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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When I am meeting I like the meet to be more like a date, i no what this site is but for me I get more out of the meet am I expecting to much ??? "
I think it would be very harsh mia if anybody said you were hoping for too much from that little expectation x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes i would say you are its bassicly a sex site not a daring site... sorry just my opinion hun x"
But if the meet doesn't involve sex... why would the meet be too much to ask for to be treated like a date? |
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By *ia69 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"When I am meeting I like the meet to be more like a date, i no what this site is but for me I get more out of the meet am I expecting to much ???
I think it would be very harsh mia if anybody said you were hoping for too much from that little expectation x"
Phew lol x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes i would say you are its bassicly a sex site not a daring site... sorry just my opinion hun x
But if the meet doesn't involve sex... why would the meet be too much to ask for to be treated like a date?"
Yeah I suppose your right in a way x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When I am meeting I like the meet to be more like a date, i no what this site is but for me I get more out of the meet am I expecting to much ??? "
yes
im here for the social aspect and good sex and kink with like minded people, if i wanted dates id be on pof |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes i would say you are its bassicly a sex site not a daring site... sorry just my opinion hun x"
Yeah, too right. It should be knickers down, bend over, straight down to business. These people that expect a cup of coffee too! I dunno!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When I am meeting I like the meet to be more like a date, i no what this site is but for me I get more out of the meet am I expecting to much ??? "
Think it's totally ok. When we meeting lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Sounds like the perfect way to do things. Would have thought it would help out the wasters and identify people with a bit of class. (No offence to anyone who wouldn't - just generalising). Mark |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yes i would say you are its bassicly a sex site not a daring site... sorry just my opinion hun x
Yeah, too right. It should be knickers down, bend over, straight down to business. These people that expect a cup of coffee too! I dunno! "
Hehehe well I wouldn't mind a coffee beforehand to get my mouth wetter  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sounds like the perfect way to do things. Would have thought it would help out the wasters and identify people with a bit of class. (No offence to anyone who wouldn't - just generalising). Mark"
I totally agree, the social is like a date as you're assessing suitability of the person as a sex partner. It can also be a tremendous situation to flirt and tease each other before agreeing to take it further somewhere else. On the other hand it can also give both people an exit route if you simply don't click sexually, and you can say goodbye after.
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By *ficouldMan
over a year ago
a quandary, could you change my mind? |
You can treat this site the way you want to. You have your preferences and absolutely nothing wrong with them it's just about finding the right person who has the same thoughts. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sounds like the perfect way to do things. Would have thought it would help out the wasters and identify people with a bit of class. (No offence to anyone who wouldn't - just generalising). Mark
I totally agree, the social is like a date as you're assessing suitability of the person as a sex partner. It can also be a tremendous situation to flirt and tease each other before agreeing to take it further somewhere else. On the other hand it can also give both people an exit route if you simply don't click sexually, and you can say goodbye after.
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In a nutshell covered with layers of common sense!!
Gutted I'm a year too old Milf  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'm glad this has come up
(Said the actress to the bishop)
I was wondering the pressure on Fab users on 1st meets if sex was expected or not. I guess it's important to make things clear before any meet - so the people can be relaxed as possible without an elephant in the room situation  |
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"When I am meeting I like the meet to be more like a date, i no what this site is but for me I get more out of the meet am I expecting to much ??? "
Not at all, plenty of guys on here want the same thing - just be totally up front about what you want and expect and find people that are on the same page (bearing in mind that some will be imposters just after a casual shag!)  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sounds like the perfect way to do things. Would have thought it would help out the wasters and identify people with a bit of class. (No offence to anyone who wouldn't - just generalising). Mark
I totally agree, the social is like a date as you're assessing suitability of the person as a sex partner. It can also be a tremendous situation to flirt and tease each other before agreeing to take it further somewhere else. On the other hand it can also give both people an exit route if you simply don't click sexually, and you can say goodbye after.
In a nutshell covered with layers of common sense!!
Gutted I'm a year too old Milf "
Aww sorry xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No you're not.
Plenty of fellas will happily do the 'date' with bonuses.
I don't expect them to pay just a meal and a chat before anything else "
Very reasonable expectations, like I say there'll be guys more than happy to meet you on that basis. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
There and to the left a bit |
I honestly wouldn't want a meet that was purely about sex where you turn up and just get down to it straight away without any preamble - especially if it was with someone I'd not met before.
Would much prefer an element of social time first even if that was just sitting having a couple of drinks and a chat in a bar. |
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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago
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"I'm glad this has come up
(Said the actress to the bishop)
I was wondering the pressure on Fab users on 1st meets if sex was expected or not. I guess it's important to make things clear before any meet - so the people can be relaxed as possible without an elephant in the room situation "
i found a lot of guys who are willing to do a social expect sex with that but they say before you meet them. been lucky though and the ones i did meet were fine not having sex. |
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By *ia69 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"No you're not.
