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Is Love Racist ? The Dating Game.
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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Having read many posts on whether a persons choice's of the colour of the people they like to have fun with are preferences or racist I thought people might like to watch this upcoming programme.
Is Love Racist ? The Dating Game.
Channel 4 Monday July 17th at 10pm. |
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I can't believe people give time and money researching this, my god there are kids starving to death, but we happily spend money on things that don't matter, it's like falling behind on a mortgage, but spending thousands decorating the place, priorities are all over the place these days |
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By *orum TrollWoman
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"I can't believe people give time and money researching this, my god there are kids starving to death, but we happily spend money on things that don't matter, it's like falling behind on a mortgage, but spending thousands decorating the place, priorities are all over the place these days"
it does matter. psychology is really important, especially in understanding people and why they do the things they do. knowing that can shape societies.
depends why they are doing it though, if they're doing it to further divide us based on race then not so good. |
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The majority of people, whether black, white, asian or 'other' prefer to mate and breed with their own kind, just like an alsation would probably rather have sex with another alsation, as opposed to poodle.
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"The majority of people, whether black, white, asian or 'other' prefer to mate and breed with their own kind, just like an alsation would probably rather have sex with another alsation, as opposed to poodle.
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Did you get that off google again  |
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"The majority of people, whether black, white, asian or 'other' prefer to mate and breed with their own kind, just like an alsation would probably rather have sex with another alsation, as opposed to poodle.
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Says who ??? |
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"The majority of people, whether black, white, asian or 'other' prefer to mate and breed with their own kind, just like an alsation would probably rather have sex with another alsation, as opposed to poodle.
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How many Alsatians did you interview? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can't believe people give time and money researching this, my god there are kids starving to death, but we happily spend money on things that don't matter, it's like falling behind on a mortgage, but spending thousands decorating the place, priorities are all over the place these days"
some waste their time and money on sex swinger sites... what might not matter to one person most certainly will to others
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By *eliWoman
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"The majority of people, whether black, white, asian or 'other' prefer to mate and breed with their own kind, just like an alsation would probably rather have sex with another alsation, as opposed to poodle.
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 . I've yet to meet someone of my own 'kind' apart from my brothers and sisters - I can easily say I don't want to breed and mate with them.
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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It's set to record/reminder.
My experience of dogs is that they shag whichever breed is in season and available. It's human breeders that stop them from breeding outside of their breed.
As with most things, our sphere of interaction and influence is quite limited. We fall for the type of people we see most. If you see lots of different types of people you may be more willing to engage with different types of people. I'm interested in how much is wired by our formative experiences.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"It's set to record/reminder.
My experience of dogs is that they shag whichever breed is in season and available. It's human breeders that stop them from breeding outside of their breed.
As with most things, our sphere of interaction and influence is quite limited. We fall for the type of people we see most. If you see lots of different types of people you may be more willing to engage with different types of people. I'm interested in how much is wired by our formative experiences.
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I can totally relate to this. And its very evident in my family.
Myself and my cousins (8 of us) grew up in a time and area where we were very much in the minority. Our parents didnt really socialise within Asian circles.
To that extent none of us have married or been in relationships that are within the Indian dispora.
My other cousins who lived in areas like Liecester and Bradford have all married within the Indian dispora.
I belive it has a lot to do with the environment you are raised in. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can't believe people give time and money researching this, my god there are kids starving to death, but we happily spend money on things that don't matter, it's like falling behind on a mortgage, but spending thousands decorating the place, priorities are all over the place these days
it does matter. psychology is really important, especially in understanding people and why they do the things they do. knowing that can shape societies.
depends why they are doing it though, if they're doing it to further divide us based on race then not so good."
I'd rather they spent the money finding out why people hurt children, or why seemingly happy people suddenly kill themselves, or why people hate, rather than why people love, if someone genuinely loves someone, it needs no explanation, just let it be |
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By (user no longer on site)
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As with most things, our sphere of interaction and influence is quite limited. We fall for the type of people we see most. If you see lots of different types of people you may be more willing to engage with different types of people. I'm interested in how much is wired by our formative experiences.
