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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What circumstances would you consider a second chance?
Taking into account it takes seconds to send a message. "
Do you mean if they cancelled and didn't contact you? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It depends completely on what happened with the first chance."
About a month and a half back complete silence, then back in contact as of the last week, grandparent had passed.
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I don't mind if they contact me to say they can't meet. It's when arrangements have been made, lots of contact, travel times confirmed, yet on the day, all contact stops. Now that's downright rude. No second chances there! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It depends completely on what happened with the first chance.
About a month and a half back complete silence, then back in contact as of the last week, grandparent had passed.
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When my Mom passed away in March, I was still able to send a message to explain and cancel.
Ultimately, depends how much you like the guy, only you know if he's worth the chance or not. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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In my opinion even if a grandparent had passed it doesn't take 2 seconds to just send a text to apologise and cancel the meet. I would only give a second chance if they don't cancel and turns out they were unconscious in hospital or dead    |
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"It depends completely on what happened with the first chance.
About a month and a half back complete silence, then back in contact as of the last week, grandparent had passed.
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If he's our age his Grandparent must be about 110. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It depends completely on what happened with the first chance.
About a month and a half back complete silence, then back in contact as of the last week, grandparent had passed.
If he's our age his Grandparent must be about 110. "
I have 2 Bampi's and one is 82 and the other is 73! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nothing was arranged, was still in just speaking stage. "
Oh that's slightly different then. I thought something was arranged and they didn't let you know they wouldn't be there. If I liked them then I'd carry on chatting! |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
chelmsford |
Having lost a parent last year, my time was consumed with sorting everything out and looking after my family, I wouldn't have be on here chatting, unless I had made an arrangement I needed to cancel, which I would do.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As many people said it doesn't take long to send a quick message saying : can't today will explain
And then if the excuse/reason is not too dodgy i would defo give a second chance. But if it's dodgy i wouldn't even reply to the message.
Dodgy excuses : my cat died, my potato died, my TV broke, my died cat (wait what), etc |
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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago
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I've only had this once, and he was very plausible. After the fourth or fifth 'disaster' I got the message. There is always time to send a message, unless you're stranded in The Highlands with a broken phone clinging to the side of a mountain by your rapidly splintering fingernails, weak and exhausted having fallen three days prior. In which case I may give you the benefit of the doubt...once I've seen proof.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Takes 2 seconds to type out a "my gramp has passed, bear with" message.
If he was that interested he would have let you know."
I know that's what I was thinking, my last death was October 2011 and that was my Nan who loved the bones of me and I adored her. I know I shagged the marine in August that year but I didn't come on here again till close to xmas that year. He hadn't been online either but had my number.
I dunno, I'm just not gonna do any effort at all, I'll not wash or shave, just take an intimate wetwipe and a bic and if they turn up I'll just sort myself out quickly in the toilet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It depends completely on what happened with the first chance.
About a month and a half back complete silence, then back in contact as of the last week, grandparent had passed.
When my Mom passed away in March, I was still able to send a message to explain and cancel.
Ultimately, depends how much you like the guy, only you know if he's worth the chance or not. "
Yes same here, my mum passed away suddenly in March but I let my meet I was due to have that day know, then I dropped off the scene for 3 months XXX |
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By *K430Man
over a year ago
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No contact, no second chance, unless she's been struck by lightning ? etc in which case it would probably be a bit difficult alright, even at that still probably no , because if she's that susceptible to lightning strikes, I could be beside her for the next one , safe sex my arse ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If nothing was planned, we had just been chatting and they disappeared for ages we'd give a second chance but if we were later planning on meeting would be looking at arranging something that didn't put us out in case the first excuse wasn't legit. |
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"If nothing was planned, we had just been chatting and they disappeared for ages we'd give a second chance but if we were later planning on meeting would be looking at arranging something that didn't put us out in case the first excuse wasn't legit."
Yes, if nothing was arranged I would give them the benefit of the doubt once, but anything slightly off from then on and I'm gone. |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"If nothing was planned, we had just been chatting and they disappeared for ages we'd give a second chance but if we were later planning on meeting would be looking at arranging something that didn't put us out in case the first excuse wasn't legit.
Yes, if nothing was arranged I would give them the benefit of the doubt once, but anything slightly off from then on and I'm gone."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What circumstances would you consider a second chance?
Taking into account it takes seconds to send a message. "
It depends on what they'd done first time round. It'd also depend on what you're talking about.. sex, date, social.. how invested I was in the other person..
Usually it's once bitten twice shy in my case. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'd keep chatting, if they still held my interest, and see how things panned out. If they kept going silent I'd lose interest and not bother responding. I find it's people who ask for Kik who mostly do this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Takes 2 seconds to type out a "my gramp has passed, bear with" message.
If he was that interested he would have let you know.
I know that's what I was thinking, my last death was October 2011 and that was my Nan who loved the bones of me and I adored her. I know I shagged the marine in August that year but I didn't come on here again till close to xmas that year. He hadn't been online either but had my number.
I dunno, I'm just not gonna do any effort at all, I'll not wash or shave, just take an intimate wetwipe and a bic and if they turn up I'll just sort myself out quickly in the toilet. "
That's fucking howling!  Right you're no longer in the top ten you fucking minger |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think I would probably smell a bit of bs tbh but if it was someone I really liked I'd give him the benefit of the doubt....once more!! But be a little wary....."
Yup I'd agree.. OPs meet had plenty of time to tell her. If I'd list a grandparent.. I'd be more likely to turn to whoever I was close to on here.. than go to my family for support. I'd want to be strong for them.. and have someone nice who was there for me when I needed them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"My cat died, gets me everytime... Some guys have lots of cats- who knew? "
After crazy cat ladies you've got crazy cat gents ! What ? It does sounds weird ? Double standards ! Leave em alone with their cats |
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"My cat died, gets me everytime... Some guys have lots of cats- who knew?
After crazy cat ladies you've got crazy cat gents ! What ? It does sounds weird ? Double standards ! Leave em alone with their cats "
You can't leave them alone wirg their cats they have died, its so sad... Tearing up just thinking about it  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My cat died, gets me everytime... Some guys have lots of cats- who knew?
After crazy cat ladies you've got crazy cat gents ! What ? It does sounds weird ? Double standards ! Leave em alone with their cats
You can't leave them alone wirg their cats they have died, its so sad... Tearing up just thinking about it "
I'm thinking about those poor furryballs that timewasters are killing just to justify cancelling a meeting   |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nothing was arranged, was still in just speaking stage. "
Were you chatting on here or kik etc?
If it was just on here and he'd not been online in all that time I'd give him a second chance.
If we'd been chatting off here- via text or kik or whatever- and he'd not been in touch, I wouldn't chat to him anymore. It takes seconds to send a quick message to explain. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"What circumstances would you consider a second chance?
Taking into account it takes seconds to send a message. "
If he's been working in a meat factory and smells of animal carcass and sweat so cancels, you should definitely give him another chance |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"What circumstances would you consider a second chance?
Taking into account it takes seconds to send a message.
If he's been working in a meat factory and smells of animal carcass and sweat so cancels, you should definitely give him another chance"
that's a perfectly valid excuse, even though they're my two favourite smells in the world |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Nothing was arranged, was still in just speaking stage.
Were you chatting on here or kik etc?
If it was just on here and he'd not been online in all that time I'd give him a second chance.
If we'd been chatting off here- via text or kik or whatever- and he'd not been in touch, I wouldn't chat to him anymore. It takes seconds to send a quick message to explain. "
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