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Why don't people want couples anymore?
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Has fab turned into a singles hook up site? Even my profile will regularly get over a hundred views. Obviously my completely misleading avatar helps.. but our couples profile struggles to get even half a dozen!
5 or so years ago we would get fairly regular messages from single guys, but now it seems the scene is really singles for singles. Gone are the guys who actually wanted to play with couples. And before you ask, in 5 years or so we have never found a suitable couple. Just couples who really want a unicorn. |
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"Perhaps they meet at clubs and are on here to stay in touch.
There may be lots of couples meeting that you aren't aware of. "
As i say. Couldn't care less about other couples. The dynamic we would like doesn't exist. But the messages from single guys dropping so low is indicative to the influence of POF and Tinder imo. |
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I don't know how it was 5 years ago, we weren't in the swinging world then. But from our expirience and what we've seen, it's easier to meet couples and play in clubs that through here. When you are in a club or a party people are there, you don't need to arrange things to get together and everyone is right in the mood for fun. So it just happens.
We personally like you both ok and we would love to play with you but the 200miles and family life makes it difficult. I think that happens a lot here.
I hope i made sense
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"I played with a couple and they got possessive and clingy very quick. Put me off couples for life. "
Try not to judge all people in a group, by the actions of one. It will mean if you have a bad meet with a single guy, you'll only have women left to play with  |
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I actually agree. I think the site is definitely more about singles looking for singles - a dirty version of POF. We've noticed a bit of a difference even in our almost 3 years here.
But I think it hasn't affected the club scene much - clubs still have a strong couple vibe.
I don't really see a problem with it, it's all about supply and demand after all. This is just the result of more and more people looking for hookups online. |
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"I actually agree. I think the site is definitely more about singles looking for singles - a dirty version of POF. We've noticed a bit of a difference even in our almost 3 years here.
But I think it hasn't affected the club scene much - clubs still have a strong couple vibe.
I don't really see a problem with it, it's all about supply and demand after all. This is just the result of more and more people looking for hookups online."
Maybe the amount of couples on fab is the same, but the number of singles has increased? Is it the proportion that's changed rather than the number?
Agree with the clubs comment. We do nearly all our playing there. Fab is then for forums and handy messaging. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"I played with a couple and they got possessive and clingy very quick. Put me off couples for life. "
I've had this, they didn't appear to want me to meet other couples or singles and looked down on women with what that classed as too many veris, however, they were constantly meeting and looking for 'fresh meat' I was on a couple's profile when I met them they only wanted to meet us separately. |
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" Has fab turned into a singles hook up site? Even my profile will regularly get over a hundred views. Obviously my completely misleading avatar helps.. but our couples profile struggles to get even half a dozen!
5 or so years ago we would get fairly regular messages from single guys, but now it seems the scene is really singles for singles. Gone are the guys who actually wanted to play with couples. And before you ask, in 5 years or so we have never found a suitable couple. Just couples who really want a unicorn. "
You've not looked hard enough hun. We don't only look for unicorns at all. In fact, we've played with couples, single males, and never even had an ffm. |
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over a year ago
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the club scene has change the swinging scene ... 19 years ago when we started out it was all dogging and house parties both full of couples back then the nearest club was the midlands but now theres clubs everywhere and its less hassle for couples to go to a club and have fun with other couple rather than be messed around on here thats the difference now most couple use this site just to keep in touch |
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i find a lot of couples not all, i stress not all
have their heads up the ass so and become to much of chew messaging back n forth
so i give most a wide birth |
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"I played with a couple and they got possessive and clingy very quick. Put me off couples for life.
I've had this, they didn't appear to want me to meet other couples or singles and looked down on women with what that classed as too many veris, however, they were constantly meeting and looking for 'fresh meat' I was on a couple's profile when I met them they only wanted to meet us separately."
Thats not on.. Our couples profile has been on over 3 years now.Yes its easier for us to meet couples at the club but we also now have seperate profiles again club meets only 4 way attraction so difficult at times.Everyones there for a good time some nights you play some nights you dont you still enjoy yourself. We have yet to find a female to play with even at a club but hey one day.To be possesive is a bit weird its swinging for god sake your no ones property !  |
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Op. You know I did come here with an open mind to play with couples. But, and this is not directed at all, I stopped looking because most couples here make me feel like shit on the bottom of their shoe. So, what goes around, comes around. Sorry. |
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"Op. You know I did come here with an open mind to play with couples. But, and this is not directed at all, I stopped looking because most couples here make me feel like shit on the bottom of their shoe. So, what goes around, comes around. Sorry. "
Wow.
What goes around comes around, is normally used for individuals who have acted in a certain way.
We see couples, single guys and single ladies on here who are toss-pots. We still treat everyone as an individual on their own merits, not by their relationship status.
We've had amazing meets with all these groups, long may they all prosper. |
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"Op. You know I did come here with an open mind to play with couples. But, and this is not directed at all, I stopped looking because most couples here make me feel like shit on the bottom of their shoe. So, what goes around, comes around. Sorry.
Wow.
What goes around comes around, is normally used for individuals who have acted in a certain way.
We see couples, single guys and single ladies on here who are toss-pots. We still treat everyone as an individual on their own merits, not by their relationship status.
We've had amazing meets with all these groups, long may they all prosper."
I know, how I sound when I said that. But it's true. Just like single blokes here are catagorised by the way a few have made an impression. It's happened to me. I'm now reluctant to talk to a certain group because of a certain few, especially my experience and not just tales or rumours. (I hope this makes sense.) but it is mainly strange profiles who I don't know that I'm wary of. |
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"Op. You know I did come here with an open mind to play with couples. But, and this is not directed at all, I stopped looking because most couples here make me feel like shit on the bottom of their shoe. So, what goes around, comes around. Sorry.
Wow.
What goes around comes around, is normally used for individuals who have acted in a certain way.
We see couples, single guys and single ladies on here who are toss-pots. We still treat everyone as an individual on their own merits, not by their relationship status.
We've had amazing meets with all these groups, long may they all prosper.
