracted people to see if we get on enough to get it on "
Absolutely.
But would you feel comfortable mentioning your preferences on the forum? Knowing that some people would find fault in your opinion, and try and shame you for your personal sexual attraction likes and dislikes? |
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No I don't.
I read plenty of threads and profiles that exclude me because of my preferences. The way I look at it is that the exclusion is mutual.
I do think that "some" people take offence at the polite expression of preferences that exclude them.
Everyone is on fab for their own reasons and should feel able to say what they want politely and respectfully in my opinion. |
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"Nope, if we like the look of someone’s profile enough to think they’re hot, then we’re fine with letting them know our interest in them. After all, that’s what the majority of us are here for, to meet likeminded, mutually attracted people to see if we get on enough to get it on
Absolutely.
But would you feel comfortable mentioning your preferences on the forum? Knowing that some people would find fault in your opinion, and try and shame you for your personal sexual attraction likes and dislikes? "
I am. I've had various "accusations" thrown my way due to two specific preferences. If I had feathers and quacked I'd say its water off a ducks back  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Of course I feel comfortable with it... where men are concerned I only have two particular preferences, and I feel no need to justify my tastes to anyone else. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you read forum threads and feel like you can't be honest about who you do and don't want to have sex with? Has it made you less open about your preferences because you know that people will slate you for it?"
I’m not in the clique so I can be honest about who I want to have sex with, without the fear of being cast out from the clique  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do you read forum threads and feel like you can't be honest about who you do and don't want to have sex with? Has it made you less open about your preferences because you know that people will slate you for it?
I’m not in the clique so I can be honest about who I want to have sex with, without the fear of being cast out from the clique "
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"Do you read forum threads and feel like you can't be honest about who you do and don't want to have sex with? Has it made you less open about your preferences because you know that people will slate you for it?
I’m not in the clique so I can be honest about who I want to have sex with, without the fear of being cast out from the clique "
Likewise. |
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I just think it’s a bit sad that just because you might like something that others don’t they view it as wrong, is it really wrong to like someone larger, is it really wrong to like petite, or white or black, I can never get my head round the fact that just because someone has a preference they are lambasted for it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's nobody elses's business what or who i do on here. Their opinion on my preferences is their opinion, they can ponder it if they want but i'm sure most would rather satisfy their own needs on here than concern themselves about mine.
So no drama (mostly!) for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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On paper, my preference is for a tall man with a footballers physique but I left my husband who was 6’2 with a footballers physique for someone who was 5”8 and with a rugby players physique so I know in reality my preference is not set in stone.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you read forum threads and feel like you can't be honest about who you do and don't want to have sex with? Has it made you less open about your preferences because you know that people will slate you for it?
I’m not in the clique so I can be honest about who I want to have sex with, without the fear of being cast out from the clique
Likewise. "
I thought you were the leader of the clique |
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"Do you read forum threads and feel like you can't be honest about who you do and don't want to have sex with? Has it made you less open about your preferences because you know that people will slate you for it?
I’m not in the clique so I can be honest about who I want to have sex with, without the fear of being cast out from the clique
Likewise.
I thought you were the leader of the clique "
I am? Bloody hell |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There are some that will slate/judge people for naming , 'they know who they are' 
I only name when I'm in a flirty mood, when my mojo is down I'm reluctant to put my favourite people's names in here. If you could view my hotlist, it would make it easier. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Do you read forum threads and feel like you can't be honest about who you do and don't want to have sex with? Has it made you less open about your preferences because you know that people will slate you for it?"
I believe that the honest answer to this question is different for single men as opposed to other groups. It will be interesting to see how many even post on this thread never mind saying something remotely controversial.
I just had a thread in which I specifically refused to share my personal preferences of who I find attractive and it still led to me being informed that I'd spoiled my chances with many on the site.
I don't feel like I can't be honest but...... |
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"There are some that will slate/judge people for naming , 'they know who they are'
I only name when I'm in a flirty mood, when my mojo is down I'm reluctant to put my favourite people's names in here. If you could view my hotlist, it would make it easier. "
It's ok. I know |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There are some that will slate/judge people for naming , 'they know who they are'
I only name when I'm in a flirty mood, when my mojo is down I'm reluctant to put my favourite people's names in here. If you could view my hotlist, it would make it easier. "
I reckon I could guess quite a few on it. |
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I'm at the time of life where I don't really care less how others judge, in lots of ways.
I'd be more pissed off with myself for letting someone pass me by because I was more worried about people I don't even know opinions. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"There are some that will slate/judge people for naming , 'they know who they are'
I only name when I'm in a flirty mood, when my mojo is down I'm reluctant to put my favourite people's names in here. If you could view my hotlist, it would make it easier.
I reckon I could guess quite a few on it."
