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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Right i despetately need tips for this weekend. Im meeting some one as in this role. Im quite new to it also. Firstly i do understand the concept of how it works. I just need to know how you start from the beginning whilst meeting each other. I have met her b4 so we're not strangers to one another. For instance we walk into the room after being in the bar fully relaxed. Then whats the first move. Take off your clothes now and bend over the bed face down? Please any help with the first few steps then i'll be good from there! Thank you in advance. |
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over a year ago
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To be honest when Mr is dominant it's all in his eyes. Try starting off by grabbing her hair and saying this is what's going to happen. For me it's not what they do it's how they say it and how they look at you and their confidence of that makes sense x |
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"To be honest when Mr is dominant it's all in his eyes. Try starting off by grabbing her hair and saying this is what's going to happen. For me it's not what they do it's how they say it and how they look at you and their confidence of that makes sense x"
How rough tho semi or full. On because i can be nasty! Lol so more like calm low pitch confident firm kind of tone.  |
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I would suggest talking with her and establishing limits.
On the night, maybe start by sitting in a comfy chair and having her undress watching expressionless as she does, build some tension, I personally don't let a sub touch my cock for at the least the first half hour, it's not about me at this point, it's about her getting comfortable that she can trust you, and turned on |
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I'm naturally submissive to dominant men. They don't give orders, they just make things happen and I fall in line with them.
For instance. He takes a pair of cuffs out of a closet, I offer my hands. If he wants them behind my back he moves them. He takes his belt off, I lay face down on the bed or bend over a chair. The more you get to know someone the more natural it is.
It works for us. |
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"To be honest when Mr is dominant it's all in his eyes. Try starting off by grabbing her hair and saying this is what's going to happen. For me it's not what they do it's how they say it and how they look at you and their confidence of that makes sense x
How rough tho semi or full. On because i can be nasty! Lol so more like calm low pitch confident firm kind of tone. "
Not rough... not rough!!
Not until you have properly spoken and have established that rough is ok. Firm, dominant, intentful (if that's a word) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I would suggest talking with her and establishing limits.
On the night, maybe start by sitting in a comfy chair and having her undress watching expressionless as she does, build some tension, I personally don't let a sub touch my cock for at the least the first half hour, it's not about me at this point, it's about her getting comfortable that she can trust you, and turned on"
Yes i agree. She has been messaging a lot telling me aswell whatvshe wants to do to. I.E gag her with her thongs to shut her up. And tie her up and leave her to be used when i want. Shes pretty much full on. I will keep people posted tho on this thread! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I would suggest talking with her and establishing limits.
On the night, maybe start by sitting in a comfy chair and having her undress watching expressionless as she does, build some tension, I personally don't let a sub touch my cock for at the least the first half hour, it's not about me at this point, it's about her getting comfortable that she can trust you, and turned on
Yes i agree. She has been messaging a lot telling me aswell whatvshe wants to do to. I.E gag her with her thongs to shut her up. And tie her up and leave her to be used when i want. Shes pretty much full on. I will keep people posted tho on this thread!"
Ive also just bought one of the magic wands the doxy better one! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I would suggest talking with her and establishing limits.
On the night, maybe start by sitting in a comfy chair and having her undress watching expressionless as she does, build some tension, I personally don't let a sub touch my cock for at the least the first half hour, it's not about me at this point, it's about her getting comfortable that she can trust you, and turned on
Yes i agree. She has been messaging a lot telling me aswell whatvshe wants to do to. I.E gag her with her thongs to shut her up. And tie her up and leave her to be used when i want. Shes pretty much full on. I will keep people posted tho on this thread!"
