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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Anybody else feel awkward/overlooked/not welcome when you post on a thread where the 'forum clique' is in full flow??

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple over a year ago

Lisburn

No never, some threads people will banter, you have a choice though, you can join in or go to another thread.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Yes I do. Totally. What can I do about it ?

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By *layfullsamMan over a year ago

Solihull

"Anybody else feel awkward/overlooked/not welcome when you post on a thread where the 'forum clique' is in full flow??"
sorry but you shouldnt be starting a thread without permission from the in gang first

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes I do. Totally. What can I do about it ? "

*decides to ignore*

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple over a year ago

Lisburn

why are you all ignoring me

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By *he_original_poloWoman over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"Anybody else feel awkward/overlooked/not welcome when you post on a thread where the 'forum clique' is in full flow??"

Yes.

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By *layfullsamMan over a year ago

Solihull

"Yes I do. Totally. What can I do about it ? "
decides to ignore as well as obviously not part of the clique

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Anybody else feel awkward/overlooked/not welcome when you post on a thread where the 'forum clique' is in full flow?? sorry but you shouldnt be starting a thread without permission from the in gang first

well i thought that, but i felt like being a bit mad and having a go!

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Yes I do. Totally. What can I do about it ?

*decides to ignore*

Yeah well ......what's new ? I'll just sit here , knitting and crying.

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By *layfullsamMan over a year ago

Solihull

"why are you all ignoring me

because your not in the inner sanctum

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Yes I do. Totally. What can I do about it ? decides to ignore as well as obviously not part of the clique

I hope you got permission for that post Sam U el.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"why are you all ignoring me

because your not in the inner sanctum

Is that like anal ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

u can see the cliques onhere but that doesnt stop me posting lol and it shouldnt make u feel any diff dude

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"No never, some threads people will banter, you have a choice though, you can join in or go to another thread. "

i do tend to join in with the banter etc, noticed a few people get overlooked a lot, a few 'outsiders' will join in and comment on different things, but you can see them totally by-passed by the hardcore 'clique' , unless of course they say something thats not agreed by said clique, then they all turn on the poster, kind of like a pack mentality.

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By *layfullsamMan over a year ago

Solihull

"why are you all ignoring me

because your not in the inner sanctum

Is that like anal ?"

Thats part of the initiation

cant say to much or i would have to kill you,

if your really good i will sh

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple over a year ago

Lisburn

"why are you all ignoring me

because your not in the inner sanctum

Is that like anal ?"

leave my bum alone

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

While i'm on here - cos im off out in a moment to go to my REAL LIFE CLIQUE..... e.g. my youngests.....

Why do people start divisive threads ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

fuck um, fuck um all n post regardless

thats my philosophy on here and in life in general but then i do tend yo be pretty oblivious of most things most of the time to be fair

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"why are you all ignoring me

because your not in the inner sanctum

Is that like anal ?

leave my bum alone

Never touched your husband !

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"u can see the cliques onhere but that doesnt stop me posting lol and it shouldnt make u feel any diff dude

it doesnt tbh mate, i regularly post/reply to comment etc, was just curious on other peoples thoughts as its something ive noticed since i started on the forums!

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By *layfullsamMan over a year ago

Solihull

"No never, some threads people will banter, you have a choice though, you can join in or go to another thread.

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple over a year ago

Lisburn

"No never, some threads people will banter, you have a choice though, you can join in or go to another thread.

to be honest, think we all do that at times, and its not intentional, you get to know some people more than others, but the thing i found is that the more you join in the more people get to understand your personality by the post you make.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"While i'm on here - cos im off out in a moment to go to my REAL LIFE CLIQUE..... e.g. my youngests.....

Why do people start divisive threads ?

to create a response and to see how people react to certain topics that my prove to touch a raw nerve with some people.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yeah man….. I can clique my fingers, although I must confess I’m not quite as efficient with my left hand as I am with my right!!…..I mean….Don’t get me wrong its still OK though!!….. but it just doesn’t have that same forceful snap to it….!!

(Yeah,,, yeah,,,, I’m there before you!…..so all ambidextrous comments will be ignored)

ha-ha-ha

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple over a year ago

Lisburn

"why are you all ignoring me

because your not in the inner sanctum

Is that like anal ?

leave my bum alone

Never touched your husband !"

Damn, was hoping you would take him off my hands

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"why are you all ignoring me

because your not in the inner sanctum

Is that like anal ?

leave my bum alone

Never touched your husband !

Damn, was hoping you would take him off my hands

How DARE you clique with me! We will be arrested by the more P.C. Members.

That's Paranoia Club ......

Speak to someone else..... God i'm having palipitations here. Ignore me ffs........ ether has eyes !

