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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
You've not asked for profile advice so I can't give any under forum rules - but that's usually a good place to look for pointers as to where you could improve - a lot of people will look at your profile before even opening a message so if that's not detailed and enticing then it's likely any message will be ignored  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I really wouldn't take it to heart fella as your not the only one,as long as your not a dick and just stick to your guns and be as genuine as you can be something will happen,l'm just going of my own back here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"been on here for half a year and still no meets... can anyone tell me where im going wrong?
ADVISE WELCOME!
thankyou "
Chat and interact on the forums so people get to know you. Get out to group socials etc. |
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Well, I know I'm out of your age range, but this is what I see.
Someone who isn't far off 30 calling himself bigboi. That in itself would put me off. To me it lacks maturity.
There may be a very good reason you can't accommodate, however lots will assume it's because you're attached and playing away. That's fine for some but a big no go area for others. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Dunno what switch means 
Then you’re not allowed to “hit him up”  "
The hit him up reference I see on a lot of bi and gay profiles so thought it might be in relation to that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Ok looks like I may be needing to change a few things on my profile then haha! First thing is first.. New name... Any ideas people..? "
Try including something along the lines of having a Huge Cock or something like I'MGONNARUINYOU, that normally entices the ladies |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The bigboi bit would put me off immediately too.
Maybe add something a little more personal, even if it's just a nod to a hobby (Not the gym) or a favourite film quote, something that shows you could hold a conversation about anything other than sex.
Good luck |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"been on here for half a year and still no meets... can anyone tell me where im going wrong?
ADVISE WELCOME!
thankyou
Chat and interact on the forums so people get to know you. Get out to group socials etc. "
Thank you will do this also! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Age range a bit low
Don't bite my head off
Its just an observation
Age range has been changed! "
Never make it a round number, if they were hot at 40, they still will be at 41 . . . |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Age range a bit low
Don't bite my head off
Its just an observation
Age range has been changed!
Never make it a round number, if they were hot at 40, they still will be at 41 . . . "
Looks like I may need to up my age range again! Hahaa and yes I can see at 41 you are still hot  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Ok looks like I may be needing to change a few things on my profile then haha! First thing is first.. New name... Any ideas people..?
ChrisMeQuick
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I don't want to be sounding like a one minute wonder!  haha! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Your profile doesn't really tell me anything, the last sentence doesn't make sense - I know what a switch is so I don't need an explanation, and if you've run out of messages for the day as your status I wonder if you are just churning out copy and paste style messages to any profile that looks like a vague match? Also there's an underlying suspicion that guys over a certain age who can't accommodate are playing away. You might want to address that and say whether you're preparedto pay for/ share hotel costs.
The pics are great though! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"been on here for half a year and still no meets... can anyone tell me where im going wrong?
ADVISE WELCOME!
thankyou "
You lost 3sums as an interest but profile is clearly aimed at single ladies. Remember some of us couples do meet separately 
Ohh and being able to accommodate can be a deal breaker for some.
Sadly in 3 months I will be out of your age range!!
MrsK x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"been on here for half a year and still no meets... can anyone tell me where im going wrong?
ADVISE WELCOME!
thankyou
You lost 3sums as an interest but profile is clearly aimed at single ladies. Remember some of us couples do meet separately
Ohh and being able to accommodate can be a deal breaker for some.
Sadly in 3 months I will be out of your age range!!
MrsK x"
Iv lost 3somes as an interest? What it's not ticked?
Yeah not much I can do about accommodation at the moment...
Haha looks like il have to up my age range again for You. If u want to meet separately ?? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You have good pics so im guessing its in your conversation...?
This
Profile and pix looks so must be You (in the nicest way possible)"
So what type of messages do you girls not find boring or the same old thing then... An examples ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"You have good pics so im guessing its in your conversation...?
This
Profile and pix looks so must be You (in the nicest way possible)
So what type of messages do you girls not find boring or the same old thing then... An examples ??"
Stop asking if people want to be ruined, for one. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"You have good pics so im guessing its in your conversation...?
This
Profile and pix looks so must be You (in the nicest way possible)
So what type of messages do you girls not find boring or the same old thing then... An examples ??
