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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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So, after getting numerous messages saying how stunning I am and what a beautiful body I have, I came to the conclusion that people on here don't see what I see and they are looking through carefully chosen pictures which I've purposefully done to hide my tummy.
A thread today prompted a message from a friend saying 'You're not fat'.
I was honestly taken aback for a while then realised I've been misleading everyone who only looks at my pictures.
To rectify this, I've stripped down and done what I never thought I would do and I'm going to post frontal tummy shots.
It's there, I'm not proud of it but I no longer feel I'm hiding such a crucial part of me.
I bet the messages reduce significantly
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I have just seen your new pic.
Still look sexy to me ( and no I'm not after a shag )
You look like a normal real woman!! Nothing you should be ashamed off.
All the pics you see in mags and internet and mostly airbrushed anyway.
you look beautiful |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's beautiful, it's a kind of honesty that so many can't muster, including myself, when you have an insecurity it's easier to hide it, than put it out there, and you have, and to be honest, I've never wanted to see more pictures of someone as much as I do yours right now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Hey .snap. but u no what... were beautiful. We just have to rember that.
I kicked a friend in to touch as his comment was ' at least mine doesnt wobble"
Bring people into your life who r positive..... x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hey .snap. but u no what... were beautiful. We just have to rember that.
I kicked a friend in to touch as his comment was ' at least mine doesnt wobble"
Bring people into your life who r positive..... x"
I'm sorry, but if it don't wobble it's not long enough  or wasn't he talking about his todger  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I just looked through my pictures and thought, if I'm stood in front of someone, they won't see what they've seen in my pictures. It didn't feel right.
I've got wobbles, lumps... you name it but I've hid them.
Not any more!
It's actually very liberating  |
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You look beautiful to me, happily fabbed your new pics.
And well done for putting them up, I'm sure we've all took dozens of pics & deleted them as the angle wasn't right, showed off bits we'd rather keep hidden, I know I do
I applaud you're bravery xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Nope you are certainly NOT fat!  "
Oh and to add to that...
there is nothing to be ashamed of with taking carefully taken pictures. If it gives you confidence and makes you feel beautiful then you are doing something absolutely right.
Be your own kind of beautiful  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It's liberating and scary putting completely honest pictures on... I have, but they're in the Friend's Only area. When I look at your pictures, I just see a normal tummy. Be a bit easier on yourself |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just looked through my pictures and thought, if I'm stood in front of someone, they won't see what they've seen in my pictures. It didn't feel right.
I've got wobbles, lumps... you name it but I've hid them.
Not any more!
It's actually very liberating "
Well could you liberate yourself of all items of clothing and post more pics |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My ex wife has a mothers apron and really bad stretch marks, she was so conscious about it that she wouldn't let anybody else see it. I called it my comfort blanket and I'd fall asleep with my hand on it and I honestly felt special to have the privilege. My point is that people see what they want to see, when people tell you that you are beautiful, believe them because they probably mean what they say. We all have our perfect imperfections. X |
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"I just looked through my pictures and thought, if I'm stood in front of someone, they won't see what they've seen in my pictures. It didn't feel right.
I've got wobbles, lumps... you name it but I've hid them.
Not any more!
It's actually very liberating "
You got a beautiful body girl xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, after getting numerous messages saying how stunning I am and what a beautiful body I have, I came to the conclusion that people on here don't see what I see and they are looking through carefully chosen pictures which I've purposefully done to hide my tummy.
A thread today prompted a message from a friend saying 'You're not fat'.
I was honestly taken aback for a while then realised I've been misleading everyone who only looks at my pictures.
To rectify this, I've stripped down and done what I never thought I would do and I'm going to post frontal tummy shots.
It's there, I'm not proud of it but I no longer feel I'm hiding such a crucial part of me.
I bet the messages reduce significantly
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Find me a women or man with the perfect body and I'll find you a winged Pegasus Unicorn being ridden by a mermaid xx
Your beautiful...a women x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hmm for the same reason I keep meaning to add my dress size to our profile. Trouble is that's anything from 14-18 depending on retailer  "
I've done it on mine and guys just don't get the dress size system! |
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By *s_macWoman
over a year ago
Traffic land |
"So, after getting numerous messages saying how stunning I am and what a beautiful body I have, I came to the conclusion that people on here don't see what I see and they are looking through carefully chosen pictures which I've purposefully done to hide my tummy.
