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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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whats more important to you when meeting someone or a couple you might swing with ?? do you just go on how much some one turns you on with how good they look ?? or is personality more important to you ?
for us personality is what makes others attractive to us and if they are really good looking too its a bonus. but as we are not what some refer to as "harden swingers" we cant just have sex with others just for the sake of it we have to fancy the person not the image.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Personality def, without a doubt...
But......... Not Ugly, can't do ugly, sorry! 
So looks are more important then lol"
No... depends, different things attract in different ways...  |
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If I am arranging a meet looks are without doubt important.... if they don't look right I won't get as far as the personality. How they come across will then seal the deal.
There are situations where I can overlook personality... minly because they are instantly involved and it's a pure lust thing there and then.
There are situations where I can overlook the looks... I just don't look... again it's a very there and then thing.
But to arrange something, I have to say looks come into play first - if the looks aren't right it goes nowhere.
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Ooo now that’s an interesting question! Can you separate the two though?. Don’t you think that someone with a negative personality sullies your opinion regarding there looks?
Granted its easier to perform a sexual act with someone you desire but if they are bitter or not generally warm or have a likeable personality dos it not mar things?
Have chatted to the good looking gal in the pub and found after 15 mins I don’t find her appealing but found my self far more attracted to her more plainer mate who has reeled me in with her whit and persona.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ooo now that’s an interesting question! Can you separate the two though?. Don’t you think that someone with a negative personality sullies your opinion regarding there looks?
Granted its easier to perform a sexual act with someone you desire but if they are bitter or not generally warm or have a likeable personality dos it not mar things?
Have chatted to the good looking gal in the pub and found after 15 mins I don’t find her appealing but found my self far more attracted to her more plainer mate who has reeled me in with her whit and persona.
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Have to agree.... some may be really nice looking, met some who really do think looks guarantees them a play.. Not always so, looks are looks but dull and negative or even just that.. 'i'm here, what more do you want' mentality does little here...  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Think if we were all honest with ourselves we would all say a bit of both, you have to have a physical attraction to want to speak to them in the first place...its then down to whether their personality makes that attraction stronger or weaker.
Everyone seems to be avoiding saying attraction is important, perhaps because they don't want to seem shallow... but at the end of they day we can only fancy who we fancy and it's not a crime to reject someone on looks, just as is isn't on the basis of their personality.
It's probably why everyone likes to take their time about who they choose and meet, because really they want both... don't we all in an ideal world? |
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"Think if we were all honest with ourselves we would all say a bit of both, you have to have a physical attraction to want to speak to them in the first place...its then down to whether their personality makes that attraction stronger or weaker.
Everyone seems to be avoiding saying attraction is important, perhaps because they don't want to seem shallow... but at the end of they day we can only fancy who we fancy and it's not a crime to reject someone on looks, just as is isn't on the basis of their personality.
It's probably why everyone likes to take their time about who they choose and meet, because really they want both... don't we all in an ideal world?"
Hear Hear the voice of reason!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Think if we were all honest with ourselves we would all say a bit of both, you have to have a physical attraction to want to speak to them in the first place...its then down to whether their personality makes that attraction stronger or weaker.
Everyone seems to be avoiding saying attraction is important, perhaps because they don't want to seem shallow... but at the end of they day we can only fancy who we fancy and it's not a crime to reject someone on looks, just as is isn't on the basis of their personality.
It's probably why everyone likes to take their time about who they choose and meet, because really they want both... don't we all in an ideal world?
Hear Hear the voice of reason!!"
No it's Olly. O....lly |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"whats more important to you when meeting someone or a couple you might swing with ?? do you just go on how much some one turns you on with how good they look ?? or is personality more important to you ?
for us personality is what makes others attractive to us and if they are really good looking too its a bonus. but as we are not what some refer to as "harden swingers" we cant just have sex with others just for the sake of it we have to fancy the person not the image.