I know, how I sound when I said that. But it's true. Just like single blokes here are catagorised by the way a few have made an impression. It's happened to me. I'm now reluctant to talk to a certain group because of a certain few, especially my experience and not just tales or rumours. (I hope this makes sense.) but it is mainly strange profiles who I don't know that I'm wary of. "
You're absolutely right. Used to see it all the time when i tried to chat to prospective meets from this profile. |
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"It probably has something to do with forums too.
If the couples profile would be active on forums im sure it would rise.
Only looked at your pofile because of forum"
Yeah maybe. But there's really only one compatible couple who use the forum. I'm sure you're right in the case of single men. Usual geographic restrictions apply. |
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over a year ago
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"I played with a couple and they got possessive and clingy very quick. Put me off couples for life.
Had a bad experience once myself, so just never bothered again.
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"a lot of couple that message me i find its all what they want, a list of rules, its never what i want only what they want "
All too frequent on here unfortunately and makes us singles feel like meat |
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I've only been on the site for a short time and I've had very little contact with couples and I am unlikely to. The "stories" I've heard are very negative about couples. The hasn't impacted how I feel. I was already of the opinion I didn't want to be part of a couple's fantasy, an extension of their sex life or a toy for their enjoyment. I also love being with one person and I'm straight so playing with a couple is of no interest to me |
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Can you imagine what the reaction would be if someone said, I met a black guy once and I didn't like him, so now I don't want anything to do with any black people?
Categorising all single guys, couples or single ladies in one pot is equally as ridiculous. In my opinion.
Luckily we've had great times with all three groups on lots of occasions.
Have fun folks, on all your meets, whoever you might be.
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over a year ago
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Found that once the mrs has had enough that usually ends playtime...and I am rarely had enough by then...one cock between two women, when one is me, is rarely enough too...despite how much fun I have with her |
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I use this site as a 'single' to hook up with other singles, couples are not on my radar on here. However if I was to meet in a club then it would be all about the people as opposed to if they were single or part of a couple. |
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"I've only been on the site for a short time and I've had very little contact with couples and I am unlikely to. The "stories" I've heard are very negative about couples. The hasn't impacted how I feel. I was already of the opinion I didn't want to be part of a couple's fantasy, an extension of their sex life or a toy for their enjoyment. I also love being with one person and I'm straight so playing with a couple is of no interest to me "
"Performing Seal" springs to mind on occasions. |
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"I've only been on the site for a short time and I've had very little contact with couples and I am unlikely to. The "stories" I've heard are very negative about couples. The hasn't impacted how I feel. I was already of the opinion I didn't want to be part of a couple's fantasy, an extension of their sex life or a toy for their enjoyment. I also love being with one person and I'm straight so playing with a couple is of no interest to me
"Performing Seal" springs to mind on occasions."
I was being diplomatic  |
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"I actually agree. I think the site is definitely more about singles looking for singles - a dirty version of POF. We've noticed a bit of a difference even in our almost 3 years here.
But I think it hasn't affected the club scene much - clubs still have a strong couple vibe.
I don't really see a problem with it, it's all about supply and demand after all. This is just the result of more and more people looking for hookups online.
Maybe the amount of couples on fab is the same, but the number of singles has increased? Is it the proportion that's changed rather than the number?
Agree with the clubs comment. We do nearly all our playing there. Fab is then for forums and handy messaging."
The problem with fab is that it's full of fantasists and couples where one half isn't sure if they want to play, or perhaps even alive. In our case we are unlikely to dedicate a precious saturday night to a couple we haven't met before; lest we get the no shows and catfish. If we do meet then we prefer it to be at a club anyway where we can ditch bad ones without writing off the rest of our night. |
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"I've only been on the site for a short time and I've had very little contact with couples and I am unlikely to. The "stories" I've heard are very negative about couples. The hasn't impacted how I feel. I was already of the opinion I didn't want to be part of a couple's fantasy, an extension of their sex life or a toy for their enjoyment. I also love being with one person and I'm straight so playing with a couple is of no interest to me
"Performing Seal" springs to mind on occasions.
I was being diplomatic "
I know, I wasn't |
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"I actually agree. I think the site is definitely more about singles looking for singles - a dirty version of POF. We've noticed a bit of a difference even in our almost 3 years here.
But I think it hasn't affected the club scene much - clubs still have a strong couple vibe.
I don't really see a problem with it, it's all about supply and demand after all. This is just the result of more and more people looking for hookups online.
Maybe the amount of couples on fab is the same, but the number of singles has increased? Is it the proportion that's changed rather than the number?
Agree with the clubs comment. We do nearly all our playing there. Fab is then for forums and handy messaging.
The problem with fab is that it's full of fantasists and couples where one half isn't sure if they want to play, or perhaps even alive. In our case we are unlikely to dedicate a precious saturday night to a couple we haven't met before; lest we get the no shows and catfish. If we do meet then we prefer it to be at a club anyway where we can ditch bad ones without writing off the rest of our night. "
We prefer to gain a raport on here before organising a meet at a club. Saves time at the club trying to work out what you all want out of any possible play. |
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The couples are a nightmare on here for single men and single women.
They are possibly the most entitled group, I wonder if that's because they have each to reinforce the belive they're in the right.
So i can see why many singles prefer to meet up with each other rather be a third wheel/play thing or jump through a couples weird hoops.
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over a year ago
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"another thing with couples the women can be attractive but is lumbered with a guy with a 2 inch willy, thats no good to no one
He could always pretend to be a woman? "
you seem to do well in that area |
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Shh don't tell anyone, it's all about the single males!
We've been running a highly successful campaign based on theatricality and deception for years....
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"The couples are a nightmare on here for single men and single women.
They are possibly the most entitled group, I wonder if that's because they have each to reinforce the belive they're in the right.
So i can see why many singles prefer to meet up with each other rather be a third wheel/play thing or jump through a couples weird hoops.
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Couples more entitled than single women??? |
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"another thing with couples the women can be attractive but is lumbered with a guy with a 2 inch willy, thats no good to no one
He could always pretend to be a woman?
you seem to do well in that area"
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"Op. You know I did come here with an open mind to play with couples. But, and this is not directed at all, I stopped looking because most couples here make me feel like shit on the bottom of their shoe. So, what goes around, comes around. Sorry. "
Have heard this a lot from single men regarding their experiences with couples, they're used like a piece of meat then discarded like stale leftovers...
