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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Just a thread for those of us having no luck in dating/swinging/hook up scene.
I want to hear from you and your experience in it all. What do you think is holding you back? |
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The fact that we’re a couple trying to find another couple where all 4 of us are attracted to each other and like the same things. And the fact that I’m a bit of a porker doesn’t make that any easier.  . Fortunately, we’re in no rush and will continue to enjoy each other in the meantime. Mrs x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've met two couples since joining a year ago. It takes a lot of patience. Have to bear in mind the single women and couples will be inundated with messages that they may not even read your message because they get so many.
My tips - always read their profile and be polite.
I have about a 2% response rate to my messages, but once in a blue moon someone will message back  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've met two couples since joining a year ago. It takes a lot of patience. Have to bear in mind the single women and couples will be inundated with messages that they may not even read your message because they get so many.
My tips - always read their profile and be polite.
I have about a 2% response rate to my messages, but once in a blue moon someone will message back "
Solid advice, and something I always do! |
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"Just a thread for those of us having no luck in dating/swinging/hook up scene.
I want to hear from you and your experience in it all. What do you think is holding you back? "
I'm holding myself back, I'm not in the right place mentally for any of that, I just come here for a forum social life. |
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Totally agree with this bit Buzz and Woody:
The fact that we’re a couple trying to find another couple where all 4 of us are attracted to each other and like the same things.
Plus being straight is a hinder as most of the couples in our updates,want bi fems .
Miss |
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By *eesideMan
over a year ago
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I've never had any luck. Ever....
And even wen i do get talking to sumone ,,date wise of fab as I've not met anyone from fab yet,, its eather all redey tackon or just not interested or thay arsk how many partners I've had... Witch is 0. then thay loos interest........
I'm Undatearball and unmeetarball |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I think it sucks more for men.
Women can get laid whenever they want, even if they don't want it the option is there and it is nice to know that people want you.
I get that it can also be hard for a woman looking for a relationship, because so many men are compelled via testosterone to fuck whatever moves.
It's all a paradigm! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’m never in any rush to meet, sometimes it can be months between meets and sometimes it has been weeks, just depends on the circumstances and timing of course. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I’m never in any rush to meet, sometimes it can be months between meets and sometimes it has been weeks, just depends on the circumstances and timing of course."
Getting close to three years for me. |
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By *eesideMan
over a year ago
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"I think it sucks more for men.
Women can get laid whenever they want, even if they don't want it the option is there and it is nice to know that people want you.
I get that it can also be hard for a woman looking for a relationship, because so many men are compelled via testosterone to fuck whatever moves.
It's all a paradigm! "
Wel sed  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think for me I find it hard because despite being a girl and getting lots of mail its hard to know who to talk to.
I find myself building rapport with someone only for it not to happen for one reason or another and then I just get disillusioned with the whole thing.
There are people id love to meet but distance causes issues. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think it sucks more for men.
Women can get laid whenever they want, even if they don't want it the option is there and it is nice to know that people want you.
I get that it can also be hard for a woman looking for a relationship, because so many men are compelled via testosterone to fuck whatever moves.
It's all a paradigm! "
Yes,being thought of as a free prostitute is the best feeling ever  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I think for me I find it hard because despite being a girl and getting lots of mail its hard to know who to talk to.
I find myself building rapport with someone only for it not to happen for one reason or another and then I just get disillusioned with the whole thing.
There are people id love to meet but distance causes issues. "
This happens all the time to me, I can't count how many times I've talked to someone at length only to be ghosted without notice and for no obvious reason. It's partly why I stopped bothering to write anything other than "hello" it just doesn't make sense to invest that much time when the outcome is clear. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find it hard to meet because I won’t travel far for sex, it just seems desperate to me and I can’t accommodate and I’m not a fan of hotel meets either l |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I find it hard to meet because I won’t travel far for sex, it just seems desperate to me and I can’t accommodate and I’m not a fan of hotel meets either l"
It is a distance thing here for lots, I never pulled in a Liverpool/Newcastle/London/Birmingham/Swansea pub simply because they're too far away and I never traveled for a night out there. And it's the same in fab, We are local to our own area. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I find it hard to meet because I won’t travel far for sex, it just seems desperate to me and I can’t accommodate and I’m not a fan of hotel meets either l
It is a distance thing here for lots, I never pulled in a Liverpool/Newcastle/London/Birmingham/Swansea pub simply because they're too far away and I never traveled for a night out there. And it's the same in fab, We are local to our own area. "
As a man who has been involuntarily celibate for almost three years, distance isn't too much of a problem, beggars can't be choosers as the saying goes. I can sometimes accommodate and I wouldn't mind a hotel meet
Still no easier though. |
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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago
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"We've been here over 12 months and still looking for lady who would like to join us in regular fun threesome. hard times guys!"
