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Is it rude to ask a woman
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Her weight?
Like if you wanted to know if you could throw her around  "
Surely you could just tell by looking at her pics, in that context I'd say it's a bit uncalled for. Would it really be a deal breaker if you couldn't throw her about? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No one knows my weight except me - not sure why they would need to .
You could tell by looking at me that you can't 'throw me around ' (assuming you mean lift me up etc ) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You could ask, not saying you're going to get an answer or even the one you want. I don't think weight has much to do with it, surely you can get a good idea by pics x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Her weight?
Like if you wanted to know if you could throw her around "
I think you should be able to, many women take flattering photos that hides their true shape to show them in the best light.
That of course is their choice, but they moan when a man does it and they then turn up and get disappointed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You could ask... But that would be the only thing you'd ask as I'd probably stop talking to be honest. That's personal and nobody's business but mine. So yes, I would personally find it rude. |
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If you're afraid to ask her weight, make it easier by suggesting a weight and see what she says.
"Christ, luv, you look like you're about thirty five stone" 
Personally it doesn't matter to me, sexy doesn't seem to be anything to do with weight.
As for throwing her around, it more depends if she's in the mood. I have no problem with a size 14 woman if she wants to be manhandled but try and lift a size 6 woman into the boot of a car when she's a dead weight and...
I may have already said too much  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't think it's rude and I wouldn't care - but I don't think you'll get a favorable response from most women you ask. It's all about knowing your audience. |
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"It should be a option as height etc
I would rather have someone's height added to the search options
It's on everyone's profile "
I'm on about the search options, I don't look at everyone's profile |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Maybe start by saying you like to pick Women up during sex and you can only lift up to a certain weight, She may tell you her weight then"
That's a good plan, actually. Then she may decide she only wants to meet a guy who can lift enough to pick her up,anyway. Win, win. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'm curvy and been thrown around bedroom ,dinning room and lounge .Not always about weight it's if a man can handle curves . "
I could handle your curves no problem |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I can deadlift 275kg so there's your answer
Fantastic, you couldn't give me a hand with this body I need to get in the boot of the car, could you? "
Erm  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Her weight?
Like if you wanted to know if you could throw her around
Surely you could just tell by looking at her pics, in that context I'd say it's a bit uncalled for. Would it really be a deal breaker if you couldn't throw her about? "
This! Totally agree...I'd be fucking livid if someone asked me my weight just because they want to throw someone around! I may not be a skinny mini but I can tell you now I can deadlift my own body weight so if a guy can't handle this then I guess I'm just too bootylishas  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was going to say being honest an asking straight out is always best.
After reading most responses don't ask lol check bmi charts an add a stone as most have height on profile.
I'm 13 stone size 14.  |
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To be fair if its something the op is interested in doing there is nothing wrong in asking as long as he is considerate the way he asks the question, He might not get the answers he wants though,
Is it just another type of preference like how big is your cock ? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe best to start by asking if a woman wants to be thrown about... however in answer to the question it wouldn't bother me either way it's just a number, there's more to a person that stats and if the stats scare you best find someone with a number a little less intimidating  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm a proper fatty and Fred can pick me up easily and "throw me round".
I wouldn't expect any otherman on a meet to try to do the same I'd be too worried about hurting them but I do love a nice strong man.
Ginger |
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I don't know how much I weigh as I keep a check on my weight by how my comfortable my clothes feel. In all honesty though if I was wearing a size 8 skirt like I am right now and feeling good about myself I wouldn't mind being asked. At another time however on one of those 'nothing fits' days I'd probably be miffed and want to  . In other words, it's a potential minefield so best not ask! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Totally rude... 
Nothing more to say
Why is it? "
Can I suggest you read the post by La Fee Verte and the body image stuff that has been on the forums recently.
It's just my opinion...it has no more value than any one else's |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Totally rude...
Nothing more to say
Why is it?
Can I suggest you read the post by La Fee Verte and the body image stuff that has been on the forums recently.
It's just my opinion...it has no more value than any one else's "
I second you there x
And the prat that thought it would be funny to suggest an HGV...really  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't say my weight as it's a touchy subject with me so I'd just stop talking. I do however tell men I'm planning on meeting my dress size so they know what to expect and share normal dressed pics on kik but that comes naturally whilst communicating. I wouldn't want to disappoint anyone x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I would like to clarify - my weight isn't a touchy subject . I'm fat . If I wasn't I wouldn't wear size 18s . I just don't see how knowing my exact weight helps anyone .
Oh and while I'm not into be picked up etc I have been 'thrown about' during sex with no problem |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wouldn't mind being asked dress size but I wouldn't tell you my weight! You could just ask someone if they want u to and if they think u would be fit to throw them around  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Everyone's different I guess and it depends on the woman. Some will mind, some won't. So I'd say best bet is not to ask...I am not sure what I weigh, but it's probably around 9st. I like chocolate too much |
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Do people have cut off points for this sort of thing anyway? Like, 'I'll throw anything up to 10 stone around but won't risk it if you're 10 stone 2lbs' ?!
