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over a year ago
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"I'd never speak Ill of the dead but I struggle to see how a father of 6 can take his own life."
Was a great performer and a big loss
But have to agree with the above |
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"I'd never speak Ill of the dead but I struggle to see how a father of 6 can take his own life.
Was a great performer and a big loss
But have to agree with the above"
Very selfish act when you have children .......
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Rip chester very very sad news, amazing singer. Saw LP not long after they broke through. So very sad. Say hi to lemmy & ronnie james. Enjoy your sing offs with the true legends |
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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago
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"I'd never speak Ill of the dead but I struggle to see how a father of 6 can take his own life.
Was a great performer and a big loss
But have to agree with the above
Very selfish act when you have children .......
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I'm pretty sure someone who is so unhappy they want to die is not going to be swayed by the thought of family. I can't even imagine how bad someone must feel to do so, so I won't be judging. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd never speak Ill of the dead but I struggle to see how a father of 6 can take his own life.
Was a great performer and a big loss
But have to agree with the above
Very selfish act when you have children .......
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You don't understand the psychology of suicide much then do you.
One thing I detest is someone saying 'it's a selfish act' |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd never speak Ill of the dead but I struggle to see how a father of 6 can take his own life.
Was a great performer and a big loss
But have to agree with the above
Very selfish act when you have children .......
I'm pretty sure someone who is so unhappy they want to die is not going to be swayed by the thought of family. I can't even imagine how bad someone must feel to do so, so I won't be judging."
he had a mental illness, the only people who can understand are the ones who are there as well. when its got a hold of you then rational thinking goes out the window. kids and relatives don't fit into the equation when you are that far on the edge.
and it also shows that money doesn't buy happiness. |
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"I'd never speak Ill of the dead but I struggle to see how a father of 6 can take his own life.
Was a great performer and a big loss
But have to agree with the above
Very selfish act when you have children .......
You don't understand the psychology of suicide much then do you.
One thing I detest is someone saying 'it's a selfish act'"
First hand experience.... |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd never speak Ill of the dead but I struggle to see how a father of 6 can take his own life.
Was a great performer and a big loss
But have to agree with the above
I'm pretty sure someone who is so unhappy they want to die is not going to be swayed by the thought of family. I can't even imagine how bad someone must feel to do so, so I won't be judging.
he had a mental illness, the only people who can understand are the ones who are there as well. when its got a hold of you then rational thinking goes out the window. kids and relatives don't fit into the equation when you are that far on the edge.
and it also shows that money doesn't buy happiness."
Your mind is not your own during depression |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd never speak Ill of the dead but I struggle to see how a father of 6 can take his own life.
Was a great performer and a big loss
But have to agree with the above
Very selfish act when you have children .......
You don't understand the psychology of suicide much then do you.
One thing I detest is someone saying 'it's a selfish act'
First hand experience...."
So have I, and the last thing crossing my mind when I had to cut him down was 'selfish' |
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"I'd never speak Ill of the dead but I struggle to see how a father of 6 can take his own life.
Was a great performer and a big loss
But have to agree with the above
Very selfish act when you have children .......
You don't understand the psychology of suicide much then do you.
One thing I detest is someone saying 'it's a selfish act'"
I agree, when you are in that state of mind it's not a decision you take lightly, you genuinely believe the people you leave behind will be better off without you to screw up their lives, it's done with the best of intentions!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd never speak Ill of the dead but I struggle to see how a father of 6 can take his own life.
Was a great performer and a big loss
But have to agree with the above
Very selfish act when you have children .......
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Unless you have lived with mental illness/depression for most of your life, as Chester had (or at least live with some you love with it) you'd be unable to appreciate how truly tragic life can be. The emotions depression cause are far from selfish. My thoughts and love go out to Chester's friends and family. I hope they can draw some sort of strength from is sad event. Even if it's the fact we're all openly talking about it.
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By (user no longer on site)
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I think until you have experienced really deep depression you will probably never understand. I've been in that situation where I was on the brink of taking my own life but somehow managed to fight it. I now have no doubt that it may come back to haunt me again but talking about it and seeking some form of help really helped me. You are NOT weak in seeking help as I always thought.
R.I.P to the poor guy |
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"I'd never speak Ill of the dead but I struggle to see how a father of 6 can take his own life.
