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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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I've never got my head around this, and hoping the forum can shed some light.
When a thread starts by asking who fances who in the thread, who would you like to meet etc, the goto/stock/generic answer is ...'they already know!' To avoid naming/lamppost pissing/alienating possible meets.
This brings me to my next question
Why do we have kiss fuck avoid threads at all? You'll openly tell and shout out to the person above you'd FUCK them, but your to shy to openly admit to just fancying them somewhere else on the forum?
Do you actually take any of these threads seriously? |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No, and why I have never replied on any if them!
Just full of people looking for an ego boost  "
I must have offered to fuck about 15 guys last night. I like to use it as a filter.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I've never got my head around this, and hoping the forum can shed some light.
When a thread starts by asking who fances who in the thread, who would you like to meet etc, the goto/stock/generic answer is ...'they already know!' To avoid naming/lamppost pissing/alienating possible meets.
This brings me to my next question
Why do we have kiss fuck avoid threads at all? You'll openly tell and shout out to the person above you'd FUCK them, but your to shy to openly admit to just fancying them somewhere else on the forum?
Do you actually take any of these threads seriously?"
I never have, no...
I’m not shy but I just don’t see the point and I’ve never got a meet out of it so I don’t bother |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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I dunno. I think the kiss blah blah threads are just harmless fun not to be taken seriously. The other ones people seem to be a bit more cautious.
My current partner I actually started talking to before a social off the back of a 'Tell someone in this thread you think they're hot'. And I've had a few meets as well from the odd couple I've done.  |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"No, and why I have never replied on any if them!
Just full of people looking for an ego boost
I must have offered to fuck about 15 guys last night. I like to use it as a filter. "
Fab straight?  |
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With the who fancies who type threads most people already know who would like to get down and dirty by the flirting in the forums or if you already chat by pm, As for the kiss fuck threads for me the fun/novelty worn off after about the 3rd time I posted on them |
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I don't think anyone takes the kiss/fuck/avoid threads *that* seriously. They're just a bit of silly fun, and, like, you don't necessarily *really* fancy the person above you that you've just said you'll 'kiss' or 'fuck'!
Whereas, on a 'who do you fancy on this thread' thread, you actually have to put your cards on the table, naming names ... which can kind of be a bit scary, displaying a bit of vulnerability. Yeah, yeah, stupid given the nature of the site but many want to keep that info to themselves hence you get all the ambiguous and/or mysterious replies.
Personally, I have a hard enough time telling someone I fancy them in private, let alone in front of half the forum!  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't think anyone takes the kiss/fuck/avoid threads *that* seriously. They're just a bit of silly fun, and, like, you don't necessarily *really* fancy the person above you that you've just said you'll 'kiss' or 'fuck'!
Whereas, on a 'who do you fancy on this thread' thread, you actually have to put your cards on the table, naming names ... which can kind of be a bit scary, displaying a bit of vulnerability. Yeah, yeah, stupid given the nature of the site but many want to keep that info to themselves hence you get all the ambiguous and/or mysterious replies.
Personally, I have a hard enough time telling someone I fancy them in private, let alone in front of half the forum! "
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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I will admit, if I did fancy someone on the thread from my little corner of the earth I'd be stupid not to mention them, as I can never find someone I fancy at the best of times, so might as well try and increase my chances  |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I'd be embarrassed for anyone who did. 
I said I wouldn't mind having some sex with you  "
Lol yeah but this lot don't need to know we're fucking do they. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"No, and why I have never replied on any if them!
Just full of people looking for an ego boost "
Aren't most of the threads but then isn't exactly what this site is all about? |
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"I don't think anyone takes the kiss/fuck/avoid threads *that* seriously. They're just a bit of silly fun, and, like, you don't necessarily *really* fancy the person above you that you've just said you'll 'kiss' or 'fuck'!
Whereas, on a 'who do you fancy on this thread' thread, you actually have to put your cards on the table, naming names ... which can kind of be a bit scary, displaying a bit of vulnerability. Yeah, yeah, stupid given the nature of the site but many want to keep that info to themselves hence you get all the ambiguous and/or mysterious replies.
