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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Your post doesn't make much sense OP.
People play away for many reasons. If they weren't getting anything from it they wouldn't do it"
But what can your lover give you that your partner can't??
Both can give you sex, cuddles kisses? And if they can't something is wrong and needs fixing,, why run to an easy temp fix of cheating? Etc |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yet in the op profile it states he doesn't mind people married or in a relationship  "
I don't mind married or people in a relationship, to be fair it's not my problem or my business |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yet in the op profile it states he doesn't mind people married or in a relationship
I don't mind married or people in a relationship, to be fair it's not my problem or my business "
then why??!! (ask) |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Yet in the op profile it states he doesn't mind people married or in a relationship
I don't mind married or people in a relationship, to be fair it's not my problem or my business
then why??!! (ask)"
Curiousity ? |
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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago
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"Your post doesn't make much sense OP.
People play away for many reasons. If they weren't getting anything from it they wouldn't do it
But what can your lover give you that your partner can't??
Both can give you sex, cuddles kisses? And if they can't something is wrong and needs fixing,, why run to an easy temp fix of cheating? Etc"
My husband was a horrible un caring bastard so my lover gave me affection, confidence, safety and love. As well as incredible sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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People usually cheat because there's something missing in the relationship such as lack of passion, excitement, feeling desired, fullfilling sex.
Others cheat maybe because they get a thrill from being desired by others, a sense of danger, boredom, they want to get caught to get of the relationship.
So many possibilities that they might not even be able to answer the question but its definitely a reflection on them not you.
For me I've cheated through boredom and getting a kick from being desirable to others but didn't mean I didn't love my partner but obviously meant I didn't respect him enough to put our relationship before my own selfishness...
Once a cheater always a cheater sooner or later and the trust is never regained. |
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By *rwolfMan
over a year ago
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Is it cheating if everyone involved knows and consents?
Or are we talking on a more generic level of "cheating" where its sex with a other? If so then surely bringing that onto a swingers forum really isnt that clever.
Even then having sex with someone outside of the normal adds excitement and spice for the zame as the person going into it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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There is always another side to this.Not everybody wants to cheat if that's the only way people can see this .Maybe their partner is unable for one reason or another unable to particiate but understanding at the same time.You don't love your partner anyless.It's about being discreet and considerate to peoples feelings.It can be difficult to comprehend i am sure.Some people say visit a prostitute but not everyone can do that with a person they have never seen and spoken to.It's a topic of controversy.Nothing is clear cut for sure. |
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"Is it cheating if everyone involved knows and consents?
Or are we talking on a more generic level of "cheating" where its sex with a other? If so then surely bringing that onto a swingers forum really isnt that clever.
Even then having sex with someone outside of the normal adds excitement and spice for the zame as the person going into it. "
how can it be cheating if everyone consents and knows about it, that is just called having fun.cheating is where someone is lied to and deceived.are you trying to imply that swinging is some how the same as fucking behind someone's back? If so where is your logic in that? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why?? Can't really see the point as what can they really offer you that you can't get from your partner??
1+1+1 = 1 all by 1's self!!!"
They dont want to talk about decorating after sex. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Is it cheating if everyone involved knows and consents?
Or are we talking on a more generic level of "cheating" where its sex with a other? If so then surely bringing that onto a swingers forum really isnt that clever.
Even then having sex with someone outside of the normal adds excitement and spice for the zame as the person going into it. "
how can it be cheating if everyone knows and consents
isn't that swinging? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why?? Can't really see the point as what can they really offer you that you can't get from your partner??
1+1+1 = 1 all by 1's self!!!"
First, your maths doesn't add up. I checked it twice.
Second, if you can't see the point in someone cheating, can you at least try to explain your point in your thread. It's been done over and over and over. How is your thread going to answer the question of 100s of arguments before you couldn't?
I sense a stick being stirred in a pot as your typing each post. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why?? Can't really see the point as what can they really offer you that you can't get from your partner??
1+1+1 = 1 all by 1's self!!!