Planning never works out. The unknown is part of the thrill |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To be honest when Mr is dominant it's all in his eyes. Try starting off by grabbing her hair and saying this is what's going to happen. For me it's not what they do it's how they say it and how they look at you and their confidence of that makes sense x
How rough tho semi or full. On because i can be nasty! Lol so more like calm low pitch confident firm kind of tone. "
I wouldn't start off rough, unless you've spoken to her about it. I had someone realise I was submissive and crack me around the face as he was fucking me. I felt like my tooth was going to come out. Being submissive is not about being beaten up by a stranger for me. It's the head fuck I enjoy along with the physical. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"To be honest when Mr is dominant it's all in his eyes. Try starting off by grabbing her hair and saying this is what's going to happen. For me it's not what they do it's how they say it and how they look at you and their confidence of that makes sense x
How rough tho semi or full. On because i can be nasty! Lol so more like calm low pitch confident firm kind of tone.
I wouldn't start off rough, unless you've spoken to her about it. I had someone realise I was submissive and crack me around the face as he was fucking me. I felt like my tooth was going to come out. Being submissive is not about being beaten up by a stranger for me. It's the head fuck I enjoy along with the physical. "
I hope you hit him back! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"A couple of questions, if I may.
Did you meet her on here?
Is she verified /are you certain she is the person on her profile? "
Yes we have met. Also been at it like rabbits. Shes fully legit |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"A couple of questions, if I may.
Did you meet her on here?
Is she verified /are you certain she is the person on her profile?
Yes we have met. Also been at it like rabbits. Shes fully legit"
and from here |
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By *lceeWoman
over a year ago
Leeds |
Take your time.
Establish limits, both hard and soft - for both of you.
Organise a safeword, or safe rhythm that she can tap if you are going to gag her.
Don't *ever* assume, check in with her from time to time.
Relax.
Don't worry about how she's viewing your performance - that's the opposite of dominant 
If you're not comfortable with *any* of it, stop.
Have fun...you have complete control of the situation. Enjoy it - you'll rarely get that in life.
Oh, and plenty of orgasms. We likes orgasms *grins* |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I'm naturally submissive but I'm a masochist, I enjoy pain, in fact on Sunday I'm meeting a guy that's going to sort those needs out, he's not on here, it's from that other site  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To be honest when Mr is dominant it's all in his eyes. Try starting off by grabbing her hair and saying this is what's going to happen. For me it's not what they do it's how they say it and how they look at you and their confidence of that makes sense x
How rough tho semi or full. On because i can be nasty! Lol so more like calm low pitch confident firm kind of tone.
I wouldn't start off rough, unless you've spoken to her about it. I had someone realise I was submissive and crack me around the face as he was fucking me. I felt like my tooth was going to come out. Being submissive is not about being beaten up by a stranger for me. It's the head fuck I enjoy along with the physical.
I hope you hit him back!"
I shook my head and said what the fuck are you doing? He apologised but then later bit my foot hard. I didn't see him again. For some men it's a power thing and not a symbiotic relationship. My dominant partner has a gentle, caring side to him. He knows he's the boss but doesn't take the piss. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Take your time.
Establish limits, both hard and soft - for both of you.
Organise a safeword, or safe rhythm that she can tap if you are going to gag her.
Don't *ever* assume, check in with her from time to time.
Relax.
Don't worry about how she's viewing your performance - that's the opposite of dominant
If you're not comfortable with *any* of it, stop.
Have fun...you have complete control of the situation. Enjoy it - you'll rarely get that in life.
Oh, and plenty of orgasms. We likes orgasms *grins*"
Oh she does too! and plenty of it ! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"To be honest when Mr is dominant it's all in his eyes. Try starting off by grabbing her hair and saying this is what's going to happen. For me it's not what they do it's how they say it and how they look at you and their confidence of that makes sense x
How rough tho semi or full. On because i can be nasty! Lol so more like calm low pitch confident firm kind of tone.
I wouldn't start off rough, unless you've spoken to her about it. I had someone realise I was submissive and crack me around the face as he was fucking me. I felt like my tooth was going to come out. Being submissive is not about being beaten up by a stranger for me. It's the head fuck I enjoy along with the physical.
I hope you hit him back!