Personally, I have a hard enough time telling someone I fancy them in private, let alone in front of half the forum! "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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My reason for generally not naming people on those type of threads is that I have met & do meet from the forum & wouldn't like anyone to think I liked someone else better.
Whether any of the people would think like that I have no idea, they probably don't. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I don't think anyone takes the kiss/fuck/avoid threads *that* seriously. They're just a bit of silly fun, and, like, you don't necessarily *really* fancy the person above you that you've just said you'll 'kiss' or 'fuck'!
Whereas, on a 'who do you fancy on this thread' thread, you actually have to put your cards on the table, naming names ... which can kind of be a bit scary, displaying a bit of vulnerability. Yeah, yeah, stupid given the nature of the site but many want to keep that info to themselves hence you get all the ambiguous and/or mysterious replies.
Personally, I have a hard enough time telling someone I fancy them in private, let alone in front of half the forum! "
Exactly this, ^^^^. Plus I think I'm still a little bit old fashioned and think the man should do the telling. X |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"No, and why I have never replied on any if them!
Just full of people looking for an ego boost
I must have offered to fuck about 15 guys last night. I like to use it as a filter.
Fab straight? "
I like to keep them guessing too. |
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By *oxy_minxWoman
over a year ago
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"No, and why I have never replied on any if them!
Just full of people looking for an ego boost
Aren't most of the threads but then isn't exactly what this site is all about? "
For an ego boost? Not me |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"I don't think anyone takes the kiss/fuck/avoid threads *that* seriously. They're just a bit of silly fun, and, like, you don't necessarily *really* fancy the person above you that you've just said you'll 'kiss' or 'fuck'!
Whereas, on a 'who do you fancy on this thread' thread, you actually have to put your cards on the table, naming names ... which can kind of be a bit scary, displaying a bit of vulnerability. Yeah, yeah, stupid given the nature of the site but many want to keep that info to themselves hence you get all the ambiguous and/or mysterious replies.
Personally, I have a hard enough time telling someone I fancy them in private, let alone in front of half the forum!
Exactly this, ^^^^. Plus I think I'm still a little bit old fashioned and think the man should do the telling. X "
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"They know who they are" = I've told about 50 separate people that they're my fave so if I now end up actually naming someone this whole House of Cards comes crashing down around me
C'mon OP, it's not rocket science ... |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Oh and your know the rules on 'Snog, Kiss, Avoid' threads :
If person above is female - definitely fuck all night long...
If person above is male - invariably avoid, unless ripped, handsome and hung.
If persons above are a couple - fuck. But only the female OBVIOUSLY! You really didn't think they also meant the male did you? Did you!?!
If person above is TV/TS - varies, fucks usually from ladies. Most fellas loudly declare avoid!
It's the rules!! |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Oh and your know the rules on 'Snog, Kiss, Avoid' threads :
If person above is female - definitely fuck all night long...
If person above is male - invariably avoid, unless ripped, handsome and hung.
If persons above are a couple - fuck. But only the female OBVIOUSLY! You really didn't think they also meant the male did you? Did you!?!
If person above is TV/TS - varies, fucks usually from ladies. Most fellas loudly declare avoid!
It's the rules!! "
Above you just said it's not rocket science, and then follows with this. 
I never know the rules, I'm not good with rules. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I don't take the fuck,kiss,avoid thread seriously or a few others as they are just a bit of fun
Some I take seriously so I don't post on them ... simples really |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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The kiss snog avoid threads are fun, allegedly, although i have seen it all kick off on one of those threads.
The tell someone you fancy them threads usually turn into a competitive popularity contest, with added lampost pissing. Men probably come off worse on these threads as their multiple arse kissing messages usually come to light and there is usually at least one woman who gets pissed off about it.
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The kiss snog avoid threads are fun, allegedly, although i have seen it all kick off on one of those threads.
