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It's not excusable, but they will do it anyway. There may be an underlying cause of their bad behaviour they aren't aware of. Or, other people may be interpreting it as bad behaviour when it's just something that aggravates them.
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"That they knew what they were doing but thought fuck it anyway!
I agree. It's a conscious thought process."
apparently it's easier to ask forgiveness than permission! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"That they knew what they were doing but thought fuck it anyway!
I agree. It's a conscious thought process.apparently it's easier to ask forgiveness than permission! "
I've never heard of that before. I'm not sure it's relevant to all situations. Like a friend not turning up for supper, no phone call, no message, no sorry. Just nothing. And you must know that if I cook for someone I go all out. My love my energy goes into that food. People will have to earn this honour from now on. So asking for forgiveness it would be a no in this case. And as for permission....mmmm for what I wonder. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"...that they don't have an excuse for their bad behaviour. What would that mean to you?"
They’ve been hypnotised by an evil master man and the only way to break the spell is to discover the secret word to snap them out if it |
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"It would tell me that they will continue to be badly behaved. Get out quick!!  "
I play tennis with the guy and we have a few laughs. So nothing lost. If he got run over by a bus or was mugged en route I'd say ok. But I know when someone has been run over by a bus or been mugged. |
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No one has seen me play tennis on here. It's the tennis. Just know it's the tennis. And oh my god you've never seen anybody play table tennis like me. I should keep to simpler ball games  |
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"To me it would mean that they acknowledge that their behaviour was bad."
Only this - everything else is assumption. They could be mortified they forgot and confession their guilt. Or admitting they made a conscious decision to do the wrong thing. Or letting you know they are a total bastard. Or saying that they hate themselves for their failing.
You need more information to know which it is...  |
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Context always partly creates the meaning.
They may not understand themselves for many reasons or be willing to share It with you.
Most people aren't especially self-aware and have tons of habits that are outside of their thinking zone. |
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"Context always partly creates the meaning.
They may not understand themselves for many reasons or be willing to share It with you.
Most people aren't especially self-aware and have tons of habits that are outside of their thinking zone. "
That may be true. We are all so different. My perception of things may not be another's. |
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"Lazy.
Couldn't give a toss.
Avoiding the actual truth.
Depression or just an asshat"
Depression can make an impact. I see that. Of which I'd be interested to know more of with that person.
Being an asshole. Well. I have no words. |
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"...that they don't have an excuse for their bad behaviour. What would that mean to you?"
I agree with Brazen and Frisky. It only means that they are acknowledging to you that their behaviour was bad.
Everything else you interpret onto those words is a guess, and may be wildly inaccurate based on how you feel about them.
Unless they said more and you've filtered what you've told us then this could be someone giving you a heartfelt apology with intent to never repeat the bad behaviour or someone flippantly and callously stating they couldn't give a fuck and may do it all again. You simply can't guess based on the words given alone.
A true apology doesn't give an excuse but just accepts accountability so this really could be a lovely thing to have said. My guess is everyone has projected their own experiences and hurt onto the words in answering.
The only way to know someone's intent is to ask them and then make a choice to trust or not.
Good luck. |
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It's a cold world we live in so for someone to do something bad is more normal so educating bad behaviour is the only way forward
If I told you how to make a million pound you would do it or
If I told you how to make your partner Cum 10 times in a evening you would
Life is simple
We're just brain washed
You go school to learn to read and write
But they don't teach you how to make money lol sorry if I went on lol |
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"It's a cold world we live in so for someone to do something bad is more normal so educating bad behaviour is the only way forward
If I told you how to make a million pound you would do it or
If I told you how to make your partner Cum 10 times in a evening you would
Life is simple
We're just brain washed
If you know your doing bad your a wanker or naughty
You go school to learn to read and write
But they don't teach you how to make money lol sorry if I went on lol "
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"...that they don't have an excuse for their bad behaviour. What would that mean to you?
I agree with Brazen and Frisky. It only means that they are acknowledging to you that their behaviour was bad.
Everything else you interpret onto those words is a guess, and may be wildly inaccurate based on how you feel about them.
Unless they said more and you've filtered what you've told us then this could be someone giving you a heartfelt apology with intent to never repeat the bad behaviour or someone flippantly and callously stating they couldn't give a fuck and may do it all again. You simply can't guess based on the words given alone.
A true apology doesn't give an excuse but just accepts accountability so this really could be a lovely thing to have said. My guess is everyone has projected their own experiences and hurt onto the words in answering.
The only way to know someone's intent is to ask them and then make a choice to trust or not.
Good luck. "
You've answered that beautifully! Thank you. I read something this afternoon by the Dalai Lama..."usually when we face a problem we look at them from our own point of view....it is important to have a broader perspective..." Since writing this read this afternoon & reading some of the comments has given me a different perspective since this afternoon. X |
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