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple over a year ago

Lisburn

"why are you all ignoring me

because your not in the inner sanctum

Is that like anal ?

leave my bum alone

Never touched your husband !

Damn, was hoping you would take him off my hands

How DARE you clique with me! We will be arrested by the more P.C. Members.

That's Paranoia Club ......

Speak to someone else..... God i'm having palipitations here. Ignore me ffs........ ether has eyes !"

Its ok I wont tell anyone we talked to each other if you dont, It can be our wee secret

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Deal !

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By *unky monkeyMan over a year ago

in the night garden

I have a clique but I don't tell the members they are in it as it's very secret.

Here is a drawing of an outsider longing to be in my clique and the indifference we show toward him. That's me in the centre being very indifferent. Do any of you recognise yourselves?

(~'-')~ _____ (-(-_(-_-)_-)-)-))

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anybody else feel awkward/overlooked/not welcome when you post on a thread where the 'forum clique' is in full flow??"

Ahem…. Cough cough…I’m gonna try to be serious for a moment....

Mr,,,, don’t worry about any notion you maybe entertaining as to whether cliques exist…. Just because a post doesn't provoke a response from anyone doesn't mean anything sinister going on at all.....

So Mr !…. my advice to you would be!... just post away and be happy with what you have too say, and enjoy the forums for whatever pleasure that give's you.... !!!! that’s the way to do it!!! IMHO

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By *he_original_poloWoman over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I miss the good old days.... when people just wrote 'twat' across their forehead in marker pen.

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple over a year ago

Lisburn

"I miss the good old days.... when people just wrote 'twat' across their forehead in marker pen."

you mean they dont do that any more

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I miss the good old days.... when people just wrote 'twat' across their forehead in marker pen."

wonders if there is such a word as twattess cos that could be used on a few occasions

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

congrats

ur threads been jacked

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple over a year ago

Lisburn

"congrats

ur threads been jacked

is jack here to, i must have missed him

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I miss the good old days.... when people just wrote 'twat' across their forehead in marker pen."

yours must have been done with a real good pen then

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I miss the good old days.... when people just wrote 'twat' across their forehead in marker pen.

wonders if there is such a word as twattess cos that could be used on a few occasions "

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Yes I do. Totally. What can I do about it ? "

Nothing. You're out.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

To the members of the 'clique' who have commented, I thank you for being big enough to join in on this thread, to the members who havnt . . . . . tut tut tut, I was hoping for at least a bit of input from you!

though no doubt you will have read this thread with baited breath wondering if you got a mention, its a shame you couldnt have joined in, it would have been great to hear your _iews as you seem to be quite vocal everywhere else

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By *evilwolfCouple over a year ago

Leicestershire

just glad I'm an individual to be honest... I've never been much for chinese whispers, nor do I need others to validate me....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

id shag most of the clique, maybe some uncliqueables too...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago
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It must be awful to have such insecurities that when people have a difference of opinion to yourself the word CLIQUE is so often shouted out loud and proud

I feel for people that feel that way I really do

Personally I post what I want when I want,everyone is entitled to do that,sometimes its a popular opinion and sometimes it is'nt,

But when people post provocative stuff then they must expect that it will provoke a reaction,some people get off on the reaction

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It must be awful to have such insecurities that when people have a difference of opinion to yourself the word CLIQUE is so often shouted out loud and proud

I feel for people that feel that way I really do

Personally I post what I want when I want,everyone is entitled to do that,sometimes its a popular opinion and sometimes it is'nt,

But when people post provocative stuff then they must expect that it will provoke a reaction,some people get off on the reaction

just finished wanking at ur words...had to get off on it mmmmmmmmm

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've got cliquey knees, and am looking for lady with cliquey hips

She must like shagging to the metronomic rythmn of our old bones

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It must be awful to have such insecurities that when people have a difference of opinion to yourself the word CLIQUE is so often shouted out loud and proud

I feel for people that feel that way I really do

Personally I post what I want when I want,everyone is entitled to do that,sometimes its a popular opinion and sometimes it is'nt,

But when people post provocative stuff then they must expect that it will provoke a reaction,some people get off on the reaction

I agree, shocking isnt it?

You have admit that there is an obvious clique here, with a few outsiders chipping in here and there.

