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So, why did you leave Fab?
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've found a few of my friends in here go missing (once in a while), when people go Unlos, some don't ever return.
If you've ever left Fab and returned, why did you leave? Was it a conscious planned decision? Or a knee jerk reaction?
Why did you return?
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I left last I'd been on for about 18 months with no meets and no one talked at all so I thought screw it im going.
Year or so later Ive come back again |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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V had a profile with her then husband. M had a single man profile. We met as solo meet for V to come back home to report..... the chemistry was mind blowing. V has since split with her husband and we've decided that we want to try this together. So previous profiles closed, left the scene for a while to just enjoy one another and now are trying how the dynamics of MFF or MMFF work for us in the future..... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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First ever time I joined here I lasted all of 4 days ....hadnt discovered filters or even the forums for that matter ..felt so overwhelmed I left
6 weeks later I came back with a vengeance,learnt all about what the site had to offer, didn't step into the forums though for at least 9 months
Been here just over 2 years now
Don't intend to delete my profile ..i will just hide my profile if I'm having a break  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"V had a profile with her then husband. M had a single man profile. We met as solo meet for V to come back home to report..... the chemistry was mind blowing. V has since split with her husband and we've decided that we want to try this together. So previous profiles closed, left the scene for a while to just enjoy one another and now are trying how the dynamics of MFF or MMFF work for us in the future....."
And they say Swinging is good for relationships.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When we first joined was overwhelmed by it, so logged off and didn't come back for a few weeks. Came back and discovered filters, then found the forums a few months later x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When I left last I'd been on for about 18 months with no meets and no one talked at all so I thought screw it im going.
Year or so later Ive come back again"
And this time you've had a reply
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We planned to have our baby so left before I was pregnant, during the pregnancy and then for the infant years. Here we are over 4 years later! I dont even remember whay our old user name was! |
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Was on here on a couples proile, was getting into the scene nicely once we found our way through the fakes. Had a very graphic profile and lots of verifications. Left laptop logged into Fab for our Autistic daughter to discover. Lets just say it didn't go down well. We are back under a very discrete profile but Mrs was traumatised by the whole thing and our Swinging is extremely minimal now. Doubt we will ever get back to the glory years. Kept my single chap profile from those days but a single guy profile just doesn't get any action. If I could wind back time I'd make sure that account was never discovered, It changed our life and not for the better |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"When I left last I'd been on for about 18 months with no meets and no one talked at all so I thought screw it im going.
Year or so later Ive come back again"
18mth is a lot of patience with no interaction. Were you on the forums during that time? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When I left last I'd been on for about 18 months with no meets and no one talked at all so I thought screw it im going.
Year or so later Ive come back again
18mth is a lot of patience with no interaction. Were you on the forums during that time? "
No it was more, a month here or there that I didn't go on here as well though that probably didn't help things |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Was on here on a couples proile, was getting into the scene nicely once we found our way through the fakes. Had a very graphic profile and lots of verifications. Left laptop logged into Fab for our Autistic daughter to discover. Lets just say it didn't go down well. We are back under a very discrete profile but Mrs was traumatised by the whole thing and our Swinging is extremely minimal now. Doubt we will ever get back to the glory years. Kept my single chap profile from those days but a single guy profile just doesn't get any action. If I could wind back time I'd make sure that account was never discovered, It changed our life and not for the better"
That's a shame, when something else gets involved and changes how things are. |
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"When I left last I'd been on for about 18 months with no meets and no one talked at all so I thought screw it im going.
Year or so later Ive come back again"
Are you doing anything differently this time? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Last time I left was because some absolute fruitcake got too close for comfort. Bordering on stalking, was all rather sad. Luckily she's no longer on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Our 8 year old son was Diagnosed with a terminal brain tumor, our focus was 100% on him.. it has been nearly 18 months since we lost him and we have only just really returned. Taking baby steps |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Plenty do return. Not sure why they delete in first place...easier to hide profile...
It's really not that difficult to set up a new profile! "
Both points are valid. You can hide and take time to decide if you want to leave completely.
