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Are you an over thinker?
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I have to learn how to chill out and relax stop stressing about everything and anything.
I literally over think everything I do,ok it occasionally pay's off .
But tbh it probably causes me more stress than not
Anyone else managed to beat overthinking and learned to just Go with the flow? |
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I used to be like that until i adpoted the " fuck it" mantra
now all is grand, obviously dont take this attitude with your taxes or if the cat or dog shites in your kitchen ( i mean thats a genuine time to seriously think of give them a thunderous kick in the hole)
but other times, yea...."fuck it" is good |
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A good example is
Buying a New car.
I can't just decide to say I like this model or that.
It takes about 6 months of research going through litterly dozens of car's
Checking every statistic and review.
Then narrowing it down to two or three.
Then going over and over, what I have already read.
Only when I am completely satisfied that I am getting the best value,most reliable and trustworthy vehicle for our money will I consider it.
Honestly I have no idea how jools puts up with me, luckily she is my complete polar opposite and is so chilled out.
Otherwise I think she would have murdered me year's ago.lol |
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Perhaps we can start an over thinker support group.
For swinger's who overthink swinging?
We can sit down and chat about what could happen if we meet, and the hundreds of various scenarios that could Go wrong or right?
Obviously after we have spent 6 months deciding on an appropriate venue of course  |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
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Yes, but I am also good at telling myself to stop when necessary - or at least to mentally/emotionally step outside the overthinking and throw a little logical perspective on the thought so it doesn't end up consuming my imagination (for want of a better word). It's taken me time to be able to do that, but it makes me a much more chilled one. At least as far as anyone other than me can tell. I still allow myself an inertial thought wallow from time to time but the rational me steps in when needed to break the cycle. |
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over a year ago
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God yes I'm a terrible overthinker. My life is pretty complicated at times and I don't help myself by worrying about it all. Doesn't help that mr is as well x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Anyone else managed to beat overthinking and learned to just Go with the flow?"
I used to get stressed when I was younger. I still overthing things, but I can't stop my brain working the way it does. I distract it when I know I'm overthinking stuff I don't have power over. But normally, my overthinking serves me well. I can aply myself to something I've thought through etc. So yes, I kind of go with the flow but in my own way.
I like deep thinkers. I get along with overthinkers op.  |
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"Perhaps we can start an over thinker support group.
For swinger's who overthink swinging?
We can sit down and chat about what could happen if we meet, and the hundreds of various scenarios that could Go wrong or right?
Obviously after we have spent 6 months deciding on an appropriate venue of course "
We'd all be sat at home overthinking if attending a group is a good idea  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Normally just before sleep my brain likes to think of everything that could or should have happened, been said or done that day or previous days.
I'm not a worrier as such though, more a ponderer  |
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"One big overthinker here as well, but I'm trying to work on it
Ha, me too
Off topic but I’m overthinking naughty thoughts on that ass!
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I’m not quite sure how to take that emoji... good or bad? Lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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A few of my pathetic tips.
Only think in detail about things that you can control or are a direct threat to you.
What ifs will take you into another world if anxiety. Let someone else worry about then.
Keep a list of things you typically over think about. You mayou see a pattern emerge that requires a collective thought.
When all else fails, turn to wine! |
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I have ADHD my brain is constantly in fast forward mode, trying to process things, which ultimately leads to chaos.
I learnt making lists helps, once it's on paper it's out my head & I can stop over thinking issues |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I used to be
I've calmed down now I think from a different perspective. You can only control what you do - so worrying about things beyond your control is a waste of energy
The opportunity cost of overthinking is impacting what you can control in a positive way |
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I definitely am - over think, over analyse and over rethink. Aaaaaaand very literal at times. Took me 10mins to just write this!
Her is much more instinctive, shoot from the hip. Sometimes impulsive, equally sometimes saves a huge amount of grief as gets to the answer several millennia before I do.
I think that's what makes us work well together - we balance each other out to a sensible medium. Not so much opposite attract, as best of both worlds.
Hmm |
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"Perhaps we can start an over thinker support group. For swinger's who overthink swinging?
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Male half is a massive overthinker; luckily suits chosen career, but does hinder us in the swinging world, whereas Fem just wings everything!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My brain is constantly running at double speed. The one thing I don't over think or have anxiety over is my relationships. I keep them simple and uncomplicated. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'd love to say I'm not but the medication I'm on says otherwise.
Also reading this I'm now wondering if I am stressing too much about what I'm putting and overthinking if it's the right thing to do / say... /type.
And now overthinking about if I used the appropriate term for posting a thought... Shut up and click send boy! |
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"I'd love to say I'm not but the medication I'm on says otherwise.
Also reading this I'm now wondering if I am stressing too much about what I'm putting and overthinking if it's the right thing to do / say... /type.
And now overthinking about if I used the appropriate term for posting a thought... Shut up and click send boy!"
Did it take you about 20 minutes to do this? Because you were choosing each word carefully, to ensure you have the perfect word, to explain precisely whay you want it to mean, in context, without possibility of misinterpretations?
And then proof read it several times?
Having to refocus after each sentance? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No I don't over think things....
I'm more than happy too conclude my thoughts and opinions with an option to change my mind or too challenge those opinions at any time in the future...
