No secrets on our mobiles. We both leave them around and I have no problem with Innuendo looking at mine and she has no problem with me looking at hers!

I think it's called 'trust'! So I have no need to check up on her...

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By *mokes n MirrorsCouple over a year ago

Plymouth and Newcastle (sometimes)

Only the one time that led to our username.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No, our phones are always there in the open if we want to look at them x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

If i had a boyfriend I'd be more worried about him looking at the texts between my best friend and I. We don't half discuss some dark and crazy shit!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"Can't say I have, we use each other's all the time so there's not much point in hiding anything on it.

Same here."

Although there was one almighty embarrassing time when I was busted watching 'pitch perfect' on sky go. Oh the shame, and the loss of man points

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By *loswingersCouple over a year ago

Gloucester

Never , wouldn't dream of doing that .

A pointless idea , and one that could only lead to trouble .

The desire to want to would have me concerned .......

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The desire to want to would have me concerned ......."

Exactly, if you don't trust your partner, your relationship is in trouble

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"If i had a boyfriend I'd be more worried about him looking at the texts between my best friend and I. We don't half discuss some dark and crazy shit!"

This

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Genuinely struggle using mobiles so I wouldn't know what to do anyway.

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By *exycouplemmmm OP Couple over a year ago

Surrey

We're on each other's all the time. Leave them around so nothing bad, just seen he's been buying a lot of tat! Honestly, he's adicted to blooming eBay lol x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"... and wished you hadn't! "

I wouldn't look at a male friends mobile phone, it's theirs they are entitled to their privacy. I would get rid of any man who wanted to look at mine. One of the things I like about being single is I can leave my phone lying around and know nobody will look at it. XXX

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Well I did. Once. And I was right- he had cheated and wasn't honest.

But not normally.

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By *icecouple561Couple over a year ago
Forum Mod

East Sussex

No. I have answered it when it's rung and he's driving or not in the room and he's done the same for me.

Occasionally we'll show each other a picture or a whatsapp message.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

He looks at mine, I look at at his. Neither of us have anything to hide.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Yep. When i had a feeling he was cheating. And he was.

He had joined one of those text women in your area sites.

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By *inkySlinkyCouple over a year ago

Leeds

Even after my husband had died I didn't look at anything on his phone or laptop.

Sally

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

i dont have a n other half to check but no i wouldnt

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By *ackDMissMorganCouple over a year ago

Halifax

Nope ,neither of us have

Miss

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My other half has, then felt soo guilty as she never found anything unusual she had to tell me she did it,

We tell each other everything / nothing to hide!!!

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"We're on each other's all the time. Leave them around so nothing bad, just seen he's been buying a lot of tat! Honestly, he's adicted to blooming eBay lol x "
If that's all it is your lucky I say . lol xx

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By *rincess peachWoman over a year ago

shits creek

I did, when I had an awful gut feeling I was being cheated on. I knew but couldn't find anything (plus he kept changing his password into his phone)

I found out 15 months later I was right all along, he'd just saved his bitches number under one of his male friends (who I knew) names.

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By *exycouplemmmm OP Couple over a year ago

Surrey

"I did, when I had an awful gut feeling I was being cheated on. I knew but couldn't find anything (plus he kept changing his password into his phone)

I found out 15 months later I was right all along, he'd just saved his bitches number under one of his male friends (who I knew) names."

Oh that's awful! But glad you found him out .... eventually x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I've had an ex go through mine. I found it a gross invasion of my privacy. I was faithful to her yet she felt the need, it ended shortly after.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"He looks at mine, I look at at his. Neither of us have anything to hide. "
I couldn't help but look at yours......oh you mean a mobile.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS over a year ago

Central

Not a good move to do it. Have some boundaries as well as agreement upon how you'll discuss relationship issues

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I did as I had a gut feeling he was up to no good and I was right.

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By *alcon43Woman over a year ago

Paisley

Wish I had then I might have known what he was up to. He became secretive and would hide his mobile.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

My husband knows I have a boyfriend and he's okay about it, but I wouldn't let him on my phone as I know he'd struggle with the graphic and explicit chats we tend to have!!!

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By *rwolfMan over a year ago

bristol

I have once, when i was in a monogomous relationship to confirm what evidence I already had they were messing about behind my back.

At that point i had been lied to, manipulated and taken for a ride.

Do i wish i hadnt? Is it better to be ignorant when you know something negative is going on? .... In ways i do regret doing it but i had to know 100%

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By *ensual temptressWoman over a year ago

Southampton

"We're on each other's all the time. Leave them around so nothing bad, just seen he's been buying a lot of tat! Honestly, he's adicted to blooming eBay lol x "

Lol!! My ebay notifications go to family email that hubby uses so he know right off if I've been bargain hunting lol. Rookie mistake on my part lol

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

The only reason I can see for snooping on your partners phone would be if there are trust issues. I'd rather talk that shit out than check up on them personally.

