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"On Loose Women was the subject of age gap relationships. Examples of 24 years old woman with man 64; and woman 91 with man of 31. What are your thoughts and the rationale behind those thoughts? Are you thinking of yourself in that situation or perhaps your adult children, or even a parent?" I would have to say physical age in relationships isn't important, more a case of being on the same level of understanding and getting a long | |||
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"I personally prefer older men, hence the difference between M and I, however, I have two children with my ex, who's knobbing a girl young enough to be his daughter and only 7 years older than my eldest son. Whilst I have no interest in who he's with as he's my ex for a reason, it bothers me in terms of my son being hurt as his father doesn't give a damn what it does to him. The fact that they both have very different values and expectations of life I'm not claiming to know, as I have no idea about their relationship and quite happy to keep it that way, I however judge it by the extra curricular activities they both engage in and the image and style my ex husband has adopted. I'm not sure whether to laugh at him or feel sorry for him. I wish him no ill will and I hope that almost 20 year difference is nothing but a number for him, but in terms of our children, it's unacceptable...." how old are your children | |||
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"I personally prefer older men, hence the difference between M and I, however, I have two children with my ex, who's knobbing a girl young enough to be his daughter and only 7 years older than my eldest son. Whilst I have no interest in who he's with as he's my ex for a reason, it bothers me in terms of my son being hurt as his father doesn't give a damn what it does to him. The fact that they both have very different values and expectations of life I'm not claiming to know, as I have no idea about their relationship and quite happy to keep it that way, I however judge it by the extra curricular activities they both engage in and the image and style my ex husband has adopted. I'm not sure whether to laugh at him or feel sorry for him. I wish him no ill will and I hope that almost 20 year difference is nothing but a number for him, but in terms of our children, it's unacceptable....how old are your children" The youngest is three with special needs and the oldest is 13 and properly in throws of puberty.... | |||
"I personally prefer older men, hence the difference between M and I, however, I have two children with my ex, who's knobbing a girl young enough to be his daughter and only 7 years older than my eldest son. Whilst I have no interest in who he's with as he's my ex for a reason, it bothers me in terms of my son being hurt as his father doesn't give a damn what it does to him. The fact that they both have very different values and expectations of life I'm not claiming to know, as I have no idea about their relationship and quite happy to keep it that way, I however judge it by the extra curricular activities they both engage in and the image and style my ex husband has adopted. I'm not sure whether to laugh at him or feel sorry for him. I wish him no ill will and I hope that almost 20 year difference is nothing but a number for him, but in terms of our children, it's unacceptable...." You seem bitter and jealous, my ex has been with younger women and we have a 14 year old daughter......... maybe make less of an issue about it and your kids won't even notice, as long as your children are happy  | |||
"I personally prefer older men, hence the difference between M and I, however, I have two children with my ex, who's knobbing a girl young enough to be his daughter and only 7 years older than my eldest son. Whilst I have no interest in who he's with as he's my ex for a reason, it bothers me in terms of my son being hurt as his father doesn't give a damn what it does to him. The fact that they both have very different values and expectations of life I'm not claiming to know, as I have no idea about their relationship and quite happy to keep it that way, I however judge it by the extra curricular activities they both engage in and the image and style my ex husband has adopted. I'm not sure whether to laugh at him or feel sorry for him. I wish him no ill will and I hope that almost 20 year difference is nothing but a number for him, but in terms of our children, it's unacceptable.... You seem bitter and jealous, my ex has been with younger women and we have a 14 year old daughter......... maybe make less of an issue about it and your kids won't even notice, as long as your children are happy " | |||
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"I'm not jealous, wish I was, believe me, what I am is angry at the fact that he's promused his son answers, he now ignores him. He hasn't bothered to see his son for 8 months now. He only sees the toddler who doesn't ask questions. As I've said, as an ex wife, I have no issue, whatever makes him happy, I have no reason to be jealous, I've been with M for almost 3 years and this relationship fulfils every need my marriage lacked, I just cannot ignore my son hurting as his father ignores him because knobbing a 20 year old pothead is more important to him. All the affairs he's had were with little girls who were either broken or not looking for a relationship. I've taken care of his son he created a week before he met me on a one night stand as he loves it bareback. Talking of which, I've lost count of the times I've had to get myself checked due to his love of throwing it around uncovered, his latest throphy included. He's that devoted to her, that he was on here, as far as I'm aware, I don't know if he still is, I have better things to do with my life, like fixing my broken teenager....." It's all so negative! No wonder your teenager is struggling. No breakup/split family is easy but I don't think your issues have anything to do with age gap relationships because as you said your fulfilled in yours and I'm guessing your teenager approves. Teenagers are funny creatures, they're almost like aliens to us parents lol xx | |||
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"My best friend has been in an age gap relationship for over 10 years and whilst we mocked him at the start it's outgrown many of the same age relationships that our group have been in. I've had many conversations with my friend that discussed the situations the poster above references largely because my mates partner has kids older than him. Ultimately they are happy together and the kids and my mate have a shared vested interest; the happiness of the partner/Mum so they act (and work things out) like adults. Unless children are involved and being abused/exploited, that is a horrible word to brandish about. " I couldn't agree more and I commend your friend to behave like a man!! A quality my ex husband sadly lacks..... | |||
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"I personally prefer older men, hence the difference between M and I, however, I have two children with my ex, who's knobbing a girl young enough to be his daughter and only 7 years older than my eldest son. Whilst I have no interest in who he's with as he's my ex for a reason, it bothers me in terms of my son being hurt as his father doesn't give a damn what it does to him. The fact that they both have very different values and expectations of life I'm not claiming to know, as I have no idea about their relationship and quite happy to keep it that way, I however judge it by the extra curricular activities they both engage in and the image and style my ex husband has adopted. I'm not sure whether to laugh at him or feel sorry for him. I wish him no ill will and I hope that almost 20 year difference is nothing but a number for him, but in terms of our children, it's unacceptable.... Is your son being hurt?" Which one? And in what way do you mean if he's being hurt? Just so I can answer properly as I have two tiddlers;-) | |||
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"I personally prefer older men, hence the difference between M and I, however, I have two children with my ex, who's knobbing a girl young enough to be his daughter and only 7 years older than my eldest son. Whilst I have no interest in who he's with as he's my ex for a reason, it bothers me in terms of my son being hurt as his father doesn't give a damn what it does to him. The fact that they both have very different values and expectations of life I'm not claiming to know, as I have no idea about their relationship and quite happy to keep it that way, I however judge it by the extra curricular activities they both engage in and the image and style my ex husband has adopted. I'm not sure whether to laugh at him or feel sorry for him. I wish him no ill will and I hope that almost 20 year difference is nothing but a number for him, but in terms of our children, it's unacceptable.... Is your son being hurt? Which one? And in what way do you mean if he's being hurt? Just so I can answer properly as I have two tiddlers;-)" I deleted my question cos you answered it throughout the thread. | |||
"I personally prefer older men, hence the difference between M and I, however, I have two children with my ex, who's knobbing a girl young enough to be his daughter and only 7 years older than my eldest son. Whilst I have no interest in who he's with as he's my ex for a reason, it bothers me in terms of my son being hurt as his father doesn't give a damn what it does to him. The fact that they both have very different values and expectations of life I'm not claiming to know, as I have no idea about their relationship and quite happy to keep it that way, I however judge it by the extra curricular activities they both engage in and the image and style my ex husband has adopted. I'm not sure whether to laugh at him or feel sorry for him. I wish him no ill will and I hope that almost 20 year difference is nothing but a number for him, but in terms of our children, it's unacceptable.... Is your son being hurt? Which one? And in what way do you mean if he's being hurt? Just so I can answer properly as I have two tiddlers;-) I deleted my question cos you answered it throughout the thread." Ah, no worries, glad that it answered your question though, that it made at least some sense.....  | |||
"I personally prefer older men, hence the difference between M and I, however, I have two children with my ex, who's knobbing a girl young enough to be his daughter and only 7 years older than my eldest son. Whilst I have no interest in who he's with as he's my ex for a reason, it bothers me in terms of my son being hurt as his father doesn't give a damn what it does to him. The fact that they both have very different values and expectations of life I'm not claiming to know, as I have no idea about their relationship and quite happy to keep it that way, I however judge it by the extra curricular activities they both engage in and the image and style my ex husband has adopted. I'm not sure whether to laugh at him or feel sorry for him. I wish him no ill will and I hope that almost 20 year difference is nothing but a number for him, but in terms of our children, it's unacceptable...." I'm glad my children aren't like that. Maybe it's because they are over 30, but they don't have a problem with me being knobbed by men in their 30s. Or 20s, now I think about past relationships. I don't love my children less, or treat them differently, because I'm having sex with younger men. Two of them tell me they love me; I don't know what causes those feelings for them, for a woman 20+ years their senior. | |||
