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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I wonder if this is standard for most people on fab.
Been on here for 8 months now, and just look at the topics and they're all the same recycled ones.
I think I'm in a slump with Fab right now, I've even lifted my filters today just to see what happens. Not much apparently 
Does everyone else go through phases of it being great then not so much?
Would you go UNLOS if that's how you felt at the time?
Love to hear how many have felt the same. Whether they stayed on and things just got better or if they went away for a while and Fab seemed great when they returned.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Been through phases where I won't look at the site at all for months, mainly because of being busy with work, and phases where I can't do anything but look through the site.
The forum is pretty repetitive at times, but once all the sex related threads are ed out, it's generally not too bad for me. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Hide your profile. Remove the shortcut from your phone and have a break."
Might be too tempting if I just hide it.
Did you not get tempted to peep a few times? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm still here just pondering the meaning of life, like this thread. It's just one point of reference. I gave up on the sexual angle some time ago, and leave that in the real World.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I go through phases just like this with Fab. The forums can be hard work because you end up seeing the same topics recycled over and over. I only really like to say something if I feel it's not been said before, and that's hard to do here. It's why I rarely post new topics, but when I do they are innovative and groudbreaking 
But in all seriousness, yes I go through Fab slumps, where I simply can't be bothered with the place and feel my life would be better off without it. I even went UNLOS for a couple of months recently and it did feel like a weight was lifted in that I no longer felt that compulsion to log in so often just to read some drivel on the forum and get rejected by some more ladies. Now that I'm back, I'm sticking with the attitude of keeping Fab stuff in the background, and not getting obsessed with it. Seems to be a good balance so far, although who knows when I'll next meet anyone?? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I go through phases just like this with Fab. The forums can be hard work because you end up seeing the same topics recycled over and over. I only really like to say something if I feel it's not been said before, and that's hard to do here. It's why I rarely post new topics, but when I do they are innovative and groudbreaking
But in all seriousness, yes I go through Fab slumps, where I simply can't be bothered with the place and feel my life would be better off without it. I even went UNLOS for a couple of months recently and it did feel like a weight was lifted in that I no longer felt that compulsion to log in so often just to read some drivel on the forum and get rejected by some more ladies. Now that I'm back, I'm sticking with the attitude of keeping Fab stuff in the background, and not getting obsessed with it. Seems to be a good balance so far, although who knows when I'll next meet anyone?? "
I'm tempted. I'm reluctant to put that I feel like going UNLOS. It can come across as attention seeking when it's not.
If it's a normal part of being on fab then I accept that.
If it's not then maybe I need to question the validity of my membership.
Bit of a dilemma eh? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Are you fed up of the forums or Fab in general?"
There are a few people I'd be really sad to lose as daily friends I talk to but I think it's the repetition maybe? Or the fact i might actually need a break.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The forums keep me here but there don't seem to be as many advice threads lately, not profile advice but just general problems. I like answering problems. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If i feel like ive had enough i just tend to hide my profile but it only ever seems to be a week or so after before i am recharged.
I generally let the hater hate because all i wanna do is shake shake shake |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"The forums keep me here but there don't seem to be as many advice threads lately, not profile advice but just general problems. I like answering problems. "
I do like relating to things other people want to talk about and yes, there's fewer threads like that right now.
just realised I'm partly redressing the balance there by posting this one  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Our profile has been hidden for a few weeks because I just can't be arsed with it at the moment. I've hardly been on the forums either cos every time I come on there isn't really anything I want to comment on. We deleted our last profile as we felt the same way. Have had really good meets tho so I'll keep it stagnant for now till the fancy takes us x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The forums keep me here but there don't seem to be as many advice threads lately, not profile advice but just general problems. I like answering problems.
I do like relating to things other people want to talk about and yes, there's fewer threads like that right now.
just realised I'm partly redressing the balance there by posting this one "
I’ve never been in the forums before, seems like I’ve been missing out on the potentially decent part of this place. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"If i feel like ive had enough i just tend to hide my profile but it only ever seems to be a week or so after before i am recharged.
I generally let the hater hate because all i wanna do is shake shake shake "
Could be the best place to start eh? See how I feel after that. At least that way I'm not going through the arse ache of creating a new profile  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I think it's pretty quiet with everyone off on their holidays and having the kids off school so the repeat threads seem more noticeable.
