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By *eeside OP Man
over a year ago
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Wot do you do wen you fill you are loosing your grip on hope and you find your thinking to your self....
Y bother......
Wots the point......
Y keep trying.......
Ect......
Ect......
I've had thes thorts befor but all ways bounced back up agen.
But this time i just can't see the lite......
Wot do you do to re lite the fire. ?
No stupid comments I've had a VERRY long stressy day.
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How many hours a week do you work Seeside? I was listening to something on the radio last week about how much stress chefs are under and how many suffer because of it.
Would talking to a doctor help? |
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If you're talking about a lack of 'success' in Fab Seeside, don't stress over it mate. This place really isn't all there is to life, it's just a giggle, and should not be taken seriously. Put your profile on hide, and have a month off from it, see how you feel then. You may find you can actually live without this place, and may even bump in to a saucy chick in the 'ordinary' world. Chin up mate, it's not that bad, really  |
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By *eeside OP Man
over a year ago
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"How many hours a week do you work Seeside? I was listening to something on the radio last week about how much stress chefs are under and how many suffer because of it.
Would talking to a doctor help?"
It's not work that has triggad this.....
If anything work took my mind off it.
But on average 9 hours a day and so far its been 8-9 days strate in a Verry hi speed environment.
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By *eeside OP Man
over a year ago
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"what made you bounce back before and why isn't it now, do you know?"
Normally music...
Songs like
Titanium
Or
Wot don't kill you makes you stronger.....
And stuff like that.
But this time thay arnt working...
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over a year ago
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If you can find some "me" time, try and escape the rat race and put your mind in neutral, go for a walk, enjoy the simple pleasures.
I crashed and burned in a spectacular a few years back, twas a very dark place.
Councilling and support from professionals got me back on track. Even now I am still starting to rediscover the old "real" me instead of the coping facade.
No shame in asking for help mate. Do it before you end up in hospital. |
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By *eeside OP Man
over a year ago
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"If you're talking about a lack of 'success' in Fab Seeside, don't stress over it mate. This place really isn't all there is to life, it's just a giggle, and should not be taken seriously. Put your profile on hide, and have a month off from it, see how you feel then. You may find you can actually live without this place, and may even bump in to a saucy chick in the 'ordinary' world. Chin up mate, it's not that bad, really "
This is a off fab in the real world thing...... |
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Good evening _eeside,
sorry to hear you're feeling down, I have times like that too and nothing seems to give me hope, but then something just clicks and its a whole new day.
You're fab friends are here for you.
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By *eeside OP Man
over a year ago
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"If you can find some "me" time, try and escape the rat race and put your mind in neutral, go for a walk, enjoy the simple pleasures.
I crashed and burned in a spectacular a few years back, twas a very dark place.
Councilling and support from professionals got me back on track. Even now I am still starting to rediscover the old "real" me instead of the coping facade.
No shame in asking for help mate. Do it before you end up in hospital."
Mite try a long cost walk tomorrow.
To late today..... |
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"How many hours a week do you work Seeside? I was listening to something on the radio last week about how much stress chefs are under and how many suffer because of it.
Would talking to a doctor help?
It's not work that has triggad this.....
If anything work took my mind off it.
But on average 9 hours a day and so far its been 8-9 days strate in a Verry hi speed environment.
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That's not too bad in your profession.
Talking helps, Do you have someone you can confide in? |
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By *DontExistWoman
over a year ago
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"what made you bounce back before and why isn't it now, do you know?
Normally music...
Songs like
Titanium
Or
Wot don't kill you makes you stronger.....
And stuff like that.
But this time thay arnt working...
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ok. music can affect your emotions. sounds like whatever is bothering you isn't manageable right now. this might not be a problem, depends how long it goes on for.
we can't cope all the time, new stressors (or old ones) can cause us to not be able to cope. do you know what's stressing you and if you can do anything about it?
i can PM you if you like.
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By *eeside OP Man
over a year ago
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"Good evening _eeside,
sorry to hear you're feeling down, I have times like that too and nothing seems to give me hope, but then something just clicks and its a whole new day.
You're fab friends are here for you.
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That's the thing....
That something just clicks use to just be a cupall of hours or so then i wood bounce back up in like 2-3 hours.
But this time.......
Up to 16 hours in the dumps so far and counting.
