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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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In the end..... I just don't bother reading.... ...
I figure that if someone is going to check and monitor all those things, I'd be treading on bloody eggshells all the time.... what happened to the list of likes being more important?  |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"In the end..... I just don't bother reading.... ...
I figure that if someone is going to check and monitor all those things, I'd be treading on bloody eggshells all the time.... what happened to the list of likes being more important? "
everyone is allowed preferences |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In the end..... I just don't bother reading.... ...
I figure that if someone is going to check and monitor all those things, I'd be treading on bloody eggshells all the time.... what happened to the list of likes being more important? "
They got constantly contacted by guys/girls who didn't fit in with what they wanted, therefore a list of dislikes became more important to display than a need for likes.
It's not the profile owners fault, it's just what they've experienced from people who contacted them.
My advice would be to block them and that way you'll never have to view it again. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"In the end..... I just don't bother reading.... ...
I figure that if someone is going to check and monitor all those things, I'd be treading on bloody eggshells all the time.... what happened to the list of likes being more important?
They got constantly contacted by guys/girls who didn't fit in with what they wanted, therefore a list of dislikes became more important to display than a need for likes.
It's not the profile owners fault, it's just what they've experienced from people who contacted them.
My advice would be to block them and that way you'll never have to view it again. "
and here speaks the voice of reason, thankyou xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In the end..... I just don't bother reading.... ...
I figure that if someone is going to check and monitor all those things, I'd be treading on bloody eggshells all the time.... what happened to the list of likes being more important? "
Your profile says you wont meet bi men OP. Thats your preference. Others are allowed preferences too. Its a funny old world isnt it? |
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We struggle with this. We're sorely tempted to write a list of things that are deal breakers for us at the top of o urban profile due to the number of people contacting us who have clearly not read our fairly brief information. We don't kiss our meets and I (f) don't like to receive oral, we won't interact with a couple's profile with no pictures of the guy or respond to messages with pictures of genitals attached. Four fairly straightforward and easy to understand things but the majority of our contact comes from people who disregard them.
We haven't put the list at the top because we don't like negativity but we can well understand why people do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In the end..... I just don't bother reading.... ...
I figure that if someone is going to check and monitor all those things, I'd be treading on bloody eggshells all the time.... what happened to the list of likes being more important?
They got constantly contacted by guys/girls who didn't fit in with what they wanted, therefore a list of dislikes became more important to display than a need for likes.
It's not the profile owners fault, it's just what they've experienced from people who contacted them.
My advice would be to block them and that way you'll never have to view it again. "
What he said ^^^^^^^  |
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"In the end..... I just don't bother reading.... ...
I figure that if someone is going to check and monitor all those things, I'd be treading on bloody eggshells all the time.... what happened to the list of likes being more important? "
Because stupid people don't read past the first few lines and then go picture hunting. So rules are there to deture those said eediats. Works well for the most part so I can understand the logic behind it. And if that's how someone wants to set up their profile then fine. If you don't like,dont read and don't message them. #MoveOn  |
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"We struggle with this. We're sorely tempted to write a list of things that are deal breakers for us at the top of o urban profile due to the number of people contacting us who have clearly not read our fairly brief information. We don't kiss our meets and I (f) don't like to receive oral, we won't interact with a couple's profile with no pictures of the guy or respond to messages with pictures of genitals attached. Four fairly straightforward and easy to understand things but the majority of our contact comes from people who disregard them.
We haven't put the list at the top because we don't like negativity but we can well understand why people do."
And there you have it |
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By *eerobCouple
over a year ago
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I don't aren't always bad, for instance...
I don't wear a bra
I don't erar knickers
I don't always shut changing room curtains properly
I don't wear swimming costumes abroad
I don't have tan lines
I don't have pubic hair...
Xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Because most people have a very lengthy list of likes or things that they are into so it would be easier to say what they don't like and what they don't do.
Also personally we got sick of every single person messaging asking the questions so we answered the majority of them in our profile.
It also makes it easier for potential meets as they can have a read of our profile and see if they are ok with our rules and if they aren't they can move on.
If you don't like it ignore it and block them. It really is that easy. It's not like they are personally attacking you. It is their profile to type whatever they want in that space.
~Mia |
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"In the end..... I just don't bother reading.... ...