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"I know that each case is different and the heart wants what the heart wants, but I'd struggle to understand why someone a lot younger would want an older person. When I was 21 I'd have not looked twice at anyone above 30! If you're 21 you should be out with your own age, making the same mistakes together! As for the extreme age gap, young bloke with 90 year old woman? That's a fetish! " I think it depends on if you're attracted to a look, or a character. I look in the mirror and see a middle aged, sagging, dreary looking woman. My partner, for whatever reason, is in love with me, and he's 16 years younger, attractive, we'll groomed, with a well kept body. I'm baffled. | |||
"On Loose Women was the subject of age gap relationships. Examples of 24 years old woman with man 64; and woman 91 with man of 31. What are your thoughts and the rationale behind those thoughts? Are you thinking of yourself in that situation or perhaps your adult children, or even a parent?" Age may be just a number up to a point, but my honest opinion is with an age gap that great something is out of kilter one way or another. If they make it work good luck to them, I have no axe to grind. | |||
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"Love is love. It doesn't matter what age the people are." Agreed | |||
"I personally prefer older men, hence the difference between M and I, however, I have two children with my ex, who's knobbing a girl young enough to be his daughter and only 7 years older than my eldest son. Whilst I have no interest in who he's with as he's my ex for a reason, it bothers me in terms of my son being hurt as his father doesn't give a damn what it does to him. The fact that they both have very different values and expectations of life I'm not claiming to know, as I have no idea about their relationship and quite happy to keep it that way, I however judge it by the extra curricular activities they both engage in and the image and style my ex husband has adopted. I'm not sure whether to laugh at him or feel sorry for him. I wish him no ill will and I hope that almost 20 year difference is nothing but a number for him, but in terms of our children, it's unacceptable.... I'm glad my children aren't like that. Maybe it's because they are over 30, but they don't have a problem with me being knobbed by men in their 30s. Or 20s, now I think about past relationships. I don't love my children less, or treat them differently, because I'm having sex with younger men. Two of them tell me they love me; I don't know what causes those feelings for them, for a woman 20+ years their senior. " It's more than likely that you as their mother have made them feel that they matter to you, that they are not less important to you than those who you have sex with, maybe it's because your concern for them extend beyond organising a threesome on the night you have walked out of their lives. My son is hurting as his father doesn't care, that's the bottom line..... the fact that yours a grown up and not at the beginning of puberty after a vicious assault inflicted by his son from his one night stand, might help the situation also. Still, I'm pleased to hear that it works for you!! Wish it was my case also.....xx | |||
"My Dad left my Mum for a woman 32 yrs younger than them both. She is 8yrs younger than me. It was very strange at first and people judged her as being after his money. They have now been married for 9yrs. I love her to bits after the initial omfg. They are so obviously in love and dote on each other. A girl I went to school with when she was 16 met a guy 20 yrs older ... you can imagine what people said about that one! Including myself. 22 yrs later they are still together and have a very strong relationship. Unfortunately society can be very judgemental. But at the end of the day each to their own xxx " Absolutely, I don't care for the age gap from another woman's perspective. He wasn't satisfying my needs, I wasn't satisfying his, but to abandon his son, he's willingly created just because he doesn't care how he feels about the age gap or her character is unforgivable. That said, what's the flavour of the month this month, might be history the next..... he's not a relationship material, nor does he have the ability to deal with challenges of a relationship  | |||
"I have never said anything in front of my lad..... 12 years I've kept silence and then he figured most of it out..... it is negative because his father just ignores him and his anger as, by his own words, he cannot handle it!! It's heartbreaking to watch my son rage and not being able to help him. Despite my ex being an arsewipe, I talk to my teenage son every day about him, every day I ask him if he wants to talk to his dad as the fact that mine and his relationship ended, doesn't mean his has to. His response is "mummy, he doesn't give a damn, he just ignores me cos I don't agree with his lifestyle and I won't accept a girl that's a kid"..... it's so sad, it really is..... xx" you don't need to say anything directly in front of him he will pick up on your negativity anyway and probably over hear you bad mouthing his father. I'm pleasantly surprised at some of the comments from some of the other ladies on this thread as all to often the 'father' gets slated, there's always two sides to every story. I'm having real issues with my daughter at the min as a result of information she has been told or over heard from her mother, incorrect information making assumptions. It's now at the point where I don't want her to come with me because it spoils the time which isn't fair on my youngest. After we first split (she had an affair and whacked up with him), I started seeing a girl 16 years younger than me. It didn't last but the couple of years we were together we were happy. Throughout that time my ex was disgusting in her behaviour towards me. Like people have said it's just a number.if both parties are happy then what's the issue?! | |||
"My Dad left my Mum for a woman 32 yrs younger than them both. She is 8yrs younger than me. It was very strange at first and people judged her as being after his money. They have now been married for 9yrs. I love her to bits after the initial omfg. They are so obviously in love and dote on each other. A girl I went to school with when she was 16 met a guy 20 yrs older ... you can imagine what people said about that one! Including myself. 22 yrs later they are still together and have a very strong relationship. Unfortunately society can be very judgemental. But at the end of the day each to their own xxx Absolutely, I don't care for the age gap from another woman's perspective. He wasn't satisfying my needs, I wasn't satisfying his, but to abandon his son, he's willingly created just because he doesn't care how he feels about the age gap or her character is unforgivable. That said, what's the flavour of the month this month, might be history the next..... he's not a relationship material, nor does he have the ability to deal with challenges of a relationship "you say he's not relationship material, he could say the same about you. Some people just aren't compatible and bring out the worst in each other. Put that same person with someone else and they change completely. | |||
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"My Dad left my Mum for a woman 32 yrs younger than them both. She is 8yrs younger than me. It was very strange at first and people judged her as being after his money. They have now been married for 9yrs. I love her to bits after the initial omfg. They are so obviously in love and dote on each other. A girl I went to school with when she was 16 met a guy 20 yrs older ... you can imagine what people said about that one! Including myself. 22 yrs later they are still together and have a very strong relationship. Unfortunately society can be very judgemental. But at the end of the day each to their own xxx Absolutely, I don't care for the age gap from another woman's perspective. He wasn't satisfying my needs, I wasn't satisfying his, but to abandon his son, he's willingly created just because he doesn't care how he feels about the age gap or her character is unforgivable. That said, what's the flavour of the month this month, might be history the next..... he's not a relationship material, nor does he have the ability to deal with challenges of a relationship "Confused as you why you responded the way you did to my post!!! I was answering the op's original post nothing was aimed at you whatsoever  | |||
"My Dad left my Mum for a woman 32 yrs younger than them both. She is 8yrs younger than me. It was very strange at first and people judged her as being after his money. They have now been married for 9yrs. I love her to bits after the initial omfg. They are so obviously in love and dote on each other. A girl I went to school with when she was 16 met a guy 20 yrs older ... you can imagine what people said about that one! Including myself. 22 yrs later they are still together and have a very strong relationship. Unfortunately society can be very judgemental. But at the end of the day each to their own xxx Absolutely, I don't care for the age gap from another woman's perspective. He wasn't satisfying my needs, I wasn't satisfying his, but to abandon his son, he's willingly created just because he doesn't care how he feels about the age gap or her character is unforgivable. That said, what's the flavour of the month this month, might be history the next..... he's not a relationship material, nor does he have the ability to deal with challenges of a relationship you say he's not relationship material, he could say the same about you. Some people just aren't compatible and bring out the worst in each other. Put that same person with someone else and they change completely. "He could say that indeed, I however didn't enter our marriage with a hidden agenda, he did.... I look after his son, who had nothing to do with me whilst he was whoring around, not to mention the prostitutes etc..... it's not about compatibility as much as about integrity..... I've put up with all that crap for 15 years and now I hope that he will treat his child girlfriend better, I really do...... she might not be able to cope with it that well..... | |||
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"My Dad left my Mum for a woman 32 yrs younger than them both. She is 8yrs younger than me. It was very strange at first and people judged her as being after his money. They have now been married for 9yrs. I love her to bits after the initial omfg. They are so obviously in love and dote on each other. A girl I went to school with when she was 16 met a guy 20 yrs older ... you can imagine what people said about that one! Including myself. 22 yrs later they are still together and have a very strong relationship. Unfortunately society can be very judgemental. But at the end of the day each to their own xxx Absolutely, I don't care for the age gap from another woman's perspective. He wasn't satisfying my needs, I wasn't satisfying his, but to abandon his son, he's willingly created just because he doesn't care how he feels about the age gap or her character is unforgivable. That said, what's the flavour of the month this month, might be history the next..... he's not a relationship material, nor does he have the ability to deal with challenges of a relationship you say he's not relationship material, he could say the same about you. Some people just aren't compatible and bring out the worst in each other. Put that same person with someone else and they change completely.