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By *eeside OP Man
over a year ago
margate sumwear by the sea |
"How many hours a week do you work Seeside? I was listening to something on the radio last week about how much stress chefs are under and how many suffer because of it.
Would talking to a doctor help?
It's not work that has triggad this.....
If anything work took my mind off it.
But on average 9 hours a day and so far its been 8-9 days strate in a Verry hi speed environment.
That's not too bad in your profession.
Talking helps, Do you have someone you can confide in?"
Don't no wot confide meens but probley not. |
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By *eeside OP Man
over a year ago
margate sumwear by the sea |
"what made you bounce back before and why isn't it now, do you know?
Normally music...
Songs like
Titanium
Or
Wot don't kill you makes you stronger.....
And stuff like that.
But this time thay arnt working...
ok. music can affect your emotions. sounds like whatever is bothering you isn't manageable right now. this might not be a problem, depends how long it goes on for.
we can't cope all the time, new stressors (or old ones) can cause us to not be able to cope. do you know what's stressing you and if you can do anything about it?
i can PM you if you like.
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do you know what's stressing you ....yes but really don't want to talk about it.........
can do anything about it? No |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Chin up lovely Seeside. No one can keep a true tigger down. Get that walk under your belt and listen to some banging tunes. You can do this. I always tell myself don't let the bar stewards get you down x |
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By *eeside OP Man
over a year ago
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"Chin up lovely Seeside. No one can keep a true tigger down. Get that walk under your belt and listen to some banging tunes. You can do this. I always tell myself don't let the bar stewards get you down x"
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"How many hours a week do you work Seeside? I was listening to something on the radio last week about how much stress chefs are under and how many suffer because of it.
Would talking to a doctor help?
It's not work that has triggad this.....
If anything work took my mind off it.
But on average 9 hours a day and so far its been 8-9 days strate in a Verry hi speed environment.
That's not too bad in your profession.
Talking helps, Do you have someone you can confide in?
Don't no wot confide meens but probley not."
Sorry. I mean someone you can talk to privately who won't go telling other people what you say. |
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By *eeside OP Man
over a year ago
margate sumwear by the sea |
"How many hours a week do you work Seeside? I was listening to something on the radio last week about how much stress chefs are under and how many suffer because of it.
Would talking to a doctor help?
It's not work that has triggad this.....
If anything work took my mind off it.
But on average 9 hours a day and so far its been 8-9 days strate in a Verry hi speed environment.
That's not too bad in your profession.
Talking helps, Do you have someone you can confide in?
Don't no wot confide meens but probley not.
Sorry. I mean someone you can talk to privately who won't go telling other people what you say. "
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"Good evening _eeside,
sorry to hear you're feeling down, I have times like that too and nothing seems to give me hope, but then something just clicks and its a whole new day.
You're fab friends are here for you.
That's the thing....
That something just clicks use to just be a cupall of hours or so then i wood bounce back up in like 2-3 hours.
But this time.......
Up to 16 hours in the dumps so far and counting.
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You could just be having an off day, a good night's sleep may be all you need.
My downs last month's. |
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By *eeside OP Man
over a year ago
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"Good evening _eeside,
sorry to hear you're feeling down, I have times like that too and nothing seems to give me hope, but then something just clicks and its a whole new day.
You're fab friends are here for you.
That's the thing....
That something just clicks use to just be a cupall of hours or so then i wood bounce back up in like 2-3 hours.
But this time.......
Up to 16 hours in the dumps so far and counting.
You could just be having an off day, a good night's sleep may be all you need.
My downs last month's."
Mabey....
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By *DontExistWoman
over a year ago
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"what made you bounce back before and why isn't it now, do you know?
Normally music...
Songs like
Titanium
Or
Wot don't kill you makes you stronger.....
And stuff like that.
But this time thay arnt working...
ok. music can affect your emotions. sounds like whatever is bothering you isn't manageable right now. this might not be a problem, depends how long it goes on for.
we can't cope all the time, new stressors (or old ones) can cause us to not be able to cope. do you know what's stressing you and if you can do anything about it?
i can PM you if you like.
do you know what's stressing you ....yes but really don't want to talk about it.........
can do anything about it? No"
ok, thought so. and it's fine you don't want to talk about it.
not sure what you do now.
i'm doing a CBT course online. it's supposed to help you manage your feelings (i actually felt angry for the first time ever last week, i snapped at someone lol) so that works i think. and help you with the way you think.
i got referred by my doctor, they give you leaflets with information and you call a number and someone talks to you and tells you what they offer. i chose online coz it's suits my concentration.
do you think something like that would help you? they also have groups what you can go to and meet other people, and it's not like you have to be open with them, you just go to learn coping techniques. think they had other stuff too but that's all i could remember. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I always remind myself that it's just like a dark cloud, and clouds always pass. You WILL feel better soon, you always do, just this time might take a little longer.