The hard bit is that a lady has to find some attraction to both of us, just as be both have to have an attraction to her. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I find people can ruin it for the others. I always try and make an effort to speak to people and not give one liners. But messages probably get lost In amongst the fake profiles |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've never had any luck. Ever....
And even wen i do get talking to sumone ,,date wise of fab as I've not met anyone from fab yet,, its eather all redey tackon or just not interested or thay arsk how many partners I've had... Witch is 0. then thay loos interest........
I'm Undatearball and unmeetarball "
When someone asks you how many partners you've had, reply with. Not as many as I'd like. |
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Swinging I don't have an issue with but saying I think I might be holding myself back. I'm picky so I don't see many guys who do it for me but then I don't want to compromise. Feels like a rock and a hard place sometimes. Go on, cue the hard place jokes |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just a thread for those of us having no luck in dating/swinging/hook up scene.
I want to hear from you and your experience in it all. What do you think is holding you back? "
My own personal experience here is people wanting perfection, funny thing they're always complaining they can't find anyone  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The fact that we’re a couple trying to find another couple where all 4 of us are attracted to each other and like the same things. And the fact that I’m a bit of a porker doesn’t make that any easier. . Fortunately, we’re in no rush and will continue to enjoy each other in the meantime. Mrs x "
You are most definitely not a porker |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Is there some heavy hints of sarcasm in the posts on this thread or are they all genuine
Lads it's a swinger site, stop looking for your future wife, chat in the forums, go to socials and above all get out to clubs
You will be suprised at how friendly people are and after a few club visits and ur face is known, party invites and meets all follow
Nothing in life comes on a plate nor will meets but put the effort in and the benefits are there to be had |
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By *andom2chatMan
over a year ago
A Galaxy Far, Far Away & Spain |
I’ve said it before, & I’ll say it again...
* Your Profile is your shop window to attract people in.
* Be creative with your Public Photo Gallery.
* Use the local Chat Room/Forums & get yourself known.
* Attend a Social & watch your Verifications grow.
• Many Swingers are established couples & have kids older than some younger users, which can trigger concerns that they don’t want to meet folk the age of their kids friends.
• Many Swingers only Meet in clubs, or at Socials or House Parties/organised events.
• Swingers don't have sex with just anyone, & there has to be an attraction.
• Some site members think Fab is a form of InstaShag. It’s not. Ask yourself if you score every time you go on a night out. Do you find everyone on a night out attractive, find a sexual compatibility with everyone, chat to everyone & manage to “pull” every time you go out? If the answer is no, then the same applies to Fab.
It’s no different to walking into a bar or club & expecting to “pull” everyone in that bar or club. Even if you’re the best looking thing in the place you can’t possibly appeal to everyone. That’s just how life is. You have to put in the effort & even then there’s no guarantee that you’ll click with folk you chat or meet with. That’s just how life is on Fab too.
So if you eat to make a success of your Fab life, put in the effort... On your profile, in the Forums/Chat Rooms, at Socials, Clubs & organised events.
Did I miss anything out?
Good luck everyone. |
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By *lue NarwhalMan
over a year ago
Iceland, but Aldi is closer.. |
You will only get outta of this site what you are willing to put in.. Stop sniggering at the back!!
Make sure your profile and profile pic are attention grabbing.. You have all of 10 seconds of someone's concerntration to either make or break, so ensure what they first see of you makes them want more..
From then on in its up to you, so if you cannot live up to the image you portray of yourself in your profile, that'll be it.. Conversation over..
No point moaning you ain't getting any attention, instead use the time to create something positive..
So go on, stop posting to this thread and start messaging people to let them know you exist.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think for me I find it hard because despite being a girl and getting lots of mail its hard to know who to talk to.
I find myself building rapport with someone only for it not to happen for one reason or another and then I just get disillusioned with the whole thing.