If I've not been dropping hints around the forum, I'm doing something wrong.  |
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"Do you read forum threads and feel like you can't be honest about who you do and don't want to have sex with? Has it made you less open about your preferences because you know that people will slate you for it?
I believe that the honest answer to this question is different for single men as opposed to other groups. It will be interesting to see how many even post on this thread never mind saying something remotely controversial.
I just had a thread in which I specifically refused to share my personal preferences of who I find attractive and it still led to me being informed that I'd spoiled my chances with many on the site.
I don't feel like I can't be honest but......"
We're consistently informed by those that don't want to meet us due to a couple of fairly unpopular preferences that they don't want to meet us. I'm only surprised that they think we want to meet them in the first place .
People dislike being excluded because nearly all of us want to think we're universally liked. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"People dislike being excluded because nearly all of us want to think we're universally liked. "
Do you genuinely believe the latter part of that? Personally, I prefer people to state what they like instead of the generic bullcrap. It doesn't mean I won't view it as being an 'ist but I appreciate their honesty.
I would say that in most cases, people don't 'dislike' a preference. The thing that seems to bother most is when they get labelled a certain way (however right or wrong that may be). |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes, I did mention once something that was in our dynamic and was slated for it. But it's not like we'd expect a meet to do it, it was just something we like to share together. As for naming people, yes I joke and flirt but most of the time I'm comfortable with that because I know most of them wouldn't want me so I can relax. Those that I do I tend to look and not say unless they say first x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I'm asked a direct question I'll give a direct answer but like with so much on here the way a preference is written / viewed it can get taken out of context, twisted and basically end up causing grief.
So, in general I don't think people really need to know mine |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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I wouldn't say, that I'm less open about my preferences. I do think more about how to word things as it's easy for things to be twisted or taken the wrong way.
Saying that, the amount of times I've noticed we've been blocked by forum users, I might as well not bother.
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"People dislike being excluded because nearly all of us want to think we're universally liked.
Do you genuinely believe the latter part of that? Personally, I prefer people to state what they like instead of the generic bullcrap. It doesn't mean I won't view it as being an 'ist but I appreciate their honesty.
I would say that in most cases, people don't 'dislike' a preference. The thing that seems to bother most is when they get labelled a certain way (however right or wrong that may be)."
Yes I do although I should have qualified it with "some".
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By (user no longer on site)
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"People dislike being excluded because nearly all of us want to think we're universally liked.
Do you genuinely believe the latter part of that? Personally, I prefer people to state what they like instead of the generic bullcrap. It doesn't mean I won't view it as being an 'ist but I appreciate their honesty.
I would say that in most cases, people don't 'dislike' a preference. The thing that seems to bother most is when they get labelled a certain way (however right or wrong that may be)."
I often find people think I’m opposed to people having preferences. Absolutely not. I question the need to parade one’s right to them in forum threads so publicly and then get offended if someone challenges them. Then I wonder what the real intention was. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm fairly open and honest about my preferences and don't really care what people think. If I say I don't want to meet a guy in a nappy or someone who wants to suck my toes and people don't like that, I can live with that. I don't feel that I can't tell people openly, as a Forum is for discussion and one should be able to say things if they want to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"People dislike being excluded because nearly all of us want to think we're universally liked.
Do you genuinely believe the latter part of that? Personally, I prefer people to state what they like instead of the generic bullcrap. It doesn't mean I won't view it as being an 'ist but I appreciate their honesty.
I would say that in most cases, people don't 'dislike' a preference. The thing that seems to bother most is when they get labelled a certain way (however right or wrong that may be)."
Totally agree with this  |
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"People dislike being excluded because nearly all of us want to think we're universally liked.
Do you genuinely believe the latter part of that? Personally, I prefer people to state what they like instead of the generic bullcrap. It doesn't mean I won't view it as being an 'ist but I appreciate their honesty.
I would say that in most cases, people don't 'dislike' a preference. The thing that seems to bother most is when they get labelled a certain way (however right or wrong that may be).
I often find people think I’m opposed to people having preferences. Absolutely not. I question the need to parade one’s right to them in forum threads so publicly and then get offended if someone challenges them. Then I wonder what the real intention was. "
I want people to have preferences.
What I don't want is people expressing them disrespectfully, people slating them for holding that preference, people thinking holding a certain preference makes them better than everyone else and people feeling offended because they are excluded by that preference. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"People dislike being excluded because nearly all of us want to think we're universally liked.
Do you genuinely believe the latter part of that? Personally, I prefer people to state what they like instead of the generic bullcrap. It doesn't mean I won't view it as being an 'ist but I appreciate their honesty.
I would say that in most cases, people don't 'dislike' a preference. The thing that seems to bother most is when they get labelled a certain way (however right or wrong that may be).