I shook my head and said what the fuck are you doing? He apologised but then later bit my foot hard. I didn't see him again. For some men it's a power thing and not a symbiotic relationship. My dominant partner has a gentle, caring side to him. He knows he's the boss but doesn't take the piss. "
i think that guy was just being a twat! Nah when i meant rough i meant in tone and pushing her to the bed rather than telling. I'd never hit s woman unless it was in her arse  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"A couple of questions, if I may.
Did you meet her on here?
Is she verified /are you certain she is the person on her profile?
Yes we have met. Also been at it like rabbits. Shes fully legitand from here"
Then I'd say go with the flow and don't over plan anything. Once you get started it will come. Get yourself into a kindest before you leave, or she arrives. I find less talking from the man heightens the suspense. His actions speak louder.
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By (user no longer on site)
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Put her back to the wall grab either her hair or throat, then some kisses and a whisper. Helps to know exactly what she likes but as long as you know wether or not she likes her hair pulled or likes hands near her throat it should give you an inkling as to how you should proceed. Beyond that it's all about connecting and reading her body in my experience. You still need to be able to express emotion even when you're being dominant, I think if you detach it's not quite the same. Having said that everyone likes their own little differences but its a sink or swim type deal, you either naturally read and execute the role or you don't. Best advice is to lay out clear boundaries and not second guess yourself. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I'm naturally submissive but I'm a masochist, I enjoy pain, in fact on Sunday I'm meeting a guy that's going to sort those needs out, he's not on here, it's from that other site "
I did meet a woman like you a while ago. probably not as full on tho. She liked being walloped then fucked. All pleasure and pain. Im gonna learn a bit before i see her again tho. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To be honest when Mr is dominant it's all in his eyes. Try starting off by grabbing her hair and saying this is what's going to happen. For me it's not what they do it's how they say it and how they look at you and their confidence of that makes sense x
How rough tho semi or full. On because i can be nasty! Lol so more like calm low pitch confident firm kind of tone.
I wouldn't start off rough, unless you've spoken to her about it. I had someone realise I was submissive and crack me around the face as he was fucking me. I felt like my tooth was going to come out. Being submissive is not about being beaten up by a stranger for me. It's the head fuck I enjoy along with the physical.
I hope you hit him back!
I shook my head and said what the fuck are you doing? He apologised but then later bit my foot hard. I didn't see him again. For some men it's a power thing and not a symbiotic relationship. My dominant partner has a gentle, caring side to him. He knows he's the boss but doesn't take the piss. i think that guy was just being a twat! Nah when i meant rough i meant in tone and pushing her to the bed rather than telling. I'd never hit s woman unless it was in her arse "
A soft, calm tone works for me. I know it's role play but try not to act. Be the dominant. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Put her back to the wall grab either her hair or throat, then some kisses and a whisper. Helps to know exactly what she likes but as long as you know wether or not she likes her hair pulled or likes hands near her throat it should give you an inkling as to how you should proceed. Beyond that it's all about connecting and reading her body in my experience. You still need to be able to express emotion even when you're being dominant, I think if you detach it's not quite the same. Having said that everyone likes their own little differences but its a sink or swim type deal, you either naturally read and execute the role or you don't. Best advice is to lay out clear boundaries and not second guess yourself."
Yes thats sounds good! She did mention today can i hold her throat which i thought. Yes easy. Then she tells me to gag her with her mouth or thong. I would feel uncomfortable doing this tho. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm naturally submissive but I'm a masochist, I enjoy pain, in fact on Sunday I'm meeting a guy that's going to sort those needs out, he's not on here, it's from that other site
I did meet a woman like you a while ago. probably not as full on tho. She liked being walloped then fucked. All pleasure and pain. Im gonna learn a bit before i see her again tho. "
My partner bit my nipple the first time we met; not too hard but hard enough to make me flinch. He tests the waters and stops when I pat him quickly on his back or arm. That's his signal that I've had enough. With someone else I say more or harder, so they know I'm ok with it. The enjoyment is finding out how much I can take, not how much he wants to give.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Put her back to the wall grab either her hair or throat, then some kisses and a whisper. Helps to know exactly what she likes but as long as you know wether or not she likes her hair pulled or likes hands near her throat it should give you an inkling as to how you should proceed. Beyond that it's all about connecting and reading her body in my experience. You still need to be able to express emotion even when you're being dominant, I think if you detach it's not quite the same. Having said that everyone likes their own little differences but its a sink or swim type deal, you either naturally read and execute the role or you don't. Best advice is to lay out clear boundaries and not second guess yourself.
