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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hey anyone that reads this,
So here's the thing, I get women and couples get a ton of messages and are very selective etc, but being a total newbie I'm just concerned I'm doing it wrong. I.e;
Women - I've only got regular photos of me on my profile - do you actually like dick pics??
Messaging - I hate that message subject thing. Most people say your message has to be original, but then you have to catch their eye with the message subject?!?
Verification - have met a couple that did verify me, but I can't find the verification. And without a verification you're essentially contagious on this site!
Sorry just want some advice - being a newbie here is a real problem.
Cheers!!! |
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"Hey anyone that reads this,
So here's the thing, I get women and couples get a ton of messages and are very selective etc, but being a total newbie I'm just concerned I'm doing it wrong. I.e;
Women - I've only got regular photos of me on my profile - do you actually like dick pics??
Messaging - I hate that message subject thing. Most people say your message has to be original, but then you have to catch their eye with the message subject?!?
Verification - have met a couple that did verify me, but I can't find the verification. And without a verification you're essentially contagious on this site!
Sorry just want some advice - being a newbie here is a real problem.
Cheers!!! "
You'll do fine, give it time. Your pics are fine, your text shows you have a brain, the rest is pretty much a numbers game. Be brief in messaging, don't spend too much time - but I would suggest commenting on a profile or status. Good luck  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No one verified you because if they did you would have a green tick circle.
As for women liking/disliking dick pics, they all have their individual views. |
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"Hey anyone that reads this,
So here's the thing, I get women and couples get a ton of messages and are very selective etc, but being a total newbie I'm just concerned I'm doing it wrong. I.e;
Women - I've only got regular photos of me on my profile - do you actually like dick pics??
Messaging - I hate that message subject thing. Most people say your message has to be original, but then you have to catch their eye with the message subject?!?
Verification - have met a couple that did verify me, but I can't find the verification. And without a verification you're essentially contagious on this site!
Sorry just want some advice - being a newbie here is a real problem.
Cheers!!! "
And keep that pic for your profile - it is at least different - different is good on here, inboxes look very monotonous at times. |
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"Hey anyone that reads this,
So here's the thing, I get women and couples get a ton of messages and are very selective etc, but being a total newbie I'm just concerned I'm doing it wrong. I.e;
Women - I've only got regular photos of me on my profile - do you actually like dick pics??
Messaging - I hate that message subject thing. Most people say your message has to be original, but then you have to catch their eye with the message subject?!?
Verification - have met a couple that did verify me, but I can't find the verification. And without a verification you're essentially contagious on this site!
Sorry just want some advice - being a newbie here is a real problem.
Cheers!!! "
Oh and verifications, or lack of will not stop you getting a meet, loads of us meet unverified people - just get chatting to people. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Your profile should reflect you, if so you'll get responses from likeminded people. As for message subject I often use their catchphrase in a quirky way in order to retain originality but also show you've read into their bio. Key words that show you have things in common. Other than that the best thing I find is to not check on messages you've sent just be you, browse and message those that meet your own criteria. If that message box goes yellow you are a lucky fella, if not give someone else a shot |
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"Hey anyone that reads this,
So here's the thing, I get women and couples get a ton of messages and are very selective etc, but being a total newbie I'm just concerned I'm doing it wrong. I.e;
Women - I've only got regular photos of me on my profile - do you actually like dick pics??
Messaging - I hate that message subject thing. Most people say your message has to be original, but then you have to catch their eye with the message subject?!?
Verification - have met a couple that did verify me, but I can't find the verification. And without a verification you're essentially contagious on this site!
Sorry just want some advice - being a newbie here is a real problem.
Cheers!!! "
This woman doesn't care if she never sees another close up shot of a cock. I do however admire the naked male body tastefully posed.
Lots of people do say your first message has to be original, show personality etc. but honestly we don't expect single men to jump through all sorts of hoops. We have been known to respond to a simple "hi" accompanied by an invitation to respond if their profile is of interest.
Not sure about the verification thing unless you were trying to do it from the same ip address,but we have met guys who weren't verified.
We don't represent the feelings of the whole site though and are way out of your age range many do feel differently to us.
Good luck and don't give up. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Personally I don't bother with people if they don't have a dick pic. Sorry but its the truth.
I'm unlikely to bother with anyone that does, it takes all sorts "
Haha - see there is the problem, one way or the other you're ruling out one demographic!
It's all so confusing |
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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago
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I think your pics are great. Granted I am not your target audience. My advice is have a tastefull cock pic in your private collection. Send it if asked for one. Some on here will say they won't entertain those who don't have one in their public pics. Others won't entertain those who do. Don't fall into the trap of trying to please everyone because you can't. And you run the risk of pleasing no one. Good luck. |
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"Personally I don't bother with people if they don't have a dick pic. Sorry but its the truth.
I'm unlikely to bother with anyone that does, it takes all sorts
Haha - see there is the problem, one way or the other you're ruling out one demographic!
It's all so confusing "
How about just ruling in the demographic you appeal to and that appeals to you by just being yourself.
