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Never mind the physical - what's your fave personality trait?
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By *dam1971 OP Man
over a year ago
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I think we've all got our scale of physically stunning to ugly, we've all been in that position where someone is so absolutely stunning that you want to write a poem, or cry, or jump on them.
But once the initial attraction is over, what bits of their personality do you look for?
Confidence is a common one, sense of humour is another, but what do these things mean? Humour is especially tricky as it can be very different, there are plenty of comedy shows that I would rather wash the dishes than watch.
Lay back on the couch here, close your eyes and reveal all to the group. We're here for you. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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if im with someone im relaxed enough to giggle with - i like that - equally if i can be happy in each others quietness that is good also - so long as i dont have to be on my guard to mind what i say and upset them and can just be myself - all good |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I think we've all got our scale of physically stunning to ugly, we've all been in that position where someone is so absolutely stunning that you want to write a poem, or cry, or jump on them.
But once the initial attraction is over, what bits of their personality do you look for?
Confidence is a common one, sense of humour is another, but what do these things mean? Humour is especially tricky as it can be very different, there are plenty of comedy shows that I would rather wash the dishes than watch.
Lay back on the couch here, close your eyes and reveal all to the group. We're here for you."
Brains for me (not in a hungry zombie sort of way). I'm a geek. I enjoy interesting, intelligent discourse. My sense of humour is pretty sarcastic and it takes a certain type of brain to get me. (Also the patience to politely point out when I'm over-geeking is handy; or people tend to find themselves on the wrong end of a two hour lecture regarding the finer detail of Tudor court intrigues or a one woman roadshow about the Battle of Trafalgar.) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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For me is some one i can have a chuckle with , intelligence the ability to hold a conversation and not just naughty stuff . Confidence and being able to laugh at ones self and with others .  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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As much as looks are a big factor...shallow I know! It's the ability to converse for me, love humour and someone that doesn't take themselves too serious  but on the flip side as per a previous post the ability to be comfy in someone's company without speaking....ideal! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Personality is key. Good fun with a good imagination and intelligence. Someone who does not talk pointless shite about soaps, big brother, love island etc. Physically a nice smile and fun. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Someone who can laugh at themselves as well as make me laugh. Be able to hold a good conversation and not just about naughty stuff. Empathetic, I like a man that cares about people. And a family man, someone who puts his family at the top of his priorities. And lastly gentlemanly conduct, if he treats me and my children with respect I like that x |
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Kindness and honesty are very important to me but I also look for people who can engage my brain. That's very difficult to describe succinctly but if you have an enquiring and open mind, a reasonable level of intelligence and a willingness to converse about anything and everything, no matter how 'weird' or deep then I find that trait very attractive. |
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"I think we've all got our scale of physically stunning to ugly, we've all been in that position where someone is so absolutely stunning that you want to write a poem, or cry, or jump on them.
But once the initial attraction is over, what bits of their personality do you look for?
Confidence is a common one, sense of humour is another, but what do these things mean? Humour is especially tricky as it can be very different, there are plenty of comedy shows that I would rather wash the dishes than watch.
Lay back on the couch here, close your eyes and reveal all to the group. We're here for you."
Chemistry ... it surpasses the physical and included being able to chat and joke with a prospective partner, and lasts long after the initial orgasm  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's the whole person that works not just one trait...
Generosity of spirit kindness empathy fun to be around smart sassy intellectual caring etc...
We will all say similar because we all usually seek the positives in others.
Take any one trait away from anybody and they are immediately someone different. Concentrate on any one trait and miss the whole person.
This is almost the phsycological equivalent of kiss suck fuck or run.
Those things that attract us do not exist in isolation they are part of our very being.....
And just which character trait would I ever identify with. I can't answer that in one or two words..
we are all more than the sum of our parts...
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By (user no longer on site)
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It's the whole person that works not just one trait...
Generosity of spirit kindness empathy fun to be around smart sassy intellectual caring etc...
We will all say similar because we all usually seek the positives in others.
Take any one trait away from anybody and they are immediately someone different. Concentrate on any one trait and miss the whole person.
This is almost the phsycological equivalent of kiss suck fuck or run.
Those things that attract us do not exist in isolation they are part of our very being.....
And just which character trait would I ever identify with. I can't answer that in one or two words..
we are all more than the sum of our parts...