Plenty of fellas will happily do the 'date' with bonuses.
I don't expect them to pay just a meal and a chat before anything else
Very reasonable expectations, like I say there'll be guys more than happy to meet you on that basis."
Have come across a couple recently so who knows |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When I am meeting I like the meet to be more like a date, i no what this site is but for me I get more out of the meet am I expecting to much ??? "
Communication. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Sounds like the perfect way to do things. Would have thought it would help out the wasters and identify people with a bit of class. (No offence to anyone who wouldn't - just generalising). Mark
I totally agree, the social is like a date as you're assessing suitability of the person as a sex partner. It can also be a tremendous situation to flirt and tease each other before agreeing to take it further somewhere else. On the other hand it can also give both people an exit route if you simply don't click sexually, and you can say goodbye after.
In a nutshell covered with layers of common sense!!
Gutted I'm a year too old Milf
Aww sorry xx"
Haha yeah I bet you are
Parents eh!! I blame my parents
I like your sensible logical outlook though |
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My little head says "wtf! This aint a dating site, get yer tits out and be quick about it"......
Now my big head on the other hand says "You should be able to conduct your meets as you see fit and this should be pointed out to any prospective suitors". |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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"When I am meeting I like the meet to be more like a date, i no what this site is but for me I get more out of the meet am I expecting to much ???
Not at all, plenty of guys on here want the same thing - just be totally up front about what you want and expect and find people that are on the same page (bearing in mind that some will be imposters just after a casual shag!) "
This definitely. There's no point meeting someone who just wants to have sex if you're looking for a little more than that  |
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By *ENDAROOSCouple
over a year ago
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"You can treat this site the way you want to. You have your preferences and absolutely nothing wrong with them it's just about finding the right person who has the same thoughts. "
100% this
There is no right or wrong way to meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When I am meeting I like the meet to be more like a date, i no what this site is but for me I get more out of the meet am I expecting to much ??? "
Not at all if there is no sexual chemistry then there is an exit where you can both say goodbye, on the other hand there may be no sexual chemistry but you get on with that person socially and gain a friend. There are a lot of men out there that would rather a date scenario with no expectations me being one however there are a lot more who are wham bam fuck and go and there are women who obviously like that type of meet.
Anyway OP when are we going on our date?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sounds like the perfect way to do things. Would have thought it would help out the wasters and identify people with a bit of class. (No offence to anyone who wouldn't - just generalising). Mark
I totally agree, the social is like a date as you're assessing suitability of the person as a sex partner. It can also be a tremendous situation to flirt and tease each other before agreeing to take it further somewhere else. On the other hand it can also give both people an exit route if you simply don't click sexually, and you can say goodbye after.
In a nutshell covered with layers of common sense!!
Gutted I'm a year too old Milf
Aww sorry xx
Haha yeah I bet you are
Parents eh!! I blame my parents
I like your sensible logical outlook though "
Thank you, I hope it helps others on here. People need to use fab within their own parameters of comfort and if that's a social meet first (like it is for me) then if that cannot be respected then I will no longer consider them for anything more. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When I am meeting I like the meet to be more like a date, i no what this site is but for me I get more out of the meet am I expecting to much ??? "
Nothing wrong with what you are after, the meets ive had in thus fashion are the most enjoyable ive had |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't see the issue, if you're looking for a more regular meet especially. Better you know the person the better the meet, personally I'm sapiosexual
So intelligence gives me more intensity. So such scenario would allow me to better engage and also be relaxed, far better buildup and I love food so I'm not seeing the negative here. I guess it boils down to personal preference as do most posts on here. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"When I am meeting I like the meet to be more like a date, i no what this site is but for me I get more out of the meet am I expecting to much ??? "
As long as your clear that that's what you want, I can't see it being a problem
The block function is for those who don't agree with you  x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The only way to be on fab is the way that works for you.
There are many here who want more than meet and run many who seek a connection that starts in the mind where the social and intellectual connection is as important or sometimes more important than just another shag.
You are in control of your own destiny. how or if you interact with others is between you and them alone.
But the only way to achieve that is to talk openly and honestly about your expectations and those of the other party.
If you can't talk share be open about what you both seek want or need from a meet then one or other will usually feel dissatisfied with the outcome.
If you can then who knows where it may lead...
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
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I am actually going to say it will depend on scenario...for example if it is a c.lub meet I am less lilkley to sit around after for a cuddle, banging the world to rights
If it is a couple, in a hotel and it's my room, then I would kick them out, if it is their room, I would leave.