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Are there studies that back this up?
I have tried to google before to see if its common to find people that are more familiar to you more attractive but have never been able to find anything
I have definitely noticed with being on dating sites for so long that the more see a profile the more attractive i find it ... there are people i would swipe past in a flash first time i saw them but after a second or 3rd time i definitely find myself taking the time to look more and and see what they say on their bio before deciding ... im almost positive its the now familiarity of the face that makes me second glance before swiping |
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By *orum TrollWoman
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"I can't believe people give time and money researching this, my god there are kids starving to death, but we happily spend money on things that don't matter, it's like falling behind on a mortgage, but spending thousands decorating the place, priorities are all over the place these days
it does matter. psychology is really important, especially in understanding people and why they do the things they do. knowing that can shape societies.
depends why they are doing it though, if they're doing it to further divide us based on race then not so good.
I'd rather they spent the money finding out why people hurt children, or why seemingly happy people suddenly kill themselves, or why people hate, rather than why people love, if someone genuinely loves someone, it needs no explanation, just let it be"
they know a lot of that stuff already now, most of it is to do with internal thought processes, which is why it cannot be stopped unless a person seeks help themselves.
and i do like how now they don't just stereotype people based on past experiences and do understand more that personal circumstances affect people on different levels that cannot be stereotyped.
but another way they can find out how people hate is by looking also at why they love/bond. because the further away people are from bonding and being loving to each other the more likely they are to hate.
a lot of things tie in with each other. when it comes to psychology nothing is ever black and white so loads of things need to be looked at.
nowadays they don't really spend any money on research and are looking at people they are already dealing with anyway, like they learned a lot about baby and pregnancy psychology from working with health visitors who were already doing their jobs. a lot of people are happy to divulge information for nothing when asked.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can't believe people give time and money researching this, my god there are kids starving to death, but we happily spend money on things that don't matter, it's like falling behind on a mortgage, but spending thousands decorating the place, priorities are all over the place these days"
False dichotomy. The reason children starve in the world is nothing to do with how research grants are spent. That's a zero sum fallacy that assumes there is a finite amount of money that all people could access. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The majority of people, whether black, white, asian or 'other' prefer to mate and breed with their own kind, just like an alsation would probably rather have sex with another alsation, as opposed to poodle.
How many Alsatians did you interview? "
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None coz they don't exist  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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As with most things, our sphere of interaction and influence is quite limited. We fall for the type of people we see most. If you see lots of different types of people you may be more willing to engage with different types of people. I'm interested in how much is wired by our formative experiences.
(Not a challenge... genuine question)
Are there studies that back this up?
I have tried to google before to see if its common to find people that are more familiar to you more attractive but have never been able to find anything
I have definitely noticed with being on dating sites for so long that the more see a profile the more attractive i find it ... there are people i would swipe past in a flash first time i saw them but after a second or 3rd time i definitely find myself taking the time to look more and and see what they say on their bio before deciding ... im almost positive its the now familiarity of the face that makes me second glance before swiping "
It's true that most people prefer to mate with someone similar to themselves. Statistically you are even slightly more likely to marry someone whose name starts with the same letter as yours. You can also look up cases of "genetic attraction" which occurs when genetically related people grow up apart and then meet each other later in life. |
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By *orum TrollWoman
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As with most things, our sphere of interaction and influence is quite limited. We fall for the type of people we see most. If you see lots of different types of people you may be more willing to engage with different types of people. I'm interested in how much is wired by our formative experiences.
(Not a challenge... genuine question)
Are there studies that back this up?
