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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

How do you go about pm'ing someone who you'd like to get to know a little more on the forums?

Do you flirt here first to see if they reciprocate? What about if you've not had much interaction with said person, just enjoy their posts, so have no idea if they are even aware of you?

Asking to a friend who is a little shy haha.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If I want to PM them, I PM them.

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

"How do you go about pm'ing someone who you'd like to get to know a little more on the forums?

Do you flirt here first to see if they reciprocate? What about if you've not had much interaction with said person, just enjoy their posts, so have no idea if they are even aware of you?

Asking to a friend who is a little shy haha. "

Just message them privately about a thread - have a chat and see if anything develops! I never go looking for meets, but sometimes I might just get talking to someone on the back of a thread without any agenda.

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By *ink Panther.Woman over a year ago

Preston

Errrrrrrrr just send a pm, I might have done that once or twice

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Errrrrrrrr just send a pm, I might have done that once or twice

Like the kissing to the ground thread?

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"If I want to PM them, I PM them.

Nothing to lose. Get the big girl pants on and do it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If I want to PM them, I PM them.

Basically.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I PM them

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By *ancs MinxWoman over a year ago

Burnley

"If I want to PM them, I PM them.

Nothing to lose. Get the big girl pants on and do it. "

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By *emini ManMan over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Usually just use a thread and its topic as the reason to spark a conversation

Those "PM a poster on this thread" threads are particularly good for that

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Normally flirt on here 1st see if our banter clicks

but if i fancy their knickers off I just direct message & tell them 'you, me bedroom now'

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Normally flirt on here 1st see if our banter clicks

but if i fancy their knickers off I just direct message & tell them 'you, me bedroom now'

I think I missed that PM

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By *ENDAROOSCouple over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"If I want to PM them, I PM them.

This

The worst they can do, is ignore it or tell you to buggar off.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Normally flirt on here 1st see if our banter clicks

but if i fancy their knickers off I just direct message & tell them 'you, me bedroom now'

I think I missed that PM

Arr sorry sweetie the post is slow this week

on its way x

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"If I want to PM them, I PM them.

This

The worst they can do, is ignore it or tell you to buggar off.

That's the fear haha

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By *iss SJWoman over a year ago

Hull

From what I can see the majority of people that post in the forums are all nice people so can't imangine anyone would be anything other than polite and kind and probably chuffed to hear from you x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Normally flirt on here 1st see if our banter clicks

but if i fancy their knickers off I just direct message & tell them 'you, me bedroom now'

I think I missed that PM

Arr sorry sweetie the post is slow this week

on its way x"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Normally flirt on here 1st see if our banter clicks

but if i fancy their knickers off I just direct message & tell them 'you, me bedroom now'

I think I missed that PM

Me too...that certainly isn't the pm I got

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And in answer to your question. ..I think it's best all done on the forum. It's the way things are done round here. That way we can all throw in our 2 cents

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By *rightonsteveMan over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I don't dare to.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If I want to PM them, I PM them.

This

The worst they can do, is ignore it or tell you to buggar off.

That's the fear haha

You're lovely, OP. I'm sure they would be chuffed to have a message from you. Also, it's nice to lift someone up and so with a nicely worded message even if they don't feel any spark with you, you may really genuinely flatter them and make their world that little bit rosier, and wouldn't that be a lovely thing to do?

Life is too short to wonder. Go for it.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Normally flirt on here 1st see if our banter clicks

but if i fancy their knickers off I just direct message & tell them 'you, me bedroom now'

I think I missed that PM

Me too...that certainly isn't the pm I got

You must hate how many people message you to get to Clem!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"And in answer to your question. ..I think it's best all done on the forum. It's the way things are done round here. That way we can all throw in our 2 cents

Haha very true

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By *ire_bladeMan over a year ago

Manchester

You should know op

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A direct message...tbough if all you do is make reference to a thread, the conversation may not go much farther?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Normally flirt on here 1st see if our banter clicks

but if i fancy their knickers off I just direct message & tell them 'you, me bedroom now'

I think I missed that PM

Me too...that certainly isn't the pm I got

You must hate how many people message you to get to Clem!

...it's the only messages I get

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By *ENDAROOSCouple over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"If I want to PM them, I PM them.

