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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Would you be offended if you were an older woman and a guy said to you you have a great body ect for your age? I see alot of older women on here and im amazed at how great of a shape they are in for their ages Sometimes i dont believe them lol. Let me know what the general opinion is |
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If I’m being honest, it would be much nicer just to hear “you have a great body” without what can feel like a caveat being added to the sentance. That’s just my two cents though, and I’m sure plenty of ladies wouldn’t even give it a second thought. |
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over a year ago
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Surely the fact there are many women with fantastic bodies at different age ranges means we should start challenging the ageist myths?
And how old is old?
And all bodies are fantastic really, just some you find attractive and some you don’t (but we all have our different attraction sparkers, so it’s not a one-size-fits-all topic) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Surely the fact there are many women with fantastic bodies at different age ranges means we should start challenging the ageist myths?
And how old is old?
And all bodies are fantastic really, just some you find attractive and some you don’t (but we all have our different attraction sparkers, so it’s not a one-size-fits-all topic)"
i agree all bodies are fantastic but as we get older it becomes harder to maintain the physique you had when you were 20 if you know what i mean? Not trying to offend anyone here just trying to gain insight into how a womams mind works |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Surely the fact there are many women with fantastic bodies at different age ranges means we should start challenging the ageist myths?
And how old is old?
And all bodies are fantastic really, just some you find attractive and some you don’t (but we all have our different attraction sparkers, so it’s not a one-size-fits-all topic) i agree all bodies are fantastic but as we get older it becomes harder to maintain the physique you had when you were 20 if you know what i mean? Not trying to offend anyone here just trying to gain insight into how a womams mind works "
Then as stated above, give the compliment without the addendum that could be interpreted in positive or negative ways.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Absolutely not, would take it as a huge compliment, not to say ego boast. 
Since when were you a woman? "
Bit of a gender specific sexist remark don't you think.  |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
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I have a better shape and body in my forties than I ever had in my twenties. Unfortunately it took me decades to do something about being podgy so I will never know what it would have been like to be slimmer before gravity took hold. Rightly or wrongly, anyone saying I have a good body 'for my age' would piss me off slightly since it reminds me what I should have done years ago, with the benefit of hindsight. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Absolutely not, would take it as a huge compliment, not to say ego boast.
Since when were you a woman?
Bit of a gender specific sexist remark don't you think. "
Ummm not if the OP set the context — title thread/post and his comments? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Absolutely not, would take it as a huge compliment, not to say ego boast.
Since when were you a woman?
Bit of a gender specific sexist remark don't you think.
Ummm not if the OP set the context — title thread/post and his comments?"
 to be honest didn't actually read the title closely but in my defence, how often does the thread title have nothing to do with OPs comments/question? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I did compliment a woman on ber great shape in the gym awhile ago,her reply was "thanks,and im 53""
And she’s every right to want to own that. The age part wasn’t applied to her by someone else. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Surely the fact there are many women with fantastic bodies at different age ranges means we should start challenging the ageist myths?
And how old is old?
And all bodies are fantastic really, just some you find attractive and some you don’t (but we all have our different attraction sparkers, so it’s not a one-size-fits-all topic) i agree all bodies are fantastic but as we get older it becomes harder to maintain the physique you had when you were 20 if you know what i mean? Not trying to offend anyone here just trying to gain insight into how a womams mind works "
Not entirely sure that’s true 
My physique now (35) is spectacularly better than it was at 20. There are loads of people society may consider ‘old’ who have much more aesthetically pleasing physiques than a lot of people in there 20s.
I’d suggest your views (not yours personally, but everyones) on what is ‘old’ and ‘a fantastic/awful physique is largely down to what media you surround yourself/are surrounded by.
A twenty something lad who follows fitness addicts/models on instagram would have a different perception of fantastic than, say, a 40 something gym-going strong man competitor, or a 60 something marathon runner who doesn’t use the internet or read women’s magazines.
There must also be a difference between genders and what each perceives as a fantastic physique.
Plus, on an individual level. I may find a person to have what I’d consider an attractive body, yet another 35 year old married mum of two with the same level of education, similar social standing and location may think he/she is a minger!
Many shades of grey strikes again  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Absolutely not, would take it as a huge compliment, not to say ego boast.
Since when were you a woman?
Bit of a gender specific sexist remark don't you think.
Ummm not if the OP set the context — title thread/post and his comments?
to be honest didn't actually read the title closely but in my defence, how often does the thread title have nothing to do with OPs comments/question?"
Ummmm it’s also clear in his post. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Surely the fact there are many women with fantastic bodies at different age ranges means we should start challenging the ageist myths?
And how old is old?