If it was a single lady then it again it would depend on situation. Some people I would just want to fuck, some I would want a coffee, drink beforehand then fuck. |
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By *ia69 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"I only ever meet socially first time, coffee or a drink somewhere public. If they don't like it they are for me x"
This is exactly what I mean that's all I want but some expect you to turn up and just do it and leave. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I've had a lot of meets that were like a date. There are people looking for different things on here. You just have to choose carefully those that you do meet. It's not asking for too much at all . |
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No you are not.
Not everyone is a " open the door get down to it" type
And that doesn't mean the site is the wrong place for you.
As long as your narrative/conversations are clear then the other party shouldn't be expecting different.
As there are a large number of people on here looking for regular FWB or FB I don't see why it has to be solely about the sex.
You are entitled to use the site how you want .
Good luck x
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By *ia69 OP Woman
over a year ago
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"No you are not.
Not everyone is a " open the door get down to it" type
And that doesn't mean the site is the wrong place for you.
As long as your narrative/conversations are clear then the other party shouldn't be expecting different.
As there are a large number of people on here looking for regular FWB or FB I don't see why it has to be solely about the sex.
You are entitled to use the site how you want .
Good luck x
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Thank you x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sounds like the perfect way to do things. Would have thought it would help out the wasters and identify people with a bit of class. (No offence to anyone who wouldn't - just generalising). Mark
I totally agree, the social is like a date as you're assessing suitability of the person as a sex partner. It can also be a tremendous situation to flirt and tease each other before agreeing to take it further somewhere else. On the other hand it can also give both people an exit route if you simply don't click sexually, and you can say goodbye after.
In a nutshell covered with layers of common sense!!
Gutted I'm a year too old Milf
Aww sorry xx
Haha yeah I bet you are
Parents eh!! I blame my parents
I like your sensible logical outlook though
Thank you, I hope it helps others on here. People need to use fab within their own parameters of comfort and if that's a social meet first (like it is for me) then if that cannot be respected then I will no longer consider them for anything more."
You can ask for whatever you want. It's up to them if they are happy with it or not. My first meets are coffee only - no sex chat and not even a kiss. I make that clear. I they try to hint at sex I say we're not meeting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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As other posters have put, this is your choice and whatever you feel is right for you is the correct decision.
I'd want that social element too. I'm not looking for a relationship but I'd want more than just to meet up and go for it!
There are people on here who want all types of meets |
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"When I am meeting I like the meet to be more like a date, i no what this site is but for me I get more out of the meet am I expecting to much ??? "
No you are not. That is how you want your meets to be, and that is how they should be. You create your own fun, enjoy it the way you want. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Seems perfectly reasonable to me, OP. I've certainly done that before, on more than one occasion.
Well, you can't expect me to perform on an empty stomach, right...? |
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"When I am meeting I like the meet to be more like a date, I know what this site is, but for me I get more out of the meet. Am I expecting to much ??? "
Not at all. Just state what you are looking for in your profile, simples |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Lots of women want a date type meet. There's nothing wrong with that at all.
It's nice to get to know a little bit about a person over a drink or meal during which there's flirting and the sexual tension builds. Then it's back to where ever to work off the meal.
There are some women, who just want a guy to turn up, be polite get the job done, then to get the fuck out!
This site provides people with both of those scenarios, it's down to those age old points of choice and preference. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Lots of women want a date type meet. There's nothing wrong with that at all.
It's nice to get to know a little bit about a person over a drink or meal during which there's flirting and the sexual tension builds. Then it's back to where ever to work off the meal.
There are some women, who just want a guy to turn up, be polite get the job done, then to get the fuck out!
This site provides people with both of those scenarios, it's down to those age old points of choice and preference. "
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By (user no longer on site)
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"You can treat this site the way you want to. You have your preferences and absolutely nothing wrong with them it's just about finding the right person who has the same thoughts. "
Very good point. We all have our own' thing' - no right or wrong. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When I am meeting I like the meet to be more like a date, i no what this site is but for me I get more out of the meet am I expecting to much ??? "
Not at all, I'm quite similar, I'm not sure I've got it in me to just walk in and start having sex, there's nothing wrong with building up a bit of a rappor and letting the chemistry do its work. I'd much rather get to know a girl first even if it is only a couple of drinks in a bar first. You use the site as you wish, you have the right to expect whatever you wish for, it may just be a bit harder to find that's all. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"When I am meeting I like the meet to be more like a date, i no what this site is but for me I get more out of the meet am I expecting to much ??? "
no not at all is what you like . When I meet if the lady/couple or happy and comfortable with me then I am happy.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Sounds like the perfect way to do things. Would have thought it would help out the wasters and identify people with a bit of class. (No offence to anyone who wouldn't - just generalising). Mark
I totally agree, the social is like a date as you're assessing suitability of the person as a sex partner. It can also be a tremendous situation to flirt and tease each other before agreeing to take it further somewhere else. On the other hand it can also give both people an exit route if you simply don't click sexually, and you can say goodbye after.
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Covers every base! |
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