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Sheer disappointment

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

This site is a pure disappointment. I'm a single male, with quite a big cock, kind and considerate.

I ask for pictures, I give pictures.

I must of spoken to over 200 people on this site whether single of in a couple.

The response is very limited. I cannot be that bad or ugly that no-one wants to fuck me.

I've been a member for over a year, on two different accounts both different in their own way. I created one but then created another based on feedback I got from my first account.

The feedback on my first account was, too many cock pictures, you look to miserable, you can only have day meets looks like you are cheating etc..

2nd profile, less cock pics, genuine reason why I can't meet during day etc...(kids) tried to smile on pics, some I'm fully clothed.

Unbelievable still nothing. For a normal young single dad, trying to have a little adult time this site is depressing and very disappointing.

And I don't say this cos it's sour grapes I say this because the amount of excuses I get, I'll be very surprised if anyone is an actual swinger unless they go to clubs.

Some of the excuses are:

Not my type

Not Bi

Don't go for single men

Oh I'm busy

Cant accommodate,yet on profile they can.

Or they start to chat, it's very good and then when you try and arrange something all goes silent and just excuses and you start to think that this is all bullshit.

Now I'm sure this site is mostly full of men but out of all the women on here some women must be slightly interested In a athletic man with a big cock!

Or maybe they can't handle a big one. Either way, this site is depressing.

My membership is done in two weeks and thats probably gonna be it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Gosh it's not that bad really

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

You do look a bit miserable and most of your photos are cock photos.

An hours read of the forum would show that most ladies a) like a smile and b) don't like a cock pic.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I find the site is quite good.

I guess it depends on who you message what you say and if they are interested.

Never had a membership, met quite a few people.

Go figure.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You do look a bit miserable and most of your photos are cock photos.

An hours read of the forum would show that most ladies a) like a smile and b) don't like a cock pic.

What he said!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You mention your big cock twice

That's what stood out from that whinge

It basically reads ' I am tall, I have a big cock, why are you not shagging me ?'

I think the problem lies less with the site and more with your use and perception of it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Women are badly outnumbered on here and get loads of the same approaches

Its shit on here sometimes but when you get that response, its all good

Just need effort and patience

And probably dont be bitter about it, its just all fun

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well if you have children and they live with you that might put some people off. When do you have time to meet? How old are they etc

You don't seem to be smiling in any of your pictures.

It's great you have a lot of pictures to know you're genuine. For me personally all the cock would put me off, so might be putting others off too.

Don't mean to be harsh but my observation

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Tip: try smiling in at least one photo.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And if they run out of messages don't panic they will eventually reply

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ps attending a social event may be a good option get some connections

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's not that bad... I do alright for myself and I'm a dickhead.

(I'm not really, I'm a delight)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's not that bad... I do alright for myself and I'm a dickhead.

(I'm not really, I'm a delight)"

Laughing at delight

Im adorable, you cant beat that shite

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

You don't mentioned what you can offer, I don't use this site as the Spanish inquisition so best be upfront about why someone would be interested in you!

It's all about what you want and nothing else, plus we don't all like cock pics, never mind flaccid ones

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By *thwalescplCouple over a year ago

brecon

"You mention your big cock twice

That's what stood out from that whinge

It basically reads ' I am tall, I have a big cock, why are you not shagging me ?'

I think the problem lies less with the site and more with your use and perception of it."

Nail. Head.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well, you do look miserable in your pics, and you sound miserable in this post. It probably also doesn't help going on about your big cock.

How about a fresh set of happy pics, and something in your profile to show that you have a warm, humorous, approachable personality.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Honestly - smile in your photos, there is a lot of scowling. I don't know about the cock pics, some like then some don't, so show what you are happy with.

I would say comment and get involved in the forums, get to know people and interact with them before you ask for a meet.

Also your profile sex is okay but it doesn't really say much about what you like and what you are after - this is a sex site so give people in idea of your preferences.

Please don't take any of this negatively, I am sure you will meet some people and have fun soon.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This site is a pure disappointment. I'm a single male, with quite a big cock, kind and considerate.

I ask for pictures, I give pictures.

I must of spoken to over 200 people on this site whether single of in a couple.

The response is very limited. I cannot be that bad or ugly that no-one wants to fuck me.

I've been a member for over a year, on two different accounts both different in their own way. I created one but then created another based on feedback I got from my first account.

The feedback on my first account was, too many cock pictures, you look to miserable, you can only have day meets looks like you are cheating etc..

2nd profile, less cock pics, genuine reason why I can't meet during day etc...(kids) tried to smile on pics, some I'm fully clothed.

Unbelievable still nothing. For a normal young single dad, trying to have a little adult time this site is depressing and very disappointing.

And I don't say this cos it's sour grapes I say this because the amount of excuses I get, I'll be very surprised if anyone is an actual swinger unless they go to clubs.

Some of the excuses are:

Not my type

Not Bi

Don't go for single men

Oh I'm busy

Cant accommodate,yet on profile they can.

Or they start to chat, it's very good and then when you try and arrange something all goes silent and just excuses and you start to think that this is all bullshit.

Now I'm sure this site is mostly full of men but out of all the women on here some women must be slightly interested In a athletic man with a big cock!

Or maybe they can't handle a big one. Either way, this site is depressing.

My membership is done in two weeks and thats probably gonna be it.

You're in denial I'm afraid.

You're inflated yet very soft ego has taken a beating and you're having a forum tantrum.

We'd wish you luck, but a reality check may be more worthwhile?

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By *isaB45Woman over a year ago

Fabville

"You do look a bit miserable and most of your photos are cock photos.

An hours read of the forum would show that most ladies a) like a smile and b) don't like a cock pic.

^^^

What he said.

Plus, sort your attitude and sense on entitlement. Just becsuse you are a member of the site, it does not mean you are guaranteed a shag. That is not how swinging works...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Oh, and your profile basically says "You will conform to my needs, or we will not meet"

I cant do this, cant do that, message me...

Mix it up a bit, have fun with it. Even as a guy it's putting me off even giving you advice.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You took no notice of the advice a lot of people suggested weeks ago, and wonder why you still struggle.

Head meet wall emoji.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

For me not being thier type is a reason not an excuse. Also why wait for the membership to run out? If this site isn't for you maybe you should leave sooner rather then later.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You mention your big cock twice

That's what stood out from that whinge

It basically reads ' I am tall, I have a big cock, why are you not shagging me ?'

I think the problem lies less with the site and more with your use and perception of it."