A thread today prompted a message from a friend saying 'You're not fat'.
I was honestly taken aback for a while then realised I've been misleading everyone who only looks at my pictures.
To rectify this, I've stripped down and done what I never thought I would do and I'm going to post frontal tummy shots.
It's there, I'm not proud of it but I no longer feel I'm hiding such a crucial part of me.
I bet the messages reduce significantly
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Good for you, if that's what you want to do! I think you are gorgeous and it shouldn't make a difference.
My tummy is my worst part and every so often I have a massive crisis of confidence over it. Do I mislead people? Maybe, but everyone wants to present themselves in the most flattering light I guess.
I like to think that my bed fellow selection process would out those looking for physical perfection anyway and we meet for a social, so they see "me" albeit clothed.
I was massively hung up about it for a long time (and to some degree still am, if someone's hand brushes my tummy I momentarily can't breathe  ). But I've accepted that it's my body, it gives me and my chosen partners pleasure and I try to focus on that.
(And as yet no one has done a runner!  ) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So, after getting numerous messages saying how stunning I am and what a beautiful body I have, I came to the conclusion that people on here don't see what I see and they are looking through carefully chosen pictures which I've purposefully done to hide my tummy.
A thread today prompted a message from a friend saying 'You're not fat'.
I was honestly taken aback for a while then realised I've been misleading everyone who only looks at my pictures.
To rectify this, I've stripped down and done what I never thought I would do and I'm going to post frontal tummy shots.
It's there, I'm not proud of it but I no longer feel I'm hiding such a crucial part of me.
I bet the messages reduce significantly
Good for you, if that's what you want to do! I think you are gorgeous and it shouldn't make a difference.
My tummy is my worst part and every so often I have a massive crisis of confidence over it. Do I mislead people? Maybe, but everyone wants to present themselves in the most flattering light I guess.
I like to think that my bed fellow selection process would out those looking for physical perfection anyway and we meet for a social, so they see "me" albeit clothed.
I was massively hung up about it for a long time (and to some degree still am, if someone's hand brushes my tummy I momentarily can't breathe ). But I've accepted that it's my body, it gives me and my chosen partners pleasure and I try to focus on that.
(And as yet no one has done a runner! )"
This sums me up perfectly |
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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago
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"Hmm for the same reason I keep meaning to add my dress size to our profile. Trouble is that's anything from 14-18 depending on retailer
I've done it on mine and guys just don't get the dress size system!"
We most probably do. But you know most of us men are not always bothered about it. We are capable of finding other qualities attractive you know, like a nice smile for example  |
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By *igeiaWoman
over a year ago
Bristol |
I have flip flopped between curvy and large the whole time I've been on fab without anyone even noticing (or commenting on) the body type description I've plumped for. There's no point putting my dress or bra size on my profile since I'm a size 14 with large boobs but am really oddly proportioned with long legs for my height so have a squat, really podgy torso as a result. No one needs to read that as a profile description when it's far easier to have pics in my friends gallery for those rare few who might be interested to see the reality. I don't get loads of messages anyway so I see no point having them in my public gallery. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Thank you for all your really genuinely lovely comments.
I got a message from one lady who sent me a picture of her tummy and wobbly bumpy bits.
I honestly don't think I've seen a nicer sexy pic on here in a long time.
We all give ourselves such a hard time don't we?
I am not happy with mine but it's there. It's getting smaller albeit slowly.
I've just never had the courage to show it before because I'm so ashamed. |
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"So, after getting numerous messages saying how stunning I am and what a beautiful body I have, I came to the conclusion that people on here don't see what I see and they are looking through carefully chosen pictures which I've purposefully done to hide my tummy.
A thread today prompted a message from a friend saying 'You're not fat'.
I was honestly taken aback for a while then realised I've been misleading everyone who only looks at my pictures.
To rectify this, I've stripped down and done what I never thought I would do and I'm going to post frontal tummy shots.
It's there, I'm not proud of it but I no longer feel I'm hiding such a crucial part of me.
I bet the messages reduce significantly
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I can only echo what others have said.
You look perfectly normal. I reckon the vast majority of us ladies have a "mummy tummy", regardless of clothing size.
I am definitely curvy, with lumpy bits but also feel womanly & sexy - so should you.
Nita |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"So, after getting numerous messages saying how stunning I am and what a beautiful body I have, I came to the conclusion that people on here don't see what I see and they are looking through carefully chosen pictures which I've purposefully done to hide my tummy.