Yes thats sounds good! She did mention today can i hold her throat which i thought. Yes easy. Then she tells me to gag her with her mouth or thong. I would feel uncomfortable doing this tho."
she is loud also! And what do you tie them up with. A tie! |
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"Put her back to the wall grab either her hair or throat, then some kisses and a whisper. Helps to know exactly what she likes but as long as you know wether or not she likes her hair pulled or likes hands near her throat it should give you an inkling as to how you should proceed. Beyond that it's all about connecting and reading her body in my experience. You still need to be able to express emotion even when you're being dominant, I think if you detach it's not quite the same. Having said that everyone likes their own little differences but its a sink or swim type deal, you either naturally read and execute the role or you don't. Best advice is to lay out clear boundaries and not second guess yourself.
Yes thats sounds good! She did mention today can i hold her throat which i thought. Yes easy. Then she tells me to gag her with her mouth or thong. I would feel uncomfortable doing this tho."
Only work within your limits and what you feel comfortable doing. |
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"Put her back to the wall grab either her hair or throat, then some kisses and a whisper. Helps to know exactly what she likes but as long as you know wether or not she likes her hair pulled or likes hands near her throat it should give you an inkling as to how you should proceed. Beyond that it's all about connecting and reading her body in my experience. You still need to be able to express emotion even when you're being dominant, I think if you detach it's not quite the same. Having said that everyone likes their own little differences but its a sink or swim type deal, you either naturally read and execute the role or you don't. Best advice is to lay out clear boundaries and not second guess yourself.
Yes thats sounds good! She did mention today can i hold her throat which i thought. Yes easy. Then she tells me to gag her with her mouth or thong. I would feel uncomfortable doing this tho. she is loud also! And what do you tie them up with. A tie!"
Cuffs, tape, rope, a tie, scarf, anything really |
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"Put her back to the wall grab either her hair or throat, then some kisses and a whisper. Helps to know exactly what she likes but as long as you know wether or not she likes her hair pulled or likes hands near her throat it should give you an inkling as to how you should proceed. Beyond that it's all about connecting and reading her body in my experience. You still need to be able to express emotion even when you're being dominant, I think if you detach it's not quite the same. Having said that everyone likes their own little differences but its a sink or swim type deal, you either naturally read and execute the role or you don't. Best advice is to lay out clear boundaries and not second guess yourself.
Yes thats sounds good! She did mention today can i hold her throat which i thought. Yes easy. Then she tells me to gag her with her mouth or thong. I would feel uncomfortable doing this tho."
You might be ok, once you're in the midst of it. She could spit them out if you stuff them in her mouth after taking them off her. If you're good at reading body language you'll know what she's feeling. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Put her back to the wall grab either her hair or throat, then some kisses and a whisper. Helps to know exactly what she likes but as long as you know wether or not she likes her hair pulled or likes hands near her throat it should give you an inkling as to how you should proceed. Beyond that it's all about connecting and reading her body in my experience. You still need to be able to express emotion even when you're being dominant, I think if you detach it's not quite the same. Having said that everyone likes their own little differences but its a sink or swim type deal, you either naturally read and execute the role or you don't. Best advice is to lay out clear boundaries and not second guess yourself.
Yes thats sounds good! She did mention today can i hold her throat which i thought. Yes easy. Then she tells me to gag her with her mouth or thong. I would feel uncomfortable doing this tho. she is loud also! And what do you tie them up with. A tie!