Surely you'd have a fair idea if this was feasible or not just by looking? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Looks can be deceiving"
It's still none of your business OP. Some have body image issues and a question like that could feed into the insecurity of those that do. Ask all you like, just don't always expect a favourable reply or even a reply sometimes. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Looks can be deceiving
It's still none of your business OP. Some have body image issues and a question like that could feed into the insecurity of those that do. Ask all you like, just don't always expect a favourable reply or even a reply sometimes. "
in that case you could say that about anything? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Well I,d have to ask you the question back OP, coz I wouldn't want you to be overweight in case you weren't fit enough to throw me about. XXX"
11 stone |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Her weight?
Like if you wanted to know if you could throw her around "
Obviously body size plays a big part for you on whether you meet the person.
It's not a question I'd ask anyone regardless of their size. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Looks can be deceiving
It's still none of your business OP. Some have body image issues and a question like that could feed into the insecurity of those that do. Ask all you like, just don't always expect a favourable reply or even a reply sometimes. in that case you could say that about anything?"
You obviously think that a question like that is perfectly acceptable, based on that reply. Good luck to you OP |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Well I,d have to ask you the question back OP, coz I wouldn't want you to be overweight in case you weren't fit enough to throw me about. XXX 11 stone "
You're best bet is to ask ladies their dress size, skinny ones are size 12 and under often. XXX |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Aren't there specialist 'dating' sex sites for particular size types. If you have to ask maybe this is the wrong site for you OP. "
Why is it the wrong site for him? A woman on here can ask for gym fit, fat, thin, dad bod, Big dick little dick, average dick.
But a man who wants to ascertain a woman's weight because her pics make it unclear to tell her actual shape because she's misleading is on the wrong site?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"It should be a option as height etc
What you think people's profiles should state their weight ?
Height is. "
height doesnt change...weight can frequently... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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No man I've ever had sex with can throw me around, I have heavy bones, I'm not submissive and I weigh more than I look lol... Gona start calling the man who could a Unicorn I reckon  ....
Maybe just ask the women you want to play with that you want to know if you can throw them onto a bed... I'd love that to happen to me one day so maybe they wouldn't mind letting you know their weight?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do people have cut off points for this sort of thing anyway? Like, 'I'll throw anything up to 10 stone around but won't risk it if you're 10 stone 2lbs' ?!
Surely you'd have a fair idea if this was feasible or not just by looking?"
That's what I was thinking, do you have an upper limit in mind for that info to be useful? If you do maybe the better way to approach it would be to explain what you like and ask if they are below that weight. It may still go down like a lead balloon but you're not asking them to reveal their actual weight. |
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I couldn't tell anyone what I weigh because we only have luggage scales. Mr N can pick me up but I'm not light enough to be thrown around like a rag doll I don't think and I'm immovable in a strong wind. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm going to guess that my weight is approximately 15stone 2lbs. I'm going to weigh myself next time we go swimming, because I used those scales the last few times I weighed myself.
I could be a little more or a little less. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I dont think it's rude - but I dont think I'd answer
Let me lose 2st first and then I'll tell you
I have clear body pics on my profile - no deception here - or throwing around unless you want a hernia |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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OP.
Ask her in conversation has she tried 69 standing up. They'll quickly divulged in a nice way whether or not you can lift them about. I've used this before.
And yes I have before any smart arsed witty fiesty women asks... ...mind she was only 5'1". |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"no need to throw me about - just drag me by the ankles "
I prefer the hair technique.... its the way my father and grandfather did it. Kinda tribal ...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"OP.
Ask her in conversation has she tried 69 standing up. They'll quickly divulged in a nice way whether or not you can lift them about. I've used this before.
And yes I have before any smart arsed witty fiesty women asks... ...mind she was only 5'1". "
She must have been very strong. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"OP.
Ask her in conversation has she tried 69 standing up. They'll quickly divulged in a nice way whether or not you can lift them about. I've used this before.
And yes I have before any smart arsed witty fiesty women asks... ...mind she was only 5'1".
She must have been very strong. "
Muahahahaha |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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I wouldn't say it's rude (been asked far worse things) but I still wouldn't tell you.
I have my dress size and height on profile, that's enough to tell you that I'm no lightweight. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have no problem in telling what my weight is in a private message bit would be a little dubious to do that on a thread as already get called a fat slag enough when I rebuff someone and don't need it tenfold. X |
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How much information is needed for a casual fuck?
People lie about their age, sexuality, marital status etc, do you think you'll get a truthful answer to weight?
If you can't tell by the picture but still interested arrange a social. If your dick gets hard you're onto a winner, if not...c'est la vie! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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This is why I personally like to see a photo of who ever I'm looking at of them stood up head to toe. Dressed to impress on a night out or day out.
I like to get a full picture so I think having a photo like that on your profile is essential.
Also I like to see what a person looks like dressed to impress. That's kinda what I expect at a meet to be honest. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think you'll find op, that the smaller ladies will quite happily tell you what they weigh. "
The thread more or less confirms that, it's only larger ladies on the whole who have an issue disclosing their weight, and that's to be expected.
Short guys would rather not have the height reference on profiles, it's exactly the same. No one wants to talk about their perceived deficiencies. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think weight is a bizarre concept.
I used to be slim, then I got fat, now I'm not.
I now weigh 2st more than I did when I was slim, but I'm 2 dress sizes smaller than back then.
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Looking mighty fine for it |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What you hear: "How much do you weigh"?
What they hear: "How much do weigh.. because I'm going to judge you by it and you had better be the right weight.. mon then..report to me" |
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