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"The couples are a nightmare on here for single men and single women.
They are possibly the most entitled group, I wonder if that's because they have each to reinforce the belive they're in the right.
So i can see why many singles prefer to meet up with each other rather be a third wheel/play thing or jump through a couples weird hoops.
Couples more entitled than single women??? "
Far and away more entitled than single women. |
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" Has fab turned into a singles hook up site? Even my profile will regularly get over a hundred views. Obviously my completely misleading avatar helps.. but our couples profile struggles to get even half a dozen!
5 or so years ago we would get fairly regular messages from single guys, but now it seems the scene is really singles for singles. Gone are the guys who actually wanted to play with couples. And before you ask, in 5 years or so we have never found a suitable couple. Just couples who really want a unicorn. "
When I was on here before I had a few meets with couples and it was great fun but this time round most of the couples I've come across have been a nightmare! Couples seem to think they have the upper hand, that they should decide when n where etc More and more couples seem to need relationship councilling too, fed up of witnessing domestics! I know this isn't all couples but it has put me off, group fun for me now doesn't involve co-habiting or married couples
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"The couples are a nightmare on here for single men and single women.
They are possibly the most entitled group, I wonder if that's because they have each to reinforce the belive they're in the right.
So i can see why many singles prefer to meet up with each other rather be a third wheel/play thing or jump through a couples weird hoops.
Couples more entitled than single women???
Far and away more entitled than single women."
More entitled how?!
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"The couples are a nightmare on here for single men and single women.
They are possibly the most entitled group, I wonder if that's because they have each to reinforce the belive they're in the right.
So i can see why many singles prefer to meet up with each other rather be a third wheel/play thing or jump through a couples weird hoops.
Couples more entitled than single women???
Far and away more entitled than single women.
More entitled how?!
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In the exact way you wrote in your post just after mine?  |
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"The couples are a nightmare on here for single men and single women.
They are possibly the most entitled group, I wonder if that's because they have each to reinforce the belive they're in the right.
So i can see why many singles prefer to meet up with each other rather be a third wheel/play thing or jump through a couples weird hoops.
Couples more entitled than single women???
Far and away more entitled than single women."
We don't look for them so we'll take your word for it. I was going on other people's forum comments really. I would say the objectively the average quality of profile for single women is lower than couples (i.e. they don't make effort because they can get 100 messages with one line and a pussy picture). Keyword being average. Plently of nice single women here too. |
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"The couples are a nightmare on here for single men and single women.
They are possibly the most entitled group, I wonder if that's because they have each to reinforce the belive they're in the right.
So i can see why many singles prefer to meet up with each other rather be a third wheel/play thing or jump through a couples weird hoops.
Couples more entitled than single women???
Far and away more entitled than single women.
More entitled how?!
In the exact way you wrote in your post just after mine? "
They think they're more entitled |
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"The couples are a nightmare on here for single men and single women.
They are possibly the most entitled group, I wonder if that's because they have each to reinforce the belive they're in the right.
So i can see why many singles prefer to meet up with each other rather be a third wheel/play thing or jump through a couples weird hoops.
Couples more entitled than single women???
Far and away more entitled than single women.
More entitled how?!
In the exact way you wrote in your post just after mine?
They think they're more entitled "
I have no idea what you're blithering on about tbh. |
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"The couples are a nightmare on here for single men and single women.
They are possibly the most entitled group, I wonder if that's because they have each to reinforce the belive they're in the right.
So i can see why many singles prefer to meet up with each other rather be a third wheel/play thing or jump through a couples weird hoops.
Couples more entitled than single women???
Far and away more entitled than single women.
More entitled how?!
In the exact way you wrote in your post just after mine?
They think they're more entitled
I have no idea what you're blithering on about tbh."
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"The couples are a nightmare on here for single men and single women.
They are possibly the most entitled group, I wonder if that's because they have each to reinforce the belive they're in the right.
So i can see why many singles prefer to meet up with each other rather be a third wheel/play thing or jump through a couples weird hoops.
Couples more entitled than single women???
Far and away more entitled than single women."
Interesting viewpoint about the belief reinforcement.. |
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"Just been blocked by a couple on this thread because they didn't like my comment ........
look up my block the above profile thread, then block someone to feel better "
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"When you send messages and they keep getting deleted without being opened. It gets to a point when you say to yourself..why bother."
I delete unread if a face pic is not sent with the first message....it us quite clear on my profile...if I do this with single guys they often look then do as I ask without me having to moan...or they just leave it...have had quite a few couples do it over and over, never reading, never sending face pics so always getting messages deleted unread...thing is, their profile usually goes on about proving ya bloody read it! |
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We're a couple and even we've found couples are frequently the worst. By far the best couples are those where there's a genuine looseness to them. They're each independent characters with their own will and free to follow it. But these are rare. (We're one of them I should hasten to add  ). |
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"When you send messages and they keep getting deleted without being opened. It gets to a point when you say to yourself..why bother.
I delete unread if a face pic is not sent with the first message....it us quite clear on my profile...if I do this with single guys they often look then do as I ask without me having to moan...or they just leave it...have had quite a few couples do it over and over, never reading, never sending face pics so always getting messages deleted unread...thing is, their profile usually goes on about proving ya bloody read it! "
I hear what your saying,I just don't bother sending any messages at all now. If someone messages me,I will happily chat,if I have time to chat that is. |
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When we were meeting couples they were much ruder and more entitled and difficult than singles. Plus most only had pics of the woman so no point mailing them. We got fed up of looking for couples on here. |
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"There to busy arsing around with hairdryers on hubs to meet 
Gotta get your priorities right! .
Nobody likes a clicky cliquey hub "
Nail on the head
Too many on here just to get their egos stroked |
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I don't know that it's changed that much .
We meet couples , single men , single women , TVs , bi , straight , allsorts . And perhaps we are lucky but we never fail to meet someone who suits us at the time .
All this about nothing suitable , attraction. Is more difficult in a four way meet etc.... doesn't happen for us . We are picky , and turn down 9/10 offers , but the 1/10 is always fantastic .