A thread today prompted a message from a friend saying 'You're not fat'.
I was honestly taken aback for a while then realised I've been misleading everyone who only looks at my pictures.
To rectify this, I've stripped down and done what I never thought I would do and I'm going to post frontal tummy shots.
It's there, I'm not proud of it but I no longer feel I'm hiding such a crucial part of me.
I bet the messages reduce significantly
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You are defo not fat. |
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By *andsonjohnMan
over a year ago
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"So, after getting numerous messages saying how stunning I am and what a beautiful body I have, I came to the conclusion that people on here don't see what I see and they are looking through carefully chosen pictures which I've purposefully done to hide my tummy.
A thread today prompted a message from a friend saying 'You're not fat'.
I was honestly taken aback for a while then realised I've been misleading everyone who only looks at my pictures.
To rectify this, I've stripped down and done what I never thought I would do and I'm going to post frontal tummy shots.
It's there, I'm not proud of it but I no longer feel I'm hiding such a crucial part of me.
I bet the messages reduce significantly
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bet they don't have you never heard of intimating factor . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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We all have fears insecurities and often a far less sympathetic view of ourselves than we should.
Often we concentrate on what we see as our negative attributes and fail to see ourselves as others do.
All physical attraction starts in the mind, our own, and the minds of others.
What we often perceive to be negative others see as either part of the whole or even at a pure physical level things which attract us to another.
Your pics they are only one part of you and those who judge others simply on their physical attributes often miss the most exciting and stimulating part of knowing another.
We should all be kinder to ourselves content in our own skin and confident that no matter how we may see ourselves or whatever our own perceived shortcomings others will always see us in a different and often kinder way than we see ourselves.
Those who don't are not worth our time....those who do they are the real people and most will probably have their own insecurities too.
We are what we are .....accepting that is the only true contentment
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
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"So, after getting numerous messages saying how stunning I am and what a beautiful body I have, I came to the conclusion that people on here don't see what I see and they are looking through carefully chosen pictures which I've purposefully done to hide my tummy.
A thread today prompted a message from a friend saying 'You're not fat'.
I was honestly taken aback for a while then realised I've been misleading everyone who only looks at my pictures.
To rectify this, I've stripped down and done what I never thought I would do and I'm going to post frontal tummy shots.
It's there, I'm not proud of it but I no longer feel I'm hiding such a crucial part of me.
I bet the messages reduce significantly
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You look like a normal lovely lady to me! |
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By *rby38Man
over a year ago
Stoke row |
I have bendy legs, grey hair and patchy body hair.
We can all feel self confident at times, to me though what is sexy as hell is someone who is truly comfortable in their own skin.
Vanity is not an attractive trait in my opinion. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Thank you for all your really genuinely lovely comments.
I got a message from one lady who sent me a picture of her tummy and wobbly bumpy bits.
I honestly don't think I've seen a nicer sexy pic on here in a long time.
We all give ourselves such a hard time don't we?
I am not happy with mine but it's there. It's getting smaller albeit slowly.
I've just never had the courage to show it before because I'm so ashamed. "
Are you feeling better now? Did it reduce the messages like you thought it would? |
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By *amissCouple
over a year ago
chelmsford |
"I have bendy legs, grey hair and patchy body hair.
We can all feel self confident at times, to me though what is sexy as hell is someone who is truly comfortable in their own skin.
Vanity is not an attractive trait in my opinion."
This is spot on! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"We all have fears insecurities and often a far less sympathetic view of ourselves than we should.
Often we concentrate on what we see as our negative attributes and fail to see ourselves as others do.
All physical attraction starts in the mind, our own, and the minds of others.
What we often perceive to be negative others see as either part of the whole or even at a pure physical level things which attract us to another.
Your pics they are only one part of you and those who judge others simply on their physical attributes often miss the most exciting and stimulating part of knowing another.
We should all be kinder to ourselves content in our own skin and confident that no matter how we may see ourselves or whatever our own perceived shortcomings others will always see us in a different and often kinder way than we see ourselves.
Those who don't are not worth our time....those who do they are the real people and most will probably have their own insecurities too.
We are what we are .....accepting that is the only true contentment
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Love this. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Thank you for all your really genuinely lovely comments.
I got a message from one lady who sent me a picture of her tummy and wobbly bumpy bits.
I honestly don't think I've seen a nicer sexy pic on here in a long time.
