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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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if the consensus on the forums of what makes a good single guy profile is different to what actually works on fab in general.
I say that because when I look at the veri's of local women most of the guys they have met have what would generally be considered poor profiles, a few dick pics and little text/personal info ect and few or no veri's.
I wonder if these women prefer to meet guys who are more under the radar, more mysterious? Is it a turn off if a guy has a lot of pics or good veri's ect, do they prefer meeting guys who appear less experienced or have just been around less?
I'm just curious as what seems to work locally to me doesn't seem to correlate with the advice usually given in the forums. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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 you do have a point! I've had a quick look at my local updates tab on the basis of this thread and many of the recent local verifications do seem to be with profiles that don't seem to match the perceived wisdom on here!
Good observation fella! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Maybe they met through the club scene.
Maybe they just don't use the forums - remember there is such a low percentage of fabbers who actually use this to contact people.
So by that account, the majority will just meet via a message.
Maybe it's just the forumites who demand the perfect profiles and witty messages. Maybe we're the fussy brigade  |
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I think there are different types of females on Fab as there are in real life. You have to remember only a small amount of them use the forum. So the opinions you see aren't exactly representative of Fab as a whole. So I think the only thing you can do is be truthful otherwise what you attract won't be appealing. Yes I know there will always be those that message whom you aren't interested in but there will also be the happy accidents  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've not been on the forums long but I have learnt that the Fab ladies on the forums are after only one thing....CAKE "
Bitches love cake apparently 
That's the general consensus around these parts  |
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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago
Filthy Fuckeryville |
I have met some with horrendous profiles but if they've sent me a really decent message and started a conversation then I can overlook bad progile text.
Bad pictures I can't (I'm a shallow bitch!) Unless I've seen them on cam in chat and just know they are a horrendous photographer lol
I've also met plenty via Cupids who surprised me as terrible profiles but great to chat to in person.... |
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"I have met some with horrendous profiles but if they've sent me a really decent message and started a conversation then I can overlook bad progile text.
Bad pictures I can't (I'm a shallow bitch!) Unless I've seen them on cam in chat and just know they are a horrendous photographer lol
I've also met plenty via Cupids who surprised me as terrible profiles but great to chat to in person.... "
And vice versa no doubt |
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"I have met some with horrendous profiles but if they've sent me a really decent message and started a conversation then I can overlook bad progile text.
Bad pictures I can't (I'm a shallow bitch!) Unless I've seen them on cam in chat and just know they are a horrendous photographer lol
I've also met plenty via Cupids who surprised me as terrible profiles but great to chat to in person.... "
Consensus on the forums however seems to be poor profile, message gets deleted unread.
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"I've not been on the forums long but I have learnt that the Fab ladies on the forums are after only one thing....CAKE
Bitches love cake apparently
That's the general consensus around these parts "
*swooon*
I'm trying to wean myself off the human variety and have purchased a penguin cookies n cream cake as a replacement. (I'm sitting on his doorstep eating it, can't wait to see the surprise on his face ) |
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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago
Filthy Fuckeryville |
"I have met some with horrendous profiles but if they've sent me a really decent message and started a conversation then I can overlook bad progile text.
Bad pictures I can't (I'm a shallow bitch!) Unless I've seen them on cam in chat and just know they are a horrendous photographer lol
I've also met plenty via Cupids who surprised me as terrible profiles but great to chat to in person....
And vice versa no doubt "
Think I'm reasonably well liked - thankfully |
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By *anky_PankyWoman
over a year ago
Filthy Fuckeryville |
"I have met some with horrendous profiles but if they've sent me a really decent message and started a conversation then I can overlook bad progile text.
Bad pictures I can't (I'm a shallow bitch!) Unless I've seen them on cam in chat and just know they are a horrendous photographer lol
I've also met plenty via Cupids who surprised me as terrible profiles but great to chat to in person....
Consensus on the forums however seems to be poor profile, message gets deleted unread.
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No I know and generally I was the same before working there....
Unless it was a fabulous message  |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"if the consensus on the forums of what makes a good single guy profile is different to what actually works on fab in general.
I say that because when I look at the veri's of local women most of the guys they have met have what would generally be considered poor profiles, a few dick pics and little text/personal info ect and few or no veri's.
I wonder if these women prefer to meet guys who are more under the radar, more mysterious? Is it a turn off if a guy has a lot of pics or good veri's ect, do they prefer meeting guys who appear less experienced or have just been around less?