There is the odd time when nothing seems to crop up on a night we are out , but almost every time someone turns up that we fancy .
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"When we were meeting couples they were much ruder and more entitled and difficult than singles. Plus most only had pics of the woman so no point mailing them. We got fed up of looking for couples on here."
We? |
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"When we were meeting couples they were much ruder and more entitled and difficult than singles. Plus most only had pics of the woman so no point mailing them. We got fed up of looking for couples on here.
We?"
We had a couples profile then, hence my use of "we".
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"When we were meeting couples they were much ruder and more entitled and difficult than singles. Plus most only had pics of the woman so no point mailing them. We got fed up of looking for couples on here.
We?
We had a couples profile then, hence my use of "we".
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.ahh ok ive only ever seen you on here as a single so was a bit confused |
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To be fair we sort of agree with op. We have been on here a few years now and we used to be able to get a meet at the click of a finger but nowadays we tend to really struggle. Mainly couples but also struggle to get single guys nowadays aswel (gave up with single girls along time ago lol) |
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"When we were meeting couples they were much ruder and more entitled and difficult than singles. Plus most only had pics of the woman so no point mailing them. We got fed up of looking for couples on here.
We?
We had a couples profile then, hence my use of "we".
.ahh ok ive only ever seen you on here as a single so was a bit confused"
I didn't post in the forum on that one. |
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When I joined fab I thought I would want to meet couples more than single men, but it appears much more difficult to arrange? I've got into some fairly deep conversation streams and almost setting dates to meet but something has gotten in the way each time. Whereas talking to and arranging meets with men appears much much easier? |
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We have found it increasingly difficult to find meets ,only get very few viewers daily and only had messages from two guys this week lol and only others messages are from friends |
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I think part of the problem is couples have driven away single women (unicorns as they call them) with thier predatory attitude which made it easier for single guys to meet single women.
So the site gets a good singles reputation resulting in more singles who aren't "swingers" joining being put off by couples and so on and so on.
Slowly moving the site towards singles |
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We stopped using the site to organise couples meets a few years ago. It's not worth the effort when it's so much easier to go to a club.
If we feel like inviting a single man round though we know we can put up a meet today and no matter how late, we'll get loads of offers.
The site itself has definitely become increasingly a singles hook up site. |
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We have never used this site to actively look for couples, (although we have made friends and occasionally played with couples via the party scene). When we are actively looking (which is rare) we use this site to find single male swingers to join us for threesome fun or to attend clubs with as a trio. One of the biggest surprises when we join a site that had 'swingers' in its name, was that the majority of single men on Fab are looking for a FWB or a one-to-one hook up with a single lady. Some of them will play with a couple, but it is obvious that they will only tolerate the husband being there in order to get a fuck. It is my view that, despite this being a swingers site, couples are very much an 'after-thought' for single guys. And given that single guys are the biggest demographic, it's probably fair to say that it's become to a certain extent a hook-up site for singles.
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I hear what people say about couples treating single men like dildos. On the flip side, as a couple who take a friendship-style approach with our playmates, there are very few men who actually want that. I think a lot of men would be very happy to meet a couple, have sex then go.
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"I've only been on the site for a short time and I've had very little contact with couples and I am unlikely to. The "stories" I've heard are very negative about couples. The hasn't impacted how I feel. I was already of the opinion I didn't want to be part of a couple's fantasy, an extension of their sex life or a toy for their enjoyment. I also love being with one person and I'm straight so playing with a couple is of no interest to me
"Performing Seal" springs to mind on occasions."
Why would singles who don't want to swing be on here. It doesn't make me angry, but you could find a straight guy on many of the other sites and app designed just for you.
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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago
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When i first joined i was predominantly looking to meet single ladies. I got talking to the male half of a couple on another site on the back of a forum discussion. Got as far as an arranged meeting but sadly it fell through. Ive not really actively sought to meet further couples so i cant speak with authority as such. As i see on many posts, statuses and profiles, theres a mix of easy going and stuck up examples of single men , women and couples. |
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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago
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"I've only been on the site for a short time and I've had very little contact with couples and I am unlikely to. The "stories" I've heard are very negative about couples. The hasn't impacted how I feel. I was already of the opinion I didn't want to be part of a couple's fantasy, an extension of their sex life or a toy for their enjoyment. I also love being with one person and I'm straight so playing with a couple is of no interest to me
"Performing Seal" springs to mind on occasions.
Why would singles who don't want to swing be on here. It doesn't make me angry, but you could find a straight guy on many of the other sites and app designed just for you.
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Because we can be and choose to be. |
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over a year ago
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Great thread, really interesting read. I had no idea that many couples were so blah.
We of course are quite lovely. We have just checked, we are not entitled to anything, though the bus pass is approaching fast.
We have met some awesome people on here x |
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"a lot of couple that message me i find its all what they want, a list of rules, its never what i want only what they want
All too frequent on here unfortunately and makes us singles feel like meat"
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"I've only been on the site for a short time and I've had very little contact with couples and I am unlikely to. The "stories" I've heard are very negative about couples. The hasn't impacted how I feel. I was already of the opinion I didn't want to be part of a couple's fantasy, an extension of their sex life or a toy for their enjoyment. I also love being with one person and I'm straight so playing with a couple is of no interest to me
"Performing Seal" springs to mind on occasions.
Why would singles who don't want to swing be on here. It doesn't make me angry, but you could find a straight guy on many of the other sites and app designed just for you.
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Maybe they are good at sex, but bad at relationships. |
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"Perhaps they meet at clubs and are on here to stay in touch.
There may be lots of couples meeting that you aren't aware of.
As i say. Couldn't care less about other couples. The dynamic we would like doesn't exist. But the messages from single guys dropping so low is indicative to the influence of POF and Tinder imo."
Wow what a guy what a attitude |
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"Perhaps they meet at clubs and are on here to stay in touch.
There may be lots of couples meeting that you aren't aware of.
As i say. Couldn't care less about other couples. The dynamic we would like doesn't exist. But the messages from single guys dropping so low is indicative to the influence of POF and Tinder imo.
Wow what a guy what a attitude "
What attitude?
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Why would a couple also use a single profile.
I cant get my head round it.
