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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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What do you fear?
Why?
Is it tangible?
I fear getting Alzheimer's disease. I fear reliving parts of my life I have worked hard at getting over. Although the evidence of a familial link through research at present, is small, it's present in both sides of my family. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The idea of having a disagreement with someone, and them suddenly dying without having a chance to make up. But, on the bright side, I think that's what's influenced my ability to not hold grudges or to stay mad at someone for too long. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Not being loved.
I've been told to read up on albert ellis' 12 irrational thoughts to help with this and other issues. "
The only person you need loving you, is you. Anyone else is a bonus.
I don't know about you, but I need to remind myself I'm worthy of my own love. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Death. Don't like not knowing what's gonna happen.
Stepladders. Only the wobbly ones. Bad experience of a 15 footer when I was younger.
Donkeys. One tried to buck me off when I was in Blackpool when I was 7.  |
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"Not being loved.
I've been told to read up on albert ellis' 12 irrational thoughts to help with this and other issues.
The only person you need loving you, is you. Anyone else is a bonus.
I don't know about you, but I need to remind myself I'm worthy of my own love."
From what I've read that's one of the irrational beliefs... Thinking you need others to love you. It's very interesting. |
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"I don't fear death. I do fear dying alone.
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Me too. I have no children and am single. If life works out the way we all expect it too then I will be the last one left in my family as they will have all passed away before me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Nothing... yet...
I honestly haven't had any phobias, or even understand why there are such things. Perhaps something will pop up, maybe that Kim Jong Un hairstyle taking off... Very scary....  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Death seems a common theme. I wonder if death is more frightening for people without a belief system.
I don't fear death as I'm spiritual and believe this is a short phase of my essence's (spirit/soul/energy) evolution.
I don't fear the death of anyone close to me - I just don't want to outlive my children.
I don't fear the pain of death if I am to suffer a terminal disease due to excellent palliative care we have in this country.
If I was to dwell on different ways to die, then I'd probably come up with a few I'd be scared of - so I don't dwell |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Nothing  "
Surely you suffer from certain fears for the sake of your health? The fear of getting burned so you're careful around flames; the fear of getting knocked down, so you use the green cross code etc.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Occasionally the dark in certain places/situations because I tend to suddenly get memories of long forgotten horror movie scenes in similar circumstances.,. yes, I'm a little odd!  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Occasionally the dark in certain places/situations because I tend to suddenly get memories of long forgotten horror movie scenes in similar circumstances.,. yes, I'm a little odd! "
It would be irrational to fear emergence of the likes of Jason vorhee, but not irrational to walk the safest route home cos you're wary of what/who is in the dark. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"New places/situations/people.
Causing you anxiety?
A bit. But Im tough. I front it out  "
Your body is probably forming a fight - flight hormonal response preparing itself for unknown challenges |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As I get older I have more fear 
I'm single and I spend a lot of time alone.
I fear always being alone.
I fear I'm missing out on life.
I fear spending the rest of my life doing what I'm doing now.
I fear boredom and detachment. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"As I get older I have more fear
I'm single and I spend a lot of time alone.
I fear always being alone.
I fear I'm missing out on life.
I fear spending the rest of my life doing what I'm doing now.
I fear boredom and detachment."
Is the fear causing you to be proactive in trying to change your situation?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Failure. I have high standards of myself
I'm guessing that fear drives you forward to succeed?
Maybe. That and pride."
As long as any occurrences of failure are seen as steps closer to success, I'm sure it's all good . Look at Einstein, it took him years to prove his theory of relativity.
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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago
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"Failure. I have high standards of myself
I'm guessing that fear drives you forward to succeed?
Maybe. That and pride.
As long as any occurrences of failure are seen as steps closer to success, I'm sure it's all good . Look at Einstein, it took him years to prove his theory of relativity.
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Yer, but they pickled his brain. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Fear nothing.. It is the fodder of oppression and exploitation.
That sounds like it should be in a political manifesto  "
Viva la revoluçion..
Do I have yer vote compadré?  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Fear nothing.. It is the fodder of oppression and exploitation.
That sounds like it should be in a political manifesto
Viva la revoluçion..
Do I have yer vote compadré? "
Only if it guarantees this govt is ousted |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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All sorts of practical things I can't necessarily control but if happened would be a real issue.
Loads of frivolous stuff too.
Fortunately I'm not a big worrier. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"That my inadequacy will cause someone's death
Is this in relation to your job?"
Yes xxx always dread that job where you simply don't have a clue or are helpless to prevent the inevitable |
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By *eesideMan
over a year ago
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Q1)What do you fear?
Q2)Why?
Q3)Is it tangible? ."
