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Do women ever send the first message?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I am struggling to think of the last time that a woman actually messaged me first, do they still message guys first or just wait for a message to roll in from someone that catches their eye

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes if we want a Guy

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

"Yes if we want a Guy"

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By *cott73Man over a year ago

brighton

Happened once to me. Put it down as an accident.

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By *evil_u_knowMan over a year ago

city

I get the first message from women all the time. Normally they are not looking for sex though, just a chat over something I said, a bit of a laugh.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes they definitely do it's very rare though haha

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By *hilloutMan over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

"I am struggling to think of the last time that a woman actually messaged me first, do they still message guys first or just wait for a message to roll in from someone that catches their eye "

Yes they do message if you catch their eye

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes they do. Well once or twice anyway

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

Yes of course we do. Occasionally I have a look at my saved search or the new members section and send out the odd message

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By *rimson_RoseWoman over a year ago

Tamworth

Yup! Sometimes on the back of a wink or a profile view, sometimes because I've spotted them around and about.

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By *idalgo13Man over a year ago

Near York

Yes to both your questions...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I do but its usually because of something they've said in the forums or chatrooms.

I dont tend to browse profiles or mail randoms.

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By *idalgo13Man over a year ago

Near York

"Yes they definitely do it's very rare though haha"

Absolutely

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By *opsy RogersWoman over a year ago

London

Yes, women send first messages.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have been known to message first

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By *DONToBEoNOSEYoMan over a year ago

wolverhampton

Yes they do

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've tried messaging guys and yes from couples profile,as feeling horny greedy lol to either be ignored or stood up lol ,but always with hubby involved and in the know

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I do occasionally XXX

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By *s_macWoman over a year ago

Traffic land

I do it rarely, but it has happened

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By *avenDebsCouple over a year ago

barton

my better half would she is as equal to me as i am to her simples

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Well I hope all you women that send the first message write something 'original' and not just hi, how are you? I know how some women hate that opening line haha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Happened to me 4 times now - two just a bit of chit chat that never went anywhere, one I'm in regular contact with now and will be meeting soon, and the most recent some unsolicited abuse so now blocked. Yes, us blokes get abused as well....!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Happened to me 4 times now - two just a bit of chit chat that never went anywhere, one I'm in regular contact with now and will be meeting soon, and the most recent some unsolicited abuse so now blocked. Yes, us blokes get abused as well....!"

Some of us like abuse though haha

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By *ugarboobs2009Couple over a year ago

chesterfield

I would send a first message to a guy but he would have to appeal to me by having a good profile for one,

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By *arehamMan over a year ago

handforth

Yes I’ve had two or three.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes they do, and always ackowledged, appreciated and responded to

In fact, having a rather nice sequence of messages with a local lady who messaged me first at the moment, that could well be leading to lots of fun

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes I send the first message ... if someone catches my eyes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am struggling to think of the last time that a woman actually messaged me first, do they still message guys first or just wait for a message to roll in from someone that catches their eye "

i do yes and i dont do winks either

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Very rarely. I tend to fab a pic and then see what happens

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By *lactontogMan over a year ago

Clacton on Sea

Yes i get women contact me & a large majority of my friends on here are women.

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By *urvymamaWoman over a year ago

Doncaster

Most of my meets have been either off the back of socials or from guys I've messaged after seeing something witty theyve said in forums or just because I think they look hot x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I get the odd first message from a lady but not very often. When I do it's usually in response to a forum post or something. It is what it is, I don't mind having to work for my lunch so to speak.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes

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By *aul1973HullMan over a year ago

East Hull

It's happened to me 4 times today, 3 higher than my previous record, I think its down to some unprecedented thread phenomenon that may never be repeated

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes I send the first message ... if someone catches my eyes

Throw your eye this way and I'll do me best to catch it x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes. The last three guys I've met from here I approached first. I'm very proactive

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By *eesideMan over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

"I am struggling to think of the last time that a woman actually messaged me first, do they still message guys first or just wait for a message to roll in from someone that catches their eye "

I've had the odd message related to forum threads and forum social threads just for a quik chat but never had a 1st message to do with meeting form sumone that wants to meet me.