First, your maths doesn't add up. I checked it twice.
Second, if you can't see the point in someone cheating, can you at least try to explain your point in your thread. It's been done over and over and over. How is your thread going to answer the question of 100s of arguments before you couldn't?
I sense a stick being stirred in a pot as your typing each post. "
the wooden spoon award for the OP  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why?? Can't really see the point as what can they really offer you that you can't get from your partner??
1+1+1 = 1 all by 1's self!!!
First, your maths doesn't add up. I checked it twice.
Second, if you can't see the point in someone cheating, can you at least try to explain your point in your thread. It's been done over and over and over. How is your thread going to answer the question of 100s of arguments before you couldn't?
I sense a stick being stirred in a pot as your typing each post.
the wooden spoon award for the OP "
Can you make sure it's black in colour with a hole in it. Representing a cheaters heart for the Op?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't know,but they alway's have a justified reason don't they 
Usually its her fault.
Gone off sex that kinda thing or so they say. "
Yup, btw, Mrs has gone of sex, sympathy sex me? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't know,but they alway's have a justified reason don't they
Usually its her fault.
Gone off sex that kinda thing or so they say. "
So is this just directed at men cheating now? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Do you have different degrees of cheating?
Is it a sliding scale?
1) Thinking that a person you passed is fit.
2) wanking
3) Sexting
4) exchanging photos then videos
5) Cramming
6) meet
7) meet for sex one off
8) regular fb
9) proper affair
Where does cheating start? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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its easier than them facing up to the reality of the situation they find themselves in
All the cheaters say they have their reasons. But you rarely hear them
You can guess why  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"its easier than them facing up to the reality of the situation they find themselves in
All the cheaters say they have their reasons. But you rarely hear them
You can guess why "
Because we never get a chance to get our say! |
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"My issue here is the maths at the start op. 1+1+1=3 How did you get 1?"
One person with another Person the 2nd person adds a third persons first person finds out and dumps the 2nd person and is on ones own!
Pretty simple really!
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Your post doesn't make much sense OP.
People play away for many reasons. If they weren't getting anything from it they wouldn't do it
But what can your lover give you that your partner can't??
Both can give you sex, cuddles kisses? And if they can't something is wrong and needs fixing,, why run to an easy temp fix of cheating? Etc"
It can be because despite countless of attempts over many years to fix it, it isn't working. Life can be rather complex, OP.... |
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"People usually cheat because there's something missing in the relationship such as lack of passion, excitement, feeling desired, fullfilling sex.
Others cheat maybe because they get a thrill from being desired by others, a sense of danger, boredom, they want to get caught to get of the relationship.
So many possibilities that they might not even be able to answer the question but its definitely a reflection on them not you.
For me I've cheated through boredom and getting a kick from being desirable to others but didn't mean I didn't love my partner but obviously meant I didn't respect him enough to put our relationship before my own selfishness...
Once a cheater always a cheater sooner or later and the trust is never regained."
I love the upmost honesty in this post! And thank you for this but I have a question, in your honest opinion can a cheater ever be faithful and trusted again? Ever? Or is it just a matter of time?
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"Do you have different degrees of cheating?
Is it a sliding scale?
1) Thinking that a person you passed is fit.
2) wanking
3) Sexting
4) exchanging photos then videos
5) Cramming
6) meet
7) meet for sex one off
8) regular fb
9) proper affair
Where does cheating start?"
You missed one out - 1a, Lusting after someone. That's where cheating begins. |
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"Don't know,but they alway's have a justified reason don't they
Usually its her fault.
Gone off sex that kinda thing or so they say.
Yup, btw, Mrs has gone of sex, sympathy sex me?"
It may just be the fact she's gone off sex with you,if you've been together for ex amount of year's thing's can get stale can't they. She may be screaming out for excitement. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't know,but they alway's have a justified reason don't they
Usually its her fault.
Gone off sex that kinda thing or so they say.
Yup, btw, Mrs has gone of sex, sympathy sex me?