A1)Being single for ever and never haveing a partnar or my own famley.
A2)Cos I'm now 30 and still never ever had a girlfriend or even been with sumone.
A3)Don't no |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Fear nothing.. It is the fodder of oppression and exploitation.
That sounds like it should be in a political manifesto
Viva la revoluçion..
Do I have yer vote compadré?
Only if it guarantees this govt is ousted "
The government are puppets of the media.. the root of all evil. . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To fear nothing is a great ideal but, if you genuinely believe you're not frightened of anything...you haven't looked hard enough or pushed hard enough! Or you're lying and putting on a front?
My eldest son suffered terribly from depression when he was younger. Leaving him home alone used to frighten me in case I came home to find him swinging (not in the fab way)! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Therea a lot of things I should be afraid of after some of the experiences I've had. Fear of being trapped under water or in a house fire being two. Car accidents, etc. But I'm not afraid of those things.
I think I'm more fearful of not being able to help somebody else in their moment of crisis than myself.
And not so much a fear, but I dread the day I'm the oldest of the family others turn to. Mainly because I see how much my father does for the family and friends without question. Dread not being up to it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Q1)What do you fear?
Q2)Why?
Q3)Is it tangible? .
A1)Being single for ever and never haveing a partnar or my own famley.
A2)Cos I'm now 30 and still never ever had a girlfriend or even been with sumone.
A3)Don't no "
Never give up seaside! You never know what's round the corner. I met my wife while she was working in a shop. The manager thought I was a shoplifter and told her to keep an eye on me. I became aware she was stalking me around the shop so took her for a little walk about before asking her why she obviously thought I was up to no good. I then ask her if she'd like to meet for a drink when she had lunch. She said no. Two days later, while walking past she grabbed me and asked if I was still up for a drink. We've been married for 21 years! Meeting my wife or any one for anything that day was the last thing on my mind. It just goes to show that things can happen when you least expect them. You have a good positive outlook, good morals and you come across as a nice guy. I'm am sure one day some one will be proud to say you're their man!
My wife had a stroke a few years ago. It frightens me that she might have another one! Make the most of life and the one thing you should never be afraid of is taking opportunities that present themselves to you! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"For me?, fear is probably too strong, but I don't like crowds of people / parties / socialising & can fret if I know I have to do this.
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I can relate to that, it takes a great deal of inner strength to overcome the anxiety and get out there. I nearly always end up enjoying myself though. What's it all about? |
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By *eesideMan
over a year ago
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Q1)What do you fear?
Q2)Why?
Q3)Is it tangible? .
A1)Being single for ever and never haveing a partnar or my own famley.
A2)Cos I'm now 30 and still never ever had a girlfriend or even been with sumone.
A3)Don't no
Never give up seaside! You never know what's round the corner. I met my wife while she was working in a shop. The manager thought I was a shoplifter and told her to keep an eye on me. I became aware she was stalking me around the shop so took her for a little walk about before asking her why she obviously thought I was up to no good. I then ask her if she'd like to meet for a drink when she had lunch. She said no. Two days later, while walking past she grabbed me and asked if I was still up for a drink. We've been married for 21 years! Meeting my wife or any one for anything that day was the last thing on my mind. It just goes to show that things can happen when you least expect them. You have a good positive outlook, good morals and you come across as a nice guy. I'm am sure one day some one will be proud to say you're their man!
My wife had a stroke a few years ago. It frightens me that she might have another one! Make the most of life and the one thing you should never be afraid of is taking opportunities that present themselves to you!"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"That my inadequacy will cause someone's death
Is this in relation to your job?
Yes xxx always dread that job where you simply don't have a clue or are helpless to prevent the inevitable "
Your job sounds extremely stressful. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"To fear nothing is a great ideal but, if you genuinely believe you're not frightened of anything...you haven't looked hard enough or pushed hard enough! Or you're lying and putting on a front?
My eldest son suffered terribly from depression when he was younger. Leaving him home alone used to frighten me in case I came home to find him swinging (not in the fab way)!"
I'm sure he appreciates that you have been his rock. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I fear dementia watching and caring for my mother everyday suffer with it is awful
I fear Alzheimer's as most of my fathers siblings suffered it
I fear fire for a reason I do not know
But my worst fear is I never want to out live my child |
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"Death seems a common theme. I wonder if death is more frightening for people without a belief system.
I don't fear death as I'm spiritual and believe this is a short phase of my essence's (spirit/soul/energy) evolution.
I don't fear the death of anyone close to me - I just don't want to outlive my children.
I don't fear the pain of death if I am to suffer a terminal disease due to excellent palliative care we have in this country.