He could say that indeed, I however didn't enter our marriage with a hidden agenda, he did.... I look after his son, who had nothing to do with me whilst he was whoring around, not to mention the prostitutes etc..... it's not about compatibility as much as about integrity..... I've put up with all that crap for 15 years and now I hope that he will treat his child girlfriend better, I really do...... she might not be able to cope with it that well....."well his girlfriens hasnt been around for 15 years if shes only 20. Sounds like you have issues that have bugger all to do with age gap relationships | |||
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"I personally prefer older men, hence the difference between M and I, however, I have two children with my ex, who's knobbing a girl young enough to be his daughter and only 7 years older than my eldest son. Whilst I have no interest in who he's with as he's my ex for a reason, it bothers me in terms of my son being hurt as his father doesn't give a damn what it does to him. The fact that they both have very different values and expectations of life I'm not claiming to know, as I have no idea about their relationship and quite happy to keep it that way, I however judge it by the extra curricular activities they both engage in and the image and style my ex husband has adopted. I'm not sure whether to laugh at him or feel sorry for him. I wish him no ill will and I hope that almost 20 year difference is nothing but a number for him, but in terms of our children, it's unacceptable...." What a crock of shit ! My eldest son is two years older than my wife , and they get on really well . Maybe I may be like your ex , and my image and style may embarrass some , but I don't give a flying fuck , and more importantly nor does my wife , or any of my kids . Why would you think that the age of your exes current partner will affect your son ? Are you really saying he shouldn't be with a younger woman in case it offends you on behalf of your son ? | |||
"I have never said anything in front of my lad..... 12 years I've kept silence and then he figured most of it out..... it is negative because his father just ignores him and his anger as, by his own words, he cannot handle it!! It's heartbreaking to watch my son rage and not being able to help him. Despite my ex being an arsewipe, I talk to my teenage son every day about him, every day I ask him if he wants to talk to his dad as the fact that mine and his relationship ended, doesn't mean his has to. His response is "mummy, he doesn't give a damn, he just ignores me cos I don't agree with his lifestyle and I won't accept a girl that's a kid"..... it's so sad, it really is..... xx you don't need to say anything directly in front of him he will pick up on your negativity anyway and probably over hear you bad mouthing his father. I'm pleasantly surprised at some of the comments from some of the other ladies on this thread as all to often the 'father' gets slated, there's always two sides to every story. I'm having real issues with my daughter at the min as a result of information she has been told or over heard from her mother, incorrect information making assumptions. It's now at the point where I don't want her to come with me because it spoils the time which isn't fair on my youngest. After we first split (she had an affair and whacked up with him), I started seeing a girl 16 years younger than me. It didn't last but the couple of years we were together we were happy. Throughout that time my ex was disgusting in her behaviour towards me. Like people have said it's just a number.if both parties are happy then what's the issue?!" Believe it or not, I encourage him to see his father, every day!! He doesn't want to because of his father's reaction to the situation. I'd love nothing more than for them to get on, my responsibility is to bring up a balanced young men, so I want him to see his father, however, I cannot make his father interested in him..... also M has got two children as well and his attitude towards it all is completely different to that of my ex. So whilst not all men are the same, my ex proved to be what I have hoped him to not be..... I'm sorry you have issues with your daughter. I have no doubt that you listen to her and talk to her and care how she feels | |||
"My Dad left my Mum for a woman 32 yrs younger than them both. She is 8yrs younger than me. It was very strange at first and people judged her as being after his money. They have now been married for 9yrs. I love her to bits after the initial omfg. They are so obviously in love and dote on each other. A girl I went to school with when she was 16 met a guy 20 yrs older ... you can imagine what people said about that one! Including myself. 22 yrs later they are still together and have a very strong relationship. Unfortunately society can be very judgemental. But at the end of the day each to their own xxx Absolutely, I don't care for the age gap from another woman's perspective. He wasn't satisfying my needs, I wasn't satisfying his, but to abandon his son, he's willingly created just because he doesn't care how he feels about the age gap or her character is unforgivable. That said, what's the flavour of the month this month, might be history the next..... he's not a relationship material, nor does he have the ability to deal with challenges of a relationship you say he's not relationship material, he could say the same about you. Some people just aren't compatible and bring out the worst in each other. Put that same person with someone else and they change completely.
He could say that indeed, I however didn't enter our marriage with a hidden agenda, he did.... I look after his son, who had nothing to do with me whilst he was whoring around, not to mention the prostitutes etc..... it's not about compatibility as much as about integrity..... I've put up with all that crap for 15 years and now I hope that he will treat his child girlfriend better, I really do...... she might not be able to cope with it that well.....well his girlfriens hasnt been around for 15 years if shes only 20. Sounds like you have issues that have bugger all to do with age gap relationships"Exactly
Your sounding more and more bitter as you continue to reply! Whether you've slagged him off in front of your child or not he's obviously picked up on your anger, kids can be very sensitive to emotion and you seem to have been angry for years ......... this has nothing to do with the age gap post your commenting on and definitely nothing to do with his 20 year old gf | |||
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"I personally prefer older men, hence the difference between M and I, however, I have two children with my ex, who's knobbing a girl young enough to be his daughter and only 7 years older than my eldest son. Whilst I have no interest in who he's with as he's my ex for a reason, it bothers me in terms of my son being hurt as his father doesn't give a damn what it does to him. The fact that they both have very different values and expectations of life I'm not claiming to know, as I have no idea about their relationship and quite happy to keep it that way, I however judge it by the extra curricular activities they both engage in and the image and style my ex husband has adopted. I'm not sure whether to laugh at him or feel sorry for him. I wish him no ill will and I hope that almost 20 year difference is nothing but a number for him, but in terms of our children, it's unacceptable.... What a crock of shit ! My eldest son is two years older than my wife , and they get on really well . Maybe I may be like your ex , and my image and style may embarrass some , but I don't give a flying fuck , and more importantly nor does my wife , or any of my kids . Why would you think that the age of your exes current partner will affect your son ? Are you really saying he shouldn't be with a younger woman in case it offends you on behalf of your son ? " Nope, not in the slightest, it doesn't offend me and it sure wouldn't offend my son, if my ex talked to him about the issue, if he listened to him rather than forced his new gf onto him. Why would his relationship offend me, when I've been with M before he even knew his current trophy. It's all down to his relationship with his son and the fact that his gf stopped seeing my ex after he resumes his place in the youngest son's life. That tells me all I need to know. What works for you, may not work for me and vice versa. No need to be aggressive, and perhaps you are like my ex, only you know as you have met him a couple of times..... | |||
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"I personally prefer older men, hence the difference between M and I, however, I have two children with my ex, who's knobbing a girl young enough to be his daughter and only 7 years older than my eldest son. Whilst I have no interest in who he's with as he's my ex for a reason, it bothers me in terms of my son being hurt as his father doesn't give a damn what it does to him. The fact that they both have very different values and expectations of life I'm not claiming to know, as I have no idea about their relationship and quite happy to keep it that way, I however judge it by the extra curricular activities they both engage in and the image and style my ex husband has adopted. I'm not sure whether to laugh at him or feel sorry for him. I wish him no ill will and I hope that almost 20 year difference is nothing but a number for him, but in terms of our children, it's unacceptable.... What a crock of shit ! My eldest son is two years older than my wife , and they get on really well . Maybe I may be like your ex , and my image and style may embarrass some , but I don't give a flying fuck , and more importantly nor does my wife , or any of my kids . Why would you think that the age of your exes current partner will affect your son ? Are you really saying he shouldn't be with a younger woman in case it offends you on behalf of your son ? Nope, not in the slightest, it doesn't offend me and it sure wouldn't offend my son, if my ex talked to him about the issue, if he listened to him rather than forced his new gf onto him. Why would his relationship offend me, when I've been with M before he even knew his current trophy. It's all down to his relationship with his son and the fact that his gf stopped seeing my ex after he resumes his place in the youngest son's life. That tells me all I need to know. What works for you, may not work for me and vice versa. No need to be aggressive, and perhaps you are like my ex, only you know as you have met him a couple of times....." Your the aggressive one and very angry about your ex which is weird if your in such a happy relationship now ........ you've hijacked this thread with your opinions but not willing to take on board anyone's comments | |||
"My Dad left my Mum for a woman 32 yrs younger than them both. She is 8yrs younger than me. It was very strange at first and people judged her as being after his money. They have now been married for 9yrs. I love her to bits after the initial omfg. They are so obviously in love and dote on each other. I disagree...... I've tolerated all of his affairs for years and had no issues with them. So it's not the fact that he's with her that is an issue, it's the fact that he ignores his son and his issues. Even social services, which he involved, agree that it's not healthy and only allow him to see the youngest under the supervision of his mother! I'd give anything for my ex to grow up, mend his relationship with his son and took some pressure of me as being a 24/7 mum, studying and having a debilitating illness isn't easy...... A girl I went to school with when she was 16 met a guy 20 yrs older ... you can imagine what people said about that one! Including myself. 22 yrs later they are still together and have a very strong relationship. Unfortunately society can be very judgemental. But at the end of the day each to their own xxx Absolutely, I don't care for the age gap from another woman's perspective. He wasn't satisfying my needs, I wasn't satisfying his, but to abandon his son, he's willingly created just because he doesn't care how he feels about the age gap or her character is unforgivable. That said, what's the flavour of the month this month, might be history the next..... he's not a relationship material, nor does he have the ability to deal with challenges of a relationship you say he's not relationship material, he could say the same about you. Some people just aren't compatible and bring out the worst in each other. Put that same person with someone else and they change completely.