We all give ourselves such a hard time don't we?
I am not happy with mine but it's there. It's getting smaller albeit slowly.
I've just never had the courage to show it before because I'm so ashamed.
Are you feeling better now? Did it reduce the messages like you thought it would?"
If I'm being honest, I can't tell yet because most were lovely messages of support.
I'll only really be able to gauge that in a day or two.
I do feel better yes. I'd feel less like a freak if someone still wanted to meet me.
They'd know what to expect |
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By *unguya2zMan
over a year ago
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"So, after getting numerous messages saying how stunning I am and what a beautiful body I have, I came to the conclusion that people on here don't see what I see and they are looking through carefully chosen pictures which I've purposefully done to hide my tummy.
A thread today prompted a message from a friend saying 'You're not fat'.
I was honestly taken aback for a while then realised I've been misleading everyone who only looks at my pictures.
To rectify this, I've stripped down and done what I never thought I would do and I'm going to post frontal tummy shots.
It's there, I'm not proud of it but I no longer feel I'm hiding such a crucial part of me.
I bet the messages reduce significantly
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Your body,your mind,my opinion,I reckon you look great. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Thank you for all your really genuinely lovely comments.
I got a message from one lady who sent me a picture of her tummy and wobbly bumpy bits.
I honestly don't think I've seen a nicer sexy pic on here in a long time.
We all give ourselves such a hard time don't we?
I am not happy with mine but it's there. It's getting smaller albeit slowly.
I've just never had the courage to show it before because I'm so ashamed.
Are you feeling better now? Did it reduce the messages like you thought it would?
If I'm being honest, I can't tell yet because most were lovely messages of support.
I'll only really be able to gauge that in a day or two.
I do feel better yes. I'd feel less like a freak if someone still wanted to meet me.
They'd know what to expect "
Hope you get a meet soon so you can get over that 'hurdle'. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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You look stunning to me! I'm exactly the same. Mines a full on mummy tummy. I hide it too with decent pics. Funny enough it's never seemed to bother any men x |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So, after getting numerous messages saying how stunning I am and what a beautiful body I have, I came to the conclusion that people on here don't see what I see and they are looking through carefully chosen pictures which I've purposefully done to hide my tummy.
A thread today prompted a message from a friend saying 'You're not fat'.
I was honestly taken aback for a while then realised I've been misleading everyone who only looks at my pictures.
To rectify this, I've stripped down and done what I never thought I would do and I'm going to post frontal tummy shots.
It's there, I'm not proud of it but I no longer feel I'm hiding such a crucial part of me.
I bet the messages reduce significantly
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Brave of you if it's an area you are insecure about. Everyone has their hang ups so kudos.
Having lost 4 stone over the last couple years I know all about it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So, after getting numerous messages saying how stunning I am and what a beautiful body I have, I came to the conclusion that people on here don't see what I see and they are looking through carefully chosen pictures which I've purposefully done to hide my tummy.
A thread today prompted a message from a friend saying 'You're not fat'.
I was honestly taken aback for a while then realised I've been misleading everyone who only looks at my pictures.
To rectify this, I've stripped down and done what I never thought I would do and I'm going to post frontal tummy shots.
It's there, I'm not proud of it but I no longer feel I'm hiding such a crucial part of me.
I bet the messages reduce significantly
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You're hot! End of. (And we all do it with the pics from the best angles thing!) Good on you for being brave. |
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Could someone please kick that model off this site for normal people, she is showing us all up!
Seriously though, what a refreshing post. It say's so much more about you than any picture ever would. |
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"Hmm for the same reason I keep meaning to add my dress size to our profile. Trouble is that's anything from 14-18 depending on retailer "
I feel your pain here.
H&M last week, I found out was a 12,16,18 also a, small & extra large
WTF?! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I could hug you all.
As long as I've been on fab - 3rd time now - I've hidden it.
Not anymore "
lets get it on fab top 10 in 12 hours
all fab it please
go on you know you want to
the OP has said one fabber will be picked at random to lick and caress her for getting in the top 10 |
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"So, after getting numerous messages saying how stunning I am and what a beautiful body I have, I came to the conclusion that people on here don't see what I see and they are looking through carefully chosen pictures which I've purposefully done to hide my tummy.
A thread today prompted a message from a friend saying 'You're not fat'.
I was honestly taken aback for a while then realised I've been misleading everyone who only looks at my pictures.