You will never appeal to everyone. Decide what you want and represent yourself honestly, its the only way. |
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"Awesome, thanks guys appreciated! X"
It looks like you are the sort of guy who will take positive advice on board after our pm
My profile isn't perfect by a long chalk (it's a work in progress even after 10 years lol), but I'm not actively looking for a meet  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Personally I don't bother with people if they don't have a dick pic. Sorry but its the truth.
I'm unlikely to bother with anyone that does, it takes all sorts
Haha - see there is the problem, one way or the other you're ruling out one demographic!
It's all so confusing
How about just ruling in the demographic you appeal to and that appeals to you by just being yourself.
You will never appeal to everyone. Decide what you want and represent yourself honestly, its the only way."
So likeminded people then? |
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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago
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"Awesome, thanks guys appreciated! X
It looks like you are the sort of guy who will take positive advice on board after our pm
My profile isn't perfect by a long chalk (it's a work in progress even after 10 years lol), but I'm not actively looking for a meet "
Very good point. Always consider your profile a work in progress. Never be afraid to ask for advice either. Take any responses about you being the millionth to ask the question with a pinch of salt. If you take on board advice people will be happy to offer it. |
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"Personally I don't bother with people if they don't have a dick pic. Sorry but its the truth.
I'm unlikely to bother with anyone that does, it takes all sorts
Haha - see there is the problem, one way or the other you're ruling out one demographic!
It's all so confusing
How about just ruling in the demographic you appeal to and that appeals to you by just being yourself.
You will never appeal to everyone. Decide what you want and represent yourself honestly, its the only way.
So likeminded people then?"
Yep! That's why I asked earlier how we could tell. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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dont put dick pics on profile but put on ur profile if someone does want to see then u will send in message cos not everyone wants a eyeful of cock as they scroll down ur profile |
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"dont put dick pics on profile but put on ur profile if someone does want to see then u will send in message cos not everyone wants a eyeful of cock as they scroll down ur profile "
I was chatting to a lady on here a few years ago, I met her a couple of times, and she had her bewbies as an avatar. It was great fun scrolling up an down her messages on ma pc as it looked like they were bouncing  |
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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago
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"dont put dick pics on profile but put on ur profile if someone does want to see then u will send in message cos not everyone wants a eyeful of cock as they scroll down ur profile
I was chatting to a lady on here a few years ago, I met her a couple of times, and she had her bewbies as an avatar. It was great fun scrolling up an down her messages on ma pc as it looked like they were bouncing "
You are a fecking legend lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No one verified you because if they did you would have a green tick circle.
As for women liking/disliking dick pics, they all have their individual views."
Rang bells for me too "Can't find the veri" lol |
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if you want to be on the safe side- no more than one cock pic and please not one over the toilet or stuff...
your profile should be what you are and what you want. bit if personality if you are more after one to one with single ladies as most will want more of a personal connection, more of what you want and can offer in regards to sex if you are more interested in meeting couples or groups ect without that much of a personal connection is my advice. |
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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago
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"The operative word is 'tasteful' cock pic! 
Is there such a thing?!?"
My personal choice is a front on view showing a part of my torso and the top of my thighs in addition. He's saluting but i've been told it's a tasteful pic. |
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"The operative word is 'tasteful' cock pic!
Is there such a thing?!?
If you smear it in Philadelphia Cream Cheese perhaps
The original Cream Cheese, or the version with pineapple in?  "
As long as there's no sweetcorn  |
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
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"The operative word is 'tasteful' cock pic!
Is there such a thing?!?
If you smear it in Philadelphia Cream Cheese perhaps
The original Cream Cheese, or the version with pineapple in?
As long as there's no sweetcorn "
How about chives? |
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
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"You've lost them now op haha"
Join in with the forum conversations. Become known.
Look at other profiles for ideas (but don't nick them).
Don't think that because you are here, it means you will get laid. It doesn't.
See Fab as a hobby, rather than the main focus of your life. |
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Look at other profiles for ideas (but don't nick them).
*runs off with Lisa's knickers 
Oi! I left them on the clothes horse to dry! I hope your knob goes mouldy...  "
Ewww, I don't want to know if you have hung them on a horse. I can't compete with that  |
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By *isaB45Woman
over a year ago
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Look at other profiles for ideas (but don't nick them).
*runs off with Lisa's knickers
Oi! I left them on the clothes horse to dry! I hope your knob goes mouldy...
Ewww, I don't want to know if you have hung them on a horse. I can't compete with that "
You couldn't compete with a hobby horse.. |
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Look at other profiles for ideas (but don't nick them).
*runs off with Lisa's knickers
Oi! I left them on the clothes horse to dry! I hope your knob goes mouldy...
Ewww, I don't want to know if you have hung them on a horse. I can't compete with that
You couldn't compete with a hobby horse.. "
I know a few knob jockeys if that's any good |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Oh and P.S. how will anyone know they're like minded?"
Sorry just realised you were referring to my profile - they won't know unless they get in touch I guess. But basically open minded, fun people who want to do things they haven't been able to do previously |
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