He could say that indeed, I however didn't enter our marriage with a hidden agenda, he did.... I look after his son, who had nothing to do with me whilst he was whoring around, not to mention the prostitutes etc..... it's not about compatibility as much as about integrity..... I've put up with all that crap for 15 years and now I hope that he will treat his child girlfriend better, I really do...... she might not be able to cope with it that well.....well his girlfriens hasnt been around for 15 years if shes only 20. Sounds like you have issues that have bugger all to do with age gap relationships
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Your sounding more and more bitter as you continue to reply! Whether you've slagged him off in front of your child or not he's obviously picked up on your anger, kids can be very sensitive to emotion and you seem to have been angry for years ......... this has nothing to do with the age gap post your commenting on and definitely nothing to do with his 20 year old gf " | |||
"I personally prefer older men, hence the difference between M and I, however, I have two children with my ex, who's knobbing a girl young enough to be his daughter and only 7 years older than my eldest son. Whilst I have no interest in who he's with as he's my ex for a reason, it bothers me in terms of my son being hurt as his father doesn't give a damn what it does to him. The fact that they both have very different values and expectations of life I'm not claiming to know, as I have no idea about their relationship and quite happy to keep it that way, I however judge it by the extra curricular activities they both engage in and the image and style my ex husband has adopted. I'm not sure whether to laugh at him or feel sorry for him. I wish him no ill will and I hope that almost 20 year difference is nothing but a number for him, but in terms of our children, it's unacceptable.... What a crock of shit ! My eldest son is two years older than my wife , and they get on really well . Maybe I may be like your ex , and my image and style may embarrass some , but I don't give a flying fuck , and more importantly nor does my wife , or any of my kids . Why would you think that the age of your exes current partner will affect your son ? Are you really saying he shouldn't be with a younger woman in case it offends you on behalf of your son ? Nope, not in the slightest, it doesn't offend me and it sure wouldn't offend my son, if my ex talked to him about the issue, if he listened to him rather than forced his new gf onto him. Why would his relationship offend me, when I've been with M before he even knew his current trophy. It's all down to his relationship with his son and the fact that his gf stopped seeing my ex after he resumes his place in the youngest son's life. That tells me all I need to know. What works for you, may not work for me and vice versa. No need to be aggressive, and perhaps you are like my ex, only you know as you have met him a couple of times..... Your the aggressive one and very angry about your ex which is weird if your in such a happy relationship now ........ you've hijacked this thread with your opinions but not willing to take on board anyone's comments " I've had no need to swear, that's what I perceive as aggressive. I do agree that age is just a number if it works for everybody. I am listening to others' opinions and offering a counter one. Feel free to slate me over that. Perhaps your aggression comes from the need to justify something? Only you know the answer..... | |||
"I personally prefer older men, hence the difference between M and I, however, I have two children with my ex, who's knobbing a girl young enough to be his daughter and only 7 years older than my eldest son. Whilst I have no interest in who he's with as he's my ex for a reason, it bothers me in terms of my son being hurt as his father doesn't give a damn what it does to him. The fact that they both have very different values and expectations of life I'm not claiming to know, as I have no idea about their relationship and quite happy to keep it that way, I however judge it by the extra curricular activities they both engage in and the image and style my ex husband has adopted. I'm not sure whether to laugh at him or feel sorry for him. I wish him no ill will and I hope that almost 20 year difference is nothing but a number for him, but in terms of our children, it's unacceptable.... What a crock of shit ! My eldest son is two years older than my wife , and they get on really well . Maybe I may be like your ex , and my image and style may embarrass some , but I don't give a flying fuck , and more importantly nor does my wife , or any of my kids . Why would you think that the age of your exes current partner will affect your son ? Are you really saying he shouldn't be with a younger woman in case it offends you on behalf of your son ? Nope, not in the slightest, it doesn't offend me and it sure wouldn't offend my son, if my ex talked to him about the issue, if he listened to him rather than forced his new gf onto him. Why would his relationship offend me, when I've been with M before he even knew his current trophy. It's all down to his relationship with his son and the fact that his gf stopped seeing my ex after he resumes his place in the youngest son's life. That tells me all I need to know. What works for you, may not work for me and vice versa. No need to be aggressive, and perhaps you are like my ex, only you know as you have met him a couple of times..... Your the aggressive one and very angry about your ex which is weird if your in such a happy relationship now ........ you've hijacked this thread with your opinions but not willing to take on board anyone's comments I've had no need to swear, that's what I perceive as aggressive. I do agree that age is just a number if it works for everybody. I am listening to others' opinions and offering a counter one. Feel free to slate me over that. Perhaps your aggression comes from the need to justify something? Only you know the answer....." 'Knobbing, arsewipe and paedo" are worse than swearing when your referring to the father of your children ......... I'm not aggressive in the slightest, I'm just trying to understand why your so angry | |||
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"And I am angry about his role as a father, nothing more. My relationship needs are fulfilled by M, his duty to his children is neglected as his gf stopped seeing him once he started seeing our youngest again. If she was supportive of his relationship with his son and understood my son's issues, all would be just fine! I have no issue with an age gap, give me a silver fox any time of the day, so as such, I've not hijacked the thread, I've expressed my opinion, used evidence to support and counter support my hypothesis. If you feel I've hijacked it, perhaps you have more of an issue with this than you care to admit. I appreciate everybody's view and it's been great to hear them and I have taken them on board as I can only see the matter with a subjective view. So thank you, your view, albeit aggressive is much appreciated "Because we don't agree with you myself and the man a few comments above are aggressive
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"And I am angry about his role as a father, nothing more. My relationship needs are fulfilled by M, his duty to his children is neglected as his gf stopped seeing him once he started seeing our youngest again. If she was supportive of his relationship with his son and understood my son's issues, all would be just fine! I have no issue with an age gap, give me a silver fox any time of the day, so as such, I've not hijacked the thread, I've expressed my opinion, used evidence to support and counter support my hypothesis. If you feel I've hijacked it, perhaps you have more of an issue with this than you care to admit. I appreciate everybody's view and it's been great to hear them and I have taken them on board as I can only see the matter with a subjective view. So thank you, your view, albeit aggressive is much appreciated
Because we don't agree with you myself and the man a few comments above are aggressive
"Nope, swearing I deem as aggressive, any comment, even a contradicting one is of great value as it allows me a view from both sides, so thank you. It's very much appreciated | |||
"And I am angry about his role as a father, nothing more. My relationship needs are fulfilled by M, his duty to his children is neglected as his gf stopped seeing him once he started seeing our youngest again. If she was supportive of his relationship with his son and understood my son's issues, all would be just fine! I have no issue with an age gap, give me a silver fox any time of the day, so as such, I've not hijacked the thread, I've expressed my opinion, used evidence to support and counter support my hypothesis. If you feel I've hijacked it, perhaps you have more of an issue with this than you care to admit. I appreciate everybody's view and it's been great to hear them and I have taken them on board as I can only see the matter with a subjective view. So thank you, your view, albeit aggressive is much appreciated
Because we don't agree with you myself and the man a few comments above are aggressive
Nope, swearing I deem as aggressive, any comment, even a contradicting one is of great value as it allows me a view from both sides, so thank you. It's very much appreciated"I haven't sworn at all!! You have tho ...... 'arsewipe' | |||
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"I personally prefer older men, hence the difference between M and I, however, I have two children with my ex, who's knobbing a girl young enough to be his daughter and only 7 years older than my eldest son. Whilst I have no interest in who he's with as he's my ex for a reason, it bothers me in terms of my son being hurt as his father doesn't give a damn what it does to him. The fact that they both have very different values and expectations of life I'm not claiming to know, as I have no idea about their relationship and quite happy to keep it that way, I however judge it by the extra curricular activities they both engage in and the image and style my ex husband has adopted. I'm not sure whether to laugh at him or feel sorry for him. I wish him no ill will and I hope that almost 20 year difference is nothing but a number for him, but in terms of our children, it's unacceptable.... What a crock of shit ! My eldest son is two years older than my wife , and they get on really well . Maybe I may be like your ex , and my image and style may embarrass some , but I don't give a flying fuck , and more importantly nor does my wife , or any of my kids . Why would you think that the age of your exes current partner will affect your son ? Are you really saying he shouldn't be with a younger woman in case it offends you on behalf of your son ? Nope, not in the slightest, it doesn't offend me and it sure wouldn't offend my son, if my ex talked to him about the issue, if he listened to him rather than forced his new gf onto him. Why would his relationship offend me, when I've been with M before he even knew his current trophy. It's all down to his relationship with his son and the fact that his gf stopped seeing my ex after he resumes his place in the youngest son's life. That tells me all I need to know. What works for you, may not work for me and vice versa. No need to be aggressive, and perhaps you are like my ex, only you know as you have met him a couple of times..... Your the aggressive one and very angry about your ex which is weird if your in such a happy relationship now ........ you've hijacked this thread with your opinions but not willing to take on board anyone's comments I've had no need to swear, that's what I perceive as aggressive. I do agree that age is just a number if it works for everybody. I am listening to others' opinions and offering a counter one. Feel free to slate me over that. Perhaps your aggression comes from the need to justify something? Only you know the answer..... 'Knobbing, arsewipe and paedo" are worse than swearing when your referring to the father of your children ......... I'm not aggressive in the slightest, I'm just trying to understand why your so angry " I haven't noticed that I have use the expression "arsewipe" although it's in my autocarrot, so if I did, it was unintentional. With regards to the paedo comment, please read it properly as you would see that my son discussed it with his friends and they have called his father that. Not me. I have no respect for my ex due to his lack of integrity, lack of respect (bb with half the county is not ok, especially with all those taking part are unaware). I just wish he stepped up, that's all and I'd hope that his gf would support him, but that is not the case. She clearly doesn't want to look after two kids at the age of 20.... I don't blame her really.... | |||
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"I personally prefer older men, hence the difference between M and I, however, I have two children with my ex, who's knobbing a girl young enough to be his daughter and only 7 years older than my eldest son. Whilst I have no interest in who he's with as he's my ex for a reason, it bothers me in terms of my son being hurt as his father doesn't give a damn what it does to him. The fact that they both have very different values and expectations of life I'm not claiming to know, as I have no idea about their relationship and quite happy to keep it that way, I however judge it by the extra curricular activities they both engage in and the image and style my ex husband has adopted. I'm not sure whether to laugh at him or feel sorry for him. I wish him no ill will and I hope that almost 20 year difference is nothing but a number for him, but in terms of our children, it's unacceptable.... What a crock of shit ! My eldest son is two years older than my wife , and they get on really well . Maybe I may be like your ex , and my image and style may embarrass some , but I don't give a flying fuck , and more importantly nor does my wife , or any of my kids . Why would you think that the age of your exes current partner will affect your son ? Are you really saying he shouldn't be with a younger woman in case it offends you on behalf of your son ? Nope, not in the slightest, it doesn't offend me and it sure wouldn't offend my son, if my ex talked to him about the issue, if he listened to him rather than forced his new gf onto him. Why would his relationship offend me, when I've been with M before he even knew his current trophy. It's all down to his relationship with his son and the fact that his gf stopped seeing my ex after he resumes his place in the youngest son's life. That tells me all I need to know. What works for you, may not work for me and vice versa. No need to be aggressive, and perhaps you are like my ex, only you know as you have met him a couple of times..... Your the aggressive one and very angry about your ex which is weird if your in such a happy relationship now ........ you've hijacked this thread with your opinions but not willing to take on board anyone's comments I've had no need to swear, that's what I perceive as aggressive. I do agree that age is just a number if it works for everybody. I am listening to others' opinions and offering a counter one. Feel free to slate me over that. Perhaps your aggression comes from the need to justify something? Only you know the answer..... 'Knobbing, arsewipe and paedo" are worse than swearing when your referring to the father of your children ......... I'm not aggressive in the slightest, I'm just trying to understand why your so angry I haven't noticed that I have use the expression "arsewipe" although it's in my autocarrot, so if I did, it was unintentional. With regards to the paedo comment, please read it properly as you would see that my son discussed it with his friends and they have called his father that. Not me. I have no respect for my ex due to his lack of integrity, lack of respect (bb with half the county is not ok, especially with all those taking part are unaware). I just wish he stepped up, that's all and I'd hope that his gf would support him, but that is not the case. She clearly doesn't want to look after two kids at the age of 20.... I don't blame her really...." You called your ex an arsewipe! I'm not sure what autocorrect changed that from
Crap has also been used a few times by yourself!!