If your comments about insecurities are aimed at me then I'm afraid your sadly mistaken, I was stating the blindingly obvious with my original post. Its the same whichever forum on the internet that you go in, some cliques are far stronger than others but still active regardless of whether people accept they are there or not.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I've got cliquey knees, and am looking for lady with cliquey hips

She must like shagging to the metronomic rythmn of our old bones

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"It must be awful to have such insecurities that when people have a difference of opinion to yourself the word CLIQUE is so often shouted out loud and proud

I feel for people that feel that way I really do

Personally I post what I want when I want,everyone is entitled to do that,sometimes its a popular opinion and sometimes it is'nt,

But when people post provocative stuff then they must expect that it will provoke a reaction,some people get off on the reaction

just finished wanking at ur words...had to get off on it mmmmmmmmm"

dirty bastard

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By *unky monkeyMan over a year ago

in the night garden

(~'-')~ ___________________________ (-(-_(-_-)_-)-)-))

Even further away from the clique.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"(~'-')~ ___________________________ (-(-_(-_-)_-)-)-))

Even further away from the clique."

truly devo'd

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think bad feeling across this forum seems to appear in fits and starts. Over the last few months there didn't seem to be any mention of cliques yet over the last few weeks there's seems an underlying animosity floating across the forum again. Maybe its the seasons.

There are always going to be groups of people who have met at socials and are friendly and they are close on the forum. There will be those who have to make sarcastic quips to others to play to the crowd. If you thrive on the adoration of others and enjoy belittling people to get the round of applause then that's fine. We come here and get out of it what we put in.

We will all appeal to certain groups and this may look exclusion. Just like we are attractive to some, our personalities won't suit all either.

Your inbox is a good measure. If its full of guys or women who think you're sexy and great and they want to get to know you better, then that's positive. If its full of forum members bitching about others with messages like 'god cheeky bitch, see what she wrote' and 'hey high five you got one over on her/him, then perhaps a bit of self assessment wouldn't go amiss.

I'm sorry you feel this way OP, let's hope you can interact and find it fun sometime soon

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Please name the members of this alleged clique, as I would like to know who they are.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Please name the members of this alleged clique, as I would like to know who they are.

Now you know nobody can name and shame it's against the rules

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

IMHO, naming the so-called clique does not contravene site rule, as they post in the open forums for all to see, and not behind closed doors or one sided etc...

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By *layfullsamMan over a year ago

Solihull

"Please name the members of this alleged clique, as I would like to know who they are.

"
i am keeping my eye out for any funny handshakes as this should give away who is in the secret clique club

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Please name the members of this alleged clique, as I would like to know who they are.

i am keeping my eye out for any funny handshakes as this should give away who is in the secret clique club"

i love a funny handshake...Oh, i mean being wanked off tho!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"IMHO, naming the so-called clique does not contravene site rule, as they post in the open forums for all to see, and not behind closed doors or one sided etc...

Having just read rules again I have to disagree with you but will agree that we are both entitled to our own opinions

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i shall remain cliqless.

only thing ive really noticed is certain threads getting jacked and taken off topic with mindless cliqy banter for half a page or more.

otherwise theyre harmless

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Anybody else feel awkward/overlooked/not welcome when you post on a thread where the 'forum clique' is in full flow??"

for example... if you went into a pub... would you expect EVERY person to talk to you????

if which case where is this any different from real life...... just curious...

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Please name the members of this alleged clique, as I would like to know who they are.

members of the clique know full well who they are

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Please name the members of this alleged clique, as I would like to know who they are.

Now you know nobody can name and shame it's against the rules"

+1 (i'm running the risk of being branded as part of a clique by this comment . . . . . . oooops!)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anybody else feel awkward/overlooked/not welcome when you post on a thread where the 'forum clique' is in full flow??"

you get immune to it. There is no "clique" it is just a semblance and some people play to it.

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By *b430Man over a year ago

Tayside

"Please name the members of this alleged clique, as I would like to know who they are.

members of the clique know full well who they are"

Do they? Or are they just people who like to post in the forums and just because they don't agree with you they must be in a clique?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Anybody else feel awkward/overlooked/not welcome when you post on a thread where the 'forum clique' is in full flow??

for example... if you went into a pub... would you expect EVERY person to talk to you????

if which case where is this any different from real life...... just curious..."

if it was an open forum about whatever subject, then yes i would expect my voice to be heard, though your comparison is rather short sighted as being in a pub in general is totally different to posting on a forum, if the op was about pm's then i would fully agree with your comparison, but as its not then i dont feel what you say is any help to the thread

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Please name the members of this alleged clique, as I would like to know who they are.

i am keeping my eye out for any funny handshakes as this should give away who is in the secret clique club

i love a funny handshake...Oh, i mean being wanked off tho!"

see ya got yer eyes out too!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Please name the members of this alleged clique, as I would like to know who they are.

members of the clique know full well who they are

Do they? Or are they just people who like to post in the forums and just because they don't agree with you they must be in a clique?

come on man get a grip, of course they do! nothing personal about me, its alot to do with many people who post on here.