This

The worst they can do, is ignore it or tell you to buggar off.

That's the fear haha

It only stings for a few seconds if that happens.

It's better to try, than never know.

Be brave.

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By *iss.HoneyWoman over a year ago

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Send them a PM I ain't afraid

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Normally flirt on here 1st see if our banter clicks

but if i fancy their knickers off I just direct message & tell them 'you, me bedroom now'

I think I missed that PM

Me too...that certainly isn't the pm I got

You must hate how many people message you to get to Clem!

...it's the only messages I get

Well he is a stud. And you put a ring on it.

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By *ire_bladeMan over a year ago

Manchester

"Normally flirt on here 1st see if our banter clicks

but if i fancy their knickers off I just direct message & tell them 'you, me bedroom now'

I think I missed that PM

Me too...that certainly isn't the pm I got

You must hate how many people message you to get to Clem!

...it's the only messages I get

Faf

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'd happily have a message even if it's about the forum topic can always so no

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By *itofamouthfullMan over a year ago

cotswolds/herefordshire

Just send it, can't believe they're going to ignore it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"If I want to PM them, I PM them.

This

The worst they can do, is ignore it or tell you to buggar off.

That's the fear haha

Life is too short to wonder. Go for it.

Thank you lovely. That means a lot coming from you. If they're not interested in anything more, at least it's clear then.... May make a new friend at least

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If I want to PM them, I PM them.

This

The worst they can do, is ignore it or tell you to buggar off.

That's the fear haha

Life is too short to wonder. Go for it.

Thank you lovely. That means a lot coming from you. If they're not interested in anything more, at least it's clear then.... May make a new friend at least

Exactly!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Send them a PM I ain't afraid

Haha... But you are The Honey. No bugger's saying no to you

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *abs..Woman over a year ago

I sit and wait and hope they message

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Send them a PM I ain't afraid

Haha... But you are The Honey. No bugger's saying no to you

And yet she may say no to buggery

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I just send em a cock pic . Oh wait !!@ you don't have a cock pic

try boobs

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Guage reactions to the shameless flirting, take it to pm and ask. If it's a no, no dramas, no loss.

Press the send button, you've everything to gain, nowt to lose.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I find easier as we have topic to talk about instead. There some great people on here really enjoy the forum.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I sit and wait and hope they message

Me too

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By *rrol.BMan over a year ago

Wrexham

"Guage reactions to the shameless flirting, take it to pm and ask. If it's a no, no dramas, no loss.

Press the send button, you've everything to gain, nowt to lose. "

I can never tell if someone is really flirting or just doing that banter thing.

People need to be obvious and direct.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Some I PM - some I'd like to but really just haven't got around to it yet. You've got to find the right moment and the right reason haven't you?

My creative juices are lacking at present so there's 2 or 3 I'd like to break the ice with properly but need to be 'in the zone' to do it.

Trouble is I haven't really been 'in the zone' since I rejoined

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By *ire_bladeMan over a year ago

Manchester

"I sit and wait and hope they message

This is where we are going wrong

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Guage reactions to the shameless flirting, take it to pm and ask. If it's a no, no dramas, no loss.

Press the send button, you've everything to gain, nowt to lose.

I can never tell if someone is really flirting or just doing that banter thing.

People need to be obvious and direct.

Errol, can I sit on your face, put my hands in the air and scream "wheeeeeeeeeeeee!"...?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Go to PM and then shake your head at their filters!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Go to PM and then shake your head at their filters!!

Get your bum out, PB!

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Send them a PM I ain't afraid

Haha... But you are The Honey. No bugger's saying no to you

And yet she may say no to buggery

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

PM them using a forum topic or reply to a post they have put up to gain a little confidence if you feel you need to first.

I can imagine you feeling nervous, I used too but from my point of view the forum members are a lovely talkative bunch and you may make lots of wonderful friends

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Be bold.... if you don't ask you don't get

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I sit patiently and wait for them to message me.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I sit patiently and wait for them to message me."

You got mail!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Go to PM and then shake your head at their filters!!

Get your bum out, PB!

Will this result in a flood of PM's?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I sit patiently and wait for them to message me.