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"In principle, as long as it's legal I'll fill any age gap with you know what. In this age of accepting all kinds of weird relationships and hookups and practices (including swinging etc.) and people are still hung-up on ageism? Wouldn't give a damn if my father's wife was young enough to be my daughter or old enough to have met Thutmosis. Who cares except those who are jealous or insecure about it? " Exactly | |||
" Your the aggressive one and very angry about your ex which is weird if your in such a happy relationship now ........ you've hijacked this thread with your opinions but not willing to take on board anyone's comments " This!!!! | |||
"I personally prefer older men, hence the difference between M and I, however, I have two children with my ex, who's knobbing a girl young enough to be his daughter and only 7 years older than my eldest son. Whilst I have no interest in who he's with as he's my ex for a reason, it bothers me in terms of my son being hurt as his father doesn't give a damn what it does to him. The fact that they both have very different values and expectations of life I'm not claiming to know, as I have no idea about their relationship and quite happy to keep it that way, I however judge it by the extra curricular activities they both engage in and the image and style my ex husband has adopted. I'm not sure whether to laugh at him or feel sorry for him. I wish him no ill will and I hope that almost 20 year difference is nothing but a number for him, but in terms of our children, it's unacceptable.... What a crock of shit ! My eldest son is two years older than my wife , and they get on really well . Maybe I may be like your ex , and my image and style may embarrass some , but I don't give a flying fuck , and more importantly nor does my wife , or any of my kids . Why would you think that the age of your exes current partner will affect your son ? Are you really saying he shouldn't be with a younger woman in case it offends you on behalf of your son ? Nope, not in the slightest, it doesn't offend me and it sure wouldn't offend my son, if my ex talked to him about the issue, if he listened to him rather than forced his new gf onto him. Why would his relationship offend me, when I've been with M before he even knew his current trophy. It's all down to his relationship with his son and the fact that his gf stopped seeing my ex after he resumes his place in the youngest son's life. That tells me all I need to know. What works for you, may not work for me and vice versa. No need to be aggressive, and perhaps you are like my ex, only you know as you have met him a couple of times..... Your the aggressive one and very angry about your ex which is weird if your in such a happy relationship now ........ you've hijacked this thread with your opinions but not willing to take on board anyone's comments I've had no need to swear, that's what I perceive as aggressive. I do agree that age is just a number if it works for everybody. I am listening to others' opinions and offering a counter one. Feel free to slate me over that. Perhaps your aggression comes from the need to justify something? Only you know the answer..... 'Knobbing, arsewipe and paedo" are worse than swearing when your referring to the father of your children ......... I'm not aggressive in the slightest, I'm just trying to understand why your so angry I haven't noticed that I have use the expression "arsewipe" although it's in my autocarrot, so if I did, it was unintentional. With regards to the paedo comment, please read it properly as you would see that my son discussed it with his friends and they have called his father that. Not me. I have no respect for my ex due to his lack of integrity, lack of respect (bb with half the county is not ok, especially with all those taking part are unaware). I just wish he stepped up, that's all and I'd hope that his gf would support him, but that is not the case. She clearly doesn't want to look after two kids at the age of 20.... I don't blame her really...." I'm sorry but what has any of this to do with age gaps? Teens are only reacting to their socialisation. They've been cultured upon the ageist hysteria. Even when I was 20 I rejected a 17 year old due to this hysteria and fear of being called a predator. If you're old enough to vote you can place any ballot you please in your slot. You won't find me caring or batting an eyelid. | |||
"I personally prefer older men, hence the difference between M and I, however, I have two children with my ex, who's knobbing a girl young enough to be his daughter and only 7 years older than my eldest son. Whilst I have no interest in who he's with as he's my ex for a reason, it bothers me in terms of my son being hurt as his father doesn't give a damn what it does to him. The fact that they both have very different values and expectations of life I'm not claiming to know, as I have no idea about their relationship and quite happy to keep it that way, I however judge it by the extra curricular activities they both engage in and the image and style my ex husband has adopted. I'm not sure whether to laugh at him or feel sorry for him. I wish him no ill will and I hope that almost 20 year difference is nothing but a number for him, but in terms of our children, it's unacceptable.... What a crock of shit ! My eldest son is two years older than my wife , and they get on really well . Maybe I may be like your ex , and my image and style may embarrass some , but I don't give a flying fuck , and more importantly nor does my wife , or any of my kids . Why would you think that the age of your exes current partner will affect your son ? Are you really saying he shouldn't be with a younger woman in case it offends you on behalf of your son ? Nope, not in the slightest, it doesn't offend me and it sure wouldn't offend my son, if my ex talked to him about the issue, if he listened to him rather than forced his new gf onto him. Why would his relationship offend me, when I've been with M before he even knew his current trophy. It's all down to his relationship with his son and the fact that his gf stopped seeing my ex after he resumes his place in the youngest son's life. That tells me all I need to know. What works for you, may not work for me and vice versa. No need to be aggressive, and perhaps you are like my ex, only you know as you have met him a couple of times..... Your the aggressive one and very angry about your ex which is weird if your in such a happy relationship now ........ you've hijacked this thread with your opinions but not willing to take on board anyone's comments I've had no need to swear, that's what I perceive as aggressive. I do agree that age is just a number if it works for everybody. I am listening to others' opinions and offering a counter one. Feel free to slate me over that. Perhaps your aggression comes from the need to justify something? Only you know the answer..... 'Knobbing, arsewipe and paedo" are worse than swearing when your referring to the father of your children ......... I'm not aggressive in the slightest, I'm just trying to understand why your so angry I haven't noticed that I have use the expression "arsewipe" although it's in my autocarrot, so if I did, it was unintentional. With regards to the paedo comment, please read it properly as you would see that my son discussed it with his friends and they have called his father that. Not me. I have no respect for my ex due to his lack of integrity, lack of respect (bb with half the county is not ok, especially with all those taking part are unaware). I just wish he stepped up, that's all and I'd hope that his gf would support him, but that is not the case. She clearly doesn't want to look after two kids at the age of 20.... I don't blame her really.... You called your ex an arsewipe! I'm not sure what autocorrect changed that from
Crap has also been used a few times by yourself!!
