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NSA sex, is there really such a thing?

By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

Many people in swingland say that we're here to enjoy "no strings" sex, but after reading the chemistry thread and the fuck buddy thread I'm thinking that there really isn't such a thing.

Maybe people with similar preferences can enjoy NSA, but I can't see how it can exist in a wider sence

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i like to feel like i am friends with the people i have sex with .... as i give myself to them ....when having fun mind and body .

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By *ugby 123Couple over a year ago
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Yes. We have totally NSA sex. Ok we have a chat on MSN to determine if we can have a laugh with them for the chats inbetween the fun, but thats as far as it goes.

We meet, we play, if we meet again, we don't get in touch until we all want another meet. We don't know much about them, they don't know much about us.

We like it that way

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By *ornwall-maleMan over a year ago

newquay

i suppose there will often be a connection with people but think nsa is possible as such. i like all my meets as friends and like to get to know and respect them. i mean i gota like who i meet and want them to like me for who i am. but i suppose you do get plenty where it becomes more the nsa

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By *he_original_poloWoman over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

Don't let some people's confusion, and in some cases denial, over what they really want mislead you into thinking NSA doesn't exists.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Don't let some people's confusion, and in some cases denial, over what they really want mislead you into thinking NSA doesn't exists."
god i have seen years of it at clubs people just going into rooms open there legs to all so yes it out there and loads going on .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Many people in swingland say that we're here to enjoy "no strings" sex, but after reading the chemistry thread and the fuck buddy thread I'm thinking that there really isn't such a thing.

Maybe people with similar preferences can enjoy NSA, but I can't see how it can exist in a wider sence

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Club sex is NSA sex, I don't even ask their name.

One on one sex with playmates is still NSA sex to an extent.

I have sex with someone and I do know their name.

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By *irtyGirlWoman over a year ago

Edinburgh

Yeah I think it does... previously I would have said there are always strings of some description but of late we've been looking for single blokes and have fucked and fucked off. I think it depends on your circumstances and surroundings. Inviting someone to your home involves a different string than meeting someone in club for example. Depends on how you conduct your swinging and what works for you.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Club sex is NSA sex, I don't even ask their name.

I would agree with you and that there are no strings at al with many club meets

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By *over-manMan over a year ago

motherwell

i have been to a few clubs i like to get to know the person first

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I have had sex with men at clubs after chating to them. I know alot just go into orgie rooms and open there legs to everyone thats what thay love doing .. Just not for me i like 1 or 2 men even 3 but i have chated to all and liked somthing about them .. I love the flirting before the sex thats what turns me on ,,, my mind has to be turnd on as well as body for good sex . I find there sex and theres really mind blowing sex and thats how i get it.

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By *atureFem4FunWoman over a year ago

Petts Wood

"Yes. We have totally NSA sex. Ok we have a chat on MSN to determine if we can have a laugh with them for the chats inbetween the fun, but thats as far as it goes.

We meet, we play, if we meet again, we don't get in touch until we all want another meet. We don't know much about them, they don't know much about us.

We like it that way

That's the way it works for me as well, I do keep in touch with one of my 'playmates' but that's only because he is serving overseas and I think he could do with someone mailing him once a week or fortnight.....apart from that I don't get too 'connected' with meets.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

"Many people in swingland say that we're here to enjoy "no strings" sex, but after reading the chemistry thread and the fuck buddy thread I'm thinking that there really isn't such a thing.

Maybe people with similar preferences can enjoy NSA, but I can't see how it can exist in a wider sence

Happens here all the time,tbh i prefer not to have second meets with men,keeps it pure and simple.

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

"Don't let some people's confusion, and in some cases denial, over what they really want mislead you into thinking NSA doesn't exists. god i have seen years of it at clubs people just going into rooms open there legs to all so yes it out there and loads going on ."

Didnt know you were watching me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Many people in swingland say that we're here to enjoy "no strings" sex, but after reading the chemistry thread and the fuck buddy thread I'm thinking that there really isn't such a thing.

Maybe people with similar preferences can enjoy NSA, but I can't see how it can exist in a wider sence

Maybe it should be "No Long String Attached".

...just my thought

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By *heekychezzaWoman over a year ago

warrington

Needing to have some spark or chemistry with the people you play with doesn't mean that your looking for strings.

I have had loads of NSA meets since joining Fab in 2008 and to be honest I have usually enjoyed the repeat meets far more than the one-off's. Having said that, a few of the people have become friends whom I would envisage being in my life even if I stopped swinging completely, so I guess there are some strings there.

One has turned into the love of my life...unlooked for, unexpected but I wouldn't change a minute....the strings appeared as if by magic (actually so strong they'd be better described as steel cables

I also have a relationship with a wonderful woman....friend, pseudo-sister, sounding board, shoulder to cry on, confidante and lover and there are definitely strings there.

