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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Face pics are important to lots of us I'm sure, but at what point do you need to see a persons face?
Personality speaks volumes when your attracted to someone when you need that connection, (visually impaired people or the blind rely on that fact). But sexual attraction for NSA might need a visual aid. We surely need to see who we're meeting, don't we?
Do you ask early? First message? Or see how things go first maybe lots of messages to see if you click together.
What if you expect you'll never meet them anyway, do you need to see who your talking to although you only get along as 'pen pals'? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I like to see straight away, I am friends on here with people that I'm not attracted to but to spend time with someone sexually they have to be attractive to me. I don't mean drop dead gorgeous handsome but there must be something about him that makes me want to see more |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If there’s a chance we’ll meet then I ask for a face pic early on. If it’s someone in the forums to have a bit of banter with but having checked their profile and seen we’re not compatible I don’t bother asking  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If your getting on really well and suddenly you see there face it can spoil it yes haha"
So what was the attraction to that person in the first place? Was it all about 'what could be'? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sometimes seeing a face pic dries my vagina.
I'm sure sometimes my face shrivels a once enthusiastic cock.
So I like to share face pics early so as not to waste any time  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't chat to any potential meet partners without seeing their face very early on. Within the first few messages. If I don't find them attractive physically then it's a wasted effort getting to know their personality. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It does make a difference and it definitely works both ways, but there's a difference between suddenly cutting someone dead and still being mates. "
Except that some of us aren't here to collect mates. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If your getting on really well and suddenly you see there face it can spoil it yes haha
So what was the attraction to that person in the first place? Was it all about 'what could be'?"
yes it was abit was having alot of good banter and you can't beat that with the right lady but then the face just stoned it for me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It does make a difference and it definitely works both ways, but there's a difference between suddenly cutting someone dead and still being mates.
Except that some of us aren't here to collect mates. "
No true... |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
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"Face pics are important to lots of us I'm sure, but at what point do you need to see a persons face?
Personality speaks volumes when your attracted to someone when you need that connection, (visually impaired people or the blind rely on that fact). But sexual attraction for NSA might need a visual aid. We surely need to see who we're meeting, don't we?
Do you ask early? First message? Or see how things go first maybe lots of messages to see if you click together.
What if you expect you'll never meet them anyway, do you need to see who your talking to although you only get along as 'pen pals'? "
I think it depends on how much chemistry you're having with the other person, and that usually comes across in the messaging.
Fact is, ladies set the rules when it comes to interaction on the site. This, in my opinion, usually means them seeing our face first before we see theirs. I realize this is not always so, but from my experience here this has mainly been the case. I have no problems in providing a face pic first as I know that most of the time its reciprocated.
Now, if you've given a face pic of yourself, have agreed to meet, and she still has not been forthcoming with one, i'd insist on one before the meet. I don't think there's anything wrong with this, and it saves the awkwardness if the person just doesn't do it for you. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It does make a difference and it definitely works both ways, but there's a difference between suddenly cutting someone dead and still being mates. "
Cutting someone dead I suppose makes it clear it was all about sex. Staying friends...well, it's a nice thought that they actually still like you anyway. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
I usually drop my own face pic in after a couple of messages and usually the person I'm chatting to responds in kind. That's if we've not swapped faces as part of FPF or similar.
Whilst mental attraction and a connection and chemistry are very important, physical attraction does come into it so to build up the first part of that only to find there's no physical attraction is hard - although sometimes the former can lead to the latter. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have to see your face early on, but even if there isn't an instant grrrr, usually if we get on well the attraction grows and sometimes that's even sexier 
Peach x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have had an overnight meet with a guy who never sends face pics, ever. It worked out well, may be I was just lucky. I like to see a pic early on as can't be arsed to spend time messaging, only to find I'm not attracted to them.
Funnily enough, I got into a bit of a heated chat yesterday with a guy who wanted a social with me. I asked for a face pic and his response was "why, it's only a social"! In the end he did send one and I wasn't attracted to him so that was the end of it. He wasn't happy with me at all!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personally I don't mind if just chatting. If you get to the stage where you are both thinking of meeting then I think it is essential. If for nothing else to save any embarrassing cases of mistaken identity. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sometimes seeing a face pic dries my vagina.