Yup. Me too

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

Being on Fab and having a cock, of any size, is not enough to make a woman interested in you.

So with the attitude that "I am here, where are they?" you'll be putting us off instantly

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's not that bad... I do alright for myself and I'm a dickhead.

(I'm not really, I'm a delight)"

That reply made me laugh, you equally have a great profile! Great sense of humour

OP - take note!

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By *a Fee VerteWoman over a year ago

Limbo

Personally OP, I'm always extremely put off by photos taken in what appears to be a child's bedroom. It's extremely inappropriate. More so when you can see family photos in the background too.

Men who define their attractiveness by banging on about their 'big cock' - like that's all that matters - just come across as, well, a big cock.

And accusing your potential meet base of not being 'actual swingers' won't endear you to them either!

Entitlement is hugely unattractive

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I don't think I would persevere with anything for that long if it wasn't working for me or annoyed me that much x

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"You took no notice of the advice a lot of people suggested weeks ago, and wonder why you still struggle.

Head meet wall emoji. "

OP, if you've been given advice and chosen to ignore it, it is entirely your prerogative, however, if lots of people are saying the same things then you may like to be a little objective and think if people are trying to help you.

Messaging 200 people seems like a scattergun approach to me - be a snipers rifle with laser sighting with your messaging rather than a broad approach.

And go to a social.

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By *isaB45Woman over a year ago

Fabville

"It's not that bad... I do alright for myself and I'm a dickhead.

(I'm not really, I'm a delight)"

OP...look at this guy's profile for ideas. But do not copy it...I will be very very cross

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I'm sorry you feel like that but this site can work really well if you use it to its full potential. Getting your profile right is the best start.

You've asked for profile advice before, right? I believed I told you to tidy your room and I see you still haven't. To be blunt I don't think anyone would want to get sexy with you in there.

Other people are right about what they're saying re your pics!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So one more man down.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your make such a fuss about the size of your cock that your only going to attract the size queens and then a lot of them will be put off by the miserable face and lack of pics...... well the lack of mystery and personality in the pics!!

Some of us ladies aren't bothered whether your backing 6" or 9", a smile and some personality goes a lot further

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By *isaB45Woman over a year ago

Fabville

Just as a side note...your outdoor photos seem to be taken at a naturist venue...I didn't think that that was allowed?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

I'm going to have a early night but tomorrow I will reply to as many as I can

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By *ady LickWoman over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

......And your cock looks sad.

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By *oxy_minxWoman over a year ago

Scotland - Aberdeen

Ah yes, here is my message to you 8 weeks ago:

It literally screams I am a cock to me

Nothing changes eh?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"......And your cock looks sad."

Hahaha bad grumpy cock, go to your room

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ok I never answer the why isn't anyone shagging me posts but I need to have a littke rant about the number of socially challenged entitled men on here!

Who behave like women on here are free prostitutes that should drop their knickers because they said hi and sent a cock pic!

Fucking bore off!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"......And your cock looks sad."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ok I never answer the why isn't anyone shagging me posts but I need to have a littke rant about the number of socially challenged entitled men on here!

Who behave like women on here are free prostitutes that should drop their knickers because they said hi and sent a cock pic!

Fucking bore off!

Lmao at "socially challenged"

Is this the new PC phrase?

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Ah yes, here is my message to you 8 weeks ago:

It literally screams I am a cock to me

Nothing changes eh?"

If you don't change anything, then nothing changes. This only applies to profiles and sexual success - it doesn't apply to rocks though because they change through the various erosion processes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Tidy my room. Sorry mum. I used to live in a 3 bedroom house and now I live in 2 room flat and I have no storage for my stuff.

And also this is yet another reason why I can't accommodate and state that I don't. I'll come to yours... Oh wait.

... Just another excuse.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm going to have a early night but tomorrow I will reply to as many as I can"

Lol so basically you've started a thread begging for advice(attention) now you have lots of advice(attention) your going to sleep on it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

OP, smile; I would imagine you have a nice face when you actually break out a grin.

Cock size is banded about by the majority of guys on here and, provided it doesn't fall at either end of the ridiculous spectrum, it's largely a secondary consideration.

Have you tried stepping out from behind the keyboard and attending an organised social? Might be an idea.

As for the list of you not being what people are looking for; a quick peruse of a profile before messaging is a brilliant starter for ten.

Chin up and soldier on, there's fun and frippery to be had on here for those who wobble their heads into the right mindset.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's moments like these that I really wish we could post memes.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

if its any consolation ive been on here for several months and not had any meets (which doesn't bother me too much) but for me its the lack of interest in general. hardly any profile views, no messages. so consider yourself lucky you've had some interaction.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ok I never answer the why isn't anyone shagging me posts but I need to have a littke rant about the number of socially challenged entitled men on here!

Who behave like women on here are free prostitutes that should drop their knickers because they said hi and sent a cock pic!

Fucking bore off!

Bore off twice

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Advice?

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By *lik and PaulCouple over a year ago

cahoots

"You do look a bit miserable and most of your photos are cock photos.

An hours read of the forum would show that most ladies a) like a smile and b) don't like a cock pic.

This for me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

some of your pics are taken using mirror or reverse on phone........ wedding ring is probably reason why you can't accommodate

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Tidy my room. Sorry mum. I used to live in a 3 bedroom house and now I live in 2 room flat and I have no storage for my stuff.

And also this is yet another reason why I can't accommodate and state that I don't. I'll come to yours... Oh wait.

... Just another excuse. "

Fab can be frustrating, can't it? I find it so on occasion. What I don't bother doing (except once) is getting annoyed/sarcastic/ *insert negative here* because potential sexual meets will read what I say and think 'oooh! I was gonna message him but he sounds like a right real moody grump so I shan't'

Think on that.

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"You do look a bit miserable and most of your photos are cock photos.

An hours read of the forum would show that most ladies a) like a smile and b) don't like a cock pic.

This for me

"
gizzashag

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Tidy my room. Sorry mum. I used to live in a 3 bedroom house and now I live in 2 room flat and I have no storage for my stuff.

And also this is yet another reason why I can't accommodate and state that I don't. I'll come to yours... Oh wait.

... Just another excuse.

Think on that."

Wise words from oracle Steve

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So you were advised that your first profile had too many cock picks and this one has less. On gods earth how many were on the first one?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ok stop it guys.... Enough go to bed leave him alone. He will be back soon with new profile 2moro.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Ok I never answer the why isn't anyone shagging me posts but I need to have a littke rant about the number of socially challenged entitled men on here!