I'm sure it's just that what's making you feel a bit flat. X |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Our profile has been hidden for a few weeks because I just can't be arsed with it at the moment. I've hardly been on the forums either cos every time I come on there isn't really anything I want to comment on. We deleted our last profile as we felt the same way. Have had really good meets tho so I'll keep it stagnant for now till the fancy takes us x"
This I can relate to. So I've hidden myself and after today - don't want to just sod off for a week and not reply to people - I'll see how I feel.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I go through phases just like this with Fab. The forums can be hard work because you end up seeing the same topics recycled over and over. I only really like to say something if I feel it's not been said before, and that's hard to do here. It's why I rarely post new topics, but when I do they are innovative and groudbreaking
But in all seriousness, yes I go through Fab slumps, where I simply can't be bothered with the place and feel my life would be better off without it. I even went UNLOS for a couple of months recently and it did feel like a weight was lifted in that I no longer felt that compulsion to log in so often just to read some drivel on the forum and get rejected by some more ladies. Now that I'm back, I'm sticking with the attitude of keeping Fab stuff in the background, and not getting obsessed with it. Seems to be a good balance so far, although who knows when I'll next meet anyone??
I'm tempted. I'm reluctant to put that I feel like going UNLOS. It can come across as attention seeking when it's not.
If it's a normal part of being on fab then I accept that.
If it's not then maybe I need to question the validity of my membership.
Bit of a dilemma eh? "
It is a dilemma, I do understand. Like others have said, maybe a good starting point is to hide your profile and take a break, to see if you miss it or not.
I agree that announcing you're leaving is always seen as attention seeking. I didn't announce it when I went UNLOS, I just disappeared, intending to never return. There were a few ladies I regret not mentioning it to first though, in hindsight it was very rude and selfish of me to just disappear without a trace. So make sure you let Fab friends know, and get hold of other contact details first, if you do decide to disappear. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If i feel like ive had enough i just tend to hide my profile but it only ever seems to be a week or so after before i am recharged.
I generally let the hater hate because all i wanna do is shake shake shake
Could be the best place to start eh? See how I feel after that. At least that way I'm not going through the arse ache of creating a new profile "
Thats exactly why i hide my profile to save having to setup it up all over again |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The only person who can decide is you and that depends entirely why your here and what you want.
I could sit here and predict day by day the forum threads with a degree of accuracy so can many others. And that predictability can become a bit jaded after a while.
I for one would miss you if you go because you are among the few who post anything different from the usual stuff...its often thought provoking full of insight and has an impact across the whole forum and is often fun too.
Almost everyone who leaves comes back for various reasons including both the sex and the social interaction. So walking away may just leave you feeling a disconnect that brings you back anyway. But at times just taking a step back even for a few days can be enough to restore the things that brought you here to start with.
It's your life and only you can decide how to live it and what it is that fulfils you... but that need to be here doesn't usually just go away because we may feel down jaded or what's the point from time to time.
I can't pm you but am always happy to talk and if you feel the need to question your decisions it is always good to talk to someone.
They can often be more objective than we ever are about ourselves.
For what it's worth I think fab often needs more people like you and we often fail to notice the impact people have here until they are gone. And those who do go come back because they feel a need to be a part of something that is important in their lives.
I hope you find whatever it is you seek and while the ultimate decision is yours to make but those decisions we make in haste are often the ones we regret.
Good luck OP with whatever you decide
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"The only person who can decide is you and that depends entirely why your here and what you want.
I could sit here and predict day by day the forum threads with a degree of accuracy so can many others. And that predictability can become a bit jaded after a while.
I for one would miss you if you go because you are among the few who post anything different from the usual stuff...its often thought provoking full of insight and has an impact across the whole forum and is often fun too.
Almost everyone who leaves comes back for various reasons including both the sex and the social interaction. So walking away may just leave you feeling a disconnect that brings you back anyway. But at times just taking a step back even for a few days can be enough to restore the things that brought you here to start with.
It's your life and only you can decide how to live it and what it is that fulfils you... but that need to be here doesn't usually just go away because we may feel down jaded or what's the point from time to time.
I can't pm you but am always happy to talk and if you feel the need to question your decisions it is always good to talk to someone.
They can often be more objective than we ever are about ourselves.
For what it's worth I think fab often needs more people like you and we often fail to notice the impact people have here until they are gone. And those who do go come back because they feel a need to be a part of something that is important in their lives.
I hope you find whatever it is you seek and while the ultimate decision is yours to make but those decisions we make in haste are often the ones we regret.
Good luck OP with whatever you decide
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I could say the same about your posts tbh. Always insightful and thought provoking.
This will never be done in haste again. Did that once and regretted it almost immediately.
Thanks for, as ever, your wonderful words of wisdom |
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I've been feeling the same. I almost UNLOS'd a couple of times these last few weeks.
For me I think it's coz I made a div of myself and I was sore. I lost some of the fun, I think it's more of that's because it's how I was feeling on the inside. Made me question myself and my ability to deal with setbacks.