That or thay got lost in translation to my in box

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By *uteness69Woman over a year ago

Walthamstow

I message men, often get rejected too.

Shock horror!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I message men, often get rejected too.

Shock horror!"

Behave rejected?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I message men, often get rejected too.

Shock horror!"

My in box is open......oooh eer matron

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By *ondon-guy68Man over a year ago

London

They do.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

quite often

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By *opsy RogersWoman over a year ago

London

"Well I hope all you women that send the first message write something 'original' and not just hi, how are you? I know how some women hate that opening line haha"

If a woman sends that sort of message, she's a bloke.

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By *uteness69Woman over a year ago

Walthamstow

I message men, often get rejected too.

Shock horror!

Behave rejected?

Yes, I can't be everyone's type.

Impossible.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have in the past that's how I met my friend

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I message men, often get rejected too.

Shock horror!

Behave rejected?

Yes, I can't be everyone's type.

Impossible. "
True although I still have trouble believing it

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By *eesideMan over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

I message men, often get rejected too.

Shock horror!"

Your messaging the rong men

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've never ever sent a first message.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Plenty do, I've had a good few message me first.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I message men, often get rejected too.

Shock horror!

Your messaging the rong men

This^

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By *iss.HoneyWoman over a year ago

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By *iss.HoneyWoman over a year ago

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"Yes I do. If I want someone I let them know.

I'm not going to make out I'm precious and people just fall into my lap

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've never ever sent a first message. "
but why?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

you dont go into a shop and wait for the assistant to bring something for you to try - you chooose for yourself - most of the time

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By *uteness69Woman over a year ago

Walthamstow

I message men, often get rejected too.

Shock horror!

Your messaging the rong men

Evidently _eeside.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yep! I've messaged some men first ... why not?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yep! I've messaged some men first ... why not?

Think you missed me out

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Its women (or couples) who approach me first... Always has been.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yep! I've messaged some men first ... why not?

Think you missed me out

Shall I put that right then?

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By *iss.HoneyWoman over a year ago

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"I've never ever sent a first message. but why? "

Maybe she didn't need to?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've never ever sent a first message. but why?

Maybe she didn't need to?"

Maybe

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

They do surely why would they not

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've sent first messages before - usually never get a reply

Same as winks - I've winked many a fabbers before and rarely hear back.

Easier to just chat to people in real life at clubs I find!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yep! I've messaged some men first ... why not?

Think you missed me out

Shall I put that right then?

I can't make you but YES sort it now lol (please) xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I am struggling to think of the last time that a woman actually messaged me first, do they still message guys first or just wait for a message to roll in from someone that catches their eye "
Yes I've had a few from them starting the convo

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yep I'm in the messaged first category

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes I do and why not? You don't ask .........

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes I used to. Met lots of people from mailing them first. I don't any more.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yep I'm in the messaged first category "

I think I remember that xx

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By *dam1971Man over a year ago

Bedford

Yes, sometimes they do. Although that’s usually for perv reasons

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I never dared to. Rejection makes me sad

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It doesn’t happen nearly enough as i would like

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

All the time when looking. I have blocked everyone so have to and have to say, its very successful, much more so than when I allowed guys to message me first.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If your profile is clear enough you shouldn't need to approach women first... They have a big pool to fish from so trust me, if you are what they are looking for, they will find you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yep! I've messaged some men first ... why not?

Think you missed me out

Shall I put that right then?

I can't make you but YES sort it now lol (please) xx"

Done!! ... but how come you didn't message ME?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I use to have my phone number in my profile, had a few meets thru that with girls messaging me first, also nutcases ringing and texting at all hours, thank God you can get a simcard for a quid

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

yes they do I get first messages from couple or singles but it's not always

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've sent a few, yes

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Happened to me once or twice, good way of doing things to be honest. Means I'm not wasting my time messaging people who wouldn't consider meeting me for whatever reason. It means from the get go I can just be my idiot self and have a laugh. Plus women tend to put a fair bit of thought in their messages which is a great start to knowing the kind of person they are. It's a win win for me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yep I'm in the messaged first category

I think I remember that xx

I think you're right

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yep I'm in the messaged first category

I think I remember that xx

I think you're right "

Yet I still haven't met you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I would only message first because of something said in the forums and not because I’m interested in meeting them.