I often find people think I’m opposed to people having preferences. Absolutely not. I question the need to parade one’s right to them in forum threads so publicly and then get offended if someone challenges them. Then I wonder what the real intention was. "
Do you mean like the thread today? He was asking a question. At no point did he make derogatory remarks about anyone's preferences- other people in the thread did, at him.
If you mean my thread I wasn't offended in the slightest. Just bemused that people latched onto one thing and assumed that was the issue when it wasn't. I did explain, but as 'some' people think they know everything they decided that I don't know my own mind. Some people did understand and I appreciated that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"People dislike being excluded because nearly all of us want to think we're universally liked.
Do you genuinely believe the latter part of that? Personally, I prefer people to state what they like instead of the generic bullcrap. It doesn't mean I won't view it as being an 'ist but I appreciate their honesty.
I would say that in most cases, people don't 'dislike' a preference. The thing that seems to bother most is when they get labelled a certain way (however right or wrong that may be).
I often find people think I’m opposed to people having preferences. Absolutely not. I question the need to parade one’s right to them in forum threads so publicly and then get offended if someone challenges them. Then I wonder what the real intention was.
I want people to have preferences.
What I don't want is people expressing them disrespectfully, people slating them for holding that preference, people thinking holding a certain preference makes them better than everyone else and people feeling offended because they are excluded by that preference. "
Why is someone challenging an intent seen as slating? If someone wants a discussion why is it assumed a challenge means offence has been taken or that preference is disrespected? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"People dislike being excluded because nearly all of us want to think we're universally liked.
Do you genuinely believe the latter part of that? Personally, I prefer people to state what they like instead of the generic bullcrap. It doesn't mean I won't view it as being an 'ist but I appreciate their honesty.
I would say that in most cases, people don't 'dislike' a preference. The thing that seems to bother most is when they get labelled a certain way (however right or wrong that may be).
I often find people think I’m opposed to people having preferences. Absolutely not. I question the need to parade one’s right to them in forum threads so publicly and then get offended if someone challenges them. Then I wonder what the real intention was.
Do you mean like the thread today? He was asking a question. At no point did he make derogatory remarks about anyone's preferences- other people in the thread did, at him.
If you mean my thread I wasn't offended in the slightest. Just bemused that people latched onto one thing and assumed that was the issue when it wasn't. I did explain, but as 'some' people think they know everything they decided that I don't know my own mind. Some people did understand and I appreciated that. "
I’ve not castigated someone for having a preference. That’s completely misunderstanding my point and the same assumption you say people have made about you. |
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"People dislike being excluded because nearly all of us want to think we're universally liked.
Do you genuinely believe the latter part of that? Personally, I prefer people to state what they like instead of the generic bullcrap. It doesn't mean I won't view it as being an 'ist but I appreciate their honesty.
I would say that in most cases, people don't 'dislike' a preference. The thing that seems to bother most is when they get labelled a certain way (however right or wrong that may be).
I often find people think I’m opposed to people having preferences. Absolutely not. I question the need to parade one’s right to them in forum threads so publicly and then get offended if someone challenges them. Then I wonder what the real intention was.
I want people to have preferences.
What I don't want is people expressing them disrespectfully, people slating them for holding that preference, people thinking holding a certain preference makes them better than everyone else and people feeling offended because they are excluded by that preference.
Why is someone challenging an intent seen as slating? If someone wants a discussion why is it assumed a challenge means offence has been taken or that preference is disrespected? "
I mean skating not challenging to my mind that's two different things. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"People dislike being excluded because nearly all of us want to think we're universally liked.
Do you genuinely believe the latter part of that? Personally, I prefer people to state what they like instead of the generic bullcrap. It doesn't mean I won't view it as being an 'ist but I appreciate their honesty.
I would say that in most cases, people don't 'dislike' a preference. The thing that seems to bother most is when they get labelled a certain way (however right or wrong that may be).
I often find people think I’m opposed to people having preferences. Absolutely not. I question the need to parade one’s right to them in forum threads so publicly and then get offended if someone challenges them. Then I wonder what the real intention was.
I want people to have preferences.
What I don't want is people expressing them disrespectfully, people slating them for holding that preference, people thinking holding a certain preference makes them better than everyone else and people feeling offended because they are excluded by that preference.
Why is someone challenging an intent seen as slating? If someone wants a discussion why is it assumed a challenge means offence has been taken or that preference is disrespected?
I mean skating not challenging to my mind that's two different things."
Okay, fair enough. |
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At the end of the day a lot of people hide behind the word 'preference' for what is pure prejudice. The funny thing is that there are legimate differences at the average level between different races, so prejudice isn't entirely unreasonable as long as you understand the difference between averages and individuals.