But it is very easy to return and set a new profile up. Probably with the same name and photos too |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When I left last I'd been on for about 18 months with no meets and no one talked at all so I thought screw it im going.
Year or so later Ive come back again
Are you doing anything differently this time?"
Yeah learnt from past mistakes from then, put a bit more into my profile (not sure it's great like) some better pics and looking at the forums more now too so seems to be going a bit better now. still some way to go though and waiting for that first meet haha |
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By *uzy444Woman
over a year ago
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most people seem to leave in order to change their profile name and start again..i can see the appeal of that and have thought about it....but i haven't, over two 1/2 years here , same name, same profile..if i ever went, it would be for a couple profile only (someone mad enough to be my partner in life and fab) or for good..so you are stuck with me, for a while yet  |
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"When I left last I'd been on for about 18 months with no meets and no one talked at all so I thought screw it im going.
Year or so later Ive come back again
Are you doing anything differently this time?
Yeah learnt from past mistakes from then, put a bit more into my profile (not sure it's great like) some better pics and looking at the forums more now too so seems to be going a bit better now. still some way to go though and waiting for that first meet haha"
Have you considered attending a social in your area? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Plenty do return. Not sure why they delete in first place...easier to hide profile...
It's really not that difficult to set up a new profile!
Both points are valid. You can hide and take time to decide if you want to leave completely.
But it is very easy to return and set a new profile up. Probably with the same name and photos too "
Some treat it like such a big deal it makes me chuckle. When I decided I didn't want to be on here any more, I didn't want to be here so deleted. Seemed the logical thing to do. Hiding profiles is for those that want to stay but just fancy a break. That's how I view it anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was on here with my husband but our meets were more him watching so a couples profile wasn't right at that time. I started meeting alone so I had a fem account but to be honest I got fed up of jealousy etc. When I got a new veri.
We stayed away for 5/6 months and started going to clubs, a lot of people we met there would want to keep in touch so I created a new account. X x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I left last year as I just didnt have time for meeting people. I had a few i met regularly and was happy with that.
Ive rejoined as Ive moved to the other end of the country where I don't know anyone so would like to find some new naughty friends. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Left twice. First time I joined had to many messages. An once I had my first meet, other men had ago as they wanted to be my first. Then it turns out they are married.
Then come back, deleted all messages first couple of days till I was happy with profile an made a meet.
Met a lovely buddy if it wasn't for him I wouldn't of come back now.
Had a stalker freak me out on all websites. Now I'm ready to leave again, because of time wasters. It's got till September then I'll probably hide.
I like fab as you can see what's what.
But some men on here are vile, the messages they send. If you don't want to meet them you're a fake.
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I left last year, One of the reasons was that I signed up to a dating site and I wanted to give it a proper go without being distracted on here, I came back with my tail between my legs 3 months later
But to be honest I missed the forums/chat rooms and the people I chat with I also found it hard to pass the time from coming home from work and going to bed |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I left last year, One of the reasons was that I signed up to a dating site and I wanted to give it a proper go without being distracted on here, I came back with my tail between my legs 3 months later
But to be honest I missed the forums/chat rooms and the people I chat with I also found it hard to pass the time from coming home from work and going to bed"
You sure it wasn't because you missed a friend or two |
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"I left last year, One of the reasons was that I signed up to a dating site and I wanted to give it a proper go without being distracted on here, I came back with my tail between my legs 3 months later
But to be honest I missed the forums/chat rooms and the people I chat with I also found it hard to pass the time from coming home from work and going to bed
You sure it wasn't because you missed a friend or two "
To be fair it was you who said if I don't come back you would leave fab for ever
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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago
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"First ever time I joined here I lasted all of 4 days ....hadnt discovered filters or even the forums for that matter ..felt so overwhelmed I left
6 weeks later I came back with a vengeance,learnt all about what the site had to offer, didn't step into the forums though for at least 9 months
Been here just over 2 years now
Don't intend to delete my profile ..i will just hide my profile if I'm having a break "
I did this too! Although I lasted around a month before leaving and then came back a month later. I joined in on the forums quite quickly the second time around
I will also hide as and when rather than deserting |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"V had a profile with her then husband. M had a single man profile. We met as solo meet for V to come back home to report..... the chemistry was mind blowing. V has since split with her husband and we've decided that we want to try this together. So previous profiles closed, left the scene for a while to just enjoy one another and now are trying how the dynamics of MFF or MMFF work for us in the future.....