Have a walk and some fresh air, something nice to eat, and go easy on yourself.
Sending positive thoughts |
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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago
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"Wot do you do wen you fill you are loosing your grip on hope and you find your thinking to your self....
Y bother......
Wots the point......
Y keep trying.......
Ect......
Ect......
I've had thes thorts befor but all ways bounced back up agen.
But this time i just can't see the lite......
Wot do you do to re lite the fire. ?
No stupid comments I've had a VERRY long stressy day.
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Honestly I get them often
I look at what I have
I walk the dog
And carry on
Or have a good old cry and reevaluate.
Bog hugs _eeside.dont let life bring you down. You come across as a lovely person and we are here if you want a chat x |
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By *ak777Man
over a year ago
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hiya sir i had a breakdown like mr monkey got help after seeing the right doctor who had a breakdown him self ,some doctor are use less,i.m feeling very low at the moment but now know it will get better ,i will be thinking about you tonight and hope you feel better . |
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By *eeside OP Man
over a year ago
margate sumwear by the sea |
"what made you bounce back before and why isn't it now, do you know?
Normally music...
Songs like
Titanium
Or
Wot don't kill you makes you stronger.....
And stuff like that.
But this time thay arnt working...
ok. music can affect your emotions. sounds like whatever is bothering you isn't manageable right now. this might not be a problem, depends how long it goes on for.
we can't cope all the time, new stressors (or old ones) can cause us to not be able to cope. do you know what's stressing you and if you can do anything about it?
i can PM you if you like.
do you know what's stressing you ....yes but really don't want to talk about it.........
can do anything about it? No
ok, thought so. and it's fine you don't want to talk about it.
not sure what you do now.
i'm doing a CBT course online. it's supposed to help you manage your feelings (i actually felt angry for the first time ever last week, i snapped at someone lol) so that works i think. and help you with the way you think.
i got referred by my doctor, they give you leaflets with information and you call a number and someone talks to you and tells you what they offer. i chose online coz it's suits my concentration.
do you think something like that would help you? they also have groups what you can go to and meet other people, and it's not like you have to be open with them, you just go to learn coping techniques. think they had other stuff too but that's all i could remember."
Don't no.
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By *eeside OP Man
over a year ago
margate sumwear by the sea |
"I always remind myself that it's just like a dark cloud, and clouds always pass. You WILL feel better soon, you always do, just this time might take a little longer.
Have a walk and some fresh air, something nice to eat, and go easy on yourself.
Sending positive thoughts "
That's the thing.
That's normally my normal vue.
But this time.....
It's not the same and seems darker to..... |
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By *eeside OP Man
over a year ago
margate sumwear by the sea |
"Wot do you do wen you fill you are loosing your grip on hope and you find your thinking to your self....
Y bother......
Wots the point......
Y keep trying.......
Ect......
Ect......
I've had thes thorts befor but all ways bounced back up agen.
But this time i just can't see the lite......
Wot do you do to re lite the fire. ?
No stupid comments I've had a VERRY long stressy day.
Honestly I get them often
I look at what I have
I walk the dog
And carry on
Or have a good old cry and reevaluate.
Bog hugs _eeside.dont let life bring you down. You come across as a lovely person and we are here if you want a chat x"
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By *eeside OP Man
over a year ago
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"hiya sir i had a breakdown like mr monkey got help after seeing the right doctor who had a breakdown him self ,some doctor are use less,i.m feeling very low at the moment but now know it will get better ,i will be thinking about you tonight and hope you feel better . "
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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago
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"Wot do you do wen you fill you are loosing your grip on hope and you find your thinking to your self....
Y bother......
Wots the point......
Y keep trying.......
Ect......
Ect......
I've had thes thorts befor but all ways bounced back up agen.
But this time i just can't see the lite......
Wot do you do to re lite the fire. ?