I figure that if someone is going to check and monitor all those things, I'd be treading on bloody eggshells all the time.... what happened to the list of likes being more important?
They got constantly contacted by guys/girls who didn't fit in with what they wanted, therefore a list of dislikes became more important to display than a need for likes.
It's not the profile owners fault, it's just what they've experienced from people who contacted them.
My advice would be to block them and that way you'll never have to view it again. "
This guy knows his s@#t. Well done sir |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"In the end..... I just don't bother reading.... ...
I figure that if someone is going to check and monitor all those things, I'd be treading on bloody eggshells all the time.... what happened to the list of likes being more important?
Your profile says you wont meet bi men OP. Thats your preference. Others are allowed preferences too. Its a funny old world isnt it?"
Hardly an endless list is it dear  |
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"In the end..... I just don't bother reading.... ...
I figure that if someone is going to check and monitor all those things, I'd be treading on bloody eggshells all the time.... what happened to the list of likes being more important? everyone is allowed preferences"
Apparently not  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't aren't always bad, for instance...
I don't wear a bra
I don't erar knickers
I don't always shut changing room curtains properly
I don't wear swimming costumes abroad
I don't have tan lines
I don't have pubic hair...
Xx"
The alternative "don't" list is far more appealing. I guess it's about perspective... |
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"In the end..... I just don't bother reading.... ...
I figure that if someone is going to check and monitor all those things, I'd be treading on bloody eggshells all the time.... what happened to the list of likes being more important? "
OP. You should have a look at my thread and you'll have all the answers you need. Way too long is the title . Hope it helps |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"In the end..... I just don't bother reading.... ...
I figure that if someone is going to check and monitor all those things, I'd be treading on bloody eggshells all the time.... what happened to the list of likes being more important? everyone is allowed preferences"
Yep... and a preference is what people prefer isn't it? Not what people don't want? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"In the end..... I just don't bother reading.... ...
I figure that if someone is going to check and monitor all those things, I'd be treading on bloody eggshells all the time.... what happened to the list of likes being more important?
They got constantly contacted by guys/girls who didn't fit in with what they wanted, therefore a list of dislikes became more important to display than a need for likes.
It's not the profile owners fault, it's just what they've experienced from people who contacted them.
My advice would be to block them and that way you'll never have to view it again. "
Thanks for the sensible answer and therefore giving me a better reasoning as to why it happens... much appreciated! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"In the end..... I just don't bother reading.... ...
I figure that if someone is going to check and monitor all those things, I'd be treading on bloody eggshells all the time.... what happened to the list of likes being more important?
They got constantly contacted by guys/girls who didn't fit in with what they wanted, therefore a list of dislikes became more important to display than a need for likes.
It's not the profile owners fault, it's just what they've experienced from people who contacted them.
My advice would be to block them and that way you'll never have to view it again.
Thanks for the sensible answer and therefore giving me a better reasoning as to why it happens... much appreciated! "
You're welcome. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"We struggle with this. We're sorely tempted to write a list of things that are deal breakers for us at the top of o urban profile due to the number of people contacting us who have clearly not read our fairly brief information. We don't kiss our meets and I (f) don't like to receive oral, we won't interact with a couple's profile with no pictures of the guy or respond to messages with pictures of genitals attached. Four fairly straightforward and easy to understand things but the majority of our contact comes from people who disregard them.
We haven't put the list at the top because we don't like negativity but we can well understand why people do."
Another sensible answer.... thank you for your explanation |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Because most people have a very lengthy list of likes or things that they are into so it would be easier to say what they don't like and what they don't do.
Also personally we got sick of every single person messaging asking the questions so we answered the majority of them in our profile.
It also makes it easier for potential meets as they can have a read of our profile and see if they are ok with our rules and if they aren't they can move on.
If you don't like it ignore it and block them. It really is that easy. It's not like they are personally attacking you. It is their profile to type whatever they want in that space.
~Mia"
Thank you for the sensible explanations part of your answer, appreciate the reasoning and your experience in it.
As for the last part.... I'd never indicated it was a personal attack, however I've been in relationships where the list of "donts" is more important than the list of "let's do"......
And preferences are what people prefer..... not what they don't want right? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"In the end..... I just don't bother reading.... ...