I seem to have survived
Most of my pics are friend only now, until I think I'm happy to peacock again. I'm spending less time on at the mo, and actually attempting to get my house sorted in the best way I can. Instead of others making me feel better, I'm being productive and finding I DO have some worth and have the ability to make myself feel better. I forget this at times and sometimes rely too much on others to make me smile. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Have been on and off the last 12 months quit my accounts n lost my veris and starting all over again but when the boredom sinks in again i will just hide my profile next time. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The only person who can decide is you and that depends entirely why your here and what you want.
I could sit here and predict day by day the forum threads with a degree of accuracy so can many others. And that predictability can become a bit jaded after a while.
I for one would miss you if you go because you are among the few who post anything different from the usual stuff...its often thought provoking full of insight and has an impact across the whole forum and is often fun too.
Almost everyone who leaves comes back for various reasons including both the sex and the social interaction. So walking away may just leave you feeling a disconnect that brings you back anyway. But at times just taking a step back even for a few days can be enough to restore the things that brought you here to start with.
It's your life and only you can decide how to live it and what it is that fulfils you... but that need to be here doesn't usually just go away because we may feel down jaded or what's the point from time to time.
I can't pm you but am always happy to talk and if you feel the need to question your decisions it is always good to talk to someone.
They can often be more objective than we ever are about ourselves.
For what it's worth I think fab often needs more people like you and we often fail to notice the impact people have here until they are gone. And those who do go come back because they feel a need to be a part of something that is important in their lives.
I hope you find whatever it is you seek and while the ultimate decision is yours to make but those decisions we make in haste are often the ones we regret.
Good luck OP with whatever you decide
I could say the same about your posts tbh. Always insightful and thought provoking.
This will never be done in haste again. Did that once and regretted it almost immediately.
Thanks for, as ever, your wonderful words of wisdom "
There are things I regret too.
But life is too short for regrets. We only get one chance at life.
And regrets only remain regrets if we don't dare to take a step out of our comfort zone and try to change things.
We only ever regret the things we didn't dare to do.
My life is already full of too many regrets.
Don't do what I do the man cave is just a place for me to hide.
Be better than me ...take a chance..aftef all what is the worst thst can happen.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wonder if this is standard for most people on fab.
Been on here for 8 months now, and just look at the topics and they're all the same recycled ones.
I think I'm in a slump with Fab right now, I've even lifted my filters today just to see what happens. Not much apparently
Does everyone else go through phases of it being great then not so much?
Would you go UNLOS if that's how you felt at the time?
Love to hear how many have felt the same. Whether they stayed on and things just got better or if they went away for a while and Fab seemed great when they returned.
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Yes lovely. Fab is filled with high and the mundane for me. I hace gone unlos quite a few times. I just get bored or preoccupied with real life stuff and decide to take a few months out. I come back fresh then. I can't hide my profile. The temptation is too much. Deleting my profile works best for me |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm tempted. I'm reluctant to put that I feel like going UNLOS. It can come across as attention seeking when it's not.
If it's a normal part of being on fab then I accept that.
If it's not then maybe I need to question the validity of my membership.
Bit of a dilemma eh? "
I believe mostly everyone on here goes through spells of questioning the why of staying on here. Some frequently hide their profile, come and go (stop that sniggering!) when the feeling creeps up on them.
Others go unlos and return anew much later.
Not many seem to stay away for good though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I deleted my last profile lost my veris and some pics , got fed up of it all , just recently rejoined regret deleting my profile i should of kept ot hidden instead , its true that its the time of year where everyones out and about im sure when september arrives there will be alot more people perving , procrastinating and having fun xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I only pop in now and then these days and usually scan a few threads, sigh, roll my eyes and log off.
Just take a bit of a break - log in if you fancy it and stay clear if you don't.
I usually just come on when I'm between things to waste a bit of time. |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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Yes, I feel like that quite often - when I do I stop posting as often and eventually just hide my profile.
The forums are repetitive by nature - different people come to take the role of those who don't post any more but the same topics and responses are often posted - the deliberately antagonising, the wildly irrelevant, the bolshy bitch, the always righters, the drama seekers and the wise but no-one reads the waffle to name a few. It's like the seven basic plots with your typical goodies and baddies.
I don't UNLOS 'cause if needs be I just stop using it.
I have to type I do find the faux eulogies of the 'great forumites who will never return  ' (always return sooner or later) rather amusing. |
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It can get like that sometime yes. All I do is just stay away for a bit and just see if my mojo finds its way back to me like now haha. I wouldn't leave bcz of it though but it can get you down somewhat  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yes, I feel like that quite often - when I do I stop posting as often and eventually just hide my profile.