I have tried to google before to see if its common to find people that are more familiar to you more attractive but have never been able to find anything
I have definitely noticed with being on dating sites for so long that the more see a profile the more attractive i find it ... there are people i would swipe past in a flash first time i saw them but after a second or 3rd time i definitely find myself taking the time to look more and and see what they say on their bio before deciding ... im almost positive its the now familiarity of the face that makes me second glance before swiping "
there's a guy on badoo with at least 20 profiles, now i know why.
but yeah there's stuff to back this up. we're often afraid of things unfamiliar to ourselves and they can make us feel uncomfortable. we are creatures of comfort really these days.
you can back it up with other theories like we are scared of the unknown because at one time it might have killed us, and so it's in our genetics to want the familiar, but add that onto what i said about us wanting comfort and it's a strong argument for why we don't go out of our comfort zones or tend to prefer the unknown. there's other stuff as well, the show will likely go on about everything and hopefully stuff i haven't heard of too. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I can't believe people give time and money researching this, my god there are kids starving to death, but we happily spend money on things that don't matter, it's like falling behind on a mortgage, but spending thousands decorating the place, priorities are all over the place these days
it does matter. psychology is really important, especially in understanding people and why they do the things they do. knowing that can shape societies.
depends why they are doing it though, if they're doing it to further divide us based on race then not so good.
I'd rather they spent the money finding out why people hurt children, or why seemingly happy people suddenly kill themselves, or why people hate, rather than why people love, if someone genuinely loves someone, it needs no explanation, just let it be
they know a lot of that stuff already now, most of it is to do with internal thought processes, which is why it cannot be stopped unless a person seeks help themselves.
and i do like how now they don't just stereotype people based on past experiences and do understand more that personal circumstances affect people on different levels that cannot be stereotyped.
but another way they can find out how people hate is by looking also at why they love/bond. because the further away people are from bonding and being loving to each other the more likely they are to hate.
a lot of things tie in with each other. when it comes to psychology nothing is ever black and white so loads of things need to be looked at.
nowadays they don't really spend any money on research and are looking at people they are already dealing with anyway, like they learned a lot about baby and pregnancy psychology from working with health visitors who were already doing their jobs. a lot of people are happy to divulge information for nothing when asked.
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You make some fair and valid points |
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By (user no longer on site)
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A very similar case study of the American dating scene is in the book Freaconomics which uses economic theory on a microeconomic basis. So how people make decisions has importance not only for psychology but also social and business cohesion. They authors looked at studies of how people make decisions on dating sites and also on the American equivalent of the Weakest Link. There were clear correlations around race how people acted despite maintaining they were not prejudiced as to race.
I would add for complete information that the book has been criticised for not being a book properly on economics, but the book makes interesting reading. |
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By *orum TrollWoman
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"I can't believe people give time and money researching this, my god there are kids starving to death, but we happily spend money on things that don't matter, it's like falling behind on a mortgage, but spending thousands decorating the place, priorities are all over the place these days
it does matter. psychology is really important, especially in understanding people and why they do the things they do. knowing that can shape societies.
depends why they are doing it though, if they're doing it to further divide us based on race then not so good.
I'd rather they spent the money finding out why people hurt children, or why seemingly happy people suddenly kill themselves, or why people hate, rather than why people love, if someone genuinely loves someone, it needs no explanation, just let it be
they know a lot of that stuff already now, most of it is to do with internal thought processes, which is why it cannot be stopped unless a person seeks help themselves.
and i do like how now they don't just stereotype people based on past experiences and do understand more that personal circumstances affect people on different levels that cannot be stereotyped.
but another way they can find out how people hate is by looking also at why they love/bond. because the further away people are from bonding and being loving to each other the more likely they are to hate.
a lot of things tie in with each other. when it comes to psychology nothing is ever black and white so loads of things need to be looked at.
nowadays they don't really spend any money on research and are looking at people they are already dealing with anyway, like they learned a lot about baby and pregnancy psychology from working with health visitors who were already doing their jobs. a lot of people are happy to divulge information for nothing when asked.
You make some fair and valid points"
most of our medical data became available for research also, when, a few years ago now, we had the big thing going on about our medical records not being private any more.
there's no money really in science. a potential cure has recently been found for MS but they can't trial it for another 3 years while they try and raise funds for that. it sucks really. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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As with most things, our sphere of interaction and influence is quite limited. We fall for the type of people we see most. If you see lots of different types of people you may be more willing to engage with different types of people. I'm interested in how much is wired by our formative experiences.
(Not a challenge... genuine question)
Are there studies that back this up?