So where have I been aggressively swearing at you or at all on this thread ???? "I wish you could show me where I did that. I also wish I could screen shot some of the stuff my autocarrot comes up with and attach it. I didn't mean that it was you who swore, I meant the male part of _loswingers did, but that's ok, if that's how he feels he has to deliver his opinion of my point, I would just prefer it done differently..... I will not hide the fact that I have no respect for my ex as all he does is creates kids he abandons as he cannot be a man enough to take responsibility, and if he had a partner who was like you, who's experienced split families, I believe, he'd be a better father for it..... | |||
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"I personally prefer older men, hence the difference between M and I, however, I have two children with my ex, who's knobbing a girl young enough to be his daughter and only 7 years older than my eldest son. Whilst I have no interest in who he's with as he's my ex for a reason, it bothers me in terms of my son being hurt as his father doesn't give a damn what it does to him. The fact that they both have very different values and expectations of life I'm not claiming to know, as I have no idea about their relationship and quite happy to keep it that way, I however judge it by the extra curricular activities they both engage in and the image and style my ex husband has adopted. I'm not sure whether to laugh at him or feel sorry for him. I wish him no ill will and I hope that almost 20 year difference is nothing but a number for him, but in terms of our children, it's unacceptable.... What a crock of shit ! My eldest son is two years older than my wife , and they get on really well . Maybe I may be like your ex , and my image and style may embarrass some , but I don't give a flying fuck , and more importantly nor does my wife , or any of my kids . Why would you think that the age of your exes current partner will affect your son ? Are you really saying he shouldn't be with a younger woman in case it offends you on behalf of your son ? Nope, not in the slightest, it doesn't offend me and it sure wouldn't offend my son, if my ex talked to him about the issue, if he listened to him rather than forced his new gf onto him. Why would his relationship offend me, when I've been with M before he even knew his current trophy. It's all down to his relationship with his son and the fact that his gf stopped seeing my ex after he resumes his place in the youngest son's life. That tells me all I need to know. What works for you, may not work for me and vice versa. No need to be aggressive, and perhaps you are like my ex, only you know as you have met him a couple of times..... Your the aggressive one and very angry about your ex which is weird if your in such a happy relationship now ........ you've hijacked this thread with your opinions but not willing to take on board anyone's comments I've had no need to swear, that's what I perceive as aggressive. I do agree that age is just a number if it works for everybody. I am listening to others' opinions and offering a counter one. Feel free to slate me over that. Perhaps your aggression comes from the need to justify something? Only you know the answer..... 'Knobbing, arsewipe and paedo" are worse than swearing when your referring to the father of your children ......... I'm not aggressive in the slightest, I'm just trying to understand why your so angry I haven't noticed that I have use the expression "arsewipe" although it's in my autocarrot, so if I did, it was unintentional. With regards to the paedo comment, please read it properly as you would see that my son discussed it with his friends and they have called his father that. Not me. I have no respect for my ex due to his lack of integrity, lack of respect (bb with half the county is not ok, especially with all those taking part are unaware). I just wish he stepped up, that's all and I'd hope that his gf would support him, but that is not the case. She clearly doesn't want to look after two kids at the age of 20.... I don't blame her really.... You called your ex an arsewipe! I'm not sure what autocorrect changed that from
Crap has also been used a few times by yourself!!
So where have I been aggressively swearing at you or at all on this thread ????
I wish you could show me where I did that. I also wish I could screen shot some of the stuff my autocarrot comes up with and attach it.
I didn't mean that it was you who swore, I meant the male part of _loswingers did, but that's ok, if that's how he feels he has to deliver his opinion of my point, I would just prefer it done differently.....
I will not hide the fact that I have no respect for my ex as all he does is creates kids he abandons as he cannot be a man enough to take responsibility, and if he had a partner who was like you, who's experienced split families, I believe, he'd be a better father for it..... "
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"I personally prefer older men, hence the difference between M and I, however, I have two children with my ex, who's knobbing a girl young enough to be his daughter and only 7 years older than my eldest son. Whilst I have no interest in who he's with as he's my ex for a reason, it bothers me in terms of my son being hurt as his father doesn't give a damn what it does to him. The fact that they both have very different values and expectations of life I'm not claiming to know, as I have no idea about their relationship and quite happy to keep it that way, I however judge it by the extra curricular activities they both engage in and the image and style my ex husband has adopted. I'm not sure whether to laugh at him or feel sorry for him. I wish him no ill will and I hope that almost 20 year difference is nothing but a number for him, but in terms of our children, it's unacceptable.... What a crock of shit ! My eldest son is two years older than my wife , and they get on really well . Maybe I may be like your ex , and my image and style may embarrass some , but I don't give a flying fuck , and more importantly nor does my wife , or any of my kids . Why would you think that the age of your exes current partner will affect your son ? Are you really saying he shouldn't be with a younger woman in case it offends you on behalf of your son ? Nope, not in the slightest, it doesn't offend me and it sure wouldn't offend my son, if my ex talked to him about the issue, if he listened to him rather than forced his new gf onto him. Why would his relationship offend me, when I've been with M before he even knew his current trophy. It's all down to his relationship with his son and the fact that his gf stopped seeing my ex after he resumes his place in the youngest son's life. That tells me all I need to know. What works for you, may not work for me and vice versa. No need to be aggressive, and perhaps you are like my ex, only you know as you have met him a couple of times..... Your the aggressive one and very angry about your ex which is weird if your in such a happy relationship now ........ you've hijacked this thread with your opinions but not willing to take on board anyone's comments I've had no need to swear, that's what I perceive as aggressive. I do agree that age is just a number if it works for everybody. I am listening to others' opinions and offering a counter one. Feel free to slate me over that. Perhaps your aggression comes from the need to justify something? Only you know the answer..... 'Knobbing, arsewipe and paedo" are worse than swearing when your referring to the father of your children ......... I'm not aggressive in the slightest, I'm just trying to understand why your so angry I haven't noticed that I have use the expression "arsewipe" although it's in my autocarrot, so if I did, it was unintentional. With regards to the paedo comment, please read it properly as you would see that my son discussed it with his friends and they have called his father that. Not me. I have no respect for my ex due to his lack of integrity, lack of respect (bb with half the county is not ok, especially with all those taking part are unaware). I just wish he stepped up, that's all and I'd hope that his gf would support him, but that is not the case. She clearly doesn't want to look after two kids at the age of 20.... I don't blame her really.... I'm sorry but what has any of this to do with age gaps? Teens are only reacting to their socialisation. They've been cultured upon the ageist hysteria. Even when I was 20 I rejected a 17 year old due to this hysteria and fear of being called a predator. If you're old enough to vote you can place any ballot you please in your slot. You won't find me caring or batting an eyelid." I am saying that she's an immature 20 year old and she stopped her relationship with my ex when he attempted to see his children after we split up. It begs the question why? My son dislikes her because his father forced her upon him, he only listened to my son, if he accepted what my ex wanted him to. If she was older than 20, she would have organically had the chance to experience what it's like being a single/separated parent and she'd have other hobbies than binge drink and getting stoned. So whilst 20 is a number and I fully agree with that, it's the maturity that's lacking and causing the problem..... | |||
"I personally prefer older men, hence the difference between M and I, however, I have two children with my ex, who's knobbing a girl young enough to be his daughter and only 7 years older than my eldest son. Whilst I have no interest in who he's with as he's my ex for a reason, it bothers me in terms of my son being hurt as his father doesn't give a damn what it does to him. The fact that they both have very different values and expectations of life I'm not claiming to know, as I have no idea about their relationship and quite happy to keep it that way, I however judge it by the extra curricular activities they both engage in and the image and style my ex husband has adopted. I'm not sure whether to laugh at him or feel sorry for him. I wish him no ill will and I hope that almost 20 year difference is nothing but a number for him, but in terms of our children, it's unacceptable.... What a crock of shit ! My eldest son is two years older than my wife , and they get on really well . Maybe I may be like your ex , and my image and style may embarrass some , but I don't give a flying fuck , and more importantly nor does my wife , or any of my kids . Why would you think that the age of your exes current partner will affect your son ? Are you really saying he shouldn't be with a younger woman in case it offends you on behalf of your son ? Nope, not in the slightest, it doesn't offend me and it sure wouldn't offend my son, if my ex talked to him about the issue, if he listened to him rather than forced his new gf onto him. Why would his relationship offend me, when I've been with M before he even knew his current trophy. It's all down to his relationship with his son and the fact that his gf stopped seeing my ex after he resumes his place in the youngest son's life. That tells me all I need to know. What works for you, may not work for me and vice versa. No need to be aggressive, and perhaps you are like my ex, only you know as you have met him a couple of times..... Your the aggressive one and very angry about your ex which is weird if your in such a happy relationship now ........ you've hijacked this thread with your opinions but not willing to take on board anyone's comments I've had no need to swear, that's what I perceive as aggressive. I do agree that age is just a number if it works for everybody. I am listening to others' opinions and offering a counter one. Feel free to slate me over that. Perhaps your aggression comes from the need to justify something? Only you know the answer..... 'Knobbing, arsewipe and paedo" are worse than swearing when your referring to the father of your children ......... I'm not aggressive in the slightest, I'm just trying to understand why your so angry I haven't noticed that I have use the expression "arsewipe" although it's in my autocarrot, so if I did, it was unintentional. With regards to the paedo comment, please read it properly as you would see that my son discussed it with his friends and they have called his father that. Not me. I have no respect for my ex due to his lack of integrity, lack of respect (bb with half the county is not ok, especially with all those taking part are unaware). I just wish he stepped up, that's all and I'd hope that his gf would support him, but that is not the case. She clearly doesn't want to look after two kids at the age of 20.... I don't blame her really.... You called your ex an arsewipe! I'm not sure what autocorrect changed that from
Crap has also been used a few times by yourself!!
So where have I been aggressively swearing at you or at all on this thread ????
I wish you could show me where I did that. I also wish I could screen shot some of the stuff my autocarrot comes up with and attach it.
I didn't mean that it was you who swore, I meant the male part of _loswingers did, but that's ok, if that's how he feels he has to deliver his opinion of my point, I would just prefer it done differently.....