And all bodies are fantastic really, just some you find attractive and some you don’t (but we all have our different attraction sparkers, so it’s not a one-size-fits-all topic) i agree all bodies are fantastic but as we get older it becomes harder to maintain the physique you had when you were 20 if you know what i mean? Not trying to offend anyone here just trying to gain insight into how a womams mind works "
I'm not sure that's true, in my 20s I was too busy enjoying life to worry about keeping in shape and healthy, I'm trimmer and fitter now than I've ever been. And I anticipate as little un gets older and less dependant I'll have more time to exercise so even if biologically it's harder life as you get older can make it easier to work on.
If you add "for your age " to any compliment you may as well not have bothered in the first place. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Surely the fact there are many women with fantastic bodies at different age ranges means we should start challenging the ageist myths?
And how old is old?
And all bodies are fantastic really, just some you find attractive and some you don’t (but we all have our different attraction sparkers, so it’s not a one-size-fits-all topic) i agree all bodies are fantastic but as we get older it becomes harder to maintain the physique you had when you were 20 if you know what i mean? Not trying to offend anyone here just trying to gain insight into how a womams mind works
Not entirely sure that’s true
My physique now (35) is spectacularly better than it was at 20. There are loads of people society may consider ‘old’ who have much more aesthetically pleasing physiques than a lot of people in there 20s.
I’d suggest your views (not yours personally, but everyones) on what is ‘old’ and ‘a fantastic/awful physique is largely down to what media you surround yourself/are surrounded by.
A twenty something lad who follows fitness addicts/models on instagram would have a different perception of fantastic than, say, a 40 something gym-going strong man competitor, or a 60 something marathon runner who doesn’t use the internet or read women’s magazines.
There must also be a difference between genders and what each perceives as a fantastic physique.
Plus, on an individual level. I may find a person to have what I’d consider an attractive body, yet another 35 year old married mum of two with the same level of education, similar social standing and location may think he/she is a minger!
Many shades of grey strikes again "
Yes, agree with this 100 %. It's a very subjective opinion (the ops)... And actually, did you know that the older you get the easier it is to gain muscle mass.. Fact. Google will back me up |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Absolutely not, would take it as a huge compliment, not to say ego boast.
Since when were you a woman?
Bit of a gender specific sexist remark don't you think.
Ummm not if the OP set the context — title thread/post and his comments?
to be honest didn't actually read the title closely but in my defence, how often does the thread title have nothing to do with OPs comments/question?
Ummmm it’s also clear in his post. "
Okay, obviously I didn't read the OP's opening message closely either. S""t, is aunty Mary visiting for the weekend? |
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"It would probably be safer to say ‘you have a great body’ without mentioning the ages  "
I’d agree!
Mine’s ok - but I’m friends with tigerlillycub - and she has an amazing body for a woman of ANY age! Most women in their twenties would envy her!
I DO know what people mean when they say it and I don’t have a problem with it! My body was ‘perfect ‘ in my early twenties pre-kids - but now I’ve got mummy jelly belly (large babies), squidgy tits due to breastfeeding, and around 50 000 thread veins due to carrying heavy babies and shit circulation - ergo I’ll take ‘for my age’ as a compliment (ish) as I know what they’re trying to say!  |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
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For my age and for having 3 kids lol.
Any compliment is appreciated. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder and I know I won’t be to everyone’s taste.
I don’t mind giving compliments either. I’m sure guys appreciate them too. Nice eyes and a great smile are always complimented. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If anyone says I have a great body, I just accept the compliment, people don't say you have a good body for your age, so why make anything of it? Take the compliment, smile and say thanks x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Absolutely not, would take it as a huge compliment, not to say ego boast.
Since when were you a woman?
Bit of a gender specific sexist remark don't you think.
Ummm not if the OP set the context — title thread/post and his comments?
to be honest didn't actually read the title closely but in my defence, how often does the thread title have nothing to do with OPs comments/question?
Ummmm it’s also clear in his post.
Okay, obviously I didn't read the OP's opening message closely either. S""t, is aunty Mary visiting for the weekend?"
I don’t know what that means?
I’ll accept your apology for accusing me incorrectly now, by the way. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I did compliment a woman on ber great shape in the gym awhile ago,her reply was "thanks,and im 53"
And she’s every right to want to own that. The age part wasn’t applied to her by someone else. "
Idid get a pm by a woman saying your in great shape for your age |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I did compliment a woman on ber great shape in the gym awhile ago,her reply was "thanks,and im 53"
And she’s every right to want to own that. The age part wasn’t applied to her by someone else.
Idid get a pm by a woman saying your in great shape for your age"
And? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Absolutely not, would take it as a huge compliment, not to say ego boast.