There are people id love to meet but distance causes issues.
This happens all the time to me, I can't count how many times I've talked to someone at length only to be ghosted without notice and for no obvious reason. It's partly why I stopped bothering to write anything other than "hello" it just doesn't make sense to invest that much time when the outcome is clear. "
Well then you are holding yourself back now by not putting the effort in. Carrying on half-heartedly will result in no meets and you feeling worse. I would advise you to either get back in the saddle, think positive and start putting the effort in again. Or take a break and come back to it with a fresh outlook |
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By *eesideMan
over a year ago
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"I think it sucks more for men.
Women can get laid whenever they want, even if they don't want it the option is there and it is nice to know that people want you.
I get that it can also be hard for a woman looking for a relationship, because so many men are compelled via testosterone to fuck whatever moves.
It's all a paradigm!
Yes,being thought of as a free prostitute is the best feeling ever "
I don't think that's wot op ment But i do see his point.
If you wanted to get sum fun as a ladey you wood have no problems finding it. 100% garnteed if you realey wanted to have sum fun. but as a guy its almost impossible to just go out and have even a 50% chance of anything. Never mind 100%.
Dus this make sence ? |
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By *ornCouple
over a year ago
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"There are people I'd love to meet but distance causes issues."
That is part of it, but why do so many people not say where they are? So many have joky places they 'live' so they don't turn up in the local selection. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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""There are people I'd love to meet but distance causes issues."
That is part of it, but why do so many people not say where they are? So many have joky places they 'live' so they don't turn up in the local selection. "
Local searches go off the postcodes that are on profiles but not shown. It doesn't matter what 'town' people put. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think it sucks more for men.
Women can get laid whenever they want, even if they don't want it the option is there and it is nice to know that people want you.
I get that it can also be hard for a woman looking for a relationship, because so many men are compelled via testosterone to fuck whatever moves.
It's all a paradigm!
Yes,being thought of as a free prostitute is the best feeling ever
I don't think that's wot op ment But i do see his point.
If you wanted to get sum fun as a ladey you wood have no problems finding it. 100% garnteed if you realey wanted to have sum fun. but as a guy its almost impossible to just go out and have even a 50% chance of anything. Never mind 100%.
Dus this make sence ?"
no, not really. It makes sense if a woman doesnt mind who she meets, of course...but if there is any discernment at all going on, then no, it is not that easy, and certainly not that easy on here.. |
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"It's far easier if you go to a club.
At least there it's hard to hide behind text and if you are on the right page and have the art of conversation you will have a far higher success rate.  "
Not necessarily; in a club you are limited to whoever is in there at the same time as you, and that doesn't mean the odds are in your favour. All my success in Fab has come from messaging people in here, presumably from 'hiding behind text', whereas my clubs visits 'success rate' has been zero. Clubs aren't all that |
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""There are people I'd love to meet but distance causes issues."
That is part of it, but why do so many people not say where they are? So many have joky places they 'live' so they don't turn up in the local selection. "
It's because they don't want to be found. But find who they want. Makes sense |
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"I'm very picking when it comes to dating.
I'm also waiting for them to message me first.
And finally, when they do they turn out to be timewasters."
Lesson learnt then i guess. I really don't get why guys find it hard.  |
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"The fact that we’re a couple trying to find another couple where all 4 of us are attracted to each other and like the same things. And the fact that I’m a bit of a porker doesn’t make that any easier. . Fortunately, we’re in no rush and will continue to enjoy each other in the meantime. Mrs x "
Least you've got someone. But i hear that totally guys. It's easier me being single than being with my FWB. Especially because she only likes black guys. It's like pulling manky old teeth sometimes. Such hard work |
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"Totally agree with this bit Buzz and Woody:
The fact that we’re a couple trying to find another couple where all 4 of us are attracted to each other and like the same things.
Plus being straight is a hinder as most of the couples in our updates,want bi fems .
Miss"
Change your postcode and look at different cities. I do and it serves me very well. Meet so much different types of people compared to staying in one. Get smart people |
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"I think it sucks more for men.
Women can get laid whenever they want, even if they don't want it the option is there and it is nice to know that people want you.
I get that it can also be hard for a woman looking for a relationship, because so many men are compelled via testosterone to fuck whatever moves.