That's prob cis I'm one
Of those singles, spoiling the site for the real swingers... |
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"Perhaps they meet at clubs and are on here to stay in touch.
There may be lots of couples meeting that you aren't aware of.
As i say. Couldn't care less about other couples. The dynamic we would like doesn't exist. But the messages from single guys dropping so low is indicative to the influence of POF and Tinder imo.
Wow what a guy what a attitude "
I'll take that as a complement |
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"Why would a couple also use a single profile.
I cant get my head round it.
That's prob cis I'm one
Of those singles, spoiling the site for the real swingers..."
Because it's easier for me to meet singles than it is for hubby and I to meet as a couple. Because of the amount of singles looking for 1 to 1. We've compromised a little. |
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"Why would a couple also use a single profile.
I cant get my head round it.
That's prob cis I'm one
Of those singles, spoiling the site for the real swingers...
Because it's easier for me to meet singles than it is for hubby and I to meet as a couple. Because of the amount of singles looking for 1 to 1. We've compromised a little. "
Nah we just avoid clem:p |
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"Why would a couple also use a single profile.
I cant get my head round it.
That's prob cis I'm one
Of those singles, spoiling the site for the real swingers...
Because it's easier for me to meet singles than it is for hubby and I to meet as a couple. Because of the amount of singles looking for 1 to 1. We've compromised a little. "
You're not bi, so most couples won't want you anyway. |
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"Oh did i miss clip clip time?
What's clip clip time?"
It's when my phone decides to take my wit and change the clip clop of white knight hooves to clip clip  |
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"Oh did i miss clip clip time?
What's clip clip time?
It's when my phone decides to take my wit and change the clip clop of white knight hooves to clip clip "
Oh yea. My phone's a dick too. |
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Perhaps the tables have been reversed and now couples need to seek out single guys..
Thinking of new and interesting messages to send hoping for a response, remembering not to add any cock or fanny photos! |
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"I've only been on the site for a short time and I've had very little contact with couples and I am unlikely to. The "stories" I've heard are very negative about couples. The hasn't impacted how I feel. I was already of the opinion I didn't want to be part of a couple's fantasy, an extension of their sex life or a toy for their enjoyment. I also love being with one person and I'm straight so playing with a couple is of no interest to me
"Performing Seal" springs to mind on occasions.
Why would singles who don't want to swing be on here. It doesn't make me angry, but you could find a straight guy on many of the other sites and app designed just for you.
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What is 'swing'? |
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"I've only been on the site for a short time and I've had very little contact with couples and I am unlikely to. The "stories" I've heard are very negative about couples. The hasn't impacted how I feel. I was already of the opinion I didn't want to be part of a couple's fantasy, an extension of their sex life or a toy for their enjoyment. I also love being with one person and I'm straight so playing with a couple is of no interest to me
"Performing Seal" springs to mind on occasions.
Why would singles who don't want to swing be on here. It doesn't make me angry, but you could find a straight guy on many of the other sites and app designed just for you.
What is 'swing'?"
On a very basic term I would regard 'swinging' as a sexual activity where 3 people or more have some sort of involvement. I.e. The norm is for 2 people to have sex in private, so swinging is a lifestyle that goes outside that 'normal' box.
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"I hear what people say about couples treating single men like dildos. On the flip side, as a couple who take a friendship-style approach with our playmates, there are very few men who actually want that. I think a lot of men would be very happy to meet a couple, have sex then go.
Mrs"
This is a fact .
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"I've only been on the site for a short time and I've had very little contact with couples and I am unlikely to. The "stories" I've heard are very negative about couples. The hasn't impacted how I feel. I was already of the opinion I didn't want to be part of a couple's fantasy, an extension of their sex life or a toy for their enjoyment. I also love being with one person and I'm straight so playing with a couple is of no interest to me
"Performing Seal" springs to mind on occasions.
Why would singles who don't want to swing be on here. It doesn't make me angry, but you could find a straight guy on many of the other sites and app designed just for you.
What is 'swing'?
On a very basic term I would regard 'swinging' as a sexual activity where 3 people or more have some sort of involvement. I.e. The norm is for 2 people to have sex in private, so swinging is a lifestyle that goes outside that 'normal' box.
Mrs"
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"I've only been on the site for a short time and I've had very little contact with couples and I am unlikely to. The "stories" I've heard are very negative about couples. The hasn't impacted how I feel. I was already of the opinion I didn't want to be part of a couple's fantasy, an extension of their sex life or a toy for their enjoyment. I also love being with one person and I'm straight so playing with a couple is of no interest to me
"Performing Seal" springs to mind on occasions.
Why would singles who don't want to swing be on here. It doesn't make me angry, but you could find a straight guy on many of the other sites and app designed just for you.
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This site is designed for me too, I found it by tapping in NSA sex into Google, which is what I'm looking for. I believe the other sites you're directing me to are for dating, I don't want that.
I'm not taking up any cyberspace be being here but I suppose if you're looking for a single man I'm providing him with a viable alternative to meeting a couple......
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"I've only been on the site for a short time and I've had very little contact with couples and I am unlikely to. The "stories" I've heard are very negative about couples. The hasn't impacted how I feel. I was already of the opinion I didn't want to be part of a couple's fantasy, an extension of their sex life or a toy for their enjoyment. I also love being with one person and I'm straight so playing with a couple is of no interest to me
"Performing Seal" springs to mind on occasions.
Why would singles who don't want to swing be on here. It doesn't make me angry, but you could find a straight guy on many of the other sites and app designed just for you.
This site is designed for me too, I found it by tapping in NSA sex into Google, which is what I'm looking for. I believe the other sites you're directing me to are for dating, I don't want that.
I'm not taking up any cyberspace be being here but I suppose if you're looking for a single man I'm providing him with a viable alternative to meeting a couple......
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I found Roxy when I typed in 'super sexy woman', because that's what I'm looking for. |
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"I've only been on the site for a short time and I've had very little contact with couples and I am unlikely to. The "stories" I've heard are very negative about couples. The hasn't impacted how I feel. I was already of the opinion I didn't want to be part of a couple's fantasy, an extension of their sex life or a toy for their enjoyment. I also love being with one person and I'm straight so playing with a couple is of no interest to me
"Performing Seal" springs to mind on occasions.
