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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So this question is kinda aimed at single people but views from all sides would be cool.
If you're looking for a 1 to 1 meet do you tend to go for singles or is one half of a couple appealing?
I'm finding myself quite drawn to playing with those in a couple as I like the dynamic of it, less risk of emotional attachment (from them, it keeps happening to me, I have no idea why!!) plus you know they already have social skills if someone wants them!
Being friendly with both parts of the couple is important to me. Is that the same for everyone? I like seeing the bond and chemistry they have and how I could fit into that. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Interesting (or not for some) i did think singles would be easier to have the same outlook and maybe easier to meet. But it seems that couples are more easy going, I can relate to their swinging needs more as well.
There are so many singles here looking for love and a relationship, and I take that into account.
Clubs are still looking good for me in the future, but that's another subject.
But I am connecting with couples more and more, they're very clear with their dynamic. |
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Just cause someone has a hsuband/wife at home does not mean they wont fall for you.
I had a bunch of threatening messages from a husband before. The wife, unkown to me, had told him she liked me and wanted to meet me alone.
I got death threats then an apology from the woman, then never talked to them again. Shame cause they were great people.
I have never had that happen with singles. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Interesting (or not for some) i did think singles would be easier to have the same outlook and maybe easier to meet. But it seems that couples are more easy going, I can relate to their swinging needs more as well.
There are so many singles here looking for love and a relationship, and I take that into account.
Clubs are still looking good for me in the future, but that's another subject.
But I am connecting with couples more and more, they're very clear with their dynamic. "
Id have said the same, I assumed singles would be easier but Im finding the friendship offered by couples is so much more black and white I feel more comfortable in being myself as I know there's no ulterior motives. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Singles definitely.
I personally think couples see the other person as just an object to fuck rather than a person."
Im not sure that's always the case. I think in a lot of cases its just like one of them having a friend of their own they get naughty with. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Just cause someone has a hsuband/wife at home does not mean they wont fall for you.
I had a bunch of threatening messages from a husband before. The wife, unkown to me, had told him she liked me and wanted to meet me alone.
I got death threats then an apology from the woman, then never talked to them again. Shame cause they were great people.
I have never had that happen with singles."
I guess it depends on the people too. I wouldn't even consider it unless I was completely certain they were secure in their relationship. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Singles definitely.
I personally think couples see the other person as just an object to fuck rather than a person."
This isn't true for us. We see everyone as a person, even couples. We do like to gauge couples dynamic and closeness, how well a team or solid a unit they are, but still see them (as we see ourselves) as individuals.
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By (user no longer on site)
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We don't mind couples or a single female, and for us we want a friendship between us all as that makes the playing much better. I can't give an opinion on single men but getting the feels isn't just a single thing. 3 times we've had problems with the male half of a couple getting a bit obsessed with me. Last time it almost came to blows, as he was asking me to leave mr, he thought every look I'd given him was meaning something different. I do think that some men just want their cake and eat it. X |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"We don't mind couples or a single female, and for us we want a friendship between us all as that makes the playing much better. I can't give an opinion on single men but getting the feels isn't just a single thing. 3 times we've had problems with the male half of a couple getting a bit obsessed with me. Last time it almost came to blows, as he was asking me to leave mr, he thought every look I'd given him was meaning something different. I do think that some men just want their cake and eat it. X "
I hadn't actually considered that which is silly really. Despite a couple playing together they are still individuals at the end of the day.
I guess my logic is its less likely since they are already committed elsewhere. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Only singles. Or married but cheating.
I won't meet one half of a swinging couple that would probably discuss my meet. "
I think that's why its important for me to be on friendly terms with both of them. So Id feel more comfortable with them discussing it if they're into that. |
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By *UNKIEMan
over a year ago
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"Only singles. Or married but cheating.
I won't meet one half of a swinging couple that would probably discuss my meet.
I think that's why its important for me to be on friendly terms with both of them. So Id feel more comfortable with them discussing it if they're into that. "
Something we have never done .discuss meets between each other tho i know some do get off on hearing what the other has been upto  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Only singles. Or married but cheating.
I won't meet one half of a swinging couple that would probably discuss my meet.
I think that's why its important for me to be on friendly terms with both of them. So Id feel more comfortable with them discussing it if they're into that.
Something we have never done .discuss meets between each other tho i know some do get off on hearing what the other has been upto "
Yeah I guess I would want to discuss it with them beforehand what will and wont be shared.
I know a lot of couples only discuss basics. |
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