I just wish people would cut the bullshit and call a spade a spade. I don't judge people for being a bit prejudice, we all are, i judge them for not bring honest and exploring it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No. I am me. I don't care if you lot don't like a hairy vagina, I do! "
Would now be a good time to send you an unsolicited hairy vag pic?
Just kidding! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"At the end of the day a lot of people hide behind the word 'preference' for what is pure prejudice. The funny thing is that there are legimate differences at the average level between different races, so prejudice isn't entirely unreasonable as long as you understand the difference between averages and individuals.
I just wish people would cut the bullshit and call a spade a spade. I don't judge people for being a bit prejudice, we all are, i judge them for not bring honest and exploring it. "
Very well articulated. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"People dislike being excluded because nearly all of us want to think we're universally liked.
Do you genuinely believe the latter part of that? Personally, I prefer people to state what they like instead of the generic bullcrap. It doesn't mean I won't view it as being an 'ist but I appreciate their honesty.
I would say that in most cases, people don't 'dislike' a preference. The thing that seems to bother most is when they get labelled a certain way (however right or wrong that may be).
I often find people think I’m opposed to people having preferences. Absolutely not. I question the need to parade one’s right to them in forum threads so publicly and then get offended if someone challenges them. Then I wonder what the real intention was.
Do you mean like the thread today? He was asking a question. At no point did he make derogatory remarks about anyone's preferences- other people in the thread did, at him.
If you mean my thread I wasn't offended in the slightest. Just bemused that people latched onto one thing and assumed that was the issue when it wasn't. I did explain, but as 'some' people think they know everything they decided that I don't know my own mind. Some people did understand and I appreciated that.
I’ve not castigated someone for having a preference. That’s completely misunderstanding my point and the same assumption you say people have made about you. "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"At the end of the day a lot of people hide behind the word 'preference' for what is pure prejudice. The funny thing is that there are legimate differences at the average level between different races, so prejudice isn't entirely unreasonable as long as you understand the difference between averages and individuals.
I just wish people would cut the bullshit and call a spade a spade. I don't judge people for being a bit prejudice, we all are, i judge them for not bring honest and exploring it. "
Is it prejudiced to not want to fuck someone? |
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"At the end of the day a lot of people hide behind the word 'preference' for what is pure prejudice. The funny thing is that there are legimate differences at the average level between different races, so prejudice isn't entirely unreasonable as long as you understand the difference between averages and individuals.
I just wish people would cut the bullshit and call a spade a spade. I don't judge people for being a bit prejudice, we all are, i judge them for not bring honest and exploring it.
Is it prejudiced to not want to fuck someone?"
Only if that person can be labelled into a catagory. |
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"Do you read forum threads and feel like you can't be honest about who you do and don't want to have sex with? Has it made you less open about your preferences because you know that people will slate you for it?"
Nope |
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"At the end of the day a lot of people hide behind the word 'preference' for what is pure prejudice. The funny thing is that there are legimate differences at the average level between different races, so prejudice isn't entirely unreasonable as long as you understand the difference between averages and individuals.
I just wish people would cut the bullshit and call a spade a spade. I don't judge people for being a bit prejudice, we all are, i judge them for not bring honest and exploring it.
Is it prejudiced to not want to fuck someone?"
If you would never entertain the possibility of fucking any of a particular race, because of their race, then that is the definition of racial prejudice. Change the word 'fucking' for 'employing' if this seems strange to you. |
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"At the end of the day a lot of people hide behind the word 'preference' for what is pure prejudice. The funny thing is that there are legimate differences at the average level between different races, so prejudice isn't entirely unreasonable as long as you understand the difference between averages and individuals.
I just wish people would cut the bullshit and call a spade a spade. I don't judge people for being a bit prejudice, we all are, i judge them for not bring honest and exploring it.
Is it prejudiced to not want to fuck someone?
Only if that person can be labelled into a catagory. "
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"At the end of the day a lot of people hide behind the word 'preference' for what is pure prejudice. The funny thing is that there are legimate differences at the average level between different races, so prejudice isn't entirely unreasonable as long as you understand the difference between averages and individuals.
I just wish people would cut the bullshit and call a spade a spade. I don't judge people for being a bit prejudice, we all are, i judge them for not bring honest and exploring it.
Is it prejudiced to not want to fuck someone?
If you would never entertain the possibility of fucking any of a particular race, because of their race, then that is the definition of racial prejudice. Change the word 'fucking' for 'employing' if this seems strange to you. "
Ok I'm racist then. I'm fine with that. |
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"At the end of the day a lot of people hide behind the word 'preference' for what is pure prejudice. The funny thing is that there are legimate differences at the average level between different races, so prejudice isn't entirely unreasonable as long as you understand the difference between averages and individuals.
I just wish people would cut the bullshit and call a spade a spade. I don't judge people for being a bit prejudice, we all are, i judge them for not bring honest and exploring it.