It's all a paradigm! "
If you use fab for your main source of sex,you will be very frustrated as a single guy. If you sit at home and don't get out there to clubs etc,guess what same outcome. If i hadn't got to clubs and socials i'd have half the amount if meets I have now.  |
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"I think for me I find it hard because despite being a girl and getting lots of mail its hard to know who to talk to.
I find myself building rapport with someone only for it not to happen for one reason or another and then I just get disillusioned with the whole thing.
There are people id love to meet but distance causes issues. "
Why does distance cause issues. Is it bcz one of you can't stay out overnight?. Other than it being someone from like Scotland etc. Or don't you want to travel a certain distance? |
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"I find it hard to meet because I won’t travel far for sex, it just seems desperate to me and I can’t accommodate and I’m not a fan of hotel meets either l
It is a distance thing here for lots, I never pulled in a Liverpool/Newcastle/London/Birmingham/Swansea pub simply because they're too far away and I never traveled for a night out there. And it's the same in fab, We are local to our own area.
As a man who has been involuntarily celibate for almost three years, distance isn't too much of a problem, beggars can't be choosers as the saying goes. I can sometimes accommodate and I wouldn't mind a hotel meet
Still no easier though. "
Can I ask how many clubs or social events yoube attended. As you're only in stoke and there's pure clubs not far from you at all? |
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"It's far easier if you go to a club.
At least there it's hard to hide behind text and if you are on the right page and have the art of conversation you will have a far higher success rate. "
It can be that simple! |
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"Dating sucks
You can say that again sister
Dating sucks 
isn't it a good sign if your date gets to suck on something? (bear with me- I haven't dated if ever for over 10 years)..."
Trust you to come out with that. I'm sti waiting for my meet actually lol. My injury is 80% better now. Are you ready? Haha |
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"I've never had any luck. Ever....
And even wen i do get talking to sumone ,,date wise of fab as I've not met anyone from fab yet,, its eather all redey tackon or just not interested or thay arsk how many partners I've had... Witch is 0. then thay loos interest........
I'm Undatearball and unmeetarball
When someone asks you how many partners you've had, reply with. Not as many as I'd like."
Spot on. This guy had the idea ha |
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"I’ve said it before, & I’ll say it again...
* Your Profile is your shop window to attract people in.
* Be creative with your Public Photo Gallery.
* Use the local Chat Room/Forums & get yourself known.
* Attend a Social & watch your Verifications grow.
• Many Swingers are established couples & have kids older than some younger users, which can trigger concerns that they don’t want to meet folk the age of their kids friends.
• Many Swingers only Meet in clubs, or at Socials or House Parties/organised events.
• Swingers don't have sex with just anyone, & there has to be an attraction.
• Some site members think Fab is a form of InstaShag. It’s not. Ask yourself if you score every time you go on a night out. Do you find everyone on a night out attractive, find a sexual compatibility with everyone, chat to everyone & manage to “pull” every time you go out? If the answer is no, then the same applies to Fab.
It’s no different to walking into a bar or club & expecting to “pull” everyone in that bar or club. Even if you’re the best looking thing in the place you can’t possibly appeal to everyone. That’s just how life is. You have to put in the effort & even then there’s no guarantee that you’ll click with folk you chat or meet with. That’s just how life is on Fab too.
So if you eat to make a success of your Fab life, put in the effort... On your profile, in the Forums/Chat Rooms, at Socials, Clubs & organised events.
Did I miss anything out?
Good luck everyone. "
Nope. Covered all bases and well said! . I think that the problem is that people go for others that they like the look of instead of who they would seriously have a chance with. Yes some get lucky as in a club environment but most want someone they're never going to Hey,and bcz this isn't a dating site as per say then they will a lot of the time come away empty handed unfortunately . It can be as hard or easy as you make it. |
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"It's far easier if you go to a club.
At least there it's hard to hide behind text and if you are on the right page and have the art of conversation you will have a far higher success rate.
Not necessarily; in a club you are limited to whoever is in there at the same time as you, and that doesn't mean the odds are in your favour. All my success in Fab has come from messaging people in here, presumably from 'hiding behind text', whereas my clubs visits 'success rate' has been zero. Clubs aren't all that "
Depends if you go to clubs often or not. If not then no you won't have any luck. All goes back to what many have said before. Get out there regularly. Not just one offs when you're horny |
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"It's far easier if you go to a club.