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Anybody else feel awkward/overlooked/not welcome when you post on a thread where the 'forum clique' is in full flow??

for example... if you went into a pub... would you expect EVERY person to talk to you????

if which case where is this any different from real life...... just curious...

but the comparison to the pub isn't short sighted because people know each other and hence bounce of each other so to speak...

you forget that people here may have met each other at parties... or at socials, and hence have built up those relationship and will have a better understand of each other than you have at this point in time.....

you know what... you are right, it is an open forum, and remember that not everyone is going to agree with what you say....

if you are going to dismiss the ones that don't agree with you, and slather over the ones that do... then maybe you are not as "open" as you would like to admit... and maybe you are part of a slighty different clique, but you don't see it....

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By *b430Man over a year ago

Tayside

"Please name the members of this alleged clique, as I would like to know who they are.

members of the clique know full well who they are

Do they? Or are they just people who like to post in the forums and just because they don't agree with you they must be in a clique?

come on man get a grip, of course they do! nothing personal about me, its alot to do with many people who post on here."

I have a perfect grip on reality, but thanks for your concern

I do believe it has a lot to do with others insecurity though that they have to mention a clique when others disagree with them!

Of course, that is just my take on it.

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

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By *iewMan over a year ago
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Angus & Findhorn

"Anybody else feel awkward/overlooked/not welcome when you post on a thread where the 'forum clique' is in full flow??"

nope cause I am happy bantering at high speed on occasion and other times sitting in the shade watching...

and actually OP I think you have done great since you started posting, you participate and get replies.. so if I did think there was a clique... I would probably say you were part of it

I do however think it is at times unwelcoming, however, some just get on with it and do well, some become immensely needy and if a thread designed to grab attention leading to a meet sooner than later.. doesn't quite get the result... we are left with 'user no longer on site'.

all in all... you get back, what you put in.

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By *unky monkeyMan over a year ago

in the night garden

"(~'-')~ ___________________________ (-(-_(-_-)_-)-)-))

Even further away from the clique.

truly devo'd

Oh come here and hug it up big fella.

(~'-')~ ~('-'~)

You can be in my secret clique but don't fucking tell anyone.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

to have a proper clique you would need to fuck everyone in the clique and anyone joining, surely.

Now there's an idea.

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By *unky monkeyMan over a year ago

in the night garden

"to have a proper clique you would need to fuck everyone in the clique and anyone joining, surely.

Now there's an idea."

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

don't highjack his thread... he will accuse you all of being in the clique.....

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By *unky monkeyMan over a year ago

in the night garden

"don't highjack his thread... he will accuse you all of being in the clique.....

Don't hijack the hijack about hijacked threads!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"don't highjack his thread... he will accuse you all of being in the clique.....

Don't hijack the hijack about hijacked threads!!!"

yeah!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Anybody else feel awkward/overlooked/not welcome when you post on a thread where the 'forum clique' is in full flow??

nope cause I am happy bantering at high speed on occasion and other times sitting in the shade watching...

and actually OP I think you have done great since you started posting, you participate and get replies.. so if I did think there was a clique... I would probably say you were part of it

all in all... you get back, what you put in."

at last!!!!!!!!! someone who actually read what the op was and understood it for what it was!

i thank you sir

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Anybody else feel awkward/overlooked/not welcome when you post on a thread where the 'forum clique' is in full flow??

for example... if you went into a pub... would you expect EVERY person to talk to you????

if which case where is this any different from real life...... just curious...

but the comparison to the pub isn't short sighted because people know each other and hence bounce of each other so to speak...

you know what... you are right, it is an open forum, and remember that not everyone is going to agree with what you say....

you may not no everybody in the pub, you may be in an unfamiliar pub, therefore you dont know everybody, so indeed your comment was short sighted.

as for replies to posts etc, i reply as i see fit, whether i agree or not, who has posted whatever comment has no bearing at all on what my reply will be. you cant honestly sit there and think there isnt a clique on here who can sometimes make things difficult for newbies and people outside the clique.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"don't highjack his thread... he will accuse you all of being in the clique.....

hijacking is fine, as long as everybody can be included, no cliques required!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Describing the forum as having a particular paradigm, at times, would be a clearer way of seeing some of the thangs that concern you mayhaps..

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Describing the forum as having a particular paradigm, at times, would be a clearer way of seeing some of the thangs that concern you mayhaps.."

thangs or F A N G S

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"Describing the forum as having a particular paradigm, at times, would be a clearer way of seeing some of the thangs that concern you mayhaps.."

i think that if it was the same as the OP's contribution to the "henpecked" thread.. it was probably a way of garnering attention...

after all.... any publicity is good publicity... right????

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anybody else feel awkward/overlooked/not welcome when you post on a thread where the 'forum clique' is in full flow??"

No, I don't give a dam.

even more fun if I jump in whilst they're mid flow.