Who behave like women on here are free prostitutes that should drop their knickers because they said hi and sent a cock pic!

Fucking bore off!

Lmao at "socially challenged"

Is this the new PC phrase?

It's a polite way of saying nob head

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By *lik and PaulCouple over a year ago

cahoots

"You do look a bit miserable and most of your photos are cock photos.

An hours read of the forum would show that most ladies a) like a smile and b) don't like a cock pic.

This for me

gizzashag

Ooh I don't have a shag but I do have a spare cormorant if that helps

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Hahahahahahahahaha!

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"Tidy my room. Sorry mum. I used to live in a 3 bedroom house and now I live in 2 room flat and I have no storage for my stuff.

And also this is yet another reason why I can't accommodate and state that I don't. I'll come to yours... Oh wait.

... Just another excuse. "

They may be excuses but if you want the absolute truth, your profile and pics are not appealing.

Then whining about it adds to the unappealingness

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

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By * and M lookingCouple over a year ago

Worcester

It's a Swingers site OP not Instashag

There's a big difference

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Aww. I'm having a lovely time here, if that helps

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"It's not that bad... I do alright for myself and I'm a dickhead.

(I'm not really, I'm a delight)

OP...look at this guy's profile for ideas. But do not copy it...I will be very very cross

Oh, you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Tidy my room. Sorry mum. I used to live in a 3 bedroom house and now I live in 2 room flat and I have no storage for my stuff.

And also this is yet another reason why I can't accommodate and state that I don't. I'll come to yours... Oh wait.

... Just another excuse.

Think on that."

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

This really not helping. Those who said, my profile is contradicting are wrong.

I can meet most nights as I can get a babysitter but not at short notice. Also can't accom cos of the kids.

I can't go to clubs as I can't stop out late due to babysitters needing to be home.

And if you want to see my holiday snaps ask on facebook. That's what facebook is for, and fab is for sex.

Facebook for face and fabswingers for swinging. It's in the title. So excuse me for having a moan and a whinge, but the impression I got is this is for nudity and sex and I've seen more sex on TV than this site.

Everyman's profile I've looked at has a few cock pics.

Some women ask for vwe guys and that's what I advertise.

If you wanted to buy a car you'd buy auto trader, if you want sex you'd join a sex site. Now you are telling me, it's not as simple as that.

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By *alandNitaCouple over a year ago

Scunthorpe

As a woman I am interested in fun, positive single men.

You come across as none of the above and are sadly still obsessed with your cock despite approaching 40.

You can't change the fact you are seemingly looking to cheat on your wife, but you can try to show some personality and focus less on your cock.

Nita

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"This really not helping. Those who said, my profile is contradicting are wrong.

I can meet most nights as I can get a babysitter but not at short notice. Also can't accom cos of the kids.

I can't go to clubs as I can't stop out late due to babysitters needing to be home.

And if you want to see my holiday snaps ask on facebook. That's what facebook is for, and fab is for sex.

Everyman's profile I've looked at has a few cock pics.

Some women ask for vwe guys and that's what I advertise.

If you wanted to buy a car you'd buy auto trader, if you want sex you'd join a sex site. Now you are telling me, it's not as simple as that. "

If only it were that simple.....I'd be knee deep in clunge

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By *alandNitaCouple over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"This really not helping. Those who said, my profile is contradicting are wrong.

I can meet most nights as I can get a babysitter but not at short notice. Also can't accom cos of the kids.

I can't go to clubs as I can't stop out late due to babysitters needing to be home.

And if you want to see my holiday snaps ask on facebook. That's what facebook is for, and fab is for sex.

Everyman's profile I've looked at has a few cock pics.

Some women ask for vwe guys and that's what I advertise.

If you wanted to buy a car you'd buy auto trader, if you want sex you'd join a sex site. Now you are telling me, it's not as simple as that. "

Yes.

You a one of hundreds of men. You need to stand out in the crowd and having a larger than average cock isn't enough.

Most women want a man not just their manhood.

Nita

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By *ost SockMan over a year ago

West Wales and Cardiff

"You took no notice of the advice a lot of people suggested weeks ago, and wonder why you still struggle.

Head meet wall emoji.

Messaging 200 people seems like a scattergun approach to me - be a snipers rifle with laser sighting with your messaging rather than a broad approach.

And go to a social. "

I agree with this. 200 people in a few months seems a huge amount and does suggest overly high expectations and a bit of impatience. I haven't messaged anything like that number in the 6.5 years I've been on the site.

Personally, I think successful blokes on here a really patient and only message people on the odd occasion when you sense a woman you can really connect with from their profile. All I know is that every know and then I get an intangible "good feeling" and can sense I'm on the same wavelength.

I do also think it'd help to inject some more sense of personality and make things less cock-centric.

Message less/don't focus on sex would be my advice. I know, I know "it's a flaming sex site". Seriously though, forget the sex bit sometimes.

I'm a Welsh idiot who is older, uglier and has a

smaller wang than you. I've managed to get meets including repeated ones with a couple and one particular woman (both have left the site, so I lost the veris - honest)! If I can do it, I'm sure you can.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This really not helping. Those who said, my profile is contradicting are wrong.

I can meet most nights as I can get a babysitter but not at short notice. Also can't accom cos of the kids.

I can't go to clubs as I can't stop out late due to babysitters needing to be home.

And if you want to see my holiday snaps ask on facebook. That's what facebook is for, and fab is for sex.

Everyman's profile I've looked at has a few cock pics.

Some women ask for vwe guys and that's what I advertise.

If you wanted to buy a car you'd buy auto trader, if you want sex you'd join a sex site. Now you are telling me, it's not as simple as that. "

You're conveniently glossing over the fact that most here, and on your previous thread have suggested you smile and look more friendly. Do feel free to continue to ignore that and get the rewards you so richly deserve. Zilch.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"As a woman I am interested in fun, positive single men.

You come across as none of the above and are sadly still obsessed with your cock despite approaching 40.

You can't change the fact you are seemingly looking to cheat on your wife, but you can try to show some personality and focus less on your cock.

Nita"

I'm a single dad looking for a bit of fun or a regular fb.

If you must know, my ex died and my sole purpose is too look after my kids but sometimes a man needs a bit of adult time. Is that enough for you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Everyman's profile I've looked at has a few cock pics.

12 out of 14 pictures of a depressed looking phallus is not a few.

Is it sad because it doesn't get any?

You've had a lot of advice... Twice it seems. So take a few minutes, have a rethink, and a rehash of your profile and come back and try again.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'm sorry you feel like that but this site can work really well if you use it to its full potential. Getting your profile right is the best start.