The tell someone you fancy them threads usually turn into a competitive popularity contest, with added lampost pissing. Men probably come off worse on these threads as their multiple arse kissing messages usually come to light and there is usually at least one woman who gets pissed off about it.
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thoughts exactly |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Avoid avoid avoid!!!
I just thought they were threads so that the usual can blow smoke up each other's arses. I didn't think anyone took them seriously?
Maybe because I don't see the point of them. If I see a profile I like, I'll message them. I don't need a thread to tell me to do it. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago
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"Avoid avoid avoid!!!
I just thought they were threads so that the usual can blow smoke up each other's arses. I didn't think anyone took them seriously?
Maybe because I don't see the point of them. If I see a profile I like, I'll message them. I don't need a thread to tell me to do it. "
I can relate to this. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"The kiss snog avoid threads are fun, allegedly, although i have seen it all kick off on one of those threads.
The tell someone you fancy them threads usually turn into a competitive popularity contest, with added lampost pissing. Men probably come off worse on these threads as their multiple arse kissing messages usually come to light and there is usually at least one woman who gets pissed off about it.
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It's a brave, confident man who names, that's for sure |
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By *ieman300Man
over a year ago
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"The kiss snog avoid threads are fun, allegedly, although i have seen it all kick off on one of those threads.
The tell someone you fancy them threads usually turn into a competitive popularity contest, with added lampost pissing. Men probably come off worse on these threads as their multiple arse kissing messages usually come to light and there is usually at least one woman who gets pissed off about it.
It's a brave, confident man who names, that's for sure "
I fancy you.
#brave #nernerner |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I avoid both of these kind of threads for the obvious reasons."
What are the obvious reasons to you.
I'm still very surprised at a website aimed at swinging, which time is openly having sex. That people are so guarded when it comes to openly saying who they fancy. Should there be warning and warning or disclaimer at the start of those threads?
Fuck or avoid ***this thread could cause trouble*** |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I avoid both of these kind of threads for the obvious reasons.
What are the obvious reasons to you.
I'm still very surprised at a website aimed at swinging, which time is openly having sex. That people are so guarded when it comes to openly saying who they fancy. Should there be warning and warning or disclaimer at the start of those threads?
Fuck or avoid ***this thread could cause trouble*** "
As I'm not a regular poster, and spend very little time in the forums lately, I'd be, and have been glossed over in the past, so posting on threads that actively ask for an opinion on myself would go very bad no matter what the subject matter was.
I just sit in the corner and watch most of the time now. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"I avoid both of these kind of threads for the obvious reasons.
What are the obvious reasons to you.
I'm still very surprised at a website aimed at swinging, which time is openly having sex. That people are so guarded when it comes to openly saying who they fancy. Should there be warning and warning or disclaimer at the start of those threads?
Fuck or avoid ***this thread could cause trouble*** "
Plus if people start seeing who fancies them, instead of an ego boost, it could turn their stomach. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I avoid both of these kind of threads for the obvious reasons.
What are the obvious reasons to you.
I'm still very surprised at a website aimed at swinging, which time is openly having sex. That people are so guarded when it comes to openly saying who they fancy. Should there be warning and warning or disclaimer at the start of those threads?
Fuck or avoid ***this thread could cause trouble***
As I'm not a regular poster, and spend very little time in the forums lately, I'd be, and have been glossed over in the past, so posting on threads that actively ask for an opinion on myself would go very bad no matter what the subject matter was.
I just sit in the corner and watch most of the time now. "
The clique/popularity thing? That doesn't help anyone's confidence when you don't get mentioned. I understand. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I'll rethink about posting I'm 'in' in future after reading responses from eligible females. I must admit to being surprised. ...maybe they're not actually meeting on fab.
I rarely if ever say publically on the thread but I do message privately if I'm interested. After all isn't that why we're all on here...to meet and have drama free adult fun? |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"I avoid both of these kind of threads for the obvious reasons.
What are the obvious reasons to you.
