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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b0832rjl
A little R4 podcast making the case for sensitivity.
It challenges the widely held assertion that being sensitive is weakness and that we just need to toughen up and take it.
Sensitivity is useful and it wouldn't harm some to tap into their hidden sensitive side.
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"http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b0832rjl
A little R4 podcast making the case for sensitivity.
It challenges the widely held assertion that being sensitive is weakness and that we just need to toughen up and take it.
Sensitivity is useful and it wouldn't harm some to tap into their hidden sensitive side.
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All roundedness is a good quality |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Totally agree. I see my sensitivity as a strength especially as it runs counter to traditional views of how men should be  "
The case made is that it makes one better able to adapt too.
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b0832rjl
A little R4 podcast making the case for sensitivity.
It challenges the widely held assertion that being sensitive is weakness and that we just need to toughen up and take it.
Sensitivity is useful and it wouldn't harm some to tap into their hidden sensitive side.
All roundedness is a good quality"
I'm very round.
Knowing when to draw on the right characteristics from our personality is a really good quality.
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"http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b0832rjl
A little R4 podcast making the case for sensitivity.
It challenges the widely held assertion that being sensitive is weakness and that we just need to toughen up and take it.
Sensitivity is useful and it wouldn't harm some to tap into their hidden sensitive side.
All roundedness is a good quality
I'm very round.
Knowing when to draw on the right characteristics from our personality is a really good quality.
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Oh jeez I'm more sensitive than testicles after a vasectomy"
So you need to be handled gently (are take care of splinters from the shed).
Seriously, is your sensitivity painful to you?
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"People should be more sensitive and compassionate and not just with others but with themselves "
It's so difficult to offer ourselves compassion as it can feel self-indulgent. That's the point, though, isn't it? The language we use about these things is that it's all seen as weakness, selfishness and other traits perceived as negative.
We need a positive language set about sensitivity and self-care that helps re-shape our thoughts.
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Nothing wrong with sensitivity, we are not living in the 1880s ,
It does kind of worry me a bit, the amount of humourless serious types on here, especially couples........ |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I think that sensitivity can essentially be another sense, a way of tapping more deeply into what’s going on around you. "
That's a central theme.
Did you see the stuff around how much babies and children pick up just being around other people? All those parents thinking little Jodie doesn't understand so it's ok to talk about x are wrong. Jodie may not understand all the words but knows what's going on, even if s/he doesn't show it.
There was also a piece on the R4 science programme this week about dogs making more facial expressions to communicate with their humans.
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"Oh jeez I'm more sensitive than testicles after a vasectomy
So you need to be handled gently (are take care of splinters from the shed).
Seriously, is your sensitivity painful to you?
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Kid gloves usually! Not had any splinters yet, I did go through the floor just outside the shed door though.
Not overly, no. Unless I cry at a film or something, then I feel like a wuss and that's painful to the ego!  |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"Nothing wrong with sensitivity, we are not living in the 1880s ,
It does kind of worry me a bit, the amount of humourless serious types on here, especially couples........"
Is serious and humourless the same as insensitivity?
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I can't listen to the blog right now, but I applaud sensitivity of many kinds, you need incredible sensitivity to match a horse for instance  "
Jenny Seagrove has a charity that matches horses with troubled teenagers as therapy. It's really interesting stuff.
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"Oh jeez I'm more sensitive than testicles after a vasectomy
So you need to be handled gently (are take care of splinters from the shed).
Seriously, is your sensitivity painful to you?
Kid gloves usually! Not had any splinters yet, I did go through the floor just outside the shed door though.
Not overly, no. Unless I cry at a film or something, then I feel like a wuss and that's painful to the ego! "
I have a funny observation (just too many years being around people) that people who cry at films and things one removed are stoical, practical and deal with knocks in life better than those who sit stony-faced through a weepy film. I'm sure there will be an exception to this, but I haven't met it yet.
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"I can't listen to the blog right now, but I applaud sensitivity of many kinds, you need incredible sensitivity to match a horse for instance
Jenny Seagrove has a charity that matches horses with troubled teenagers as therapy. It's really interesting stuff.
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Yes I have friends who do life coaching using horses - they are fabulously sensitive and very good mirrors to what's going on inside of us, they read attitude and intent instantly. |
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"Oh jeez I'm more sensitive than testicles after a vasectomy
So you need to be handled gently (are take care of splinters from the shed).