I'm sure sometimes my face shrivels a once enthusiastic cock.
So I like to share face pics early so as not to waste any time "
Noo..I can make a composite from your pics...those eyes... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to send a face pic if I made initial contact, sometimes not. It made no difference to the rate of reply. Lots of profiles ask for it anyway if you message.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If someone's personality does it for me, it doesn't matter what they look like. The guy I'm seeing at the moment isn't attractive to most, but he's intelligent, driven and hilarious, so I fancy him like mad. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Funnily enough, I got into a bit of a heated chat yesterday with a guy who wanted a social with me. I asked for a face pic and his response was "why, it's only a social"! In the end he did send one and I wasn't attracted to him so that was the end of it. He wasn't happy with me at all!! "
I understand both sides of this story, but it would depend on what that social is working towards. A meet? It just a social for the company and go separate ways.
There's only one winner of you both didn't want the same thing.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If someone's personality does it for me, it doesn't matter what they look like. The guy I'm seeing at the moment isn't attractive to most, but he's intelligent, driven and hilarious, so I fancy him like mad."
Your number 2 could be my number ten.
I mean your number ten, ...oh you understand the sentiment.   |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If someone's personality does it for me, it doesn't matter what they look like. The guy I'm seeing at the moment isn't attractive to most, but he's intelligent, driven and hilarious, so I fancy him like mad.
Your number 2 could be my number ten.
I mean your number ten, ...oh you understand the sentiment. "
Yes, I understand, but he's still not physically attractive. He knows it, I know it. I fancy the pants off him. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If someone's personality does it for me, it doesn't matter what they look like. The guy I'm seeing at the moment isn't attractive to most, but he's intelligent, driven and hilarious, so I fancy him like mad.
Your number 2 could be my number ten.
I mean your number ten, ...oh you understand the sentiment.
Yes, I understand, but he's still not physically attractive. He knows it, I know it. I fancy the pants off him."
There's lots of people who are successful in attracting a partner, and it is sometimes all to do with their personalities that make them more handsome to someone. Face pics help the mind see more clearly for some. |
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Personality *and* looks have to combine the right way for me to be attracted to someone so yes, I really prefer to see a face pic as soon as possible ... it's a lot easier to politely say you're not for me before you've built a rapport as awkwardness, disappointment and hurt feelings often seem more pronounced if you've already been getting on well for a while.
Personally, I also feel a bit put out if someone refuses to send me a face pic as it indicates they don't trust me. Quite what I could do with it anyway (if they weren't in the public eye) I don't know but it always strikes me as odd that anyone who hopes to get extremely intimate with me would baulk at revealing their face ahead of actually meeting. I don't have enough spare time to potentially 'waste' even on 'just' a social (for which I'd still make an effort) which might not go anywhere if I'm not attracted to them. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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There's no clear cut guidelines for me when it comes to seeing someone's face. I've had meets before where I haven't - not because the others were refusing to send them when asked but more so I knew I was attracted to them already and highly doubted a face picture would change that.
I find the majority of people will send one early on anyways so it's possibly not as much of an issue for me as it is for others.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If someone's personality does it for me, it doesn't matter what they look like. The guy I'm seeing at the moment isn't attractive to most, but he's intelligent, driven and hilarious, so I fancy him like mad.
Your number 2 could be my number ten.
I mean your number ten, ...oh you understand the sentiment.
Yes, I understand, but he's still not physically attractive. He knows it, I know it. I fancy the pants off him.
There's lots of people who are successful in attracting a partner, and it is sometimes all to do with their personalities that make them more handsome to someone. Face pics help the mind see more clearly for some. "
Errrr... Yeah. Exactly.
You asked what one's personal preferences are. I told you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Funnily enough, I got into a bit of a heated chat yesterday with a guy who wanted a social with me. I asked for a face pic and his response was "why, it's only a social"! In the end he did send one and I wasn't attracted to him so that was the end of it. He wasn't happy with me at all!!
I understand both sides of this story, but it would depend on what that social is working towards. A meet? It just a social for the company and go separate ways.
There's only one winner of you both didn't want the same thing.