The forums are repetitive by nature - different people come to take the role of those who don't post any more but the same topics and responses are often posted - the deliberately antagonising, the wildly irrelevant, the bolshy bitch, the always righters, the drama seekers and the wise but no-one reads the waffle to name a few. It's like the seven basic plots with your typical goodies and baddies.
I don't UNLOS 'cause if needs be I just stop using it.
I have to type I do find the faux eulogies of the 'great forumites who will never return ' (always return sooner or later) rather amusing. "
And so it was foretold that the forum fabbers of the halcyon days of yore would return for the end times, and lead the fab folk in their time of great need...  |
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"Yes, I feel like that quite often - when I do I stop posting as often and eventually just hide my profile.
The forums are repetitive by nature - different people come to take the role of those who don't post any more but the same topics and responses are often posted - the deliberately antagonising, the wildly irrelevant, the bolshy bitch, the always righters, the drama seekers and the wise but no-one reads the waffle to name a few. It's like the seven basic plots with your typical goodies and baddies.
I don't UNLOS 'cause if needs be I just stop using it.
I have to type I do find the faux eulogies of the 'great forumites who will never return ' (always return sooner or later) rather amusing. "
You always word things so well Meli |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"Yes, I feI have to type I do find the faux eulogies of the 'great forumites who will never return ' (always return sooner or later) rather amusing.
And so it was foretold that the forum fabbers of the halcyon days of yore would return for the end times, and lead the fab folk in their time of great need... "
I like your words - you should start the threads bemoaning the losses! |
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"Yes, I feI have to type I do find the faux eulogies of the 'great forumites who will never return ' (always return sooner or later) rather amusing.
And so it was foretold that the forum fabbers of the halcyon days of yore would return for the end times, and lead the fab folk in their time of great need...
I like your words - you should start the threads bemoaning the losses! "
In this case I might go first |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Yeah, sure, I've felt that way about fab. We don't delete our profile because we don't see the point - I understand that there are times I feel like having a meet and times I don't. There are times I'm interested in the forums, and times I'm not. Just like most other things in life.
I see the purpose of our profile as a way to meet people for sex. How I feel about the forums has never played into thoughts of leaving fab. The profile will be deleted when we no longer want to meet people in the UK for sex. It's quite black and white for me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wonder if this is standard for most people on fab.
Been on here for 8 months now, and just look at the topics and they're all the same recycled ones.
I think I'm in a slump with Fab right now, I've even lifted my filters today just to see what happens. Not much apparently
Does everyone else go through phases of it being great then not so much?
Would you go UNLOS if that's how you felt at the time?
Love to hear how many have felt the same. Whether they stayed on and things just got better or if they went away for a while and Fab seemed great when they returned.
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if this thread was made by a man everyone would be like oh whats the matter not getting any meets? Leave then.
But because its a woman..... count yourself you could be a bloke on here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I only pop in now and then these days and usually scan a few threads, sigh, roll my eyes and log off.
Just take a bit of a break - log in if you fancy it and stay clear if you don't.
I usually just come on when I'm between things to waste a bit of time."
Your absence has been noticed! |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"if this thread was made by a man everyone would be like oh whats the matter not getting any meets? Leave then.
But because its a woman..... count yourself you could be a bloke on here"
Utter bollocks. If a thread was done in a similar fashion ie inviting others to share how they feel about fab, it might not get as many responses (depending on what man did it) but it wouldn't be a case of just leave.
The just leave responses are to the ones bitching about the site and their lack of meets being down to external factors. Not right in my opinion but that's what happens. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I wonder if this is standard for most people on fab.
Been on here for 8 months now, and just look at the topics and they're all the same recycled ones.
I think I'm in a slump with Fab right now, I've even lifted my filters today just to see what happens. Not much apparently
Does everyone else go through phases of it being great then not so much?
Would you go UNLOS if that's how you felt at the time?
Love to hear how many have felt the same. Whether they stayed on and things just got better or if they went away for a while and Fab seemed great when they returned.
if this thread was made by a man everyone would be like oh whats the matter not getting any meets? Leave then.
But because its a woman..... count yourself you could be a bloke on here"
I'm pretty much here FOR the forums. I very seldom meet. Maybe that's my issue. I'm not on for the right reasons. Or for the same reasons the majority are on for.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Yes, I feel like that quite often - when I do I stop posting as often and eventually just hide my profile.
The forums are repetitive by nature - different people come to take the role of those who don't post any more but the same topics and responses are often posted - the deliberately antagonising, the wildly irrelevant, the bolshy bitch, the always righters, the drama seekers and the wise but no-one reads the waffle to name a few. It's like the seven basic plots with your typical goodies and baddies.
I don't UNLOS 'cause if needs be I just stop using it.