I've been here too long to recognise what might be any cliques to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Describing the forum as having a particular paradigm, at times, would be a clearer way of seeing some of the thangs that concern you mayhaps..

i think that if it was the same as the OP's contribution to the "henpecked" thread.. it was probably a way of garnering attention...

after all.... any publicity is good publicity... right???? "

How to reply without causing offence...

Ah..fuck it....yeah the erm contibution t`was a eminently peurile thang to say...but then...shrugs...

I dont think theres a clique...just alot of peeps who know each other..some of you have been here furking ages eh lol..

Guess some of you have seen the trolls..flamers, needies...moronic..ignorant..blah de blah de blah...

Sheesh...just do yer own thang...

Birds of a feather, flock together, and all that....I quite like being a voice from the corner at times...there tis..

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

lol... don't worry daveshaz.... wasn't having a go or anything... lol

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By *he_original_poloWoman over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Surely for a clique to be a clique, people on the outside of the clique must want to try and get in the clique in order to be excluded from the clique and thus confirm the clique exists. Which kind of implies it is the people trying to get into the clique who are responsible for the clique existing, for without them it wouldn’t be a clique as they would have no one to exclude.

And surely for a clique to continue to be a clique it must continue to be selective and exclude people from joining the clique… which kind of means there must be a number of people outside of the clique who have been excluded. If you are with other people outside of the clique and you still feel excluded….. is that because the other rejected people have also rejected you?

Has the group of people rejected from the first clique started their own clique to exclude you from it?

Is there a clique hierarchy?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Surely for a clique to be a clique, people on the outside of the clique must want to try and get in the clique in order to be excluded from the clique and thus confirm the clique exists. Which kind of implies it is the people trying to get into the clique who are responsible for the clique existing, for without them it wouldn’t be a clique as they would have no one to exclude.

Has the group of people rejected from the first clique started their own clique to exclude you from it?

Is there a clique hierarchy?

you have to fuck everyone first - which is impossible.

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

Has the group of people rejected from the first clique started their own clique to exclude you from it?

Is there a clique hierarchy?

okay... now my head hurts....

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By *amschwingerzCouple over a year ago

West

I think the chatrooms suffer with Cliques more that the forums.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"lol... don't worry daveshaz.... wasn't having a go or anything... lol"

haha ..Fabio..I know that mucks..

But it illustrated a point ..peeps with a thin skin or obvious motives or attitudes are dealt with fairly harshly here...

Mabye thats as it should be ..I dunno...

I think if yer a regular sort of person, with a good sense of humour..and you spend some time posting...so peeps can get ter know yer...its all good

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Has the group of people rejected from the first clique started their own clique to exclude you from it?

Is there a clique hierarchy?

okay... now my head hurts....

try going blonde, works a treat.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Has the group of people rejected from the first clique started their own clique to exclude you from it?

Is there a clique hierarchy?

Oblique clique...

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By *he_original_poloWoman over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

"I miss the good old days.... when people just wrote 'twat' across their forehead in marker pen.

yours must have been done with a real good pen then

Indeed... I made the mistake of using your marker, when I only wanted it for a fancy dress party

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By *aucy3Couple over a year ago

glasgow

i'm in the most exclusive clique,on fab.

the members are,the most gorgeous,sexy,

informative,understanding,charismatic,

witty.

i agree with everything they say,lets face it,they're always right.

i laugh at all of their jokes,they are the funniest.

i feel drawn to the clique,due to their beauty,and character.

without doubt,they are beyond perfection.

i am proud to know them,and feel humble in their presence.

although it does get lonely sometimes,

ahh,the price of perfection.

......(....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Let me in ......BOOM !!! BOOM !!!...

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By *aucy3Couple over a year ago

glasgow

"Let me in ......BOOM !!! BOOM !!!..."

.....(.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Let me in ......BOOM !!! BOOM !!!...

.....(.....

I as got muffin

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By *abioMan over a year ago

Newcastle and Gateshead

"i'm in the most exclusive clique,on fab.

the members are,the most gorgeous,sexy,

informative,understanding,charismatic,

witty.

i agree with everything they say,lets face it,they're always right.

i laugh at all of their jokes,they are the funniest.

i feel drawn to the clique,due to their beauty,and character.

without doubt,they are beyond perfection.

i am proud to know them,and feel humble in their presence.

although it does get lonely sometimes,

ahh,the price of perfection.

......(....

club of 1 then...

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By *aucy3Couple over a year ago

glasgow

"i'm in the most exclusive clique,on fab.

the members are,the most gorgeous,sexy,

informative,understanding,charismatic,

witty.

i agree with everything they say,lets face it,they're always right.

i laugh at all of their jokes,they are the funniest.

i feel drawn to the clique,due to their beauty,and character.

without doubt,they are beyond perfection.

i am proud to know them,and feel humble in their presence.

although it does get lonely sometimes,

ahh,the price of perfection.

