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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Hi everyone what should i do
I've broken the golden rule of meeting alone i honestly love my husband dearly and we made a commitment that we wouldn't meet anyone unless we were both together unfortunately events changed last night I invited a handsome fella into our home last night while my husband was in mainland uk I had sex 4 times with this fella but now feel so damm guilty and so ashamed should I be honest with my husband and come clean or should I keep it secret thank you in advance x |
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"Hi everyone what should i do
I've broken the golden rule of meeting alone i honestly love my husband dearly and we made a commitment that we wouldn't meet anyone unless we were both together unfortunately events changed last night I invited a handsome fella into our home last night while my husband was in mainland uk I had sex 4 times with this fella but now feel so damm guilty and so ashamed should I be honest with my husband and come clean or should I keep it secret thank you in advance x"
Rules change over time and maybe your boundaries have. Ask him if you can revisit the rules. If he agrees then clearly he wouldn't be devastated. If he would then do the grown up thing and keep it to yourself but don't do it again. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi everyone what should i do
I've broken the golden rule of meeting alone i honestly love my husband dearly and we made a commitment that we wouldn't meet anyone unless we were both together unfortunately events changed last night I invited a handsome fella into our home last night while my husband was in mainland uk I had sex 4 times with this fella but now feel so damm guilty and so ashamed should I be honest with my husband and come clean or should I keep it secret thank you in advance x"
I'm presuming he had access to this profile if so when he next comes online he can click green arrow next to your profile name and see where in forum you've posted and commented!
Come clean x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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sounds more like the stories and fantasy section....
your wife is hot....no need to pretend this happened.....if it gets you off..
if this is the wife..
am choking chickens for gold.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just lie. He will never know you were balls deep in a stranger unless it's a mandingo then he will notice the loose vagina."
A great way to get meets lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just lie. He will never know you were balls deep in a stranger unless it's a mandingo then he will notice the loose vagina."
So if it was, hurry up and buy a mahoosive dildo and say it was that!! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just lie. He will never know you were balls deep in a stranger unless it's a mandingo then he will notice the loose vagina.
A great way to get meets lol"
I'm not trying to meet her also my opinion shouldn't count if people want to meet me. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just lie. He will never know you were balls deep in a stranger unless it's a mandingo then he will notice the loose vagina.
A great way to get meets lol
I'm not trying to meet her also my opinion shouldn't count if people want to meet me."
This is the internet. Everyone has opinions lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Hi everyone what should i do
I've broken the golden rule of meeting alone i honestly love my husband dearly and we made a commitment that we wouldn't meet anyone unless we were both together unfortunately events changed last night I invited a handsome fella into our home last night while my husband was in mainland uk I had sex 4 times with this fella but now feel so damm guilty and so ashamed should I be honest with my husband and come clean or should I keep it secret thank you in advance x"
So everyone in the lounge agree to Pm the couple a copy paste of this post each week? :p  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just lie. He will never know you were balls deep in a stranger unless it's a mandingo then he will notice the loose vagina.
A great way to get meets lol"
Is the op really the kind of person you want to meet? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Just lie. He will never know you were balls deep in a stranger unless it's a mandingo then he will notice the loose vagina.
A great way to get meets lol
Is the op really the kind of person you want to meet?"
Me not at all. Why if I meet couples it's together |
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Let me seeeeeeeeeeeee.......
You made a promise.
You BROKE that promise.
You fucked another man.
You fucked him in your husbands house. Probably his bed.
Now you are asking people if it was wrong.......
Fnarrrrrrrrrr that's funny.
Go on Finish your husband off. Crush him. Tell him.....
As long as you can say well........... I came clean in the end then you will have done nothing wrong and everyone will still love you.
I love a happy ending.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Let me seeeeeeeeeeeee.......
You made a promise.
You BROKE that promise.
You fucked another man.
You fucked him in your husbands house. Probably his bed.
Now you are asking people if it was wrong.......
Fnarrrrrrrrrr that's funny.
Go on Finish your husband off. Crush him. Tell him.....