Seriously, is your sensitivity painful to you?
Kid gloves usually! Not had any splinters yet, I did go through the floor just outside the shed door though.
Not overly, no. Unless I cry at a film or something, then I feel like a wuss and that's painful to the ego!
I have a funny observation (just too many years being around people) that people who cry at films and things one removed are stoical, practical and deal with knocks in life better than those who sit stony-faced through a weepy film. I'm sure there will be an exception to this, but I haven't met it yet.
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Interesting. I need to people watch more. |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"I can't listen to the blog right now, but I applaud sensitivity of many kinds, you need incredible sensitivity to match a horse for instance
Jenny Seagrove has a charity that matches horses with troubled teenagers as therapy. It's really interesting stuff.
Yes I have friends who do life coaching using horses - they are fabulously sensitive and very good mirrors to what's going on inside of us, they read attitude and intent instantly. "
Interesting. I hadn't heard of horse life coaching. Not one that can be done on the phone, though.
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"I can't listen to the blog right now, but I applaud sensitivity of many kinds, you need incredible sensitivity to match a horse for instance
Jenny Seagrove has a charity that matches horses with troubled teenagers as therapy. It's really interesting stuff.
Yes I have friends who do life coaching using horses - they are fabulously sensitive and very good mirrors to what's going on inside of us, they read attitude and intent instantly.
Interesting. I hadn't heard of horse life coaching. Not one that can be done on the phone, though.
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No, you need to get your feet in the earth with them lol! |
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I'm funny in that some things I can just take in my stride, and others I find a little more difficult to deal with.
I can be either quite sensitive and at other times i can and a bit of an insensitive sod.
I'm both, sensitive and numb  |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"I'm funny in that some things I can just take in my stride, and others I find a little more difficult to deal with.
I can be either quite sensitive and at other times i can and a bit of an insensitive sod.
I'm both, sensitive and numb "
Do you do that to match what you need to get through a situation?
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"I'm funny in that some things I can just take in my stride, and others I find a little more difficult to deal with.
I can be either quite sensitive and at other times i can and a bit of an insensitive sod.
I'm both, sensitive and numb
Do you do that to match what you need to get through a situation?
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To a degree I think so, I'm good at locking stuff in times of stress and emotion but will go through that at a later time.
Sometimes though I can be a bit self absorbed and just a bit insensitive to how folk feel..or maybe I do notice but choose not to care, bit of both I'd say.
More often than not though I'm as sensitive as the next person..depends on my mood I suppose.
I'm going to think more on this
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Interesting blog - I never had any of the overt problems she had with sensitivity as I grew up, most people were just oblivious to it! I can remember a guy at college, someone else's boyfriend, saying 'You've GOT to toughen up or you're really going to get hurt!' and me just saying something like 'But I LIKE being like this!!' I guess that's why I have always gotten on so well with the difficult horses - I was sensitive to their subtle communication, and they knew it, and it calmed them. They get really anxious when those around them do not 'hear' them or understand them, and I guess I could empathise more with that 'unheard' feeling growing up.
But the horses all heard me.  |
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I think it sounds a great podcast and proposition - thanks Lickety.
There is too much emphasis on brute hardness, the glorification of a crass aspect of our nature that is hurtful to others as well as ourselves. We are naturally sensitive and so having it knocked out of ourselves forces us to become a mere shell, padded with emotional conflict, resentment and negativity - whilst living a stressful lie, portraying a self that isn't the more happy and carefree us that we subordinate and miss.
Shutting our sensitivity out, we get ourselves into relationship dramas that help no one, instead of being in touch with our golden hearts. It's priceless to be able to feel our real perceptions and responses to life. As well as to enrich our relationship with ourselves. It's a tragedy that the trap to lose out on our richness is so alluring.
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"I think it sounds a great podcast and proposition - thanks Lickety.
There is too much emphasis on brute hardness, the glorification of a crass aspect of our nature that is hurtful to others as well as ourselves. We are naturally sensitive and so having it knocked out of ourselves forces us to become a mere shell, padded with emotional conflict, resentment and negativity - whilst living a stressful lie, portraying a self that isn't the more happy and carefree us that we subordinate and miss.
