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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Would any women be interested in writing articles for a blog about the experiences curvy girls? How you are treated with having large breasts? Curves? How it effects you sexually, publically etc , |
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"Would any women be interested in writing articles for a blog about the experiences curvy girls? How you are treated with having large breasts? Curves? How it effects you sexually, publically etc ,"
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The bits where you walk out of shops in disgust as there's nothing above a size 14?
The times that you go out with your size 10 and 12 friends and watch as they get blokes flocking round them.
The way you look in the mirror and pray what you're wearing won't accentuate your tummy pouch?
Oh I could go on forever about it  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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To allow others to see what they experience is the same as others, and not isolated incidents.
It will be a sexy place where beauty is expressed, shown, plus a place to disguss issues facing curvy women in society where people incorrectly believe if you're not a stick then your wrong |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To allow others to see what they experience is the same as others, and not isolated incidents.
It will be a sexy place where beauty is expressed, shown, plus a place to disguss issues facing curvy women in society where people incorrectly believe if you're not a stick then your wrong"
What's a stick  |
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"The bits where you walk out of shops in disgust as there's nothing above a size 14?
The times that you go out with your size 10 and 12 friends and watch as they get blokes flocking round them.
The way you look in the mirror and pray what you're wearing won't accentuate your tummy pouch?
Oh I could go on forever about it "
Those blokes are idiots if they don't flock to you you are gorgeous |
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"To allow others to see what they experience is the same as others, and not isolated incidents.
It will be a sexy place where beauty is expressed, shown, plus a place to disguss issues facing curvy women in society where people incorrectly believe if you're not a stick then your wrong"
I think you are wrong to call slim ladies "sticks" it's shit like that that causes these sort of threads to crash and burn and that's from a fat bird  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The bits where you walk out of shops in disgust as there's nothing above a size 14?
The times that you go out with your size 10 and 12 friends and watch as they get blokes flocking round them.
The way you look in the mirror and pray what you're wearing won't accentuate your tummy pouch?
Oh I could go on forever about it "
Could write a book about it let alone a blog x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"To allow others to see what they experience is the same as others, and not isolated incidents.
It will be a sexy place where beauty is expressed, shown, plus a place to disguss issues facing curvy women in society where people incorrectly believe if you're not a stick then your wrong
I think you are wrong to call slim ladies "sticks" it's shit like that that causes these sort of threads to crash and burn and that's from a fat bird "
Very good point well made 
Might as well call us chubbies or fatties 
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The bits where you walk out of shops in disgust as there's nothing above a size 14?
The times that you go out with your size 10 and 12 friends and watch as they get blokes flocking round them.
The way you look in the mirror and pray what you're wearing won't accentuate your tummy pouch?
Oh I could go on forever about it
Could write a book about it let alone a blog x "
Yeah me too. x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The bits where you walk out of shops in disgust as there's nothing above a size 14?
The times that you go out with your size 10 and 12 friends and watch as they get blokes flocking round them.
The way you look in the mirror and pray what you're wearing won't accentuate your tummy pouch?
Oh I could go on forever about it
Those blokes are idiots if they don't flock to you you are gorgeous "
I guess you need to actually see it. Or experience it yourself. Tbh I never usually minded as that left me with the shy geeky mate and then I had a lovely guy to chat to |
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By *ipBiterWoman
over a year ago
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As a fellow curvy girl, I suppose I feel the need to "tell" people who message me that I'm plus size, just incased they haven't read my profile. Honestly feel like it could be an issue for some! |
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"The bits where you walk out of shops in disgust as there's nothing above a size 14?
The times that you go out with your size 10 and 12 friends and watch as they get blokes flocking round them.
The way you look in the mirror and pray what you're wearing won't accentuate your tummy pouch?