Why would singles who don't want to swing be on here. It doesn't make me angry, but you could find a straight guy on many of the other sites and app designed just for you.
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So are you saying, singles looking for nsa sex/friendship or couples with single profiles should not be on Fab? |
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Jeez, so many posts on this thread, moaning about couple entitlement issues, single people not swingers blah, blah, blah......
Don't pigeon hole everyone, so we've had the odd poor experience with couples and single females, so what! Doesn't mean we say let's not meet them as 99% are wonderful meets.
Single people may fall outside the remit of what is actual swinging, and! So what! This is a site for sexually liberated people to hook up and enjoy sex (although many are plainly not sexually liberated, but that's a side issue)
Just enjoy, don't pigeon hole people and you'll find some real gems, we do, whether single ladies or couples, go enjoy yourselves xx |
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Couple meets are difficult because in my case I have to find both the man an woman attractive for me to want to play. I'm part of couple too, we find clubs meets easier for couple play. I have also noticed on here currently it's singles after each other. On my single profile is much the couples contacting me for a ffm but they won't meet in a club. So its a no from me. Single guys are getting pushy. Asking for picture after picture when I have 25 on my profile and they have 1! I have also encountered the domestics luckily I was not involved just a spectator! As a couple we have rules and they are not normally broken I love mfm but have only had 3 in my 3 yrs! |
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"Op. You know I did come here with an open mind to play with couples. But, and this is not directed at all, I stopped looking because most couples here make me feel like shit on the bottom of their shoe. So, what goes around, comes around. Sorry. "
Mr Bee that's not good.. I make sure both my men are enjoying the mfm! I'd definitely make sure you were having a good time |
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We don't seem to have encountered any issues so far...but we're very open and honest on our profile and in msging, we have some great friends who are singles that we may or may not meet, but we make that clear right from the start and just enjoy chatting and forming friendships. I'd hate for someone to feel used by us (unless that's the planned scenario...)
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"Why would a couple also use a single profile.
I cant get my head round it.
That's prob cis I'm one
Of those singles, spoiling the site for the real swingers...
Because it's easier for me to meet singles than it is for hubby and I to meet as a couple. Because of the amount of singles looking for 1 to 1. We've compromised a little.
You're not bi, so most couples won't want you anyway. "
Oh perhaps I should leave the site then as I don't fit the acceptance level for couples? |
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Playing with couples would be my preference if I was still meeting - one-to-one meets were great, but the reason I chose to join swinging sites was for group fun. As bi mmf was my favourite combination, it wasn't possible to enjoy that without the participation of couples who enjoyed that. |
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"I love the idea of meeting a couple but the reality of it seems a bit intimidating.
Its bad enough worrying about one person fancying me and being satisfied, never mind two! "
As a couple we'd worry about satisfying you! So don't worry about it, just enjoy..... |
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"I've only been on the site for a short time and I've had very little contact with couples and I am unlikely to. The "stories" I've heard are very negative about couples. The hasn't impacted how I feel. I was already of the opinion I didn't want to be part of a couple's fantasy, an extension of their sex life or a toy for their enjoyment. I also love being with one person and I'm straight so playing with a couple is of no interest to me
"Performing Seal" springs to mind on occasions.
Why would singles who don't want to swing be on here. It doesn't make me angry, but you could find a straight guy on many of the other sites and app designed just for you.
What is 'swing'?
On a very basic term I would regard 'swinging' as a sexual activity where 3 people or more have some sort of involvement. I.e. The norm is for 2 people to have sex in private, so swinging is a lifestyle that goes outside that 'normal' box.
Mrs"
So the classic wife swapping/keys in a bowl scenario isnt swinging to you? |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"I've only been on the site for a short time and I've had very little contact with couples and I am unlikely to. The "stories" I've heard are very negative about couples. The hasn't impacted how I feel. I was already of the opinion I didn't want to be part of a couple's fantasy, an extension of their sex life or a toy for their enjoyment. I also love being with one person and I'm straight so playing with a couple is of no interest to me
"Performing Seal" springs to mind on occasions.
Why would singles who don't want to swing be on here. It doesn't make me angry, but you could find a straight guy on many of the other sites and app designed just for you.
What is 'swing'?
On a very basic term I would regard 'swinging' as a sexual activity where 3 people or more have some sort of involvement. I.e. The norm is for 2 people to have sex in private, so swinging is a lifestyle that goes outside that 'normal' box.
Mrs
So the classic wife swapping/keys in a bowl scenario isnt swinging to you?"
Do people still do that?? Nice bike, by the way |
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"I've only been on the site for a short time and I've had very little contact with couples and I am unlikely to. The "stories" I've heard are very negative about couples. The hasn't impacted how I feel. I was already of the opinion I didn't want to be part of a couple's fantasy, an extension of their sex life or a toy for their enjoyment. I also love being with one person and I'm straight so playing with a couple is of no interest to me
"Performing Seal" springs to mind on occasions.
Why would singles who don't want to swing be on here. It doesn't make me angry, but you could find a straight guy on many of the other sites and app designed just for you.
What is 'swing'?
On a very basic term I would regard 'swinging' as a sexual activity where 3 people or more have some sort of involvement. I.e. The norm is for 2 people to have sex in private, so swinging is a lifestyle that goes outside that 'normal' box.
Mrs
So the classic wife swapping/keys in a bowl scenario isnt swinging to you?
