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What am I doing wrong

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Evening everyone.

I can't seem to get anywhere on this site, if anyone has any pointers or think they can help then I would really approcate it.

Thanks

Jamie

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By *icentiousCouple over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Don’t post a poor me.

I /we avoid negative people, who wants to socially me a miserable me, never mind take it a stage further.

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Decent profile so that's not it - pics aren't bad but would maybe benefit from adding some body shots.

At 26 you may be on the young side for some but there are plenty that that won't matter to.

Assuming any messages you send are respectful and tailored to the recipient, don't think it's so much what you're doing wrong as you're just one of many single guys looking and it takes time and patience - you've been here 9 weeks which in Fab terms is a nanosecond.

Try getting along to clubs and organised socials, or getting more involved in the forums, all of which are a good way of getting to know people and them getting to know you.

Good luck - you appear to have the right attitude and am sure it won't be long before that pays off

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By * SCARED x STIFF xCouple over a year ago

west midlands

I would say something similar, most people find confidence a turn on and not so much with the wallowing in self pity

the other thing might be your messages, are they engaging or one liners? Your pics are ok, a face pic will always give you better odds of finding interest

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Go and chat a woman up in a pub

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You need to post this on swinging support and advice.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Having exactly the same problem, I don't think I'm desperate or negative. Any pointers would be great

Thanks

Andy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Don’t post a poor me.

I /we avoid negative people, who wants to socially me a miserable me, never mind take it a stage further."

And i also say welcome to fabswingers too pmsl .

Never mind this grumpy post op

Fact is there's stacks of single guys on here, plus tbey act a tad badly at times..

Just chill n socialise on here

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Don’t post a poor me.

I /we avoid negative people, who wants to socially me a miserable me, never mind take it a stage further."

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

The guy is asking for advice, how is that negative?

In answer to your question OP, it may be your opening message you need to work on as your profile looks fine to me.

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By *rs and Mr PandoraCouple over a year ago

LUTTERWORTH

"Evening everyone.

I can't seem to get anywhere on this site, if anyone has any pointers or think they can help then I would really approcate it.

Thanks

Jamie "

You probably aren't my target audience but

Like the pics, handsome lad, tall, profile reads well

Good luck x

Pandora x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't see anything wrong with your profile.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I don't see anything wrong with your profile."

Better than mine! Ya fooka!

lol

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By *revaunanceCouple over a year ago

Exeter

Your profile is very well written and you have some nice pics.

So in the 9 weeks you have been on this site what have you done? How often have you been online and what have you been up to? You have made some use of the forum, but what about the chatroom? Mind you your forum posts say you were due to leave Cheltenham on 21 Sept, are you still there or have you moved on and haven't changed your location?

Have you been messaging people? It's probably a silly question to ask but you don't say. And if you have then were they local, and people that met your profile as you met theirs?

It's fair to say that most people join expecting endless sex whenever they want it, and then the reality bites. It can be hard work.

Just because people are online and looking for NSA sex, doesn't mean that they don't want to be attracted to you first.

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By *appy squirrelWoman over a year ago

Norwich

nothing wrong with the profile- if i am really picky I'd say it doesn't tell me much about what you are looking for meet wise. same with the pics- they are nice but body shots (not cock ones lol) would be good.

good luck though!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Evening everyone.

I can't seem to get anywhere on this site, if anyone has any pointers or think they can help then I would really approcate it.

Thanks

Jamie "

I soooo would if I lived in your local area x