At least there it's hard to hide behind text and if you are on the right page and have the art of conversation you will have a far higher success rate.
Not necessarily; in a club you are limited to whoever is in there at the same time as you, and that doesn't mean the odds are in your favour. All my success in Fab has come from messaging people in here, presumably from 'hiding behind text', whereas my clubs visits 'success rate' has been zero. Clubs aren't all that
Depends if you go to clubs often or not. If not then no you won't have any luck. All goes back to what many have said before. Get out there regularly. Not just one offs when you're horny "
It took a lot of time for me to 'grow a pair' as most in here will shout at you to 'encourage' you, as a single male, to visit a club, it certainly wasn't just because I was feeling horny, bearing in mind it's over an hour's drive to reach any of the clubs near to me. Becoming a regular at any of these places would be as a result of actually enjoying the experiences (I've tried 2 btw), rather than just toughing it out until I've become accepted as 'a regular'  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't know it's a game of luck some guys are lucky some ain't I hope that i get a chance to get a meet but I won't be disappointed if I don't sometime things ain't fair have you seen my face bro I have no chance. But it's a site many women offline |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't put much effort into dating. I still have an old fashioned belief that "the one" will fall into your life when you least expect it.
Internet dating is deflating. It's like catalogue shopping.
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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This may help from my profile...
*HELP FOR NEWBIES/NO MEETS**
This section is especially for you singles and couples that feel the urge to pm me and ask for advice etc, now you don't have to it's all here for you!
1. Read FAQ section, particularly the part about no reply, no interest, it's not considered rude. Do not bother with the Sydney university shit on your profile, it means nothing.
2. Work on your profile: decent pics and a good bio, tick interests. Put a profile pic on.
3. Get photo verified, particularly important if you are a couple or single female.
4. Get cam verified to start, you can go into the cam rooms and ask someone to help you with this. Couples must both be on at the same time.
5. Read a profile before messaging, it's polite.
6. Read existing forum threads on profile advice, some very good ones.
7. Post your own thread to ask for feedback.
8. Act on said advice.
9. Go to local socials/clubs, meet people in public places.
10. Lastly, enjoy your time on fab! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This may help from my profile...
*HELP FOR NEWBIES/NO MEETS**
This section is especially for you singles and couples that feel the urge to pm me and ask for advice etc, now you don't have to it's all here for you!
1. Read FAQ section, particularly the part about no reply, no interest, it's not considered rude. Do not bother with the Sydney university shit on your profile, it means nothing.
2. Work on your profile: decent pics and a good bio, tick interests. Put a profile pic on.
3. Get photo verified, particularly important if you are a couple or single female.
4. Get cam verified to start, you can go into the cam rooms and ask someone to help you with this. Couples must both be on at the same time.
5. Read a profile before messaging, it's polite.
6. Read existing forum threads on profile advice, some very good ones.
7. Post your own thread to ask for feedback.
8. Act on said advice.
9. Go to local socials/clubs, meet people in public places.
10. Lastly, enjoy your time on fab!"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This may help from my profile...
*HELP FOR NEWBIES/NO MEETS**
This section is especially for you singles and couples that feel the urge to pm me and ask for advice etc, now you don't have to it's all here for you!
1. Read FAQ section, particularly the part about no reply, no interest, it's not considered rude. Do not bother with the Sydney university shit on your profile, it means nothing.
2. Work on your profile: decent pics and a good bio, tick interests. Put a profile pic on.
3. Get photo verified, particularly important if you are a couple or single female.
4. Get cam verified to start, you can go into the cam rooms and ask someone to help you with this. Couples must both be on at the same time.
5. Read a profile before messaging, it's polite.
6. Read existing forum threads on profile advice, some very good ones.
7. Post your own thread to ask for feedback.
8. Act on said advice.
9. Go to local socials/clubs, meet people in public places.
10. Lastly, enjoy your time on fab!"
Thanks for that |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"This may help from my profile...
*HELP FOR NEWBIES/NO MEETS**
This section is especially for you singles and couples that feel the urge to pm me and ask for advice etc, now you don't have to it's all here for you!
1. Read FAQ section, particularly the part about no reply, no interest, it's not considered rude. Do not bother with the Sydney university shit on your profile, it means nothing.