To rectify this, I've stripped down and done what I never thought I would do and I'm going to post frontal tummy shots.
It's there, I'm not proud of it but I no longer feel I'm hiding such a crucial part of me.
I bet the messages reduce significantly
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You are the "pretty northern girl" that will never change. You're one of the loveliest fabbers I've had the pleasure too chat with. Xx |
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Every so often one of the forum ladies puts up a thread similar to yours OP and I always think 'good on you' when they do as it's natural for most of us to want to display ourselves in 'public' in the most flattering light.
For what it's worth your tummy simply looks womanly and well within the wide range of what I'd personally consider normal. It may be slightly rounded but your skin looks nice and smooth. Nothing to feel 'ashamed' of at all.
I'm sure you realise that whenever body parts are discussed here, time and again, the most common complaint amongst women seems to be their stomach - particularly for those of us who are mums. I'm no exception as I'm also very self conscious about my mum tum. I'm lucky that it's pretty flat (I once read a 'tip' decades ago in Cosmo or some such and consequently deliberately hold it in whenever I'm walking or standing in public - this may or may not have helped, who knows ) but although I'm a size 10-12 my tummy has a surface layer of stretched skin like a deflated balloon thanks to my pregnancies and no amount of dieting or exercise will get rid of that. Only a few thousands worth of surgery would help and, to be honest, if a load of money suddenly dropped in my lap there's jewellery, handbags, books and kittens I'd want to buy first before a tummy tuck!
The point is, none of us are perfect - no one is - but we don't *need* to be. From a Fab perspective, if you look attractive overall, and have an appealing personality then it's very unlikely that what *you* see as a 'flaw' would put off someone who was interested in the *whole* of you. I was recently having a bit of a whinge about something (I can't remember exactly what) I didn't like about myself and someone was trying to reassure me otherwise - they wisely said that we'd all be a lot happier if we could see ourselves through the admiring eyes of others - which gave me some food for thought. Hopefully that thought might help you, along with all the other positive feedback you've had on this thread
And well done for being so brave and honest! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Every so often one of the forum ladies puts up a thread similar to yours OP and I always think 'good on you' when they do as it's natural for most of us to want to display ourselves in 'public' in the most flattering light.
For what it's worth your tummy simply looks womanly and well within the wide range of what I'd personally consider normal. It may be slightly rounded but your skin looks nice and smooth. Nothing to feel 'ashamed' of at all.
I'm sure you realise that whenever body parts are discussed here, time and again, the most common complaint amongst women seems to be their stomach - particularly for those of us who are mums. I'm no exception as I'm also very self conscious about my mum tum. I'm lucky that it's pretty flat (I once read a 'tip' decades ago in Cosmo or some such and consequently deliberately hold it in whenever I'm walking or standing in public - this may or may not have helped, who knows ) but although I'm a size 10-12 my tummy has a surface layer of stretched skin like a deflated balloon thanks to my pregnancies and no amount of dieting or exercise will get rid of that. Only a few thousands worth of surgery would help and, to be honest, if a load of money suddenly dropped in my lap there's jewellery, handbags, books and kittens I'd want to buy first before a tummy tuck!
The point is, none of us are perfect - no one is - but we don't *need* to be. From a Fab perspective, if you look attractive overall, and have an appealing personality then it's very unlikely that what *you* see as a 'flaw' would put off someone who was interested in the *whole* of you. I was recently having a bit of a whinge about something (I can't remember exactly what) I didn't like about myself and someone was trying to reassure me otherwise - they wisely said that we'd all be a lot happier if we could see ourselves through the admiring eyes of others - which gave me some food for thought. Hopefully that thought might help you, along with all the other positive feedback you've had on this thread
And well done for being so brave and honest! "
Thank you.
I know I'm not perfect and I think that's the point of this. I'm feeling better about myself than I've felt in so many years but looking at my pictures earlier, I realised it's not the full story. It's not what someone would see if they stood in front of me.
That's really important to me, being totally honest. Honest about who I am and how I look.
I don't want fabs, not looking for lots of compliments. I just want to put ME out there and say, you know, this is the real me.
Btw. I think you look amazing, always have |
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By (user no longer on site)
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I've got a mix of thought out / staged photos that flatter my figure along with a few full frontal "let it all hang out" ones.
'Twas quite unnerving in the beginning but now at least I feel I can say "what you see is what you get." |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I've got a mix of thought out / staged photos that flatter my figure along with a few full frontal "let it all hang out" ones.