I have to type I do find the faux eulogies of the 'great forumites who will never return ' (always return sooner or later) rather amusing. "
As ever, brilliantly put
Maybe I just miss posts like this |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I wonder if this is standard for most people on fab.
Been on here for 8 months now, and just look at the topics and they're all the same recycled ones.
I think I'm in a slump with Fab right now, I've even lifted my filters today just to see what happens. Not much apparently
Does everyone else go through phases of it being great then not so much?
Would you go UNLOS if that's how you felt at the time?
Love to hear how many have felt the same. Whether they stayed on and things just got better or if they went away for a while and Fab seemed great when they returned.
if this thread was made by a man everyone would be like oh whats the matter not getting any meets? Leave then.
But because its a woman..... count yourself you could be a bloke on here
I'm pretty much here FOR the forums. I very seldom meet. Maybe that's my issue. I'm not on for the right reasons. Or for the same reasons the majority are on for.
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They are your own reasons though and if you enjoy using the forums more than other aspects of the site you should continue to do so,at the end of the day its about what works for.
I have gone through spells of just using the forums and you are right sometimes it does get a bit tedious just have a little holiday and come back when you are ready. If you do I for one will miss your posts |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"I wonder if this is standard for most people on fab.
Been on here for 8 months now, and just look at the topics and they're all the same recycled ones.
I think I'm in a slump with Fab right now, I've even lifted my filters today just to see what happens. Not much apparently
Does everyone else go through phases of it being great then not so much?
Would you go UNLOS if that's how you felt at the time?
Love to hear how many have felt the same. Whether they stayed on and things just got better or if they went away for a while and Fab seemed great when they returned.
if this thread was made by a man everyone would be like oh whats the matter not getting any meets? Leave then.
But because its a woman..... count yourself you could be a bloke on here"
Possibly fella certainly the odds are less sympathy would be shown but the op on the whole is not one to act that way in such posts .
So she has less people with a vendetta or a grudge looking for a chance to get revenge .
You have to look past the obvious on here to see the real patterns as sometimes things are not as simple as guys getting shown less sympathy.
There are other factors at play a lot of the time on forums like this in my opinion . |
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"Fab isn't really holding much for me at the moment mind."
That is because your age filter prevents me from seducing you. If you raise it and play your cards right, I might....get in the nudey with you!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes, I feI have to type I do find the faux eulogies of the 'great forumites who will never return ' (always return sooner or later) rather amusing.
And so it was foretold that the forum fabbers of the halcyon days of yore would return for the end times, and lead the fab folk in their time of great need...
I like your words - you should start the threads bemoaning the losses! "
Kinda like a fab obituary for the fallen? Oooh I like... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"if this thread was made by a man everyone would be like oh whats the matter not getting any meets? Leave then.
But because its a woman..... count yourself you could be a bloke on here
Utter bollocks. If a thread was done in a similar fashion ie inviting others to share how they feel about fab, it might not get as many responses (depending on what man did it) but it wouldn't be a case of just leave.
The just leave responses are to the ones bitching about the site and their lack of meets being down to external factors. Not right in my opinion but that's what happens."
i know what ive seen in the 7 months ive been here |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't expect the forums to entertain me and I don't assume I'll find someone to have sex with. Going in with no expectations or assumptions means I'm not disappointed. If I don't feel like having sex and there's nothing on the forums that interests me I read a book, or play games on my laptop. Fab is like any other social media site for me, with the added bonus of sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wonder if this is standard for most people on fab.
Been on here for 8 months now, and just look at the topics and they're all the same recycled ones.
I think I'm in a slump with Fab right now, I've even lifted my filters today just to see what happens. Not much apparently
Does everyone else go through phases of it being great then not so much?
Would you go UNLOS if that's how you felt at the time?
Love to hear how many have felt the same. Whether they stayed on and things just got better or if they went away for a while and Fab seemed great when they returned.
if this thread was made by a man everyone would be like oh whats the matter not getting any meets? Leave then.
But because its a woman..... count yourself you could be a bloke on here
I'm pretty much here FOR the forums. I very seldom meet. Maybe that's my issue. I'm not on for the right reasons. Or for the same reasons the majority are on for.
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If you just want to chat aren't there better places to do that? |
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I don't have phases just things that grind my gears, one of which is the constant whining folk do about this and that Fab related. As whining is annoying I normally keep my irritation to myself and roll my eyes. If something is irritating me that much I will take the appropriate course of action, hide profile, disappear for a while, block or go quiet. Oh or I have been known to send a PM to the person causing the irritation. When the time comes I'll UNLOS but that won't be in the near future. As with everything in life, if you can't achieve what you want with something you have 2 choices, put up with it (quietly) or move on  |
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over a year ago
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"Forgive the ignorance but what's UNLOS...? "
User No Longer On Site. When a fab forumite buggers orf it says that where their name used to appear on posts |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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"I wonder if this is standard for most people on fab.