Do people still do that?? Nice bike, by the way "
No idea, I dont have a wife or car keys
The is sadly it's smashed to pieces in the back garden after a crash
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over a year ago
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"i found couples got pushy in the last year or only one would run the acc which i prefer to be able to speak to all parties. x"
I have to agree with you on this, I've had several really pushy couples, male halves who are meeting alone, wanting a female for Mrs, getting the impression it's all about what THEY want no consideration for the single female or male, like we are there to be picked up whenever they want. |
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By *ecretsRmineWoman
over a year ago
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"i found couples got pushy in the last year or only one would run the acc which i prefer to be able to speak to all parties. x
I have to agree with you on this, I've had several really pushy couples, male halves who are meeting alone, wanting a female for Mrs, getting the impression it's all about what THEY want no consideration for the single female or male, like we are there to be picked up whenever they want."
yes male halfs too on own and this weekend several from the woman, insisting shes given hubby a free pass and i should go meet. |
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"a lot of couple that message me i find its all what they want, a list of rules, its never what i want only what they want "
Why wouldn't it be? They are seeking what they want.... if you fit what they want then great, if not, move on. The post you made regarding men with 2" cocks following this suggests you also want why you want! |
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I think swinging as a couple is often only a stage of swinging. I'm beginning to feel the rabbit hole essentially ends with us giving each other the gift of being free individuals for one or two nights a month... just so long as it doesn't impact negatively on our relationship. In this sense I wouldn't be surprised if swinging couples often mature into two swinging "singles" as they negotiate deeper freedoms with each other. The hope is, of course, that they don't end up being genuinely single |
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"Jeez, so many posts on this thread, moaning about couple entitlement issues, single people not swingers blah, blah, blah......
Don't pigeon hole everyone, so we've had the odd poor experience with couples and single females, so what! Doesn't mean we say let's not meet them as 99% are wonderful meets.
Single people may fall outside the remit of what is actual swinging, and! So what! This is a site for sexually liberated people to hook up and enjoy sex (although many are plainly not sexually liberated, but that's a side issue)
Just enjoy, don't pigeon hole people and you'll find some real gems, we do, whether single ladies or couples, go enjoy yourselves xx"
Swinging, a term coined in the 60's may have been based around wife swapping and the keys in the bowl parties with the obligatory pampas grass in the front garden, but times have changed, less people are conforming to the old expected values of getting married and those that do, apparently 1 in 3 marriages fail within 5 years...
So with such a high proportion of singles,the swinging scene is going to be filled predominantly with singles.
Swinging has evolved and people's preconceptions need to move with it..
No point in whinging about what was, it's never gonna be like that again, so embrace the today and enjoy it as tomorrow will be altogether different. |
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"i found couples got pushy in the last year or only one would run the acc which i prefer to be able to speak to all parties. x"
Think pushy gets mistaken for many things, we both enter into conversations with single females and as we consider play between anybody as equal dynamics we will not Pussy foot around if we don't get straight answers or they are just vague then we move on, that's not pushy, just not prepared to chase around like school kids. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"i found couples got pushy in the last year or only one would run the acc which i prefer to be able to speak to all parties. x
Think pushy gets mistaken for many things, we both enter into conversations with single females and as we consider play between anybody as equal dynamics we will not Pussy foot around if we don't get straight answers or they are just vague then we move on, that's not pushy, just not prepared to chase around like school kids."
I think by using the word 'pushy' she means couples that won't take no for an answer, e.g what's wrong with us or shitty message when saying no thanks. |
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a very good female friend of mine left here, as her main reason was a lot of couples look on a female as some sort of prey to be had and they became very aggressive towards her very predatory |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
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"a very good female friend of mine left here, as her main reason was a lot of couples look on a female as some sort of prey to be had and they became very aggressive towards her very predatory "
yep had this too they didn't appear to like me playing with others, but met loads themselves and looked down on women with too many veris
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By (user no longer on site)
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We are only seeking couples so don't have the same issues as many do. Plus we prefer to have a regular meet than a variety of partners.
We do get some men asking to meet me alone ( fem) or even just a 3 sum but not often.
We haven't tried a club yet so can't comment if that would be a better option for us x |
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"i found couples got pushy in the last year or only one would run the acc which i prefer to be able to speak to all parties. x
Think pushy gets mistaken for many things, we both enter into conversations with single females and as we consider play between anybody as equal dynamics we will not Pussy foot around if we don't get straight answers or they are just vague then we move on, that's not pushy, just not prepared to chase around like school kids."
Yeah absolutely .
Not all of us are seeking the single bi female above all else . Every meet , with every person is equally as much fun as far as we are concerned . |
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Too many people look at others like they are an object. "Couples are like this" "singles act like that" etc. This is part of the problem. Many that you get chatting to have already made their mind up and make assumptions. It's refreshing when you find someone who isn't like that. Also rare as fuck. |
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By *ecretsRmineWoman
over a year ago
gatwickish (yes that means near Gatwick) |
"i found couples got pushy in the last year or only one would run the acc which i prefer to be able to speak to all parties. x
Think pushy gets mistaken for many things, we both enter into conversations with single females and as we consider play between anybody as equal dynamics we will not Pussy foot around if we don't get straight answers or they are just vague then we move on, that's not pushy, just not prepared to chase around like school kids.
I think by using the word 'pushy' she means couples that won't take no for an answer, e.g what's wrong with us or shitty message when saying no thanks."
yes that or preasure for a meet. plus some expecting me to travel a long way late at night etc |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"i found couples got pushy in the last year or only one would run the acc which i prefer to be able to speak to all parties. x
Think pushy gets mistaken for many things, we both enter into conversations with single females and as we consider play between anybody as equal dynamics we will not Pussy foot around if we don't get straight answers or they are just vague then we move on, that's not pushy, just not prepared to chase around like school kids.
I think by using the word 'pushy' she means couples that won't take no for an answer, e.g what's wrong with us or shitty message when saying no thanks. yes that or preasure for a meet. plus some expecting me to travel a long way late at night etc "
that's clarified things then |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i found couples got pushy in the last year or only one would run the acc which i prefer to be able to speak to all parties. x
Think pushy gets mistaken for many things, we both enter into conversations with single females and as we consider play between anybody as equal dynamics we will not Pussy foot around if we don't get straight answers or they are just vague then we move on, that's not pushy, just not prepared to chase around like school kids.
I think by using the word 'pushy' she means couples that won't take no for an answer, e.g what's wrong with us or shitty message when saying no thanks. yes that or preasure for a meet. plus some expecting me to travel a long way late at night etc "
Having to travel a long way is a bit much, the pressure for a meet only exists if you are unsure about them, we feel no pressure if we really fancy the people of course we want to arrange a meet, so if you feel any pressure then they ain't the people for you eh? |
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Seems to be a lot of single women on this thread worried I'm trying to knock them from their pedestal. Don't worry I'm not. You're always going to be the most popular demographic in the swinging fuck fest!