Is it prejudiced to not want to fuck someone?"
This is a blunt synopsis of my gut instinct on this, not written by me and it’s a bit simplified but for the point of the thread it articulates my gut instinct, although I still think the it’s all more nuanced than this and that’s why I like the potential to explore it and question it...but for the sake of showing a clear argument as to why it can be viewed as prejudiced...
“I’m a defender of political correctness and believe that it’s a form of decency and respect. At the same time, I understand that there’s nothing politically correct about sexual attraction. People simply like who they like. Sometimes they understand the root of this attraction and sometimes it’s a complete mystery. However, to say “never” is very different from saying, “I prefer white guys”, or “I prefer blondes.” So is that what differentiates a preference from prejudice?
Personally I think it’s immature and even ignorant to say that you’d “never” do this or that because who knows? And when applied to race, dating and sex, what I think it really means is that someone is saying that they find a whole race of people so unattractive that there isn’t even the slightest possibility, not even in the future, that you’d find anything sexual about any of them based on their looks alone, regardless of who they are as a person. Not only is that highly insulting but it is a prejudice. It’s not a preference, no matter how you slice it.” |
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"At the end of the day a lot of people hide behind the word 'preference' for what is pure prejudice. The funny thing is that there are legimate differences at the average level between different races, so prejudice isn't entirely unreasonable as long as you understand the difference between averages and individuals.
I just wish people would cut the bullshit and call a spade a spade. I don't judge people for being a bit prejudice, we all are, i judge them for not bring honest and exploring it.
Is it prejudiced to not want to fuck someone?
If you would never entertain the possibility of fucking any of a particular race, because of their race, then that is the definition of racial prejudice. Change the word 'fucking' for 'employing' if this seems strange to you. "
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If you would never entertain the possibility of fucking any of a particular race, because of their race, then that is the definition of racial prejudice. Change the word 'fucking' for 'employing' if this seems strange to you. "
I would employ any race that was capable of the job, I certainly wouldn't fuck any race just in case people called be racist  |
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"At the end of the day a lot of people hide behind the word 'preference' for what is pure prejudice. The funny thing is that there are legimate differences at the average level between different races, so prejudice isn't entirely unreasonable as long as you understand the difference between averages and individuals.
I just wish people would cut the bullshit and call a spade a spade. I don't judge people for being a bit prejudice, we all are, i judge them for not bring honest and exploring it.
Is it prejudiced to not want to fuck someone?
If you would never entertain the possibility of fucking any of a particular race, because of their race, then that is the definition of racial prejudice. Change the word 'fucking' for 'employing' if this seems strange to you.
Ok I'm racist then. I'm fine with that. "
I don't believe it's productive to just lable people with 'ist' terms and try and make some moral judgement about them. Everyday you are bombarded with selected information that portrays different groups in different ways. It would be remarkable if this didn't have an effect on you. However, if you reflect upon the reasons why you feel the way you do then a lot can be gained. |
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"At the end of the day a lot of people hide behind the word 'preference' for what is pure prejudice. The funny thing is that there are legimate differences at the average level between different races, so prejudice isn't entirely unreasonable as long as you understand the difference between averages and individuals.
I just wish people would cut the bullshit and call a spade a spade. I don't judge people for being a bit prejudice, we all are, i judge them for not bring honest and exploring it.
Is it prejudiced to not want to fuck someone?
If you would never entertain the possibility of fucking any of a particular race, because of their race, then that is the definition of racial prejudice. Change the word 'fucking' for 'employing' if this seems strange to you.
Ok I'm racist then. I'm fine with that.
I don't believe it's productive to just lable people with 'ist' terms and try and make some moral judgement about them. Everyday you are bombarded with selected information that portrays different groups in different ways. It would be remarkable if this didn't have an effect on you. However, if you reflect upon the reasons why you feel the way you do then a lot can be gained. "
Yes!! It’s so not about labelling one way or the other! Yes!!!! |
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If you would never entertain the possibility of fucking any of a particular race, because of their race, then that is the definition of racial prejudice. Change the word 'fucking' for 'employing' if this seems strange to you.
I would employ any race that was capable of the job, I certainly wouldn't fuck any race just in case people called be racist "
Nor do you have to employ every race just to prove your employment processes aren't racist. People just have to be given an opportunity regardless of their race. |
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"Do you read forum threads and feel like you can't be honest about who you do and don't want to have sex with? Has it made you less open about your preferences because you know that people will slate you for it?"
Not at all, the forums are just a chuckle! Nobody takes them seriously, surely?
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"At the end of the day a lot of people hide behind the word 'preference' for what is pure prejudice. The funny thing is that there are legimate differences at the average level between different races, so prejudice isn't entirely unreasonable as long as you understand the difference between averages and individuals.