Shutting our sensitivity out, we get ourselves into relationship dramas that help no one, instead of being in touch with our golden hearts. It's priceless to be able to feel our real perceptions and responses to life. As well as to enrich our relationship with ourselves. It's a tragedy that the trap to lose out on our richness is so alluring.
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Beautifully expressed, I'm going to copy that and read it more than once there's so much in it! |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I think it sounds a great podcast and proposition - thanks Lickety.
There is too much emphasis on brute hardness, the glorification of a crass aspect of our nature that is hurtful to others as well as ourselves. We are naturally sensitive and so having it knocked out of ourselves forces us to become a mere shell, padded with emotional conflict, resentment and negativity - whilst living a stressful lie, portraying a self that isn't the more happy and carefree us that we subordinate and miss.
Shutting our sensitivity out, we get ourselves into relationship dramas that help no one, instead of being in touch with our golden hearts. It's priceless to be able to feel our real perceptions and responses to life. As well as to enrich our relationship with ourselves. It's a tragedy that the trap to lose out on our richness is so alluring.
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"Golden hearts" is so beautiful. Thank you for adding to this thought process.
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
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"Interesting blog - I never had any of the overt problems she had with sensitivity as I grew up, most people were just oblivious to it! I can remember a guy at college, someone else's boyfriend, saying 'You've GOT to toughen up or you're really going to get hurt!' and me just saying something like 'But I LIKE being like this!!' I guess that's why I have always gotten on so well with the difficult horses - I was sensitive to their subtle communication, and they knew it, and it calmed them. They get really anxious when those around them do not 'hear' them or understand them, and I guess I could empathise more with that 'unheard' feeling growing up.
But the horses all heard me. "
You found where you needed to be. That is the secret to happiness.
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"Interesting blog - I never had any of the overt problems she had with sensitivity as I grew up, most people were just oblivious to it! I can remember a guy at college, someone else's boyfriend, saying 'You've GOT to toughen up or you're really going to get hurt!' and me just saying something like 'But I LIKE being like this!!' I guess that's why I have always gotten on so well with the difficult horses - I was sensitive to their subtle communication, and they knew it, and it calmed them. They get really anxious when those around them do not 'hear' them or understand them, and I guess I could empathise more with that 'unheard' feeling growing up.
But the horses all heard me.
You found where you needed to be. That is the secret to happiness.
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Yes, and thinking about it I found a group of very sensitive hippie souls too and I was never as happy as being part of that group. I found them again this summer at a particular festival......hmmm, food for thought, thanks!! |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I know I'm too sensitive 
Listen to the piece. It's 15 minutes, that's all. Then consider your "too" again.
I can't listen to it, I'd have to register with the beeb and i dont have a tv licence."
Read Sophie's post, above.
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"I know I'm too sensitive
Listen to the piece. It's 15 minutes, that's all. Then consider your "too" again.
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People kept saying the same thing on my self-aware thread, and I said the same - how can anyone be too self-aware?
But there is a principle which I think the sensitive and the self-aware need to learn, and that is how to yield to the wind, like the branches of a tree. If the tree gets too brittle and can no longer yield, it will sustain catastrophic damage. As long as it can yield and let the wind pass through, it does not. |
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"I know I'm too sensitive
Listen to the piece. It's 15 minutes, that's all. Then consider your "too" again.
People kept saying the same thing on my self-aware thread, and I said the same - how can anyone be too self-aware?
But there is a principle which I think the sensitive and the self-aware need to learn, and that is how to yield to the wind, like the branches of a tree. If the tree gets too brittle and can no longer yield, it will sustain catastrophic damage. As long as it can yield and let the wind pass through, it does not."
And I don't say that in a critical sense - but as food for thought, I think Sophie is so right. |
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"I know I'm too sensitive
Listen to the piece. It's 15 minutes, that's all. Then consider your "too" again.
People kept saying the same thing on my self-aware thread, and I said the same - how can anyone be too self-aware?
But there is a principle which I think the sensitive and the self-aware need to learn, and that is how to yield to the wind, like the branches of a tree. If the tree gets too brittle and can no longer yield, it will sustain catastrophic damage. As long as it can yield and let the wind pass through, it does not."