You've asked for profile advice before, right? I believed I told you to tidy your room and I see you still haven't. To be blunt I don't think anyone would want to get sexy with you in there.

Other people are right about what they're saying re your pics!!!

Bar the other comments I also looked at the messy room. Background to a woman instant turn off.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Sense of entitlement will put many off

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It's a numbers game pure and simple.

Single guys outnumber everyone else combined.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This site is a pure disappointment. I'm a single male, with quite a big cock, kind and considerate.

I ask for pictures, I give pictures.

I must of spoken to over 200 people on this site whether single of in a couple.

The response is very limited. I cannot be that bad or ugly that no-one wants to fuck me.

I've been a member for over a year, on two different accounts both different in their own way. I created one but then created another based on feedback I got from my first account.

The feedback on my first account was, too many cock pictures, you look to miserable, you can only have day meets looks like you are cheating etc..

2nd profile, less cock pics, genuine reason why I can't meet during day etc...(kids) tried to smile on pics, some I'm fully clothed.

Unbelievable still nothing. For a normal young single dad, trying to have a little adult time this site is depressing and very disappointing.

And I don't say this cos it's sour grapes I say this because the amount of excuses I get, I'll be very surprised if anyone is an actual swinger unless they go to clubs.

Some of the excuses are:

Not my type

Not Bi

Don't go for single men

Oh I'm busy

Cant accommodate,yet on profile they can.

Or they start to chat, it's very good and then when you try and arrange something all goes silent and just excuses and you start to think that this is all bullshit.

Now I'm sure this site is mostly full of men but out of all the women on here some women must be slightly interested In a athletic man with a big cock!

Or maybe they can't handle a big one. Either way, this site is depressing.

My membership is done in two weeks and thats probably gonna be it.

You remind me of a younger me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Tidy my room. Sorry mum. I used to live in a 3 bedroom house and now I live in 2 room flat and I have no storage for my stuff.

And also this is yet another reason why I can't accommodate and state that I don't. I'll come to yours... Oh wait.

... Just another excuse. "

Damn ignore my last comment about the room. Check the attitude.

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

Eh, I've got tits and a foof and no-one wants to meet me. Think on that!!

Bloody liberty!

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By *alandNitaCouple over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"As a woman I am interested in fun, positive single men.

You come across as none of the above and are sadly still obsessed with your cock despite approaching 40.

You can't change the fact you are seemingly looking to cheat on your wife, but you can try to show some personality and focus less on your cock.

Nita

I'm a single dad looking for a bit of fun or a regular fb.

If you must know, my ex died and my sole purpose is too look after my kids but sometimes a man needs a bit of adult time. Is that enough for you."

I get that being a single parent can be hard and makes time for sex difficult.

However, you are doing nothing to entice women to even respond at the moment.

Explaining you are a widower and single parent will help. If you also act on the other advice given.

Nita

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By *a Fee VerteWoman over a year ago

Limbo

"This really not helping. Those who said, my profile is contradicting are wrong.

I can meet most nights as I can get a babysitter but not at short notice. Also can't accom cos of the kids.

I can't go to clubs as I can't stop out late due to babysitters needing to be home.

And if you want to see my holiday snaps ask on facebook. That's what facebook is for, and fab is for sex.

Everyman's profile I've looked at has a few cock pics.

Some women ask for vwe guys and that's what I advertise.

If you wanted to buy a car you'd buy auto trader, if you want sex you'd join a sex site. Now you are telling me, it's not as simple as that. "

Cars are inanimate objects you can buy if you have the money. This isn't a sex site per se, it's a swinging site, you can't expect the same access to women here as you get to cars on Auto Trader for God's sake! If you want the sex equivalent of Auto Trader, go find an escort site where you can pay for the services of the women featured there

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Eh, I've got tits and a foof and no-one wants to meet me. Think on that!!

Bloody liberty!

I'll meet you, may not be my type or right sex but hey tits and a foof what an offer

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By *hubaysiWoman over a year ago

Leeds

One thing that comes across strong is OP adores his cock.....

I never understand why men post cock pics because we all know what a cock looks like!

An air of mystery is best.

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Eh, I've got tits and a foof and no-one wants to meet me. Think on that!!

Bloody liberty!

I'll do you.

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By *alandNitaCouple over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"One thing that comes across strong is OP adores his cock.....

I never understand why men post cock pics because we all know what a cock looks like!

An air of mystery is best.

Sadly, far too many men haven't grown out of the teenage cock obsession.

Nita

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Eh, I've got tits and a foof and no-one wants to meet me. Think on that!!

Bloody liberty!

I'll do you.

I was there first!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Tidy my room. Sorry mum. I used to live in a 3 bedroom house and now I live in 2 room flat and I have no storage for my stuff.

And also this is yet another reason why I can't accommodate and state that I don't. I'll come to yours... Oh wait.

... Just another excuse.

Damn ignore my last comment about the room. Check the attitude. "

Erm what my room is like has nothing to do with anyone. I ain't inviting you here to clean it nor am I inviting you round because simply I can't. So the state of the room is irrelevant.

I'am a clean and hygienic man when it comes to my person

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Shag will be along soon with his words of wisdom. Just hold tight

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By *phroditeWoman over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"You do look a bit miserable and most of your photos are cock photos.

An hours read of the forum would show that most ladies a) like a smile and b) don't like a cock pic.

What he said!"

seconded

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By *phroditeWoman over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"One thing that comes across strong is OP adores his cock.....

I never understand why men post cock pics because we all know what a cock looks like!

An air of mystery is best.

"
This

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By *imiUKMan over a year ago

Hereford

Dunno mate.

I've met loads of people off here, but then, I'm awesome.

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By *adgodCouple over a year ago

Greensburg

Well......bye.

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Eh, I've got tits and a foof and no-one wants to meet me. Think on that!!

Bloody liberty!

I'll do you.

I was there first! "

Even better

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Tidy my room. Sorry mum. I used to live in a 3 bedroom house and now I live in 2 room flat and I have no storage for my stuff.

And also this is yet another reason why I can't accommodate and state that I don't. I'll come to yours... Oh wait.

... Just another excuse.

Damn ignore my last comment about the room. Check the attitude.

Erm what my room is like has nothing to do with anyone. I ain't inviting you here to clean it nor am I inviting you round because simply I can't. So the state of the room is irrelevant.

I'am a clean and hygienic man when it comes to my person"

Possibly so in person. Sadly on here the picture is all we see.