2. Work on your profile: decent pics and a good bio, tick interests. Put a profile pic on.
3. Get photo verified, particularly important if you are a couple or single female.
4. Get cam verified to start, you can go into the cam rooms and ask someone to help you with this. Couples must both be on at the same time.
5. Read a profile before messaging, it's polite.
6. Read existing forum threads on profile advice, some very good ones.
7. Post your own thread to ask for feedback.
8. Act on said advice.
9. Go to local socials/clubs, meet people in public places.
10. Lastly, enjoy your time on fab!
Thanks for that "
Very welcome xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"This may help from my profile...
*HELP FOR NEWBIES/NO MEETS**
This section is especially for you singles and couples that feel the urge to pm me and ask for advice etc, now you don't have to it's all here for you!
1. Read FAQ section, particularly the part about no reply, no interest, it's not considered rude. Do not bother with the Sydney university shit on your profile, it means nothing.
2. Work on your profile: decent pics and a good bio, tick interests. Put a profile pic on.
3. Get photo verified, particularly important if you are a couple or single female.
4. Get cam verified to start, you can go into the cam rooms and ask someone to help you with this. Couples must both be on at the same time.
5. Read a profile before messaging, it's polite.
6. Read existing forum threads on profile advice, some very good ones.
7. Post your own thread to ask for feedback.
8. Act on said advice.
9. Go to local socials/clubs, meet people in public places.
10. Lastly, enjoy your time on fab!
Thanks for that
Very welcome xx"
I won't bother you again for a few days is my profile ok may I ask |
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"It's far easier if you go to a club.
At least there it's hard to hide behind text and if you are on the right page and have the art of conversation you will have a far higher success rate.
Not necessarily; in a club you are limited to whoever is in there at the same time as you, and that doesn't mean the odds are in your favour. All my success in Fab has come from messaging people in here, presumably from 'hiding behind text', whereas my clubs visits 'success rate' has been zero. Clubs aren't all that
Depends if you go to clubs often or not. If not then no you won't have any luck. All goes back to what many have said before. Get out there regularly. Not just one offs when you're horny
It took a lot of time for me to 'grow a pair' as most in here will shout at you to 'encourage' you, as a single male, to visit a club, it certainly wasn't just because I was feeling horny, bearing in mind it's over an hour's drive to reach any of the clubs near to me. Becoming a regular at any of these places would be as a result of actually enjoying the experiences (I've tried 2 btw), rather than just toughing it out until I've become accepted as 'a regular' "
It's not easy going to a club as single guy. I wasn't for one second saying otherwise. I'm not saying you need to be a regular,just make some links when do go. Once you start it gets a lot easier |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"This may help from my profile...
*HELP FOR NEWBIES/NO MEETS**
This section is especially for you singles and couples that feel the urge to pm me and ask for advice etc, now you don't have to it's all here for you!
1. Read FAQ section, particularly the part about no reply, no interest, it's not considered rude. Do not bother with the Sydney university shit on your profile, it means nothing.
2. Work on your profile: decent pics and a good bio, tick interests. Put a profile pic on.
3. Get photo verified, particularly important if you are a couple or single female.
4. Get cam verified to start, you can go into the cam rooms and ask someone to help you with this. Couples must both be on at the same time.
5. Read a profile before messaging, it's polite.
6. Read existing forum threads on profile advice, some very good ones.
7. Post your own thread to ask for feedback.
8. Act on said advice.
9. Go to local socials/clubs, meet people in public places.
10. Lastly, enjoy your time on fab!
Thanks for that
Very welcome xx
I won't bother you again for a few days is my profile ok may I ask "
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"hard to find a bi or gay girl to meet a 19yrs old bi gal. would hav thought it would be easy . soon as you ask to chat on mob they disappear. "
perhaps it's because you're a man not a 19 year old bi girl?
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"hard to find a bi or gay girl to meet a 19yrs old bi gal. would hav thought it would be easy . soon as you ask to chat on mob they disappear. perhaps it's because you're a man not a 19 year old bi girl?"
and you're 61??
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and what is the problem of being 61 and havin work mates sign of the times when people think the worse. find loads off youngsters can talk to older guys who are not a threat . the wisdom off years . |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"and what is the problem of being 61 and havin work mates sign of the times when people think the worse. find loads off youngsters can talk to older guys who are not a threat . the wisdom off years ."
no problem with being 61 at all, but not replying to your pm.