And they say Swinging is good for relationships...."
It wasn't for us at the time..... our marriage was broken before we started!! I was very vanilla and did it in hope of saving us!! With hindsight, it was a stupid thing to do as I didn't enjoy it, I felt ashamed, I went through many feelings I was unable to talk to my husband about. Not because I didn't want to, but because he isn't the kind of man to communicate. He saw it as an open playing field to whore around. He lied about meets, lied about safe sex, it broke us, but because he went into it with an agenda, I wasn't privy to..... now my relationship with M is completely different. We've been together for almost 3 years and I trust him implicitly...... to us fab is here for our pleasure, to enhance our already mind blowing sex life, with my previous relationship, it was meant to salvage a relationship, where there was nothing to salvage.... so whilst it's broken an unhealthy, toxic relationship, it's allowed me to enter one that has been absolutely wonderful from the moment our eyes met...... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I first joined about 3 years ago as a couple. That lasted 2 days but then when that was deleted I had gotten curious so rejoined myself within a day. I've left and returned a few times, mainly out of boredom/needing a break/. I find even if I hide my profile I still log in so at times it's necessary to delete altogether |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Deleted 2 accounts in total, first one because I wanted to give a vanilla relationship a go, and the second because I took something to heart that I shouldn't have.
I've eased back on a couple of occasions like earlier this year when I had a breakdown and when I was spending a lot of time on a kink site.
But I always come bacl |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I met someone from off this site and started dating and we decided to have a couples profile
Then I found out he had cheated away from the site
So just thought I needed time away from the scene to get my head sorted out
I left for a few months
I came back when I knew I was in a better place |
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"I haven't left yet, but I'm on the edge. Little fed up of mind games and falseness"
Exactly the same with us, The last 2 meets the guys didn't turn up, We really thought they were genuine.
We nearly deleted account today but will try rewriting profile first. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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1st time on here as a single guy after 2 different couple accounts, when the relationship's finished, didn't think it was right to continue with the profile, so deleted them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When I left last I'd been on for about 18 months with no meets and no one talked at all so I thought screw it im going.
Year or so later Ive come back again"
Better luck this time then..... I left for almost the opposite reason (mainly). I should have just hidden it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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originally here as a single - met a fella here and came off as only wanted to play with him - then made a couples profile over 4 years til it was hacked so we deleted it - then the next profile went the same way (someone needs to get a life) then set up this one - the drag being the week you cant post in here - |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I leave every year just before my account gets to a year old.
Do you set a new one up a week before UNLOS day so you can maintain forum continuity? "
Sometimes I have, but twice I've deleted it off the back of me being pissed off or wanted to quickly remove myself from the association of something I've written on here! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I leave every year just before my account gets to a year old.
Do you set a new one up a week before UNLOS day so you can maintain forum continuity?
Sometimes I have, but twice I've deleted it off the back of me being pissed off or wanted to quickly remove myself from the association of something I've written on here! "
you've stayed strong tho!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I leave every year just before my account gets to a year old.
Do you set a new one up a week before UNLOS day so you can maintain forum continuity?
Sometimes I have, but twice I've deleted it off the back of me being pissed off or wanted to quickly remove myself from the association of something I've written on here!
you've stayed strong tho!!"
Stayed strong through what, I haven't deleted an account for 2 months!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I leave every year just before my account gets to a year old.
Do you set a new one up a week before UNLOS day so you can maintain forum continuity?
