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"Keep well out. Handle yourself with grace and don’t badmouth him or anyone. Just be professional and do your job. " That is what i have been doing, and it definitely seems the best course but i am also aware even innocent parties, can sometimes get smeared in the proverbial crap, i wouldn't be concerned in the slightest of my character being questioned if i had been there longer. Don't want to be seen as guilty by association. | |||
"Keep well out. Handle yourself with grace and don’t badmouth him or anyone. Just be professional and do your job. " just this ...dont get involved | |||
"Keep well out. Handle yourself with grace and don’t badmouth him or anyone. Just be professional and do your job. " This. If you aren't part of the problem then head down,arse up and get on with it. | |||
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"I recently started a new job after being made redundant a couple of months back, it isn't my ideal job, and i am starting at the bottom again, but in the current climate, i can't moan as i have a job, and i am grateful for that.. but a colleague, in fact the one who got me said job, well at least recommended me, it turns out has been stabbing me in the back, is spreading lies, stirring the pot and being an all round two-faced SOB, as he wants to usurp and leapfrog his direct superior, and he has made the work place pretty toxic in the process, now his plans are unravelling and he is being seen for what he is, but my question is, if you have been in this situation or similar how did you deal with it? And do you have any advice for someone who has pretty much walked through the door into this situation.. my plan is too keep my head down and try and avoid fall out, but i am also pretty pissed at the guy, i have a suspicion he is going too try and take others down with him, and don't want too be caught in the fall out." you say he has been stabbing you in the back...but how? | |||
"I recently started a new job after being made redundant a couple of months back, it isn't my ideal job, and i am starting at the bottom again, but in the current climate, i can't moan as i have a job, and i am grateful for that.. but a colleague, in fact the one who got me said job, well at least recommended me, it turns out has been stabbing me in the back, is spreading lies, stirring the pot and being an all round two-faced SOB, as he wants to usurp and leapfrog his direct superior, and he has made the work place pretty toxic in the process, now his plans are unravelling and he is being seen for what he is, but my question is, if you have been in this situation or similar how did you deal with it? And do you have any advice for someone who has pretty much walked through the door into this situation.. my plan is too keep my head down and try and avoid fall out, but i am also pretty pissed at the guy, i have a suspicion he is going too try and take others down with him, and don't want too be caught in the fall out. you say he has been stabbing you in the back...but how? " Oh he has been moaning about my work and saying i am slow and not good enough etc too management, then telling me it was others saying it, therefore making me paranoid i wasn't keeping up, catching on to new/different ways of doing things you get with jobs etc, management have told me this directly and said i have nothing too worry about as others have defended me and they have seen for themselves that what he has said isn't true, so i think i am fine, it just made me paranoid. | |||
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"Sounds like you'll be fine just keeping your head down and continuing to demonstrate your commitment. Don't let what he says get to you as you know management know the truth. In through one ear and out the other. Don't let him knock your confidence. He'll be his own undoing. I've seen it in my own workplace. " Thanks, i have confidence in myself, my work and my work ethic, it has just shocked me, one as it hasn't happened too me before and because he bloody recommended me having worked with me before for two years.. i can see it is just him trying to big himself up, he has said other things about colleagues that aren't true, too either make himself look better or excuse his mistakes, i am glad that everybody seems too be saying the same thing, it has reinforced the feeling i was already doing the right thing. Letting my actions speak louder than anything i can say too defend myself or question him. | |||
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"I recently started a new job after being made redundant a couple of months back, it isn't my ideal job, and i am starting at the bottom again, but in the current climate, i can't moan as i have a job, and i am grateful for that.. but a colleague, in fact the one who got me said job, well at least recommended me, it turns out has been stabbing me in the back, is spreading lies, stirring the pot and being an all round two-faced SOB, as he wants to usurp and leapfrog his direct superior, and he has made the work place pretty toxic in the process, now his plans are unravelling and he is being seen for what he is, but my question is, if you have been in this situation or similar how did you deal with it? And do you have any advice for someone who has pretty much walked through the door into this situation.. my plan is too keep my head down and try and avoid fall out, but i am also pretty pissed at the guy, i have a suspicion he is going too try and take others down with him, and don't want too be caught in the fall out. you say he has been stabbing you in the back...but how? Oh he has been moaning about my work and saying i am slow and not good enough etc too management, then telling me it was others saying it, therefore making me paranoid i wasn't keeping up, catching on to new/different ways of doing things you get with jobs etc, management have told me this directly and said i have nothing too worry about as others have defended me and they have seen for themselves that what he has said isn't true, it just made me paranoid." Natural justice will prevail in this case. Management have said you've got nothing to worry about. When you start a new job it is stressful, you feel as if you're doing it wrong, you're slower than all the others etc but employers know this and understand. Keep your head down and don't believe a word this guy says. | |||
"It's crazy how childish 'adults' are when at work" Your telling me, i just don't get how anybody could think those sort of games would benefit them in the long run. | |||
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 , went into work with more confidence i was taking the right approach today and i had one of my best shifts in a long time, and my production and work ethic improved too. | |||
"Thanks everybody for the advice , went into work with more confidence i was taking the right approach today and i had one of my best shifts in a long time, and my production and work ethic improved too." | |||
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Cheeky bastard!