Since when were you a woman?
Bit of a gender specific sexist remark don't you think.
Ummm not if the OP set the context — title thread/post and his comments?
to be honest didn't actually read the title closely but in my defence, how often does the thread title have nothing to do with OPs comments/question?
Ummmm it’s also clear in his post.
Okay, obviously I didn't read the OP's opening message closely either. S""t, is aunty Mary visiting for the weekend?
I don’t know what that means?
I’ll accept your apology for accusing me incorrectly now, by the way. "
Obviously didn't spend the "extra hour" having depleted joke recognition tank recharged.
Bit surprised because virtually all the women I know use the expression albeit using a different "aunty"! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I did compliment a woman on ber great shape in the gym awhile ago,her reply was "thanks,and im 53"
And she’s every right to want to own that. The age part wasn’t applied to her by someone else.
Idid get a pm by a woman saying your in great shape for your age
And? "
Whats with your attitude? I was pointing out the age thing |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I did compliment a woman on ber great shape in the gym awhile ago,her reply was "thanks,and im 53"
And she’s every right to want to own that. The age part wasn’t applied to her by someone else.
Idid get a pm by a woman saying your in great shape for your age
And?
Whats with your attitude? I was pointing out the age thing"
There want any attitude, I was trying to ascertain your point? Did you like it or not? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Absolutely not, would take it as a huge compliment, not to say ego boast.
Since when were you a woman?
Bit of a gender specific sexist remark don't you think.
Ummm not if the OP set the context — title thread/post and his comments?
to be honest didn't actually read the title closely but in my defence, how often does the thread title have nothing to do with OPs comments/question?
Ummmm it’s also clear in his post.
Okay, obviously I didn't read the OP's opening message closely either. S""t, is aunty Mary visiting for the weekend?
I don’t know what that means?
I’ll accept your apology for accusing me incorrectly now, by the way.
Obviously didn't spend the "extra hour" having depleted joke recognition tank recharged.
Bit surprised because virtually all the women I know use the expression albeit using a different "aunty"!"
Oh, you are making an insinuation that I’m on my period because I pointed out that you had misread the post? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Would you be offended if you were an older woman and a guy said to you you have a great body ect for your age? I see alot of older women on here and im amazed at how great of a shape they are in for their ages Sometimes i dont believe them lol. Let me know what the general opinion is "
I wouldn't be offended but I doubt it would ever happen lol! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Would you be offended if you were an older woman and a guy said to you you have a great body ect for your age? I see alot of older women on here and im amazed at how great of a shape they are in for their ages Sometimes i dont believe them lol. Let me know what the general opinion is
I wouldn't be offended but I doubt it would ever happen lol!"
Hope that was the lady of the couple posting!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Would you be offended if you were an older woman and a guy said to you you have a great body ect for your age? I see alot of older women on here and im amazed at how great of a shape they are in for their ages Sometimes i dont believe them lol. Let me know what the general opinion is "
No I would take it as a compliment |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It would probably be safer to say ‘you have a great body’ without mentioning the ages
Same here! And mention milf or cougar and I'm blocking you! "
i hate them words too |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I received this "compliment " ... my reply ... sorry am I supposed to be wrinkly at my age.
After all what about that old chestnut that guys are fond of using.... age is just a number so why mention it ? |
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"Absolutely not, would take it as a huge compliment, not to say ego boast.
Since when were you a woman?
Bit of a gender specific sexist remark don't you think.
Ummm not if the OP set the context — title thread/post and his comments?
to be honest didn't actually read the title closely but in my defence, how often does the thread title have nothing to do with OPs comments/question?
Ummmm it’s also clear in his post.
Okay, obviously I didn't read the OP's opening message closely either. S""t, is aunty Mary visiting for the weekend?
I don’t know what that means?
I’ll accept your apology for accusing me incorrectly now, by the way.
Obviously didn't spend the "extra hour" having depleted joke recognition tank recharged.
Bit surprised because virtually all the women I know use the expression albeit using a different "aunty"!
Oh, you are making an insinuation that I’m on my period because I pointed out that you had misread the post? "
He didn't read the thread but you pointing it out is due to hormonal imbalance...you couldn't make this shit up! |
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"Absolutely not, would take it as a huge compliment, not to say ego boast.
Since when were you a woman?
Bit of a gender specific sexist remark don't you think.
Ummm not if the OP set the context — title thread/post and his comments?
to be honest didn't actually read the title closely but in my defence, how often does the thread title have nothing to do with OPs comments/question?
Ummmm it’s also clear in his post.
Okay, obviously I didn't read the OP's opening message closely either. S""t, is aunty Mary visiting for the weekend?