Was a great performer and a big loss
But have to agree with the above
Very selfish act when you have children .......
You don't understand the psychology of suicide much then do you.
One thing I detest is someone saying 'it's a selfish act'
First hand experience....
So have I, and the last thing crossing my mind when I had to cut him down was 'selfish'"
Agree to disagree....traumatic for you and me and my two young boys too |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd never speak Ill of the dead but I struggle to see how a father of 6 can take his own life.
Was a great performer and a big loss
But have to agree with the above
Very selfish act when you have children .......
I'm pretty sure someone who is so unhappy they want to die is not going to be swayed by the thought of family. I can't even imagine how bad someone must feel to do so, so I won't be judging."
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd never speak Ill of the dead but I struggle to see how a father of 6 can take his own life.
Was a great performer and a big loss
But have to agree with the above
Very selfish act when you have children .......
You don't understand the psychology of suicide much then do you.
One thing I detest is someone saying 'it's a selfish act'
First hand experience....
So have I, and the last thing crossing my mind when I had to cut him down was 'selfish'
Agree to disagree....traumatic for you and me and my two young boys too"
Who will actually know what dark place a person's mind is in to actually take their own life. It goes against natural impulse to survive so one can only think the mind is very distressed to do it. I'd say selfish are the ones who kill their kids then themselves. Sad he felt he was beyond help. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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What I've done. ...
In this farewell
There's no blood, there's no alibi
'Cause I've drawn regret
From the truth of a thousand lies
So let mercy come and wash away
What I've done
I'll face myself to cross out what I've become
Erase myself
And let go of what I've done
Put to rest what you thought of me
While I clean this slate
With the hands of uncertainty
So let mercy come and wash away
What I've done
I'll face myself to cross out what I've become
Erase myself
And let go of what I've done
For what I've done
I start again
And whatever pain may come
Today this ends
I'm forgiving what I've done
I'll face myself to cross out what I've become
Erase myself
And let go of what I've done
What I've done
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Absolutely gutted by this. I have been a fan from the beginning and although they lost their way a bit with the newer stuff I listened to the older albums regularly ... a true talent an amazing voice gone far to soon....every one has their battles....its ok not to be ok |
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"What I've done. ...
In this farewell
There's no blood, there's no alibi
'Cause I've drawn regret
From the truth of a thousand lies
So let mercy come and wash away
What I've done
I'll face myself to cross out what I've become
Erase myself
And let go of what I've done
Put to rest what you thought of me
While I clean this slate
With the hands of uncertainty
So let mercy come and wash away
What I've done
I'll face myself to cross out what I've become
Erase myself
And let go of what I've done
For what I've done
I start again
And whatever pain may come
Today this ends
I'm forgiving what I've done
I'll face myself to cross out what I've become
Erase myself
And let go of what I've done
What I've done
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I truly love this song, for several very personal reasons, I'm now listening to it on repeat, with tears streaming down my face.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd never speak Ill of the dead but I struggle to see how a father of 6 can take his own life.
Was a great performer and a big loss
But have to agree with the above
Very selfish act when you have children .......
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It's not selfish. The guy was obviously very ill. I hate reading comments like this about suicide. My friend's fiancé took his own life. He was suffering so much with his depression and he just couldn't cope. It was no more selfish than someone severely poorly with a physical illness. |
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"I'd never speak Ill of the dead but I struggle to see how a father of 6 can take his own life.
Was a great performer and a big loss
But have to agree with the above
Very selfish act when you have children .......
You don't understand the psychology of suicide much then do you.
One thing I detest is someone saying 'it's a selfish act'
First hand experience....
So have I, and the last thing crossing my mind when I had to cut him down was 'selfish'
Agree to disagree....traumatic for you and me and my two young boys too
Who will actually know what dark place a person's mind is in to actually take their own life. It goes against natural impulse to survive so one can only think the mind is very distressed to do it. I'd say selfish are the ones who kill their kids then themselves. Sad he felt he was beyond help."
There are no words to adequately describe the depths despair that drive a person to suicide, the bottomless black hole you fall into that makes death seem the only way out, or the serenity of making the decision and planning to take your own life. When everything is overwhelming and you feel like you're drowning, this is the one thing you can control. Speaking as someone who actually committed suicide and was brought back   |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Tbh not a fan or anything but he must of had his demons to take his own life.