Cuffs, tape, rope, a tie, scarf, anything really "
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"Put her back to the wall grab either her hair or throat, then some kisses and a whisper. Helps to know exactly what she likes but as long as you know wether or not she likes her hair pulled or likes hands near her throat it should give you an inkling as to how you should proceed. Beyond that it's all about connecting and reading her body in my experience. You still need to be able to express emotion even when you're being dominant, I think if you detach it's not quite the same. Having said that everyone likes their own little differences but its a sink or swim type deal, you either naturally read and execute the role or you don't. Best advice is to lay out clear boundaries and not second guess yourself.
Yes thats sounds good! She did mention today can i hold her throat which i thought. Yes easy. Then she tells me to gag her with her mouth or thong. I would feel uncomfortable doing this tho. she is loud also! And what do you tie them up with. A tie!
Cuffs, tape, rope, a tie, scarf, anything really "
Old stockings or hold ups. I keep a small pair of scissors handy, to cut them off quickly. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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All great advice above, and remember no two D/s relationships are ever exactly alike, what works for one relationship may not work for another.
Can I also suggest maybe both of you filling out one of the BDSM related questionnaires that can be found in various places on-line - these not only help you the individuals understand your limits and comfort zones, likes/dislikes etc, but also help inform your partner of them too, as well as providing things one of you may not have thought about. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"All great advice above, and remember no two D/s relationships are ever exactly alike, what works for one relationship may not work for another.
Can I also suggest maybe both of you filling out one of the BDSM related questionnaires that can be found in various places on-line - these not only help you the individuals understand your limits and comfort zones, likes/dislikes etc, but also help inform your partner of them too, as well as providing things one of you may not have thought about. "
i will look into that cheers |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Does she want you to call her names? Find out if she has anything in particular. "
She dodnt mention it. I think its just the practical side of things |
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Having read the thread in my opinion there is some good advice and some total tosh by people who have clearly never played in this unique and special way x
50 shades brought bdsm to the mainstream but to me it's so much more than that x
Control their mind by setting the scene or asking them to perform a task x
Spend time learning what your sub enjoys x
The journey is the key to finding a kinky and erotic level of play x
On a first meet I normally have a dress code I expect my sub to follow x
Then initially I find a blindfold effective x
I enjoy the restraint element so taking time to tie the sub up whilst using language that humiliates or excited them is good x
Then a mild spanking or clamping of the nipples x
You said your sub was loud so why not buy a ball gag x
Only when the mood is right do I ask my sub to think of my needs x
Usually by then I will have toyed her pussy and she is desperate for some cock x
But then again denial is a strong weapon in a doms armourey x
Good luck on your quest x
Please check back in and keep us posted x |
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"Having read the thread in my opinion there is some good advice and some total tosh by people who have clearly never played in this unique and special way x
50 shades brought bdsm to the mainstream but to me it's so much more than that x
Control their mind by setting the scene or asking them to perform a task x
Spend time learning what your sub enjoys x
The journey is the key to finding a kinky and erotic level of play x
On a first meet I normally have a dress code I expect my sub to follow x
Then initially I find a blindfold effective x
I enjoy the restraint element so taking time to tie the sub up whilst using language that humiliates or excited them is good x
Then a mild spanking or clamping of the nipples x
You said your sub was loud so why not buy a ball gag x
Only when the mood is right do I ask my sub to think of my needs x
Usually by then I will have toyed her pussy and she is desperate for some cock x
But then again denial is a strong weapon in a doms armourey x
Good luck on your quest x
Please check back in and keep us posted x"
thank you very much. I will for sure let ppl know on this thread after it, so keep a look out! |
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"Having read the thread in my opinion there is some good advice and some total tosh by people who have clearly never played in this unique and special way x