Oh I could go on forever about it
Those blokes are idiots if they don't flock to you you are gorgeous
I guess you need to actually see it. Or experience it yourself. Tbh I never usually minded as that left me with the shy geeky mate and then I had a lovely guy to chat to "
I've experienced the been left on my own as my better looking mates were surrounded by women and buying baggy shirts as I didn't have the toned abs like a lot of people and thats why geeky guys are so good |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
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"Would any women be interested in writing articles for a blog about the experiences curvy girls? How you are treated with having large breasts? Curves? How it effects you sexually, publically etc ,"
What, a blog about how my size and shape is supposed to inform every moment of my existence rather than how my size and shape, like everyone else's, has its own foibles, good points and bad points and isn't the sum total of me as a person, as a woman and as a sexual being? No, there are plenty of them out there already. And I can't be arsed. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The bits where you walk out of shops in disgust as there's nothing above a size 14?
The times that you go out with your size 10 and 12 friends and watch as they get blokes flocking round them.
The way you look in the mirror and pray what you're wearing won't accentuate your tummy pouch?
Oh I could go on forever about it
Those blokes are idiots if they don't flock to you you are gorgeous
I guess you need to actually see it. Or experience it yourself. Tbh I never usually minded as that left me with the shy geeky mate and then I had a lovely guy to chat to
I've experienced the been left on my own as my better looking mates were surrounded by women and buying baggy shirts as I didn't have the toned abs like a lot of people and thats why geeky guys are so good "
So it's not just a female issue then 
I do have soft spots for geeky as I'm pretty geeky myself.  |
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My ex called me fat every day (I'm not even 5ft tall and size 16 was getting really tight) he used to call me names like Worzel Crummage. That is the nicest one I will put. My self confidence was at an all time low. I refused to buy new clothes because "whatever I got would look shit on me anyway, after all you can't polish a turd" plus a whole host of other things.
It was 18 months ago when I kicked him out. Since then I've dropped to a size 8-12 depending on the shop and how much I've eaten that week.
I now can't regulate food. At all. I either starve myself or binge. I'm constantly worried about gaining weight but then I'll have a day where I don't care and eat whatever I want and as much as I can physically gorge myself on.
If I can't see my collar bones clearly I don't want to leave the house. I hate having food in my stomach and I feel as though I can see it. I want all poo out because I think I can see that in my tummy too.
I don't actually know what I look like as my mirror doesn't show me what my eyes see.
How's that for ya? Insight enough. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The bits where you walk out of shops in disgust as there's nothing above a size 14?
The times that you go out with your size 10 and 12 friends and watch as they get blokes flocking round them.
The way you look in the mirror and pray what you're wearing won't accentuate your tummy pouch?
Oh I could go on forever about it "
I never think like that.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My ex called me fat every day (I'm not even 5ft tall and size 16 was getting really tight) he used to call me names like Worzel Crummage. That is the nicest one I will put. My self confidence was at an all time low. I refused to buy new clothes because "whatever I got would look shit on me anyway, after all you can't polish a turd" plus a whole host of other things.
It was 18 months ago when I kicked him out. Since then I've dropped to a size 8-12 depending on the shop and how much I've eaten that week.
I now can't regulate food. At all. I either starve myself or binge. I'm constantly worried about gaining weight but then I'll have a day where I don't care and eat whatever I want and as much as I can physically gorge myself on.
If I can't see my collar bones clearly I don't want to leave the house. I hate having food in my stomach and I feel as though I can see it. I want all poo out because I think I can see that in my tummy too.
I don't actually know what I look like as my mirror doesn't show me what my eyes see.
How's that for ya? Insight enough."
My mirror still shows me a fat guy every morning.
It's not just girls but at least I wasn't in the sort of relationship you describe.
That fat guy will always be there and reading this thread maybe I shouldn't have even commented.
But like much I see on fab we are all different yet difference is often used as a stick to beat ourselves or for others to beat us with.
We are not fat we are not sticks we are not curvy
We are people we are so much more than just how others see us...
And so much more than how we often see ourselves..
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The bits where you walk out of shops in disgust as there's nothing above a size 14?
The times that you go out with your size 10 and 12 friends and watch as they get blokes flocking round them.
The way you look in the mirror and pray what you're wearing won't accentuate your tummy pouch?
Oh I could go on forever about it
I never think like that...."
You're lucky. It's not something I enjoy feeling |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The bits where you walk out of shops in disgust as there's nothing above a size 14?
The times that you go out with your size 10 and 12 friends and watch as they get blokes flocking round them.