I can see 3 profiles on my phone. This one. My wife's, and our couples profile. So far today my profile has received 50 views, my wife's 120, and our couple's profile 20. This is my point. I'm not saying singles aren't treated like sex toys to be used and thrown away, etc etc etc that's a different thread. What I'm saying is that the "scene", if there still is one, is centered around singles. And this has become more and more the case since Tinder etc. We only ever met single guys on our profile, but the messages received lately are 100% focused around meeting my wife. Maybe sometimes I'm invited, begrudgingly to watch. The single male swinger seems to now just be a single man, between relationships. The single man with the skills to play with a couple, rather than a wife, seems to be the true unicorn. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"Seems to be a lot of single women on this thread worried I'm trying to knock them from their pedestal. Don't worry I'm not. You're always going to be the most popular demographic in the swinging fuck fest!
I can see 3 profiles on my phone. This one. My wife's, and our couples profile. So far today my profile has received 50 views, my wife's 120, and our couple's profile 20. This is my point. I'm not saying singles aren't treated like sex toys to be used and thrown away, etc etc etc that's a different thread. What I'm saying is that the "scene", if there still is one, is centered around singles. And this has become more and more the case since Tinder etc. We only ever met single guys on our profile, but the messages received lately are 100% focused around meeting my wife. Maybe sometimes I'm invited, begrudgingly to watch. The single male swinger seems to now just be a single man, between relationships. The single man with the skills to play with a couple, rather than a wife, seems to be the true unicorn. "
I think you could be right here |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"What I'm saying is that the "scene", if there still is one, is centered around singles. And this has become more and more the case since Tinder etc. "
I agree to a certain extent - I think the scene on here is certainly but clubs seem to be far more a couples thing. Maybe that's a route you could look at? |
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"What I'm saying is that the "scene", if there still is one, is centered around singles. And this has become more and more the case since Tinder etc.
I agree to a certain extent - I think the scene on here is certainly but clubs seem to be far more a couples thing. Maybe that's a route you could look at? "
Well we used to go to BMFC, but even that was more guys who wanted to take my wife to a private room while i waited elsewhere. That situation can be fun, on occasion, but not as the norm.
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only 3% of couples profiles are genuine
on here the other 97 are single men with pictures of females on
there is one genuine couple in Scotland and I believe there is 2 in London
there was one couple in Wales but they have deleted there account
other than that this site is mainly single men and women |
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"only 3% of couples profiles are genuine
on here the other 97 are single men with pictures of females on
there is one genuine couple in Scotland and I believe there is 2 in London
there was one couple in Wales but they have deleted there account
other than that this site is mainly single men and women "
i don't doubt that! |
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By *omesWoman
over a year ago
Surrey |
" Has fab turned into a singles hook up site? Even my profile will regularly get over a hundred views. Obviously my completely misleading avatar helps.. but our couples profile struggles to get even half a dozen!
5 or so years ago we would get fairly regular messages from single guys, but now it seems the scene is really singles for singles. Gone are the guys who actually wanted to play with couples. And before you ask, in 5 years or so we have never found a suitable couple. Just couples who really want a unicorn.
You've not looked hard enough hun. We don't only look for unicorns at all. In fact, we've played with couples, single males, and never even had an ffm."
You've not looked hard enough hun.????
I looked through the forums and you have post all most identical post one of which was this morning so I'm confused did you find a magical place in the last few hours where all singles sit at your feet begging to have sex with you??
All most all singles men or women on Fabs has a horror story about meeting couples.
Maybe if couples spent less time being rude superior and demanding thing would be different |
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"Too many people look at others like they are an object. "Couples are like this" "singles act like that" etc. This is part of the problem. Many that you get chatting to have already made their mind up and make assumptions. It's refreshing when you find someone who isn't like that. Also rare as fuck. "
exactly. Treat everybody as individuals on their own merits, not on how other people have behaved. |
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By *sGivesWoodWoman
over a year ago
ST. AUSTELL, CORNWALL |
"Too many people look at others like they are an object. "Couples are like this" "singles act like that" etc. This is part of the problem. Many that you get chatting to have already made their mind up and make assumptions. It's refreshing when you find someone who isn't like that. Also rare as fuck.
exactly. Treat everybody as individuals on their own merits, not on how other people have behaved."
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've only been on the site for a short time and I've had very little contact with couples and I am unlikely to. The "stories" I've heard are very negative about couples. The hasn't impacted how I feel. I was already of the opinion I didn't want to be part of a couple's fantasy, an extension of their sex life or a toy for their enjoyment. I also love being with one person and I'm straight so playing with a couple is of no interest to me
"Performing Seal" springs to mind on occasions.
Why would singles who don't want to swing be on here. It doesn't make me angry, but you could find a straight guy on many of the other sites and app designed just for you.
What is 'swing'?
On a very basic term I would regard 'swinging' as a sexual activity where 3 people or more have some sort of involvement. I.e. The norm is for 2 people to have sex in private, so swinging is a lifestyle that goes outside that 'normal' box.
Mrs
So the classic wife swapping/keys in a bowl scenario isnt swinging to you?"
Yes of course it's swinging. That's a whole group of people pairing of for sex and coming back and probably telling their partners about. Think that's safe to say that scenario is well outside the box of normality |
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I'd love to find a couple for regular fun, I'm here for couples. I can find a single woman in a pub or club or like you say Tinder or POF.
There's something that a couple offers that can't be replicated by just one partner |
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By * and BCouple
over a year ago
Durham |
Life is full of great and weird folk, not just in the swinging scene, as we have met some wonderful couples and singles in and out of the scene. We treat everyone we meet with the utmost respect. Like others have been fooled to. Couples who pretend to like both of us but have an agenda to try and lure the female away. That would never put us off couples, like we say weird and wonderful. Most of our experiences have been mind blowing. It is so hard though to find couples or females who can put their trust in you. As this thread proves there are so many with there own agenda and treat people with a lack of respect. All we all want are people who are on the same wavelength with respect and honesty. We have gone along the way of thinking the same as a lot, that clubs are a good place to meet due to the people who waste peoples time or the ones who arrange a meet to just cancel and go meet the better people, (or so they think) |
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