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"It's far easier if you go to a club.
At least there it's hard to hide behind text and if you are on the right page and have the art of conversation you will have a far higher success rate.
Not necessarily; in a club you are limited to whoever is in there at the same time as you, and that doesn't mean the odds are in your favour. All my success in Fab has come from messaging people in here, presumably from 'hiding behind text', whereas my clubs visits 'success rate' has been zero. Clubs aren't all that
Depends if you go to clubs often or not. If not then no you won't have any luck. All goes back to what many have said before. Get out there regularly. Not just one offs when you're horny
It took a lot of time for me to 'grow a pair' as most in here will shout at you to 'encourage' you, as a single male, to visit a club, it certainly wasn't just because I was feeling horny, bearing in mind it's over an hour's drive to reach any of the clubs near to me. Becoming a regular at any of these places would be as a result of actually enjoying the experiences (I've tried 2 btw), rather than just toughing it out until I've become accepted as 'a regular'
It's not easy going to a club as single guy. I wasn't for one second saying otherwise. I'm not saying you need to be a regular,just make some links when do go. Once you start it gets a lot easier "
To be fair; you did actually say to 'get out there regularly' |
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"It's far easier if you go to a club.
At least there it's hard to hide behind text and if you are on the right page and have the art of conversation you will have a far higher success rate.
Not necessarily; in a club you are limited to whoever is in there at the same time as you, and that doesn't mean the odds are in your favour. All my success in Fab has come from messaging people in here, presumably from 'hiding behind text', whereas my clubs visits 'success rate' has been zero. Clubs aren't all that
Depends if you go to clubs often or not. If not then no you won't have any luck. All goes back to what many have said before. Get out there regularly. Not just one offs when you're horny
It took a lot of time for me to 'grow a pair' as most in here will shout at you to 'encourage' you, as a single male, to visit a club, it certainly wasn't just because I was feeling horny, bearing in mind it's over an hour's drive to reach any of the clubs near to me. Becoming a regular at any of these places would be as a result of actually enjoying the experiences (I've tried 2 btw), rather than just toughing it out until I've become accepted as 'a regular'
It's not easy going to a club as single guy. I wasn't for one second saying otherwise. I'm not saying you need to be a regular,just make some links when do go. Once you start it gets a lot easier
To be fair; you did actually say to 'get out there regularly' "
Oh okay ha. Cool |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is there some heavy hints of sarcasm in the posts on this thread or are they all genuine
Lads it's a swinger site, stop looking for your future wife, chat in the forums, go to socials and above all get out to clubs
You will be suprised at how friendly people are and after a few club visits and ur face is known, party invites and meets all follow
Nothing in life comes on a plate nor will meets but put the effort in and the benefits are there to be had "
Yip...so many single females say they get so many messages but they are so busy looking for Mr perfect that they probably miss the genuinely nice guys on here. Shame x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No sex for me since March, now just received a message I apparently should be grateful about, kindly informing me they are wanking over my pictures, oh what a fab life we lead "
It was the best wank I ever had. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
Scotland - Aberdeen |
"No sex for me since March, now just received a message I apparently should be grateful about, kindly informing me they are wanking over my pictures, oh what a fab life we lead
It was the best wank I ever had."
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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I honestly think for many (not all I hasten to add) here that bemoan their "luck" when it comes to meets, it boils down to a mix of unrealistic expectations and lack of serious effort to increase the chances of those expectations coming anywhere close to being met.
The number of times I see profile advice threads where the OP has been here no time at all and has a two line profile along with pictures that do them no favours back my opinion up.
What makes it worse is more often than not the advice given isn't acted on.
Whilst I'm not "neck deep" to use a previous poster's phrase, I think I have my expectations set correctly, have what is a not bad profile and pics, and like to think I put the right amount of effort in to get what I'd like out of the site. I fully accept I'm not for everyone and don't expect anything more - but on the occasions where I have been lucky enough to get meets it's reaffirmed that my approach has paid off.
To bastardise a phrase - perhaps if people asked not what Fab can do for them but what they can do for themselves, they might stand more of a chance of success |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nothing holding me back, neck deep in ladies
What a fantastic sentence
Better than saying knee deep in clunge
Every time I hear that word,I think of the Inbetweeners lol"
Ooh I can’t stand that word makes my teeth itch! |
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