You got mail! "

The system works.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I'll just message them, you know cos I can do that and stuff and I'm nice so people usually reply, doesn't mean I'll get any further but you never know unless you try

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'll just message them, you know cos I can do that and stuff and I'm nice so people usually reply, doesn't mean I'll get any further but you never know unless you try

"
wish I could

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Go to PM and then shake your head at their filters!!

Get your bum out, PB!

Will this result in a flood of PM's?"

Affirmative

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'll just message them, you know cos I can do that and stuff and I'm nice so people usually reply, doesn't mean I'll get any further but you never know unless you try

wish I could

Those damn filters

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I sit patiently and wait for them to message me.

You got mail!

The system works. "

True say.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I'll just message them, you know cos I can do that and stuff and I'm nice so people usually reply, doesn't mean I'll get any further but you never know unless you try

wish I could

Those damn filters

"
I'll see you Birmingham I am more charming in person

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By *ENDAROOSCouple over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"I sit and wait and hope they message

This is where we are going wrong

I messaged you, think it was about your helmet.

Despite using the forums on and off for years, you thought I was a newbie. Bloody charming!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Be NIKE about it

Just Do It

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How do you go about pm'ing someone who you'd like to get to know a little more on the forums?

Do you flirt here first to see if they reciprocate? What about if you've not had much interaction with said person, just enjoy their posts, so have no idea if they are even aware of you?

Asking to a friend who is a little shy haha. "
forum flirting is the way i think. Other wise pm's just join the oecking line and may not get thru to yas!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"How do you go about pm'ing someone who you'd like to get to know a little more on the forums?

Do you flirt here first to see if they reciprocate? What about if you've not had much interaction with said person, just enjoy their posts, so have no idea if they are even aware of you?

Asking to a friend who is a little shy haha. forum flirting is the way i think. Other wise pm's just join the oecking line and may not get thru to yas!"

Pecking

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Go for it

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"PM them using a forum topic or reply to a post they have put up to gain a little confidence if you feel you need to first.

I can imagine you feeling nervous, I used too but from my point of view the forum members are a lovely talkative bunch and you may make lots of wonderful friends

I've been out of the scene for a bit. So this is like a new experience all over again. I rarely get crushes haha. I think that's why it's nerve wracking.

They are a lovely bunch, yourself included

. Perhaps I'm working myself up and overthinking it

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By *andsonjohnMan over a year ago

in the eye of the storm

"How do you go about pm'ing someone who you'd like to get to know a little more on the forums?

Do you flirt here first to see if they reciprocate? What about if you've not had much interaction with said person, just enjoy their posts, so have no idea if they are even aware of you?

Asking to a friend who is a little shy haha. "

I pm people occasionally but its not on the grounds of wanting to sleep with them . It's because they said something that resonated with me or to offer moral support .

I have spoken with you privately op but that's because I like you as a human being going off of your forum posts .liking someone off of there forum posts doesn't mean one would jump into bed with that person its a start but by no means is it anything more than that on them grounds I rarely interact privately because I find on these types of sites its assumed you want someone sexually if you talk to them . The same with my friends list if your on there your on there because as a human being I like you. although again I rarely message people on my friends list unless I suspect they may need to hear a friendly voice.

At heart I'm a odd ball and a loner who is very conscious about giving off the wrong signals or of being perceived as a pest or a burden that is why I really message anyone who I'm not sleeping with .

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By *lueWonderMan over a year ago

Preston.....ish

Personally I would send a PM but only after deliberating with myself for a considerable amount of time if its a good idea or not. Then I send the PM and hope for the best!

............ Still waiting

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By *aul1973HullMan over a year ago

East Hull

Just PM me, I'm unlikely to make the first move

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Just PM me, I'm unlikely to make the first move

Same here. I never make first contact.

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By *aul1973HullMan over a year ago

East Hull

"Just PM me, I'm unlikely to make the first move

Same here. I never make first contact."

That's us buggered before we even start

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I wait, patiently stalking my prey. I know I must use my wit and charm to woo them and will get just one chance. I watch for the ideal post then "reply privately" and enter their inbox. Once there I flirt my little cotton socks off.

Either that or I send a FAF.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Go to PM and then shake your head at their filters!!

Get your bum out, PB!

Will this result in a flood of PM's?