It may just be the fact she's gone off sex with you,if you've been together for ex amount of year's thing's can get stale can't they. She may be screaming out for excitement."
She has netflix, what more does she want?  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Your post doesn't make much sense OP.
People play away for many reasons. If they weren't getting anything from it they wouldn't do it
But what can your lover give you that your partner can't??
Both can give you sex, cuddles kisses? And if they can't something is wrong and needs fixing,, why run to an easy temp fix of cheating? Etc"
i found most people coming to me for cheating related help most didnt have anything missing.. or wrong. They just enjoyed the thril of chasing someone new and the risk of being caught. Obviously they had been caught hence they were at therapy ( I used to work for relate) |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't know,but they alway's have a justified reason don't they
Usually its her fault.
Gone off sex that kinda thing or so they say.
So is this just directed at men cheating now?"
It always is  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Don't know,but they alway's have a justified reason don't they
Usually its her fault.
Gone off sex that kinda thing or so they say.
So is this just directed at men cheating now?
It always is "
Well the OP on another thread is really championing the men's corner with his comments |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The funniest thing is my ex cheated on me. Told the new gf we never had sex.... she confronted me about this and I asked did she like being sloppy seconds because we had a good sex life. I even offered to show her videos but she declined. I dont believe the no sex excuse given by most men x |
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"Do you have different degrees of cheating?
Is it a sliding scale?
1) Thinking that a person you passed is fit.
2) wanking
3) Sexting
4) exchanging photos then videos
5) Cramming
6) meet
7) meet for sex one off
8) regular fb
9) proper affair
Where does cheating start?"
would be from number 3 as the first two only involve one person. |
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By *rwolfMan
over a year ago
bristol |
"Is it cheating if everyone involved knows and consents?
Or are we talking on a more generic level of "cheating" where its sex with a other? If so then surely bringing that onto a swingers forum really isnt that clever.
Even then having sex with someone outside of the normal adds excitement and spice for the zame as the person going into it. how can it be cheating if everyone consents and knows about it, that is just called having fun.cheating is where someone is lied to and deceived.are you trying to imply that swinging is some how the same as fucking behind someone's back? If so where is your logic in that?"
But it all comes down to an individuals perspective on cheating though... An example, i went out with someone who said watching porn was cheating and then in another relationship it was lustful thoughts about another. So again its down to someones personal perspective on what is defined by "cheating" where are the lines drawn for each individual.  |
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"Don't know,but they alway's have a justified reason don't they
Usually its her fault.
Gone off sex that kinda thing or so they say.
Yup, btw, Mrs has gone of sex, sympathy sex me?
It may just be the fact she's gone off sex with you,if you've been together for ex amount of year's thing's can get stale can't they. She may be screaming out for excitement.
She has netflix, what more does she want? "
A hot sexy man she can fuck the life out of |
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"Don't know,but they alway's have a justified reason don't they
Usually its her fault.
Gone off sex that kinda thing or so they say.
Yup, btw, Mrs has gone of sex, sympathy sex me?
It may just be the fact she's gone off sex with you,if you've been together for ex amount of year's thing's can get stale can't they. She may be screaming out for excitement.
She has netflix, what more does she want? "
A real man maybe |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you have different degrees of cheating?
Is it a sliding scale?
1) Thinking that a person you passed is fit.
2) wanking
3) Sexting
4) exchanging photos then videos
5) Cramming
6) meet
7) meet for sex one off
8) regular fb
9) proper affair
Where does cheating start?
You missed one out - 1a, Lusting after someone. That's where cheating begins."
Also missed 10 - when someone starts a thread about it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Do you have different degrees of cheating?
Is it a sliding scale?
1) Thinking that a person you passed is fit.
2) wanking
3) Sexting
4) exchanging photos then videos
5) Cramming
6) meet
7) meet for sex one off
8) regular fb
9) proper affair
Where does cheating start?
You missed one out - 1a, Lusting after someone. That's where cheating begins.
Also missed 10 - when someone starts a thread about it. "
And 11 - when a thread gets trolled |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Don't know,but they alway's have a justified reason don't they
Usually its her fault.
