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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Being the big geek I am I have been reading a lot of psychology/psychiatry recently and got thinking what makes people happy or leads to happiness.
I did discuss with a friend writing a short book on it but more of a visual text with exercises.
What do people think makes them happy and other?
I believe good relations and quality time with close ones is very important.
Also I concluded looking for happiness is the wrong mind set. Bring happy and doing happy things is key and lots of them.
Any thoughts? |
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"The most important opinion about you is your own. Don't live for others, live for you. You cannot be happy trying to be what someone else wants you to be or thinks you should be! "
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By (user no longer on site)
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Don’t rely on someone else for your happiness and self-worth. Only you can be responsible for that. If you can’t love and respect yourself – no one else will be able to make that happen. Accept who you are – completely; the good and the bad – and make changes as YOU see fit – not because you think someone else wants you to be different.” |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"The key to happiness is being true to yourself, and surrounding yourself with people who allow you to be you"
this ......... and tolerance of others that dont |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yesterday has gone
Tomorrow never comes
We have only today
Smile breath deeply enjoy the moment
And if you can make someone else happy today..
Then you will find peace love and contentment
What else do we all need... |
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Happy for me is being content with my lot. I have a friend who never is happy cos he's always moaning other people have got better things than him. If jealousy could make one ill, then she's got it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Being content with yourself. If you're always desiring things you'll never be happy."
This works for me. If you have no relatives or many friends you can still be content and happy with your life. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Happiness truly comes from within. Materialistic things don't lead to happiness. Personally it's being very content with who I am, and spending time with family and friends, doing things I enjoy, and having a positive outlook on life. |
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"Being the big geek I am I have been reading a lot of psychology/psychiatry recently and got thinking what makes people happy or leads to happiness.
I did discuss with a friend writing a short book on it but more of a visual text with exercises.
What do people think makes them happy and other?
I believe good relations and quality time with close ones is very important.
Also I concluded looking for happiness is the wrong mind set. Bring happy and doing happy things is key and lots of them.
Any thoughts? "
I consider myself very fortunate. Throughout my life I've been a 'glass is half full' kind of person - i.e. Unless life is going drastically wrong I'm naturally happy - and it takes a lot to change that state!
Whether it's chemical balance or not I'm not quite sure - but I've observed that of my 3 children, 2 are 'naturally happy' like me - but the third isn't. Like her father she is naturally dissatisfied unless everything in her life is going her way. I feel sorry for her because life is/will be harder for her than her siblings as it takes much more to fill her with wellbeing!
So for me - the answer to happiness is simply the status quo. Work, family, friends, day to day life!
For her and others like her, to be happy all the stars have to align and it has to be an 'exceptional ' day in some way!
Like I said - I'm very lucky!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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There was a huge study done where different teams of psychiatrists followed a cohort of thousands of people, I think from the 1920's on wards. Just followed them then after about 50 years they where given questionnaires, they where interviewed and every decade therefore after this was all measu_ed again.
It was found that those with "Good relation" that is had close friend and family and spent regular time with them sco_ed better on depression scales, lived longer and had a decreased incidence of CVS disease.
That is quite neat I think |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Right now its knowing that in 4 hours I'm gonna see my granddaughter for the first time
Awww that's so lovely!
I can't wait to be a grandma one day! My next big adventure in life I hope!  "
I was looking forward to being a nan one day just wasn't expecting it to be b4 I was 40 and definitely wasnt expecting my daughter to announce it was her turn so the second one is due 6 months later...but after the initial shock I was well happy |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Lots of money helps it doesn't make you happy. It gives you choices which having little money doesn't. "
So I looked at this
There are many examples of people being rich and unhappy and poor and happy. I think we have all sat down when we have had debates about life over coffee.
Endless amount of accounts of famous people, with the world at their feet very unhappy.
Happiness seems to correlate with money to a point. Which sort of makes sense. Having no money, not being able to eat or pay the bills would obviously cause stress and unhappiness. However one you "Needs are met". Like on Maslows hierarchy. You have food, warm and shelter. Then the correlation is weak between money and happiness.
Like Biggie Smalls once wrote "More money more problems" |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"Right now its knowing that in 4 hours I'm gonna see my granddaughter for the first time
Awww that's so lovely!
I can't wait to be a grandma one day! My next big adventure in life I hope!
I was looking forward to being a nan one day just wasn't expecting it to be b4 I was 40 and definitely wasnt expecting my daughter to announce it was her turn so the second one is due 6 months later...but after the initial shock I was well happy "
That is very lovely |
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"Lots of money helps it doesn't make you happy. It gives you choices which having little money doesn't.
So I looked at this
There are many examples of people being rich and unhappy and poor and happy. I think we have all sat down when we have had debates about life over coffee.
Endless amount of accounts of famous people, with the world at their feet very unhappy.
Happiness seems to correlate with money to a point. Which sort of makes sense. Having no money, not being able to eat or pay the bills would obviously cause stress and unhappiness. However one you "Needs are met". Like on Maslows hierarchy. You have food, warm and shelter. Then the correlation is weak between money and happiness.
Like Biggie Smalls once wrote "More money more problems" "
Didn't do him any good  |
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By *eesideMan
over a year ago
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"Lots of money helps
it doesn't make you happy. It gives you choices which having little money doesn't. "
I didn't say it makes happynes I sed it helps
And wen you don't have mutch els spending it helps parce the time
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Mr Micawber's famous, and oft-quoted, recipe for happiness:
"Annual income twenty pounds, annual expenditure nineteen [pounds] nineteen [shillings] and six [pence], result happiness. Annual income twenty pounds, annual expenditure twenty pounds ought and six, result misery."
Charles Dickens, David Copperfield |
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