I have tried to google before to see if its common to find people that are more familiar to you more attractive but have never been able to find anything
I have definitely noticed with being on dating sites for so long that the more see a profile the more attractive i find it ... there are people i would swipe past in a flash first time i saw them but after a second or 3rd time i definitely find myself taking the time to look more and and see what they say on their bio before deciding ... im almost positive its the now familiarity of the face that makes me second glance before swiping "
There were several articles written a few years ago after Facebook algorithms found people choose to date largely within their own ethnic groups. Places like London, where the culture is diverse and have fewer 'ghettos' have higher incidents of people dating outside of their ethnic groups. Although, dating within socio-economic class lines remains reasonably fixed in areas like London, as elsewhere.
Other recent hard evidence shows that those who live in low immigrant areas fear migrants more. It's a different argument but related. If you fear the 'other' you are unlikely to find them attractive.
Then there's the issue of the fetishizing of the 'other' for sex. You might not want to date them but you want the sexual experience of being with them. Something I hadn't openly experienced until being on Fab, but can see, with hindsight, is something that has happened to me.
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"It will be interesting if they address the "I only date black/white/asian/etc people""
The premise is that people are making those choices. Whether they will admit it is another matter. They seem to like that apps filter by race.
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"The majority of people, whether black, white, asian or 'other' prefer to mate and breed with their own kind, just like an alsation would probably rather have sex with another alsation, as opposed to poodle.
How many Alsatians did you interview? "
We surveyed 50 Alsatians and our survey said... |
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"The majority of people, whether black, white, asian or 'other' prefer to mate and breed with their own kind, just like an alsation would probably rather have sex with another alsation, as opposed to poodle.
How many Alsatians did you interview?
We surveyed 50 Alsatians and our survey said... "
They'll fuck anything that moves.
Or my leg. |
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It's not news that most people prefer to date people similar to them. Most other races have a negative level of attraction towards black people but it varies by gender. White men like oriental women but white women don't generally go for oriental men. |
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"The majority of people, whether black, white, asian or 'other' prefer to mate and breed with their own kind, just like an alsation would probably rather have sex with another alsation, as opposed to poodle.
How many Alsatians did you interview?
We surveyed 50 Alsatians and our survey said...
They'll fuck anything that moves.
Or my leg."
Your poor leg |
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"The majority of people, whether black, white, asian or 'other' prefer to mate and breed with their own kind, just like an alsation would probably rather have sex with another alsation, as opposed to poodle.
Did you get that off google again "
No, that's straight out of 'Mein Kampf'. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"The mind is complex though I imagine that there's some racist causes influencing many of our choices. I've no evidence."
The last line before the ad break that people are largely choosing white, makes me wonder about the prevalence of what are deemed to be images of accepted beauty, which are largely white.
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Just another excuse for a dating game, with a different twist, theres billions of women out there plenty of choice, bet most of the ones men hook up with are in the same village.
Love isnt racist, pure love is love and words cant describe it.
Its a feeling |
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By (user no longer on site)
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Other recent hard evidence shows that those who live in low immigrant areas fear migrants more. It's a different argument but related.
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I am very surprised at that ... my experience is it tends to be people who live in areas with high immigration that tend to feel more threatened and therefore portray more racist comments and actions ... where there are fewer immigrants in an area they are usually better integrated and therefore more accepted / less feared |
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"I can't believe people give time and money researching this, my god there are kids starving to death, but we happily spend money on things that don't matter, it's like falling behind on a mortgage, but spending thousands decorating the place, priorities are all over the place these days
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Yeah you have a point, but if the TV chanel just constantly shows dead and dieing children people change the chanel, and the advertising revenue from McDonald's dries up.  |
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"The majority of people, whether black, white, asian or 'other' prefer to mate and breed with their own kind, just like an alsation would probably rather have sex with another alsation, as opposed to poodle.
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their own kind? Lol we are all humans here |
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Started watching it but quickly realised it seemed more about the presenter and her constant hair and fashion changes!