Affirmative

Noted

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By *ire_bladeMan over a year ago

Manchester

"I sit and wait and hope they message

This is where we are going wrong

I messaged you, think it was about your helmet.

Despite using the forums on and off for years, you thought I was a newbie. Bloody charming!

What can I say it's an age thing. Who are you again and nice arse by the way xx

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By *iss.HoneyWoman over a year ago

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"Send them a PM I ain't afraid

Haha... But you are The Honey. No bugger's saying no to you

I feel notorious. Alas, they do say no, so I send out my bees to sting them.

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By *ire_bladeMan over a year ago

Manchester

"I wait, patiently stalking my prey. I know I must use my wit and charm to woo them and will get just one chance. I watch for the ideal post then "reply privately" and enter their inbox. Once there I flirt my little cotton socks off.

Either that or I send a FAF."

True story

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By *iss.HoneyWoman over a year ago

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"Send them a PM I ain't afraid

Haha... But you are The Honey. No bugger's saying no to you

And yet she may say no to buggery

She may and often does.

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By *abs..Woman over a year ago

"I sit patiently and wait for them to message me.

You got mail! "

And wait ......

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By *4gnumprMan over a year ago

telford

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By *ire_bladeMan over a year ago

Manchester

"Just PM me, I'm unlikely to make the first move

Same here. I never make first contact."

Me ether. Hate being the sad single on here so I won't be the same....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Either that or I send a FAF."

If only i lived near the Bunny

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Normally flirt on here 1st see if our banter clicks

but if i fancy their knickers off I just direct message & tell them 'you, me bedroom now'

Oooooooh er I say sexy ass. Oh no havnt seen it yet. Quick PM me

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

You just check their profile and message, no? If you feel there's a match.

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By *alcon43Woman over a year ago

Paisley

Did you message them yet? We need a progress report.

Hope it goes well.

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By *pikeyMan over a year ago

chester

It be nice to get a pm come my way rather then me pm them, as the saying gose if you dont ask you dont get

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By *rrol.BMan over a year ago

Wrexham

"Guage reactions to the shameless flirting, take it to pm and ask. If it's a no, no dramas, no loss.

Press the send button, you've everything to gain, nowt to lose.

I can never tell if someone is really flirting or just doing that banter thing.

People need to be obvious and direct.

Errol, can I sit on your face, put my hands in the air and scream "wheeeeeeeeeeeee!"...?

See what I mean? So flipping vague!

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By *4gnumprMan over a year ago

telford

"How do you go about pm'ing someone who you'd like to get to know a little more on the forums?

Do you flirt here first to see if they reciprocate? What about if you've not had much interaction with said person, just enjoy their posts, so have no idea if they are even aware of you?

Asking to a friend who is a little shy

haha. "

Go for it,what have you too lose

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By *ink Panther.Woman over a year ago

Preston

"Errrrrrrrr just send a pm, I might have done that once or twice

Like the kissing to the ground thread?

That was inspired by my white knight, so none sent from there

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I stalk their posts, after a month I reply to their posts, 3 months later I would expect they get the hint and message me

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By *ohnnybadman666Man over a year ago

Warrington

"How do you go about pm'ing someone who you'd like to get to know a little more on the forums?

Do you flirt here first to see if they reciprocate? What about if you've not had much interaction with said person, just enjoy their posts, so have no idea if they are even aware of you?

Asking to a friend who is a little shy haha. "

Oh Angel, you should just send them a nice message saying their posting made you laugh/cry/think etc and then kick off a dialogue. A wink doesn't really cut it, go on, you can do it

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

So, have you sent it yet?

If not, you simply must. I can only imagine how annoying my incessant might get sometimes, but a) how else will you make contact with them, and b) you're not me

Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

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By *ENDAROOSCouple over a year ago

South West London / Surrey

"I sit and wait and hope they message

This is where we are going wrong

I messaged you, think it was about your helmet.

Despite using the forums on and off for years, you thought I was a newbie. Bloody charming!

What can I say it's an age thing. Who are you again and nice arse by the way xx"

*Flounces out of thread*

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Your just going to have to tell your friend, sorry but I'm taken

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I tend to just wait for someone to show an interest, very rarely make a first move.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

People get PMs on the back of their forum posts? Really?