I'm just curious as what seems to work locally to me doesn't seem to correlate with the advice usually given in the forums."
this is very true op I've noticed this myself . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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So Ive had a look at the profiles of guys I met and had a think about it.
Most of the crap profile ones are people Ive met in chat or forums so their personality has come through that way.
There are a couple who have sent really good engaging first messages and that has bypassed the crap profiles. One sent a pic I just couldn't resist-I did actually rewrite his profile after telling him I wouldn't have replied had it not been for the pic
Id say only 2 Ive met have outstanding profiles and one of those I knew before I joined. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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All valid points everyone and ones I totally accept. I wasn't having a whinge btw, I do alright. Its just an observation of the scene locally that contradicted the perceived wisdom so I thought it worth a mention.
Now I'm just trying to decide what to change my profile pic to, Battenburg or Madeira? |
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A few of my meets have been from messaging on fab and they have really good profiles. The rest are from meeting and getting to know them in a club and their profiles are a bit crap in comparison.
If I meet someone in person they can impress and attract me with their personality. Messaging on fab they need to try and get some of that across in their profile and messages which can be very difficult. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"All valid points everyone and ones I totally accept. I wasn't having a whinge btw, I do alright. Its just an observation of the scene locally that contradicted the perceived wisdom so I thought it worth a mention.
Now I'm just trying to decide what to change my profile pic to, Battenburg or Madeira?"
This is where you're going wrong.
Chocolate or lemon drizzle |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So Ive had a look at the profiles of guys I met and had a think about it.
Most of the crap profile ones are people Ive met in chat or forums so their personality has come through that way.
There are a couple who have sent really good engaging first messages and that has bypassed the crap profiles. One sent a pic I just couldn't resist-I did actually rewrite his profile after telling him I wouldn't have replied had it not been for the pic
Id say only 2 Ive met have outstanding profiles and one of those I knew before I joined. "
Interesting, so would you say it's almost a waste of time trying to have a "good" profile? My opinion is for single guys it's more about making connections as standing out is almost impossible. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Maybe they met through the club scene.
Maybe they just don't use the forums - remember there is such a low percentage of fabbers who actually use this to contact people.
So by that account, the majority will just meet via a message.
Maybe it's just the forumites who demand the perfect profiles and witty messages. Maybe we're the fussy brigade "
I don't use the forums to meet people. Just to chat. |
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"I have met some with horrendous profiles but if they've sent me a really decent message and started a conversation then I can overlook bad progile text.
Bad pictures I can't (I'm a shallow bitch!) Unless I've seen them on cam in chat and just know they are a horrendous photographer lol
I've also met plenty via Cupids who surprised me as terrible profiles but great to chat to in person....
And vice versa no doubt
Think I'm reasonably well liked - thankfully "
No I mean good profiles but not great to chat with  |
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"All valid points everyone and ones I totally accept. I wasn't having a whinge btw, I do alright. Its just an observation of the scene locally that contradicted the perceived wisdom so I thought it worth a mention.
Now I'm just trying to decide what to change my profile pic to, Battenburg or Madeira?"
Battenburg |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
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As I always state on the forum whenever this comes up there is a disconnect between the forum advice consensus and actual fab. My regular squeeze has no pics and a 2 line profile but I still met him because we hit it off within a couple of messages. If I'm doing the searching then a good profile does matter to me to make me message first but that's by no means a prerequisite when it comes to me responding to a message. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"As I always state on the forum whenever this comes up there is a disconnect between the forum advice consensus and actual fab. My regular squeeze has no pics and a 2 line profile but I still met him because we hit it off within a couple of messages. If I'm doing the searching then a good profile does matter to me to make me message first but that's by no means a prerequisite when it comes to me responding to a message."
Makes sense |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Does this mean OP that it's perhaps a consideration to have two profiles?
One for the forum with a great description and pics, then one for general use where you can just use your charm to speak to people?
I actually wonder if people do this. Have they messaged me twice to see what I'd do. 
I sound a bit paranoid now |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I do get inboxed by some folk with great profiles. But who are just crap to talk to or just a complete mismatch. To be honest it's usually couples who are like that. Recently I've either been putting my profile in self destruct mode or just leaving it blank.
There's not too many people on the forums who I'd want to meet. And the one's that I probably would meet, live too far away.
Sometimes I PM people from the forum. But it's not because I want to fuck them. It's just because I like them as people, or it's an extension of forum chat.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Does this mean OP that it's perhaps a consideration to have two profiles?
One for the forum with a great description and pics, then one for general use where you can just use your charm to speak to people?