I just wish people would cut the bullshit and call a spade a spade. I don't judge people for being a bit prejudice, we all are, i judge them for not bring honest and exploring it.
Is it prejudiced to not want to fuck someone?
If you would never entertain the possibility of fucking any of a particular race, because of their race, then that is the definition of racial prejudice. Change the word 'fucking' for 'employing' if this seems strange to you.
Ok I'm racist then. I'm fine with that.
I don't believe it's productive to just lable people with 'ist' terms and try and make some moral judgement about them. Everyday you are bombarded with selected information that portrays different groups in different ways. It would be remarkable if this didn't have an effect on you. However, if you reflect upon the reasons why you feel the way you do then a lot can be gained. "
No thanks I don't need to reflect on anything. I know what I do and don't like. I'm not going to consider fucking anyone I don't want to. |
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We’ve never understood the whole concept of those who won’t fuck those of a particular race or colour .
It’s beyond our thinking to understand why this is the case .
If it isn’t racist , what is it then ? |
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"Do you read forum threads and feel like you can't be honest about who you do and don't want to have sex with? Has it made you less open about your preferences because you know that people will slate you for it?
Not at all, the forums are just a chuckle! Nobody takes them seriously, surely?
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Welcome to the forum. They are very welcoming to newbies. I guess this is your first day here? |
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"Do you read forum threads and feel like you can't be honest about who you do and don't want to have sex with? Has it made you less open about your preferences because you know that people will slate you for it?"
No. I have no desire to shout my preferences all over the forum. I really don't care that others don't understand them, and I certainly won't be justifying my preferences to anyone. I'm not afraid of a slating though..people can make whatever assumptions they like. And they will. |
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"Do you read forum threads and feel like you can't be honest about who you do and don't want to have sex with? Has it made you less open about your preferences because you know that people will slate you for it?
Not at all, the forums are just a chuckle! Nobody takes them seriously, surely?
Welcome to the forum. They are very welcoming to newbies. I guess this is your first day here? "
Ummm, he’s a regular forum poster. |
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"Do you read forum threads and feel like you can't be honest about who you do and don't want to have sex with? Has it made you less open about your preferences because you know that people will slate you for it?
Not at all, the forums are just a chuckle! Nobody takes them seriously, surely?
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"At the end of the day a lot of people hide behind the word 'preference' for what is pure prejudice. The funny thing is that there are legimate differences at the average level between different races, so prejudice isn't entirely unreasonable as long as you understand the difference between averages and individuals.
I just wish people would cut the bullshit and call a spade a spade. I don't judge people for being a bit prejudice, we all are, i judge them for not bring honest and exploring it.
Is it prejudiced to not want to fuck someone?
If you would never entertain the possibility of fucking any of a particular race, because of their race, then that is the definition of racial prejudice. Change the word 'fucking' for 'employing' if this seems strange to you.
Ok I'm racist then. I'm fine with that.
I don't believe it's productive to just lable people with 'ist' terms and try and make some moral judgement about them. Everyday you are bombarded with selected information that portrays different groups in different ways. It would be remarkable if this didn't have an effect on you. However, if you reflect upon the reasons why you feel the way you do then a lot can be gained.
No thanks I don't need to reflect on anything. I know what I do and don't like. I'm not going to consider fucking anyone I don't want to. "
That's your decision. Thankfully we haven't got an official state thought police yet, but you might want to reconsider when it inevitably happens. |
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"Do you read forum threads and feel like you can't be honest about who you do and don't want to have sex with? Has it made you less open about your preferences because you know that people will slate you for it?"
Not generally, the only thing that stops me is consideration for other people's feelings. For example I wouldn't name somebody if I knew it would upset someone else as their feelings are more important to me than being able to write a name on a website. |
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I don't believe it's productive to just lable people with 'ist' terms and try and make some moral judgement about them. Everyday you are bombarded with selected information that portrays different groups in different ways. It would be remarkable if this didn't have an effect on you. However, if you reflect upon the reasons why you feel the way you do then a lot can be gained.
No thanks I don't need to reflect on anything. I know what I do and don't like. I'm not going to consider fucking anyone I don't want to. "
Nobody is saying you have to consider fucking or actually fuck someone you don’t want to. You asked a question and were answered. |
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"Do you read forum threads and feel like you can't be honest about who you do and don't want to have sex with? Has it made you less open about your preferences because you know that people will slate you for it?
No. I have no desire to shout my preferences all over the forum. I really don't care that others don't understand them, and I certainly won't be justifying my preferences to anyone. I'm not afraid of a slating though..people can make whatever assumptions they like. And they will. "
And they do.... |
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If you would never entertain the possibility of fucking any of a particular race, because of their race, then that is the definition of racial prejudice. Change the word 'fucking' for 'employing' if this seems strange to you.