I couldn’t message anyone first for a potential meet as most don’t have face pics up.

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By *eesideMan over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

I message men, often get rejected too.

Shock horror!

Your messaging the rong men

Evidently _eeside."

Not quit shor wot that meens lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've never ever sent a first message. but why? "

Two reasons:

1. Not meaning to sound big-headed at all but I literally receive hundreds of messages, even with my filters on so, plenty of choice.

2. The only guys I've looked at and thought "my God I'd love to", live too far away or I think are out of my League.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I've never ever sent a first message. but why?

Two reasons:

1. Not meaning to sound big-headed at all but I literally receive hundreds of messages, even with my filters on so, plenty of choice.

2. The only guys I've looked at and thought "my God I'd love to", live too far away or I think are out of my League. "

well its nice to know that you havent messaged because u think i am out of your league haha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I normally have everyone blocked, so if I want to talk to someone I have no choice but to message them myself.

A witty personality on the forums and a good detailed profile with lots of good photos does it for me.

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By *uteness69Woman over a year ago

Walthamstow

I message men, often get rejected too.

Shock horror!

Your messaging the rong men

Evidently _eeside.

Not quit shor wot that meens lol "

means you're obviously right

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've never ever sent a first message. but why?

Two reasons:

1. Not meaning to sound big-headed at all but I literally receive hundreds of messages, even with my filters on so, plenty of choice.

2. The only guys I've looked at and thought "my God I'd love to", live too far away or I think are out of my League. "

Makes sense

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

On the odd occasion I've been known to send a first message out

Doesn't always happen though

Sometimes when I see a status and find it funny so I send a message

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes I send the first message ... if someone catches my eyes

Throw your eye this way and I'll do me best to catch it x"

You are tad far away

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By *inful xWoman over a year ago

In a sleepy little village

Yes I do. Often get ignored too

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By * and M lookingCouple over a year ago

Worcester

Never message first to anyone

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By *eesideMan over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

I message men, often get rejected too.

Shock horror!

Your messaging the rong men

Evidently _eeside.

Not quit shor wot that meens lol

means you're obviously right "

R ok

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've never ever sent a first message. but why?

Two reasons:

1. Not meaning to sound big-headed at all but I literally receive hundreds of messages, even with my filters on so, plenty of choice.

2. The only guys I've looked at and thought "my God I'd love to", live too far away or I think are out of my League.

well its nice to know that you havent messaged because u think i am out of your league haha"

Way, way out of my little league!

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By *eesideMan over a year ago

margate sumwear by the sea

"I've never ever sent a first message. but why?

Two reasons:

1. Not meaning to sound big-headed at all but I literally receive hundreds of messages, even with my filters on so, plenty of choice.

2. The only guys I've looked at and thought "my God I'd love to", live too far away or I think are out of my League. "

question. And I'm.not being funny.

how can you tell thay are out of your league if you don't message ?

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

I've messaged first quite a few times - if I like the look of someone, there's nothing to lose really.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've messaged first quite a few times - if I like the look of someone, there's nothing to lose really. "

You didn't message me first.

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By *abs..Woman over a year ago

I’ve messaged first a couple of times and on both occasions it has worked out very well.

It’s just a bit scary doing it, which is why I’ve only done it twice

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By *ce WingerMan over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Yes OP, ladies do sometimes message first thankfully, it's only the same as being in a bar and a lady starts flirting with you. These things work both ways

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By *andybeachWoman over a year ago

In the middle

Yes I have in the past, mainly if they have posted something funny or they had a pic that I found particularly appealing

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By *ooby birdWoman over a year ago

North West

I've done it once it twice - it's not great though when you get a very polite answer that shows they are just not interested though.