50 shades brought bdsm to the mainstream but to me it's so much more than that x
Control their mind by setting the scene or asking them to perform a task x
Spend time learning what your sub enjoys x
The journey is the key to finding a kinky and erotic level of play x
On a first meet I normally have a dress code I expect my sub to follow x
Then initially I find a blindfold effective x
I enjoy the restraint element so taking time to tie the sub up whilst using language that humiliates or excited them is good x
Then a mild spanking or clamping of the nipples x
You said your sub was loud so why not buy a ball gag x
Only when the mood is right do I ask my sub to think of my needs x
Usually by then I will have toyed her pussy and she is desperate for some cock x
But then again denial is a strong weapon in a doms armourey x
Good luck on your quest x
Please check back in and keep us posted x"
She may like some of this, she may not. I think she's telling him more or less what she wants. It's role play, so he wants to know how to pretend to be dominant. He's giving her what she wants, which could be all or nothing of what we like or do. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Having read the thread in my opinion there is some good advice and some total tosh by people who have clearly never played in this unique and special way x
50 shades brought bdsm to the mainstream but to me it's so much more than that x
Control their mind by setting the scene or asking them to perform a task x
Spend time learning what your sub enjoys x
The journey is the key to finding a kinky and erotic level of play x
On a first meet I normally have a dress code I expect my sub to follow x
Then initially I find a blindfold effective x
I enjoy the restraint element so taking time to tie the sub up whilst using language that humiliates or excited them is good x
Then a mild spanking or clamping of the nipples x
You said your sub was loud so why not buy a ball gag x
Only when the mood is right do I ask my sub to think of my needs x
Usually by then I will have toyed her pussy and she is desperate for some cock x
But then again denial is a strong weapon in a doms armourey x
Good luck on your quest x
Please check back in and keep us posted x
She may like some of this, she may not. I think she's telling him more or less what she wants. It's role play, so he wants to know how to pretend to be dominant. He's giving her what she wants, which could be all or nothing of what we like or do. "
yes probably about right. However i will entize my own twist on things. Once tge rose' comes out im not the same person lol. I will be taking viagra as a safety precaution! |
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By *ucianpoundCouple
over a year ago
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"Right i despetately need tips for this weekend. Im meeting some one as in this role. Im quite new to it also. Firstly i do understand the concept of how it works. I just need to know how you start from the beginning whilst meeting each other. I have met her b4 so we're not strangers to one another. For instance we walk into the room after being in the bar fully relaxed. Then whats the first move. Take off your clothes now and bend over the bed face down? Please any help with the first few steps then i'll be good from there! Thank you in advance. "
This is a complex subject.
I assume that this is just a fantasy meet so reading rubbish like 50 shades will give you all the superficial hints you need to have a nice, one off time with your lady.
For more serious info you need to go to sites like fet_life not Fab.
I have been swinging for over 30 years and in addition have had a private D/s relationship for 20 years.
This relationship and other more temporary D/s encounters have always relied on 'trust'
You cannot seriously go into a meet with the idea of being aggressive and expecting total obedience particularly if you have no Dominant experience.
This won't work and is in addition dangerous territory.
One of my submissives recently descibed me to others as a natural Dom, not one of the showy ones.
My advice is, be natural, take time to establish a normal relationship and then discuss with her what her needs are.
Once you've established this and the parameters of your play, then you you can begin the role play.
Believe me, if she feels safe it will give you the confidence to be more sure of yourself as well as perhaps pushing some of her and yours boundaries! |
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"Take your time.
Establish limits, both hard and soft - for both of you.
Organise a safeword, or safe rhythm that she can tap if you are going to gag her.
Don't *ever* assume, check in with her from time to time.
Relax.
Don't worry about how she's viewing your performance - that's the opposite of dominant
If you're not comfortable with *any* of it, stop.
Have fun...you have complete control of the situation. Enjoy it - you'll rarely get that in life.