Been on here for 8 months now, and just look at the topics and they're all the same recycled ones.
I think I'm in a slump with Fab right now, I've even lifted my filters today just to see what happens. Not much apparently
Does everyone else go through phases of it being great then not so much?
Would you go UNLOS if that's how you felt at the time?
Love to hear how many have felt the same. Whether they stayed on and things just got better or if they went away for a while and Fab seemed great when they returned.
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Are you here for the forums or to meet? Are you here to read endless topics about personal issues and habits or enjoy yourself? Creating a new profile and re-reading forums wont create new fun forum posts and if you have your filters up if wont mean anybody you haven't seen before will be able to contact you.
The thing is with the forums is you can post all day long and get absolutely no meets. If you look through your local profiles and message a few people that interest you for the same amount of time, you'll have a whole different perspective of what fun can be had.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I wonder if this is standard for most people on fab.
Been on here for 8 months now, and just look at the topics and they're all the same recycled ones.
I think I'm in a slump with Fab right now, I've even lifted my filters today just to see what happens. Not much apparently
Does everyone else go through phases of it being great then not so much?
Would you go UNLOS if that's how you felt at the time?
Love to hear how many have felt the same. Whether they stayed on and things just got better or if they went away for a while and Fab seemed great when they returned.
if this thread was made by a man everyone would be like oh whats the matter not getting any meets? Leave then.
But because its a woman..... count yourself you could be a bloke on here
I'm pretty much here FOR the forums. I very seldom meet. Maybe that's my issue. I'm not on for the right reasons. Or for the same reasons the majority are on for.
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Only you can decide why your here and fab... you use it how you want to...your rules ..no one else's.
The need to meet is often probably usually for many both emotional and physical the two go together in everything we do.
Use fab the way you are comfortable...that way it works for you.
I don't meet often either ...the man cave is a great way of insulating me from the world and wouldn't meet unless that connection I feel to someone transcends my sometime lack of belief in myself.
But just occasionally someone comes along who gets inside my head rocks my world and makes me think of what might be what could be and sometimes despite all that what I may feel may not be reciprocated.
But then I use fab in the way that works for me...i travel in hope rather than expectation and occasionally someone does come along and rock my world...
When it happens it leaves me breathless.
No one can tell you how you should live on fab or how often you must meet. They are your decisions alone...
But as a fellow outcast... if you ever want to talk you know where to find me...
And I listen far better than I can ever speak.
Sometimed it takes just one step a txt a phone call a hello to make things feel better...
And those who change our world change our perceptions our view of ourselves and make us smile are all we need to improve the way we feel.. |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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I don't really get the dilemma. If it's fun, stay, interact, meet. Do whatever keeps you happy. If you're not gaining any satisfaction or pleasure from it, or if you're constantly questioning whether it's working for you then I don't see the point in continuing in the same way. If you don't change something then everything stays the same. |
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over a year ago
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"I don't really get the dilemma. If it's fun, stay, interact, meet. Do whatever keeps you happy. If you're not gaining any satisfaction or pleasure from it, or if you're constantly questioning whether it's working for you then I don't see the point in continuing in the same way. If you don't change something then everything stays the same. "
The dilemma was as I asked. Does everyone go through this? Is this a normal part of being on fab. It's all there if you read the original post.
I know I can leave or stay. I'm well aware of that.
My point was to ask if this is just a normal part of being on this site, asking what others do in a similar situation. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't really get the dilemma. If it's fun, stay, interact, meet. Do whatever keeps you happy. If you're not gaining any satisfaction or pleasure from it, or if you're constantly questioning whether it's working for you then I don't see the point in continuing in the same way. If you don't change something then everything stays the same.
The dilemma was as I asked. Does everyone go through this? Is this a normal part of being on fab. It's all there if you read the original post.
I know I can leave or stay. I'm well aware of that.
My point was to ask if this is just a normal part of being on this site, asking what others do in a similar situation. "
It's totally normal. Not everyone feels good about what they do all the time. Fab it's like the real world...there are times when it's amazing and times when you just want to walk away and hide.
If it's time to hide then deleting your profile for what may only be a temporary downer on fab is not the solution.
Go walk the hills sit on a beach play with the dog write read listen to music do something that makes you feel joyful.
Then when you feel the need to connect here again just unhide your profile.
For me the beach works...not just about fab.. it allows me to think to sometimes just empty my mind or see things in a different way and remember that fab is just part of a beautiful world full of people who inspire places that take my breath away dreams that may or may not come true and hopes for a future none of us can ever see.
