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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Yesterday I found out that someone mentioned my name to a colleague and this is the same person that bitches about this person to me.the saying is so true if they talk to you they will talk about u,,,its just annoyed me a bit...anyone else experienced the same,,,any advice? |
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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago
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lol, yeah it's true.
always presume someone acts the same with others as they do with you.
advice is start fucking with their head, tell them the other person has been saying stuff to you about them.  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yes and I couldn't care less. If they talk about me it just means that they're jealous or envious of something to do with me."
I agree with that part this person is jealous of both of us and prob wants to play us off against each other. |
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By *oodmessMan
over a year ago
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"Yes and I couldn't care less. If they talk about me it just means that they're jealous or envious of something to do with me."
Too true, usually people who are insecure about themselves, their work or want to appear more important, likeable, wanted or needed by putting others down. Come at you with a toothy grim you could decorate a beach with. |
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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago
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"lol, yeah it's true.
always presume someone acts the same with others as they do with you.
advice is start fucking with their head, tell them the other person has been saying stuff to you about them. "
to add to this do the shit stirring at opportune moments only, like when they start saying something about the other person you then bring up 'ooh speaking of *whoever*, they said *insert bullshit here* about you. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"lol, yeah it's true.
always presume someone acts the same with others as they do with you.
advice is start fucking with their head, tell them the other person has been saying stuff to you about them.
to add to this do the shit stirring at opportune moments only, like when they start saying something about the other person you then bring up 'ooh speaking of *whoever*, they said *insert bullshit here* about you."
I can say they did mention u said this about me lol |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i would not go to their level Op rise above the pettiness
Was going to try this approach and when they try to gossip just go silent."
yes or tell them you do not want to know or change the subject to something like a hobby |
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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago
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"lol, yeah it's true.
always presume someone acts the same with others as they do with you.
advice is start fucking with their head, tell them the other person has been saying stuff to you about them.
to add to this do the shit stirring at opportune moments only, like when they start saying something about the other person you then bring up 'ooh speaking of *whoever*, they said *insert bullshit here* about you.
I can say they did mention u said this about me lol "
only say that to the one you trust. the one you don't trust will up their game to get one over on you.
people like this tend to be stupid, gossips and malicious people, but when threatened they can cause a shit storm. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yes and I couldn't care less. If they talk about me it just means that they're jealous or envious of something to do with me.
Too true, usually people who are insecure about themselves, their work or want to appear more important, likeable, wanted or needed by putting others down. Come at you with a toothy grim you could decorate a beach with."
this person was moaning work never give recognition and myself and another colleague received thank you cards in the post for all our hard work ,,,think this pissed her off and she got a bit jealous about it. |
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All the time at work but they way I see it is if they are to pussy to say it to my face then why let it bother me. I do on occasion drop a sly dig into a conversation and if they are dumb enough to question it I let them know I heard all about it. It's amazing how much so called grown men can squirm |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I bet it you were to confront them & ask them why are they talking about you it would soon stop the bitching."
The next time they bitch about that person I will stop them in their tracks and say they did mention u were talking about me recently. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It sounds a little like resentment. I would just be civil, but exchange nothing personal about them. If someone bitches to me about others, I know not to tell them anything juicy about me, because chances are, they will be gossiping about it in no time. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"All the time at work but they way I see it is if they are to pussy to say it to my face then why let it bother me. I do on occasion drop a sly dig into a conversation and if they are dumb enough to question it I let them know I heard all about it. It's amazing how much so called grown men can squirm "
This is a woman bitching about me to another woman.:/ |
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"All the time at work but they way I see it is if they are to pussy to say it to my face then why let it bother me. I do on occasion drop a sly dig into a conversation and if they are dumb enough to question it I let them know I heard all about it. It's amazing how much so called grown men can squirm
This is a woman bitching about me to another woman.:/"
Them bitches be craaazy man. Women are smarter and slyer than men. Watch your back mate  |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"It sounds a little like resentment. I would just be civil, but exchange nothing personal about them. If someone bitches to me about others, I know not to tell them anything juicy about me, because chances are, they will be gossiping about it in no time. "
its a bit of jealousy I think me and the other colleague got thank you cards in the post and this person didn't and it wound her up,,,she wants to be noticed etc |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"All the time at work but they way I see it is if they are to pussy to say it to my face then why let it bother me. I do on occasion drop a sly dig into a conversation and if they are dumb enough to question it I let them know I heard all about it. It's amazing how much so called grown men can squirm
This is a woman bitching about me to another woman.:/
Them bitches be craaazy man. Women are smarter and slyer than men. Watch your back mate "
Noted lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"she might just want cock to calm her bitchyness down why not fuck her and get it over with"
Lol who knows u may be right she has a good body but not good to mix work and sex life together lol?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It sounds a little like resentment. I would just be civil, but exchange nothing personal about them. If someone bitches to me about others, I know not to tell them anything juicy about me, because chances are, they will be gossiping about it in no time.
its a bit of jealousy I think me and the other colleague got thank you cards in the post and this person didn't and it wound her up,,,she wants to be noticed etc"
I think you're right. Perhaps she should be bitching about the ones who sent the cards then  .... Don't let it take away from the fact that you did a good job  . |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"It sounds a little like resentment. I would just be civil, but exchange nothing personal about them. If someone bitches to me about others, I know not to tell them anything juicy about me, because chances are, they will be gossiping about it in no time.
its a bit of jealousy I think me and the other colleague got thank you cards in the post and this person didn't and it wound her up,,,she wants to be noticed etc
I think you're right. Perhaps she should be bitching about the ones who sent the cards then .... Don't let it take away from the fact that you did a good job . "
Thanks she just likes to bitch about everyone,,,she's not happy unless she's moaning. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"i would not go to their level Op rise above the pettiness
Was going to try this approach and when they try to gossip just go silent. yes or tell them you do not want to know or change the subject to something like a hobby "
Sounds gd keep changing the subject she'l soon get the hint or maybe not in her case lol |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"by the sounds of it Op i think she is wanting a 3 sum or a gang bang over the photocopier "
Haha now that's a steamy thought one is 19 and the other a milf type ?? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It sounds a little like resentment. I would just be civil, but exchange nothing personal about them. If someone bitches to me about others, I know not to tell them anything juicy about me, because chances are, they will be gossiping about it in no time.
its a bit of jealousy I think me and the other colleague got thank you cards in the post and this person didn't and it wound her up,,,she wants to be noticed etc
I think you're right. Perhaps she should be bitching about the ones who sent the cards then .... Don't let it take away from the fact that you did a good job .
Thanks she just likes to bitch about everyone,,,she's not happy unless she's moaning."
So you were just the flavour of the day then . She'll be bitching about someone else tomorrow . |
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I don't say and share stuff that I wouldn't publicly do, as it just allows me to feel more settled and comfortable this way.
As a good listener I try to fix the boundary between others being intimately open and stirring up trouble, which I'd prefer not to be involved with. I let people know when I'm uncomfortable with what they're saying about others.
People will try to play games but the best stance is to be clear with them, possibly telling them like it is or stonewalling them. Save your trust for people who deserve it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I don't say and share stuff that I wouldn't publicly do, as it just allows me to feel more settled and comfortable this way.
As a good listener I try to fix the boundary between others being intimately open and stirring up trouble, which I'd prefer not to be involved with. I let people know when I'm uncomfortable with what they're saying about others.
People will try to play games but the best stance is to be clear with them, possibly telling them like it is or stonewalling them. Save your trust for people who deserve it."
Will make sure the boundary is clear I don't want to know about others etc ,,,sound advice |
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