Oh, and plenty of orgasms. We likes orgasms *grins*"
Brilliant advice
On a technical note do a web search for endorphin release in BDSM play - essentially start at a relatively softly and increase the intensity every 10/15 minutes. I personally like to strap a wand in place whilst spanking/flogging - a great combination of pleasure and pain. |
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"To be honest when Mr is dominant it's all in his eyes. Try starting off by grabbing her hair and saying this is what's going to happen. For me it's not what they do it's how they say it and how they look at you and their confidence of that makes sense x
How rough tho semi or full. On because i can be nasty! Lol so more like calm low pitch confident firm kind of tone. "
It doesn't have to be rough. Nothing better than getting whipped but I don't pair that up with dominance. A blindfold is a good thing to use and restraints etc and take your time. I cannot stress that enough. It's sometimes what Mr is not doing that you know he means business. You have to want to do it tho or it won't work if that makes sense x |
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Being a sub myself in the past, I'd like to think I can help with this one,
A lot of things people have said in replies so far has been fairly accurate ... maybe ignore the one about smothering her face with a pillow, that might not go down so well!
I'm guessing if you've met her before then you already have an element of trust, and you clearly have both enjoyed the sexual encounter before ... it's interesting that this topic has been brought up and she clearly thinks you have a natural dominance about you to approach the subject.
The ladies are right, the less talk and communication definetly builds tension, whispering things in her ear giving her orders will certainly set the mood, as long as your confident in doing that too, don't go out of your comfort zone to meet her demands.
If you like a little bit of rough then try it, like one guy suggested set a safe word and I'm sure if it's too much for her she will let you know.
As far as the rest goes, make it up as the mood goes along planning the perfect meet can sometime go wrong so do what feels right and just remember to enjoy it! If she's the quiet innocent type then you know what they say you have to watch the quiet ones so I'm sure you'll be in for a good time.
Worst case I hear a champagne bottle always gets the mood going!
Let us know how it goes ?? X |
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"To be honest when Mr is dominant it's all in his eyes. Try starting off by grabbing her hair and saying this is what's going to happen. For me it's not what they do it's how they say it and how they look at you and their confidence of that makes sense x
How rough tho semi or full. On because i can be nasty! Lol so more like calm low pitch confident firm kind of tone.
I wouldn't start off rough, unless you've spoken to her about it. I had someone realise I was submissive and crack me around the face as he was fucking me. I felt like my tooth was going to come out. Being submissive is not about being beaten up by a stranger for me. It's the head fuck I enjoy along with the physical. "
this
It's a man who is authoritive in presence and tone who can get you to do almost anything with a look. Not slapping you about.
That difference is so important! |
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"Being a sub myself in the past, I'd like to think I can help with this one,
A lot of things people have said in replies so far has been fairly accurate ... maybe ignore the one about smothering her face with a pillow, that might not go down so well!
I'm guessing if you've met her before then you already have an element of trust, and you clearly have both enjoyed the sexual encounter before ... it's interesting that this topic has been brought up and she clearly thinks you have a natural dominance about you to approach the subject.
The ladies are right, the less talk and communication definetly builds tension, whispering things in her ear giving her orders will certainly set the mood, as long as your confident in doing that too, don't go out of your comfort zone to meet her demands.
If you like a little bit of rough then try it, like one guy suggested set a safe word and I'm sure if it's too much for her she will let you know.
As far as the rest goes, make it up as the mood goes along planning the perfect meet can sometime go wrong so do what feels right and just remember to enjoy it! If she's the quiet innocent type then you know what they say you have to watch the quiet ones so I'm sure you'll be in for a good time.
Worst case I hear a champagne bottle always gets the mood going!
Let us know how it goes ?? X"
Yes thats a very sensible approach. I was thinking what kind of champagne do you think she would like and possibly the bubbles might get everywhere! I would'nt want to waste any on that nice floor!  |
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Well if you don't want to waste any champagne then I guess there's only one place it can really go ... maybe use a denial trade tell her if she spills a drop then you'll punish her ... have something in mind that's a treat combined with a little pain, something to push a boundary a little bit more maybe? If she retains it all then reward her ask her what she wants in return but don't let her have too much of a treat she needs to remember she's not in control you are and this is an act of kindness for her doing as you asked x |
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"Well if you don't want to waste any champagne then I guess there's only one place it can really go ... maybe use a denial trade tell her if she spills a drop then you'll punish her ... have something in mind that's a treat combined with a little pain, something to push a boundary a little bit more maybe? If she retains it all then reward her ask her what she wants in return but don't let her have too much of a treat she needs to remember she's not in control you are and this is an act of kindness for her doing as you asked x"
I suppose a tarpaulin would do the trick of some sort. With a blind fold and my little tease/instict to go with it! She would of course have to have them sexy shoes on! |
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"What kinda of sexy shoes would these be?