I don’t know what that means?
I’ll accept your apology for accusing me incorrectly now, by the way.
Obviously didn't spend the "extra hour" having depleted joke recognition tank recharged.
Bit surprised because virtually all the women I know use the expression albeit using a different "aunty"!
Oh, you are making an insinuation that I’m on my period because I pointed out that you had misread the post?
He didn't read the thread but you pointing it out is due to hormonal imbalance...you couldn't make this shit up! "
Haha exactly what I was thinking... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Absolutely not, would take it as a huge compliment, not to say ego boast.
Since when were you a woman?
Bit of a gender specific sexist remark don't you think.
Ummm not if the OP set the context — title thread/post and his comments?
to be honest didn't actually read the title closely but in my defence, how often does the thread title have nothing to do with OPs comments/question?
Ummmm it’s also clear in his post.
Okay, obviously I didn't read the OP's opening message closely either. S""t, is aunty Mary visiting for the weekend?
I don’t know what that means?
I’ll accept your apology for accusing me incorrectly now, by the way.
Obviously didn't spend the "extra hour" having depleted joke recognition tank recharged.
Bit surprised because virtually all the women I know use the expression albeit using a different "aunty"!
Oh, you are making an insinuation that I’m on my period because I pointed out that you had misread the post?
He didn't read the thread but you pointing it out is due to hormonal imbalance...you couldn't make this shit up!
Haha exactly what I was thinking..."
And yet sadly, it will be “it was a joke”, “it was funny” and the failure to see actually what it was will be lost, to all but those who are used to this kind of misogyny. |
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"Absolutely not, would take it as a huge compliment, not to say ego boast.
Since when were you a woman?
Bit of a gender specific sexist remark don't you think.
Ummm not if the OP set the context — title thread/post and his comments?
to be honest didn't actually read the title closely but in my defence, how often does the thread title have nothing to do with OPs comments/question?
Ummmm it’s also clear in his post.
Okay, obviously I didn't read the OP's opening message closely either. S""t, is aunty Mary visiting for the weekend?
I don’t know what that means?
I’ll accept your apology for accusing me incorrectly now, by the way.
Obviously didn't spend the "extra hour" having depleted joke recognition tank recharged.
Bit surprised because virtually all the women I know use the expression albeit using a different "aunty"!
Oh, you are making an insinuation that I’m on my period because I pointed out that you had misread the post?
He didn't read the thread but you pointing it out is due to hormonal imbalance...you couldn't make this shit up!
Haha exactly what I was thinking...
And yet sadly, it will be “it was a joke”, “it was funny” and the failure to see actually what it was will be lost, to all but those who are used to this kind of misogyny. "
Of course... and silly me for thinking that the remark about your gender specifics was a snarky one. I must be due on my period. |
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"Adding "for my age" would definitely make me consider it a backhanded compliment. X
Like a colleague discussing me with another colleague..."she'd be absolutely stunning...if she were slim!" "
Ha ha. Or my friend telling me you could look as good as her if you had money. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Absolutely not, would take it as a huge compliment, not to say ego boast.
Since when were you a woman?
Bit of a gender specific sexist remark don't you think.
Ummm not if the OP set the context — title thread/post and his comments?
to be honest didn't actually read the title closely but in my defence, how often does the thread title have nothing to do with OPs comments/question?
Ummmm it’s also clear in his post.
Okay, obviously I didn't read the OP's opening message closely either. S""t, is aunty Mary visiting for the weekend?
I don’t know what that means?
I’ll accept your apology for accusing me incorrectly now, by the way.
Obviously didn't spend the "extra hour" having depleted joke recognition tank recharged.
Bit surprised because virtually all the women I know use the expression albeit using a different "aunty"!
Oh, you are making an insinuation that I’m on my period because I pointed out that you had misread the post?
He didn't read the thread but you pointing it out is due to hormonal imbalance...you couldn't make this shit up!
Haha exactly what I was thinking...
And yet sadly, it will be “it was a joke”, “it was funny” and the failure to see actually what it was will be lost, to all but those who are used to this kind of misogyny.
Of course... and silly me for thinking that the remark about your gender specifics was a snarky one. I must be due on my period."
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I was much slimmer in my 20's but didn't have the confidence and I also didn't have tits hip or ass - ok those things came with a belly too lol but I get more (positive) attention now than I did then.
Biologically speaking 'mum bods' are more attractive supposedly.
Boobs, hips and bum all signify fertility which is the aim of the sex drive |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Age is but a number...
Class is timeless...
And beauty is subjective...
I'm not quite sure how one perceives another person to be good for their age OP
You either are attracted or your not....
But then I'm just an old guy...