No stupid comments I've had a VERRY long stressy day.
Honestly I get them often
I look at what I have
I walk the dog
And carry on
Or have a good old cry and reevaluate.
Bog hugs _eeside.dont let life bring you down. You come across as a lovely person and we are here if you want a chat x
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Big hugs x
You're stronger than you think x x |
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By *DontExistWoman
over a year ago
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"Don't no.
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maybe give it a try when you're ready. seriously consider it. you deserve help and it's there for you if you choose to take it.
they do offer many different things and you can choose what you think is best for you. if it doesn't work they will let you try something else.
i don't want to go the medication route as i have genuine reasons for my problems. i'm now able to start working towards solving some of them. |
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"Don't no.
maybe give it a try when you're ready. seriously consider it. you deserve help and it's there for you if you choose to take it.
they do offer many different things and you can choose what you think is best for you. if it doesn't work they will let you try something else.
i don't want to go the medication route as i have genuine reasons for my problems. i'm now able to start working towards solving some of them."
I've done online CBT before and had 1to1 counselling sessions, they are nothing to be worried or ashamed about _eeside. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Seeside, you are a highly well like person and well respected person on the fab forums. We all hate seeing you like this. These lot on here are a great bunch of people and most of the folks here will help you if they can. We are all here for you should you need us.
I was at a very low point a while ago and some of the people in the forum was so helpful and listened to me and gave me some great advice.
Sometime it good to just chat to someone who doesn't know you personally.
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"Don't no.
maybe give it a try when you're ready. seriously consider it. you deserve help and it's there for you if you choose to take it.
they do offer many different things and you can choose what you think is best for you. if it doesn't work they will let you try something else.
i don't want to go the medication route as i have genuine reasons for my problems. i'm now able to start working towards solving some of them."
I'm doing Talking Therapies at the moment. The online course called Silvercloud. |
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"Seeside, you are a highly well like person and well respected person on the fab forums. We all hate seeing you like this. These lot on here are a great bunch of people and most of the folks here will help you if they can. We are all here for you should you need us.
I was at a very low point a while ago and some of the people in the forum was so helpful and listened to me and gave me some great advice.
Sometime it good to just chat to someone who doesn't know you personally.
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Seeside, you come across as a great bloke, my tip is not to let things fester.
There is some excellent advice on this thread for you mate.
My main input would be for you to realise your self worth.
When you get chance, do something you really enjoy and make a day just about you. |
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We all have them days unfortunately. For me personally, I like to put on a pair of headphones, lay on my sofa, close my eyes and just ignore the whole fucking world for an hour or 2.
or, depending on the problem, just tackle it head on and get it sorted one way or another
Hope you get your head sorted mate. And don't leave fab, you often post a lot of positive threads on here, be a shame to see you go |
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By (user no longer on site)
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My advice op is to seek face to face advice, I worked in psychiatry for many years...yes there are phone contacts like samaritans etc, but seek professional help(just dont let them dictate)(its a joint partnership!)...I'm in the middle of anti-psych and pro-psych advice.
Luckily you arent a single female...otherwise you would be getting lots of TLC shoulders to cry on that are as fake as fuck... |
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Sorry to hear man. I find that the best way to feel better is to find someone in a very bad situation and help them. Speak encouraging words to someone else who is feeling down and out. This unlocks that inner optimist we can't find when we're down. Try it and you'll be surprised what's inside of you. |
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By *eeside OP Man
over a year ago
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"We all have them days unfortunately. For me personally, I like to put on a pair of headphones, lay on my sofa, close my eyes and just ignore the whole fucking world for an hour or 2.
or, depending on the problem, just tackle it head on and get it sorted one way or another
Hope you get your head sorted mate. And don't leave fab, you often post a lot of positive threads on here, be a shame to see you go"
That's the thing.....
Opshoun 1 won't work as it won't go away.....
Opshoun 2 meens risking loosing atm 2 good friends.... |
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"Sorry to hear man. I find that the best way to feel better is to find someone in a very bad situation and help them. Speak encouraging words to someone else who is feeling down and out. This unlocks that inner optimist we can't find when we're down. Try it and you'll be surprised what's inside of you. "
Doing something nice for somebody does make you feel better, even if it's just giving a couple of quid to a homeless person. |
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By *DontExistWoman
over a year ago
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"Sorry to hear man. I find that the best way to feel better is to find someone in a very bad situation and help them. Speak encouraging words to someone else who is feeling down and out. This unlocks that inner optimist we can't find when we're down. Try it and you'll be surprised what's inside of you.