The way you look in the mirror and pray what you're wearing won't accentuate your tummy pouch?
Oh I could go on forever about it "
I'm really surprised by this as I never see my curves negatively.
Mine would be the bits where I've gone shopping with a slim size 10 friend, and the same dress has looked 'meh' on her and amazing on me. Or getting served first, being given freebies and discounts, having drinks bought for me and attracting hot young guys on a night out.
So what if a few trendy high street shops don't cater for curves? Just avoid them...there's plenty of other places that do |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The bits where you walk out of shops in disgust as there's nothing above a size 14?
The times that you go out with your size 10 and 12 friends and watch as they get blokes flocking round them.
The way you look in the mirror and pray what you're wearing won't accentuate your tummy pouch?
Oh I could go on forever about it
I never think like that....
You're lucky. It's not something I enjoy feeling "
You're stopping yourself from enjoying things... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The bits where you walk out of shops in disgust as there's nothing above a size 14?
The times that you go out with your size 10 and 12 friends and watch as they get blokes flocking round them.
The way you look in the mirror and pray what you're wearing won't accentuate your tummy pouch?
Oh I could go on forever about it
I never think like that....
You're lucky. It's not something I enjoy feeling "
You are erudite fun funny and real and light up the forums.
You ooze confidence wit vitality life and a spark of humanity which delights others.
Take a look around next time you are out somewhere no one thinks they have a perfect body. Every other person in that clothes shop feels exactly as you do.
No one sees you the way you see yourself.
It's hard to overcome our fears and our self perception but the reality is that others see you differently.
It's who we are that changes people, what we do that changes the world, and how we live that defines our lives.
That's what makes us unique not some inner dissatisfaction with how otherd may see us.
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"The bits where you walk out of shops in disgust as there's nothing above a size 14?
The times that you go out with your size 10 and 12 friends and watch as they get blokes flocking round them.
The way you look in the mirror and pray what you're wearing won't accentuate your tummy pouch?
Notice '
Oh I could go on forever about it
I never think like that....
You're lucky. It's not something I enjoy feeling
You are erudite fun funny and real and light up the forums.
You ooze confidence wit vitality life and a spark of humanity which delights others.
Take a look around next time you are out somewhere no one thinks they have a perfect body. Every other person in that clothes shop feels exactly as you do.
No one sees you the way you see yourself.
It's hard to overcome our fears and our self perception but the reality is that others see you differently.
It's who we are that changes people, what we do that changes the world, and how we live that defines our lives.
That's what makes us unique not some inner dissatisfaction with how otherd may see us.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As a fellow curvy girl, I suppose I feel the need to "tell" people who message me that I'm plus size, just incased they haven't read my profile. Honestly feel like it could be an issue for some!"
Ditto |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My ex called me fat every day (I'm not even 5ft tall and size 16 was getting really tight) he used to call me names like Worzel Crummage. That is the nicest one I will put. My self confidence was at an all time low. I refused to buy new clothes because "whatever I got would look shit on me anyway, after all you can't polish a turd" plus a whole host of other things.
It was 18 months ago when I kicked him out. Since then I've dropped to a size 8-12 depending on the shop and how much I've eaten that week.
I now can't regulate food. At all. I either starve myself or binge. I'm constantly worried about gaining weight but then I'll have a day where I don't care and eat whatever I want and as much as I can physically gorge myself on.
If I can't see my collar bones clearly I don't want to leave the house. I hate having food in my stomach and I feel as though I can see it. I want all poo out because I think I can see that in my tummy too.
I don't actually know what I look like as my mirror doesn't show me what my eyes see.
How's that for ya? Insight enough."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"My ex called me fat every day (I'm not even 5ft tall and size 16 was getting really tight) he used to call me names like Worzel Crummage. That is the nicest one I will put. My self confidence was at an all time low. I refused to buy new clothes because "whatever I got would look shit on me anyway, after all you can't polish a turd" plus a whole host of other things.
It was 18 months ago when I kicked him out. Since then I've dropped to a size 8-12 depending on the shop and how much I've eaten that week.