My opinion on the subject is that we are animals and our minds are imprinted upon at an early age. My preference is ginger haired and white, guess what my mother was? It's not Freudian it's just nurture over nature  |
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"The majority of people, whether black, white, asian or 'other' prefer to mate and breed with their own kind, just like an alsation would probably rather have sex with another alsation, as opposed to poodle.
their own kind? Lol we are all humans here "
Why do people keep commenting on this, whilst i wouldn't personally choose an alsation anaology, it's statistically correct to say the majority of people in any race prefer to date and marry people of their own race. |
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"The majority of people, whether black, white, asian or 'other' prefer to mate and breed with their own kind, just like an alsation would probably rather have sex with another alsation, as opposed to poodle.
their own kind? Lol we are all humans here
Why do people keep commenting on this, whilst i wouldn't personally choose an alsation anaology, it's statistically correct to say the majority of people in any race prefer to date and marry people of their own race. "
Until very recently in real terms it was rare to meet anyone of a different race, he'll until the first world War it was rare to meet anyone from a different town.
Statistics have yet to reach a balance point. |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
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"Started watching it but quickly realised it seemed more about the presenter and her constant hair and fashion changes!
My opinion on the subject is that we are animals and our minds are imprinted upon at an early age. My preference is ginger haired and white, guess what my mother was? It's not Freudian it's just nurture over nature "
It was aimed at an audience considerably lower than our ages.
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"The majority of people, whether black, white, asian or 'other' prefer to mate and breed with their own kind, just like an alsation would probably rather have sex with another alsation, as opposed to poodle.
their own kind? Lol we are all humans here
Why do people keep commenting on this, whilst i wouldn't personally choose an alsation anaology, it's statistically correct to say the majority of people in any race prefer to date and marry people of their own race.
Until very recently in real terms it was rare to meet anyone of a different race, he'll until the first world War it was rare to meet anyone from a different town.
Statistics have yet to reach a balance point."
Not quite sure what time frame you are implying there but if you want to go back far enough then difference = danger, basically. |
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"Racism seems to be a preference for many."
I dont tjink you can automatically call racism on preference
you can like pale guys with ginger hair but not tanned guys with brown hair ... both are capable of being caucasion and visually you like one but not the other
Its fact that different races also have a different look to each other visually .. so not liking a race because visually you dont find that look sexually attractive is not automatically racist |
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"Racism seems to be a preference for many.
I dont tjink you can automatically call racism on preference
you can like pale guys with ginger hair but not tanned guys with brown hair ... both are capable of being caucasion and visually you like one but not the other
Its fact that different races also have a different look to each other visually .. so not liking a race because visually you dont find that look sexually attractive is not automatically racist "
That is right, although nowadays you have to be political correct. |
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"Racism seems to be a preference for many.
I dont tjink you can automatically call racism on preference
you can like pale guys with ginger hair but not tanned guys with brown hair ... both are capable of being caucasion and visually you like one but not the other
Its fact that different races also have a different look to each other visually .. so not liking a race because visually you dont find that look sexually attractive is not automatically racist "
Just quoting the findings of the programme.
I think it's normal to be comfortable with what's familiar but also normal to fantasise about what's not.
A preference for me means I fancy certain things in particular. Whereas I think claiming an entire race is ugly is ignorance. |
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By *orum TrollWoman
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"i can't even find the programme on catch up 
I think you can probably get most of it from reading the thread and the online reviews.
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"Racism seems to be a preference for many.
I dont tjink you can automatically call racism on preference
you can like pale guys with ginger hair but not tanned guys with brown hair ... both are capable of being caucasion and visually you like one but not the other
Its fact that different races also have a different look to each other visually .. so not liking a race because visually you dont find that look sexually attractive is not automatically racist
Just quoting the findings of the programme.
I think it's normal to be comfortable with what's familiar but also normal to fantasise about what's not.
A preference for me means I fancy certain things in particular. Whereas I think claiming an entire race is ugly is ignorance."
Would it be ignorant then to say i dont find blonde men attractive at all ... to me they are pretty ugly? |
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"Racism seems to be a preference for many.
