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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You have to break the cycle. I know it sounds like no-one understands and it feels like it will never heal, but keep telling yourself you can move on. Keep busy and active to do anything but live in your head. Good luck. |
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Met my Ex on here 7 years ago and last week we split and have had no contact for a week now. Went from talking etx every day to nothing. Dont know if she has moved on or feeling the same I am etc. Was her decision to have no contact etc but it's hard and dont think goes away. Just gotta deal with it the best way only you can. |
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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago
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It sucks. Erm, I would switch off my fab profile (because nothing else will seem to match up), take up a new physical activity to get endorphins another way and spend time with friends and family. Try to keep yourself busy.
It really, really sucks.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Time and don't think about it ,try and keep yourself busy .Don't text or ring him either .Im presuming it's a man who has broken your heart  "
Yeah it is a man he has just told me he's going to work aboard for 3 months I am absolutely devastated |
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"Time and don't think about it ,try and keep yourself busy .Don't text or ring him either .Im presuming it's a man who has broken your heart
Yeah it is a man he has just told me he's going to work aboard for 3 months I am absolutely devastated "
Is it the guy that's your partner? |
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"Time and don't think about it ,try and keep yourself busy .Don't text or ring him either .Im presuming it's a man who has broken your heart
Yeah it is a man he has just told me he's going to work aboard for 3 months I am absolutely devastated "
So he hasn't cheated on you, dumped you or anything like that, but he's working away for 3 months.
Shit as it is, work is work and sometimes you gotta do what needs doing. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Time and don't think about it ,try and keep yourself busy .Don't text or ring him either .Im presuming it's a man who has broken your heart
Yeah it is a man he has just told me he's going to work aboard for 3 months I am absolutely devastated
Is it the guy that's your partner?"
Yes and no we've been together 2 yrs although I am married to someone else but don't love my hubby any more haven't done for several years. Met the bloke on here and have had 2 amazing years with him. I have told him i don't want him to go but I won't be him to stay either |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Time and don't think about it ,try and keep yourself busy .Don't text or ring him either .Im presuming it's a man who has broken your heart
Yeah it is a man he has just told me he's going to work aboard for 3 months I am absolutely devastated
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But think positive you won't bump into him and make it worse .Time is a great healer and best avoid all contact .Ex's you can't be friends with if they hurt you  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Time and don't think about it ,try and keep yourself busy .Don't text or ring him either .Im presuming it's a man who has broken your heart
Yeah it is a man he has just told me he's going to work aboard for 3 months I am absolutely devastated
So he hasn't cheated on you, dumped you or anything like that, but he's working away for 3 months.
Shit as it is, work is work and sometimes you gotta do what needs doing."
No he hasn't cheated on me but he's going to work aboard to sort his head out cos his wife through him out 3 months ago. |
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"Time and don't think about it ,try and keep yourself busy .Don't text or ring him either .Im presuming it's a man who has broken your heart
Yeah it is a man he has just told me he's going to work aboard for 3 months I am absolutely devastated
Is it the guy that's your partner?
Yes and no we've been together 2 yrs although I am married to someone else but don't love my hubby any more haven't done for several years. Met the bloke on here and have had 2 amazing years with him. I have told him i don't want him to go but I won't be him to stay either "
I'm probably old fashioned and not judgemental at all but you already have a husband. I doubt he shares your sorrow.
This was just the bit on the side. One which sadly you have strong feelings for.
you'll be ok even though you can't picture it right now.
Good luck
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"When a marriage breaks up you need time out .That's what's he's doing .He might have 3 months away working and realise he's missed you. "
I bloody hope so x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Time and don't think about it ,try and keep yourself busy .Don't text or ring him either .Im presuming it's a man who has broken your heart
Yeah it is a man he has just told me he's going to work aboard for 3 months I am absolutely devastated
Is it the guy that's your partner?