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Ultimately I'm looking to meet single guys for sex. I can have coffee with my girlfriends. For me, a group social doesn't necessitate the need for pics, but a one to one meet with a guy does. I do have one male buddy, an ex Forumites who I just meet for a social natter. Other than him, I don't have the time nor the desire for male coffee only buddies. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If someone's personality does it for me, it doesn't matter what they look like. The guy I'm seeing at the moment isn't attractive to most, but he's intelligent, driven and hilarious, so I fancy him like mad.
Your number 2 could be my number ten.
I mean your number ten, ...oh you understand the sentiment.
Yes, I understand, but he's still not physically attractive. He knows it, I know it. I fancy the pants off him.
There's lots of people who are successful in attracting a partner, and it is sometimes all to do with their personalities that make them more handsome to someone. Face pics help the mind see more clearly for some.
Errrr... Yeah. Exactly.
You asked what one's personal preferences are. I told you."
Okay. Thanks. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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Funnily enough, I got into a bit of a heated chat yesterday with a guy who wanted a social with me. I asked for a face pic and his response was "why, it's only a social"! In the end he did send one and I wasn't attracted to him so that was the end of it. He wasn't happy with me at all!!
I understand both sides of this story, but it would depend on what that social is working towards. A meet? It just a social for the company and go separate ways.
There's only one winner of you both didn't want the same thing.
Ultimately I'm looking to meet single guys for sex. I can have coffee with my girlfriends. For me, a group social doesn't necessitate the need for pics, but a one to one meet with a guy does. I do have one male buddy, an ex Forumites who I just meet for a social natter. Other than him, I don't have the time nor the desire for male coffee only buddies. "
Maybe I need to take your way of thinking. And stop finding 'coffee buddies' on here.  |
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By *eeBee67Man
over a year ago
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"If someone's personality does it for me, it doesn't matter what they look like. The guy I'm seeing at the moment isn't attractive to most, but he's intelligent, driven and hilarious, so I fancy him like mad."
But what drew you to him in the first place? Personalities are dufficult to spot across a room. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I’ve been informed it’s good etiquette to send a face pic in your first message if you don’t have one in your profile.
Needless to say I rarely get replies. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"If your getting on really well and suddenly you see there face it can spoil it yes haha"
lol bummer when that happens!
But...good when it's a nice surprise and you think..offt yes please lol
I like to get the face pics out of the way early...saves everyone wasting time |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Funnily enough, I got into a bit of a heated chat yesterday with a guy who wanted a social with me. I asked for a face pic and his response was "why, it's only a social"! In the end he did send one and I wasn't attracted to him so that was the end of it. He wasn't happy with me at all!!
I understand both sides of this story, but it would depend on what that social is working towards. A meet? It just a social for the company and go separate ways.
There's only one winner of you both didn't want the same thing.
Ultimately I'm looking to meet single guys for sex. I can have coffee with my girlfriends. For me, a group social doesn't necessitate the need for pics, but a one to one meet with a guy does. I do have one male buddy, an ex Forumites who I just meet for a social natter. Other than him, I don't have the time nor the desire for male coffee only buddies.
Maybe I need to take your way of thinking. And stop finding 'coffee buddies' on here. "
FAF.... Oh hang on... I have no idea what you look like |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If someone's personality does it for me, it doesn't matter what they look like. The guy I'm seeing at the moment isn't attractive to most, but he's intelligent, driven and hilarious, so I fancy him like mad.
But what drew you to him in the first place? Personalities are dufficult to spot across a room."
He messaged me (not on here). No photo for about five or six messages. Then we spoke on the phone. Then he sent a photo but he didn't need to, i liked him enough to meet him from the conversations we'd had. |
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I tend to get the pic out of the way on a first mail (providing the profile is verified) which often gets me one by return
Saves on any future disappointment  .
Best comment in response: "wow I didn't expect that face with that body"  |
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By *eeBee67Man
over a year ago
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"If someone's personality does it for me, it doesn't matter what they look like. The guy I'm seeing at the moment isn't attractive to most, but he's intelligent, driven and hilarious, so I fancy him like mad.
But what drew you to him in the first place? Personalities are dufficult to spot across a room.
He messaged me (not on here). No photo for about five or six messages. Then we spoke on the phone. Then he sent a photo but he didn't need to, i liked him enough to meet him from the conversations we'd had."