Stop asking if people want to be ruined, for one. "
Haha yh sorry I got a bit carried away
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Dunno we’ve never talked or chatted, but I’m blocked ?? Hey ho
Yeah iv had that aswell,not off him though
Ooops sorry he has blocked me haha"
Me too lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Dunno we’ve never talked or chatted, but I’m blocked ?? Hey ho
Yeah iv had that aswell,not off him though
Ooops sorry he has blocked me haha
Me too lol"
We must be the weirdos he's trying to avoid! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The trouble with most dating/sex sites is that the ugliest and most horrible women will still get far far far more responses than the most handsome and polite men.
Its tough out there for us guys.  |
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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago
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"The trouble with most dating/sex sites is that the ugliest and most horrible women will still get far far far more responses than the most handsome and polite men.
Its tough out there for us guys. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The trouble with most dating/sex sites is that the ugliest and most horrible women will still get far far far more responses than the most handsome and polite men.
Its tough out there for us guys. "
No I don't.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"been on here for half a year and still no meets... can anyone tell me where im going wrong?
ADVISE WELCOME!
thankyou
You lost 3sums as an interest but profile is clearly aimed at single ladies. Remember some of us couples do meet separately
Ohh and being able to accommodate can be a deal breaker for some.
Sadly in 3 months I will be out of your age range!!
MrsK x
Iv lost 3somes as an interest? What it's not ticked?
Yeah not much I can do about accommodation at the moment...
Haha looks like il have to up my age range again for You. If u want to meet separately ??"
You have 3sums listed as an interest is all I ment but you clear preference is singles that’s all I ment.
Accommodate isn’t a bother on my part but I do see a lot of posts by single ladies that would skip you by.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The trouble with most dating/sex sites is that the ugliest and most horrible women will still get far far far more responses than the most handsome and polite men.
Its tough out there for us guys. "
No it isn't. You make your own luck on here...
Posts like that don't raise your stock in any way  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The trouble with most dating/sex sites is that the ugliest and most horrible women will still get far far far more responses than the most handsome and polite men.
Its tough out there for us guys. "
It just got tougher for someone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The trouble with most dating/sex sites is that the ugliest and most horrible women will still get far far far more responses than the most handsome and polite men.
Its tough out there for us guys.
It just got tougher for someone. "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Account must be suspended as I tried to look and couldn't haha
What do you have to do to get that? "
Something naughty I guess
In a serious note I don't actually have a clue but can't see why all these random people would be blocked and only other thing that came up was the account could be suspended by admin  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The trouble with most dating/sex sites is that the ugliest and most horrible women will still get far far far more responses than the most handsome and polite men.
Its tough out there for us guys.
It just got tougher for someone. "
All day today I've been defending men (single men) and how they're viewed, and it's horrid comments like this that aren't helping. Were starting a game 1 mill down before we kick off. It gets me really frustrated. I don't know when men stopped being gentlemen. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The trouble with most dating/sex sites is that the ugliest and most horrible women will still get far far far more responses than the most handsome and polite men.
Its tough out there for us guys.
It just got tougher for someone.
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Yep...I do like these threads they help Me find the ones that deserve a block |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The trouble with most dating/sex sites is that the ugliest and most horrible women will still get far far far more responses than the most handsome and polite men.
Its tough out there for us guys.
It just got tougher for someone.
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I think I'm back? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Dunno we’ve never talked or chatted, but I’m blocked ?? Hey ho
Yeah iv had that aswell,not off him though
Ooops sorry he has blocked me haha
Me too lol
We must be the weirdos he's trying to avoid! "
Oh I'm not avoiding you! I'm back ?? |
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Seems for single men, having a cute face won't cut it round these parts. Fabs is a game. Some work out the rules and win, many can't make it past go.
I'd suggest looking at thousands of advice posts on here for a detailed answer |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Account must be suspended as I tried to look and couldn't haha
What do you have to do to get that?
Something naughty I guess
In a serious note I don't actually have a clue but can't see why all these random people would be blocked and only other thing that came up was the account could be suspended by admin "
guess who's back ?? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The trouble with most dating/sex sites is that the ugliest and most horrible women will still get far far far more responses than the most handsome and polite men.
Its tough out there for us guys.
It just got tougher for someone.
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I can't message you as I'm outside your age range your looking for |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Seems for single men, having a cute face won't cut it round these parts. Fabs is a game. Some work out the rules and win, many can't make it past go.
I'd suggest looking at thousands of advice posts on here for a detailed answer "
Some think acute face Will shine. Errrr no |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Account must be suspended as I tried to look and couldn't haha
What do you have to do to get that?