Gone off sex that kinda thing or so they say.
Yup, btw, Mrs has gone of sex, sympathy sex me?
It may just be the fact she's gone off sex with you,if you've been together for ex amount of year's thing's can get stale can't they. She may be screaming out for excitement.
She has netflix, what more does she want?
A real man maybe "
Lol very hard to find one of them here on this site - lol so we've been led to believe |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you have different degrees of cheating?
Is it a sliding scale?
1) Thinking that a person you passed is fit.
2) wanking
3) Sexting
4) exchanging photos then videos
5) Cramming
6) meet
7) meet for sex one off
8) regular fb
9) proper affair
Where does cheating start?
You missed one out - 1a, Lusting after someone. That's where cheating begins.
Also missed 10 - when someone starts a thread about it.
And 11 - when a thread gets trolled"
Whats trolling? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you have different degrees of cheating?
Is it a sliding scale?
1) Thinking that a person you passed is fit.
2) wanking
3) Sexting
4) exchanging photos then videos
5) Cramming
6) meet
7) meet for sex one off
8) regular fb
9) proper affair
Where does cheating start?
You missed one out - 1a, Lusting after someone. That's where cheating begins.
Also missed 10 - when someone starts a thread about it.
And 11 - when a thread gets trolled"
Hahaha.
You opened with your usual morally accepted view. "You don't see the point in cheating!" I wasn't aware you shouting from the rooftops and only wanted us to read it. Put that as your status or something g. You obviously didn't actually want a discusión in a thread posted in a public forum. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why?? Can't really see the point as what can they really offer you that you can't get from your partner??
1+1+1 = 1 all by 1's self!!!"
Cock.
My wife ain't got one  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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It may just be the fact she's gone off sex with you,if you've been together for ex amount of year's thing's can get stale can't they. She may be screaming out for excitement.
She has netflix, what more does she want? "
Probably hot sex with a sexy stranger ten years her junior too.. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I have.met.many guys on fab who have admitted after we chat, that they were married and wife didn't know.
Reasons range from as follows: wife's illness (mental or physical), menopause, sexless.marriage - one guy wanted revenge for his wife cheating on him.
My own feeling is that men who cheat on their wives aren't getting any sex at home, or think a fab girl can be much more dirty than their 'conservative' wife. |
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By *alcon43Woman
over a year ago
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As above there are many reasons. I have met attached guys in the following situations:
1 his other half knew and wasn't interested in sex
2 his other half didn't know and she'd gone off sex
3 he enjoys the thrill of meeting
4 he is a serial cheater and currently separated we both see other people
If it keeps a couple together what harm is there in having some fun.
I know of other people where their partner is depressed, ill, disabled, etc and therefore is looking for company and intimacy.
For whatever reasons I don't judge. I have fun and enjoy the fact that I can help them have fun and some company too.
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Your post doesn't make much sense OP.
People play away for many reasons. If they weren't getting anything from it they wouldn't do it
But what can your lover give you that your partner can't??
Both can give you sex, cuddles kisses? And if they can't something is wrong and needs fixing,, why run to an easy temp fix of cheating? Etc"
A lot of people aren't getting sex from their partners at home. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I have.met.many guys on fab who have admitted after we chat, that they were married and wife didn't know.
Reasons range from as follows: wife's illness (mental or physical), menopause, sexless.marriage - one guy wanted revenge for his wife cheating on him.
My own feeling is that men who cheat on their wives aren't getting any sex at home, or think a fab girl can be much more dirty than their 'conservative' wife."
I wish more guys had the bollocks to leave and find people who actually want to have sex with them! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Why?? Can't really see the point as what can they really offer you that you can't get from your partner??
1+1+1 = 1 all by 1's self!!!"
Everyone has their reasons, some may not be cheating but living together and agreed to play apart but remain for kids.
I know a few couples like that, two were on here.
Some may 'cheat' due to partner illness/ inability to have sex.