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By *unforus1965Couple over a year ago

MIDLANDS

"This really not helping. Those who said, my profile is contradicting are wrong.

I can meet most nights as I can get a babysitter but not at short notice. Also can't accom cos of the kids.

I can't go to clubs as I can't stop out late due to babysitters needing to be home.

And if you want to see my holiday snaps ask on facebook. That's what facebook is for, and fab is for sex.

Everyman's profile I've looked at has a few cock pics.

Some women ask for vwe guys and that's what I advertise.

If you wanted to buy a car you'd buy auto trader, if you want sex you'd join a sex site. Now you are telling me, it's not as simple as that.

Agree totally.

There seems a strong sense of entitlement from thr OP, and probably the best way to get what he strongly wants is to pay for it.

This most certainly is not a sex site.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"One thing that comes across strong is OP adores his cock.....

I never understand why men post cock pics because we all know what a cock looks like!

An air of mystery is best.

I disagree, I like to see what their cock looks like. They don't all look the same.

But OP, I would say smile in your photos and have a sense of humour on here

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Eh, I've got tits and a foof and no-one wants to meet me. Think on that!!

Bloody liberty!

I'll do you.

You already did!

OP, blaming women for not meeting you won't do you any favours. Do a forum search; these posts never end well, and you'll just end up more bitter than you were.

You've been told early on in the thread where you might be going wrong. have a look at some of the more successful male profiles on here (there are a few, and you can go on stealth mode if you're afraid of giving them the wrong idea) and get some tips. Don't just grump off, muttering about uppity bitches.

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Car: clean and tidy, soft top, good ride, plenty of room inside for your and your friends, not overly thirsty, looks classy but is real cheap.

Ladies: clean and ti.....oh! I see what you mean!

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By *unforus1965Couple over a year ago

MIDLANDS

Did you want advice OP?

There seems loads floating about, and all you want to do is argue it seems.

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By *llNatural36FWoman over a year ago

Denbighshire

To be honest I've just read your profile and checked out your pics. You're not looking happy and I wouldn't say you have a big cock, I've seen bigger but each person has their own idea of size.

You seem to think it's instashag!. I've met some lovely people on here and some meets have taken months to organise due to work and personal stuff but it's been well worth building that up as the meets have been brilliant.

Try chilling out,drop the self entitlement and join in the forums then you may just see a difference

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Makes me cringe to see adult men moaning cause they can't get a met.

Bla bla bla.

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By *alandNitaCouple over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Car: clean and tidy, soft top, good ride, plenty of room inside for your and your friends, not overly thirsty, looks classy but is real cheap.

Ladies: clean and ti.....oh! I see what you mean!

that did make me chuckle

Nita

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Op. Stop trying so hard. Relax. Sit back. Chill.

If you go about the place moaning about not having meets you'll never get a sniff of beaver again. Not on Fab anyways.

Just think to yourself, if i get my cock sucked then great, but if not then meh. A wank it is.

You're thinking about it too much. A watched pot never boils.

I disagree about the cock pics. If a fella wants to put up loads of cock shots that's fine. It's no different to my 234 pics of my boobs in various poses etc.

At the end of the day it's your profile, your pics, if you're happy with it then that's ok.

But just stop over thinking things refarding the meet side. You're putting pressure on yourself and that'll just do your head in.

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By *lceeWoman over a year ago

Leeds

Ok, I'm going to start off with - I fricking adore this site. I meet, not with every guy I talk to (because fuck me, I don't have the hours in the day!) but the ones I do meet with are those that make me laugh, whose profiles make me grin and appear friendly and approachable and then we click. A grim reaper with his nutsack out isn't quite what does it for me personally.

I have met some stonkingly great guys on this site! And they have had meets with other women too!

I'm sure you're lovely, but most people who love this site love the social aspect of it. Swinging is about the social side of sexy times, whether that's NSA fun or partner swapping. This isn't 0800-DIAL-A-SHAG - we love the chase and the banter and a bit of fun. Your profile doesn't say that you're fun.

Swingers clubs aren't late night, 3 in the morning affairs either - there are plenty of afternoon and early evening sessions. Ones that you could easily get a babysitter for. Once you've been to a couple, even if only to chat to people, then you'll get veris and from there you can make your way forward.

If all you want is sex though, with no emotion or humour or frisson of excitement and anticipation it's a hooker you're looking for, not swingers.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Methinks OP isnt/ wont/ doesnt want to listen or take on board a bloody word anyone has said.

Therefore, absolutely nothing will change for him

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"Car: clean and tidy, soft top, good ride, plenty of room inside for your and your friends, not overly thirsty, looks classy but is real cheap.

Ladies: clean and ti.....oh! I see what you mean!

that did make me chuckle

Nita"

Haha

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By *lceeWoman over a year ago

Leeds

"Car: clean and tidy, soft top, good ride, plenty of room inside for your and your friends, not overly thirsty, looks classy but is real cheap.

Ladies: clean and ti.....oh! I see what you mean!

Steve, I luvs ya man!

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Car: clean and tidy, soft top, good ride, plenty of room inside for your and your friends, not overly thirsty, looks classy but is real cheap.

Ladies: clean and ti.....oh! I see what you mean!

I'm very thirsty! Mostly for beer.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

" Ok, I'm going to start off with - I fricking adore this site. I meet, not with every guy I talk to (because fuck me, I don't have the hours in the day!) but the ones I do meet with are those that make me laugh, whose profiles make me grin and appear friendly and approachable and then we click. A grim reaper with his nutsack out isn't quite what does it for me personally.

I have met some stonkingly great guys on this site! And they have had meets with other women too!

If all you want is sex though, with no emotion or humour or frisson of excitement and anticipation it's a hooker you're looking for, not swingers."

And this is why I have a mahusive girl crush on this lady.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"This really not helping. Those who said, my profile is contradicting are wrong.

I can meet most nights as I can get a babysitter but not at short notice. Also can't accom cos of the kids.

I can't go to clubs as I can't stop out late due to babysitters needing to be home.

And if you want to see my holiday snaps ask on facebook. That's what facebook is for, and fab is for sex.

Everyman's profile I've looked at has a few cock pics.

Some women ask for vwe guys and that's what I advertise.

If you wanted to buy a car you'd buy auto trader, if you want sex you'd join a sex site. Now you are telling me, it's not as simple as that. "

Most on this thread are saying same thing!!! All those people can't be wrong!!

In simple terms your profile is boring, your asking for advice but not taking it ........

just leave fab and pay a prostitute!!!