Doing something nice for somebody does make you feel better, even if it's just giving a couple of quid to a homeless person."
unless you're already always doing things for other people. then doing nice things for yourself could help. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Try to get a number for the Samaritans mate, near where you live.
They are confidential and will listen as long as you want to talk.
Sometimes it's just a lot of thoughts that are rishing and swirling in your mind. Talking to a kind and understanding person might help you order them and "box" away the not so nice thoughts.
Hope you feel better soon my friend |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sorry to hear man. I find that the best way to feel better is to find someone in a very bad situation and help them. Speak encouraging words to someone else who is feeling down and out. This unlocks that inner optimist we can't find when we're down. Try it and you'll be surprised what's inside of you.
Doing something nice for somebody does make you feel better, even if it's just giving a couple of quid to a homeless person.
unless you're already always doing things for other people. then doing nice things for yourself could help."
Yeah, in this case it's the words that are important, not so much doing something nice. Reaching down into oneself to discover and excavate words of hope and inspiration that will shift your mental cosmos. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=AhT_wusAyoc
I hope you're feeling a bit better today xxx
.... Nop."
I'm sorry to hear that.
I know you said you heard something that you wished you hadn't.
Are you sure you've heard the whole story and not just one side of the story?
Can you talk to your friends that this is about? |
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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago
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Big hugs x
You're stronger than you think x x
That's the line I use, ironically the ex wife kept telling me that when I had a breakdown after she left me."
It's not a line, not from me anyway.
People are stronger than they think, I know I was and am but life can be pretty shitty at times and you have to find ways to cope with it.
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By *adame BWoman
over a year ago
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Sorry to hear you are going through this op. Virtual hugs to you.
It's a dark lonely place to be. You have taken the first step in sharing here. Share what you are feeling with someone you know. It really helps. Talk to your GP also as they will have a list of what is available for you locally. In between... keep the music playing. It's a priceless therapy. Best of luck and keep posting. Fab community behind you
Madame Boo x |
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By *eeside OP Man
over a year ago
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"https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=AhT_wusAyoc
I hope you're feeling a bit better today xxx
.... Nop.
I'm sorry to hear that.
I know you said you heard something that you wished you hadn't.
Are you sure you've heard the whole story and not just one side of the story?
Can you talk to your friends that this is about?"
No its the fall storey........
I thort i had a lady Frend.......
Long distance....
Nown her for over 5 years...
No nuthing has happound butreen us but she has allways been hinting and teezing.....
Hints my litall bit of hope.....
Turns out she is just using me as a excuse for her to come down to Margate for other resouns.....
I'm just plan B to wast time wen her fb is busy........
5 years and its just been 1 big lie.....
And to make things worce her fb is/ wos a mate of mine. Hoo now keeps rubbing it in and taking the piss over it....... |
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over a year ago
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"Sorry to hear man. I find that the best way to feel better is to find someone in a very bad situation and help them. Speak encouraging words to someone else who is feeling down and out. This unlocks that inner optimist we can't find when we're down. Try it and you'll be surprised what's inside of you. "
I like that.
I've got no ideas, sorry. Hugs for OP and everyone that needs one. x |
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Big hugs x
You're stronger than you think x x
That's the line I use, ironically the ex wife kept telling me that when I had a breakdown after she left me.
It's not a line, not from me anyway.
People are stronger than they think, I know I was and am but life can be pretty shitty at times and you have to find ways to cope with it.
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I agree completely.
By line I meant as a response to somebody going through a hard time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I feel your pain. Did she understand how you felt? If she didn't, you must forgive her, she might not have known the heartache that could come of it.
If it was clear you wanted more than just flirting, then it's a little heartless. Your best off without anything happening anyway. Imagine if you were further in with her?
Chin up dude. Time heals, I can reassure you that! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=AhT_wusAyoc
I hope you're feeling a bit better today xxx
.... Nop.
I'm sorry to hear that.
I know you said you heard something that you wished you hadn't.
Are you sure you've heard the whole story and not just one side of the story?
Can you talk to your friends that this is about?
No its the fall storey........
I thort i had a lady Frend.......
Long distance....
Nown her for over 5 years...