I figure that if someone is going to check and monitor all those things, I'd be treading on bloody eggshells all the time.... what happened to the list of likes being more important? everyone is allowed preferences
Apparently not "
Just saying..... there must have been some proper arseholes messaging then for someone to become so negative.... and people are allowed opinions too right? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"In the end..... I just don't bother reading.... ...
I figure that if someone is going to check and monitor all those things, I'd be treading on bloody eggshells all the time.... what happened to the list of likes being more important?
OP. You should have a look at my thread and you'll have all the answers you need. Way too long is the title . Hope it helps "
I think I will..... although there's not a long list of fonts there right???
I like how people have responded in one of two ways.... moaning at me for having an opinion or explaining why they have done exactly the donts list.... the explanations gave me reasoning. |
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"Because most people have a very lengthy list of likes or things that they are into so it would be easier to say what they don't like and what they don't do.
Also personally we got sick of every single person messaging asking the questions so we answered the majority of them in our profile.
It also makes it easier for potential meets as they can have a read of our profile and see if they are ok with our rules and if they aren't they can move on.
If you don't like it ignore it and block them. It really is that easy. It's not like they are personally attacking you. It is their profile to type whatever they want in that space.
~Mia
Thank you for the sensible explanations part of your answer, appreciate the reasoning and your experience in it.
As for the last part.... I'd never indicated it was a personal attack, however I've been in relationships where the list of "donts" is more important than the list of "let's do"......
And preferences are what people prefer..... not what they don't want right?"
So your ex partner had a long list of 'donts?' And you came on here thinking everyone on this site would be up for anything? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Because most people have a very lengthy list of likes or things that they are into so it would be easier to say what they don't like and what they don't do.
Also personally we got sick of every single person messaging asking the questions so we answered the majority of them in our profile.
It also makes it easier for potential meets as they can have a read of our profile and see if they are ok with our rules and if they aren't they can move on.
If you don't like it ignore it and block them. It really is that easy. It's not like they are personally attacking you. It is their profile to type whatever they want in that space.
~Mia
Thank you for the sensible explanations part of your answer, appreciate the reasoning and your experience in it.
As for the last part.... I'd never indicated it was a personal attack, however I've been in relationships where the list of "donts" is more important than the list of "let's do"......
And preferences are what people prefer..... not what they don't want right?
So your ex partner had a long list of 'donts?' And you came on here thinking everyone on this site would be up for anything? "
No, you made an assumption.....
As I've put in other responses, I'm thankful of the explanations people have given |
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"In the end..... I just don't bother reading.... ...
I figure that if someone is going to check and monitor all those things, I'd be treading on bloody eggshells all the time.... what happened to the list of likes being more important?
OP. You should have a look at my thread and you'll have all the answers you need. Way too long is the title . Hope it helps
I think I will..... although there's not a long list of fonts there right???
I like how people have responded in one of two ways.... moaning at me for having an opinion or explaining why they have done exactly the donts list.... the explanations gave me reasoning."
Holding a different opinion to you isn't moaning though. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"In the end..... I just don't bother reading.... ...
I figure that if someone is going to check and monitor all those things, I'd be treading on bloody eggshells all the time.... what happened to the list of likes being more important? everyone is allowed preferences
Apparently not
Just saying..... there must have been some proper arseholes messaging then for someone to become so negative.... and people are allowed opinions too right? "
I wouldn't go so far as to say it was a barrage of arseholes, but if you get a constant stream of unsuitable messages, you're going to get pretty fucked off, pretty quickly. So, something has to change to stop it and the obvious thing is a profile text. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"In the end..... I just don't bother reading.... ...
I figure that if someone is going to check and monitor all those things, I'd be treading on bloody eggshells all the time.... what happened to the list of likes being more important?
OP. You should have a look at my thread and you'll have all the answers you need. Way too long is the title . Hope it helps
I think I will..... although there's not a long list of fonts there right???
I like how people have responded in one of two ways.... moaning at me for having an opinion or explaining why they have done exactly the donts list.... the explanations gave me reasoning.
Holding a different opinion to you isn't moaning though."
I agree.... your opinion was different and not a moan... |
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"In the end..... I just don't bother reading.... ...
I figure that if someone is going to check and monitor all those things, I'd be treading on bloody eggshells all the time.... what happened to the list of likes being more important? everyone is allowed preferences
Apparently not
Just saying..... there must have been some proper arseholes messaging then for someone to become so negative.... and people are allowed opinions too right?
