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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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I was reading the June edition of Tatler at the hairdressers the other day and it had a feature on massage happy endings for women and where to buy them.
The piece discussed the Orgasmic Massage course (£199 for the initial training) and it got me wondering who would sign up for it. If you don't have a partner it's a bit odd to lay on the floor and let a stranger spend 15 minutes massaging the left upper quartile of your clitoris.
Would men really pay £199 to learn to do that?
I can see the benefits for women of £199 for therapy that claims so much IF it delivers on those claims, but who would do it?
As an aside, Tatler's September issue featured the etiquette of swinging and swap parties. I haven't read that one.
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"If I had £199 to spare it could be interesting"
They stress it's not sexual... until it is. You can only touch the left hand upper quadrant of the clitoris and you have to keep at it for 15 minutes.
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"If I had £199 to spare it could be interesting
They stress it's not sexual... until it is. You can only touch the left hand upper quadrant of the clitoris and you have to keep at it for 15 minutes.
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15 minutes on one spot!!! Do I get to practice on a real woman? Surely rubbing one part will get sore after while? |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"If I had £199 to spare it could be interesting
They stress it's not sexual... until it is. You can only touch the left hand upper quadrant of the clitoris and you have to keep at it for 15 minutes.
15 minutes on one spot!!! Do I get to practice on a real woman? Surely rubbing one part will get sore after while?"
One spot for 15 minutes on a real woman. Ideally, you then practice it every day.
There's a tiny part of me thinking I should book onto this course just to see what it's about. But I wouldn't be pleased if I ended up partnered with a woman with long nails.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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No need to spend £199 on my account, I can orgasm from a bog standard massage if it's done well and I'm in the mood. The idea of someone massaging my clit for 15 mins would be the ultimate turn OFF though  |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"No need to spend £199 on my account, I can orgasm from a bog standard massage if it's done well and I'm in the mood. The idea of someone massaging my clit for 15 mins would be the ultimate turn OFF though "
It's supposed to be more like a meditation than a sexual encounter.
The stuff I read was clear that you shouldn't do it to yourself as that blocks you from achieving the meditative orgasm.
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It's orgasmic meditation not massage and yes people go to the courses as singles and match up with someone of the opposite sex. I did the course when the originator Nicole daedone was presenting it and met a nice guy from Austria. You can also go to group meets and ask others to OM with you, no issues. I don't know any guys locally who oracticevit but if I did I'd ask them. Don't knock it til you've tried it  |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"It's orgasmic meditation not massage and yes people go to the courses as singles and match up with someone of the opposite sex. I did the course when the originator Nicole daedone was presenting it and met a nice guy from Austria. You can also go to group meets and ask others to OM with you, no issues. I don't know any guys locally who oracticevit but if I did I'd ask them. Don't knock it til you've tried it "
Has it made a difference to your life/way of being?
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I once had a job at a "tantric massage parlour" bullshit was it tantra though... it was just a very oily massage with a happy ending (sometimes for me too!)
I'd much rather have a massage like that than 15 minutes massaging sections of my clit  |
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"It's orgasmic meditation not massage and yes people go to the courses as singles and match up with someone of the opposite sex. I did the course when the originator Nicole daedone was presenting it and met a nice guy from Austria. You can also go to group meets and ask others to OM with you, no issues. I don't know any guys locally who oracticevit but if I did I'd ask them. Don't knock it til you've tried it
Has it made a difference to your life/way of being?
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No because I don't have anyone to practice it with regularly. I'm sure if I did, it would. As an intro I'd read the book slow sex by Nicole daedone, cheaper option but then nothing like practice vs theory |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"I once had a job at a "tantric massage parlour" bullshit was it tantra though... it was just a very oily massage with a happy ending (sometimes for me too!)
I'd much rather have a massage like that than 15 minutes massaging sections of my clit "
So calling it tantric was to give it an exotic air?
I quite like meeting for a happy ending massage but I don't do it as much as I would like because some I have met think two minutes of patting my skin counts as the massage and they want to move straight to their happy ending.  |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"It's orgasmic meditation not massage and yes people go to the courses as singles and match up with someone of the opposite sex. I did the course when the originator Nicole daedone was presenting it and met a nice guy from Austria. You can also go to group meets and ask others to OM with you, no issues. I don't know any guys locally who oracticevit but if I did I'd ask them. Don't knock it til you've tried it
Has it made a difference to your life/way of being?