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By *eavenscentitCouple over a year ago

barnstaple

Yes I have, I found out what I had thought was happening after years of lies. I am glad I found out as my ex husband told me I was being ridiculous ! He lost me, the house and half of his very large police pension. Happy days

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By *udistnorthantsMan over a year ago

Desborough

Any one else remember a good few years back when Radio 1's Scott Mills suggested that his listeners should hand over their phone to their partner and have a look? What was supposed to have been a harmless feature during his show didn't end well for a lot of couples

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By *irginieWoman over a year ago

Near Marlborough

I did with my ex husband. Now he is my ex husband.

Nowadays, if I'm in a relationship, the whole mobile thing is very important to me, I hate the secrecy of keeping a phone face down and locking it down with passwords.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I did with my ex husband. Now he is my ex husband.

Nowadays, if I'm in a relationship, the whole mobile thing is very important to me, I hate the secrecy of keeping a phone face down and locking it down with passwords.

My phone has a password to prevent my kids looking at it, if Lee wants to look at my phone, he only has to ask.

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By *irginieWoman over a year ago

Near Marlborough

"I did with my ex husband. Now he is my ex husband.

Nowadays, if I'm in a relationship, the whole mobile thing is very important to me, I hate the secrecy of keeping a phone face down and locking it down with passwords.

My phone has a password to prevent my kids looking at it, if Lee wants to look at my phone, he only has to ask."

Yes me too actually as my daughter does pick up my phone.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No, he checks his own cellphone; I am not his secretary

- Mrs. J -

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By *risky_MareWoman over a year ago

...Up on the Downs

I think people may have read conversations of mine they would rather not have seen, but I have nothing to hide, and all my relationships are based on trust and total transparency, so a partner could look at my phone or computer any time they like.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman over a year ago

little house on the praire

My phone is always lying around my son is always picking it up and using it. Anyone can look at mine anytime ive nothing to hide.

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By *SAchickWoman over a year ago

Hillside desolate

Sooo not interested in checking my other halfs phone whatsoever.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

A number of you have said you use each others phones all the time , nothing to hide etc

The OP never said thy looked sneakily ..., just said have you looked and wished you never

I also think its hard to tell people to just talk things through when their guy knows they are being lied to but their partner just continues to lie ... as a number of people here have posted they looked and it was the confirmation they needed to get out and move on

However i think if it gets to that point of checking the phone in secret its doomed to fail either way ... either because your suspicions were right ... or because your partner then feels their trust was violated for no reason and it pushes them away

I found with an ex after a break up and getting back together that just the fact he was happy for me to have the password was enough ... then because i knew that i could look any time i wanted i never felt the need to if that makes sense ... was a strange way of getting piece of mind

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Trouble is folk who have something to hide are clever. They put numbers under friends names or work colleagues names, even a takeaway number.

Nude Pics are kept in lockable photo things that you can download and have to have a passcode to open, but it looks like a game app.

Search history is deleted.

Now you tell me, who is being untrustworthy? or the person going to all that trouble but tell you that you're being paranoid and imagining things.

I have no guilt about checking his phone. I was proved right. He's gone. His cheating ways are someone else's problem now. And she's already got him to delete Facebook because he was reaching out to other women.

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By *om and JennieCouple over a year ago

Chams or Socials

I checked my ex's mobile. Not something I'm proud of. Something wasn't right, he was suddenly being very protective of it & receiving more messages than usual.

My gut feeling was right. We're now divorced & he's got a couples profile on here with the person he was cheating on me with.

It took a while but I'm really happy again after meeting a wonderful man - we both have access to each other's phone too

JG x

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

No.

I checked it once and it confirmed what I already knew. I wanted to see it in writing.

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By *itmanAndHerrCouple over a year ago

st helens

"Never looked, never felt the need to.

If I wanted to know something I'd ask outright."

This.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"I've had an ex go through mine. I found it a gross invasion of my privacy. I was faithful to her yet she felt the need, it ended shortly after."

Had that scenario, it sucked.

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

I was checking a bill for a date my wife had called to make a complaint. Fou d lots and lots of texts to the same number. Turns out one of my mates was kindly lending his shoulder to cry on...

She had been deleting them as well...

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

"No, he checks his own cellphone; I am not his secretary

- Mrs. J -"

Marc treats me like a secretary sometimes. I can't count the number of times he's been driving or doing something else and asked me to check his e-mail accounts. I should get paid

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By (user no longer on site) over a year ago

Why would I need to? We're in an open relationship and don't need to hide stuff from one another.

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