I dont tjink you can automatically call racism on preference
you can like pale guys with ginger hair but not tanned guys with brown hair ... both are capable of being caucasion and visually you like one but not the other
Its fact that different races also have a different look to each other visually .. so not liking a race because visually you dont find that look sexually attractive is not automatically racist
Just quoting the findings of the programme.
I think it's normal to be comfortable with what's familiar but also normal to fantasise about what's not.
A preference for me means I fancy certain things in particular. Whereas I think claiming an entire race is ugly is ignorance.
Would it be ignorant then to say i dont find blonde men attractive at all ... to me they are pretty ugly? "
It would be ignorant to assume blonde men were a race. |
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"Started watching it but quickly realised it seemed more about the presenter and her constant hair and fashion changes!
My opinion on the subject is that we are animals and our minds are imprinted upon at an early age. My preference is ginger haired and white, guess what my mother was? It's not Freudian it's just nurture over nature
It was aimed at an audience considerably lower than our ages.
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"Racism seems to be a preference for many.
I dont tjink you can automatically call racism on preference
you can like pale guys with ginger hair but not tanned guys with brown hair ... both are capable of being caucasion and visually you like one but not the other
Its fact that different races also have a different look to each other visually .. so not liking a race because visually you dont find that look sexually attractive is not automatically racist
Just quoting the findings of the programme.
I think it's normal to be comfortable with what's familiar but also normal to fantasise about what's not.
A preference for me means I fancy certain things in particular. Whereas I think claiming an entire race is ugly is ignorance.
Would it be ignorant then to say i dont find blonde men attractive at all ... to me they are pretty ugly?
It would be ignorant to assume blonde men were a race."
Its also ignorant to ignore the fact that different races are visually different and you can be attracted or unattracted to that visual difference without it having anything to do with their race/ religion / culture |
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" also ignorant to ignore the fact that different races are visually different and you can be attracted or unattracted to that visual difference without it having anything to do with their race/ religion / culture "
They all look the same?
Don't really understand your argument. Aren't you contradicting yourself there? |
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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago
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"Racism seems to be a preference for many.
I dont tjink you can automatically call racism on preference
you can like pale guys with ginger hair but not tanned guys with brown hair ... both are capable of being caucasion and visually you like one but not the other
Its fact that different races also have a different look to each other visually .. so not liking a race because visually you dont find that look sexually attractive is not automatically racist
Just quoting the findings of the programme.
I think it's normal to be comfortable with what's familiar but also normal to fantasise about what's not.
A preference for me means I fancy certain things in particular. Whereas I think claiming an entire race is ugly is ignorance.
Would it be ignorant then to say i dont find blonde men attractive at all ... to me they are pretty ugly?
It would be ignorant to assume blonde men were a race.
Its also ignorant to ignore the fact that different races are visually different and you can be attracted or unattracted to that visual difference without it having anything to do with their race/ religion / culture "
The point of the programme was that we are choosing visual preferences based on a bias. Take away the visual and we make different choices. What wasn't covered well was what leads us to that bias. Skating through the images we see and the stereotypes we hold is as far as the programme went.
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" also ignorant to ignore the fact that different races are visually different and you can be attracted or unattracted to that visual difference without it having anything to do with their race/ religion / culture
They all look the same?
Don't really understand your argument. Aren't you contradicting yourself there?"
A black man does not look the same as a white man, a latino looks different again, as does an indian man and a chinese man ... it is not racist to say that each man does however have similar characteristics to other men in his race ... thats just genetics not racism ... if you couldnt characterise people in this way then actually we wouldn't have different races would we because we would all be the same
Hypothetically this time i like blonde men ... they bisually stimulate me ... hair dye exists so there might very well be blonde men of each of those races ... but for many of the races it will be a very low percentage of that population ... that wouldnt make me racist for not finding them attractive and being more drawn to the statistically more likely white blonde man
And i get what other posters have said about how they eliminated the visual and got different results ... but much more than race goes into what you look and see and like visually ... its imposible to remove only someones race without removing the full visual stimulus ... so its always going to be a flawed experiment ... you could have a full line up of asian men and still pick a different person when you can and then cannot see the line up ... all still the same race ... but removing the visual stimulus makes you focus more on other things that attract you to someone |
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