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A poet and a scholar |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Active
Adaptable
Admirable
Adventurous
Agreeable
Alert
Allocentric
Amiable
Anticipative
Appreciative
Articulate
Aspiring
Athletic
Attractive
Balanced
Benevolent
Brilliant
Calm
Capable
Captivating
Caring
Challenging
Charismatic
Charming
Cheerful
Clean
Clear-headed
Clever
Colorful
Companionly
Compassionate
Conciliatory
Confident
Conscientious
Considerate
Constant
Contemplative
Cooperative
Courageous
Courteous
Creative
Cultured
Curious
Daring
Debonair
Decent
Decisive
Dedicated
Deep
Dignified
Directed
Disciplined
Discreet
Dramatic
Dutiful
Dynamic
Earnest
Ebullient
Educated
Efficient
Elegant
Eloquent
Empathetic
Energetic
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Esthetic
Exciting
Extraordinary
Fair
Faithful
Farsighted
Felicific
Firm
Flexible
Focused
Forecful
Forgiving
Forthright
Freethinking
Friendly
Fun-loving
Gallant
Generous
Gentle
Genuine
Good-natured
Gracious
Hardworking
Healthy
Hearty
Helpful
Herioc
High-minded
Honest
Honorable
Humble
Humorous
Idealistic
Imaginative
Impressive
Incisive
Incorruptible
Independent
Individualistic
Innovative
Inoffensive
Insightful
Insouciant
Intelligent
Intuitive
Invulnerable
Kind
Knowledge
Leaderly
Leisurely
Liberal
Logical
Lovable
Loyal
Lyrical
Magnanimous
Many-sided
Masculine (Manly)
Mature
Methodical
Maticulous
Moderate
Modest
Multi-leveled
Neat
Nonauthoritarian
Objective
Observant
Open
Optimistic
Orderly
Organized
Original
Painstaking
Passionate
Patient
Patriotic
Peaceful
Perceptive
Perfectionist
Personable
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Planful
Playful
Polished
Popular
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Principled
Profound
Protean
Protective
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Prudent
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Pruposeful
Rational
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Relaxed
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Respectful
Responsible
Responsive
Reverential
Romantic
Rustic
Sage
Sane
Scholarly
Scrupulous
Secure
Selfless
Self-critical
Self-defacing
Self-denying
Self-reliant
Self-sufficent
Sensitive
Sentimental
Seraphic
Serious
Sexy
Sharing
Shrewd
Simple
Skillful
Sober
Sociable
Solid
Sophisticated
Spontaneous
Sporting
Stable
Steadfast
Steady
Stoic
Strong
Studious
Suave
Subtle
Sweet
Sympathetic
Systematic
Tasteful
Teacherly
Thorough
Tidy
Tolerant
Tractable
Trusting
Uncomplaining
Understanding
Undogmatic
Unfoolable
Upright
Urbane
Venturesome
Vivacious
Warm
Well-bred
Well-read
Well-rounded
Winning
Wise
Witty
Youthful |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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I'm not sure I can define it exactly as there are so many factors that come into it (humour, intelligence, empathy and a whole load more besides) - but you just KNOW when you 'click' with someone, when conversation just flows and you effortlessly switch from one subject to the next without it feeling stilted or awkward - and that's not just here but in the real world too.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I usually find something appealing about everyone.
But in order to want to spend time with someone I need to feel relaxed in their company.
Some people are easy to be with and that's what makes them attractive to me.
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"I usually find something appealing about everyone.
But in order to want to spend time with someone I need to feel relaxed in their company.
Some people are easy to be with and that's what makes them attractive to me.
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is that chemistry? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's the whole person that works not just one trait...
Generosity of spirit kindness empathy fun to be around smart sassy intellectual caring etc...
We will all say similar because we all usually seek the positives in others.
Take any one trait away from anybody and they are immediately someone different. Concentrate on any one trait and miss the whole person.
This is almost the phsycological equivalent of kiss suck fuck or run.
Those things that attract us do not exist in isolation they are part of our very being.....
And just which character trait would I ever identify with. I can't answer that in one or two words..
we are all more than the sum of our parts...
A poet and a scholar "
Not me mate. I'm just greedy..
I want it all  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I usually find something appealing about everyone.
But in order to want to spend time with someone I need to feel relaxed in their company.
Some people are easy to be with and that's what makes them attractive to me.
is that chemistry?"
Exactly!
That's the word I was looking for x |
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"I usually find something appealing about everyone.
But in order to want to spend time with someone I need to feel relaxed in their company.
Some people are easy to be with and that's what makes them attractive to me.
Why is it only a few "get it"
is that chemistry?
Exactly!
That's the word I was looking for x"
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