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By *ire_bladeMan over a year ago

Manchester

"I sit and wait and hope they message

This is where we are going wrong

I messaged you, think it was about your helmet.

Despite using the forums on and off for years, you thought I was a newbie. Bloody charming!

What can I say it's an age thing. Who are you again and nice arse by the way xx

*Flounces out of thread*

Don't you wiggle that thing at me.... hang on what the fuck am I saying

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Did you message them yet? We need a progress report.

Hope it goes well. "

I've wussed out

. I think they have their eye on another lovely forumite. My dignity remains intact.... Except for writing the thread and letting every bugger know. As long as you remember I was asking for a friend

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By *igeiaWoman over a year ago

Bristol

"People get PMs on the back of their forum posts? Really?

Not all of us do. I like to think it's because of my draconian filters though.

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By *ire_bladeMan over a year ago

Manchester

"Did you message them yet? We need a progress report.

Hope it goes well.

I've wussed out

. I think they have their eye on another lovely forumite. My dignity remains intact.... Except for writing the thread and letting every bugger know. As long as you remember I was asking for a friend

Who is it ? I think I'd make a lovely Cupid

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Did you message them yet? We need a progress report.

Hope it goes well.

I've wussed out

. I think they have their eye on another lovely forumite. My dignity remains intact.... Except for writing the thread and letting every bugger know. As long as you remember I was asking for a friend

Aw that's it....all bets off

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By *ikeC81Man over a year ago

harrow

Well i would say pm them and ask

I have grown a pair of balls this week and have asked people and was told yes of course

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"People get PMs on the back of their forum posts? Really?

Not all of us do. I like to think it's because of my draconian filters though."

I don't have filters - I'm the best filter anyone could have. Repelling all comers

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Guage reactions to the shameless flirting, take it to pm and ask. If it's a no, no dramas, no loss.

Press the send button, you've everything to gain, nowt to lose.

I can never tell if someone is really flirting or just doing that banter thing.

People need to be obvious and direct.

Errol, can I sit on your face, put my hands in the air and scream "wheeeeeeeeeeeee!"...?

See what I mean? So flipping vague!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Did you message them yet? We need a progress report.

Hope it goes well.

I've wussed out

. I think they have their eye on another lovely forumite. My dignity remains intact.... Except for writing the thread and letting every bugger know. As long as you remember I was asking for a friend

Two things; first it's a swinging site -- he may have his eye on many another peep. That doesn't negate you being one. And secondly, you never know what is or isn't going on between people on this site.

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By *eliWoman over a year ago

"Did you message them yet? We need a progress report.

Hope it goes well.

I've wussed out

. I think they have their eye on another lovely forumite. My dignity remains intact.... Except for writing the thread and letting every bugger know. As long as you remember I was asking for a friend

Just because you might think they do, it doesn't necessarily mean they do or can't have their eye on more than one forumite. Best of luck with whatever you do anyway!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I sit patiently and wait for them to message me.

You got mail!

And wait ......

You got mail too!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Send them a PM I ain't afraid

Haha... But you are The Honey. No bugger's saying no to you

And yet she may say no to buggery

She may and often does.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Go to PM and then shake your head at their filters!!

Get your bum out, PB!

Will this result in a flood of PM's?

Affirmative

Noted

Phwoaaaar. (And sent in PM!)

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Who went UNLOS?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i have no qualms about pming someone -

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

And sending messages clearly doesn't work for me. Stick to what and who I know!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Who went UNLOS?

Bloody hell, Bunnyhop did!

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By *ire_bladeMan over a year ago

Manchester

"Who went UNLOS?

Omg that was bunny

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Who went UNLOS?

Omg that was bunny

Again

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Did you message them yet? We need a progress report.

Hope it goes well.

I've wussed out

. I think they have their eye on another lovely forumite. My dignity remains intact.... Except for writing the thread and letting every bugger know. As long as you remember I was asking for a friend

Just because you might think they do, it doesn't necessarily mean they do or can't have their eye on more than one forumite. Best of luck with whatever you do anyway! "

Snap

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By *ire_bladeMan over a year ago

Manchester

"And sending messages clearly doesn't work for me. Stick to what and who I know!