I would employ any race that was capable of the job, I certainly wouldn't fuck any race just in case people called be racist "
Well apparently we have to fuck them or we're called racist. |
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If you would never entertain the possibility of fucking any of a particular race, because of their race, then that is the definition of racial prejudice. Change the word 'fucking' for 'employing' if this seems strange to you.
I would employ any race that was capable of the job, I certainly wouldn't fuck any race just in case people called be racist
Well apparently we have to fuck them or we're called racist. "
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over a year ago
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If you would never entertain the possibility of fucking any of a particular race, because of their race, then that is the definition of racial prejudice. Change the word 'fucking' for 'employing' if this seems strange to you.
I would employ any race that was capable of the job, I certainly wouldn't fuck any race just in case people called be racist
Well apparently we have to fuck them or we're called racist. "
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Why do you need to say anything.
You can politely decline anyone who messages you if you don't like them regardless of colour, religion or political party. |
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"Why do you need to say anything.
You can politely decline anyone who messages you if you don't like them regardless of colour, religion or political party. "
So very true. |
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If you would never entertain the possibility of fucking any of a particular race, because of their race, then that is the definition of racial prejudice. Change the word 'fucking' for 'employing' if this seems strange to you.
I would employ any race that was capable of the job, I certainly wouldn't fuck any race just in case people called be racist
Well apparently we have to fuck them or we're called racist.
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If you would never entertain the possibility of fucking any of a particular race, because of their race, then that is the definition of racial prejudice. Change the word 'fucking' for 'employing' if this seems strange to you.
I would employ any race that was capable of the job, I certainly wouldn't fuck any race just in case people called be racist
Well apparently we have to fuck them or we're called racist.
Is that genuinely what you think was said? "
I'm not allowed to mention pm's in the forum.
I was stating a fact. |
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"Just showing I can be honest for it even if I got a slating "
Ahh. Well thank you. Actual naming a person wasn’t quite the point of OP’s thread though.
But thank you, that’s very kind. I’m sure there’s some that’ll slate you for choosing me though. Apparently I take offence and call people racist. |
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"Why do you need to say anything.
You can politely decline anyone who messages you if you don't like them regardless of colour, religion or political party. "
I do.
I just say shit in the forums because it creates discussion. A lot of people daren't speak out in the forum because they get slagged off for it. But that means there can't be a proper discussion because it's one sided. |
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"Just showing I can be honest for it even if I got a slating
Ahh. Well thank you. Actual naming a person wasn’t quite the point of OP’s thread though.
But thank you, that’s very kind. I’m sure there’s some that’ll slate you for choosing me though. Apparently I take offence and call people racist. "
Oh for goodness sakes.
Not everything on the forum is about you!!! |
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If you would never entertain the possibility of fucking any of a particular race, because of their race, then that is the definition of racial prejudice. Change the word 'fucking' for 'employing' if this seems strange to you.
I would employ any race that was capable of the job, I certainly wouldn't fuck any race just in case people called be racist
Well apparently we have to fuck them or we're called racist.
Is that genuinely what you think was said?
I'm not allowed to mention pm's in the forum.
I was stating a fact. "
Ah okay, I’m only going on the thread postings (and haven’t PMd you). So you’re making points extraneous to the thread discussion without clearly delineating you were. Cool.
You agree no one on the thread has said that then. Good. |
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"Just showing I can be honest for it even if I got a slating
Ahh. Well thank you. Actual naming a person wasn’t quite the point of OP’s thread though.
But thank you, that’s very kind. I’m sure there’s some that’ll slate you for choosing me though. Apparently I take offence and call people racist.
Oh for goodness sakes.
Not everything on the forum is about you!!!"
Bless you, I wasn’t talking about you. |
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"I tend to be evasive for a number of reasons. Im quite shy so naming random people I just like the look of but haven't spoken with is out.
Im worried if I name people I do speak to I'll either miss someone by mistake or not name someone who sees me as a potential where I see them just as someone I chat to. Either way I don't want to offend.
Good point about the kiss fuck pass type threads. I agree so I avoid those.
I was thinking more of threads where people discuss preferences.
Bum size tit size cock size car size. "
OMG do people really choose a sexual encounter by the car you drive?? |
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"I tend to be evasive for a number of reasons. Im quite shy so naming random people I just like the look of but haven't spoken with is out.
Im worried if I name people I do speak to I'll either miss someone by mistake or not name someone who sees me as a potential where I see them just as someone I chat to. Either way I don't want to offend.
Good point about the kiss fuck pass type threads. I agree so I avoid those.
I was thinking more of threads where people discuss preferences.
Bum size tit size cock size car size.
OMG do people really choose a sexual encounter by the car you drive??"
But how do you measure the car size |
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"Just showing I can be honest for it even if I got a slating
Ahh. Well thank you. Actual naming a person wasn’t quite the point of OP’s thread though.