Yes and no we've been together 2 yrs although I am married to someone else but don't love my hubby any more haven't done for several years. Met the bloke on here and have had 2 amazing years with him. I have told him i don't want him to go but I won't be him to stay either
I'm probably old fashioned and not judgemental at all but you already have a husband. I doubt he shares your sorrow.
This was just the bit on the side. One which sadly you have strong feelings for.
you'll be ok even though you can't picture it right now.
Good luck
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I don't love my hubby and haven't done for some time. I never ment to fall for this guy and I wish i hasn't I know it's selfish of me but I want him in my life |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When a marriage breaks up you need time out .That's what's he's doing .He might have 3 months away working and realise he's missed you.
I bloody hope so x "
Just avoid messaging him even if you have had a gin |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"When a marriage breaks up you need time out .That's what's he's doing .He might have 3 months away working and realise he's missed you.
I bloody hope so x
Just avoid messaging him even if you have had a gin "
He's not sure if he will have internet as he's going to the British virgin isles and it's a mess out there right now |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When a marriage breaks up you need time out .That's what's he's doing .He might have 3 months away working and realise he's missed you.
I bloody hope so x
Just avoid messaging him even if you have had a gin
He's not sure if he will have internet as he's going to the British virgin isles and it's a mess out there right now "
It's good a complete break .Honest then you realise what you both want . |
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"Time and don't think about it ,try and keep yourself busy .Don't text or ring him either .Im presuming it's a man who has broken your heart
Yeah it is a man he has just told me he's going to work aboard for 3 months I am absolutely devastated
Is it the guy that's your partner?
Yes and no we've been together 2 yrs although I am married to someone else but don't love my hubby any more haven't done for several years. Met the bloke on here and have had 2 amazing years with him. I have told him i don't want him to go but I won't be him to stay either
I'm probably old fashioned and not judgemental at all but you already have a husband. I doubt he shares your sorrow.
This was just the bit on the side. One which sadly you have strong feelings for.
you'll be ok even though you can't picture it right now.
Good luck
I don't love my hubby and haven't done for some time. I never ment to fall for this guy and I wish i hasn't I know it's selfish of me but I want him in my life"
It's cruel world. My love lives 1000s of miles away. Good job as it's just one way. She loves me but sadly I don't love her, or anyone in that way.
Put your trust in fate and just see where it takes you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hiya guys need some advice in how to get over my broken heart x"
time and not best yourself up about it.
Some like to jump straight back in..for others ( myself included..) jumping back in only makes them feel worse.
Remember its a closed door.. Not the end of your journey. Your just now traveling on your own.
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"Hiya guys need some advice in how to get over my broken heart x"
Hi ... if you are in an unhappy marriage maybe you need to take stock of your personal situation and then decide your best way forward for the longer term. Good Luck! |
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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago
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"Time and don't think about it ,try and keep yourself busy .Don't text or ring him either .Im presuming it's a man who has broken your heart
Yeah it is a man he has just told me he's going to work aboard for 3 months I am absolutely devastated
Is it the guy that's your partner?
Yes and no we've been together 2 yrs although I am married to someone else but don't love my hubby any more haven't done for several years. Met the bloke on here and have had 2 amazing years with him. I have told him i don't want him to go but I won't be him to stay either
I'm probably old fashioned and not judgemental at all but you already have a husband. I doubt he shares your sorrow.
This was just the bit on the side. One which sadly you have strong feelings for.
you'll be ok even though you can't picture it right now.
Good luck
I don't love my hubby and haven't done for some time. I never ment to fall for this guy and I wish i hasn't I know it's selfish of me but I want him in my life"
Do you think you would ever leave your husband for him?
I'd say if you love him enough you wouldn't be in this situation at all. Perhaps the kindest thing to do is set him free |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hiya guys need some advice in how to get over my broken heart x
Hi ... if you are in an unhappy marriage maybe you need to take stock of your personal situation and then decide your best way forward for the longer term. Good Luck!"
