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Headless pictures vs discreet censorship
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To be fair, I've been recognised even from headless shots! So there's no real reason to hide.
Guess I just don't want my shrek like mug putting women off before I get to chat to them. 
I think the discrete censorship is, if anything, just a bit of a flirt. Is someone you know sees the pics I'm sure they would know it's you anyway. Does leave a little mystery though which is never a bad thing |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd get recognised in my small town if I just had a black strip over my eyes.
But I do agree in your pics it does give more hint as to what you look like as not all your face is covered. |
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We don’t bother with any form of hiding our identities. Anyone spotting us is on here too so it would have work/family implications for them too. The likelihood of them outing us is slim as the risk of them outing themselves would be very high |
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By *lackitnco OP Couple
over a year ago
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"We don’t bother with any form of hiding our identities. Anyone spotting us is on here too so it would have work/family implications for them too. The likelihood of them outing us is slim as the risk of them outing themselves would be very high"
Like the logic guys and u have a great prof
Your right everyone’s here for the same reason but have heard horror stories of pix being copied and uploaded to other sites  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Many people have no idea about discretion and would happily tell the world who they've seen on here. People can lose families, friends and jobs because of it. |
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"We don’t bother with any form of hiding our identities. Anyone spotting us is on here too so it would have work/family implications for them too. The likelihood of them outing us is slim as the risk of them outing themselves would be very high
Like the logic guys and u have a great prof
Your right everyone’s here for the same reason but have heard horror stories of pix being copied and uploaded to other sites "
Well if anyone is stupid or desperate enough to steal pics of a fatty and her skinny, hairy hubby instead of pics of a hot, gorgeous couple they’re welcome to them  |
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By *lackitnco OP Couple
over a year ago
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"We don’t bother with any form of hiding our identities. Anyone spotting us is on here too so it would have work/family implications for them too. The likelihood of them outing us is slim as the risk of them outing themselves would be very high
Like the logic guys and u have a great prof
Your right everyone’s here for the same reason but have heard horror stories of pix being copied and uploaded to other sites
Well if anyone is stupid or desperate enough to steal pics of a fatty and her skinny, hairy hubby instead of pics of a hot, gorgeous couple they’re welcome to them "
Lol brilliant response
U guys r Ace  |
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Pics that give a good impression of build are great for filtering but ultimately face pics are wanted by most people before meeting - even if kept private and sent as you fancy.
No pics is a total loss of opportunity and I don't chase around offsite if they can't be bothered to add them here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People have their reasons for either, though mainly professional.
Women tend to get away with discreet censorship as they can change their hair, make up and may wear glasses at work. Men on the other hand are pretty much better off with headless pics to protect there anonymity. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We don’t bother with any form of hiding our identities. Anyone spotting us is on here too so it would have work/family implications for them too. The likelihood of them outing us is slim as the risk of them outing themselves would be very high"
This is becoming our way of thinking too. But we like to keep a little titillating air of mystery
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I am totally uncensored in our photos...though you'll never see full nudity from me...we keep Jeff's face and majority of tattoos for friends only pics though as he'd rather not be recognised.
No preference from us either way...so long as you can send a recent face pic on site it's all good
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have no problem showing my face, if i get recognised then its only another user so its not a problem really. Sometimes wander if people hiding there face are hiding it for a reason such as they are being unfaithful and dont want to get caught. I know its not always the case but i bet you get quite a few cheaters on here. Im not one to judge though. |
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By *lackitnco OP Couple
over a year ago
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"I have no problem showing my face, if i get recognised then its only another user so its not a problem really. Sometimes wander if people hiding there face are hiding it for a reason such as they are being unfaithful and dont want to get caught. I know its not always the case but i bet you get quite a few cheaters on here. Im not one to judge though."
Very different for a woman I’m sure u would agree.
This site is probably 95% pic collectors and the rest here for genuine reasons.
The possibility of a woman’s pix being nicked and uploaded on to other sites compared to a mans?
Wish the world was safer then we would have no issues either |
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"We don’t bother with any form of hiding our identities. Anyone spotting us is on here too so it would have work/family implications for them too. The likelihood of them outing us is slim as the risk of them outing themselves would be very high"
You can't rely on other people's discretion, especially if they're non-closet about their lifestyle. Some friends of mine have been scared away from our local club because a couple that they know socially has started going there. The couple in question is open about their lifestyle, and they have been known to gossip about people they've met on the scene.
Also, it's very easy for someone to out you without outing themselves. Print up a few flyers. Put them on local lampposts or the office notice board. Pretend to be just as shocked as everyone else.
Anyone who posts identifiable pics on a site like this risks being outed (if they aren't already out.) It's just a matter of how big a risk you think it is, and just how afraid you are of being exposed. I think a lot of people stay in their swinging closet more out of a sense of not wanting to ram it down other people's throats than out of a sense of shame about what they do. They don't particularly mind people finding out. They just don't want to make a big deal out of it. |
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I'm very much single but I like to keep this fun and I do have face pictures, I'm very respectful if I've received messages from people
I know, just a polite not my type and leave it their. We all juggle our own reason and if not interfering with your daily life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have no problem showing my face, if i get recognised then its only another user so its not a problem really. Sometimes wander if people hiding there face are hiding it for a reason such as they are being unfaithful and dont want to get caught. I know its not always the case but i bet you get quite a few cheaters on here. Im not one to judge though."