I now can't regulate food. At all. I either starve myself or binge. I'm constantly worried about gaining weight but then I'll have a day where I don't care and eat whatever I want and as much as I can physically gorge myself on.
If I can't see my collar bones clearly I don't want to leave the house. I hate having food in my stomach and I feel as though I can see it. I want all poo out because I think I can see that in my tummy too.
I don't actually know what I look like as my mirror doesn't show me what my eyes see.
How's that for ya? Insight enough."
Peach, I've waited for someone else to comment but none so far really.
That's an incredible thing you've done. To divulge such a personal insight into your past is brave.
I know from personal experience that it takes a long time to get to the point where opinions given to us no longer influence how we see ourselves. I'm still working on mine but it's getting better all the time.
For what it's worth I see a strong willed, passionate, hilarious and body-wise beautiful woman.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The bits where you walk out of shops in disgust as there's nothing above a size 14?
The times that you go out with your size 10 and 12 friends and watch as they get blokes flocking round them.
The way you look in the mirror and pray what you're wearing won't accentuate your tummy pouch?
Oh I could go on forever about it "
Me and you are sisters. Supposed to be going to newcastle with 3 friends in october and im seriously considering cancelling if last day out anything to go by. Git to stage where i felt i was the token fat friend who tagged along. Completely blanked. While 2 of the girls kept using an photo airbrush app before posting their pics.
The look you get when ordering food. The sly looks you get in the gym. And as for trying on clothes in a shop not a chance. |
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"To allow others to see what they experience is the same as others, and not isolated incidents.
It will be a sexy place where beauty is expressed, shown, plus a place to disguss issues facing curvy women in society where people incorrectly believe if you're not a stick then your wrong
I think you are wrong to call slim ladies "sticks" it's shit like that that causes these sort of threads to crash and burn and that's from a fat bird "
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By (user no longer on site)
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I am self conscious about my body, and any stigma I've had around being fat is mostly down to my own insecurities. But there was this one time. I was 18 and on one of my first nights out. I was a size 16-18 and wasn't good with fashion and always ended up wearing clothes that hung to my belly and other problem areas.
The group I was with had split up to speak to different people and I was left at the table, alone guarding the drinks. All of a sudden, this guy from school shouted my full name across the room. For the next 20 minutes he was shouting across the pub about how fat and disgusting I am to look at, saying my body is all lardy and jiggly and how devastated he'd be if he was unlucky enough to wake up next to me. I was mortified as him and his friends (about 8 of them) all laughed at me and made the most repulsing jokes at my expense. I couldn't go because he sat in the way of the exit and I couldn't bear the thought of him laughing at me running out of there. I cried for weeks about that and thinking about it still makes my heart sink even now. he made me feel lazy, unhealthy and completely revolting that night and when I have my bad days that's the girl that looks back at me in the mirror. |
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"I am self conscious about my body, and any stigma I've had around being fat is mostly down to my own insecurities. But there was this one time. I was 18 and on one of my first nights out. I was a size 16-18 and wasn't good with fashion and always ended up wearing clothes that hung to my belly and other problem areas.
The group I was with had split up to speak to different people and I was left at the table, alone guarding the drinks. All of a sudden, this guy from school shouted my full name across the room. For the next 20 minutes he was shouting across the pub about how fat and disgusting I am to look at, saying my body is all lardy and jiggly and how devastated he'd be if he was unlucky enough to wake up next to me. I was mortified as him and his friends (about 8 of them) all laughed at me and made the most repulsing jokes at my expense. I couldn't go because he sat in the way of the exit and I couldn't bear the thought of him laughing at me running out of there. I cried for weeks about that and thinking about it still makes my heart sink even now. he made me feel lazy, unhealthy and completely revolting that night and when I have my bad days that's the girl that looks back at me in the mirror."
Ouch. I apologise for the inadequacies of some of my gender.
No doubt beer was involved but such behaviour is appalling. It says more about the juvenile idiots involved than it ever could about you.
You are worth so much more than the bullies who did that to you.
I know it's easy to say and hard to do... but the haters are only important if we let them inside our heads...be happy with who you are it's the only person you can be...and it's your perfect answer to anyone who acts in such a way. |
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