As long as you can say well........... I came clean in the end then you will have done nothing wrong and everyone will still love you.
I love a happy ending.
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Apparently so did OP |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
Scotland - Aberdeen |
"I'm deleting it before 8.pm
It's not that easy is it,unless Admin are on the ball,which is in the lap of the god's. Give them a few hour's notice."
Well Admin does always say give them 48hrs to resolve anything plus it's the weekend  |
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"Hi everyone what should i do
I've broken the golden rule of meeting alone i honestly love my husband dearly and we made a commitment that we wouldn't meet anyone unless we were both together unfortunately events changed last night I invited a handsome fella into our home last night while my husband was in mainland uk I had sex 4 times with this fella but now feel so damm guilty and so ashamed should I be honest with my husband and come clean or should I keep it secret thank you in advance x"
As someone who cheated on my ex once. I say don't tell him. Doing so to ease your conscience is a thoroughly selfish act. Mine was an experiment to see if I was gay because she was putting pressure on me to start a family. I needed to know before I committed to spending 20 years raising a child. I hated the experience (mostly down to the guilt of cheating, but also because it felt so impersonal) and concluded that I was straight. But then I had to go back to her with the guilt.
I broke and blabbed in the end. Worst thing I could ever have done. It changed her entire outlook towards me in an instant. The wounds didn't stay raw forever, but they never properly healed. My 'affair' (I'd told her it was with a woman, but been honest about it being a one off) was the first thing she would throw at me in an argument, even years later.
Your husband thinks he'd rather know, but once you tell him, he'll give anything to put the genie back in the bottle. You're already swinging, so it's not like you've introduced a risk of STI's as you would be if he thought you were monogamous.
Deal with it any other way. Drink a bottle of wine and have a good cry. Confide in a friend who you are certain you can trust. But seriously, as someone who's been there, and for his sake more than yours, don't tell him. |
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"I'm deleting it before 8.pm
It's not that easy is it,unless Admin are on the ball,which is in the lap of the god's. Give them a few hour's notice.
Well Admin does always say give them 48hrs to resolve anything plus it's the weekend "
Oh yeah there's no chance then  . I'm not convinced this is real anyway. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Thanks for confirming that some swinging couples do this ~ on the married cheaters are all b*stards threads the usual lines trotted out "we don't need to cheat, we swing"...as if by swinging they're protected from the need to cheat.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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To answer your question, it's a tricky one as I don't know him / you.
I would keep schtum, delete this profile & stop swinging. Explain to your husband you're wanting more from this lifestyle and you're concerned where it may lead too.
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I can't decide whether I believe this thread or not .
Why would a public posting of what happened be put up ?
And in the actual couple profile , which he must be able to see ?
The only person to gain anything from owning up is the op . The husband will be devastated , and won't trust her again . She can have a clear conscience by coming clean , and he has to deal with how that leaves him feeling .
A truly awful scenario , and if I was him I'd be gone . No trust , no relationship . End of .
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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I have always found that someone only admits to something especially cheating to absolve their own guilt and nothing to do with being honest with their partner.
I just don't understand how a couple who swings, can cheat so quickly and easily when the opportunity arises, either this meet was already cultivated on the sly and pre planned, because I am single and still can't find a meet  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have always found that someone only admits to something especially cheating to absolve their own guilt and nothing to do with being honest with their partner.
I just don't understand how a couple who swings, can cheat so quickly and easily when the opportunity arises, either this meet was already cultivated on the sly and pre planned, because I am single and still can't find a meet "
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It's a personal decision to take based on the qualities of the relationship and how agreements were made imo. As I think a partner would know, I would share and explain with them. And be there accepting responsibility to support them, should my actions upset them.
A strong foundation of trust, built upon honesty and recovery from mistakes, is better than one party being burdened by secrets and lies. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"it's actually easy to find an NSA fuck on here with someone you've never spoken to before.
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This, it's actually very easy to arrange an NSA quick fuck on here.
Trying to find somone you get on with to the point you can do things other than flirt and fuck is the hard part |
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