But thank you, that’s very kind. I’m sure there’s some that’ll slate you for choosing me though. Apparently I take offence and call people racist. "
It was asking if people do so my response suggests I’m too laid back to worry about opinions of others. I just interject here and there
It’s sunday though ladies. You should both have youe feet up and a glass of wine, not having debates |
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"Why do you need to say anything.
You can politely decline anyone who messages you if you don't like them regardless of colour, religion or political party.
I do.
I just say shit in the forums because it creates discussion. A lot of people daren't speak out in the forum because they get slagged off for it. But that means there can't be a proper discussion because it's one sided. "
Thought you said you didn’t try to be controversial. |
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"Just showing I can be honest for it even if I got a slating
Ahh. Well thank you. Actual naming a person wasn’t quite the point of OP’s thread though.
But thank you, that’s very kind. I’m sure there’s some that’ll slate you for choosing me though. Apparently I take offence and call people racist.
It was asking if people do so my response suggests I’m too laid back to worry about opinions of others. I just interject here and there
It’s sunday though ladies. You should both have youe feet up and a glass of wine, not having debates "
This is what I do to unwind. |
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"Just showing I can be honest for it even if I got a slating
Ahh. Well thank you. Actual naming a person wasn’t quite the point of OP’s thread though.
But thank you, that’s very kind. I’m sure there’s some that’ll slate you for choosing me though. Apparently I take offence and call people racist.
It was asking if people do so my response suggests I’m too laid back to worry about opinions of others. I just interject here and there
It’s sunday though ladies. You should both have youe feet up and a glass of wine, not having debates
This is what I do to unwind. "
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Oh and what about just fucking someone you fancy and they fancy fucking you. What has colour or place of birth got to do with it also. Its chemistry for me and if I do not fancy someone I do not get hard therefore pointless. I prefer ladies who are naughty and clean safe players who really fancy me as much as I do them and ive only met a few who do that for me. |
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"I tend to be evasive for a number of reasons. Im quite shy so naming random people I just like the look of but haven't spoken with is out.
Im worried if I name people I do speak to I'll either miss someone by mistake or not name someone who sees me as a potential where I see them just as someone I chat to. Either way I don't want to offend.
Good point about the kiss fuck pass type threads. I agree so I avoid those.
I was thinking more of threads where people discuss preferences.
Bum size tit size cock size car size.
OMG do people really choose a sexual encounter by the car you drive??
But how do you measure the car size "
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"I tend to be evasive for a number of reasons. Im quite shy so naming random people I just like the look of but haven't spoken with is out.
Im worried if I name people I do speak to I'll either miss someone by mistake or not name someone who sees me as a potential where I see them just as someone I chat to. Either way I don't want to offend.
Good point about the kiss fuck pass type threads. I agree so I avoid those.
I was thinking more of threads where people discuss preferences.
Bum size tit size cock size car size.
OMG do people really choose a sexual encounter by the car you drive??
But how do you measure the car size "
Maybe value is what some prefer!!! expensive car = rich guy who will maybe be more useful |
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If you would never entertain the possibility of fucking any of a particular race, because of their race, then that is the definition of racial prejudice. Change the word 'fucking' for 'employing' if this seems strange to you.
I would employ any race that was capable of the job, I certainly wouldn't fuck any race just in case people called be racist
Well apparently we have to fuck them or we're called racist.
Is that genuinely what you think was said?
I'm not allowed to mention pm's in the forum.
I was stating a fact.
Ah okay, I’m only going on the thread postings (and haven’t PMd you). So you’re making points extraneous to the thread discussion without clearly delineating you were. Cool.
You agree no one on the thread has said that then. Good. "
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"No. I am me. I don't care if you lot don't like a hairy vagina, I do!
Would now be a good time to send you an unsolicited hairy vag pic?
Just kidding! "
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If you would never entertain the possibility of fucking any of a particular race, because of their race, then that is the definition of racial prejudice. Change the word 'fucking' for 'employing' if this seems strange to you.
I would employ any race that was capable of the job, I certainly wouldn't fuck any race just in case people called be racist
Well apparently we have to fuck them or we're called racist.
Is that genuinely what you think was said?
I'm not allowed to mention pm's in the forum.
I was stating a fact.
Ah okay, I’m only going on the thread postings (and haven’t PMd you). So you’re making points extraneous to the thread discussion without clearly delineating you were. Cool.
You agree no one on the thread has said that then. Good.
Yes, apologies, I didn't mean to infer you'd pm'd me, sorry. It was abuse from someone I'd never heard of. "
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I have no idea who I want to have sex with until I've seen the whites of their eyes and the cut of their jib so I generally don't have an answer to those kind of threads and tend to stay out of them |
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