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Any body else struggling on this?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's tough for some single guys on here, OP. Is your profile as good as you can make it!? Also, are the messages you send out respectful? There might be a few things you could change. |
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"Seems like a chicken and egg scenario..
a lot of people wont meet someone without a meet verification,
So, how does one get verified ?
There are plenty of organised social events up and down the country. You need to make an effort to get out and about.
Clunge and friendships don't get posted through your letterbox. We ain't flat Stanley ya know
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Its difficult to find the perfect time with life bubbling away in the real world "
I agree with this but with planning some delicious things can be arranged and the excitement builds whilst you're navigating the real world!!  |
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"Is anyone else a struggling to get a meet?
Yes. We're struggling to meet a female.
Message us ladies. "
Would think club nights would be a good place for you. Especially when it's couples and single fem only nights.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Seems like a chicken and egg scenario..
a lot of people wont meet someone without a meet verification,
So, how does one get verified ?
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Go to a social. It gets you verified and also starts to build contacts. Everyone who is on here that is verified started without any verifications.
Focus entirely on not being verified and you risk missing the entire point. |
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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago
Wherever the party is! |
"Seems like a chicken and egg scenario..
a lot of people wont meet someone without a meet verification,
So, how does one get verified ?
Go to a social. It gets you verified and also starts to build contacts. Everyone who is on here that is verified started without any verifications.
Focus entirely on not being verified and you risk missing the entire point."
I came to fuck, not get verified.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Seems like a chicken and egg scenario..
a lot of people wont meet someone without a meet verification,
So, how does one get verified ?
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Go to a club maybe |
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By *lan157Man
over a year ago
a village near Haywards Heath in East Sussex |
Realistically you should assume you are not going to get any meets through sending messages as its just to difficult for many reasons. Get along to a social and talk to fellow swingers. They will then have met you and if they are interested in you as a person then they may well contact you and then it all starts for you. You play and because every one had a good time and say so you get further meets and contacts. Your network builds over time . |
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There loads of help o the forum but the bottom line is
Your profile is your shop window to sell yourself ... step back look at it yourself as an outsider
Would you go in or walk by to the next one?
Are your marketing posters interesting or do you have blackout blinds up.
Is the blurb telling you the good points and what the product offers or does it read negatively that it's not for for the job worse say nothing to identify it's uses!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have thought about clubs but it does not really appeal to us.
Mrs 2 "
Clubs are a safe, clean and great way of meeting new couples to social and play with. |
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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago
Wherever the party is! |
"Realistically you should assume you are not going to get any meets through sending messages as its just to difficult for many reasons. Get along to a social and talk to fellow swingers. They will then have met you and if they are interested in you as a person then they may well contact you and then it all starts for you. You play and because every one had a good time and say so you get further meets and contacts. Your network builds over time ."
Hey! You sir are now BANNED from the Magic Circle!  |
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"Yes, but maybe it's because we are choosy 
Head to a club as the others have said.
If you have a personality you will have a far better chance as the people in there will be on the same page."
P.s. Was only kidding on the struggling to get a meet bit, sorry OP |
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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago
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"Yes, but maybe it's because we are choosy
Head to a club as the others have said.
If you have a personality you will have a far better chance as the people in there will be on the same page.
P.s. Was only kidding on the struggling to get a meet bit, sorry OP"
Are the number of meets that a swinger has directly proportionate to the quality of their sense of humour?
We must study this hypothesis...IMMEDIATELY!  |
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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"We have thought about clubs but it does not really appeal to us.
Mrs 2
Clubs are a safe, clean and great way of meeting new couples to social and play with. "
They probably are.
We prefer to meet 1 on 1 so to speak in a pub for social so that we can get know who we're meeting. Rather than a crowd or others interupting the convo which may or may not happen in a club.
Maybe at some point we will go to a club.
Mr2
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By *ransGuyTV/TS
over a year ago
Cardiff |
The only thing I struggle with is finding the time and energy to meet guys, got a lot going on at the moment.
For those who struggle, maybe have a closer look at how you are "selling" yourself. Your profile is the first impression you give, is it a great one, a good one, or does it show you can't be arsed? You have a LOT of competition on this site, you won't get far if you don't bother making an effort to attract anyone. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We have thought about clubs but it does not really appeal to us.
Mrs 2
Clubs are a safe, clean and great way of meeting new couples to social and play with.
They probably are.
We prefer to meet 1 on 1 so to speak in a pub for social so that we can get know who we're meeting. Rather than a crowd or others interupting the convo which may or may not happen in a club.
Maybe at some point we will go to a club.
Mr2
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I suppose everyone is different. Myself I would find it more stressful doing it your way, I would be more nervous that one of my mates would walk in the same pub.
StackS |
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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago
Birmingham |
"We have thought about clubs but it does not really appeal to us.
Mrs 2
Clubs are a safe, clean and great way of meeting new couples to social and play with.
They probably are.
We prefer to meet 1 on 1 so to speak in a pub for social so that we can get know who we're meeting. Rather than a crowd or others interupting the convo which may or may not happen in a club.
Maybe at some point we will go to a club.
Mr2
I suppose everyone is different. Myself I would find it more stressful doing it your way, I would be more nervous that one of my mates would walk in the same pub.
StackS"
You're quite right, everyone is different and everyone has their own way of doing things.