Maybe I've got it wrong... |
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If you think someone has an amazing body just tell them if that's the kind of compliment you think they like. Adding , 'For your age' ........ why ?
Adding, 'For your age' suggests that bodies deteriorate, go past their sell by date, are no longer attractive after mid twenties or for women , following menopause.
Too many men ( and women for that matter ) are hung up on what their body looks like;how firm it is; if it matches media expectations.
What you SHOULD be looking at - is the whole package. There must be many a firm bodied woman between 20 and 30 without much experience and even less confidence and sexual abandon, who remove their clothes and are cowering inside.
Give me mature bodies with mature minds inside them, with wobbly bellies and bums, and stretch marks that say , 'Yeah i've had kids,' With smiles and laughs that say , 'I'm relaxed in your company.' With confidence that shines out of their glossy lips and nails and gives you a slice of reality.
Fantasy bodies belong on celluloid. Come to think of it ..... all those immature botoxed , fish lipped , jelly boobed, peeps can't have been very happy with what they had any old hoooo ..... regardless of age. |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
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"I always find compliments from other women nice. Most people don't believe Im the age I am. Its a state of mind I think not just a physical thing.
You look insanely hot for any age! "
Thanks Evie |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If you think someone has an amazing body just tell them if that's the kind of compliment you think they like. Adding , 'For your age' ........ why ?
Adding, 'For your age' suggests that bodies deteriorate, go past their sell by date, are no longer attractive after mid twenties or for women , following menopause.
Too many men ( and women for that matter ) are hung up on what their body looks like;how firm it is; if it matches media expectations.
What you SHOULD be looking at - is the whole package. There must be many a firm bodied woman between 20 and 30 without much experience and even less confidence and sexual abandon, who remove their clothes and are cowering inside.
Give me mature bodies with mature minds inside them, with wobbly bellies and bums, and stretch marks that say , 'Yeah i've had kids,' With smiles and laughs that say , 'I'm relaxed in your company.' With confidence that shines out of their glossy lips and nails and gives you a slice of reality.
Fantasy bodies belong on celluloid. Come to think of it ..... all those immature botoxed , fish lipped , jelly boobed, peeps can't have been very happy with what they had any old hoooo ..... regardless of age. "
Yes granny!
You need to be on This Morning with that! |
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"I always find compliments from other women nice. Most people don't believe Im the age I am. Its a state of mind I think not just a physical thing.
You look insanely hot for any age!
Thanks Evie "
You're very welcome - I used to live in Plymouth too |
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"I always find compliments from other women nice. Most people don't believe Im the age I am. Its a state of mind I think not just a physical thing.
You look insanely hot for any age!
Thanks Evie "
Fuck me are you really 50?
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"I always find compliments from other women nice. Most people don't believe Im the age I am. Its a state of mind I think not just a physical thing.
You look insanely hot for any age!
Thanks Evie "
Hot as fook |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
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"I always find compliments from other women nice. Most people don't believe Im the age I am. Its a state of mind I think not just a physical thing.
You look insanely hot for any age!
Thanks Evie
You're very welcome - I used to live in Plymouth too "
Well if you ever visit get in touch. |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
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"I always find compliments from other women nice. Most people don't believe Im the age I am. Its a state of mind I think not just a physical thing.
You look insanely hot for any age!
Thanks Evie
Fuck me are you really 50?
I hate you "
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over a year ago
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"I always find compliments from other women nice. Most people don't believe Im the age I am. Its a state of mind I think not just a physical thing.
You look insanely hot for any age!
Thanks Evie
You're very welcome - I used to live in Plymouth too
Well if you ever visit get in touch. "
Age is just a number. If someone is hot then age shouldn't have much to do with it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Surely the fact there are many women with fantastic bodies at different age ranges means we should start challenging the ageist myths?
And how old is old?
And all bodies are fantastic really, just some you find attractive and some you don’t (but we all have our different attraction sparkers, so it’s not a one-size-fits-all topic) i agree all bodies are fantastic but as we get older it becomes harder to maintain the physique you had when you were 20 if you know what i mean? Not trying to offend anyone here just trying to gain insight into how a womams mind works "
What about those whose physique is much better now than when they were in their 20s or 30s? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's pretty much impossible to offend me. I remember someone stroking my arm and elbow and saying "You have really soft skin....for an old woman". It made me laugh. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You've all made interesting points, considering your ages.
What do you think Jim? "
If you think someone looks good, regardless of gender, OP. Tell 'em they look good. Fancy a fuck? |
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"I always find compliments from other women nice. Most people don't believe Im the age I am. Its a state of mind I think not just a physical thing.
You look insanely hot for any age!