Thanks for the information.
Ejoying the forums here and hoping my personality is showing through. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I tend to get the pic out of the way on a first mail (providing the profile is verified) which often gets me one by return
Saves on any future disappointment .
Best comment in response: "wow I didn't expect that face with that body" "
Sometimes the face isn't as pretty as the body pic, and when you meet them the body isn't the same as it was in the pic, that's 10 years old |
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The first line of our profile asks for a face pic to be sent with the first message. If we don't get one then we know they haven't bothered to read our profile.
Sexual attraction is extremely important, although it's not everything. But if someone has messaged us then it must be because they are attracted, so to save everyone time we make an early decision. If we are attracted back then we send face pics with our reply. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I try to do face swap soon, I don't like to be a disappointment to people, and same with the guy. There's nothing worse than chatting for days, great banter then you see each other and there's no spark.... For me, to have sex with someone there has to be an attraction. |
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"Sometimes the face spoils it 
It's true.
They can have a cracking personality but if I don't find them nice to look at as well then I'm afraid it's off.
If that makes me shallow then fine "
To be honest I think most ppl are visual. I just don’t see men physically attractive until I find them as a person attractive |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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We prefer to swap face pics within the first couple of messages.
If they aren't interested in us, or vice versa, its pretty pointless chatting and wasting each others time.
If it's a fellow forum user, who I know we're probably unlikely to ever meet but I like their posts. I still like to see their face, as I'm nosey. |
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Given the nature of the site I think it's more than reasonable that people are physically attracted to each other, without that being considered shallow.
I must have a built in feature in my camera that makes me look like a right goon lol! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Sometimes the face spoils it
It's true.
They can have a cracking personality but if I don't find them nice to look at as well then I'm afraid it's off.
If that makes me shallow then fine
To be honest I think most ppl are visual. I just don’t see men physically attractive until I find them as a person attractive "
That's how I found it in fab, and what holds me back messaging strangers that aren't in the forums.
Their pics might be hot as hell itself, but they might be a proper arrogant a-hole.
Imagine your disappointment when you find out.  |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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"Sometimes the face spoils it
It's true.
They can have a cracking personality but if I don't find them nice to look at as well then I'm afraid it's off.
If that makes me shallow then fine
To be honest I think most ppl are visual. I just don’t see men physically attractive until I find them as a person attractive
That's how I found it in fab, and what holds me back messaging strangers that aren't in the forums.
Their pics might be hot as hell itself, but they might be a proper arrogant a-hole.
Imagine your disappointment when you find out. "
The same thing can happen with folk in the forums. They sound great, you like their personality, you exchange pics. They can still end up being an arrogant a-hole. |
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"Sometimes the face spoils it
It's true.
They can have a cracking personality but if I don't find them nice to look at as well then I'm afraid it's off.
If that makes me shallow then fine
To be honest I think most ppl are visual. I just don’t see men physically attractive until I find them as a person attractive
That's how I found it in fab, and what holds me back messaging strangers that aren't in the forums.
Their pics might be hot as hell itself, but they might be a proper arrogant a-hole.
Imagine your disappointment when you find out. "
You can still gauge quite quickly how folk are away from the forum |
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"Sometimes the face spoils it
It's true.
They can have a cracking personality but if I don't find them nice to look at as well then I'm afraid it's off.
If that makes me shallow then fine
To be honest I think most ppl are visual. I just don’t see men physically attractive until I find them as a person attractive
That's how I found it in fab, and what holds me back messaging strangers that aren't in the forums.
Their pics might be hot as hell itself, but they might be a proper arrogant a-hole.
Imagine your disappointment when you find out.
The same thing can happen with folk in the forums. They sound great, you like their personality, you exchange pics. They can still end up being an arrogant a-hole. "
Yeah they can |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sometimes the face spoils it
It's true.
They can have a cracking personality but if I don't find them nice to look at as well then I'm afraid it's off.
If that makes me shallow then fine "
Do you ever find that if you like someone’s personality, their humour and intelligence that it makes them more physically attractive to you and if you think they’re an arsehole, that physically they become more ugly?
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"Sometimes the face spoils it
It's true.
They can have a cracking personality but if I don't find them nice to look at as well then I'm afraid it's off.