Something naughty I guess
In a serious note I don't actually have a clue but can't see why all these random people would be blocked and only other thing that came up was the account could be suspended by admin guess who's back ??"
Shady? Should I tell my friends? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am indeed! I don't know what happened!? But I can't send a private message to anyone... Can only use the forums... Weird "
Well you can pop up in my inbox any day not just cute... Cute and hot!!!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I know exactly why you haven't had a meet. Ignorance ain't attractive "
I'm not ignoring you... I just can't reply to your message as fab isn't letting me.. I can only use forums at the moment. And yes if you were closer! I would meet you in a heartbeat too! Sexy sexy! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Account must be suspended as I tried to look and couldn't haha
What do you have to do to get that?
Something naughty I guess
In a serious note I don't actually have a clue but can't see why all these random people would be blocked and only other thing that came up was the account could be suspended by admin guess who's back ??
Shady? Should I tell my friends?"
You can tell your friends if you would like.. Group gathering at yours is it. ?? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I am indeed! I don't know what happened!? But I can't send a private message to anyone... Can only use the forums... Weird
Well you can pop up in my inbox any day not just cute... Cute and hot!!! "
Why thankyou!! I'm not the only one who is cute and hot either |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Account must be suspended as I tried to look and couldn't haha
What do you have to do to get that?
Something naughty I guess
In a serious note I don't actually have a clue but can't see why all these random people would be blocked and only other thing that came up was the account could be suspended by admin guess who's back ??
Shady? Should I tell my friends?
You can tell your friends if you would like.. Group gathering at yours is it. ??"
Sorry, I was channelling Eminem for a minute there |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am indeed! I don't know what happened!? But I can't send a private message to anyone... Can only use the forums... Weird "
You've said something bad in a message or sent too many . You're on time out probaby |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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Can I ask why have you upped your age range by 10 years?
If your natural cut off is 35 then you should stick to that and not change things just because others on the forum 'have told you to' |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I am indeed! I don't know what happened!? But I can't send a private message to anyone... Can only use the forums... Weird
You've said something bad in a message or sent too many . You're on time out probaby "
Dam it... Iv been a naughty naughty man! Now what happens... |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Account must be suspended as I tried to look and couldn't haha
What do you have to do to get that?
Something naughty I guess
In a serious note I don't actually have a clue but can't see why all these random people would be blocked and only other thing that came up was the account could be suspended by admin guess who's back ??
Shady? Should I tell my friends?
You can tell your friends if you would like.. Group gathering at yours is it. ??
Sorry, I was channelling Eminem for a minute there "
Don't worry about Eminem. Il be much more fun that him.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am indeed! I don't know what happened!? But I can't send a private message to anyone... Can only use the forums... Weird
Well you can pop up in my inbox any day not just cute... Cute and hot!!!
Why thankyou!! I'm not the only one who is cute and hot either "
Well they say I'm cute until they meet me looks can be deceiving |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Can I ask why have you upped your age range by 10 years?
If your natural cut off is 35 then you should stick to that and not change things just because others on the forum 'have told you to' "
Because I don't mind the older woman... But someone made a good point earlier about cut of being 40... But In 2 months time they would be 41... But they are still hot in my eyes.. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I am indeed! I don't know what happened!? But I can't send a private message to anyone... Can only use the forums... Weird
Well you can pop up in my inbox any day not just cute... Cute and hot!!!
Why thankyou!! I'm not the only one who is cute and hot either
With only an hours drive.!... I look forward to that day VERY much!
Well they say I'm cute until they meet me looks can be deceiving "
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"Can I ask why have you upped your age range by 10 years?
If your natural cut off is 35 then you should stick to that and not change things just because others on the forum 'have told you to'
Because I don't mind the older woman... But someone made a good point earlier about cut of being 40... But In 2 months time they would be 41... But they are still hot in my eyes.. "
But your original cut off was 35 now it is 45, that is quite a big difference from when you first set your profile, would it still be 35 if you hadn't started this thread? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Can I ask why have you upped your age range by 10 years?
If your natural cut off is 35 then you should stick to that and not change things just because others on the forum 'have told you to'
Because I don't mind the older woman... But someone made a good point earlier about cut of being 40... But In 2 months time they would be 41... But they are still hot in my eyes..