Thanks Evie
You're very welcome - I used to live in Plymouth too
Well if you ever visit get in touch. "
I wish still have friends there |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You've all made interesting points, considering your ages.
What do you think Jim?
If you think someone looks good, regardless of gender, OP. Tell 'em they look good. Fancy a fuck?"
Yep. Get your pants off |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You've all made interesting points, considering your ages.
What do you think Jim?
If you think someone looks good, regardless of gender, OP. Tell 'em they look good. Fancy a fuck?"
So you agree not to add the age part? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some are just looking for an insult....
why not look at it as a compliment and be happy they bothered to try and express it rather than suppress it.
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Because they need something to feel insulted about. Or they are touchy about their age and looks. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If you say "You have a wonderful body" or "You look good" - then that is a compliment, thank you very much!
If you add "for your age" then that changes it into a pretty big insult and an immediate turn-off.....
I would have expected that a little thought would have told you that...!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some are just looking for an insult....
why not look at it as a compliment and be happy they bothered to try and express it rather than suppress it.
Because they need something to feel insulted about. Or they are touchy about their age and looks. "
But they’re allowed to be all of these things. And it answers the OP’s question to hear that some do find if offensive.
I personally wouldn’t mind as I don’t feel touchy about my age. Ask me when I’m older and I might though. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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See now everyone is bashing me but i know from experience as you get older its harder to stay in shape. You ache more you get injured easier you fatigue easier ect. Dont tell me age is just a number because its not as you get older
Your body deteriorates its caused by oxygen essentially. But im not saying anyone cannot be attractive at any age im just being real. So if an older woman is in excellent shape i think its great. And by older i mean 40 plus. And dont get it twisted that im saying 40 is old because its not but 40 is older than 20 |
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"See now everyone is bashing me but i know from experience as you get older its harder to stay in shape. You ache more you get injured easier you fatigue easier ect. Dont tell me age is just a number because its not as you get older
Your body deteriorates its caused by oxygen essentially. But im not saying anyone cannot be attractive at any age im just being real. So if an older woman is in excellent shape i think its great. And by older i mean 40 plus. And dont get it twisted that im saying 40 is old because its not but 40 is older than 20 "
I know what you mean, and don’t entirely agree but I agree enough to proffer my advice to your query — and you sought a general response from women and I’d say generally you’re best off following the advice of the second poster — compliment but perhaps don’t add the age comment. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Considering it sounds like a back handed compliment I'd say avoid using it
It's like when someone say you have a really pretty face for a fat chick
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This! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No of course not.
You look gorgeous though for an old chick
Why thankyou
Gorgeous for any age. Shame your profile is hidden 
I'm seeing someone at the mo,so just here for the forum's really "
Ah cool, hope it's going well for you. Was just to fab and admire your pics |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do people get offended if they’re told they don’t look their age but look younger?"
When I was younger it would annoy me. But at 43,I've now been told I look about 37/38 which is always good. |
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"Do people get offended if they’re told they don’t look their age but look younger?"
I don't. I think the look good for your age compliment is open to interpretation. It could mean you look great but you wouldn't if you were ten years younger or it could mean that you look so good that they can't believe you're the age you claim to be.
I think that as its usually meant as a compliment anyone receiving it should accept it as such. However I would still prefer a person to just say "you look good" |
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over a year ago
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"Do people get offended if they’re told they don’t look their age but look younger?"
I can imagine some might.
I find it annoying when I get people telling me I’m not my age because they think I look younger. I get annoyed when they do it in that way that’s actually accusing me of lying, like when people tell me I can’t be shy because I have naked pics up. I’m kinda “right, you’re essentially starting an interaction by telling me you don’t believe me or you won’t listen to me, not really going to go well from there...” |
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"No of course not.
You look gorgeous though for an old chick
Why thankyou
Gorgeous for any age. Shame your profile is hidden
I'm seeing someone at the mo,so just here for the forum's really
Ah cool, hope it's going well for you. Was just to fab and admire your pics "
You may not like the rest |
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over a year ago
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"No of course not.
You look gorgeous though for an old chick
Why thankyou
Gorgeous for any age. Shame your profile is hidden
I'm seeing someone at the mo,so just here for the forum's really
Ah cool, hope it's going well for you. Was just to fab and admire your pics
You may not like the rest "
Haha, I bet you don't even believe that |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do people get offended if they’re told they don’t look their age but look younger?"
You can see the difference between the two though, right? Like, saying someone doesn't look their age and saying someone has a good body for the age are two different things. |
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over a year ago
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"Do people get offended if they’re told they don’t look their age but look younger?