I will not hide the fact that I have no respect for my ex as all he does is creates kids he abandons as he cannot be a man enough to take responsibility, and if he had a partner who was like you, who's experienced split families, I believe, he'd be a better father for it.....
I'm still aggressive tho coz I don't agree with you "Nope, you offer me another point of view and I appreciate it, so thank you, I do like a discussion | |||
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"I personally prefer older men, hence the difference between M and I, however, I have two children with my ex, who's knobbing a girl young enough to be his daughter and only 7 years older than my eldest son. Whilst I have no interest in who he's with as he's my ex for a reason, it bothers me in terms of my son being hurt as his father doesn't give a damn what it does to him. The fact that they both have very different values and expectations of life I'm not claiming to know, as I have no idea about their relationship and quite happy to keep it that way, I however judge it by the extra curricular activities they both engage in and the image and style my ex husband has adopted. I'm not sure whether to laugh at him or feel sorry for him. I wish him no ill will and I hope that almost 20 year difference is nothing but a number for him, but in terms of our children, it's unacceptable.... I'm glad my children aren't like that. Maybe it's because they are over 30, but they don't have a problem with me being knobbed by men in their 30s. Or 20s, now I think about past relationships. I don't love my children less, or treat them differently, because I'm having sex with younger men. Two of them tell me they love me; I don't know what causes those feelings for them, for a woman 20+ years their senior. It's more than likely that you as their mother have made them feel that they matter to you, that they are not less important to you than those who you have sex with, maybe it's because your concern for them extend beyond organising a threesome on the night you have walked out of their lives. My son is hurting as his father doesn't care, that's the bottom line..... the fact that yours a grown up and not at the beginning of puberty after a vicious assault inflicted by his son from his one night stand, might help the situation also. Still, I'm pleased to hear that it works for you!! Wish it was my case also.....xx" It may not be the age gap that is the big issue with your children. My children, even though they are grown up, will always be put before a man-that was an issue for their own father. | |||
"I personally prefer older men, hence the difference between M and I, however, I have two children with my ex, who's knobbing a girl young enough to be his daughter and only 7 years older than my eldest son. Whilst I have no interest in who he's with as he's my ex for a reason, it bothers me in terms of my son being hurt as his father doesn't give a damn what it does to him. The fact that they both have very different values and expectations of life I'm not claiming to know, as I have no idea about their relationship and quite happy to keep it that way, I however judge it by the extra curricular activities they both engage in and the image and style my ex husband has adopted. I'm not sure whether to laugh at him or feel sorry for him. I wish him no ill will and I hope that almost 20 year difference is nothing but a number for him, but in terms of our children, it's unacceptable...." I hope you don't think I'm being rude or insensitive here but isn't it your duty as a parent to attend to your children's lack of understanding of relationships and educate them instead of using their whimsical sentiments as evidence of your ex's moral inferiority to you? It can be very tempting to feel gratified that your kids are upset with him, but you're a direct influence in that now that you and their father are not together. Kids will be upset about parental separation anyway and they'd have mixed feelings about ANY new partner of either parent. Respectfully, for your kids sake, you can ease their hearts by being courageous and correcting them when they feel entitled to tell their father who he should and shouldn't choose as a partner when it comes to age. Everything else is a different matter. | |||
"I personally prefer older men, hence the difference between M and I, however, I have two children with my ex, who's knobbing a girl young enough to be his daughter and only 7 years older than my eldest son. Whilst I have no interest in who he's with as he's my ex for a reason, it bothers me in terms of my son being hurt as his father doesn't give a damn what it does to him. The fact that they both have very different values and expectations of life I'm not claiming to know, as I have no idea about their relationship and quite happy to keep it that way, I however judge it by the extra curricular activities they both engage in and the image and style my ex husband has adopted. I'm not sure whether to laugh at him or feel sorry for him. I wish him no ill will and I hope that almost 20 year difference is nothing but a number for him, but in terms of our children, it's unacceptable.... What a crock of shit ! My eldest son is two years older than my wife , and they get on really well . Maybe I may be like your ex , and my image and style may embarrass some , but I don't give a flying fuck , and more importantly nor does my wife , or any of my kids . Why would you think that the age of your exes current partner will affect your son ? Are you really saying he shouldn't be with a younger woman in case it offends you on behalf of your son ? Nope, not in the slightest, it doesn't offend me and it sure wouldn't offend my son, if my ex talked to him about the issue, if he listened to him rather than forced his new gf onto him. Why would his relationship offend me, when I've been with M before he even knew his current trophy. It's all down to his relationship with his son and the fact that his gf stopped seeing my ex after he resumes his place in the youngest son's life. That tells me all I need to know. What works for you, may not work for me and vice versa. No need to be aggressive, and perhaps you are like my ex, only you know as you have met him a couple of times..... Your the aggressive one and very angry about your ex which is weird if your in such a happy relationship now ........ you've hijacked this thread with your opinions but not willing to take on board anyone's comments I've had no need to swear, that's what I perceive as aggressive. I do agree that age is just a number if it works for everybody. I am listening to others' opinions and offering a counter one. Feel free to slate me over that. Perhaps your aggression comes from the need to justify something? Only you know the answer..... 'Knobbing, arsewipe and paedo" are worse than swearing when your referring to the father of your children ......... I'm not aggressive in the slightest, I'm just trying to understand why your so angry I haven't noticed that I have use the expression "arsewipe" although it's in my autocarrot, so if I did, it was unintentional. With regards to the paedo comment, please read it properly as you would see that my son discussed it with his friends and they have called his father that. Not me. I have no respect for my ex due to his lack of integrity, lack of respect (bb with half the county is not ok, especially with all those taking part are unaware). I just wish he stepped up, that's all and I'd hope that his gf would support him, but that is not the case. She clearly doesn't want to look after two kids at the age of 20.... I don't blame her really.... I'm sorry but what has any of this to do with age gaps? Teens are only reacting to their socialisation. They've been cultured upon the ageist hysteria. Even when I was 20 I rejected a 17 year old due to this hysteria and fear of being called a predator. If you're old enough to vote you can place any ballot you please in your slot. You won't find me caring or batting an eyelid. I am saying that she's an immature 20 year old and she stopped her relationship with my ex when he attempted to see his children after we split up. It begs the question why? My son dislikes her because his father forced her upon him, he only listened to my son, if he accepted what my ex wanted him to. If she was older than 20, she would have organically had the chance to experience what it's like being a single/separated parent and she'd have other hobbies than binge drink and getting stoned. So whilst 20 is a number and I fully agree with that, it's the maturity that's lacking and causing the problem....." So she needs to have experienced being a single separated parent? Are there no 20 year old parents? I assure you there are plenty! There are immature 40-50 year olds. By the sound of it, you're saying that your ex is immature, aren't you? Well how old is he? Exactly. I'm just not seeing how this relates to age. Me personally I care about your character, maturity, spirit and mentality before I look at your age. | |||
"I actually enjoy the company of women older than myself
The sex is not too bad either "I have a sudden urge to move to Scotland | |||
"I personally prefer older men, hence the difference between M and I, however, I have two children with my ex, who's knobbing a girl young enough to be his daughter and only 7 years older than my eldest son. Whilst I have no interest in who he's with as he's my ex for a reason, it bothers me in terms of my son being hurt as his father doesn't give a damn what it does to him. The fact that they both have very different values and expectations of life I'm not claiming to know, as I have no idea about their relationship and quite happy to keep it that way, I however judge it by the extra curricular activities they both engage in and the image and style my ex husband has adopted. I'm not sure whether to laugh at him or feel sorry for him. I wish him no ill will and I hope that almost 20 year difference is nothing but a number for him, but in terms of our children, it's unacceptable.... I hope you don't think I'm being rude or insensitive here but isn't it your duty as a parent to attend to your children's lack of understanding of relationships and educate them instead of using their whimsical sentiments as evidence of your ex's moral inferiority to you? It can be very tempting to feel gratified that your kids are upset with him, but you're a direct influence in that now that you and their father are not together. Kids will be upset about parental separation anyway and they'd have mixed feelings about ANY new partner of either parent. Respectfully, for your kids sake, you can ease their hearts by being courageous and correcting them when they feel entitled to tell their father who he should and shouldn't choose as a partner when it comes to age. Everything else is a different matter. " I agree with what you're saying, M has two children and has a completely different approach to them, how they like me and how they get on. I'd give nothing more than my ex having the same relationship with my son, and whilst I encourage him to talk to his father daily, whilst I keep driving home that even though our relationship is over, theirs doesn't have to be, he's not interested because of the way his father and his young girlfriend handled the split. I will not force my son into anything and it gives me no pleasure seeing him hating his father as it hurts my son. No idea what it does to my ex as he's never communicated his feelings, he's not that kind of a man. It would be wonderful if they could get on, but I am not responsible for the way my ex husband treats our son, he is...... | |||