If that makes me shallow then fine
To be honest I think most ppl are visual. I just don’t see men physically attractive until I find them as a person attractive
That's how I found it in fab, and what holds me back messaging strangers that aren't in the forums.
Their pics might be hot as hell itself, but they might be a proper arrogant a-hole.
Imagine your disappointment when you find out.
You can still gauge quite quickly how folk are away from the forum "
I'm not even looking at the forum folk anymore.
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"Sometimes the face spoils it
It's true.
They can have a cracking personality but if I don't find them nice to look at as well then I'm afraid it's off.
If that makes me shallow then fine
Do you ever find that if you like someone’s personality, their humour and intelligence that it makes them more physically attractive to you and if you think they’re an arsehole, that physically they become more ugly?
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Yes I do. Someone can also be nice to look at and have the personality of a cabbage, or they can know that they are attractive and 'in demand' which results in them being a complete twat. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sometimes the face spoils it
It's true.
They can have a cracking personality but if I don't find them nice to look at as well then I'm afraid it's off.
If that makes me shallow then fine
To be honest I think most ppl are visual. I just don’t see men physically attractive until I find them as a person attractive
That's how I found it in fab, and what holds me back messaging strangers that aren't in the forums.
Their pics might be hot as hell itself, but they might be a proper arrogant a-hole.
Imagine your disappointment when you find out.
You can still gauge quite quickly how folk are away from the forum "
You get little extra parts of personality come out in the forum though. In messages they are aiming everything they write at you so can say what they want. Forums posts are written for no one in particular and can show true thoughts I find. |
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"Sometimes the face spoils it
It's true.
They can have a cracking personality but if I don't find them nice to look at as well then I'm afraid it's off.
If that makes me shallow then fine
To be honest I think most ppl are visual. I just don’t see men physically attractive until I find them as a person attractive
That's how I found it in fab, and what holds me back messaging strangers that aren't in the forums.
Their pics might be hot as hell itself, but they might be a proper arrogant a-hole.
Imagine your disappointment when you find out.
You can still gauge quite quickly how folk are away from the forum
You get little extra parts of personality come out in the forum though. In messages they are aiming everything they write at you so can say what they want. Forums posts are written for no one in particular and can show true thoughts I find."
Nice drill |
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"Sometimes the face spoils it
It's true.
They can have a cracking personality but if I don't find them nice to look at as well then I'm afraid it's off.
If that makes me shallow then fine
To be honest I think most ppl are visual. I just don’t see men physically attractive until I find them as a person attractive
That's how I found it in fab, and what holds me back messaging strangers that aren't in the forums.
Their pics might be hot as hell itself, but they might be a proper arrogant a-hole.
Imagine your disappointment when you find out.
You can still gauge quite quickly how folk are away from the forum
I'm not even looking at the forum folk anymore.
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I’m not looking at any folk, well just the one |
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"Sometimes the face spoils it
It's true.
They can have a cracking personality but if I don't find them nice to look at as well then I'm afraid it's off.
If that makes me shallow then fine
Do you ever find that if you like someone’s personality, their humour and intelligence that it makes them more physically attractive to you and if you think they’re an arsehole, that physically they become more ugly?
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That’s me that’s how my brain works |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Sometimes the face spoils it
It's true.
They can have a cracking personality but if I don't find them nice to look at as well then I'm afraid it's off.
If that makes me shallow then fine
To be honest I think most ppl are visual. I just don’t see men physically attractive until I find them as a person attractive
That's how I found it in fab, and what holds me back messaging strangers that aren't in the forums.
Their pics might be hot as hell itself, but they might be a proper arrogant a-hole.
Imagine your disappointment when you find out.
The same thing can happen with folk in the forums. They sound great, you like their personality, you exchange pics. They can still end up being an arrogant a-hole. "
Very true. .
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By *abs..Woman
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"Sometimes the face spoils it
It's true.
They can have a cracking personality but if I don't find them nice to look at as well then I'm afraid it's off.
If that makes me shallow then fine
To be honest I think most ppl are visual. I just don’t see men physically attractive until I find them as a person attractive
That's how I found it in fab, and what holds me back messaging strangers that aren't in the forums.