No because I don't have anyone to practice it with regularly. I'm sure if I did, it would. As an intro I'd read the book slow sex by Nicole daedone, cheaper option but then nothing like practice vs theory "
Thanks, that's useful.
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We very much enjoy OM as well as tantric massage, both are very different and the key (for us) with both is that they're not about 'chasing' an orgasm.
Both have definitely enhanced our enjoyment of each other and self.
You'll find all of the instruction you need on YouTube or some other video sites. No need for a £199 course. |
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"We very much enjoy OM as well as tantric massage, both are very different and the key (for us) with both is that they're not about 'chasing' an orgasm.
Both have definitely enhanced our enjoyment of each other and self.
You'll find all of the instruction you need on YouTube or some other video sites. No need for a £199 course."
That’s how I researched it. YouTube has lots of helpful videos of that sort  |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"We very much enjoy OM as well as tantric massage, both are very different and the key (for us) with both is that they're not about 'chasing' an orgasm.
Both have definitely enhanced our enjoyment of each other and self.
You'll find all of the instruction you need on YouTube or some other video sites. No need for a £199 course."
Thanks. My reality is that £199 will pay for someone to do it to me. I don't have anyone around to do this.
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"We very much enjoy OM as well as tantric massage, both are very different and the key (for us) with both is that they're not about 'chasing' an orgasm.
Both have definitely enhanced our enjoyment of each other and self.
You'll find all of the instruction you need on YouTube or some other video sites. No need for a £199 course.
Thanks. My reality is that £199 will pay for someone to do it to me. I don't have anyone around to do this.
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We would urge you to research it first and start to form an idea of what you personally hope to gain from it. If you partner with someone who has very different motives to you then it may be a waste of your time and money. |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound |
"We very much enjoy OM as well as tantric massage, both are very different and the key (for us) with both is that they're not about 'chasing' an orgasm.
Both have definitely enhanced our enjoyment of each other and self.
You'll find all of the instruction you need on YouTube or some other video sites. No need for a £199 course.
Thanks. My reality is that £199 will pay for someone to do it to me. I don't have anyone around to do this.
We would urge you to research it first and start to form an idea of what you personally hope to gain from it. If you partner with someone who has very different motives to you then it may be a waste of your time and money."
Thank you. I wouldn't rush to this. I might blow £200 buying shoes but other forms of therapy need much more research.
I hadn't heard of OM until I read the Tatler piece and then found it's being delivered a bus ride from home. It just got me thinking and Fab is the place that I can raise this particular thought. And, what do you know? Fab has people that have experienced this.
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I'm more of a teach myself through trial and error. Are we all so exactly the same that the same techniques work for everyone? "
This technique isn't about getting off but turning on all of your physical and emotional receptors, as I understand it. But there are others here that have studied this.
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"I'm more of a teach myself through trial and error. Are we all so exactly the same that the same techniques work for everyone? "
A normal neck or calf massage is probably carried out by a professional masseuse in the same way, although the technique maybe the same our individual reaction to that massage is unique especially mentally.
It'sthe same with OM, in my opinion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm more of a teach myself through trial and error. Are we all so exactly the same that the same techniques work for everyone?
A normal neck or calf massage is probably carried out by a professional masseuse in the same way, although the technique maybe the same our individual reaction to that massage is unique especially mentally.
It'sthe same with OM, in my opinion."
Our nervous systems are different. I have a very sensitive nervous system, which makes what some woman find pleasurable, torture. |
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"I'm more of a teach myself through trial and error. Are we all so exactly the same that the same techniques work for everyone?
A normal neck or calf massage is probably carried out by a professional masseuse in the same way, although the technique maybe the same our individual reaction to that massage is unique especially mentally.
It'sthe same with OM, in my opinion.
Our nervous systems are different. I have a very sensitive nervous system, which makes what some woman find pleasurable, torture. "
There are outliers for almost everything but in the main the technique of OM is basically the same for every women who can bare to have their clitorus stimulated. |
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"If I had £199 to spare it could be interesting
They stress it's not sexual... until it is. You can only touch the left hand upper quadrant of the clitoris and you have to keep at it for 15 minutes.