It's always very hard for the ones they leave behind so my thoughts are with them now who have been left behind to try to make sense of his act. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'd never speak Ill of the dead but I struggle to see how a father of 6 can take his own life.
Was a great performer and a big loss
But have to agree with the above
I'm pretty sure someone who is so unhappy they want to die is not going to be swayed by the thought of family. I can't even imagine how bad someone must feel to do so, so I won't be judging.
he had a mental illness, the only people who can understand are the ones who are there as well. when its got a hold of you then rational thinking goes out the window. kids and relatives don't fit into the equation when you are that far on the edge.
and it also shows that money doesn't buy happiness.
Your mind is not your own during depression "
Not so sure about that statement & i talk with 100% first hand knowledge |
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By (user no longer on site)
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The comments I'm reading from some people are just sad clearly have no idea what you are talking about. I've had a family member commit suicide it's never a first choice for anyone it doesn't matter if you have kids are rich famous ect depression is a killer end of the despair people feel that this is the only option is just heartbreaking and we should all feel lucky we don't feel the same. |
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By *ucyfur77Woman
over a year ago
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"What I've done. ...
In this farewell
There's no blood, there's no alibi
'Cause I've drawn regret
From the truth of a thousand lies
So let mercy come and wash away
What I've done
I'll face myself to cross out what I've become
Erase myself
And let go of what I've done
Put to rest what you thought of me
While I clean this slate
With the hands of uncertainty
So let mercy come and wash away
What I've done
I'll face myself to cross out what I've become
Erase myself
And let go of what I've done
For what I've done
I start again
And whatever pain may come
Today this ends
I'm forgiving what I've done
I'll face myself to cross out what I've become
Erase myself
And let go of what I've done
What I've done
I truly love this song, for several very personal reasons, I'm now listening to it on repeat, with tears streaming down my face.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Linkin Park were the first band that got me into metal, I loved the aggression in the music and vocals and helped me release a lot of my anger due to my own battles with mental health. Hearing this news earlier has really upset me especially as it seems he took his own life. Depression and other forms of mental illness affect people in different ways. Where one person can cope day by day others are looking for an end to it.
To quote one of Chesters lyrics...
'I tried so hard and got so far, but in the end it doesn't even matter' |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The comments I'm reading from some people are just sad clearly have no idea what you are talking about. I've had a family member commit suicide it's never a first choice for anyone it doesn't matter if you have kids are rich famous ect depression is a killer end of the despair people feel that this is the only option is just heartbreaking and we should all feel lucky we don't feel the same. "
I agree with you. I was talking with my son on the subject of males committing suicide last night, because one of his 19 year old friends recently hanged himself. It's very sad when anybody commits suicide. I have also attended coroner's removals of suicide victims. For people to call them selfish and say they don't understand how they can do it is just heartless and cruel. There is a general lack of understanding of males emotions in this country and others. People should show some compassion or keep their mouths shut XXX |
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Statistically men are 3 times more likely to commit suicide than women. Especially in the 45-59yrs age group. With most suicides being in the Yorkshire & Humber region of England.
In 2015, the number of suicides in England was over 4,500.
There needs to be more help and understanding for people with Depression and other mental health problems.
It's ok to be not ok.
It's ok to talk.
Stay safe |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Fucking awful. Poor guy.
Such a shame that him, Robin Williams etc, public figures battling depression, couldnt get the help they needed and be examples to others in similar situations, of succeeding and coming out the other side. |
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I'm here to pay my respects to someone who's music I wasn't a fan of.
It's very sad indeed. They said on the news 'Married with six children aswell'
That's a hell of a hole he has left to fill. A lot of broken hearts left behind.
Hope he rests in peace |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Tbh not a fan or anything but he must of had his demons to take his own life.
It's always very hard for the ones they leave behind so my thoughts are with them now who have been left behind to try to make sense of his act."
Indeed, those demons can arrive at anytime especially when you're weakened by other things. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Mine were due to being slightly Aspergers and not knowing what was wrong- the all encompassing social life of university crushed me and pushed me right to the edge.
I very nearly did - and lived with the consequences for a long long time. |
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