No nuthing has happound butreen us but she has allways been hinting and teezing.....
Hints my litall bit of hope.....
Turns out she is just using me as a excuse for her to come down to Margate for other resouns.....
I'm just plan B to wast time wen her fb is busy........
5 years and its just been 1 big lie.....
And to make things worce her fb is/ wos a mate of mine. Hoo now keeps rubbing it in and taking the piss over it......."
Absolute bastards!!! Cut off contact with them both. What the hell is wrong with some people??! (I mean them not you.) |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=AhT_wusAyoc
I hope you're feeling a bit better today xxx
.... Nop.
I'm sorry to hear that.
I know you said you heard something that you wished you hadn't.
Are you sure you've heard the whole story and not just one side of the story?
Can you talk to your friends that this is about?
No its the fall storey........
I thort i had a lady Frend.......
Long distance....
Nown her for over 5 years...
No nuthing has happound butreen us but she has allways been hinting and teezing.....
Hints my litall bit of hope.....
Turns out she is just using me as a excuse for her to come down to Margate for other resouns.....
I'm just plan B to wast time wen her fb is busy........
5 years and its just been 1 big lie.....
And to make things worce her fb is/ wos a mate of mine. Hoo now keeps rubbing it in and taking the piss over it......."
So your mate knew you liked her and that she was leading you on whilst they were fb's already?
Seeside, you are so much better than them.
Please don't waste any more time or effort on such cruel people.
I wish I could give you a hug and join you for a Coke in Margate xxx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=AhT_wusAyoc
I hope you're feeling a bit better today xxx
.... Nop.
I'm sorry to hear that.
I know you said you heard something that you wished you hadn't.
Are you sure you've heard the whole story and not just one side of the story?
Can you talk to your friends that this is about?
No its the fall storey........
I thort i had a lady Frend.......
Long distance....
Nown her for over 5 years...
No nuthing has happound butreen us but she has allways been hinting and teezing.....
Hints my litall bit of hope.....
Turns out she is just using me as a excuse for her to come down to Margate for other resouns.....
I'm just plan B to wast time wen her fb is busy........
5 years and its just been 1 big lie.....
And to make things worce her fb is/ wos a mate of mine. Hoo now keeps rubbing it in and taking the piss over it......."
Jeez sorry to here that _eeside...what a pair of twats.
I hope they are not on the forums (don't name them if they are) But pure c**ts  |
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By *DontExistWoman
over a year ago
•+• Silicon valley. •+• |
i don't think you need mental health help with this, it's normal to become depressed by something like that.
now you have the truth you've got to cling onto that. the pain is your brain telling you something is wrong.
i just hope neither of them continue to mess with your head now and try to talk shit to you again. |
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By *eeside OP Man
over a year ago
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"Is there anything you like to do Seeside, that will take your mind off it?
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I've all redey tryed my mane thing that normally helps....
A Long walk on the cost on my own....
But its not worked.
Work mite but that's not till Monday nite.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is there anything you like to do Seeside, that will take your mind off it?
I've all redey tryed my mane thing that normally helps....
A Long walk on the cost on my own....
But its not worked.
Work mite but that's not till Monday nite.
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A walk is good but I bet you just kept thinking about it in your mind all the time.
What about going to the cinema so that you've got something else to occupy your mind completely? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is there anything you like to do Seeside, that will take your mind off it?
I've all redey tryed my mane thing that normally helps....
A Long walk on the cost on my own....
But its not worked.
Work mite but that's not till Monday nite.
A walk is good but I bet you just kept thinking about it in your mind all the time.
What about going to the cinema so that you've got something else to occupy your mind completely?"
Not being funny but have you tried to watch a film when your minds in a whirl...it never works for me.
It just takes time to get it out of your head imo |
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By *eeside OP Man
over a year ago
margate sumwear by the sea |
"Is there anything you like to do Seeside, that will take your mind off it?
I've all redey tryed my mane thing that normally helps....
A Long walk on the cost on my own....
But its not worked.
Work mite but that's not till Monday nite.
A walk is good but I bet you just kept thinking about it in your mind all the time.
What about going to the cinema so that you've got something else to occupy your mind completely?"
Nuthing out worth watching atm... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Wot do you do wen you fill you are loosing your grip on hope and you find your thinking to your self....
Y bother......
Wots the point......
Y keep trying.......
Ect......