Emotional competence enables you to sway with the wind rather than the emotion breaking you. Sensitivity without emotional competence can make a person brittle. When I was younger I was much more fragile emotionally than I am now. However understanding what was behind the powerful emotions I experienced enabled me to go with the emotion dealing with it on a healthy way, rather than being consumed ,fixated by it or acting out of it.... |
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"I know I'm too sensitive
Listen to the piece. It's 15 minutes, that's all. Then consider your "too" again.
People kept saying the same thing on my self-aware thread, and I said the same - how can anyone be too self-aware?
But there is a principle which I think the sensitive and the self-aware need to learn, and that is how to yield to the wind, like the branches of a tree. If the tree gets too brittle and can no longer yield, it will sustain catastrophic damage. As long as it can yield and let the wind pass through, it does not.
And I don't say that in a critical sense - but as food for thought, I think Sophie is so right."
I’m wondering if self awareness and self-consciousness are the two sides of the coin of awareness. If I become self-conscious because of my awareness it can be debilitating |
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I've had depression on and off since my 20's. This culminated with me having a breakdown in 2014.
When I was on anti depressants it helped me function at work. But everything was in a fog.
I changed my life a lot in the last year and stopped taking them in May.
I've felt better. But it's hard. Our society demands that in order to function we have to shut aspects of ourself down. I don't like that. |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I've had depression on and off since my 20's. This culminated with me having a breakdown in 2014.
When I was on anti depressants it helped me function at work. But everything was in a fog.
I changed my life a lot in the last year and stopped taking them in May.
I've felt better. But it's hard. Our society demands that in order to function we have to shut aspects of ourself down. I don't like that. "
Sometimes we need help and it's strength that enables us to ask for that help and take it.
If your depression returns it's not a failure, it's just a change of chemistry, thoughts and circumstances. The current interest in mental health in the workplace may slowly make a difference to how society sees what we really need to function.
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
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"I know I'm too sensitive
Listen to the piece. It's 15 minutes, that's all. Then consider your "too" again.
People kept saying the same thing on my self-aware thread, and I said the same - how can anyone be too self-aware?
But there is a principle which I think the sensitive and the self-aware need to learn, and that is how to yield to the wind, like the branches of a tree. If the tree gets too brittle and can no longer yield, it will sustain catastrophic damage. As long as it can yield and let the wind pass through, it does not.
And I don't say that in a critical sense - but as food for thought, I think Sophie is so right.
I’m wondering if self awareness and self-consciousness are the two sides of the coin of awareness. If I become self-conscious because of my awareness it can be debilitating "
I shall ponder this.
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"I know I'm too sensitive
Listen to the piece. It's 15 minutes, that's all. Then consider your "too" again.
People kept saying the same thing on my self-aware thread, and I said the same - how can anyone be too self-aware?
But there is a principle which I think the sensitive and the self-aware need to learn, and that is how to yield to the wind, like the branches of a tree. If the tree gets too brittle and can no longer yield, it will sustain catastrophic damage. As long as it can yield and let the wind pass through, it does not.
And I don't say that in a critical sense - but as food for thought, I think Sophie is so right.
I’m wondering if self awareness and self-consciousness are the two sides of the coin of awareness. If I become self-conscious because of my awareness it can be debilitating "
Yes, I kept asking if people meant self-conscious. That can be a painful state, whereas I never think of more awareness as being painful, just more alive! More sensitive - yes, certainly that. The horses are acutely sensitive and acutely aware, and they often have to turn the awareness of humans OFF to protect themselves. It is such a moving thing when they meet someone who is as aware and sensitive to them - they blossom like a flower. |
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"I think it sounds a great podcast and proposition - thanks Lickety.
There is too much emphasis on brute hardness, the glorification of a crass aspect of our nature that is hurtful to others as well as ourselves. We are naturally sensitive and so having it knocked out of ourselves forces us to become a mere shell, padded with emotional conflict, resentment and negativity - whilst living a stressful lie, portraying a self that isn't the more happy and carefree us that we subordinate and miss.
Shutting our sensitivity out, we get ourselves into relationship dramas that help no one, instead of being in touch with our golden hearts. It's priceless to be able to feel our real perceptions and responses to life. As well as to enrich our relationship with ourselves. It's a tragedy that the trap to lose out on our richness is so alluring.
"Golden hearts" is so beautiful. Thank you for adding to this thought process.
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Thanks sweetie - I've got to get the podcast to see what insights it opens up. |
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