This really, and to be honest it is unfair of you to tell him you don't want him to go, although i understand where you're coming from.
Take stock of your own situation and if things are meant to be they will find a way.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Time and don't think about it ,try and keep yourself busy .Don't text or ring him either .Im presuming it's a man who has broken your heart
Yeah it is a man he has just told me he's going to work aboard for 3 months I am absolutely devastated
Is it the guy that's your partner?
Yes and no we've been together 2 yrs although I am married to someone else but don't love my hubby any more haven't done for several years. Met the bloke on here and have had 2 amazing years with him. I have told him i don't want him to go but I won't be him to stay either
I'm probably old fashioned and not judgemental at all but you already have a husband. I doubt he shares your sorrow.
This was just the bit on the side. One which sadly you have strong feelings for.
you'll be ok even though you can't picture it right now.
Good luck
I don't love my hubby and haven't done for some time. I never ment to fall for this guy and I wish i hasn't I know it's selfish of me but I want him in my life
Do you think you would ever leave your husband for him?
I'd say if you love him enough you wouldn't be in this situation at all. Perhaps the kindest thing to do is set him free "
I am leaving my hubby and the fella knew this. I did say to the fella that I was leaving and yes I did want him to be part of my life after my marriage but I wasn't asking him to leave his wife for me he had to leave her cos he wanted to if that makes sense. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Hiya guys need some advice in how to get over my broken heart x"
I had one.. after two divorces I finally met the woman of my dreams. I worshiped the ground she walked on. Three years into our relationship she suddenly dumped me for someone else. I was totally devastated.
Please research this online..
When you have a breakup with somebody you love, the problem is that your brains pleasure and reward centres treat the breakup similar to a drug addiction. You no longer get that fix of oxytocin, endorphins etc, related to the good feelings. You basically go cold turkey. Starved of the thing that made you feel good.
Also your brain, to put it simply has two halves, your concious mind and your subconscious mind. Problem is that your subconscious mind always tends to win..
For example, if you are scared of spiders, you may tell yourself (consciously), that the next time you see one, you won't be scared. But when push comes to shove, your subconscious takes over and sends you into a panic.
Same as convincing yourself (consciously) that you will skydivie for charity. But again at the final hour your subconscious takes over and say "fek that, I ain't jumping.
So with that in mind, you need to find a way of controlling your subconscious mind. I did so. I was totally wrecked after the breakup. But found a real, qualified, clinical hypnotherapist. This is no joke. She helped me re train my subconscious, under hypnosis. It worked.
Subsequently I also had hypnotherapy to stop smoking. And overcome my fear of tattoos.. the flower chest piece I have took two hours, I did not feel a thing.
This is not Paul Mcenna on TV hypnotherapy. It is real.
Did you know that hypnotherapy was used in world war 2, for operations due to the lack of anisthetic? It worked and actually reduced the mortality rate.
Message me privately if you wish. I have been there. But now happier than ever.
Xx
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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And for god's sake, please don't consider anti depressants. I tried, they will make you worse. They only mask the symptoms. You need to tackle the feelings in your brain. X |
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"When a marriage breaks up you need time out .That's what's he's doing .He might have 3 months away working and realise he's missed you. "
Some say that's what they want yet less than a week later they have a couples account on here with the woman he told you had no idea what fab was despite her having a singles account in here for a couple of years!
Funny old world, huh. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If it was a married man he would be getting a right bashing , not sympathy  "
To be fair i did consider being more matter of fact in my response, but i'm feeling mellow today so went with my softer reply.
After all, the heart wants what the heart wants.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I know alot of you may think will she had her cake and she got to eat it aswell. Maybe I did, when I met fella I knew my marriage was in trouble, even though it was my hubby who suggested I found someone to satisfy me sexually. I never ever thought that i would devolope feelings for him and eventually fall in love with him but i did.
I just feel like my world has fallen apart. This guy has been my biggest support through a very tough time and I feel like I have lost apart of me. |
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