I'm still very surprised at a website aimed at swinging, which time is openly having sex. That people are so guarded when it comes to openly saying who they fancy. Should there be warning and warning or disclaimer at the start of those threads?
Fuck or avoid ***this thread could cause trouble***
As I'm not a regular poster, and spend very little time in the forums lately, I'd be, and have been glossed over in the past, so posting on threads that actively ask for an opinion on myself would go very bad no matter what the subject matter was.
I just sit in the corner and watch most of the time now.
The clique/popularity thing? That doesn't help anyone's confidence when you don't get mentioned. I understand. "
And that's why I avoid them |
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"I avoid both of these kind of threads for the obvious reasons.
What are the obvious reasons to you.
I'm still very surprised at a website aimed at swinging, which time is openly having sex. That people are so guarded when it comes to openly saying who they fancy. Should there be warning and warning or disclaimer at the start of those threads?
Fuck or avoid ***this thread could cause trouble*** "
I don't want the public humiliation of saying I fancy someone then being pointedly ignored. I'd rather be rejected behind the scenes. And if you do make an interest clear, I'd then potentially feel awkward about interacting with that person on other threads in case they thought I was following them about! |
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By *eliWoman
over a year ago
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"As I'm not a regular poster, and spend very little time in the forums lately, I'd be, and have been glossed over in the past, so posting on threads that actively ask for an opinion on myself would go very bad no matter what the subject matter was.
I just sit in the corner and watch most of the time now.
The clique/popularity thing? That doesn't help anyone's confidence when you don't get mentioned. I understand. "
I don't understand. Everyone has experienced not being mentioned at some point - why do you have to be mentioned first before you join in that sort of thread?
It doesn't affect my confidence; as long as I get to kiss and fuck the people I want to, why would I care if I see my name? Meh, I don't get the forums at times. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"As I'm not a regular poster, and spend very little time in the forums lately, I'd be, and have been glossed over in the past, so posting on threads that actively ask for an opinion on myself would go very bad no matter what the subject matter was.
I just sit in the corner and watch most of the time now.
The clique/popularity thing? That doesn't help anyone's confidence when you don't get mentioned. I understand.
I don't understand. Everyone has experienced not being mentioned at some point - why do you have to be mentioned first before you join in that sort of thread?
It doesn't affect my confidence; as long as I get to kiss and fuck the people I want to, why would I care if I see my name? Meh, I don't get the forums at times."
So that's why it would be wiser to edge your bets in those threads. Just name everyone...offer to fuck everyone...and sit back and wait for faf messages to roll in.
Fuck/avoid threads I don't get at all. But I'm trying to understand people's views why they wouldn't post a name they fancy on a 'list who's in your hotlist' type but would elsewhere. |
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By (user no longer on site) OP
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"I avoid both of these kind of threads for the obvious reasons.
What are the obvious reasons to you.
I'm still very surprised at a website aimed at swinging, which time is openly having sex. That people are so guarded when it comes to openly saying who they fancy. Should there be warning and warning or disclaimer at the start of those threads?
Fuck or avoid ***this thread could cause trouble***
I don't want the public humiliation of saying I fancy someone then being pointedly ignored. I'd rather be rejected behind the scenes. And if you do make an interest clear, I'd then potentially feel awkward about interacting with that person on other threads in case they thought I was following them about! "
I get it. Dealing with things in private is easier than I front of people, after all, offering to have sex with someone can be personal, it should stay that way for you. |
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By *yldstyleWoman
over a year ago
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Its the internet, I don't take any of it seriously.
However on here I can be a lot braver than I am in person. In reality I am shy and lack confidence.
For instance I'd never approach someone if I liked them. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Always found a polite message is a better way ,the kiss threads I've always thought were just light hearted banter ...I'd imagine one or two have met up from them ..but not as many as you may believe
Don't think it's shyness ,I just think discretion is the better part of valour |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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If I fancy someone, I tend to PM them to tell them. I wouldn't class myself as shy.... More discreet .
The kiss, fuck and avoid thread are a little more innocent and tongue in cheek to me. |
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