For me its a matter of intellectual confidence  |
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"I'd love to say I'm not but the medication I'm on says otherwise.
Also reading this I'm now wondering if I am stressing too much about what I'm putting and overthinking if it's the right thing to do / say... /type.
And now overthinking about if I used the appropriate term for posting a thought... Shut up and click send boy!
Did it take you about 20 minutes to do this? Because you were choosing each word carefully, to ensure you have the perfect word, to explain precisely whay you want it to mean, in context, without possibility of misinterpretations?
And then proof read it several times?
Having to refocus after each sentance? "
That's what I do - and then by the time I've concocted something vaguely acceptable to my befuddled brain, the thread's moved on so far that everything I've typed is now kind of irrelevant and I end up deleting the bloody thing  I'd contribute a lot more to the forums if it wasn't for that sort of overthinking ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd love to say I'm not but the medication I'm on says otherwise.
Also reading this I'm now wondering if I am stressing too much about what I'm putting and overthinking if it's the right thing to do / say... /type.
And now overthinking about if I used the appropriate term for posting a thought... Shut up and click send boy!
Did it take you about 20 minutes to do this? Because you were choosing each word carefully, to ensure you have the perfect word, to explain precisely whay you want it to mean, in context, without possibility of misinterpretations?
And then proof read it several times?
Having to refocus after each sentance? "
I start writing sometimes, can't focus on what I'm trying to say, go on a waffle and delete it all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd love to say I'm not but the medication I'm on says otherwise.
Also reading this I'm now wondering if I am stressing too much about what I'm putting and overthinking if it's the right thing to do / say... /type.
And now overthinking about if I used the appropriate term for posting a thought... Shut up and click send boy!
Did it take you about 20 minutes to do this? Because you were choosing each word carefully, to ensure you have the perfect word, to explain precisely whay you want it to mean, in context, without possibility of misinterpretations?
And then proof read it several times?
Having to refocus after each sentance?
That's what I do - and then by the time I've concocted something vaguely acceptable to my befuddled brain, the thread's moved on so far that everything I've typed is now kind of irrelevant and I end up deleting the bloody thing I'd contribute a lot more to the forums if it wasn't for that sort of overthinking ..."
When I'm like that I write concise, blunt sentences. I still stress over spelling though.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have to learn how to chill out and relax stop stressing about everything and anything.
I literally over think everything I do,ok it occasionally pay's off .
But tbh it probably causes me more stress than not
Anyone else managed to beat overthinking and learned to just Go with the flow?"
We sound very similar. I overthink everything  |
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"I'd love to say I'm not but the medication I'm on says otherwise.
Also reading this I'm now wondering if I am stressing too much about what I'm putting and overthinking if it's the right thing to do / say... /type.
And now overthinking about if I used the appropriate term for posting a thought... Shut up and click send boy!
Did it take you about 20 minutes to do this? Because you were choosing each word carefully, to ensure you have the perfect word, to explain precisely whay you want it to mean, in context, without possibility of misinterpretations?
And then proof read it several times?
Having to refocus after each sentance?
That's what I do - and then by the time I've concocted something vaguely acceptable to my befuddled brain, the thread's moved on so far that everything I've typed is now kind of irrelevant and I end up deleting the bloody thing I'd contribute a lot more to the forums if it wasn't for that sort of overthinking ..."
It gets overwhelming sometimes doesn't it  |
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I do think that there is a certain wisdom in overthinking tho.
Let's face it great overthinkers in history are usually called philosophers so perhaps rather than being saddled with an over active thought process,we are blessed with a philosophical mind that carefully calculates and ponders the wonder's of the world?
That's one conclusion I am coming to anyway.
I'm sure I will be along soon with a different opinion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd love to say I'm not but the medication I'm on says otherwise.
Also reading this I'm now wondering if I am stressing too much about what I'm putting and overthinking if it's the right thing to do / say... /type.
And now overthinking about if I used the appropriate term for posting a thought... Shut up and click send boy!
Did it take you about 20 minutes to do this? Because you were choosing each word carefully, to ensure you have the perfect word, to explain precisely whay you want it to mean, in context, without possibility of misinterpretations?
And then proof read it several times?
Having to refocus after each sentance? "
No. Purely because I don't proof read. I used to all the time but I found it was becoming crippling to me  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes I am. I think about everything and every scenario to go with it. My worse time is when I am in bed. Ill be thinking did i blow out the candle, did I lock the door, did I lock the car etc. The worse part is the getting up serveral times to check even though I know I have. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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i used to...tied myself up in knots overthinking everything...maybe it's an age thing..i think in my case it is..but time has shown me that it's usually a complete waste of energy..i'm far more relaxed now... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i used to...tied myself up in knots overthinking everything...maybe it's an age thing..i think in my case it is..but time has shown me that it's usually a complete waste of energy..i'm far more relaxed now..."
Tying you self up in knots? Now that's a whole different thread lmao |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"i used to...tied myself up in knots overthinking everything...maybe it's an age thing..i think in my case it is..but time has shown me that it's usually a complete waste of energy..i'm far more relaxed now...
Tying you self up in knots? Now that's a whole different thread lmao"
And that idea sounds as lot better than overthinking  |
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