'Twas quite unnerving in the beginning but now at least I feel I can say "what you see is what you get.""
Exactly xx |
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over a year ago
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"So, after getting numerous messages saying how stunning I am and what a beautiful body I have, I came to the conclusion that people on here don't see what I see and they are looking through carefully chosen pictures which I've purposefully done to hide my tummy.
A thread today prompted a message from a friend saying 'You're not fat'.
I was honestly taken aback for a while then realised I've been misleading everyone who only looks at my pictures.
To rectify this, I've stripped down and done what I never thought I would do and I'm going to post frontal tummy shots.
It's there, I'm not proud of it but I no longer feel I'm hiding such a crucial part of me.
I bet the messages reduce significantly
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We would happily play with you, absolutely no problems. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I was one of those who said you look amazing, I still think you do. Women's bodies are beautiful in all shapes and sizes, with fat bits and lumpy bits, stretch marks etc. These little imperfections are what makes each woman individual in their own right and I love them. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I was one of those who said you look amazing, I still think you do. Women's bodies are beautiful in all shapes and sizes, with fat bits and lumpy bits, stretch marks etc. These little imperfections are what makes each woman individual in their own right and I love them. "
I could actually hug you |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"So, after putting it out to the vote, what was the result?
I'm guessing most think you're beautiful all over."
There's no vote. Oh god please don't vote
I feel much better. I'm happy that the whole of me is out there and really appreciate the input from everyone. I really do. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I was one of those who said you look amazing, I still think you do. Women's bodies are beautiful in all shapes and sizes, with fat bits and lumpy bits, stretch marks etc. These little imperfections are what makes each woman individual in their own right and I love them. "
I think all women have parts of their body which they don't like. OP you look amazing x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I just looked through my pictures and thought, if I'm stood in front of someone, they won't see what they've seen in my pictures. It didn't feel right.
I've got wobbles, lumps... you name it but I've hid them.
Not any more!
It's actually very liberating "
Amazing photos, and great you feel so liberated. I've done the same, I've lost six stone and have excess skin that I hide. I could never do what what you've done. You're awesome, beautiful and a very sexy lady x |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I just looked through my pictures and thought, if I'm stood in front of someone, they won't see what they've seen in my pictures. It didn't feel right.
I've got wobbles, lumps... you name it but I've hid them.
Not any more!
It's actually very liberating
Amazing photos, and great you feel so liberated. I've done the same, I've lost six stone and have excess skin that I hide. I could never do what what you've done. You're awesome, beautiful and a very sexy lady x "
Incredible pictures xx |
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Guys & Girls seem to see these things so differently sometimes.
We've all seen supposedly 'babe' types who couldn't look sexy if they tried and, equally, 'fuller' figures that you can't take your eyes off!
So quite frankly it's how you feel about yourself and how confidently you carry it off that really matters. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Agree with everyone...you look great.
And having chatted with you on here a few times I can honestly say you are a warm, intelligent, beautiful person. A msg in my inbox from you always makes my day |
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"So, after getting numerous messages saying how stunning I am and what a beautiful body I have, I came to the conclusion that people on here don't see what I see and they are looking through carefully chosen pictures which I've purposefully done to hide my tummy.
A thread today prompted a message from a friend saying 'You're not fat'.
I was honestly taken aback for a while then realised I've been misleading everyone who only looks at my pictures.
To rectify this, I've stripped down and done what I never thought I would do and I'm going to post frontal tummy shots.
It's there, I'm not proud of it but I no longer feel I'm hiding such a crucial part of me.
I bet the messages reduce significantly
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You've done your pics and I have too.. you have a lovely shape PNG, me I am just Tubby McTubface.. haha |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I wish you women realised that some of us love a tummy and even things such as stretch marks, may sound completely bizarre to you ladies but we want women and wide hips, stretch marks and a bit of a tummy are just that of a woman. Womens bodies undergo a lot of strain and change so these signs are sexy to some of us |
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By *irtyricoMan
over a year ago
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You have found me .. now where's my unicorn ring ridden by a mermaid???
Haha just joking but OP.. I have seen your new pics and nothing wrong.. it wouldn't stop me from meeting you .. once you learn to embrace things you're self conscious about nothing and no one can ever effect you! Stay positive and don't let anyone tell you you're not good enough x |
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Hi OP, nothing at all to be ashamed off. We all have lumps, bumps, bits and bobs but hey, who cares. If people cant see past it, they arent worth bothering about. Wont stop me messaging you...and take you out for coffee x |
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"Hmm for the same reason I keep meaning to add my dress size to our profile. Trouble is that's anything from 14-18 depending on retailer
I've done it on mine and guys just don't get the dress size system!"