Your not sending them the right direction

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Did you message them yet? We need a progress report.

Hope it goes well.

I've wussed out

. I think they have their eye on another lovely forumite. My dignity remains intact.... Except for writing the thread and letting every bugger know. As long as you remember I was asking for a friend

Who is it ? I think I'd make a lovely Cupid

coffee ch oke - you in a little swaddling cloth and a bow and arrow - profile pic please

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Who went UNLOS?

Omg that was bunny

Again

this week is being strange

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"And sending messages clearly doesn't work for me. Stick to what and who I know!

Your not sending them the right direction

And which direction would you suggest I send my next PM in?

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By *ire_bladeMan over a year ago

Manchester

"Did you message them yet? We need a progress report.

Hope it goes well.

I've wussed out

. I think they have their eye on another lovely forumite. My dignity remains intact.... Except for writing the thread and letting every bugger know. As long as you remember I was asking for a friend

Who is it ? I think I'd make a lovely Cupid

coffee ch oke - you in a little swaddling cloth and a bow and arrow - profile pic please

Carfull what you wish for. Remember the pic of ruggers

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Who went UNLOS?

Omg that was bunny

Again

this week is being strange "

She's probably got stalker issues again

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Jeez oh that was the fastest PM to Unlos i've ever received!!!

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By *ire_bladeMan over a year ago

Manchester

"And sending messages clearly doesn't work for me. Stick to what and who I know!

Your not sending them the right direction

And which direction would you suggest I send my next PM in?

Pizza hut

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By *ikeC81Man over a year ago

harrow

"If I want to PM them, I PM them.

So do you pm asking if they are intreasted or do you ask do they want to play

This is what I struggle with - If I have met someone in person I can sometimes tell but don't want to ask and offend

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"And sending messages clearly doesn't work for me. Stick to what and who I know!

Your not sending them the right direction

And which direction would you suggest I send my next PM in?

Pizza hut

You know I had pepperoni pizza the other day and it was yummy

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Jeez oh that was the fastest PM to Unlos i've ever received!!!

It was your fault then huh?

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By *ire_bladeMan over a year ago

Manchester

"And sending messages clearly doesn't work for me. Stick to what and who I know!

Your not sending them the right direction

And which direction would you suggest I send my next PM in?

Pizza hut

You know I had pepperoni pizza the other day and it was yummy

I'll book a table

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Dont mention pizza here mmmmmmm. I need it right now!! Texas bbq

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If I want to PM them, I PM them.

So do you pm asking if they are intreasted or do you ask do they want to play

This is what I struggle with - If I have met someone in person I can sometimes tell but don't want to ask and offend "

I wouldn't ask either of those things straight away. I'd just make contact and see where it goes. I don't like being asked straight off if I'm interested. That's something that takes time.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If I want to PM them, I PM them.

So do you pm asking if they are intreasted or do you ask do they want to play

This is what I struggle with - If I have met someone in person I can sometimes tell but don't want to ask and offend "

If *I* am interested in actually playing, I would state so directly when talking on PM, whether I messaged them or vice versa. If I am not interested in play, I would just chit chat. If I had said I was interested in play previously but had changed my mind, I would say so directly.

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By *abs..Woman over a year ago

Babs is no longer waiting

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Did you message them yet? We need a progress report.

Hope it goes well.

I've wussed out

. I think they have their eye on another lovely forumite. My dignity remains intact.... Except for writing the thread and letting every bugger know. As long as you remember I was asking for a friend

Just because you might think they do, it doesn't necessarily mean they do or can't have their eye on more than one forumite. Best of luck with whatever you do anyway! "

Thank you lovely

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Jeez oh that was the fastest PM to Unlos i've ever received!!!

It was your fault then huh?

Never even got a chance to reply

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Did you message them yet? We need a progress report.

Hope it goes well.

I've wussed out

. I think they have their eye on another lovely forumite. My dignity remains intact.... Except for writing the thread and letting every bugger know. As long as you remember I was asking for a friend

Who is it ? I think I'd make a lovely Cupid

coffee ch oke - you in a little swaddling cloth and a bow and arrow - profile pic please

Carfull what you wish for. Remember the pic of ruggers

just warn me - so i can put down the brew

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I very rarely send a PM to a Forumite, I always respond though.