I send you virtual hugs ...
Wrap yourself in what makes you happy...dont stress about fab it's only a part of anyone's life..
And when you do come online it's whatever you want it to be..
I think every person here has probably been where you are today...
Hiding from anything never works...im the expert at that... but it's simple really PNG....
Do what makes you happy...its all any of us can hope for x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Not sure if this will help or not..
But deep breath here goes..
I found a girl on here who really blew my mind who I could talk to about everything who has a smile that lights up the world an intellect that challenges me and a personality that lights up the darkest night.
I fucked it up completely... I regret that every day and probably always will.
Strange thing is we never met yet she got inside my head in a way that never happens.
After I had fucked it up so badly I just wanted to crawl back in the man cave and roll a stone across the door.
I still wander around the forums read more than I write often just loom for something anything that will capture my imagination or distract me for a while.
Much of that time is spent feeling as though I am on the outside looking in.
God I hope this makes any sense at all.
I still hope that maybe i can unfuckup... is that even a word.
But it's outside my control like much in life for most people most of the time.
Thst feeling of not connecting sometimes...i think it's there with every one....
But no one can ever be switched on to fab ...or anything...all the time.
If I ever manage to unfuckup then that would change how I feel about fab... but until then...
Well sometimes just to wander in the background here may often be all we need...
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"I wonder if this is standard for most people on fab.
Been on here for 8 months now, and just look at the topics and they're all the same recycled ones.
I think I'm in a slump with Fab right now, I've even lifted my filters today just to see what happens. Not much apparently
Does everyone else go through phases of it being great then not so much?
Would you go UNLOS if that's how you felt at the time?
Love to hear how many have felt the same. Whether they stayed on and things just got better or if they went away for a while and Fab seemed great when they returned.
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You are right the same questions getting asked over and over is boring.
Also a lot of question have the answer of some do and some don't. For exmaple "Do any of you women like bi guys?" or "Do any of you women like swallowing?"
When I need to I take a break from Fab. I don't delete my profile. I just don't log in for a whilel. |
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"I go through phases just like this with Fab. The forums can be hard work because you end up seeing the same topics recycled over and over. I only really like to say something if I feel it's not been said before, and that's hard to do here. It's why I rarely post new topics, but when I do they are innovative and groudbreaking
But in all seriousness, yes I go through Fab slumps, where I simply can't be bothered with the place and feel my life would be better off without it. I even went UNLOS for a couple of months recently and it did feel like a weight was lifted in that I no longer felt that compulsion to log in so often just to read some drivel on the forum and get rejected by some more ladies. Now that I'm back, I'm sticking with the attitude of keeping Fab stuff in the background, and not getting obsessed with it. Seems to be a good balance so far, although who knows when I'll next meet anyone??
I'm tempted. I'm reluctant to put that I feel like going UNLOS. It can come across as attention seeking when it's not.
If it's a normal part of being on fab then I accept that.
If it's not then maybe I need to question the validity of my membership.
Bit of a dilemma eh? "
Just don't log into fab for a while. If you delete your profile when you want to come back you will wish you hadn't deleted your profile. |
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"I don't really get the dilemma. If it's fun, stay, interact, meet. Do whatever keeps you happy. If you're not gaining any satisfaction or pleasure from it, or if you're constantly questioning whether it's working for you then I don't see the point in continuing in the same way. If you don't change something then everything stays the same.
The dilemma was as I asked. Does everyone go through this? Is this a normal part of being on fab. It's all there if you read the original post.
I know I can leave or stay. I'm well aware of that.
My point was to ask if this is just a normal part of being on this site, asking what others do in a similar situation. "
I think it is normal part of being on fab. I know it is for me. That is why I sometimes take a break for a few months. |
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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago
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"I don't really get the dilemma. If it's fun, stay, interact, meet. Do whatever keeps you happy. If you're not gaining any satisfaction or pleasure from it, or if you're constantly questioning whether it's working for you then I don't see the point in continuing in the same way. If you don't change something then everything stays the same.
The dilemma was as I asked. Does everyone go through this? Is this a normal part of being on fab. It's all there if you read the original post.
I know I can leave or stay. I'm well aware of that.
