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By *ikeC81 OP Man
over a year ago
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I was wondering if anyone finds that with parents over the age of 55 that they clearly do not listen or absorb anything that you tell them
Told parents this morning I have to be up at 5am tommorow just seen message from mother - can you show me how to use windows and laptop this evening if your not doing anything
Clearly had not absorbed that I have bags to pack and be up stupidly early. It isn't the first time, I tell them other things and they just don't absorb info
Sometimes I question myself have I told them stuff.
Maybe they are getting old  |
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I feel your pain! Any technical things I have taught my mum, like when the remote control doesn't work change the batteries and put them in the right way round, I have taught her hundred of times and she never takes it in  |
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over a year ago
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"I was wondering if anyone finds that with parents over the age of 55 that they clearly do not listen or absorb anything that you tell them
Told parents this morning I have to be up at 5am tommorow just seen message from mother - can you show me how to use windows and laptop this evening if your not doing anything
Clearly had not absorbed that I have bags to pack and be up stupidly early. It isn't the first time, I tell them other things and they just don't absorb info
Sometimes I question myself have I told them stuff.
Maybe they are getting old "
Im a parent over the age of 55 and i notice that you told them you have to be up early but you dont seem to have told them that you are doing anything specific in the evening so i dont see anything wrong with your mums messege. Plus im up stupidly early every morning but still do loads of stuff in the evening  |
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"I feel your pain! Any technical things I have taught my mum, like when the remote control doesn't work change the batteries and put them in the right way round, I have taught her hundred of times and she never takes it in "
I would guess that she taught you how to sit up, walk, feed yourself, use the loo, wash, etc etc and i bet she had to teach you each thing many times over |
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"I was wondering if anyone finds that with parents over the age of 55 that they clearly do not listen or absorb anything that you tell them
Told parents this morning I have to be up at 5am tommorow just seen message from mother - can you show me how to use windows and laptop this evening if your not doing anything
Clearly had not absorbed that I have bags to pack and be up stupidly early. It isn't the first time, I tell them other things and they just don't absorb info
Sometimes I question myself have I told them stuff.
Maybe they are getting old "
Don't forget, they went through the same things with you. When they taught you to walk, read and write, even to feed yourself.
I know it can be annoying, but they won't be around for ever. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can't imagine how you'd be if your parents got 'Lewy bodies Dementia', last time I saw my mother she asked who I was, I said Paul, her response was "My son's called Paul, do you know him?""
I know how you feel. My mum has alzheimers. She doesnt always know me. Shes mostly confused, aggresive, violent, upset. |
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"I can't imagine how you'd be if your parents got 'Lewy bodies Dementia', last time I saw my mother she asked who I was, I said Paul, her response was "My son's called Paul, do you know him?"
I know how you feel. My mum has alzheimers. She doesnt always know me. Shes mostly confused, aggresive, violent, upset. "
Mines bed bound and hallucinates as well. |
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Being a parent who is over 55 with parents who are over 90 I will say this.
Parents have things to think about other than their adult children and frequently will forget what they've been told since we are no longer the centre of their universe.
Having said this we are currently helping my parents get used to Windows 10. Despite me leaving the password in front of the monitor my mum consistently typed the incorrect one and we havehad to drive 30 minutes to discover this... |
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By *ANDA2Couple
over a year ago
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"I was wondering if anyone finds that with parents over the age of 55 that they clearly do not listen or absorb anything that you tell them
Told parents this morning I have to be up at 5am tommorow just seen message from mother - can you show me how to use windows and laptop this evening if your not doing anything
Clearly had not absorbed that I have bags to pack and be up stupidly early. It isn't the first time, I tell them other things and they just don't absorb info
Sometimes I question myself have I told them stuff.
Maybe they are getting old "
They are just getting their own back when as a child you/ we didn't listen to them.