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By *ikeC81Man over a year ago

harrow

"If I want to PM them, I PM them.

So do you pm asking if they are intreasted or do you ask do they want to play

This is what I struggle with - If I have met someone in person I can sometimes tell but don't want to ask and offend

Get you on forum or pm - see I just tend to flirt round play subject - maybe talking about loads of other things and then I kinda don't even get round to asking

I suppose in club scene - I feel a bit more comfy, and i say do you fancy seeing what is happening

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By *HaRiFMan over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

"If I want to PM them, I PM them.

This

The worst they can do, is ignore it or tell you to buggar off.

That's the fear haha

I'm sure no one could ignore that smile.

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By *ikeC81Man over a year ago

harrow

"If I want to PM them, I PM them.

So do you pm asking if they are intreasted or do you ask do they want to play

This is what I struggle with - If I have met someone in person I can sometimes tell but don't want to ask and offend

I wouldn't ask either of those things straight away. I'd just make contact and see where it goes. I don't like being asked straight off if I'm interested. That's something that takes time. "

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By *ob198XaMan over a year ago

teleford

For the record I am always happy to receive a PM, always brightens my day to see the mail box lit up, though more often than not my excitement is short lived when I realise its from another male

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By *ikeC81Man over a year ago

harrow

"For the record I am always happy to receive a PM, always brightens my day to see the mail box lit up, though more often than not my excitement is short lived when I realise its from another male

Filters

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By *iss.HoneyWoman over a year ago

...

"Jeez oh that was the fastest PM to Unlos i've ever received!!!

It was your fault then huh?

She'll be back later

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By *ire_bladeMan over a year ago

Manchester

"Did you message them yet? We need a progress report.

Hope it goes well.

I've wussed out

. I think they have their eye on another lovely forumite. My dignity remains intact.... Except for writing the thread and letting every bugger know. As long as you remember I was asking for a friend

Who is it ? I think I'd make a lovely Cupid

coffee ch oke - you in a little swaddling cloth and a bow and arrow - profile pic please

Carfull what you wish for. Remember the pic of ruggers

just warn me - so i can put down the brew

What and spoil my fun not a chance

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Jeez oh that was the fastest PM to Unlos i've ever received!!!

It was your fault then huh?

She'll be back later "

Real world and all that normal stuff

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By *iss.HoneyWoman over a year ago

...

"Jeez oh that was the fastest PM to Unlos i've ever received!!!

It was your fault then huh?

She'll be back later

Real world and all that normal stuff "

Probably just not enjoying all the attention......wait.....

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By *ikeC81Man over a year ago

harrow

I must say actually if someone messaged me and said fancy meeting for a play, I would be taken a bit back

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Jeez oh that was the fastest PM to Unlos i've ever received!!!

It was your fault then huh?

She'll be back later

Real world and all that normal stuff

Probably just not enjoying all the attention......wait....."

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By *iss.HoneyWoman over a year ago

...

"Jeez oh that was the fastest PM to Unlos i've ever received!!!

It was your fault then huh?

She'll be back later

Real world and all that normal stuff

Probably just not enjoying all the attention......wait.....

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Jeez oh that was the fastest PM to Unlos i've ever received!!!

It was your fault then huh?

Never even got a chance to reply

I blame your butt!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Jeez oh that was the fastest PM to Unlos i've ever received!!!

It was your fault then huh?

She'll be back later

Real world and all that normal stuff

Probably just not enjoying all the attention......wait.....

We are such good girls

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Who went UNLOS?

Omg that was bunny

Again

this week is being strange

She's probably got stalker issues again"

Would that maybe relate to the attention she apparently didn't want but didn't take kindly to any suggestions offered.....?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"I must say actually if someone messaged me and said fancy meeting for a play, I would be taken a bit back

I would be a little more subtle than that! Haha.... I don't want them ruinning off

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Jeez oh that was the fastest PM to Unlos i've ever received!!!

It was your fault then huh?

She'll be back later

Real world and all that normal stuff

Probably just not enjoying all the attention......wait....."

Oh you got there before me you lil minx!

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By *iss.HoneyWoman over a year ago

...