Why judge? It's like that screaming 'brat kid in the supermarket. Everyone things it's a wee shit, no one knows the back story or if that kid has underlying mental issues.
Let folks be and concentrate on your number 1, rather than theirs.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have.met.many guys on fab who have admitted after we chat, that they were married and wife didn't know.
Reasons range from as follows: wife's illness (mental or physical), menopause, sexless.marriage - one guy wanted revenge for his wife cheating on him.
My own feeling is that men who cheat on their wives aren't getting any sex at home, or think a fab girl can be much more dirty than their 'conservative' wife.
I wish more guys had the bollocks to leave and find people who actually want to have sex with them! "
And girls too right? |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have.met.many guys on fab who have admitted after we chat, that they were married and wife didn't know.
Reasons range from as follows: wife's illness (mental or physical), menopause, sexless.marriage - one guy wanted revenge for his wife cheating on him.
My own feeling is that men who cheat on their wives aren't getting any sex at home, or think a fab girl can be much more dirty than their 'conservative' wife.
I wish more guys had the bollocks to leave and find people who actually want to have sex with them!
And girls too right? "
My experience has only been with cheating guys this far. I've had four approach me in the last few weeks alone, all similar cases...been together with their partners 8-10 years but don't want to leave as they get 'other things' from the relationship. Hmmm.
Personally I want to be banging the person I'm in a relationship with. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I have.met.many guys on fab who have admitted after we chat, that they were married and wife didn't know.
Reasons range from as follows: wife's illness (mental or physical), menopause, sexless.marriage - one guy wanted revenge for his wife cheating on him.
My own feeling is that men who cheat on their wives aren't getting any sex at home, or think a fab girl can be much more dirty than their 'conservative' wife.
I wish more guys had the bollocks to leave and find people who actually want to have sex with them! "
Maybe they don't want any to leav thier house ? Nothing to do with having the bollocks to do anything |
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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago
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you're presuming their partner will leave them. most do not do that.
you're presuming a partner can give you everything you need. they will not and that's a lot to ask of one person really but many can manage to have a happy compromise so don't cheat.
you haven't mentioned some people enjoy cheating. they enjoy the deviousness of it and they enjoy having more control/power in the relationship than the person they are deceiving.
i think most of the reasons for cheating are actually reasons why you should avoid the cheat in the first place as they make for a poor mate or friend and are quite willing to fuck someone else over to gratify themselves. |
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"Why?? Can't really see the point as what can they really offer you that you can't get from your partner??
1+1+1 = 1 all by 1's self!!!"
Sorry but you're being hugely simplistic! There are many reasons why people chose to cheat - and many partners who deliberately turn a 'blind eye' to their infidelity! I'm not a fan of judging others tbh! X |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Do you have different degrees of cheating?
Is it a sliding scale?
1) Thinking that a person you passed is fit.
2) wanking
3) Sexting
4) exchanging photos then videos
5) Cramming
6) meet
7) meet for sex one off
8) regular fb
9) proper affair
Where does cheating start?"
The cheating starts when you lie to your partner about any of the above.
I've been in a relationship in the past where I made it clear that if she has sex with someone else, or wants to have sex with someone else, that's fine, fill ya boots, but tell me, don't lie, and don't hide it from me, but she did both, I found out and she only admitted to it after I made it clear that I knew all about it, I cut ties there and then |
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"Why?? Can't really see the point as what can they really offer you that you can't get from your partner??
1+1+1 = 1 all by 1's self!!!"
As hubby calls it. "Sometime you just need a bit of strange"
It's not better. It's just different.
I'm the question of cheating. I have never cheated and I never would. But swinging is awesome
Op faf?
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By *tyoursCouple
over a year ago
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I'm guessing the Op and some other single guy commenter's have never been in a long term relationship except with there hand let alone married , ....but Op your surley cheating yourself out of all the wonders of a relationship by being on here looking for meaningless sex , and that's gota be the worst cheating of all . |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I'm guessing the Op and some other single guy commenter's have never been in a long term relationship except with there hand let alone married , ....but Op your surley cheating yourself out of all the wonders of a relationship by being on here looking for meaningless sex , and that's gota be the worst cheating of all . "
It's awful when couples have to look for meaningless sex online cos their partner doesn't satisfy them.  |
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"I have.met.many guys on fab who have admitted after we chat, that they were married and wife didn't know.