You can see the difference between the two though, right? Like, saying someone doesn't look their age and saying someone has a good body for the age are two different things. "
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over a year ago
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"Do people get offended if they’re told they don’t look their age but look younger?
You can see the difference between the two though, right? Like, saying someone doesn't look their age and saying someone has a good body for the age are two different things. "
Yes, I know there is a difference. I was just asking |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do people get offended if they’re told they don’t look their age but look younger?
You can see the difference between the two though, right? Like, saying someone doesn't look their age and saying someone has a good body for the age are two different things.
Yes, I know there is a difference. I was just asking "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Would you be offended if you were an older woman and a guy said to you you have a great body ect for your age? I see alot of older women on here and im amazed at how great of a shape they are in for their ages Sometimes i dont believe them lol. Let me know what the general opinion is "
Can I ask?
Do you consider my legs as good as a woman my age?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some are just looking for an insult....
why not look at it as a compliment and be happy they bothered to try and express it rather than suppress it.
Because they need something to feel insulted about. Or they are touchy about their age and looks.
But they’re allowed to be all of these things. And it answers the OP’s question to hear that some do find if offensive.
I personally wouldn’t mind as I don’t feel touchy about my age. Ask me when I’m older and I might though. "
I allow people to say what they are thinking. That could be because I don't have body confidence issues, and I'm not sensitive about my age or appearance. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You've all made interesting points, considering your ages.
What do you think Jim?
If you think someone looks good, regardless of gender, OP. Tell 'em they look good. Fancy a fuck?
Yep. Get your pants off "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some are just looking for an insult....
why not look at it as a compliment and be happy they bothered to try and express it rather than suppress it.
Because they need something to feel insulted about. Or they are touchy about their age and looks.
But they’re allowed to be all of these things. And it answers the OP’s question to hear that some do find if offensive.
I personally wouldn’t mind as I don’t feel touchy about my age. Ask me when I’m older and I might though.
I allow people to say what they are thinking. That could be because I don't have body confidence issues, and I'm not sensitive about my age or appearance. "
Those things don’t have to be mutually exclusive though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Would you be offended if you were an older woman and a guy said to you you have a great body ect for your age? I see alot of older women on here and im amazed at how great of a shape they are in for their ages Sometimes i dont believe them lol. Let me know what the general opinion is
Can I ask?
Do you consider my legs as good as a woman my age?
56"
Your legs are better than some women half your age. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Some are just looking for an insult....
why not look at it as a compliment and be happy they bothered to try and express it rather than suppress it.
Because they need something to feel insulted about. Or they are touchy about their age and looks.
But they’re allowed to be all of these things. And it answers the OP’s question to hear that some do find if offensive.
I personally wouldn’t mind as I don’t feel touchy about my age. Ask me when I’m older and I might though.
I allow people to say what they are thinking. That could be because I don't have body confidence issues, and I'm not sensitive about my age or appearance.
Those things don’t have to be mutually exclusive though. "
Of course they don't. I allow people to mention my age, regardless. Why others don't like it only they know. |
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"Some are just looking for an insult....
why not look at it as a compliment and be happy they bothered to try and express it rather than suppress it.
Because they need something to feel insulted about. Or they are touchy about their age and looks.
But they’re allowed to be all of these things. And it answers the OP’s question to hear that some do find if offensive.
I personally wouldn’t mind as I don’t feel touchy about my age. Ask me when I’m older and I might though.
I allow people to say what they are thinking. That could be because I don't have body confidence issues, and I'm not sensitive about my age or appearance.
Those things don’t have to be mutually exclusive though.
Of course they don't. I allow people to mention my age, regardless. Why others don't like it only they know. "
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"Some are just looking for an insult....
why not look at it as a compliment and be happy they bothered to try and express it rather than suppress it.
Because they need something to feel insulted about. Or they are touchy about their age and looks.
But they’re allowed to be all of these things. And it answers the OP’s question to hear that some do find if offensive.
I personally wouldn’t mind as I don’t feel touchy about my age. Ask me when I’m older and I might though.
I allow people to say what they are thinking. That could be because I don't have body confidence issues, and I'm not sensitive about my age or appearance.
Those things don’t have to be mutually exclusive though.
Of course they don't. I allow people to mention my age, regardless. Why others don't like it only they know. "
Get your zimmer frame you've pulled granny |
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"Some are just looking for an insult....
why not look at it as a compliment and be happy they bothered to try and express it rather than suppress it.
Because they need something to feel insulted about. Or they are touchy about their age and looks.
But they’re allowed to be all of these things. And it answers the OP’s question to hear that some do find if offensive.
I personally wouldn’t mind as I don’t feel touchy about my age. Ask me when I’m older and I might though.