As for the rest well I meet loads of sexy people at clubs and parties and have some very naughty times but know very little about them and they know very little about me.....so definitely no strings attached there....just loads of fun...long may it continue

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I have had sex with men at clubs after chating to them. I know alot just go into orgie rooms and open there legs to everyone thats what thay love doing .. Just not for me i like 1 or 2 men even 3 but i have chated to all and liked somthing about them .. I love the flirting before the sex thats what turns me on ,,, my mind has to be turnd on as well as body for good sex . I find there sex and theres really mind blowing sex and thats how i get it."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think you will find people in clubs will see someone they like and take them into a private room without lots of small talk before. People also tend to have their mind turned onto clubs when they enter a club already although i guess there will be a few wet fish in as well."
i have been going to clubs over 15 years now had some fab times.... I know how it all workS at times i just flirt all night long end up back at there hotel or house .. some woman i know love the orgie rooms thay know no one thay have sex with .... thats what thay love no ones the same .

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By *atureFem4FunWoman over a year ago

Petts Wood

That's a bit of a generalisation of how people play in clubs, I think you will find 'Some' people play like this in clubs....and 'Some' people chat to others first.

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By *he_original_poloWoman over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

I think you will find people in clubs will see someone they like and take them into a private room without lots of small talk before. People also tend to have their mind turned onto clubs when they enter a club already although i guess there will be a few wet fish in as well. i have been going to clubs over 15 years now had some fab times.... I know how it all workS at times i just flirt all night long end up back at there hotel or house .. some woman i know love the orgie rooms thay know no one thay have sex with .... thats what thay love no ones the same ."

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I think you will find people in clubs will see someone they like and take them into a private room without lots of small talk before. People also tend to have their mind turned onto clubs when they enter a club already although i guess there will be a few wet fish in as well. i have been going to clubs over 15 years now had some fab times.... I know how it all workS at times i just flirt all night long end up back at there hotel or house .. some woman i know love the orgie rooms thay know no one thay have sex with .... thats what thay love no ones the same .

Isn't it all just NSA whether you talk to them fisrt or not, have one and a time or not? If you go home afterwards and don't expect them to call you to check you got home OK and run the profile of their next meet past you.... how you got to the same ending is irrelevant."
its the same ending shaging knowing very little ...... like to flirt and chat first shag after .. just dont go start to it .. thats just how i am .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i'm a little confused here

how does chatting with some pre shag constitute strings being added?

i chat with some guys n gals pre and post shag but it does not mean i want anything more than sex from them

a handfull i have regular contact with but i have no emotional attachment to them or them to me, i have no expectation of them or them of me so how exactly are strings attached?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"i'm a little confused here

how does chatting with some pre shag constitute strings being added?

i chat with some guys n gals pre and post shag but it does not mean i want anything more than sex from them

a handfull i have regular contact with but i have no emotional attachment to them or them to me, i have no expectation of them or them of me so how exactly are strings attached?"
some can have sex with out a word to each other .. some can have sex with out seeing each other just feeling.. people all have there own ways .. what ever is right for them ..i have no emotioal attachment just like to flirt alot that whats turns me on before sex chating flirting can for hours .

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

NSA means no emotional dependence or romantic attachment.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I play in lots of different ways, I don't just keep to the same formula.

One night ill want an exciting blindfold scenario, another night ill want to go to a club and just have sex with my partner, another night ill just want soft swing after chatting with a guy or couple, or ill go to a party and flirt and chat to guys all night and play with a few that take my fancy.

One night ill be girly and feminine, one night ill be dressed in subtle vintage corsetry, one night ill be in leather, buckles and thigh high boots.

On every night I turn up, play, enjoy and expect never to hear from then again. Sometimes I do have friendly messages and we'll keep in touch as friends, but I never expect it as I don't form any attachment to them, as they don't to me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

It is definately possible.. I had a meet the other week where I didnt ever see any of the 7 guys I was playing with... didnt even hear them talk.. except one guy after he had covered me asking my Master if I was into it..( note the after he had cum) lol

I though can take it a bit far the other way..

Cali

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

After a split from my ex..I had a few nsa relationships....and attempted many more...

The ones that were successful were brilliant fer my needs at the time...great fun, banter, chilling to music, filthy sex with no complications afterwards...lots of space t`ween meeting up again....no hassles, demands, strong boundaries which both sides understood and wanted..

A good time in my life after 18 months of celibacy...I wasn`t ready fer anything much at all...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

What if you do it through a hole in the wall...?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"NSA means no emotional dependence or romantic attachment.

Ty for the clarification hunny good to know I was right then purely being friendly does not constitute strings phew

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

We have a regular (seen him since we joined this site) and its NSA when we get an itch or he does it gets scratched !! so yes NSA does exist

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"NSA means no emotional dependence or romantic attachment.

Ty for the clarification hunny good to know I was right then purely being friendly does not constitute strings phew

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By *emima_puddlefuckCouple over a year ago

hexham

"NSA means no emotional dependence or romantic attachment.

Ty for the clarification hunny good to know I was right then purely being friendly does not constitute strings phew

i have found that men tend to interpret my friendliness as something else tho,so prefer to keep the friendship + sex for the couples we know.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"NSA means no emotional dependence or romantic attachment.

Ty for the clarification hunny good to know I was right then purely being friendly does not constitute strings phew

I meant to say that's what it means to me personally btw - was at work having lunch and posted that via my phone.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

for me there has to be chemistry, its the attraction, not the emotional respose, but them I have been told I'm a cold bastard

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Chemistry is fine- doesn't mean there has to be an emotional attachment ...

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