And tarpaulins? It's starting to sounds like a murder scene .. be careful ha! X"
I like red or black both nice! Also tarpaulin purely to save the alcohol smell the day after! And pink champagne would stain! Oh and tea bags also come in handy ! |
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"I'm starting to question what it is you have planned ha it sounds a little odd ... red shoes, tarpaulins, champagne and tea bags? ???? x"
Cant you tell? Its a tea party! |
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"I'm starting to question what it is you have planned ha it sounds a little odd ... red shoes, tarpaulins, champagne and tea bags? ???? x
Cant you tell? Its a tea party!"
Im going to build a wendy house! |
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"Ha and in the mean time your sub friend will be doing what? Ha x"
She will be blind folded and would be thinking its all part of the scenario tied up! and gagged of course. Minus the pillow! |
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"I think by the sounds of it you and this girl will be having a lot of fun, you'll have to let us all know x"
Oh i will do for sure! Hopefully the local residents dont complain in other rooms tho, as i wont be getting much sleep! |
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"I think by the sounds of it you and this girl will be having a lot of fun, you'll have to let us all know x
Oh i will do for sure! Hopefully the local residents dont complain in other rooms tho, as i wont be getting much sleep! "
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Maybe you need to bring that under your control too, make sure she's aware of a punishment if she moans too loud, that way keeping her at your mercy but you won't have to worry too much about the residents either? X |
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"Maybe you need to bring that under your control too, make sure she's aware of a punishment if she moans too loud, that way keeping her at your mercy but you won't have to worry too much about the residents either? X"
Do you think by using ice cubes to shock her aswell would be good. That way it would take her breath away. |
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"Most definetly! I think you've pretty much got this meet planned out x"
Oh yes i have its all set in place. I should have let her know im off saturday aswell tut tut X |
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"Would she be able to handle 2 nights? X
I think she might get scared lol
Haha think you'd be scared if you saw my other profile on that other site "
Plz elaborate |
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"Would she be able to handle 2 nights? X
I think she might get scared lol
Haha think you'd be scared if you saw my other profile on that other site
Plz elaborate "
On fet.......life |
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"Pull off her panties, shove them in her slutty mouth, slap her in the face, fuck her as hard as you can, tie her up, spank her ass, piss on her."
Hahahahaha |
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My first ever meet off here back in 2011, a marine, picked him up, went to a hotel and as soon as we got through the door, he pushed me towards the bed, actually ripped my leggings off my body and stuck his tongue up my arse. Was good! |
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"My first ever meet off here back in 2011, a marine, picked him up, went to a hotel and as soon as we got through the door, he pushed me towards the bed, actually ripped my leggings off my body and stuck his tongue up my arse. Was good!"
Sounds like a bootneck alright lol |
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"My first ever meet off here back in 2011, a marine, picked him up, went to a hotel and as soon as we got through the door, he pushed me towards the bed, actually ripped my leggings off my body and stuck his tongue up my arse. Was good!
Sounds like a bootneck alright lol "
Well it all went good guys!! It all went to plan!! I used all ur advice and i thought it went well! We had some good rope from ann summers and then it went from there!!  |
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"Pull off her panties, shove them in her slutty mouth, slap her in the face, fuck her as hard as you can, tie her up, spank her ass, piss on her."
That would be a automatic punch in the head |
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My friend, this is not a stage. You are two people. If you are dominant you are dominant. Pease avoid this idea that you have to act a certain way. If you aren't dominant, that's OK, but best address that now. |
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excellent film! 