If I was to dwell on different ways to die, then I'd probably come up with a few I'd be scared of - so I don't dwell "
I can only speak for me. I'm an atheist who doesn't believe in spirituality. I don't fear death. If I practice love, and live with love for others, I will be remembered, and my life won't have been wasted. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Losing my independence and becoming a burden on my loved ones. I will not let that happen."
Nice sentiment but unrealistic in certain scenarios - an RTA or stroke for example. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I fear, no life after death
I so long to see my wife again, I was never really into religion until I lost her, if there is a god, we will hopefully meet up again when my time is due
I miss her so much |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Losing my independence and becoming a burden on my loved ones. I will not let that happen.
Nice sentiment but unrealistic in certain scenarios - an RTA or stroke for example."
Granted, but if it is within my power. I have watched too many people waste away. It's a horrible way to have to remember people. |
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Being diabetic my biggest fear is that my feet are going to fall off ( an old scrubs joke) seriously tho I am very scared that if I don't stay on top of it I will lose a foot or two.
I am fully in control of my diabetes however as time goes on I now realise what a total nightmare it is having it.
Being diabetic effects just about everything else and causes so many complications.
So I guess my fear is not being able to control it. |
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Dunno if it's classed as a fear as such but I'm scared about the day I have to say goodbye to the live if my life , my Norwich terrier . He is so unconditionally loving , more than any human and he depends on me for his existence . Not sure what that says about me |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"That my inadequacy will cause someone's death
Is this in relation to your job?
Yes xxx always dread that job where you simply don't have a clue or are helpless to prevent the inevitable
Your job sounds extremely stressful."
999 Ambulance crew |
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I don't have any major fears. Nothing that stops me in my tracks and leaves me curled up in a ball in the corner.
I have a healthy rational fear of things that might hurt if I do them, jumping from height, deep water (I can't swim), that kind of stuff.
I do however, tend to face fear and do it anyway. For example the OCR that I run has a 35ft slide into deep water. I go down the slide because when I rationally think about it, no one has died yet on it and there are plenty of people around to help me. |
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By *unguya2zMan
over a year ago
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I never say this to anyone,but as we're all strangers to eachother in a way.
Here goes,I fear any type of domestic abuse,I grew up in that environment,even hearing about it in the news,takes me back to a very dark place.thats all I'm saying. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As I get older I have more fear
I'm single and I spend a lot of time alone.
I fear always being alone.
I fear I'm missing out on life.
I fear spending the rest of my life doing what I'm doing now.
I fear boredom and detachment.
Is the fear causing you to be proactive in trying to change your situation?
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The fear is crippling me.
I feel powerless to do anything about any of it  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"That my inadequacy will cause someone's death
Is this in relation to your job?
Yes xxx always dread that job where you simply don't have a clue or are helpless to prevent the inevitable
Your job sounds extremely stressful.
999 Ambulance crew "
Paramedic?
How do you feel when you don't succeed?
If the feelings of fear or hopelessness affect you, do see Occupational Health. Do you have clinical supervision wherein you can discuss your stressful call outs? If not then talk to a supervisor about arranging them.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I never say this to anyone,but as we're all strangers to eachother in a way.
Here goes,I fear any type of domestic abuse,I grew up in that environment,even hearing about it in the news,takes me back to a very dark place.thats all I'm saying."
I can empathise it makes you feel vulnerable. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"As I get older I have more fear
I'm single and I spend a lot of time alone.
I fear always being alone.
I fear I'm missing out on life.
I fear spending the rest of my life doing what I'm doing now.
I fear boredom and detachment.
Is the fear causing you to be proactive in trying to change your situation?
The fear is crippling me.
I feel powerless to do anything about any of it "
Has it caused you to become depressed? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I fear my cancer returning and not surviving this time. X"
I have a 'life limiting' illnesss and in the depths of the night, it scares the shit out of me. I know it will kill me, just when.
Badly cooked roast potatoes. Just as scary. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I have a fear of electrical fires.
So much so it gave me ocd and I turn everything off but my fridge freezer and check over and over again untill I feel safe.
Wierd I know |
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By *unguya2zMan
over a year ago
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"I never say this to anyone,but as we're all strangers to eachother in a way.
Here goes,I fear any type of domestic abuse,I grew up in that environment,even hearing about it in the news,takes me back to a very dark place.thats all I'm saying.
I can empathise it makes you feel vulnerable."
Thankyou.x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I fear my cancer returning and not surviving this time. X
I have a 'life limiting' illnesss and in the depths of the night, it scares the shit out of me. I know it will kill me, just."