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Yep had a few first messages from ladies...even some on this thread

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's shite how many women say they won't mail first because they can't handle rejection. Yet so many women take the piss out of men when they feel bad about getting no replies.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd always take it as a compliment to receive a first message. I'd always message back as well even if it's a no thank you. Manners cost nothing. I've sent a lot of first messages. I get some replies others get deleted it's part of the FAB world, we all have to suck it up and move on.

Sometimes a first message from a lady leads to a good friendship as well even if it's just from a forum game.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's shite how many women say they won't mail first because they can't handle rejection. Yet so many women take the piss out of men when they feel bad about getting no replies.

I just delete my sent mail as soon as its sent. If I get a reply then great, if not I won't lose any sleep. Its just an ignored message, no big deal.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's shite how many women say they won't mail first because they can't handle rejection. Yet so many women take the piss out of men when they feel bad about getting no replies.

They're not necessarily the same women.

I've been reminded about a first message to a guy. We'll never meet, and I knew that when I messaged, but I liked him too much not to tell him.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's shite how many women say they won't mail first because they can't handle rejection. Yet so many women take the piss out of men when they feel bad about getting no replies.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's shite how many women say they won't mail first because they can't handle rejection. Yet so many women take the piss out of men when they feel bad about getting no replies.

They're not necessarily the same women.

I've been reminded about a first message to a guy. We'll never meet, and I knew that when I messaged, but I liked him too much not to tell him."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i get the odd one or two but on the whole its us guys who start the messages first.

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By *iss.RedWoman over a year ago

somewhere

Yep

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've never ever sent a first message. but why?

Two reasons:

1. Not meaning to sound big-headed at all but I literally receive hundreds of messages, even with my filters on so, plenty of choice.

2. The only guys I've looked at and thought "my God I'd love to", live too far away or I think are out of my League.

question. And I'm.not being funny.

how can you tell thay are out of your league if you don't message ?

I look at their pics and the type of women they meet and just come to the conclusion I'm not super model enough nor pretty enough.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sometimes

It's usually forum related.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

hi all

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I do to other women

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By *hedark_knightMan over a year ago

Edinburgh

Had a few ladies message me first. So it does happen but very rarely. In my experience anyway

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Of course we do. The rarity factor is down to poor profile text and decent pictures.

Why men would think otherwise is beyond me, but judging by the men in my area they think that having a 1 line profile and no public pics is the way to entice women in, sadly judging from my homepage is doesn't seem to work out like that but they can never figure out why....

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"I've messaged first quite a few times - if I like the look of someone, there's nothing to lose really.

You didn't message me first.

I couldn't.

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

Not because I'm looking for a meet, no, never, but I might message someone to say something about a forum thread, no reason not to.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've messaged first quite a few times - if I like the look of someone, there's nothing to lose really.

You didn't message me first.

I couldn't.

Shush.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's shite how many women say they won't mail first because they can't handle rejection. Yet so many women take the piss out of men when they feel bad about getting no replies.

Have to agree with this completely

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes, women do message first and if your profile and attitude in forum and chat room catches their eye, they will approach men, not necessarily for a meet but may be even to pass on a appreciation about a guy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I message first if I'd like to explore the persona I've picked up from their profile or forum interactions further.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have had some lovely first messages from ladies, generally because of something I have said in the forums.

Sometimes it is even a random,but welcome compliment on my profile, which pleases me no end!

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By *ungBlackTopMan over a year ago

salford

I get loads of messages from verified female profiles all the time but I'm sure they are all men hahaha

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes ive had lots of lovely initial messages from fems and couples.

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By *adame BWoman over a year ago

C'est moi Boudoir

Yes, well I do and it's not always for personal gain. I sent a message to a guy today about his profile as it stood out.

Yesterday I sent a woman a message complimenting her shoes... it's a combination of what stands out to me, catches my eye or the mood I am in and sometimes I feel I need to send a message to convey this as a fab just doesn't cut it sometimes.