Reasons range from as follows: wife's illness (mental or physical), menopause, sexless.marriage - one guy wanted revenge for his wife cheating on him.
My own feeling is that men who cheat on their wives aren't getting any sex at home, or think a fab girl can be much more dirty than their 'conservative' wife.
I wish more guys had the bollocks to leave and find people who actually want to have sex with them! "
Why cause so much damage to kids and family by divorcing just for this reason, if in other respects you get on. Isnt it less selfish to satisfy your need for physical loving on here? Be careful, be discreet and hope you dont come across some slimeball who feels it is their duty to out you. The other option is to be celibate, and no doubt many do this too. |
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"I'm guessing the Op and some other single guy commenter's have never been in a long term relationship except with there hand let alone married , ....but Op your surley cheating yourself out of all the wonders of a relationship by being on here looking for meaningless sex , and that's gota be the worst cheating of all .
It's awful when couples have to look for meaningless sex online cos their partner doesn't satisfy them. "
What about the need for couples to seek out sex with other people because their own sex life is not satisfying enough ? |
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"I'm guessing the Op and some other single guy commenter's have never been in a long term relationship except with there hand let alone married , ....but Op your surley cheating yourself out of all the wonders of a relationship by being on here looking for meaningless sex , and that's gota be the worst cheating of all .
It's awful when couples have to look for meaningless sex online cos their partner doesn't satisfy them.
What about the need for couples to seek out sex with other people because their own sex life is not satisfying enough ? "
Not on Planet Fab dah-ling, they seek out other people to *enhance* their sex life.... |
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"I'm guessing the Op and some other single guy commenter's have never been in a long term relationship except with there hand let alone married , ....but Op your surley cheating yourself out of all the wonders of a relationship by being on here looking for meaningless sex , and that's gota be the worst cheating of all .
It's awful when couples have to look for meaningless sex online cos their partner doesn't satisfy them.
What about the need for couples to seek out sex with other people because their own sex life is not satisfying enough ?
Not on Planet Fab dah-ling, they seek out other people to *enhance* their sex life...."
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"People usually cheat because there's something missing in the relationship such as lack of passion, excitement, feeling desired, fullfilling sex.
Others cheat maybe because they get a thrill from being desired by others, a sense of danger, boredom, they want to get caught to get of the relationship.
So many possibilities that they might not even be able to answer the question but its definitely a reflection on them not you.
For me I've cheated through boredom and getting a kick from being desirable to others but didn't mean I didn't love my partner but obviously meant I didn't respect him enough to put our relationship before my own selfishness...
Once a cheater always a cheater sooner or later and the trust is never regained."
I feel that this answer is spot on |
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"I'm guessing the Op and some other single guy commenter's have never been in a long term relationship except with there hand let alone married , ....but Op your surley cheating yourself out of all the wonders of a relationship by being on here looking for meaningless sex , and that's gota be the worst cheating of all . "
Not ALL friendships/sex outside of a marriage/relationship that isn't necessarily working for the person committing infidelity is meaningless.
What if you have a REAL and fulfilling connection and a genuine friendship with the person you are sleeping with.
It's not all sordid shagging and meaningless sex....sometimes it's something special but the person can not leave the marriage because of the children or other practical reasons and other than the sex/attention the marriage is pretty good. |
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"I'm guessing the Op and some other single guy commenter's have never been in a long term relationship except with there hand let alone married , ....but Op your surley cheating yourself out of all the wonders of a relationship by being on here looking for meaningless sex , and that's gota be the worst cheating of all .