......(....

club of 1 then...

sorry fab,as you know cliques do not divulge their numbers,it's the first rule of cliqueism,tut,tut,tut.

plus,the member would be most upset.

....(......

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

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By *atisfy janeWoman over a year ago

Torquay

The first rule of Clique Club is....don't talk about Clique Club.

The second rule of Clique Club is.....give every new Clique a name

I propose the OP starts a new Clique and he calls it Whinge Clique....

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

"Anybody else feel awkward/overlooked/not welcome when you post on a thread where the 'forum clique' is in full flow??"

No ,but then i am not an attention seeking single man with no life and a small penis.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anybody else feel awkward/overlooked/not welcome when you post on a thread where the 'forum clique' is in full flow??

No ,but then i am not an attention seeking single man with no life and a small penis.

and what the eck have I done to upset you? leave me out of this thank you very much.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

To be fair, I really couldn't be arsed to read all of this thread because I know it's going to be "oooh, there's no clique here" and "some people are insecure" etc.

My two pence worth is OP I wouldn't say there was a clique per se, but I do know what you mean. I don't post so much, not because I feel excluded, simply, you'll see an interesting thread, start to read it and it's overtaken by certain (the same people) all the time. Sadly, as I get older, and my concentration waivers, I well and truly can't be bothered to scroll through the in jokes and love ins: I just go and do something more interesting instead...like sorting out my knicer drawer.

I post if I have something to add, then forget about it nine times out of ten...goldfish memory and all that.

Just join in OP, you have to realise for some people this appears to be their life, and they need the constant reassurance of people here...don't let it put you off.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

"Anybody else feel awkward/overlooked/not welcome when you post on a thread where the 'forum clique' is in full flow??

No ,but then i am not an attention seeking single man with no life and a small penis.

and what the eck have I done to upset you? leave me out of this thank you very much."

You told me that after the 5th fuck you wud put me forward for clique membership and i think u were telling porkies!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There's no such thing as a clique, only a perceived clique by those who consider themselves outside of one.

People who have got to know each other know more about each other than those who don't know anyone, and thus can comment on things they knew previously that may or may not relate to the current topic of discussion. Those who don't know any previous information that may have been passed could easily construe these hidden paraphrasings as a being of a clique in nature.

They are not 'cliquey', of course, they are simply unknown to the new user trying to figure out what is being said, by whom, to whom, about what.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A clique is just folk ya haven't got ta know well yet

A lot of the regular forum posters have actually met several times at socials etc

I can kinda see where the idea originates from but we all started as newbies we just integrated that's the difference

And if people actually took time to read threads they would find that most of the so called cliques are the ones that disagree with eachother the most

Why let it wind you up? Does it really mean that much to you?

Most of the time I avoid the serious and just get on with pissing about

Why? Cause I have enough problems in real life and use the fourms as a release

Swinging is supposed to be about fun isn't it?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anybody else feel awkward/overlooked/not welcome when you post on a thread where the 'forum clique' is in full flow??

No ,but then i am not an attention seeking single man with no life and a small penis.

and what the eck have I done to upset you? leave me out of this thank you very much.

You told me that after the 5th fuck you wud put me forward for clique membership and i think u were telling porkies!

I did, but the clique denied application.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

"Anybody else feel awkward/overlooked/not welcome when you post on a thread where the 'forum clique' is in full flow??

No ,but then i am not an attention seeking single man with no life and a small penis.

and what the eck have I done to upset you? leave me out of this thank you very much.

You told me that after the 5th fuck you wud put me forward for clique membership and i think u were telling porkies!

I did, but the clique denied application.

What even after the bukkae porn...you guranteed me if we made that i was in!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anybody else feel awkward/overlooked/not welcome when you post on a thread where the 'forum clique' is in full flow??"

Are you muddling the terminology? We're all on the forum and interacting at some level with everyone else so thats a clique. Some of the clique banter more than others but its totally harmless. I post to another forum its exactly the same and can seem intimidating at first.

Did you mean the sub-species though? You know the ones I'm referring to. The PM Warriors - the ones who purposely write to each other to confirm their next move to belittle and bully others. Theres no cure for those types.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anybody else feel awkward/overlooked/not welcome when you post on a thread where the 'forum clique' is in full flow??

No ,but then i am not an attention seeking single man with no life and a small penis.

and what the eck have I done to upset you? leave me out of this thank you very much.

You told me that after the 5th fuck you wud put me forward for clique membership and i think u were telling porkies!

I did, but the clique denied application.

What even after the bukkae porn...you guranteed me if we made that i was in!