Madame Boo

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Yes, women do message first and if your profile and attitude in forum and chat room catches their eye, they will approach men, not necessarily for a meet but may be even to pass on a appreciation about a guy.

Exactly....nice tits......no hang on that's Joe!!!

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By *ticky_vikkiWoman over a year ago

Herts

I recently took the bull by the horns and sent my first message to a couple

I was terrified lol! Single men however don’t scare me and have sent quite a few ‘firsts’

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not because I'm looking for a meet, no, never, but I might message someone to say something about a forum thread, no reason not to.

Nice arse

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I doubt it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's shite how many women say they won't mail first because they can't handle rejection. Yet so many women take the piss out of men when they feel bad about getting no replies.

Have to agree with this completely

I knew I liked you for a reason

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By *s_bettyboopWoman over a year ago

-3

Yes I've sent a few out this week.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes we do might not be you though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes quite often

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Exactly....nice tits......no hang on that's Joe!!!

You perving lots

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By *ust PeachyWoman over a year ago

Prestonish

I occasionally perve at Male hot photos and send a message to a guy with a handsome face/great body!

Not necessarily with a view to meeting - just to let them know I like their picture!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's shite how many women say they won't mail first because they can't handle rejection. Yet so many women take the piss out of men when they feel bad about getting no replies.

Have to agree with this completely

I knew I liked you for a reason

I confess I do get a lot of messages which do go unanswered and I feel a bit mean sometimes but I have a full time job and just not time to reply - but I would never be unkind or take the piss out of those who don't get replies (unless of course the messages read "nice tits" or "wanna fuck" and absolutely nothing else

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Yes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I message first when I'm not being lazy.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I might get the odd one or two.

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By *rontier PsychiatristMan over a year ago

Coventry

Yes

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By *adame BWoman over a year ago

C'est moi Boudoir

"I might get the odd one or two."

How odd?

Madame Boo

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I might get the odd one or two.

How odd?

Madame Boo"

I know, anyone would think women like sex too!

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

Very rarely for me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes if we want a Guy

But is there a rationale or is it random ...perhaps there is no logic to it ...nontheless interesting

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Occasionally, off the back of a forum thread as opposed to browsing in general.

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By *eliciousladyWoman over a year ago

Sometimes U.K

Yes I have done, if the profile and/or pictures get my interest.

Although I'd never message those with certain profile names or avatars.

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By *rightonCheekyMan over a year ago

Brighton

I've had ladies message me first, both forum related and meet related and it's lovely when it happens. Even if it is just FAF

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"Not because I'm looking for a meet, no, never, but I might message someone to say something about a forum thread, no reason not to.

Nice arse

Yours is better than mine!

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By *ancs MinxWoman over a year ago

Burnley

More likely to fab a sexy pic than message, shyness kicks in at times.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"More likely to fab a sexy pic than message, shyness kicks in at times."

Or send a wink

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By *ancs MinxWoman over a year ago

Burnley

"More likely to fab a sexy pic than message, shyness kicks in at times.

Or send a wink

Well one is polite, when one recieves one

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"More likely to fab a sexy pic than message, shyness kicks in at times.

Or send a wink

Well one is polite, when one recieves one

Touché x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Always. Men are generally blocked

Occasionally I take the block off but it's rarely worth the effort!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

How many messages can a women on here expect to get?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How many messages can a women on here expect to get?"

If they don't block anyone, update status and photos, regularly moan on the forum that they get way too may messages and can't possibly (said in the voice of Cupid Stunt) reply to all ....

Hundreds! Sx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

When a lady fabs a pic of mine I don't tend to follow it up by messaging them. I work on the logic that if they wanted to message then they would have sent one and not just fabbed a pic, but reading this maybe that's a big mistake.

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By *ieman300Man over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

Always off the back of forum posts in my case. Never had a cold caller lol.

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By *ssexguy69Man over a year ago

thurrock Essex

Yes got s nice message today of a youngh lady .had bit of a chat .which was nice

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Always off the back of forum posts in my case. Never had a cold caller lol."