I actually wonder if people do this. Have they messaged me twice to see what I'd do.
I sound a bit paranoid now "
I have considered changing my profile to a couple lines of text and just dick pics as an experiment. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Does this mean OP that it's perhaps a consideration to have two profiles?
One for the forum with a great description and pics, then one for general use where you can just use your charm to speak to people?
I actually wonder if people do this. Have they messaged me twice to see what I'd do.
I sound a bit paranoid now
I have considered changing my profile to a couple lines of text and just dick pics as an experiment."
Let me know when you do |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Profile text means nothing to me. Like literally a guy could have nothing written on his profile. I go off pictures and height!
I expect it's the same for men cos I genuinely don't think people would meet me off my profile text, I don't come across as all there in the head! |
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"Profile text means nothing to me. Like literally a guy could have nothing written on his profile. I go off pictures and height!
I expect it's the same for men cos I genuinely don't think people would meet me off my profile text, I don't come across as all there in the head!"
You're profile is great...We prefer off the wall or comedic ones as they instantly intrigue us. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't really go by profile text as I know it's easy for someone to just copy and paste someone else's so who says someone's profile is a true indication of who they are as a person and not just copied from elsewhere? I go by pics and their message to me.
Decent pics and message gets a reply. Decent profile and decent pics but rubbish message and I don't bother replying.
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"if the consensus on the forums of what makes a good single guy profile is different to what actually works on fab in general.
I say that because when I look at the veri's of local women most of the guys they have met have what would generally be considered poor profiles, a few dick pics and little text/personal info ect and few or no veri's.
I wonder if these women prefer to meet guys who are more under the radar, more mysterious? Is it a turn off if a guy has a lot of pics or good veri's ect, do they prefer meeting guys who appear less experienced or have just been around less?
I'm just curious as what seems to work locally to me doesn't seem to correlate with the advice usually given in the forums."
Because people talk a good game on thier profiles,forums etc but then when it comes to sex they do as they please. Some will say they don't like a lot of veries,some will say they like to see a good amount as it shows confidence within meeting people. Swings and roundabouts to be honest with you mate. Some will say don't meet smokers but then you see a profile who they've met and they smoke. Don't try analyse this place or you'll go mental. Just take it for what it is and do your own thing. |
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"I don't really go by profile text as I know it's easy for someone to just copy and paste someone else's so who says someone's profile is a true indication of who they are as a person and not just copied from elsewhere? I go by pics and their message to me.
Decent pics and message gets a reply. Decent profile and decent pics but rubbish message and I don't bother replying.
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I ike you. You seem like a very smart lady |
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"Does this mean OP that it's perhaps a consideration to have two profiles?
One for the forum with a great description and pics, then one for general use where you can just use your charm to speak to people?
I actually wonder if people do this. Have they messaged me twice to see what I'd do.
I sound a bit paranoid now
I have considered changing my profile to a couple lines of text and just dick pics as an experiment."
*chants* Do it,do it, do it! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't really go by profile text as I know it's easy for someone to just copy and paste someone else's so who says someone's profile is a true indication of who they are as a person and not just copied from elsewhere? I go by pics and their message to me.
Decent pics and message gets a reply. Decent profile and decent pics but rubbish message and I don't bother replying.
I ike you. You seem like a very smart lady "
Why thank you |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The forums for the most part are pretty much nothing like the vast majority of fab.
Apart from most of the men not getting replies. Or messages not read and deleted. Couples treating singles like sex toys....
Okay, but apart from all that, right? Totally different!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The forums for the most part are pretty much nothing like the vast majority of fab.
Apart from most of the men not getting replies. Or messages not read and deleted. Couples treating singles like sex toys....
Okay, but apart from all that, right? Totally different! "
'Some' don't read and delete. I've never just deleted a message I've got from the forum
Plus I reply.
But yeah the rest of fab I do - Guilty as charged  |
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"The forums for the most part are pretty much nothing like the vast majority of fab.
Apart from most of the men not getting replies. Or messages not read and deleted. Couples treating singles like sex toys....
Okay, but apart from all that, right? Totally different!
'Some' don't read and delete. I've never just deleted a message I've got from the forum
Plus I reply.
But yeah the rest of fab I do - Guilty as charged "
I reply to every message |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The forums for the most part are pretty much nothing like the vast majority of fab.
Apart from most of the men not getting replies. Or messages not read and deleted. Couples treating singles like sex toys....
Okay, but apart from all that, right? Totally different!
'Some' don't read and delete. I've never just deleted a message I've got from the forum
Plus I reply.