Sometimes I have, but twice I've deleted it off the back of me being pissed off or wanted to quickly remove myself from the association of something I've written on here!
you've stayed strong tho!!
Stayed strong through what, I haven't deleted an account for 2 months!
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last few weeks |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Left the first time because I got into a relationship.
Came back because I missed the forums.
Left a second time because I got bored of the site and the forums.
Came back because I missed the forums.... The pattern continues....
I'm a yo-yo fabber. Left quite a few times.
Feeling the boredom beginning to set back in now. So I'm guessing it won't be too long till I hit delete again |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I left last year, One of the reasons was that I signed up to a dating site and I wanted to give it a proper go without being distracted on here, I came back with my tail between my legs 3 months later
But to be honest I missed the forums/chat rooms and the people I chat with I also found it hard to pass the time from coming home from work and going to bed
You sure it wasn't because you missed a friend or two
To be fair it was you who said if I don't come back you would leave fab for ever
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I left because I wasn't enjoying it anymore. I'd met some great people, had a few adventures and then it felt very flat. So I left and as is usual came back, initially out of nosiness and then met a few more interesting people. I'm currently in a "meh" mood again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a feisty one and deleted my couples profile in temper and he made me wait 12months before we would swing together again.
My single profile I deleted one in the early days due to stalkers |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm a feisty one and deleted my couples profile in temper and he made me wait 12months before we would swing together again.
My single profile I deleted one in the early days due to stalkers "
hello you xxxx dont often see you here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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When I don't want to be on here for whatever reason I just hide or don't login, if I go UNLOS then it will be for good.
Serial comer & goers I think have something to hide, they probably don't but that's the impression they give to me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm a feisty one and deleted my couples profile in temper and he made me wait 12months before we would swing together again.
My single profile I deleted one in the early days due to stalkers
hello you xxxx dont often see you here "
I dip in and out these days, real life gets in the way  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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First time I was here as a couple, we wanted to find MFF, but because unicorns are rare we deleted our account. He then moved back to his country and after some time I joined it again to find a woman. That's never happened and I met just guys so far. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The first profile I deleted to get rid of a stalker ex FB, (he had my email so used I figured best to tell him I,d stopped playing) It didn't work he's still stalking me and makes regular new profiles.
The second time after a disagreement on the forum.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I got a case of cold feet and decided I didn't want to risk anyone from work making a connection between my profile and me. I also found I was checking the site so often I was annoying myself. So one day I just decided on a clean break, went UNLOS without announcing it, and also deleted my Kik account. In hindsight, I wish I had told a select few about my plan, but I figured they would only make me want to stay, and I didn't want to at that point. I had no intention of returning, so I just disappeared like a ninja.
It was nice not feeling the need to check the site all the time, like I was free in a way. But gradually I started to miss certain people I was chatting to, and even the forums. I decided to return, but made a deal with myself to only check the site when there was nothing more important I could be doing in real life. So far it's working out well, and I'm glad to be back. |
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Time, not enough of it. With raising kids, running a household, work and other more wholesome non Fab activities/hobbies you kind of run out of both the time and the energy for FAB. I have some great FAB friends already and sometimes you just need to take some time out. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think I left for a grand total of 4 months due to a messy situation that I found difficult to cope with. I then returned as I missed talking to my friends in the chatrooms so much |
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I left as I had a malicious stalker hell bent on making my life as miserable as possible. I came back under a different profile name to 'shake off' that person and kept a low profile until I was fairly confident they'd gone off to make someone else's life a misery!
So far so good! 
Doubt I'd permanently leave fab for some years yet. Even if mr Rightish (should he exist) turns out to be a non-swinger - I'd still stick around for the forums, socials and friends I've made over the years! Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We were having a long break and hiding our profile didn't seem to do much as people still kept messaging us constantly so we left. This was the case most of the times we have left.
~Mia |
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By *at3232Woman
over a year ago
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"Our 8 year old son was Diagnosed with a terminal brain tumor, our focus was 100% on him.. it has been nearly 18 months since we lost him and we have only just really returned. Taking baby steps "
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