I replied without missing a beat "i've been a manager for far longer than you've been been breathing lovely. I suggest you step back and take a look. You could learn from me, hmm, has anyone ever asked you to reflect on on your people skill? Self evaluation is a crucial tool for anyone in any role"
She is now being told she needs t get qualified, she doesn't want to do the course they've picked, she wants them to support her through a degree that won't benefit the workplace. It's making for a very toxic atmosphere. | |||
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"I recently started a new job after being made redundant a couple of months back, it isn't my ideal job, and i am starting at the bottom again, but in the current climate, i can't moan as i have a job, and i am grateful for that.. but a colleague, in fact the one who got me said job, well at least recommended me, it turns out has been stabbing me in the back, is spreading lies, stirring the pot and being an all round two-faced SOB, as he wants to usurp and leapfrog his direct superior, and he has made the work place pretty toxic in the process, now his plans are unravelling and he is being seen for what he is, but my question is, if you have been in this situation or similar how did you deal with it? And do you have any advice for someone who has pretty much walked through the door into this situation.. my plan is too keep my head down and try and avoid fall out, but i am also pretty pissed at the guy, i have a suspicion he is going too try and take others down with him, and don't want too be caught in the fall out. you say he has been stabbing you in the back...but how? Oh he has been moaning about my work and saying i am slow and not good enough etc too management, then telling me it was others saying it, therefore making me paranoid i wasn't keeping up, catching on to new/different ways of doing things you get with jobs etc, management have told me this directly and said i have nothing too worry about as others have defended me and they have seen for themselves that what he has said isn't true, so i think i am fine, it just made me paranoid." Seems to me like your line management are over-sharing and causing a fair bit of the drama. | |||
"Well from a military prospective, I’d probably ask him for a chat outside. " Don't think that is an option on civy street buddy lol | |||
"I recently started a new job after being made redundant a couple of months back, it isn't my ideal job, and i am starting at the bottom again, but in the current climate, i can't moan as i have a job, and i am grateful for that.. but a colleague, in fact the one who got me said job, well at least recommended me, it turns out has been stabbing me in the back, is spreading lies, stirring the pot and being an all round two-faced SOB, as he wants to usurp and leapfrog his direct superior, and he has made the work place pretty toxic in the process, now his plans are unravelling and he is being seen for what he is, but my question is, if you have been in this situation or similar how did you deal with it? And do you have any advice for someone who has pretty much walked through the door into this situation.. my plan is too keep my head down and try and avoid fall out, but i am also pretty pissed at the guy, i have a suspicion he is going too try and take others down with him, and don't want too be caught in the fall out. you say he has been stabbing you in the back...but how? Oh he has been moaning about my work and saying i am slow and not good enough etc too management, then telling me it was others saying it, therefore making me paranoid i wasn't keeping up, catching on to new/different ways of doing things you get with jobs etc, management have told me this directly and said i have nothing too worry about as others have defended me and they have seen for themselves that what he has said isn't true, so i think i am fine, it just made me paranoid. Seems to me like your line management are over-sharing and causing a fair bit of the drama." I would say i agree, accept it has become clear it is related too disciplinary process, and said drama is being solved , or attempted too be anyway. But i do agree that is probably what started this in the first place. | |||
"Look up Narcissist in the workplace. Plenty of advice as what this person is upto. Hold onto your boundaries and hold up your values. " Great advice and that is what i have done, and it seems it will quickly be resolved, talking weeks by the sound of it. | |||
"I recently started a new job after being made redundant a couple of months back, it isn't my ideal job, and i am starting at the bottom again, but in the current climate, i can't moan as i have a job, and i am grateful for that.. but a colleague, in fact the one who got me said job, well at least recommended me, it turns out has been stabbing me in the back, is spreading lies, stirring the pot and being an all round two-faced SOB, as he wants to usurp and leapfrog his direct superior, and he has made the work place pretty toxic in the process, now his plans are unravelling and he is being seen for what he is, but my question is, if you have been in this situation or similar how did you deal with it? And do you have any advice for someone who has pretty much walked through the door into this situation.. my plan is too keep my head down and try and avoid fall out, but i am also pretty pissed at the guy, i have a suspicion he is going too try and take others down with him, and don't want too be caught in the fall out. you say he has been stabbing you in the back...but how? Oh he has been moaning about my work and saying i am slow and not good enough etc too management, then telling me it was others saying it, therefore making me paranoid i wasn't keeping up, catching on to new/different ways of doing things you get with jobs etc, management have told me this directly and said i have nothing too worry about as others have defended me and they have seen for themselves that what he has said isn't true, so i think i am fine, it just made me paranoid." Carry on as you are. Management can obviously see what's going on. Shame it's some one you considered a friend but it sounds like everyone else is on your side. Let him carry on digging his own grave, you'll soon get to enjoy waving him goodbye | |||