Some of us do understand it quite well. And yours just means I know that I would definitely be interested. Just not in your age range |
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Personally, I don't think that deeply about people on here to bare all...no pun intended.
I have pictures, we meet socially, if you want to play...fine, if not it's still all good.
It's casual sex, nothing more complicated than that to me. However, when the other half makes a comment about my stomach I do feel self conscious, but never on a meet.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Seeing yourself as others see you is probably the hardest thing to do.
We all amplify our perceived imperfections and more often than not are battling against ourselves than against others.
You are so much more than the sum of the parts, so if you can see yourself as the sexy woman you are and are willing to let others see you are comfortable in your own skin, today has been a good day.
Now get the Hollands Pies in, I'm starving! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Seeing yourself as others see you is probably the hardest thing to do.
We all amplify our perceived imperfections and more often than not are battling against ourselves than against others.
You are so much more than the sum of the parts, so if you can see yourself as the sexy woman you are and are willing to let others see you are comfortable in your own skin, today has been a good day.
Now get the Hollands Pies in, I'm starving! "
Pie.... 
Such a bad influence |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Well done you!! it takes some proper woman bollocks too confront something like that especially on a site that seems to judge x
Agreed. But why shouldn't it judge? "
Judging is perfectly good. We all have our own preferences. Mine would be not to meet people who don't kiss (just been reading that thread)
It's important for me to get my flaws out there so people can judge for themselves. That's really important for me to feel they're fully informed about who I am.
I do believe the poster meant people looking for the perfect body. I know what he meant x |
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"Well done you!! it takes some proper woman bollocks too confront something like that especially on a site that seems to judge x
Agreed. But why shouldn't it judge?
Judging is perfectly good. We all have our own preferences. Mine would be not to meet people who don't kiss (just been reading that thread)
It's important for me to get my flaws out there so people can judge for themselves. That's really important for me to feel they're fully informed about who I am.
I do believe the poster meant people looking for the perfect body. I know what he meant x "
I don't see anything wrong with that to be honest. |
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"Well done you!! it takes some proper woman bollocks too confront something like that especially on a site that seems to judge x
Agreed. But why shouldn't it judge?
Isn't that a disagreement  "
With what? |
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"So, after getting numerous messages saying how stunning I am and what a beautiful body I have, I came to the conclusion that people on here don't see what I see and they are looking through carefully chosen pictures which I've purposefully done to hide my tummy.
A thread today prompted a message from a friend saying 'You're not fat'.
Love a tum. Its not big anyway.
I was honestly taken aback for a while then realised I've been misleading everyone who only looks at my pictures.
To rectify this, I've stripped down and done what I never thought I would do and I'm going to post frontal tummy shots.
It's there, I'm not proud of it but I no longer feel I'm hiding such a crucial part of me.
I bet the messages reduce significantly
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have Fabbed your latest pics and applaud you for posting them - in a society that is fixated on body perfect, it is great to see a beautiful woman show her body openly.
I would like to point out that you are not fat, you may HAVE some fat (everyone does) but that does not mean you ARE fat. |
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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago
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OP I wasn't going to post as everyone else has said what I'd say and probably a lot better than I could - but I applaud your honesty and your bravery - not for revealing your tummy, but because you've faced your fears and stood up to them in a most public way.
The fact that pretty much every post on here has been a vindication of that speaks volumes as to your true self and how others perceive you - which is as an attractive woman. Take strength and pride from that as you rightly should |
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By *gcw2014Couple
over a year ago
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"So, after getting numerous messages saying how stunning I am and what a beautiful body I have, I came to the conclusion that people on here don't see what I see and they are looking through carefully chosen pictures which I've purposefully done to hide my tummy.
A thread today prompted a message from a friend saying 'You're not fat'.
I was honestly taken aback for a while then realised I've been misleading everyone who only looks at my pictures.
To rectify this, I've stripped down and done what I never thought I would do and I'm going to post frontal tummy shots.
It's there, I'm not proud of it but I no longer feel I'm hiding such a crucial part of me.
I bet the messages reduce significantly
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you look great to me and I've fabbed my favourite one x |
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