In that case, yeah 'when' we make it I'll get you in.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

"Anybody else feel awkward/overlooked/not welcome when you post on a thread where the 'forum clique' is in full flow??

No ,but then i am not an attention seeking single man with no life and a small penis.

and what the eck have I done to upset you? leave me out of this thank you very much.

You told me that after the 5th fuck you wud put me forward for clique membership and i think u were telling porkies!

I did, but the clique denied application.

What even after the bukkae porn...you guranteed me if we made that i was in!

In that case, yeah 'when' we make it I'll get you in.

See its easy to get into the clique

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anybody else feel awkward/overlooked/not welcome when you post on a thread where the 'forum clique' is in full flow??

No ,but then i am not an attention seeking single man with no life and a small penis.

and what the eck have I done to upset you? leave me out of this thank you very much.

You told me that after the 5th fuck you wud put me forward for clique membership and i think u were telling porkies!

I did, but the clique denied application.

What even after the bukkae porn...you guranteed me if we made that i was in!

In that case, yeah 'when' we make it I'll get you in.

See its easy to get into the clique

Have to admit I didn't much like taking that bukkake, but hey I'm in a clique now. yay!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anybody else feel awkward/overlooked/not welcome when you post on a thread where the 'forum clique' is in full flow??

You got that right

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anybody else feel awkward/overlooked/not welcome when you post on a thread where the 'forum clique' is in full flow??"

Best learn to do your own thing on here and take no notice of the little groups. Go to the socials though as they are so different there though

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anybody else feel awkward/overlooked/not welcome when you post on a thread where the 'forum clique' is in full flow?"

No.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Anybody else feel awkward/overlooked/not welcome when you post on a thread where the 'forum clique' is in full flow?

No."

We cliqued but ya too tall fa me xx

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By *aucy3Couple over a year ago

glasgow

"i'm in the most exclusive clique,on fab.

the members are,the most gorgeous,sexy,

informative,understanding,charismatic,

witty.

i agree with everything they say,lets face it,they're always right.

i laugh at all of their jokes,they are the funniest.

i feel drawn to the clique,due to their beauty,and character.

without doubt,they are beyond perfection.

i am proud to know them,and feel humble in their presence.

although it does get lonely sometimes,

ahh,the price of perfection.

......(....

oh you are so right,as always.

lovin the avatar,you sexy hunk,mmmmmm.

....(....

ps could daveshaz,send the muffin.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i'm in the most exclusive clique,on fab.

the members are,the most gorgeous,sexy,

informative,understanding,charismatic,

witty.

i agree with everything they say,lets face it,they're always right.

i laugh at all of their jokes,they are the funniest.

i feel drawn to the clique,due to their beauty,and character.

without doubt,they are beyond perfection.

i am proud to know them,and feel humble in their presence.

although it does get lonely sometimes,

ahh,the price of perfection.

......(....

oh you are so right,as always.

lovin the avatar,you sexy hunk,mmmmmm.

....(....

ps could daveshaz,send the muffin.

Are you in the Scottish clique ? Cause I need a seconder soon xx

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There's no doubt that ' cliques' exist.

Not only on this site but others too.

Albeit forum based sites, chatroom based...etc

I think if your worried about not being a member, that in itself indicates you want to become one

I don't

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By *aucy3Couple over a year ago

glasgow

lovin the avatar,you sexy hunk,mmmmmm.

....(....

ps could daveshaz,send the muffin.

Are you in the Scottish clique ? Cause I need a seconder soon xx

sorry soapy,i like you and all that,but if i let you in,you would double the number of clique members.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

lovin the avatar,you sexy hunk,mmmmmm.

....(....

ps could daveshaz,send the muffin.

Are you in the Scottish clique ? Cause I need a seconder soon xx

sorry soapy,i like you and all that,but if i let you in,you would double the number of clique members.

Yeah but we could go ta the pub an everythin

Otherwise I'd be doomed to a life of dishes and henpeckin offa me girl ooooooohhhhh please xx

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By *oantrimcpl2010Couple over a year ago

Lisburn

Do you wanna be in my gang, my gang, my gang, do you wanna be in my gang, oh yea.

Im the leader, im the leader, im the leader of the gang, i am

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Do you wanna be in my gang, my gang, my gang, do you wanna be in my gang, oh yea.

Im the leader, im the leader, im the leader of the gang, i am

add bang after every gang...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Do you wanna be in my gang, my gang, my gang, do you wanna be in my gang, oh yea.

Im the leader, im the leader, im the leader of the gang, i am

add bang after every gang...

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By *etillanteWoman over a year ago

"Do you wanna be in my gang, my gang, my gang, do you wanna be in my gang, oh yea.

Im the leader, im the leader, im the leader of the gang, i am

add bang after every gang..."

and a boom bang a bang bang

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some times you just have to jump in and post.