I wouldn't go so far as to say it was a barrage of arseholes, but if you get a constant stream of unsuitable messages, you're going to get pretty fucked off, pretty quickly. So, something has to change to stop it and the obvious thing is a profile text. "
Yes! When you receive your umpteenth message saying how much they love your profile attaching a close up of someone's genitals explaining how they love giving a woman prolonged oral and lots of kissing its very tempting to click on caps lock and type a ranty, rules list. |
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"Because most people have a very lengthy list of likes or things that they are into so it would be easier to say what they don't like and what they don't do.
Also personally we got sick of every single person messaging asking the questions so we answered the majority of them in our profile.
It also makes it easier for potential meets as they can have a read of our profile and see if they are ok with our rules and if they aren't they can move on.
If you don't like it ignore it and block them. It really is that easy. It's not like they are personally attacking you. It is their profile to type whatever they want in that space.
~Mia
Thank you for the sensible explanations part of your answer, appreciate the reasoning and your experience in it.
As for the last part.... I'd never indicated it was a personal attack, however I've been in relationships where the list of "donts" is more important than the list of "let's do"......
And preferences are what people prefer..... not what they don't want right?
So your ex partner had a long list of 'donts?' And you came on here thinking everyone on this site would be up for anything?
No, you made an assumption.....
As I've put in other responses, I'm thankful of the explanations people have given "
I didnt assume anything. I simply quoted your words and asked a question |
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By (user no longer on site)
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An old bdsm trick was to write out a list on a bit of paper. Likes and hard limits.
Both do it and exchange the list at the exact same time. This means the other person cant tailor their responses to you.
The problem with putting up a list of things you like and dont like is.... people can use it to lie to you. |
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"Because most people have a very lengthy list of likes or things that they are into so it would be easier to say what they don't like and what they don't do.
Also personally we got sick of every single person messaging asking the questions so we answered the majority of them in our profile.
It also makes it easier for potential meets as they can have a read of our profile and see if they are ok with our rules and if they aren't they can move on.
If you don't like it ignore it and block them. It really is that easy. It's not like they are personally attacking you. It is their profile to type whatever they want in that space.
~Mia
Thank you for the sensible explanations part of your answer, appreciate the reasoning and your experience in it.
As for the last part.... I'd never indicated it was a personal attack, however I've been in relationships where the list of "donts" is more important than the list of "let's do"......
And preferences are what people prefer..... not what they don't want right?"
No I'm not saying you did but it does come across that way.
And I think on sites like this the donts can be more important than the dos as we have a relatively short and reasonable list of donts and are flexible on everything else (mostly) at the end of the day the dos and donts are what will make you compatible or not and it is easier to say what you don't like most of the time so we chose the easy route otherwise our profile would be like a book.
Also saves a lot of confusion.
~Mia |
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"In the end..... I just don't bother reading.... ...
I figure that if someone is going to check and monitor all those things, I'd be treading on bloody eggshells all the time.... what happened to the list of likes being more important?
They got constantly contacted by guys/girls who didn't fit in with what they wanted, therefore a list of dislikes became more important to display than a need for likes.
It's not the profile owners fault, it's just what they've experienced from people who contacted them.
My advice would be to block them and that way you'll never have to view it again. "
This ,its necessary unfortunately for those who get so many messages .
Use it as a filter op
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Because most people have a very lengthy list of likes or things that they are into so it would be easier to say what they don't like and what they don't do.
Also personally we got sick of every single person messaging asking the questions so we answered the majority of them in our profile.
It also makes it easier for potential meets as they can have a read of our profile and see if they are ok with our rules and if they aren't they can move on.
If you don't like it ignore it and block them. It really is that easy. It's not like they are personally attacking you. It is their profile to type whatever they want in that space.
~Mia
Thank you for the sensible explanations part of your answer, appreciate the reasoning and your experience in it.
As for the last part.... I'd never indicated it was a personal attack, however I've been in relationships where the list of "donts" is more important than the list of "let's do"......
And preferences are what people prefer..... not what they don't want right?
No I'm not saying you did but it does come across that way.
And I think on sites like this the donts can be more important than the dos as we have a relatively short and reasonable list of donts and are flexible on everything else (mostly) at the end of the day the dos and donts are what will make you compatible or not and it is easier to say what you don't like most of the time so we chose the easy route otherwise our profile would be like a book.