But yeah the rest of fab I do - Guilty as charged
I reply to every message "
I do now I've blocked single men.. hardly get any other than friends or people I've previously messaged |
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By (user no longer on site)
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A great profile, nice selection of pictures and good veri's can make a good profile. However I can chat to that person and not feel anything or that they're right for me. I would be more inclined to speak to those people though or respond to a message from them as opposed to a basic profile with no text and rubbish photos. Those I tend to ignore |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"As I always state on the forum whenever this comes up there is a disconnect between the forum advice consensus and actual fab. My regular squeeze has no pics and a 2 line profile but I still met him because we hit it off within a couple of messages. If I'm doing the searching then a good profile does matter to me to make me message first but that's by no means a prerequisite when it comes to me responding to a message."
Completely this.
I'd say it's more a case of if I'm messaging them first, I go by profile, pictures, etc. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I don't really go by profile text as I know it's easy for someone to just copy and paste someone else's so who says someone's profile is a true indication of who they are as a person and not just copied from elsewhere? I go by pics and their message to me.
Decent pics and message gets a reply. Decent profile and decent pics but rubbish message and I don't bother replying.
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Pah, you never reply to anyone! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have to admit that veri's put me off.
I don't display mine I like to keep them for myself.
I like a funny profile and obviously have to like the pictures - but it doesn't really matter to be honest - it's all about the conversation you have with the person privately. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So Ive had a look at the profiles of guys I met and had a think about it.
Most of the crap profile ones are people Ive met in chat or forums so their personality has come through that way.
There are a couple who have sent really good engaging first messages and that has bypassed the crap profiles. One sent a pic I just couldn't resist-I did actually rewrite his profile after telling him I wouldn't have replied had it not been for the pic
Id say only 2 Ive met have outstanding profiles and one of those I knew before I joined.
Interesting, so would you say it's almost a waste of time trying to have a "good" profile? My opinion is for single guys it's more about making connections as standing out is almost impossible."
I guess it depends how you approach things, if you intend to just rely on messaging to get to know people then id say its important. 9 times out of 10 I check a profile before I even read the message. But its a fickle place, if a pic catches my eye it catches my eye and ill respond despite the profile! |
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"I don't really go by profile text as I know it's easy for someone to just copy and paste someone else's so who says someone's profile is a true indication of who they are as a person and not just copied from elsewhere? I go by pics and their message to me.
Decent pics and message gets a reply. Decent profile and decent pics but rubbish message and I don't bother replying.
I ike you. You seem like a very smart lady
Why thank you "
You're welcome hun |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I wouldn't listen to profile advice on the forum. It's generally what those with the loudest voices and strongest opinions think that becomes the concensus. I have differing opinions to most about most things but whenever I can be arsed to speak up my comments are largely disregarded. I prefer a guy that does his own thing and doesn't try to mould himself into Mr perfect from the fab forum  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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What is it that makes a good profile anyway, surely it's subjective to a certain degree ~ what I find appealing might not appeal to others & vice versa.
When I respond to that question in the forums it's usually off the back of a whinging OP who (gives the impression ) can't be arsed to sort a profile out but can't understand why he isn't knee deep in vag on week 2.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I don't really go by profile text as I know it's easy for someone to just copy and paste someone else's so who says someone's profile is a true indication of who they are as a person and not just copied from elsewhere? I go by pics and their message to me.
Decent pics and message gets a reply. Decent profile and decent pics but rubbish message and I don't bother replying.
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Pah, you never reply to anyone!"
I must've replied to you at some point |
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By *litterbabeWoman
over a year ago
hiding from cock pics. |
There are times when I will have left a verification after a chance meet or chat with somebody in a club.
Had I seen their profile I wouldn't have arranged to meet but life brought us together in the same place and hence we did meet. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I've not been on the forums long but I have learnt that the Fab ladies on the forums are after only one thing....CAKE "
not all of us - some of us are crispy |
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"I wouldn't listen to profile advice on the forum. It's generally what those with the loudest voices and strongest opinions think that becomes the concensus. I have differing opinions to most about most things but whenever I can be arsed to speak up my comments are largely disregarded. I prefer a guy that does his own thing and doesn't try to mould himself into Mr perfect from the fab forum "
She's on one today. Well said though sweetie |
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By *ikeC81Man
over a year ago
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This is interesting
The bad points about my own profile
To many social meets
Pics suggesting I am subby
Can't accommodate
Dad bod
Good points
A number of veri's that show I am genuine
Not just my cock out on profile
My bum is reasonabley good
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