"I personally prefer older men, hence the difference between M and I, however, I have two children with my ex, who's knobbing a girl young enough to be his daughter and only 7 years older than my eldest son. Whilst I have no interest in who he's with as he's my ex for a reason, it bothers me in terms of my son being hurt as his father doesn't give a damn what it does to him. The fact that they both have very different values and expectations of life I'm not claiming to know, as I have no idea about their relationship and quite happy to keep it that way, I however judge it by the extra curricular activities they both engage in and the image and style my ex husband has adopted. I'm not sure whether to laugh at him or feel sorry for him. I wish him no ill will and I hope that almost 20 year difference is nothing but a number for him, but in terms of our children, it's unacceptable.... What a crock of shit ! My eldest son is two years older than my wife , and they get on really well . Maybe I may be like your ex , and my image and style may embarrass some , but I don't give a flying fuck , and more importantly nor does my wife , or any of my kids . Why would you think that the age of your exes current partner will affect your son ? Are you really saying he shouldn't be with a younger woman in case it offends you on behalf of your son ? Nope, not in the slightest, it doesn't offend me and it sure wouldn't offend my son, if my ex talked to him about the issue, if he listened to him rather than forced his new gf onto him. Why would his relationship offend me, when I've been with M before he even knew his current trophy. It's all down to his relationship with his son and the fact that his gf stopped seeing my ex after he resumes his place in the youngest son's life. That tells me all I need to know. What works for you, may not work for me and vice versa. No need to be aggressive, and perhaps you are like my ex, only you know as you have met him a couple of times..... Your the aggressive one and very angry about your ex which is weird if your in such a happy relationship now ........ you've hijacked this thread with your opinions but not willing to take on board anyone's comments I've had no need to swear, that's what I perceive as aggressive. I do agree that age is just a number if it works for everybody. I am listening to others' opinions and offering a counter one. Feel free to slate me over that. Perhaps your aggression comes from the need to justify something? Only you know the answer..... 'Knobbing, arsewipe and paedo" are worse than swearing when your referring to the father of your children ......... I'm not aggressive in the slightest, I'm just trying to understand why your so angry I haven't noticed that I have use the expression "arsewipe" although it's in my autocarrot, so if I did, it was unintentional. With regards to the paedo comment, please read it properly as you would see that my son discussed it with his friends and they have called his father that. Not me. I have no respect for my ex due to his lack of integrity, lack of respect (bb with half the county is not ok, especially with all those taking part are unaware). I just wish he stepped up, that's all and I'd hope that his gf would support him, but that is not the case. She clearly doesn't want to look after two kids at the age of 20.... I don't blame her really.... I'm sorry but what has any of this to do with age gaps? Teens are only reacting to their socialisation. They've been cultured upon the ageist hysteria. Even when I was 20 I rejected a 17 year old due to this hysteria and fear of being called a predator. If you're old enough to vote you can place any ballot you please in your slot. You won't find me caring or batting an eyelid. I am saying that she's an immature 20 year old and she stopped her relationship with my ex when he attempted to see his children after we split up. It begs the question why? My son dislikes her because his father forced her upon him, he only listened to my son, if he accepted what my ex wanted him to. If she was older than 20, she would have organically had the chance to experience what it's like being a single/separated parent and she'd have other hobbies than binge drink and getting stoned. So whilst 20 is a number and I fully agree with that, it's the maturity that's lacking and causing the problem..... So she needs to have experienced being a single separated parent? Are there no 20 year old parents? I assure you there are plenty! There are immature 40-50 year olds. By the sound of it, you're saying that your ex is immature, aren't you? Well how old is he? Exactly. I'm just not seeing how this relates to age. Me personally I care about your character, maturity, spirit and mentality before I look at your age. " They are both immature, but what I am saying is that organically, she couldn't have experienced being a single parent of a 13 year old. I care about character, that's why I'm with M, who embraces my son for who he is. My ex is just a little boy, real men take care of the children, immature men expect others to make up for their downfalls...... my ex husband doesn't relate to his son on any level as my ex smokes with his gf and she binge drinks, which then he used to his advantage.... There are many 20 year olds who are extremely mature for their age, whilst there are 40 year old who are extremely immature for their age. That's all I am trying to say..., | |||
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"I really don't think that saying ' crock of shit ' and that ' I don't give a flying fuck ' what others think of me , is overtly aggressive to be honest ." I've only experienced those expressions in tandem with aggression, that's why I have reacted the way I have. If I've been unfair, I am sorry, I'm just an uptight bitch I guess!!! | |||
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"I did see this on Loose women and when they showed the video clip, I will have to admit that it did turn my stomach" Ditto | |||
"I am 10 years older than my husband. I do have concerns about why my much younger, sexy, healthy husband seems to love and adore me and want to be with me because i see myself as old, fat, struggling with pain and mobility at times and not much of a catch ! However it works well, we love and support each other in various ways. I have only heard one person make comments about me being lots older than him but that was a child. Another visitor to our home was a bit confused about who he was but that gave us all a huge laugh. Im sure we are the subject of some peoples gossip but hey ho life goes on and if they are gossiping about me then they are leaving others alone ! Its no one elses business anyway." Ten years is nothing, not even a generation gap. | |||
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"I am 10 years older than my husband. I do have concerns about why my much younger, sexy, healthy husband seems to love and adore me and want to be with me because i see myself as old, fat, struggling with pain and mobility at times and not much of a catch ! However it works well, we love and support each other in various ways. I have only heard one person make comments about me being lots older than him but that was a child. Another visitor to our home was a bit confused about who he was but that gave us all a huge laugh. Im sure we are the subject of some peoples gossip but hey ho life goes on and if they are gossiping about me then they are leaving others alone ! Its no one elses business anyway. Ten years is nothing, not even a generation gap." To you maybe but to me its a huge gap. It works well for us though. | |||
"I am 10 years older than my husband. I do have concerns about why my much younger, sexy, healthy husband seems to love and adore me and want to be with me because i see myself as old, fat, struggling with pain and mobility at times and not much of a catch ! However it works well, we love and support each other in various ways. I have only heard one person make comments about me being lots older than him but that was a child. Another visitor to our home was a bit confused about who he was but that gave us all a huge laugh. Im sure we are the subject of some peoples gossip but hey ho life goes on and if they are gossiping about me then they are leaving others alone ! Its no one elses business anyway. Ten years is nothing, not even a generation gap. To you maybe but to me its a huge gap. It works well for us though." I understand your insecurities, I'd probably be the same if i was in such a relationship. Once upon a time it was the norm for women to be younger than their partners. I think it's great the tide has turned. Regarding this thread though, with my stated examples, 10 years really is nothing. | |||
"Love is love. It doesn't matter what age the people are." I agree,but I pray my teenage daughters don't fall in love with a 60 year old!  | |||
"I personally prefer older men, hence the difference between M and I, however, I have two children with my ex, who's knobbing a girl young enough to be his daughter and only 7 years older than my eldest son. Whilst I have no interest in who he's with as he's my ex for a reason, it bothers me in terms of my son being hurt as his father doesn't give a damn what it does to him. The fact that they both have very different values and expectations of life I'm not claiming to know, as I have no idea about their relationship and quite happy to keep it that way, I however judge it by the extra curricular activities they both engage in and the image and style my ex husband has adopted. I'm not sure whether to laugh at him or feel sorry for him. I wish him no ill will and I hope that almost 20 year difference is nothing but a number for him, but in terms of our children, it's unacceptable...." there's 17 yrs between me and my daughters dad, his elder daughter was 14 when we got together, I was 22. She and I still get on great even though I'm no longer with their father any more. | |||
"Love is love. It doesn't matter what age the people are. I agree,but I pray my teenage daughters don't fall in love with a 60 year old! "I would worry whether my daughter had been manipulated by a man with so much more life experience than her. | |||
"I am 10 years older than my husband. I do have concerns about why my much younger, sexy, healthy husband seems to love and adore me and want to be with me because i see myself as old, fat, struggling with pain and mobility at times and not much of a catch ! However it works well, we love and support each other in various ways. I have only heard one person make comments about me being lots older than him but that was a child. Another visitor to our home was a bit confused about who he was but that gave us all a huge laugh. Im sure we are the subject of some peoples gossip but hey ho life goes on and if they are gossiping about me then they are leaving others alone ! Its no one elses business anyway. Ten years is nothing, not even a generation gap. To you maybe but to me its a huge gap. It works well for us though. I understand your insecurities, I'd probably be the same if i was in such a relationship. Once upon a time it was the norm for women to be younger than their partners. I think it's great the tide has turned. Regarding this thread though, with my stated examples, 10 years really is nothing." Oh im not insecure. I just wonder (am concerned) why he loves me. Im actually proud of the fact that me, who is 10 years older than him, old, fat etc, has a much younger guy who loves her etc. | |||
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"I personally prefer older men, hence the difference between M and I, however, I have two children with my ex, who's knobbing a girl young enough to be his daughter and only 7 years older than my eldest son. Whilst I have no interest in who he's with as he's my ex for a reason, it bothers me in terms of my son being hurt as his father doesn't give a damn what it does to him. The fact that they both have very different values and expectations of life I'm not claiming to know, as I have no idea about their relationship and quite happy to keep it that way, I however judge it by the extra curricular activities they both engage in and the image and style my ex husband has adopted. I'm not sure whether to laugh at him or feel sorry for him. I wish him no ill will and I hope that almost 20 year difference is nothing but a number for him, but in terms of our children, it's unacceptable.... there's 17 yrs between me and my daughters dad, his elder daughter was 14 when we got together, I was 22. She and I still get on great even though I'm no longer with their father any more." I wish it was the same in our case.... it's the way that my ex has handled things and the fact that she's an immature 20 year old. There are other issues my son has besides the age gap, but the damage is done now and it's up to my ex to repair what he's broken..... | |||
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