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Can't disagree with any of that guys xxx |
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By *andKCouple
over a year ago
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"I suppose the real questions is, is a pulse really necessary? pmsl
nope...thats just a bonus! "
at least if they don't have one you know the personality will be a bit stiff ....... Result I say pmsl
(hope K don't read this os i always tell her a pulse is vital!) |
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"whats more important to you when meeting someone or a couple you might swing with ?? do you just go on how much some one turns you on with how good they look ?? or is personality more important to you ?
for us personality is what makes others attractive to us and if they are really good looking too its a bonus. but as we are not what some refer to as "harden swingers" we cant just have sex with others just for the sake of it we have to fancy the person not the image.
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Looks matter up to point but if you only go on looks you must be a bit shallow. If you are having a meet, drink etc then if they have zero personality the meet loses something |
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"Ooo now that’s an interesting question! Can you separate the two though?. Don’t you think that someone with a negative personality sullies your opinion regarding there looks?
Granted its easier to perform a sexual act with someone you desire but if they are bitter or not generally warm or have a likeable personality dos it not mar things?
Have chatted to the good looking gal in the pub and found after 15 mins I don’t find her appealing but found my self far more attracted to her more plainer mate who has reeled me in with her whit and persona.
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Very good way of explaining it |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"whats more important to you when meeting someone or a couple you might swing with ?? do you just go on how much some one turns you on with how good they look ?? or is personality more important to you ?
for us personality is what makes others attractive to us and if they are really good looking too its a bonus. but as we are not what some refer to as "harden swingers" we cant just have sex with others just for the sake of it we have to fancy the person not the image.
Personality. Through experience I have found a lot of the so called beautiful people are up their own arse and love themselves too much. The often have zero personality.
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By *habsMan
over a year ago
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Well, am rather shallow - I go by looks. So if I've chased ya, winked ya, emailed ya (or dare I even say, shagged ya)... then it was all looks that caught my attention
..but then again if the personality shines through, am definitely there for seconds, thirds, ...
... and if I aint, that doesn't mean you're ugly - it just means you're wriggling out of my grasp like wet eels - but not to worry, you can run but you can't hide.. muahahahahahahahah!!!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Personality. Through experience I have found a lot of the so called beautiful people are up their own arse and love themselves too much. The often have zero personality. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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" Good personality AND looks that do it for me and I melt  "
After seeing your profile pics it is a good job not everybody thinks like you or you would never get a shag. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"If I am arranging a meet looks are without doubt important.... if they don't look right I won't get as far as the personality. How they come across will then seal the deal.
There are situations where I can overlook personality... minly because they are instantly involved and it's a pure lust thing there and then.
There are situations where I can overlook the looks... I just don't look... again it's a very there and then thing.
But to arrange something, I have to say looks come into play first - if the looks aren't right it goes nowhere.
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Then you are very shallow. Ugly people are born ugly. You wasn't born overweight. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ooo now that’s an interesting question! Can you separate the two though?. Don’t you think that someone with a negative personality sullies your opinion regarding there looks?
Granted its easier to perform a sexual act with someone you desire but if they are bitter or not generally warm or have a likeable personality dos it not mar things?
Have chatted to the good looking gal in the pub and found after 15 mins I don’t find her appealing but found my self far more attracted to her more plainer mate who has reeled me in with her whit and persona.
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Well said. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Ooo now that’s an interesting question! Can you separate the two though?. Don’t you think that someone with a negative personality sullies your opinion regarding there looks?
Granted its easier to perform a sexual act with someone you desire but if they are bitter or not generally warm or have a likeable personality dos it not mar things?
Have chatted to the good looking gal in the pub and found after 15 mins I don’t find her appealing but found my self far more attracted to her more plainer mate who has reeled me in with her whit and persona.
Have to agree.... some may be really nice looking, met some who really do think looks guarantees them a play.. Not always so, looks are looks but dull and negative or even just that.. 'i'm here, what more do you want' mentality does little here... "
Well said |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"has to be looks, i aint doing no minger , im not bloody desperate , then i'l see if they have a personality, if they aint, tatty bye, next "
If you are so beautiful put a face pic up |
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