I allow people to say what they are thinking. That could be because I don't have body confidence issues, and I'm not sensitive about my age or appearance. "
I wouldn't necessarily say that those who take issue with it have body confidence/age sensitivity issues.
When someone says to me "you're attractive for a fat girl", I take issue because I feel that person should realise it's a bit of a dick thing to say. |
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"Some are just looking for an insult....
why not look at it as a compliment and be happy they bothered to try and express it rather than suppress it.
Because they need something to feel insulted about. Or they are touchy about their age and looks.
But they’re allowed to be all of these things. And it answers the OP’s question to hear that some do find if offensive.
I personally wouldn’t mind as I don’t feel touchy about my age. Ask me when I’m older and I might though.
I allow people to say what they are thinking. That could be because I don't have body confidence issues, and I'm not sensitive about my age or appearance.
I wouldn't necessarily say that those who take issue with it have body confidence/age sensitivity issues.
When someone says to me "you're attractive for a fat girl", I take issue because I feel that person should realise it's a bit of a dick thing to say. "
 but yes, so much this |
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"Surely the fact there are many women with fantastic bodies at different age ranges means we should start challenging the ageist myths?
And how old is old?
And all bodies are fantastic really, just some you find attractive and some you don’t (but we all have our different attraction sparkers, so it’s not a one-size-fits-all topic) i agree all bodies are fantastic but as we get older it becomes harder to maintain the physique you had when you were 20 if you know what i mean? Not trying to offend anyone here just trying to gain insight into how a womams mind works "
Which is what you're being told, some of us women tend to think age is irrelevant and you either fancy us and like our bodies or not |
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In reality no one is ever going to tell me I have a good body for any age
But I think being told you don't look your age is a compliment and I always take it that way.
However being told you're good 'for you age' shows, to me at least, an immature and stereotyped view of 'older' people |
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By *pider-WomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Some are just looking for an insult....
why not look at it as a compliment and be happy they bothered to try and express it rather than suppress it.
Because they need something to feel insulted about. Or they are touchy about their age and looks.
But they’re allowed to be all of these things. And it answers the OP’s question to hear that some do find if offensive.
I personally wouldn’t mind as I don’t feel touchy about my age. Ask me when I’m older and I might though.
I allow people to say what they are thinking. That could be because I don't have body confidence issues, and I'm not sensitive about my age or appearance.
Those things don’t have to be mutually exclusive though.
Of course they don't. I allow people to mention my age, regardless. Why others don't like it only they know.
Get your zimmer frame you've pulled granny "
Just be careful you dont bite off more than you can chew |
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I was very fit & sporty on my 20s, health issues on my 30s saw a massive weight gain.
Now in my 40s,I'm fitter & healthier than I've ever been.
Being told I look good, is a nice compliment, but I don't see my age as an important factor.
What does amuse me though, is messages saying things like "no way your 47"
I mean why would I actually lie about my age & make myself older? |
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"Some are just looking for an insult....
why not look at it as a compliment and be happy they bothered to try and express it rather than suppress it.
Because they need something to feel insulted about. Or they are touchy about their age and looks.
But they’re allowed to be all of these things. And it answers the OP’s question to hear that some do find if offensive.
I personally wouldn’t mind as I don’t feel touchy about my age. Ask me when I’m older and I might though.
I allow people to say what they are thinking. That could be because I don't have body confidence issues, and I'm not sensitive about my age or appearance.
Those things don’t have to be mutually exclusive though.
Of course they don't. I allow people to mention my age, regardless. Why others don't like it only they know.
Get your zimmer frame you've pulled granny
Just be careful you dont bite off more than you can chew "
Don't worry I know she has to put her dentures in before she can chew
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"In reality no one is ever going to tell me I have a good body for any age
But I think being told you don't look your age is a compliment and I always take it that way.
However being told you're good 'for you age' shows, to me at least, an immature and stereotyped view of 'older' people "
It's not always young people (or men) that say it.
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"Some are just looking for an insult....
why not look at it as a compliment and be happy they bothered to try and express it rather than suppress it.
Because they need something to feel insulted about. Or they are touchy about their age and looks.
But they’re allowed to be all of these things. And it answers the OP’s question to hear that some do find if offensive.
I personally wouldn’t mind as I don’t feel touchy about my age. Ask me when I’m older and I might though.
I allow people to say what they are thinking. That could be because I don't have body confidence issues, and I'm not sensitive about my age or appearance.
Those things don’t have to be mutually exclusive though.
Of course they don't. I allow people to mention my age, regardless. Why others don't like it only they know.
Get your zimmer frame you've pulled granny
Just be careful you dont bite off more than you can chew
Don't worry I know she has to put her dentures in before she can chew
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