Does this make you live life to the full? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I fear my cancer returning and not surviving this time. X
I have a 'life limiting' illnesss and in the depths of the night, it scares the shit out of me. I know it will kill me, just.
Does this make you live life to the full?"
Good question. I'm not sure. We started swinging because of the illness (its autoimmune, so no danger to anyone else), and I do tend to savour things more now.
Most of us tend to live life in the future. Looking forward to Christmas, payday or even just the weekend. I tend to see the beauty in now. I might not be well enough to see the beauty tomorrow.
It's funny but you think of your bucket list. There's nothing on mine. I'll take what I'm given. A late rose came into bloom this morning. I'll take that for today. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I fear my cancer returning and not surviving this time. X
I have a 'life limiting' illnesss and in the depths of the night, it scares the shit out of me. I know it will kill me, just.
Does this make you live life to the full?
Good question. I'm not sure. We started swinging because of the illness (its autoimmune, so no danger to anyone else), and I do tend to savour things more now.
Most of us tend to live life in the future. Looking forward to Christmas, payday or even just the weekend. I tend to see the beauty in now. I might not be well enough to see the beauty tomorrow.
It's funny but you think of your bucket list. There's nothing on mine. I'll take what I'm given. A late rose came into bloom this morning. I'll take that for today."
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By (user no longer on site)
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Snakes
Total phobia cannot even see a picture of one without being hysterical and getting sick in my mouth
Unexplainable never seen one in real life and never want to |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't fear death. I do fear dying alone.
I think I want to die alone... That way I don't have to say goodbye and people around me don't have to see it, and remember me in happier times"
I get that. And totally agree, i've watched too many loved ones pass away and I don't want my kids there. Or any family. I just don't want to be alone.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"That my inadequacy will cause someone's death
Is this in relation to your job?
Yes xxx always dread that job where you simply don't have a clue or are helpless to prevent the inevitable
Your job sounds extremely stressful.
999 Ambulance crew
Paramedic?
How do you feel when you don't succeed?
If the feelings of fear or hopelessness affect you, do see Occupational Health. Do you have clinical supervision wherein you can discuss your stressful call outs? If not then talk to a supervisor about arranging them.
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Yes we always talk after every job even the routine ones and do clinical reflections on the bad or challenging ones
Support is excellent, feelings of hopelessness don't affect me as so far has never happened
Would just hate to get to a job and be like wow, what the f... do I do here and let my patient down |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Occasionally the dark in certain places/situations because I tend to suddenly get memories of long forgotten horror movie scenes in similar circumstances.,. yes, I'm a little odd!
It would be irrational to fear emergence of the likes of Jason vorhee, but not irrational to walk the safest route home cos you're wary of what/who is in the dark."
Thank you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"That my inadequacy will cause someone's death
Is this in relation to your job?
Yes xxx always dread that job where you simply don't have a clue or are helpless to prevent the inevitable
Your job sounds extremely stressful.
999 Ambulance crew
Paramedic?
How do you feel when you don't succeed?
If the feelings of fear or hopelessness affect you, do see Occupational Health. Do you have clinical supervision wherein you can discuss your stressful call outs? If not then talk to a supervisor about arranging them.
Yes we always talk after every job even the routine ones and do clinical reflections on the bad or challenging ones
Support is excellent, feelings of hopelessness don't affect me as so far has never happened
Would just hate to get to a job and be like wow, what the f... do I do here and let my patient down "
I admire this man so fucking much
Sorry for butting in but I just had to be said |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I fear being alone, failure and also bridges "
I must admit I hate bridges over water. I mastered the QE toll bridge, Dartford, providing i don't have to stop on it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My first experience of a lift. I was very young. Standing with my mum facing the door. I was feeling nervous anyway. As the doors started to close, a man rushed forward and put his arm through the doors and they closed around it 
I new nothing of the safety system and it seemed like an age before the doors opened and the man stepped in.
I shit my pants as this arm hung there, the fingers wiggling.
It was a long time, into my teens before I'd get in a lift. Even now, as the doors close, that's the image I see.
I'm no longer frightened but lifts still make me feel mildly uncomfortable if I let them! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I fear being alone, failure and also bridges
I must admit I hate bridges over water. I mastered the QE toll bridge, Dartford, providing i don't have to stop on it "
i managed to go across humber bridge but never again would i lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Death is number 1 on my list.
I am not afraid of dying (unless I burn to death) but the thought of leaving my children without their father being there to support them and watch them grow through life is terrifying |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Inmensity of something so big that I can’t help/control/aid/solve! Like a huge disaster happening where I am that I really can’t help with "
Your body will go into survival mode, fight/flight. No-one can predict how we'd act in such a crisis. |
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