How many parents say ' children never listen ' |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Arnt you lucky to have your parents around you. Make the most of your time together, even the annoying bits. You never know if that will be your last moment with them |
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By *ikeC81 OP Man
over a year ago
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"I feel your pain! Any technical things I have taught my mum, like when the remote control doesn't work change the batteries and put them in the right way round, I have taught her hundred of times and she never takes it in
I would guess that she taught you how to sit up, walk, feed yourself, use the loo, wash, etc etc and i bet she had to teach you each thing many times over "
Doh yes this is true
TBH I had assumed that getting up 5am would mean that I wanted to have a quiet non engaging vegetating evening, which is what I normally have but I think she just forgot
To the person that asked me to stop moaning about my mum, can I say I actually nearly lost her twice once when she I was 15, and again 4 years ago. I was at the hospital every day when she was ill, and never moaned or complained once!!!!!!,
Any time she is ill or in hospital, I drop everything and go with out question or asking can someone else go!, I was running the house at 15 looking after an 11 year old when dad was on the piss, and mum was away converlessing - mum trusts me to make sure the doctors treat her well
also some of you are not strangers, yes strangers to my mum but not to me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Arnt you lucky to have your parents around you. Make the most of your time together, even the annoying bits. You never know if that will be your last moment with them"
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"I feel your pain! Any technical things I have taught my mum, like when the remote control doesn't work change the batteries and put them in the right way round, I have taught her hundred of times and she never takes it in
I would guess that she taught you how to sit up, walk, feed yourself, use the loo, wash, etc etc and i bet she had to teach you each thing many times over
Doh yes this is true
TBH I had assumed that getting up 5am would mean that I wanted to have a quiet non engaging vegetating evening, which is what I normally have but I think she just forgot
To the person that asked me to stop moaning about my mum, can I say I actually nearly lost her twice once when she I was 15, and again 4 years ago. I was at the hospital every day when she was ill, and never moaned or complained once!!!!!!,
Any time she is ill or in hospital, I drop everything and go with out question or asking can someone else go!, I was running the house at 15 looking after an 11 year old when dad was on the piss, and mum was away converlessing - mum trusts me to make sure the doctors treat her well
also some of you are not strangers, yes strangers to my mum but not to me. "
lots of us moan about our parents. Mine exasperate me and I need to get it off my chest now and again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Arnt you lucky to have your parents around you. Make the most of your time together, even the annoying bits. You never know if that will be your last moment with them
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was wondering if anyone finds that with parents over the age of 55 that they clearly do not listen or absorb anything that you tell them
Told parents this morning I have to be up at 5am tommorow just seen message from mother - can you show me how to use windows and laptop this evening if your not doing anything
Clearly had not absorbed that I have bags to pack and be up stupidly early. It isn't the first time, I tell them other things and they just don't absorb info
Sometimes I question myself have I told them stuff.
Maybe they are getting old "
Wait until you hit late 40's/early 50's then you will know the answer to your question !!!!!!!!!!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We were their future...
Perhaps they reach a point where their past is where their happy memories are...
Even when they no longer connect with the present.... |
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"I feel your pain! Any technical things I have taught my mum, like when the remote control doesn't work change the batteries and put them in the right way round, I have taught her hundred of times and she never takes it in
I would guess that she taught you how to sit up, walk, feed yourself, use the loo, wash, etc etc and i bet she had to teach you each thing many times over
Doh yes this is true
TBH I had assumed that getting up 5am would mean that I wanted to have a quiet non engaging vegetating evening, which is what I normally have but I think she just forgot
To the person that asked me to stop moaning about my mum, can I say I actually nearly lost her twice once when she I was 15, and again 4 years ago. I was at the hospital every day when she was ill, and never moaned or complained once!!!!!!,
Any time she is ill or in hospital, I drop everything and go with out question or asking can someone else go!, I was running the house at 15 looking after an 11 year old when dad was on the piss, and mum was away converlessing - mum trusts me to make sure the doctors treat her well
also some of you are not strangers, yes strangers to my mum but not to me. "
''Twas I that asked you to stop moaning about your mum. It sounded like you were having a right moan about the lady! Please consider the people on here who have lost their mums. No doubt there were times when you were young and didn't do as she told you to. Now it's pay back... |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"Arnt you lucky to have your parents around you. Make the most of your time together, even the annoying bits. You never know if that will be your last moment with them"
I can't wait til mine die. We didn't all have blissful childhoods, and being beholden to an old bat who can't work out her TV remote just because she managed to give birth to me is a bit galling.
Some people over 50 manage to integrate themselves in the information age, others cherish their ignorance. I hope I'm one of the former. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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At one point, you were the centre of their universe and no doubt made huge sacrifices to give you the life you have and the opportunities.
It is a shame that in our culture we have become so self centred that we find our parents a burden. Look at eastern culture where elders are revered and looked after. Are we any better off for losing that?
I'll stop there before I rant and get banned...
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum |
"In reality I think the OP thought it would be a lighthearted thread where people had little moans about aged parents.
#itsallgonepearshaped  "
I think it started with the guilt tripping. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In reality I think the OP thought it would be a lighthearted thread where people had little moans about aged parents.
#itsallgonepearshaped
I think it started with the guilt tripping."
You beat me to it.
It's similar to threads where parents have a gripe about their kids ~ can guarantee someone will say you're lucky to have them. |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"In reality I think the OP thought it would be a lighthearted thread where people had little moans about aged parents.
#itsallgonepearshaped "
I think so too, it will touch a nerve for those who have lost a parent/s, but I'm sure he didn't mean it that way. |
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"At one point, you were the centre of their universe and no doubt made huge sacrifices to give you the life you have and the opportunities.
It is a shame that in our culture we have become so self centred that we find our parents a burden. Look at eastern culture where elders are revered and looked after. Are we any better off for losing that?
I'll stop there before I rant and get banned...
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I haven't seen one person on this thread say their parents are a burden let alone the op.