For most of us swinging is social as much as sexual!! Chemistry and attraction make for better meets ......... of course a face matters

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Op. Stop trying so hard. Relax. Sit back. Chill.

If you go about the place moaning about not having meets you'll never get a sniff of beaver again. Not on Fab anyways.

Just think to yourself, if i get my cock sucked then great, but if not then meh. A wank it is.

You're thinking about it too much. A watched pot never boils.

I disagree about the cock pics. If a fella wants to put up loads of cock shots that's fine. It's no different to my 234 pics of my boobs in various poses etc.

At the end of the day it's your profile, your pics, if you're happy with it then that's ok.

But just stop over thinking things refarding the meet side. You're putting pressure on yourself and that'll just do your head in.

She's right and she's got a cracking profile.. so I'd take this woman's advice.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Swinging isn't just an act, it's a state of mind, an ethos an understanding of that, and an embracing attitude.

You clearly haven't got any of these OP, and I'd suggest this just isn't the right scene for you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Methinks OP isnt/ wont/ doesnt want to listen or take on board a bloody word anyone has said.

Therefore, absolutely nothing will change for him

He may pull through.. That sounds like one of my older posts

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Just because your membership has two weeks left doesn't mean you can't close it sooner. You might not like that you can't get a meet but moaning about it is putting the last nails in you chances of meeting. If your this upset this might not be the place for you! Maybe close both Profiles! And smile and carry on!

(if you do smile that is)

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By *inky-MinxWoman over a year ago

Grantham

"Eh, I've got tits and a foof and no-one wants to meet me. Think on that!!

Bloody liberty!

I've met you twice

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And his cock isn't big enough for him to go round saying he has a big cock. You've got nothing to worry about.. But you ain't big enuff to say it about yourself.... Look around.

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By *aul1973HullMan over a year ago

East Hull

"For me not being thier type is a reason not an excuse. Also why wait for the membership to run out? If this site isn't for you maybe you should leave sooner rather then later. "

That's much nicer than I would have put, but I am tired n moody today.

OP, moaning about not getting meets is not going to get you meets.

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Eh, I've got tits and a foof and no-one wants to meet me. Think on that!!

Bloody liberty!

I've met you twice

Not voluntarily! I just turned up.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Methinks OP isnt/ wont/ doesnt want to listen or take on board a bloody word anyone has said.

Therefore, absolutely nothing will change for him

He may pull through.. That sounds like one of my older posts

All he has done is argue the toss, and ask why he should bother tidying up!!

I doubt he has any intention of listening to a bloody word of the advice!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The taps certainly on full tonight!! Drip flood drip!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Methinks OP isnt/ wont/ doesnt want to listen or take on board a bloody word anyone has said.

Therefore, absolutely nothing will change for him

He may pull through.. That sounds like one of my older posts

All he has done is argue the toss, and ask why he should bother tidying up!!

I doubt he has any intention of listening to a bloody word of the advice!"

I can't tidy up until I have a bigger property but has nothing to do with who iam.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Post a photo with a smile. I dare you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Methinks OP isnt/ wont/ doesnt want to listen or take on board a bloody word anyone has said.

Therefore, absolutely nothing will change for him

He may pull through.. That sounds like one of my older posts

All he has done is argue the toss, and ask why he should bother tidying up!!

I doubt he has any intention of listening to a bloody word of the advice!"

Oh I expect he's taking what he thinks are the best bits.. in time he'll realise that he got all the right advice on his very first post... and *ping* lightbulb moment. buuuuut..

I'm only commenting cos I see old me in that.

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By *hubaysiWoman over a year ago

Leeds

"Methinks OP isnt/ wont/ doesnt want to listen or take on board a bloody word anyone has said.

Therefore, absolutely nothing will change for him

He may pull through.. That sounds like one of my older posts

All he has done is argue the toss, and ask why he should bother tidying up!!

I doubt he has any intention of listening to a bloody word of the advice!

I can't tidy up until I have a bigger property but has nothing to do with who iam."

Can't or won't tidy up that is the question?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Methinks OP isnt/ wont/ doesnt want to listen or take on board a bloody word anyone has said.

Therefore, absolutely nothing will change for him

He may pull through.. That sounds like one of my older posts

All he has done is argue the toss, and ask why he should bother tidying up!!

I doubt he has any intention of listening to a bloody word of the advice!

I can't tidy up until I have a bigger property but has nothing to do with who iam."

Here's an idea then. Go take some pics with a slightly more alluring background!

You have one with a dirty towel on the floor, a couple with a messy background and then some flaccid cock shots!

How many ladies on here have pics like that? I'd wager there are none.

Do you really think women would be turned on by your pics? In real life?

You have two choices OP. You listen to the lovely folk who have tried to help, or you crash and burn

" i cant tidy up 'til ive got a bigger property" Lord have bloody mercy!

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By *unforus1965Couple over a year ago

MIDLANDS

"Methinks OP isnt/ wont/ doesnt want to listen or take on board a bloody word anyone has said.

Therefore, absolutely nothing will change for him

He may pull through.. That sounds like one of my older posts

All he has done is argue the toss, and ask why he should bother tidying up!!

I doubt he has any intention of listening to a bloody word of the advice!

I can't tidy up until I have a bigger property but has nothing to do with who iam."

Of course you can tidy up.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Methinks OP isnt/ wont/ doesnt want to listen or take on board a bloody word anyone has said.

Therefore, absolutely nothing will change for him

He may pull through.. That sounds like one of my older posts

All he has done is argue the toss, and ask why he should bother tidying up!!

I doubt he has any intention of listening to a bloody word of the advice!

I can't tidy up until I have a bigger property but has nothing to do with who iam.

Can't or won't tidy up that is the question?

CAN'T... As no room for storage not that this has anything to do with anyone tbh

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By *lceeWoman over a year ago

Leeds

"Methinks OP isnt/ wont/ doesnt want to listen or take on board a bloody word anyone has said.

Therefore, absolutely nothing will change for him

He may pull through.. That sounds like one of my older posts

All he has done is argue the toss, and ask why he should bother tidying up!!

I doubt he has any intention of listening to a bloody word of the advice!

Oh I expect he's taking what he thinks are the best bits.. in time he'll realise that he got all the right advice on his very first post... and *ping* lightbulb moment. buuuuut..

I'm only commenting cos I see old me in that."

Oh crumbs, I'd forgotten those old posts of yours TSM! You are super duper awesome with a side order of sparkly mayhem greatness now

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Think on that."

Spot on from Steve the Wise.