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That's extraordinarily specific. It took me years of searching for the clitoris and now I have to find the upper left quadrant ?
Someone needs to invent the sexual sat nav a bit sharpish. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think you mean Orgasmic Meditation - I attended one of their taster days in London. It's more of a "lifestyle group" (I found it a bit culty so didn't sign up for any subsequent courses). They use orgasm as a metaphor for how to live your life |
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"I'm more of a teach myself through trial and error. Are we all so exactly the same that the same techniques work for everyone?
A normal neck or calf massage is probably carried out by a professional masseuse in the same way, although the technique maybe the same our individual reaction to that massage is unique especially mentally.
It'sthe same with OM, in my opinion.
Our nervous systems are different. I have a very sensitive nervous system, which makes what some woman find pleasurable, torture.
There are outliers for almost everything but in the main the technique of OM is basically the same for every women who can bare to have their clitorus stimulated."
Yes I find the concept will work for most. One said they found it culty, I found it very sales-y and I always find that offputting. The idea of the regular meet ups where you can find OM partners is good but not if it's just another chance to be sold to (I wasn't close enough to attend these so can't say if this is what it's like). I'd much prefer a regular partner to OM with. |
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If you look on you tube there are a few how to videos it's actually quite straightforward but it takes a lot of composure. I have a good friend who asked me to help out luckily afterwards she helped me out |
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I was reading the June edition of Tatler at the hairdressers the other day
Was there 90% Guatamalan and a selection of petit fours too? "
I don't drink tea or coffee.
They do have the lovely massage chairs when you get your hair washed.
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By *icketysplits OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I'm more of a teach myself through trial and error. Are we all so exactly the same that the same techniques work for everyone?
A normal neck or calf massage is probably carried out by a professional masseuse in the same way, although the technique maybe the same our individual reaction to that massage is unique especially mentally.
It'sthe same with OM, in my opinion.
Our nervous systems are different. I have a very sensitive nervous system, which makes what some woman find pleasurable, torture.
There are outliers for almost everything but in the main the technique of OM is basically the same for every women who can bare to have their clitorus stimulated.
Yes I find the concept will work for most. One said they found it culty, I found it very sales-y and I always find that offputting. The idea of the regular meet ups where you can find OM partners is good but not if it's just another chance to be sold to (I wasn't close enough to attend these so can't say if this is what it's like). I'd much prefer a regular partner to OM with. "
Culty and sales-y are both enough to put me off.
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"I'm more of a teach myself through trial and error. Are we all so exactly the same that the same techniques work for everyone?
A normal neck or calf massage is probably carried out by a professional masseuse in the same way, although the technique maybe the same our individual reaction to that massage is unique especially mentally.
It'sthe same with OM, in my opinion.
Our nervous systems are different. I have a very sensitive nervous system, which makes what some woman find pleasurable, torture.
There are outliers for almost everything but in the main the technique of OM is basically the same for every women who can bare to have their clitorus stimulated.
Yes I find the concept will work for most. One said they found it culty, I found it very sales-y and I always find that offputting. The idea of the regular meet ups where you can find OM partners is good but not if it's just another chance to be sold to (I wasn't close enough to attend these so can't say if this is what it's like). I'd much prefer a regular partner to OM with.
Culty and sales-y are both enough to put me off.
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Yes, this plus the sensitivity issue mentioned by a poster above. I didn't try the technique but am sure I wouldn't be able to tolerate it, far too sensitive. |
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Yes, this plus the sensitivity issue mentioned by a poster above. I didn't try the technique but am sure I wouldn't be able to tolerate it, far too sensitive."
It's a featherlight touch and you feedback if you need it different |
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Yes, this plus the sensitivity issue mentioned by a poster above. I didn't try the technique but am sure I wouldn't be able to tolerate it, far too sensitive.
It's a featherlight touch and you feedback if you need it different "
Haha I certainly would, probably by saying "ow" |
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"I once had a job at a "tantric massage parlour" bullshit was it tantra though... it was just a very oily massage with a happy ending (sometimes for me too!)