I moan like mad about my parents because caring for them can be flaming tough and I need to let it out. My father can be really grumpy and my mum manipulative but they're never a burden. |
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"In reality I think the OP thought it would be a lighthearted thread where people had little moans about aged parents.
#itsallgonepearshaped
I think so too, it will touch a nerve for those who have lost a parent/s, but I'm sure he didn't mean it that way. "
I've lost a parent and tbh it hasn't touched a nerve for me because I can relate to what he is referring too.
Just because you moan about someone doesn't mean you don't love them. |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"At one point, you were the centre of their universe and no doubt made huge sacrifices to give you the life you have and the opportunities.
It is a shame that in our culture we have become so self centred that we find our parents a burden. Look at eastern culture where elders are revered and looked after. Are we any better off for losing that?
I'll stop there before I rant and get banned...
I haven't seen one person on this thread say their parents are a burden let alone the op.
I moan like mad about my parents because caring for them can be flaming tough and I need to let it out. My father can be really grumpy and my mum manipulative but they're never a burden."
You are right and it is tough. Lost my dear Mum last year and now looking after my dad and it is difficult sometimes, but as I say to him, he put up with me for 20 years and took me in at 40 when I left my husband and had nowhere to go, so I am happy to put up with his little foibles |
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"At one point, you were the centre of their universe and no doubt made huge sacrifices to give you the life you have and the opportunities.
It is a shame that in our culture we have become so self centred that we find our parents a burden. Look at eastern culture where elders are revered and looked after. Are we any better off for losing that?
I'll stop there before I rant and get banned...
I haven't seen one person on this thread say their parents are a burden let alone the op.
I moan like mad about my parents because caring for them can be flaming tough and I need to let it out. My father can be really grumpy and my mum manipulative but they're never a burden.
You are right and it is tough. Lost my dear Mum last year and now looking after my dad and it is difficult sometimes, but as I say to him, he put up with me for 20 years and took me in at 40 when I left my husband and had nowhere to go, so I am happy to put up with his little foibles "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was wondering if anyone finds that with parents over the age of 55 that they clearly do not listen or absorb anything that you tell them
Told parents this morning I have to be up at 5am tommorow just seen message from mother - can you show me how to use windows and laptop this evening if your not doing anything
Clearly had not absorbed that I have bags to pack and be up stupidly early. It isn't the first time, I tell them other things and they just don't absorb info
Sometimes I question myself have I told them stuff.
Maybe they are getting old "
I have to write it down!
Tell the kids one thing twelve times and forget about the other stuff!
I have a life.
Maybe your parents do too  |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"At one point, you were the centre of their universe and no doubt made huge sacrifices to give you the life you have and the opportunities.
It is a shame that in our culture we have become so self centred that we find our parents a burden. Look at eastern culture where elders are revered and looked after. Are we any better off for losing that?
I'll stop there before I rant and get banned...
I haven't seen one person on this thread say their parents are a burden let alone the op.
I moan like mad about my parents because caring for them can be flaming tough and I need to let it out. My father can be really grumpy and my mum manipulative but they're never a burden.
You are right and it is tough. Lost my dear Mum last year and now looking after my dad and it is difficult sometimes, but as I say to him, he put up with me for 20 years and took me in at 40 when I left my husband and had nowhere to go, so I am happy to put up with his little foibles
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My old mum used to put her glasses on to hear us better. We shout now.
My dad's not deaf, we all mumble."
I can't wait until I'm old enough to pretend I'm deaf.
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"I feel your pain! Any technical things I have taught my mum, like when the remote control doesn't work change the batteries and put them in the right way round, I have taught her hundred of times and she never takes it in
I would guess that she taught you how to sit up, walk, feed yourself, use the loo, wash, etc etc and i bet she had to teach you each thing many times over "
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"In reality I think the OP thought it would be a lighthearted thread where people had little moans about aged parents.
#itsallgonepearshaped
I think it started with the guilt tripping."
Don't get me started on the guilt tripping!!! |
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By *hechapMan
over a year ago
Derry |
"I was wondering if anyone finds that with parents over the age of 55 that they clearly do not listen or absorb anything that you tell them
Told parents this morning I have to be up at 5am tommorow just seen message from mother - can you show me how to use windows and laptop this evening if your not doing anything
Clearly had not absorbed that I have bags to pack and be up stupidly early. It isn't the first time, I tell them other things and they just don't absorb info
Sometimes I question myself have I told them stuff.
Maybe they are getting old "
Its clear (no pun intended) she doesn't know how windows work so my concerns would be if she tried to climb out the window.
Is it a bungalow?? |
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By *ikeC81 OP Man
over a year ago
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"In reality I think the OP thought it would be a lighthearted thread where people had little moans about aged parents.
#itsallgonepearshaped
I think it started with the guilt tripping."
i don't like fruit . - it went all kale  |
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