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first major "abuse"
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So today I had my first dose of major abuse in here and it really knocked my for six - it was really personal and from someone who had chatted to me for a long time really.
It knocked my confidence somewhat but I think maybe having chatted to some lovely ladies and gents about it I will be OK.
Hopefully if it happens again I'll be more prepared but wow! How horrible  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Just posted on another thread there's nothing worse than keyboard warriors. Its not pleasant but its also not your problem, delete, block and move on...plenty of decent nice people on here  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Just posted on another thread there's nothing worse than keyboard warriors. Its not pleasant but its also not your problem, delete, block and move on...plenty of decent nice people on here "
Yes I'm finding this - especially support for something like this.
Thanks x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think I read through my messages thoroughly enough to see if any one is being mean. I just scroll past the 'so!' Or '??????' Straight to the people I like  |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
Northampton Somewhere |
Don't let it get to you! You'll always get people who get shitty for whatever reason...just block but make sure you report them to |
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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago
All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest |
"So today I had my first dose of major abuse in here and it really knocked my for six - it was really personal and from someone who had chatted to me for a long time really.
It knocked my confidence somewhat but I think maybe having chatted to some lovely ladies and gents about it I will be OK.
Hopefully if it happens again I'll be more prepared but wow! How horrible "
I'm sorry to hear. I find your posts quite pleasant and good natured. There is no justification for abuse. It's a clear sign of someone not empathetic and we don't need those. Just sent a PM. |
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Ouch. I can understand why you feel knocked back if you've been chatting for a while. That's pretty vile really if you've trusted them to an extent, worse than from an idiot you don't know  |
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Aah minxy
I get shitty messages everyday, just posted about one on another thread, but I just block, report, delete.
But they're from strangers,I can laugh them off, getting one from soneone you tonight you knew, that's harsh & unfair
Sending you a big hug xx |
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By *uzzy NavelWoman
over a year ago
so near and yet so far.... |
"So today I had my first dose of major abuse in here and it really knocked my for six - it was really personal and from someone who had chatted to me for a long time really.
It knocked my confidence somewhat but I think maybe having chatted to some lovely ladies and gents about it I will be OK.
Hopefully if it happens again I'll be more prepared but wow! How horrible "
Awww hugs xx
It takes courage to post, as a everyone else says, block and move on, not nice though xx |
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By *a72Man
over a year ago
london |
Sorry to hear this happened to you. There's no excuse for treating anyone on here like that. As some others have said block and move on that person obviously has a lot of issues not your fault. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I know exactly how you feel that's why my profile is hidden now |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As posted above its their issue,nobody should really take on the issues of others...easy to say of course when not the subject of abuse. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Minxy, you know my feelings about it and him. Report, block and delete, then don't give him another thought. He's obviously not the man you thought and better to find out now before you've met him. X |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't think I read through my messages thoroughly enough to see if any one is being mean. I just scroll past the 'so!' Or '??????' Straight to the people I like "
This guy had been very nice to me for somewhere around 8/9 weeks  |
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Appalling behaviour. We've always felt that chatting over a period of time is a very good way of establishing what sort of person we're dealing with. It's not foolproof by any means but the OP has just discovered that the person she was chatting to was not what they first appeared. Better to find this out at this stage than later so yes it is horrible and unforgivable but at least she didn't that person into her life and find out too late.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't think I read through my messages thoroughly enough to see if any one is being mean. I just scroll past the 'so!' Or '??????' Straight to the people I like
This guy had been very nice to me for somewhere around 8/9 weeks "
Oh that's really not nice, at least you found him out eventually though. Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't think I read through my messages thoroughly enough to see if any one is being mean. I just scroll past the 'so!' Or '??????' Straight to the people I like
This guy had been very nice to me for somewhere around 8/9 weeks "
Why has he suddenly turned nasty and abusive?
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It's always a good idea to report abusive messages. |
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By *hloevtTV/TS
over a year ago
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"Just posted on another thread there's nothing worse than keyboard warriors. Its not pleasant but its also not your problem, delete, block and move on...plenty of decent nice people on here
Yes I'm finding this - especially support for something like this.
Thanks x"
Chin up hun.. And for a positive... Your photos are great and you have an amazing body.. More nice people on here than orid ones.. Just listen to the nice ones and keep looking gorgeous. X |
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By *ineMan
over a year ago
In cave behind a waterfall on a hill |
Delete block forget move on.
If they think they have got to you or upset you then they will do it more
And if they are behind a keyboard it's just pixels...
I know it's unpleasant but the fkwits are...i hope..a minority here... |
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When you read a message and it becomes abusive, just stop reading, delete it and block the writer if you want.
Don't waste your time thinking about it at all, just smile and read a positive message instead. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Did it come from you not doing things .? I had something like this from a person I new for years .. Because I would not do the things he was asking me to do. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thanks so much for all the fab (gettit?!) input ... he changed because I hinted in a status that I might have something planned and he didn't appreciate that it wasn't him (!!!) but having read all of your input, having a chat with a "friend" and having a word with myself I will be better prepared if it happens again and will just block the wanker lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Just posted on another thread there's nothing worse than keyboard warriors. Its not pleasant but its also not your problem, delete, block and move on...plenty of decent nice people on here
Yes I'm finding this - especially support for something like this.
Thanks x
Chin up hun.. And for a positive... Your photos are great and you have an amazing body.. More nice people on here than orid ones.. Just listen to the nice ones and keep looking gorgeous. X"
Thanks very much
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By *eeBee67Man
over a year ago
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Minxy
Cant believe people resort to personal abuse I dread to think what they are like in real life.
Just be grateful you didnt find out in real life.
PS
Your pics are stunning |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What do people get out of abusive comments |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Unfortunately that happens from time to time. As others have noted, it's better to have happened here and not IRL.
Keyboards and screens make people brave. Try not to let it hold you back.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thanks so much for all the fab (gettit?!) input ... he changed because I hinted in a status that I might have something planned and he didn't appreciate that it wasn't him (!!!) but having read all of your input, having a chat with a "friend" and having a word with myself I will be better prepared if it happens again and will just block the wanker lol "
Did you report his abusive mail? |
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"Just posted on another thread there's nothing worse than keyboard warriors. Its not pleasant but its also not your problem, delete, block and move on...plenty of decent nice people on here
Yes I'm finding this - especially support for something like this.
Thanks x"
I did post this on another thread minxy but I hope him and his hand are very happy.
What a stupid git he is!
Stick with us nice folk. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's just pixels on a screen.
If you delete it and block them it goes away, no need to even read it if you get the jist in the preview you see in yellow box.
Don't take it seriously |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So today I had my first dose of major abuse in here and it really knocked my for six - it was really personal and from someone who had chatted to me for a long time really.
It knocked my confidence somewhat but I think maybe having chatted to some lovely ladies and gents about it I will be OK.
I hope youre ok now.Its always worse when it comes from a friend.x
Hopefully if it happens again I'll be more prepared but wow! How horrible "
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