One of your friends could also turn up in the club.
We tend to meet where we don't know anyone. The anticipation and nerves can make it more fun. Tends to be that those who we have met have been just as nervous as they don't know us just as we don't know them. Apart from what has been said in messages.
With a club, yes you can arrange to meet their but could be in the same position as you don't know who is inside or what they are like.
I think possibly in a club could be more awkward with someone if you don't want to play with them. Wheeas in a pub it's just social. |
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By *ilk_TreMan
over a year ago
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"We have thought about clubs but it does not really appeal to us.
Mrs 2
Clubs are a safe, clean and great way of meeting new couples to social and play with.
They probably are.
We prefer to meet 1 on 1 so to speak in a pub for social so that we can get know who we're meeting. Rather than a crowd or others interupting the convo which may or may not happen in a club.
Maybe at some point we will go to a club.
Mr2
I suppose everyone is different. Myself I would find it more stressful doing it your way, I would be more nervous that one of my mates would walk in the same pub.
StackS
You're quite right, everyone is different and everyone has their own way of doing things.
One of your friends could also turn up in the club.
We tend to meet where we don't know anyone. The anticipation and nerves can make it more fun. Tends to be that those who we have met have been just as nervous as they don't know us just as we don't know them. Apart from what has been said in messages.
With a club, yes you can arrange to meet their but could be in the same position as you don't know who is inside or what they are like.
I think possibly in a club could be more awkward with someone if you don't want to play with them. Wheeas in a pub it's just social."
With all due respect, I think you should go to a club before you post anything more about them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"We have thought about clubs but it does not really appeal to us.
Mrs 2
Clubs are a safe, clean and great way of meeting new couples to social and play with.
They probably are.
We prefer to meet 1 on 1 so to speak in a pub for social so that we can get know who we're meeting. Rather than a crowd or others interupting the convo which may or may not happen in a club.
Maybe at some point we will go to a club.
Mr2
I suppose everyone is different. Myself I would find it more stressful doing it your way, I would be more nervous that one of my mates would walk in the same pub.
StackS
You're quite right, everyone is different and everyone has their own way of doing things.
One of your friends could also turn up in the club.
We tend to meet where we don't know anyone. The anticipation and nerves can make it more fun. Tends to be that those who we have met have been just as nervous as they don't know us just as we don't know them. Apart from what has been said in messages.
With a club, yes you can arrange to meet their but could be in the same position as you don't know who is inside or what they are like.
I think possibly in a club could be more awkward with someone if you don't want to play with them. Wheeas in a pub it's just social."
Funny you mentioned that one of my mates did walk into the club and I nearly died but mom's the word as he doesn't want the lads to know what his upto either.
Happy swinging
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By *wo4FemCouple
over a year ago
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"We have thought about clubs but it does not really appeal to us.
Mrs 2
Clubs are a safe, clean and great way of meeting new couples to social and play with.
They probably are.
We prefer to meet 1 on 1 so to speak in a pub for social so that we can get know who we're meeting. Rather than a crowd or others interupting the convo which may or may not happen in a club.
Maybe at some point we will go to a club.
Mr2
I suppose everyone is different. Myself I would find it more stressful doing it your way, I would be more nervous that one of my mates would walk in the same pub.
StackS
You're quite right, everyone is different and everyone has their own way of doing things.
One of your friends could also turn up in the club.
We tend to meet where we don't know anyone. The anticipation and nerves can make it more fun. Tends to be that those who we have met have been just as nervous as they don't know us just as we don't know them. Apart from what has been said in messages.
With a club, yes you can arrange to meet their but could be in the same position as you don't know who is inside or what they are like.
I think possibly in a club could be more awkward with someone if you don't want to play with them. Wheeas in a pub it's just social.
Funny you mentioned that one of my mates did walk into the club and I nearly died but mom's the word as he doesn't want the lads to know what his upto either.
Happy swinging
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Ha ha. Not happened to us yet. If someone we know sees us and asks about who we are with we'll just friends from work.
Hapoy swinging to you too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yes, finding it difficult to find someone local who doesn't just want a one off or quick lunchtime fuck. I can go without sex now, I'm getting used to it more and more. I've even grown a bush as not anticipating a shag anytime soon |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes, finding it difficult to find someone local who doesn't just want a one off or quick lunchtime fuck. I can go without sex now, I'm getting used to it more and more. I've even grown a bush as not anticipating a shag anytime soon "
The bush of defeat |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes, finding it difficult to find someone local who doesn't just want a one off or quick lunchtime fuck. I can go without sex now, I'm getting used to it more and more. I've even grown a bush as not anticipating a shag anytime soon "
i dont understand why as im pretty sure sex gets better the more you do it with someone |
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Here's an interesting thought. I looked at the guys pics on the top fabbed. Even tho ladies liked the pics they still had few if any veris. Just goes to show that it's not easy for any guys even the fit, well endowed buggers |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is anyone else a struggling to get a meet? "
Its not easy, not by any means. Have had plenty of chats and then things fizzle out.
Whats also annoying is when you recieve wink and you take time to message them and get sweet FA back.
Its hard mate, very hard but you just have to keep plugging away and try not to take it too personally. It will eat you up and batter confidence. Head up mate, you definietely aren't alone in struggling to meet
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