What he said OP.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Blimey, when I read everyone saying 'smile' I didn't expect to see you looking quite so pissed off in your pics.

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By *orkie321bWoman over a year ago

Nottingham

OP I read your post and fully intended to offer you some advice. Then I read your argumentative responses to people who have tried to help you.

Because of this I have only one thing left to say to you.

Bye then. Don't let the door smack you on the arse on your way out!

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By *hubaysiWoman over a year ago

Leeds

In the immortal words of Alesha Dixon:-

Does he wash up

He never washes up

Does he clean up

No he never cleans up

Does he brush up

No he never brushes up

He does nothing

The boy does nothing

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By *yrdwomanWoman over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum

"Methinks OP isnt/ wont/ doesnt want to listen or take on board a bloody word anyone has said.

Therefore, absolutely nothing will change for him

He may pull through.. That sounds like one of my older posts

All he has done is argue the toss, and ask why he should bother tidying up!!

I doubt he has any intention of listening to a bloody word of the advice!

I can't tidy up until I have a bigger property but has nothing to do with who iam.

Can't or won't tidy up that is the question?

CAN'T... As no room for storage not that this has anything to do with anyone tbh"

Shove it under the bed. That's what I do.

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By *eal Deal PartiesWoman over a year ago

Well I run parties, and I don't think I would invite u.. I don't want a miserable guy moaning he can't get a fuck!!

Get a life and smile a bit ffs!!

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By *eal Deal PartiesWoman over a year ago

"In the immortal words of Alesha Dixon:-

Does he wash up

He never washes up

Does he clean up

No he never cleans up

Does he brush up

No he never brushes up

He does nothing

The boy does nothing

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"In the immortal words of Alesha Dixon:-

Does he wash up

He never washes up

Does he clean up

No he never cleans up

Does he brush up

No he never brushes up

He does nothing

The boy does nothing

Fuck that woman is beautiful. I luuuuvvvv her

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"You don't mentioned what you can offer, I don't use this site as the Spanish inquisition so best be upfront about why someone would be interested in you!

It's all about what you want and nothing else, plus we don't all like cock pics, never mind flaccid ones "

Spanish Inquisition

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By *hubaysiWoman over a year ago

Leeds

"In the immortal words of Alesha Dixon:-

Does he wash up

He never washes up

Does he clean up

No he never cleans up

Does he brush up

No he never brushes up

He does nothing

The boy does nothing

Fuck that woman is beautiful. I luuuuvvvv her"

She's a beaut! Damn I'm dancing round the house to that song now...!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"......And your cock looks sad."

It probably had to read the profile.

Seriously though, come on man, heed the advice in this thread, use the search function and read through the dozens of other profile advice threads. Look at other men's profiles, don't copy from them, rather use them to stimulate your profile building juices. Good luck.

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By *exycouplemmmmCouple over a year ago

Surrey

Gold chain, frowning and messy backdrop ... puts me right off! Sorry x

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By *unforus1965Couple over a year ago

MIDLANDS

"Methinks OP isnt/ wont/ doesnt want to listen or take on board a bloody word anyone has said.

Therefore, absolutely nothing will change for him

He may pull through.. That sounds like one of my older posts

All he has done is argue the toss, and ask why he should bother tidying up!!

I doubt he has any intention of listening to a bloody word of the advice!

I can't tidy up until I have a bigger property but has nothing to do with who iam.

Can't or won't tidy up that is the question?

CAN'T... As no room for storage not that this has anything to do with anyone tbh"

Excuses, pure and simple.

Everyone can make a small place look tidy.

Well, nearly everyone....

You really aren't doing well here OP, are you?

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By *hubaysiWoman over a year ago

Leeds

"Well I run parties, and I don't think I would invite u.. I don't want a miserable guy moaning he can't get a fuck!!

Get a life and smile a bit ffs!! "

How do I get an invite to the LEEDS party?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Methinks OP isnt/ wont/ doesnt want to listen or take on board a bloody word anyone has said.

Therefore, absolutely nothing will change for him

He may pull through.. That sounds like one of my older posts

All he has done is argue the toss, and ask why he should bother tidying up!!

I doubt he has any intention of listening to a bloody word of the advice!

I can't tidy up until I have a bigger property but has nothing to do with who iam.

Can't or won't tidy up that is the question?

CAN'T... As no room for storage not that this has anything to do with anyone tbh"

Crop your photos then to cut out the bits you don't want everyone seeing.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

FFS! I moved from the North east to Midlands with my kids. I have 2 rooms. One a bedroom as you can see, one a converted front room to a bedroom for my girls and a kitchen and bathroom. Thats all I have, I have nowhere to put my stuff I need an extra room but I don't have one. I can't move my stuff, I have nowhere to put it. Now stop going on about my messy bedsit of A room.

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By *ames1763Man over a year ago

Aberdeen

The site is amazing in my opinion, I think it is the way you use the site that counts, now I think my theory is right , you cannot avoid the face to face, make friends first then communicate with your friends with the site.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Not gonna bash you op, but people are right, just smile. If you look like your having fun, people will want to have fun with you. Plus a smile is more atttactive than a frown.....if my ugly mug can manage it, im sure you can too. I know it can be dishearting, but a postive attitude goes a long way. Big up for being a single dad, i know exactly what thats like, no one is saying to change who you are, just tweek a few bits. No offence ment, chin up and good luck for the future.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Not gonna bash you op, but people are right, just smile. If you look like your having fun, people will want to have fun with you. Plus a smile is more atttactive than a frown.....if my ugly mug can manage it, im sure you can too. I know it can be dishearting, but a postive attitude goes a long way. Big up for being a single dad, i know exactly what thats like, no one is saying to change who you are, just tweek a few bits. No offence ment, chin up and good luck for the future."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your smile is that face you pull when you pass a stranger in the street

"the smile when you pass someone"

Google image it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"FFS! I moved from the North east to Midlands with my kids. I have 2 rooms. One a bedroom as you can see, one a converted front room to a bedroom for my girls and a kitchen and bathroom. Thats all I have, I have nowhere to put my stuff I need an extra room but I don't have one. I can't move my stuff, I have nowhere to put it. Now stop going on about my messy bedsit of A room."

If that's what is putting people off then take the pics out and put some on of you smiling. You have asked for advice and been given it, up to you if of take it.

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Methinks OP isnt/ wont/ doesnt want to listen or take on board a bloody word anyone has said.

Therefore, absolutely nothing will change for him

He may pull through.. That sounds like one of my older posts

All he has done is argue the toss, and ask why he should bother tidying up!!