Their pics might be hot as hell itself, but they might be a proper arrogant a-hole.
Imagine your disappointment when you find out.
You can still gauge quite quickly how folk are away from the forum
You get little extra parts of personality come out in the forum though. In messages they are aiming everything they write at you so can say what they want. Forums posts are written for no one in particular and can show true thoughts I find."
I agree to an extent however they are trying to attract people on the forums so I do feel that some will gauge their audience with their replies. |
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"Sometimes the face spoils it
It's true.
They can have a cracking personality but if I don't find them nice to look at as well then I'm afraid it's off.
If that makes me shallow then fine
To be honest I think most ppl are visual. I just don’t see men physically attractive until I find them as a person attractive
That's how I found it in fab, and what holds me back messaging strangers that aren't in the forums.
Their pics might be hot as hell itself, but they might be a proper arrogant a-hole.
Imagine your disappointment when you find out.
You can still gauge quite quickly how folk are away from the forum
You get little extra parts of personality come out in the forum though. In messages they are aiming everything they write at you so can say what they want. Forums posts are written for no one in particular and can show true thoughts I find.
I agree to an extent however they are trying to attract people on the forums so I do feel that some will gauge their audience with their replies. "
Bat shit crazy can’t hide itself for long, that’s all you need to remember |
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"Sometimes the face spoils it
It's true.
They can have a cracking personality but if I don't find them nice to look at as well then I'm afraid it's off.
If that makes me shallow then fine
Do you ever find that if you like someone’s personality, their humour and intelligence that it makes them more physically attractive to you and if you think they’re an arsehole, that physically they become more ugly?
Yes I do. Someone can also be nice to look at and have the personality of a cabbage, or they can know that they are attractive and 'in demand' which results in them being a complete twat. "
Oh definitely, I’ve had messages from men who look really sexy but as soon as I start chatting to them, they put me right off with their arrogance and dickishness |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
"Sometimes the face spoils it
It's true.
They can have a cracking personality but if I don't find them nice to look at as well then I'm afraid it's off.
If that makes me shallow then fine
Do you ever find that if you like someone’s personality, their humour and intelligence that it makes them more physically attractive to you and if you think they’re an arsehole, that physically they become more ugly?
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Most definitely!! One of my biggest turn offs is an ugly personality - no matter how physically attractive they are, or how generally popular they are perceived to be, if their personality doesn't sit right with me, it'd be as big a showstopper as not finding them physically attractive |
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By (user no longer on site)
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We confess our shallowness in advance. A face picture is a given for us. However a body picture is sometimes nigh on impossible to get as well. We find this especially so in couples, with the guy often refusing to send one.
We are happy to find friends on here but we are all on a swinging site for a fairly obvious reason. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sometimes the face spoils it
It's true.
They can have a cracking personality but if I don't find them nice to look at as well then I'm afraid it's off.
If that makes me shallow then fine
To be honest I think most ppl are visual. I just don’t see men physically attractive until I find them as a person attractive
That's how I found it in fab, and what holds me back messaging strangers that aren't in the forums.
Their pics might be hot as hell itself, but they might be a proper arrogant a-hole.
Imagine your disappointment when you find out.
You can still gauge quite quickly how folk are away from the forum
You get little extra parts of personality come out in the forum though. In messages they are aiming everything they write at you so can say what they want. Forums posts are written for no one in particular and can show true thoughts I find.
I agree to an extent however they are trying to attract people on the forums so I do feel that some will gauge their audience with their replies.
Bat shit crazy can’t hide itself for long, that’s all you need to remember "
That's why I like to see the grumpy posts, and the tired early morning or late night ones too. Can see if they're a sexy, well natured grumbler or just a misery |
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"Sometimes the face spoils it
It's true.
They can have a cracking personality but if I don't find them nice to look at as well then I'm afraid it's off.
If that makes me shallow then fine
Do you ever find that if you like someone’s personality, their humour and intelligence that it makes them more physically attractive to you and if you think they’re an arsehole, that physically they become more ugly?
Most definitely!! One of my biggest turn offs is an ugly personality - no matter how physically attractive they are, or how generally popular they are perceived to be, if their personality doesn't sit right with me, it'd be as big a showstopper as not finding them physically attractive "
You put that much better than I did |
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