My point was to ask if this is just a normal part of being on this site, asking what others do in a similar situation. "
I did read the original post and I was giving my view. If you (anyone ... not you personally) is constantly questioning then perhaps it's not fun and a decision should be made, was my point. Day in, day out, you see status updates and threads about whether people have had a good day, bad day, not feeling it today, it's not working for them so there must be quite a lot of people that goes through feelings of being not quite at ease with Fab for whatever reason. I think my comment does respond to your point. If it isn't working, then change something. Again, not directed at you personally, merely responding in general to your post |
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Yes it's normal. As with everything in life circumstances and feelings and interests change over time. Some people seem to treat deleting a profile is a big deal. I don't understand that. When I got bored I've deleted and there really was no drama. One day I decided I would come back so I created another profile. It was really really easy and nice to have a fresh start. I do wonder when people question what's normal or standard. What does that matter? If it's how you're feeling then don't fight it. Nothing is ever great 100% of the time. |
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over a year ago
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"I don't really get the dilemma. If it's fun, stay, interact, meet. Do whatever keeps you happy. If you're not gaining any satisfaction or pleasure from it, or if you're constantly questioning whether it's working for you then I don't see the point in continuing in the same way. If you don't change something then everything stays the same.
The dilemma was as I asked. Does everyone go through this? Is this a normal part of being on fab. It's all there if you read the original post.
I know I can leave or stay. I'm well aware of that.
My point was to ask if this is just a normal part of being on this site, asking what others do in a similar situation.
I did read the original post and I was giving my view. If you (anyone ... not you personally) is constantly questioning then perhaps it's not fun and a decision should be made, was my point. Day in, day out, you see status updates and threads about whether people have had a good day, bad day, not feeling it today, it's not working for them so there must be quite a lot of people that goes through feelings of being not quite at ease with Fab for whatever reason. I think my comment does respond to your point. If it isn't working, then change something. Again, not directed at you personally, merely responding in general to your post "
Thank you
I guess yesterday was one of those low days we all get from time to time.
Today is much better, one great message and I'm buoyant again and things don't seem as bad.
I know fab is just a little part of our lives. The forums even more so, it was just a really lovely escape for me from a lot of personal crap going on right now.
Today is a new day as they say. |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"I don't really get the dilemma. If it's fun, stay, interact, meet. Do whatever keeps you happy. If you're not gaining any satisfaction or pleasure from it, or if you're constantly questioning whether it's working for you then I don't see the point in continuing in the same way. If you don't change something then everything stays the same.
The dilemma was as I asked. Does everyone go through this? Is this a normal part of being on fab. It's all there if you read the original post.
I know I can leave or stay. I'm well aware of that.
My point was to ask if this is just a normal part of being on this site, asking what others do in a similar situation.
I did read the original post and I was giving my view. If you (anyone ... not you personally) is constantly questioning then perhaps it's not fun and a decision should be made, was my point. Day in, day out, you see status updates and threads about whether people have had a good day, bad day, not feeling it today, it's not working for them so there must be quite a lot of people that goes through feelings of being not quite at ease with Fab for whatever reason. I think my comment does respond to your point. If it isn't working, then change something. Again, not directed at you personally, merely responding in general to your post
Thank you
I guess yesterday was one of those low days we all get from time to time.
Today is much better, one great message and I'm buoyant again and things don't seem as bad.
I know fab is just a little part of our lives. The forums even more so, it was just a really lovely escape for me from a lot of personal crap going on right now.
Today is a new day as they say. "
and the suns got it hat on hip hip hooray so your back to play
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I've had so many profiles since joining 2 years ago, its not even funny. I get bored or fed up and delete it. Now I just set my photos to private and have a break when I'm feeling like that |
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"I've had so many profiles since joining 2 years ago, its not even funny. I get bored or fed up and delete it. Now I just set my photos to private and have a break when I'm feeling like that "
And I'll do the same. What I should have done yesterday was hide, return when that feeling went.
We live and learn.
To be fair that's the first time I've ever felt that way so it's all a learning curve |
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"I've had so many profiles since joining 2 years ago, its not even funny. I get bored or fed up and delete it. Now I just set my photos to private and have a break when I'm feeling like that
And I'll do the same. What I should have done yesterday was hide, return when that feeling went.
We live and learn.
To be fair that's the first time I've ever felt that way so it's all a learning curve "
Yea I've only learnt because I'm fed up of having to pay for site supporter whenever I return |
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there are days i cant be bothered so just flop around in the forums and then i have days when all i do is catch up and hunt - most of the time i float around in the middle of it all - |
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I think deleting the profile is too hasty. Just go hidden, and have some time out.
The forums can get very samey, but there's more to life and fab than the forum. Maybe go back to basics and do some club visits and use fab as a message tool, or just club and see what happens. Then come back on if and when revitalised. |
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I deleted and came back with the same username its no big deal. I needed some time out to reassess and think about why I was here. I didn't intend to come back but alas here I am. |
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"UNLOS?
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2 shoes 2 shoes goody goody 2 shoes.
Adam Ant
I wish he'd stand and deliver me a prince charming.
You know what they say! Kiss enough frogs "
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