"I have a question would people be put off somebody who where’s a stoma or would they still meet ??"
Some will, some wont and some wont care in the slightest. If you have a stoma, it's probably a good idea to mention it before a meet. |
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By *aelawMan
over a year ago
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I have a stoma and I am always open and honest about it. As has been mentioned above, some don't mind whereas some will and that is completely ok. I am comfortable with mine now and hardly factors into any of my decisions now.
Don't worry about the future and having a stoma. It doesn't change you as a person. So as long as you are a decent chap, you are all good |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"*waves*
I have a stoma and I am always open and honest about it. As has been mentioned above, some don't mind whereas some will and that is completely ok. I am comfortable with mine now and hardly factors into any of my decisions now.
Don't worry about the future and having a stoma. It doesn't change you as a person. So as long as you are a decent chap, you are all good "
If we were going to meet I'd want to ask you questions about it- would that bother you? Like would it hurt if it got knocked, things like that. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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I've met a couple of men with stomas and the thing that made it fine was that they were unapologetic about it. It's part of who they are and they don't use it as a reason to complain if they don't get meets. Both do quite well on here.
Wear it with pride and love it for what it is doing for you. Don't lose any sleep over anyone refusing to meet you because of it. As others have said, if they like you they'll meet.
Good luck with your decision to get one.
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By *aelawMan
over a year ago
Paisley |
"*waves*
I have a stoma and I am always open and honest about it. As has been mentioned above, some don't mind whereas some will and that is completely ok. I am comfortable with mine now and hardly factors into any of my decisions now.
Don't worry about the future and having a stoma. It doesn't change you as a person. So as long as you are a decent chap, you are all good
If we were going to meet I'd want to ask you questions about it- would that bother you? Like would it hurt if it got knocked, things like that. "
Nope, I like it when people ask questions. I don't feel awkward about it in the slightest 
And for the record, nope it doesn't :D |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It wouldnt bother me at all .Its the person that counts .my friend used to have one and we used to have a laugh about it .Few times when we were out,it was active and had to sort it out while tipsy . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"*waves*
I have a stoma and I am always open and honest about it. As has been mentioned above, some don't mind whereas some will and that is completely ok. I am comfortable with mine now and hardly factors into any of my decisions now.
Don't worry about the future and having a stoma. It doesn't change you as a person. So as long as you are a decent chap, you are all good
If we were going to meet I'd want to ask you questions about it- would that bother you? Like would it hurt if it got knocked, things like that.
Nope, I like it when people ask questions. I don't feel awkward about it in the slightest
And for the record, nope it doesn't :D"
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I have the same problem. I have a stoma and it really did save my life. It has never bothered my husband that I have one and obviously it wouldn't bother me if I met someone with one. I do think it may be a bit bumpy if 2 of us had one in mirrored places. It would limit some of our positions but that would just make it more adventurous.
It's good to hear from fabbers that it wouldn't bother some of them as this has been a massive concern for me that I am slowly working through.
I plan on being completely honest with everyone I am in contact with on fab within the first couple of messages. Honesty is the best policy and I won't take offence if it means no embarrassment for anyone at a later date. |
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By *aelawMan
over a year ago
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"I have the same problem. I have a stoma and it really did save my life. It has never bothered my husband that I have one and obviously it wouldn't bother me if I met someone with one. I do think it may be a bit bumpy if 2 of us had one in mirrored places. It would limit some of our positions but that would just make it more adventurous.
It's good to hear from fabbers that it wouldn't bother some of them as this has been a massive concern for me that I am slowly working through.
I plan on being completely honest with everyone I am in contact with on fab within the first couple of messages. Honesty is the best policy and I won't take offence if it means no embarrassment for anyone at a later date. "
 good to hear, definitely don't be concerned as long as you are honest then those that contact you will be cool with it |
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Not been on the forum for a while and its good to hear all the comments i made this status before my op and now have a stoma and it doesnst bother me im very open about and will abswer any questions to me im the same person ive not changed i can still do everything like everyone else and wouldnt wanna be treated any different |
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"I have met sumone before with a urostomy and he had a material band that went around his waist just above his Boxers look just like Boxers material so not out of place x "
Yeah i have one them bands too |
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At the risk of mirroring others posts, it really wouldn't bother me at all, as long as I liked the person, then I don't think I'd give it a second thought. |
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Millies stoma celebrated its first birthday on the 11th of November. Our experience has been mixed we have lost friends but also gained them too Millie is very up front with it but still finds it a bit embarrassing (she wont use the hot tub anymore because of people staring even though she keeps it covered).Luckily the owners of our local club (Quest) are very understanding and supportive they even let her use the staff toilet if she needs to change her bag. |
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"Millies stoma celebrated its first birthday on the 11th of November. Our experience has been mixed we have lost friends but also gained them too Millie is very up front with it but still finds it a bit embarrassing (she wont use the hot tub anymore because of people staring even though she keeps it covered).Luckily the owners of our local club (Quest) are very understanding and supportive they even let her use the staff toilet if she needs to change her bag. "
Thats good to hear and most places are supposed to let you use there toilets as you hold the card to say i need access to facilities are you finding thats not the case ? |
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I've met and played with a couple of women who have a stoma, the attraction and flirtation was leading to the bedroom before the subject was raised, it did not change my desire to pleasure the women on question, nor did it stop us having our fun and enjoying each other, it was just something to be aware of.
I can see it being an issue for some folks though, just as many other things often seem to be.
All just personal preferences.
Me, I'm not phased by most things. |
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