Im no good in the chat rooms, cant keep up, but the forums are easier, and you do get to know people,and they get to know you.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Anybody else feel awkward/overlooked/not welcome when you post on a thread where the 'forum clique' is in full flow?

No."

oooo Nice new bra dear xx

Matches my cushions....

Cliquety Clique !

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By *aucy3Couple over a year ago

glasgow

lovin the avatar,you sexy hunk,mmmmmm.

....(....

ps could daveshaz,send the muffin.

Are you in the Scottish clique ? Cause I need a seconder soon xx

sorry soapy,i like you and all that,but if i let you in,you would double the number of clique members.

Yeah but we could go ta the pub an everythin

Otherwise I'd be doomed to a life of dishes and henpeckin offa me girl ooooooohhhhh please xx

soapy i understand your predicament,and believe me,you have my sincerest sympathy,and i will pray for you.

but the elitist clique(good name eh?)

held a meeting,and your application, after much deliberation, has been denied unanimously.

as you know,the clique is never wrong.

this decision is final,and without recourse.

i done my best for you mate sorry.

ps you could try one of the many inferior cliques,they're desparate for members.

good luck,(your going to need it)

.....(.....

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

dya know what peeps, i have to say i thought about the dangers of posting such a thread as this before i actually did, but decided to take the plunge with it.

i honestly thank everyone of you for you input on it, i have learnt a lot about some of the regular posters by what you have said.

some people grasped the true nature of my op, some decidec to get all high and mighty, some even a little offensive/abusive, you all know which catergory you fit into there.

just to set the record straight though :

1. this was not a look at me thread

2. this was not a poor me thread

3. this was not an i want to be in a clique thread

this was a thread that was done to provoke a reaction, (and it most certainly did that!!) nothing more nothing less.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"To be fair, I really couldn't be arsed to read all of this thread because I know it's going to be "oooh, there's no clique here" and "some people are insecure" etc.

I post if I have something to add, then forget about it nine times out of ten...goldfish memory and all that.

Just join in OP, you have to realise for some people this appears to be their life, and they need the constant reassurance of people here...don't let it put you off."
aha now sassy just hit the nail on the head . That's what I see sometimes also lol and i'm like yaaaaawwwn .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"dya know what peeps, i have to say i thought about the dangers of posting such a thread as this before i actually did, but decided to take the plunge with it.

i honestly thank everyone of you for you input on it, i have learnt a lot about some of the regular posters by what you have said.

some people grasped the true nature of my op, some decidec to get all high and mighty, some even a little offensive/abusive, you all know which catergory you fit into there.

just to set the record straight though :

1. this was not a look at me thread

2. this was not a poor me thread

3. this was not an i want to be in a clique thread

this was a thread that was done to provoke a reaction, (and it most certainly did that!!) nothing more nothing less."
great thread mate . Stir things up a bit .You have just joined the right clique ,the don't give a fuck clique ,welcome

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If one expects a warm welcome, with people throwing their arms around him/her, as soon as he/she walks into a packed pub as a complete stranger, then he/she is very naive IMHO.

This forums board, and many others like it, is no different to a pub, or any social gathering.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"If one expects a warm welcome, with people throwing their arms around him/her, as soon as he/she walks into a packed pub as a complete stranger, then he/she is very naive IMHO.

This forums board, and many others like it, is no different to a pub, or any social gathering.

i dont even know what your comment means at this point in the thread, i'm sure you have just picked a point someone said earlier on in the thread and re-written it just to have your say

but just to be clear, this is not a pub or social gathering, this is an online forum, where anybodies voice could and should be heard, not overlooked by cliques who have a pm bitch behind the forum and then carry their little jokes into the forum with back-handed comments, making it really hard for people to feel they can post and be taken seriously on subjects they have interests in.

but thanks for trying to sound intelligent with your comment

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"dya know what peeps, i have to say i thought about the dangers of posting such a thread as this before i actually did, but decided to take the plunge with it.

i honestly thank everyone of you for you input on it, i have learnt a lot about some of the regular posters by what you have said.

some people grasped the true nature of my op, some decidec to get all high and mighty, some even a little offensive/abusive, you all know which catergory you fit into there.

just to set the record straight though :

1. this was not a look at me thread

2. this was not a poor me thread

3. this was not an i want to be in a clique thread

this was a thread that was done to provoke a reaction, (and it most certainly did that!!) nothing more nothing less. great thread mate . Stir things up a bit .You have just joined the right clique ,the don't give a fuck clique ,welcome

why thank you kind sir, but being part of a clique is not for me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Don't need a stranger to tell me I am intelligent, I know I am. However, thanks for the kind words. I don't need my ego massaging.

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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O o O oo

The End

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