It's awful when couples have to look for meaningless sex online cos their partner doesn't satisfy them. "
I agree. The amount of men I see posting on social media how much they love their partners, but they also have their cocks out on hook up sites - is staggering. |
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"I have.met.many guys on fab who have admitted after we chat, that they were married and wife didn't know.
Reasons range from as follows: wife's illness (mental or physical), menopause, sexless.marriage - one guy wanted revenge for his wife cheating on him.
My own feeling is that men who cheat on their wives aren't getting any sex at home, or think a fab girl can be much more dirty than their 'conservative' wife.
I wish more guys had the bollocks to leave and find people who actually want to have sex with them!
Why cause so much damage to kids and family by divorcing just for this reason, if in other respects you get on. Isnt it less selfish to satisfy your need for physical loving on here? Be careful, be discreet and hope you dont come across some slimeball who feels it is their duty to out you. The other option is to be celibate, and no doubt many do this too."
The other option is just to not get married in the first place, as humans aren't monogamous. |
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"I have.met.many guys on fab who have admitted after we chat, that they were married and wife didn't know.
Reasons range from as follows: wife's illness (mental or physical), menopause, sexless.marriage - one guy wanted revenge for his wife cheating on him.
My own feeling is that men who cheat on their wives aren't getting any sex at home, or think a fab girl can be much more dirty than their 'conservative' wife.
I wish more guys had the bollocks to leave and find people who actually want to have sex with them!
Why cause so much damage to kids and family by divorcing just for this reason, if in other respects you get on. Isnt it less selfish to satisfy your need for physical loving on here? Be careful, be discreet and hope you dont come across some slimeball who feels it is their duty to out you. The other option is to be celibate, and no doubt many do this too.
The other option is just to not get married in the first place, as humans aren't monogamous."
Monogamous unit is the most efficient in terms of planning, management of finances, child care and upbringing, personal attachment... It's too early to sound the death bell on marriage. |
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"I have.met.many guys on fab who have admitted after we chat, that they were married and wife didn't know.
Reasons range from as follows: wife's illness (mental or physical), menopause, sexless.marriage - one guy wanted revenge for his wife cheating on him.
My own feeling is that men who cheat on their wives aren't getting any sex at home, or think a fab girl can be much more dirty than their 'conservative' wife.
I wish more guys had the bollocks to leave and find people who actually want to have sex with them!
Why cause so much damage to kids and family by divorcing just for this reason, if in other respects you get on. Isnt it less selfish to satisfy your need for physical loving on here? Be careful, be discreet and hope you dont come across some slimeball who feels it is their duty to out you. The other option is to be celibate, and no doubt many do this too.
The other option is just to not get married in the first place, as humans aren't monogamous.
Monogamous unit is the most efficient in terms of planning, management of finances, child care and upbringing, personal attachment... It's too early to sound the death bell on marriage. "
No, honesty is.
I don't know many married people who can truly say they're honest with their partners and live with integrity, aside from some swingers I know well. |
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"I have.met.many guys on fab who have admitted after we chat, that they were married and wife didn't know.
Reasons range from as follows: wife's illness (mental or physical), menopause, sexless.marriage - one guy wanted revenge for his wife cheating on him.
My own feeling is that men who cheat on their wives aren't getting any sex at home, or think a fab girl can be much more dirty than their 'conservative' wife.
I wish more guys had the bollocks to leave and find people who actually want to have sex with them!
Why cause so much damage to kids and family by divorcing just for this reason, if in other respects you get on. Isnt it less selfish to satisfy your need for physical loving on here? Be careful, be discreet and hope you dont come across some slimeball who feels it is their duty to out you. The other option is to be celibate, and no doubt many do this too.
The other option is just to not get married in the first place, as humans aren't monogamous.
Monogamous unit is the most efficient in terms of planning, management of finances, child care and upbringing, personal attachment... It's too early to sound the death bell on marriage.
No, honesty is.
I don't know many married people who can truly say they're honest with their partners and live with integrity, aside from some swingers I know well."
I don't think any relationship is functional without honesty and integrity, though both are rare qualities nowadays I grant you, more's the pity. |
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