Ect......
I've had thes thorts befor but all ways bounced back up agen.
But this time i just can't see the lite......
Wot do you do to re lite the fire. ?
No stupid comments I've had a VERRY long stressy day.
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I don't see u as a stressed guy at all, I see your sense of humour on ur post..  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is there anything you like to do Seeside, that will take your mind off it?
I've all redey tryed my mane thing that normally helps....
A Long walk on the cost on my own....
But its not worked.
Work mite but that's not till Monday nite.
A walk is good but I bet you just kept thinking about it in your mind all the time.
What about going to the cinema so that you've got something else to occupy your mind completely?
Not being funny but have you tried to watch a film when your minds in a whirl...it never works for me.
It just takes time to get it out of your head imo "
I suppose everyone is different. I've found watching some easy watching film has helped me forget any shit going on in my life for a while. |
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"Is there anything you like to do Seeside, that will take your mind off it?
I've all redey tryed my mane thing that normally helps....
A Long walk on the cost on my own....
But its not worked.
Work mite but that's not till Monday nite.
A walk is good but I bet you just kept thinking about it in your mind all the time.
What about going to the cinema so that you've got something else to occupy your mind completely?
Nuthing out worth watching atm..."
Any DVD's at home you can watch? Don't watch Star Wars as you know it's a load of rubbish  |
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By *DontExistWoman
over a year ago
•+• Silicon valley. •+• |
you don't need to forget anything. i'm guessing your brain has a lot to figure out at the moment?
maybe if you have questions, like why they did this, how to protect yourself against it happening again, etc. you could google about those. you will find a lot of sensible answers.
but there's probably things you can't ever work out, especially because they lied. when you don't know all the facts you can't work something out, you can only use the facts you have now.
that's why people lie, so you can't figure them out, so they can hide their true selves and people will remain oblivious. |
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By *eeside OP Man
over a year ago
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"Is there anything you like to do Seeside, that will take your mind off it?
I've all redey tryed my mane thing that normally helps....
A Long walk on the cost on my own....
But its not worked.
Work mite but that's not till Monday nite.
A walk is good but I bet you just kept thinking about it in your mind all the time.
What about going to the cinema so that you've got something else to occupy your mind completely?
Nuthing out worth watching atm...
Any DVD's at home you can watch? Don't watch Star Wars as you know it's a load of rubbish "
Star wors is not rubbish....
And thanks for that.
That just made me smile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=AhT_wusAyoc
I hope you're feeling a bit better today xxx
.... Nop.
I'm sorry to hear that.
I know you said you heard something that you wished you hadn't.
Are you sure you've heard the whole story and not just one side of the story?
Can you talk to your friends that this is about?
No its the fall storey........
I thort i had a lady Frend.......
Long distance....
Nown her for over 5 years...
No nuthing has happound butreen us but she has allways been hinting and teezing.....
Hints my litall bit of hope.....
Turns out she is just using me as a excuse for her to come down to Margate for other resouns.....
I'm just plan B to wast time wen her fb is busy........
5 years and its just been 1 big lie.....
And to make things worce her fb is/ wos a mate of mine. Hoo now keeps rubbing it in and taking the piss over it......."
After 5 years of talking with no plans being made you can't really think anything was going to happen between you both.
Cut them both out of your life now and don't allow yourself to be used like that again. |
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By *eeside OP Man
over a year ago
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"you don't need to forget anything. i'm guessing your brain has a lot to figure out at the moment?
maybe if you have questions, like why they did this, how to protect yourself against it happening again, etc. you could google about those. you will find a lot of sensible answers.
but there's probably things you can't ever work out, especially because they lied. when you don't know all the facts you can't work something out, you can only use the facts you have now.
that's why people lie, so you can't figure them out, so they can hide their true selves and people will remain oblivious."
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By *eeside OP Man
over a year ago
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"https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=AhT_wusAyoc
I hope you're feeling a bit better today xxx
.... Nop.
I'm sorry to hear that.
I know you said you heard something that you wished you hadn't.
Are you sure you've heard the whole story and not just one side of the story?
Can you talk to your friends that this is about?
No its the fall storey........
I thort i had a lady Frend.......
Long distance....
Nown her for over 5 years...
No nuthing has happound butreen us but she has allways been hinting and teezing.....
Hints my litall bit of hope.....