Well I missed my chance now ha!!

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By *ieman300Man over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

"When a lady fabs a pic of mine I don't tend to follow it up by messaging them. I work on the logic that if they wanted to message then they would have sent one and not just fabbed a pic, but reading this maybe that's a big mistake."

Classic damned if you do damned if you don't. If you sent a message thanking them for the fab you're fairly safe. They can either just ignore you or it breaks the ice.

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By *ieman300Man over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

"Always off the back of forum posts in my case. Never had a cold caller lol.

Well I missed my chance now ha!! "

Your a hot caller

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Classic damned if you do damned if you don't. If you sent a message thanking them for the fab you're fairly safe. They can either just ignore you or it breaks the ice."

True, but then I would be worried they might think I want to fuck them when in fact I am just being polite. Why has it got to be so damn complicated

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By *ieman300Man over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

Classic damned if you do damned if you don't. If you sent a message thanking them for the fab you're fairly safe. They can either just ignore you or it breaks the ice.

True, but then I would be worried they might think I want to fuck them when in fact I am just being polite. Why has it got to be so damn complicated

This is the same dilemma a lady faces when fabbing a pic in the first place. They may just think nice pic worthy of a fab and nothing more. But in the back of their mind pondering whether the chap will think instashag time if they do. Same with just looking at a profile. Its all mind games on here bud. Thing is if you thank them and they want to take it further and you don't, you just kindly tell them you aren't interested.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Classic damned if you do damned if you don't. If you sent a message thanking them for the fab you're fairly safe. They can either just ignore you or it breaks the ice.

True, but then I would be worried they might think I want to fuck them when in fact I am just being polite. Why has it got to be so damn complicated

It really is a minefield

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By *ieman300Man over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

Classic damned if you do damned if you don't. If you sent a message thanking them for the fab you're fairly safe. They can either just ignore you or it breaks the ice.

True, but then I would be worried they might think I want to fuck them when in fact I am just being polite. Why has it got to be so damn complicated

It really is a minefield"

Unlike a minefield nobody ever died from sending a message

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't particularly like to no.

But if it's a happy birthday message and such then yes I would. ..but for fancy a fuck messages..no.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Well I hope all you women that send the first message write something 'original' and not just hi, how are you? I know how some women hate that opening line haha"

Yes. It was in response to a wink. I read the prifile, commented directly about a couple of relevant bits, and gave a bit if info about me....

As all good messages should!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Classic damned if you do damned if you don't. If you sent a message thanking them for the fab you're fairly safe. They can either just ignore you or it breaks the ice.

True, but then I would be worried they might think I want to fuck them when in fact I am just being polite. Why has it got to be so damn complicated

It really is a minefield

Unlike a minefield nobody ever died from sending a message

Are you sure about that?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have messaged a few, when they have something on their profile that has appealed to me. It is how I got to meet my fwb a year ago

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By *ieman300Man over a year ago

Best Greggs in Cheshire East

Classic damned if you do damned if you don't. If you sent a message thanking them for the fab you're fairly safe. They can either just ignore you or it breaks the ice.

True, but then I would be worried they might think I want to fuck them when in fact I am just being polite. Why has it got to be so damn complicated

It really is a minefield

Unlike a minefield nobody ever died from sending a message

Are you sure about that?

Well i would hope not!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I once got one . July the 6th 2016 . 11 39 and 14 seconds . I think

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By *L RogueMan over a year ago

London

"I do it rarely, but it has happened "

I think this is true of most women on the site.

Logically, why message when you receive literally hundreds within days?

Couples are likely to be the exception as they probably choose their single males together.

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By *HaRiFMan over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

I've had the odd one off of em over the years. because they are so rare, it does tend to confuse me for a bit, have they sent it to the wrong person? is this a wind up? have they miss clicked, whats going on?, err what do I, do what do I do

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

When I was a noobie the first time a lady sent me an unsolicited message I thought she was a fake, made her send me a picture of herself with that days news paper in a specific pose just to prove she was real

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yes I've sent a few in the past

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