I used to think the same...but having been recognised out and about by other fab users...I get it...still don't hide my face mind lol
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Indeed very true i am very polite in my response to ppl that don't interest me x there is alot if not very nice ppl x that send crude messages without out even reading ppls profiles x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have no problem showing my face, if i get recognised then its only another user so its not a problem really. Sometimes wander if people hiding there face are hiding it for a reason such as they are being unfaithful and dont want to get caught. I know its not always the case but i bet you get quite a few cheaters on here. Im not one to judge though.
I used to think the same...but having been recognised out and about by other fab users...I get it...still don't hide my face mind lol
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As usual I like to be hypothetical, realistic and slightly devils advocate.
There are many Fabbers out there who have professional careers. Some on EMT’s (executive management teams).
For example. You have a female on here on an EMT or a Doctor, Lawyer or banker.
Now without discriminating that they should consider being on here.
If they got recognised by a junior member of staff, client or patient it could make their job untenable. Therefore people have their reasons for being discreet.
Or perhaps one should consider the ramifications should a friend of your children find you.
Either way. Hiding ones face is beneficial to the more risk averse of us.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don’t think a strip across the eyes disguises anyone or would prevent them being copied to be honest. I’m sure if my friends or colleagues were on here I’d spot them with a censor strip. Mrs x "
It works for Special Forces. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I prefer some attempt at anonymity - you are recognisable in your pics OP and that would not suit me.
Hmm maybe the censored strip needs to b bigger"
You may find a blurring app more beneficial. That's what I tend to use and you can customise what parts of the pic you want to blur |
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I prefer to send clear face pics in private, to people I've chatted with, got to know and trust first. I would never show my face in here, on public display, in any situation, as it is all too easy for anyone to join this site, peruse local profiles, then publish your pics on social media 'for a laugh' |
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I know the fear of being spotted and outed is a big deal for some people but I’m afraid I just don’t understand why.
We’re not doing anything illegal here. All we’re doing is enjoying consensual sexual activity with other like minded adults. What people choose to do in their own (or other people’s) bedroom is nothing to do with their friends/family/employers.
Yes, if outed there would be some embarrassing moments but it would soon pass. Remember, while it’s you being gossiped about, at least they’re leaving someone else alone and that person may not be as strong emotionally as you are |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We don’t bother with any form of hiding our identities. Anyone spotting us is on here too so it would have work/family implications for them too. The likelihood of them outing us is slim as the risk of them outing themselves would be very high
You can't rely on other people's discretion, especially if they're non-closet about their lifestyle. Some friends of mine have been scared away from our local club because a couple that they know socially has started going there. The couple in question is open about their lifestyle, and they have been known to gossip about people they've met on the scene.
Also, it's very easy for someone to out you without outing themselves. Print up a few flyers. Put them on local lampposts or the office notice board. Pretend to be just as shocked as everyone else.
Anyone who posts identifiable pics on a site like this risks being outed (if they aren't already out.) It's just a matter of how big a risk you think it is, and just how afraid you are of being exposed. I think a lot of people stay in their swinging closet more out of a sense of not wanting to ram it down other people's throats than out of a sense of shame about what they do. They don't particularly mind people finding out. They just don't want to make a big deal out of it."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I guess in a career such as teacher, police, doctors, actors and so on its quite understandable that you would want to hide your face. Not worth risking your job due to your lifestyle. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I know the fear of being spotted and outed is a big deal for some people but I’m afraid I just don’t understand why.
We’re not doing anything illegal here. All we’re doing is enjoying consensual sexual activity with other like minded adults. What people choose to do in their own (or other people’s) bedroom is nothing to do with their friends/family/employers.
Yes, if outed there would be some embarrassing moments but it would soon pass. Remember, while it’s you being gossiped about, at least they’re leaving someone else alone and that person may not be as strong emotionally as you are"
Say that to your local swinging Doctor who got outed by a disgruntled bloke in the media. All hypothetical.
Or the Executive Team Member who got contacted via Fab using their real name by a shop floor worker. Real
People have real jobs and public opinion can jeopardise that.
Look at the chaos caused last year when Swingfields was in the national papers. There were lawyers and Doctors on that weekend.
People just need to get real and not try to justify and normalise this way of life. It’s public perception that’s in the spotlight here.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The views this thread has produced, has made me question this. If we're all swinger's from different walks of life and move in all sorts of circles, and were open and honest about it, how more socially acceptable/less taboo would swinging be?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I was just a single guy on here,I would happily set my face as public.
But because I cross dress and also due to my kinkiness, I prefer to hide my face for public. Although anyone I message with can have face pics.
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