"Jeez oh that was the fastest PM to Unlos i've ever received!!!

It was your fault then huh?

She'll be back later

Real world and all that normal stuff

Probably just not enjoying all the attention......wait.....

Oh you got there before me you lil minx!"

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Answering the OP's question I generally send a message if I like someone, will be light hearted banter on the back of something they've posted.

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By *ohnnybadman666Man over a year ago

Warrington

"I must say actually if someone messaged me and said fancy meeting for a play, I would be taken a bit back

I would be a little more subtle than that! Haha.... I don't want them ruinning off

Tell me or someone else and let them be the go between, Angel... wuss no more.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I must say actually if someone messaged me and said fancy meeting for a play, I would be taken a bit back

I would be a little more subtle than that! Haha.... I don't want them ruinning off

Tell me or someone else and let them be the go between, Angel... wuss no more."

Jeez. This isn't the playground

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Fs, I have an hour away watching the great Sir Mo' and I'm missing the drama llamas.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I must say actually if someone messaged me and said fancy meeting for a play, I would be taken a bit back

I would be a little more subtle than that! Haha.... I don't want them ruinning off

Tell me or someone else and let them be the go between, Angel... wuss no more.

Jeez. This isn't the playground

Hmmmmm....me thinks for more than one reason it is at times.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I must say actually if someone messaged me and said fancy meeting for a play, I would be taken a bit back

I would be a little more subtle than that! Haha.... I don't want them ruinning off

Tell me or someone else and let them be the go between, Angel... wuss no more.

Jeez. This isn't the playground

I freaking love kiss chase

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By *ikeC81Man over a year ago

harrow

Lol so did I pmsl

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I must say actually if someone messaged me and said fancy meeting for a play, I would be taken a bit back

I would be a little more subtle than that! Haha.... I don't want them ruinning off

Tell me or someone else and let them be the go between, Angel... wuss no more.

Jeez. This isn't the playground

I freaking love kiss chase

I would too if I could run fast enough to get away from the sleazy ones

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Fs, I have an hour away watching the great Sir Mo' and I'm missing the drama llamas. "

Was good wasn't it? ?

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Jeez oh that was the fastest PM to Unlos i've ever received!!!

It was your fault then huh?

Never even got a chance to reply

I blame your butt!

It scares many off

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I must say actually if someone messaged me and said fancy meeting for a play, I would be taken a bit back

I would be a little more subtle than that! Haha.... I don't want them ruinning off

Tell me or someone else and let them be the go between, Angel... wuss no more.

Jeez. This isn't the playground

I freaking love kiss chase

I would too if I could run fast enough to get away from the sleazy ones

Oh I kneed them in the nuts

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Jeez oh that was the fastest PM to Unlos i've ever received!!!

It was your fault then huh?

Never even got a chance to reply

I blame your butt!

It scares many off

Lies!! Damn lies!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Come on gang, there's a nice vibe tonight, let's not fuck it up

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Ok looking at this thread think my hotlist just got even hotter!! Might need to call the fire services

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Fs, I have an hour away watching the great Sir Mo' and I'm missing the drama llamas.

Was good wasn't it? ?

Incredible to witness, the guy is a machine. And a beautiful moment to watch his lap of honour with his kids.

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

Grow-a-pair.

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By *ay19720Man over a year ago

Ashford kent

"Answering the OP's question I generally send a message if I like someone, will be light hearted banter on the back of something they've posted."

Snap

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By *lem-H-FandangoMan over a year ago

salisbury

"Fs, I have an hour away watching the great Sir Mo' and I'm missing the drama llamas.

Was good wasn't it? ?

Incredible to witness, the guy is a machine. And a beautiful moment to watch his lap of honour with his kids.

And in other news...I would totally tap his wife! Hubba hubba!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Come on gang, there's a nice vibe tonight, let's not fuck it up

Huh?

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By (user no longer on site) OP over a year ago

"Grow-a-pair."

I'm a female, so I'd rather not

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Fs, I have an hour away watching the great Sir Mo' and I'm missing the drama llamas.

Was good wasn't it? ?

Incredible to witness, the guy is a machine. And a beautiful moment to watch his lap of honour with his kids.

And in other news...I would totally tap his wife! Hubba hubba!

Agreed

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