I'd much rather have a massage like that than 15 minutes massaging sections of my clit
So calling it tantric was to give it an exotic air?
I quite like meeting for a happy ending massage but I don't do it as much as I would like because some I have met think two minutes of patting my skin counts as the massage and they want to move straight to their happy ending. "
Yeah pretty much. It was a sensual massage. Usually for an hour to 90 minutes. I'd massage their cock slowly for up to half an hour just as part of the rest of the massage, and then the happy ending was right at the end. But most of the customers said having the massage made their orgasm better |
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"If you look on you tube there are a few how to videos it's actually quite straightforward but it takes a lot of composure. I have a good friend who asked me to help out luckily afterwards she helped me out"
A key part of what makes OM so special and differentiates it from foreplay is that there is no expectation of reciprocal behaviour.
In our experience, it is incredibly rewarding if separated from leading directly into penetrative sex or 'sorting' the guy out. |
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Yes, this plus the sensitivity issue mentioned by a poster above. I didn't try the technique but am sure I wouldn't be able to tolerate it, far too sensitive."
How can you be sure of something that you have not tried?
Any women who can take extremely gentle cunnilingus can handle OM. |
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Yes, this plus the sensitivity issue mentioned by a poster above. I didn't try the technique but am sure I wouldn't be able to tolerate it, far too sensitive.
How can you be sure of something that you have not tried?
Any women who can take extremely gentle cunnilingus can handle OM."
I can't take oral at all. I think I know what I like at my age thank you! Always willing to try new things just to make sure though, I can't say for sure until I've tried it |
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That's extraordinarily specific. It took me years of searching for the clitoris and now I have to find the upper left quadrant ?
Someone needs to invent the sexual sat nav a bit sharpish. "
Under the left armpit if she's right handed
Under the right armpit if she's left handed
And if she's got no arms... |
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"If you look on you tube there are a few how to videos it's actually quite straightforward but it takes a lot of composure. I have a good friend who asked me to help out luckily afterwards she helped me out
A key part of what makes OM so special and differentiates it from foreplay is that there is no expectation of reciprocal behaviour.
In our experience, it is incredibly rewarding if separated from leading directly into penetrative sex or 'sorting' the guy out."
we did a good few OM sessions and mostly the drive was all on her with no expectations of anything sexual afterwards. The only trouble is not many men me included can watch a woman go through wave upon wave of sheer pleasure and not be splitting their boxers |
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"If you look on you tube there are a few how to videos it's actually quite straightforward but it takes a lot of composure. I have a good friend who asked me to help out luckily afterwards she helped me out
A key part of what makes OM so special and differentiates it from foreplay is that there is no expectation of reciprocal behaviour.
In our experience, it is incredibly rewarding if separated from leading directly into penetrative sex or 'sorting' the guy out. we did a good few OM sessions and mostly the drive was all on her with no expectations of anything sexual afterwards. The only trouble is not many men me included can watch a woman go through wave upon wave of sheer pleasure and not be splitting their boxers"
Fully appreciate your point and wouldn't want to suggest that the partner doesn't get very aroused. We'd just suggest that at times choosing not to move directly to penetrative sex can hugely reward both participants in different ways both at the time and when you do have sex at a later time.
That said, as with everything else, its about finding what works for you and your partner. |
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"If you look on you tube there are a few how to videos it's actually quite straightforward but it takes a lot of composure. I have a good friend who asked me to help out luckily afterwards she helped me out
A key part of what makes OM so special and differentiates it from foreplay is that there is no expectation of reciprocal behaviour.
In our experience, it is incredibly rewarding if separated from leading directly into penetrative sex or 'sorting' the guy out. we did a good few OM sessions and mostly the drive was all on her with no expectations of anything sexual afterwards. The only trouble is not many men me included can watch a woman go through wave upon wave of sheer pleasure and not be splitting their boxers
Fully appreciate your point and wouldn't want to suggest that the partner doesn't get very aroused. We'd just suggest that at times choosing not to move directly to penetrative sex can hugely reward both participants in different ways both at the time and when you do have sex at a later time.
That said, as with everything else, its about finding what works for you and your partner."
I never said anything about full sex i said she helped me out with a hand job if you must know. Most times we lay and snuggled for ages afterwards |
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