I doubt he has any intention of listening to a bloody word of the advice!

I can't tidy up until I have a bigger property but has nothing to do with who iam.

Can't or won't tidy up that is the question?

CAN'T... As no room for storage not that this has anything to do with anyone tbh

Excuses, pure and simple.

Everyone can make a small place look tidy.

Well, nearly everyone....

You really aren't doing well here OP, are you?"

It's his house! A man's home is his castle

If he wants a messy castle it's up to him

But make sure to tidy up before your guest/s arrive. Uninvited ones deserve the shock

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

This is so me

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By *orum TrollWoman over a year ago

•+• Access Denied •+•

i didn't notice the messy house with that big cock standing out in pics.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Go to a club night?

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By *orum TrollWoman over a year ago

•+• Access Denied •+•

PS nice cock OP.

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By *iSubSlutWoman over a year ago

Bedford

Summary:

Inject some personality and humour into your profile.

Take some smilely photos.

Crop photos so that the background doesnt show, just do closeups...

Delete the flaccid pics.

It aint rocket science, but you're comparing the site to Auto Trader, thats just insulting, us ladies arent for sale....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Summary:

Inject some personality and humour into your profile.

Take some smilely photos.

Crop photos so that the background doesnt show, just do closeups...

Delete the flaccid pics.

It aint rocket science, but you're comparing the site to Auto Trader, thats just insulting, us ladies arent for sale....

Everything's for sale at the right price

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The frustration is strong in you OP.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

There's a bottle of mayonnaise and a (presumably) empty can of what looks like diet pepsi in the background of one of the pictures.

Midnight snacking?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Stop crying and bitching already, OP. Stop with all the expectations and demands. Either take the great advice given or be gone. There is almost an unlimited amount of women and couples on this site over there. At the moment, its 9pm and there are 7 women online in the whole US. OP, how would you deal with that? Would you bitch and cry about that too? I have talked to more ladies from England, Scotland, and Wales then women from the US. Some of them even messaged me first. Im just rambling now. Sorry.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Stop crying and bitching already, OP. Stop with all the expectations and demands. Either take the great advice given or be gone. There is almost an unlimited amount of women and couples on this site over there. At the moment, its 9pm and there are 7 women online in the whole US. OP, how would you deal with that? Would you bitch and cry about that too? I have talked to more ladies from England, Scotland, and Wales then women from the US. Some of them even messaged me first. Im just rambling now. Sorry.

You might as well come and live over here

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By *hoenixAdAstraWoman over a year ago

Hiding in the shadows

"Tidy my room. Sorry mum. I used to live in a 3 bedroom house and now I live in 2 room flat and I have no storage for my stuff.

And also this is yet another reason why I can't accommodate and state that I don't. I'll come to yours... Oh wait.

... Just another excuse. "

It's not an excuse.

It's a pretty valid reason FFS

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You might as well come and live over here

Hello, Thats not the first time Ive heard that and I even had a few offers to come over there and stay for a while.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Tidy my room. Sorry mum. I used to live in a 3 bedroom house and now I live in 2 room flat and I have no storage for my stuff.

And also this is yet another reason why I can't accommodate and state that I don't. I'll come to yours... Oh wait.

... Just another excuse.

It's not an excuse.

It's a pretty valid reason FFS

This guy has only got excuse after excuse and apparently a huge cock.

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By *ENGUYMan over a year ago

Hull

OP. Let's put this into a logical response..

You joined 4 months ago! Did you believe it was an Instant Shag site?

It isn't! You have to work at "selling yourself"; that's what it takes.

Yes, you have issues being a one parent house hold, but others on here can work round that.

Pics are necessary but at least smile in one of them. Ditch the cock shots to Private. If there is a risk of stuff in the floor or in the background, move it out of the way till you've completed the shots!

You need to put more into your Profile, say what you seek and what you can bring to a meet.

You are up against so many other guys all seeking the same thing, so you have to stand out as better.

Get to socials or clubs in your region, if you can. It's about getting Noticed! It takes Patience and Perseverance.

But think of one other matter. On Posts, there is a little Green arrow alongside your name. That links to what posts you've made in the past on the Forums. I check that out when I'm looking at a prospective meet partner as it helps me towards my decision whether to meet or not?

In this thread, you've been given advice but argued it or put it this way, have or will you follow up on it?

Because, if someone was to look via that little green arrow and view your negative views (so far) plus non smiling pics, they're likely to move on.

Change things round, follow the advice, Smile, and you stand a chance!

Good Luck.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've been where you are now. I took the advice, nothing changed. Go figure...

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By *iss_tressWoman over a year ago

London

Whinging thread longer than the profile.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If you wanted to buy a car you'd buy auto trader, if you want sex you'd join a sex site. Now you are telling me, it's not as simple as that. "

You're really not helping yourslf with analogies like this, but let's drag this one out.

You're looking for a new car

You browse the ads and look for one that suits you

Do you :

a) look at the well presented one, with a selection of great photos and a good write up, that's just what you're looking for ?, or

b) do you look for the one in the middle of the page with a few crappy photos that make it look like it's seen better days and below, a few words that don't do anything to convince you otherwise ?

My guess is you'd go for the one that's just what you were looking for.

That's all people are saying, you're profile (and this thread) are not selling you. At all.

On a site with 20,000 'cars', you're the one that is gonna sit on the forecourt the longest, you're the one that is gonna keep getting re-advertised.

Only you can change your ad to sell yourself. You. Just you.

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By *andsonjohnMan over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

hi op

i can clearly feel your frustration in your opening post and also in some of your answers to people in here

now i am willing to bet your mostly likely a far nicer guy that you come across in this post frustration leads to a bit of anger and when that happens we never show our best side .

have a read of this

hi I'm a young working single father new to the area and new to swinging .

a man has needs so here i am hoping to make a few liberal minded friends in the local area for some adult chat and if I'm very lucky some adult fun to .

the times i can meet are limited although given a week or a few days notice i can juggle work around for a day time meet,

i can not accommodate due to the kids i can meet some evening but like a teenager I'm on a curfew due to kids and the baby sitter .

now op that's me rewording your profile for you using the information already in it

what I'm trying to say is you need to personalise yourself through you profile . as already stated id remove the cock pictures all to ether friends or private .

i feel for you fella a single dad working doing it all just like i would feel for a single woman in the same situation .

my advice humanise yourself at the minute with all the cock pictures your objectifying yourself depersonalising yourself .

don't take offence fella to anything I've wrote here I'm just trying to help you have bring a bit of adult fun your way .

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"hi op