But your original cut off was 35 now it is 45, that is quite a big difference from when you first set your profile, would it still be 35 if you hadn't started this thread? "
I don't know maybe? Maybe not.. Who knows... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I am indeed! I don't know what happened!? But I can't send a private message to anyone... Can only use the forums... Weird
Well you can pop up in my inbox any day not just cute... Cute and hot!!!
Why thankyou!! I'm not the only one who is cute and hot either
Well they say I'm cute until they meet me looks can be deceiving hey hey to you tooo! Thankyou for the private message. I'm not ignoring you I just can't reply via messages at the moment. Iv been a naughty Man and been banned from messages! "
Well now you know where I am when you get released form you ban, may have to give you a little punishment for that |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I am indeed! I don't know what happened!? But I can't send a private message to anyone... Can only use the forums... Weird
Well you can pop up in my inbox any day not just cute... Cute and hot!!!
Why thankyou!! I'm not the only one who is cute and hot either
Well they say I'm cute until they meet me looks can be deceiving hey hey to you tooo! Thankyou for the private message. I'm not ignoring you I just can't reply via messages at the moment. Iv been a naughty Man and been banned from messages!
Well now you know where I am when you get released form you ban, may have to give you a little punishment for that "
If you want to add me on Kik or sc you can give me your punishment early
Just check my status update |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Account must be suspended as I tried to look and couldn't haha
What do you have to do to get that?
Something naughty I guess
In a serious note I don't actually have a clue but can't see why all these random people would be blocked and only other thing that came up was the account could be suspended by admin guess who's back ??
Shady? Should I tell my friends?
You can tell your friends if you would like.. Group gathering at yours is it. ??
Sorry, I was channelling Eminem for a minute there "
Add me on Kik or sc if u have it... I'm very limited to messaging anyone on here... Add essexbigboi on either of them |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I am indeed! I don't know what happened!? But I can't send a private message to anyone... Can only use the forums... Weird
Well you can pop up in my inbox any day not just cute... Cute and hot!!!
Why thankyou!! I'm not the only one who is cute and hot either "
I'm back.... Message me hottie xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Keep trying mate and have a bit more on your profile about you, but it’s not an interview, keep it casual, show you have a sense of humour, show you don’t things too seriously, I’ve had meets and look at the state of my face |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Be respectful to who you are talking to.
I can't stand guys who ask me for a meet when they have only sent two messages to me. It shouts desperate but also lack of respect for me because they must think I meet with every guy I talk to.
Don't ask for more pictures, if they want to show you more they will send them freely. This just sounds like a wankbank collector.
Don't ask for number, kik, Snapchat, Skype ect... again if she/they want to take it offline, they will offer.
Send various pictures with your first message, face, body (cock if you want to), this will make them feel like you are who you say you are.
Don't just expect to jump into bed that night.... people have lives outside of fab.
Hope this helps. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"been on here for half a year and still no meets... can anyone tell me where im going wrong?
ADVISE WELCOME!
thankyou
You can start by visiting clubs if you haven't yet .."
What about people that don't have any interest in clubs and aren't here for more traditional swinger type activities?
I personally have no interest in them and am simply using this site in the hope I get to meet 1 or 2 decent ladies to have some regular mutual fun with. I'm more than happy to mix this with friendship and socials but more on a 1 on 1 basis not as part of the club scene.
Besides, from what I've read on a load of posts single guys aren't particularly welcome at some clubs or am I reading that wrong? |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"been on here for half a year and still no meets... can anyone tell me where im going wrong?
ADVISE WELCOME!
thankyou
You can start by visiting clubs if you haven't yet ..
What about people that don't have any interest in clubs and aren't here for more traditional swinger type activities?
I personally have no interest in them and am simply using this site in the hope I get to meet 1 or 2 decent ladies to have some regular mutual fun with. I'm more than happy to mix this with friendship and socials but more on a 1 on 1 basis not as part of the club scene.
Besides, from what I've read on a load of posts single guys aren't particularly welcome at some clubs or am I reading that wrong?"
Most clubs do welcome single men, be friendly and courteous, mingle with people and don't follow people around or lurk in corners x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I am indeed! I don't know what happened!? But I can't send a private message to anyone... Can only use the forums... Weird
Well you can pop up in my inbox any day not just cute... Cute and hot!!!
Why thankyou!! I'm not the only one who is cute and hot either I'm back.... Message me hottie xx"
We all thought we had been blocked! |
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