Turns out she is just using me as a excuse for her to come down to Margate for other resouns.....
I'm just plan B to wast time wen her fb is busy........
5 years and its just been 1 big lie.....
And to make things worce her fb is/ wos a mate of mine. Hoo now keeps rubbing it in and taking the piss over it.......
After 5 years of talking with no plans being made you can't really think anything was going to happen between you both.
Cut them both out of your life now and don't allow yourself to be used like that again. "
It wos Mor than just talking but i see your point. |
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"Is there anything you like to do Seeside, that will take your mind off it?
I've all redey tryed my mane thing that normally helps....
A Long walk on the cost on my own....
But its not worked.
Work mite but that's not till Monday nite.
A walk is good but I bet you just kept thinking about it in your mind all the time.
What about going to the cinema so that you've got something else to occupy your mind completely?
Nuthing out worth watching atm...
Any DVD's at home you can watch? Don't watch Star Wars as you know it's a load of rubbish
Star wors is not rubbish....
And thanks for that.
That just made me smile."
I'm glad it made you smile  
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This may sound a little strange but when I. Down seaside I listen to deep moody songs ...songs that have a meaning to me ,makes me think of the friends I've lost along the way and that I'm lucky I'm still here
Your a top bloke ,not been on your posts for a while but in truth not been on here that much
I feel your pain as others do,on a site full of mischief you my friend are a beacon of light ....your entitled to feel down that human nature ,just don't let it take a hold of you ...feel free to drop me an inbox if you want to scream it out pal
Stay strong ..stay you pal x |
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Well I'm normally mild mannered... but in this instance the pair of shits... especially if both parties knew you had feelings...
Especially the guy trying to rub your nose in it.. you have shown great restraint and that speaks volumes of you.
Cut them adrift, you don't need such headfuckery... walk tall... put it down to experience and continue to be yourself.
There are others not as bastard-like about. |
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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago
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Seaside.
Recently you had 'a new hope' and sorted out the new job.
These two people do not seem worth The Phantom Menace it is causing you, only you can let The Force Awaken you
Hope I haven't interrupted your movie marathon.
Chin up Seeside |
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Im really pleased by the expressions of concern and love that are being shown here for _eeside, it just goes to show how well liked he is, and considered a friend to many.
You're a special guy _eeside |
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By *eeside OP Man
over a year ago
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"Seaside.
Recently you had 'a new hope' and sorted out the new job.
These two people do not seem worth The Phantom Menace it is causing you, only you can let The Force Awaken you
Hope I haven't interrupted your movie marathon.
Chin up Seeside "
Thanks
This made me smile to. |
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I hope you are feeling less down now. You are much loved on the forums and hopefully seeing how much people care will cheer you up a bit.
I would cut the 2 that hurt you right out of your life, no more contact with either of them. Do things that make you happy and soon you will be feeling happier. Its normal to feel down when being treated like they have treated you but dont let them win.
Good luck x |
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By *eeside OP Man
over a year ago
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"I hope you are feeling less down now. You are much loved on the forums and hopefully seeing how much people care will cheer you up a bit.
I would cut the 2 that hurt you right out of your life, no more contact with either of them. Do things that make you happy and soon you will be feeling happier. Its normal to feel down when being treated like they have treated you but dont let them win.
Good luck x
Thanks.
And I'm filling a bit better..
Got called in to work short notice so it took my mind of things...
Still not filling grate thoe but the 10 tun led wate on my hed seems to have gon if that makes sence....."
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"I hope you are feeling less down now. You are much loved on the forums and hopefully seeing how much people care will cheer you up a bit.
I would cut the 2 that hurt you right out of your life, no more contact with either of them. Do things that make you happy and soon you will be feeling happier. Its normal to feel down when being treated like they have treated you but dont let them win.
Good luck x
Thanks.
And I'm filling a bit better..
Got called in to work short notice so it took my mind of things...
Still not filling grate thoe but the 10 tun led wate on my hed seems to have gon if that makes sence....."
Thats good |
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I compare thr positives with the negatives, of myself or a situation.
And I take steps to support myself, emotionally or practically, that may lift any burden from me. Keeping life simple, less stuff that may bother or take energy is good. Take small steps to improve things - not huge steps as they could overwhelm and burn you out.
Find and contact people who are good for you and ask for what you may need.
Exercise, eat well and get plenty of good rest. |
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