Also saves a lot of confusion.
~Mia"
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"An old bdsm trick was to write out a list on a bit of paper. Likes and hard limits.
Both do it and exchange the list at the exact same time. This means the other person cant tailor their responses to you.
The problem with putting up a list of things you like and dont like is.... people can use it to lie to you."
A good point and one id not considered! |
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"In the end..... I just don't bother reading.... ...
I figure that if someone is going to check and monitor all those things, I'd be treading on bloody eggshells all the time.... what happened to the list of likes being more important? everyone is allowed preferences
Apparently not
Just saying..... there must have been some proper arseholes messaging then for someone to become so negative.... and people are allowed opinions too right? "
That's the point mate. They've got to the stage where enough is enough so hence the dont's. Dont's are very rarely positive so not much can be done on that front. Oh yes of course. |
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"In the end..... I just don't bother reading.... ...
I figure that if someone is going to check and monitor all those things, I'd be treading on bloody eggshells all the time.... what happened to the list of likes being more important?
OP. You should have a look at my thread and you'll have all the answers you need. Way too long is the title . Hope it helps
I think I will..... although there's not a long list of fonts there right???
I like how people have responded in one of two ways.... moaning at me for having an opinion or explaining why they have done exactly the donts list.... the explanations gave me reasoning."
You'll have to have a look and see lol.
Well I think it maybe one of 2 things. Their bored if this type of thread so reply in a blunt way or they feel the need to explain themselves as to appeal to the masses. Personally I reply how I like. I try to give a reason though |
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In typical Soxy style I was about too be predictably flippant about the thread title but I suppose it is possible to write an endless list on a nimbus strip....
So I'll say fuck all ...... |
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"In the end..... I just don't bother reading.... ...
I figure that if someone is going to check and monitor all those things, I'd be treading on bloody eggshells all the time.... what happened to the list of likes being more important? everyone is allowed preferences
Apparently not
Just saying..... there must have been some proper arseholes messaging then for someone to become so negative.... and people are allowed opinions too right?
I wouldn't go so far as to say it was a barrage of arseholes, but if you get a constant stream of unsuitable messages, you're going to get pretty fucked off, pretty quickly. So, something has to change to stop it and the obvious thing is a profile text. "
And there you have it. Case and thread closed. Give yourself a pat on the back lad |
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"In the end..... I just don't bother reading.... ...
I figure that if someone is going to check and monitor all those things, I'd be treading on bloody eggshells all the time.... what happened to the list of likes being more important? everyone is allowed preferences
Apparently not
Just saying..... there must have been some proper arseholes messaging then for someone to become so negative.... and people are allowed opinions too right?
I wouldn't go so far as to say it was a barrage of arseholes, but if you get a constant stream of unsuitable messages, you're going to get pretty fucked off, pretty quickly. So, something has to change to stop it and the obvious thing is a profile text.
Yes! When you receive your umpteenth message saying how much they love your profile attaching a close up of someone's genitals explaining how they love giving a woman prolonged oral and lots of kissing its very tempting to click on caps lock and type a ranty, rules list."
As I did and got slaughtered for it by a few. Do I care. Nah lol |
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"Because most people have a very lengthy list of likes or things that they are into so it would be easier to say what they don't like and what they don't do.
Also personally we got sick of every single person messaging asking the questions so we answered the majority of them in our profile.
It also makes it easier for potential meets as they can have a read of our profile and see if they are ok with our rules and if they aren't they can move on.
If you don't like it ignore it and block them. It really is that easy. It's not like they are personally attacking you. It is their profile to type whatever they want in that space.
~Mia
Thank you for the sensible explanations part of your answer, appreciate the reasoning and your experience in it.
As for the last part.... I'd never indicated it was a personal attack, however I've been in relationships where the list of "donts" is more important than the list of "let's do"......
And preferences are what people prefer..... not what they don't want right?
No I'm not saying you did but it does come across that way.
And I think on sites like this the donts can be more important than the dos as we have a relatively short and reasonable list of donts and are flexible on everything else (mostly) at the end of the day the dos and donts are what will make you compatible or not and it is easier to say what you don't like most of the time so we chose the easy route otherwise our profile would be like a book.
Also saves a lot of confusion.
~Mia"
And most can't or choose not to read at least 4 bloody lines..never mind a book. |
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