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By *yldstyle OP Woman
over a year ago
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So, I'm already dreading a meeting I have on Monday.
A few years ago I met someone on fab. It was a one off and I thought nothing more of it.
Last month I was referred to someone through work for a project I'm working on. He looked me up on linked in and said he recognised me. Sadly and embarrassingly I couldn't place him.
Fast forward a week and he messages me on here.. now I remember. He said he found it naughty and exciting. I made it clear my work is very seperate and that I didn't want anyone to know. I'd appreciate some professionalism.
So the meeting is Monday and I actually feel sick!
Have any of you been in a similar position? |
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By *yldstyle OP Woman
over a year ago
A world of my own |
"Yeah but was he a good shag or not. 
Well I forgot him... 
Forgot him.
So has there been a lot then and its become one big blur.?
He rememberd you. "
No there's not been a lot.. it was just one of those things. |
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over a year ago
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"Yeah but was he a good shag or not.
Well I forgot him...
Forgot him.
So has there been a lot then and its become one big blur.?
He rememberd you.
No there's not been a lot.. it was just one of those things. "
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"Yeah but was he a good shag or not.
Well I forgot him... "
I hope he doesn't frequent the forums then or he might see this! 
Seriously though, I'm sure he would rather people he works with didn't know his business either so it's likely he won't be shouting it from the rooftops. Just go in, be professional and I'm sure all will be fine |
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By *yldstyle OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Yeah but was he a good shag or not.
Well I forgot him...
I hope he doesn't frequent the forums then or he might see this!
Seriously though, I'm sure he would rather people he works with didn't know his business either so it's likely he won't be shouting it from the rooftops. Just go in, be professional and I'm sure all will be fine"
No he doesn't.
However surely he should never have mentioned it in the first place? |
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By *SAchickWoman
over a year ago
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"Yeah but was he a good shag or not.
Well I forgot him...
I hope he doesn't frequent the forums then or he might see this!
Seriously though, I'm sure he would rather people he works with didn't know his business either so it's likely he won't be shouting it from the rooftops. Just go in, be professional and I'm sure all will be fine
No he doesn't.
However surely he should never have mentioned it in the first place?"
If I was going into a meeting with someone I had met from fab I would mention it too, so I don't think that's unusual. As long as he doesn't keep on about it now you've said you wanted to keep things professional |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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So the meeting is Monday and I actually feel sick!
Have any of you been in a similar position?"
Yes it happened to me.
I can also feel that you are feeling this way coz you are a woman and he is feeling 'naughty' coz he is a man. You are a professional, intelligent woman so take control of this, set things straight and call your last time for what it was - a shag- unless you want more. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah but was he a good shag or not.
Well I forgot him...
I hope he doesn't frequent the forums then or he might see this!
Seriously though, I'm sure he would rather people he works with didn't know his business either so it's likely he won't be shouting it from the rooftops. Just go in, be professional and I'm sure all will be fine
No he doesn't.
However surely he should never have mentioned it in the first place?"
Oh I feel for you! Perhaps he shouldn't have, no. Although, in a way, you've been given a heads up. Imagine meeting him, then remembering when you were face to face  . |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah but was he a good shag or not.
Well I forgot him...
I hope he doesn't frequent the forums then or he might see this!
Seriously though, I'm sure he would rather people he works with didn't know his business either so it's likely he won't be shouting it from the rooftops. Just go in, be professional and I'm sure all will be fine
No he doesn't.
However surely he should never have mentioned it in the first place?"
Why not you fucked eachother.
You can't rewrite history. |
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By *ddit...Man
over a year ago
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"So, I'm already dreading a meeting I have on Monday.
A few years ago I met someone on fab. It was a one off and I thought nothing more of it.
Last month I was referred to someone through work for a project I'm working on. He looked me up on linked in and said he recognised me. Sadly and embarrassingly I couldn't place him.
Fast forward a week and he messages me on here.. now I remember. He said he found it naughty and exciting. I made it clear my work is very seperate and that I didn't want anyone to know. I'd appreciate some professionalism.
So the meeting is Monday and I actually feel sick!
Have any of you been in a similar position?"
I've not... it will be fine though..  |
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By *yldstyle OP Woman
over a year ago
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"i don't think he should've said the naughty and exciting thing. very unprofessional of him and what makes it awkward i'm guessing?
but i think it's ok to warn you who he is."
That's exactly what makes it awkward. And for what it's worth I recognised the profile just not the LinkedIn! |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah but was he a good shag or not.
Well I forgot him...
Forgot him.
So has there been a lot then and its become one big blur.?
He rememberd you. "
How rude, typical male attitude x |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"i don't think he should've said the naughty and exciting thing. very unprofessional of him and what makes it awkward i'm guessing?
but i think it's ok to warn you who he is.
That's exactly what makes it awkward. And for what it's worth I recognised the profile just not the LinkedIn!"
Oh so now you do remember him make your mind up. |
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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago
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"i don't think he should've said the naughty and exciting thing. very unprofessional of him and what makes it awkward i'm guessing?
but i think it's ok to warn you who he is.
That's exactly what makes it awkward. And for what it's worth I recognised the profile just not the LinkedIn!"
has he said anything since you warned him about monday being professional?
if not i don't think you have anything to worry about but can understand why you still would worry. he's basically breached a boundary. hopefully he has recognised that and rectifies his behaviour based on it. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So, I'm already dreading a meeting I have on Monday.
A few years ago I met someone on fab. It was a one off and I thought nothing more of it.
Last month I was referred to someone through work for a project I'm working on. He looked me up on linked in and said he recognised me. Sadly and embarrassingly I couldn't place him.
Fast forward a week and he messages me on here.. now I remember. He said he found it naughty and exciting. I made it clear my work is very seperate and that I didn't want anyone to know. I'd appreciate some professionalism.
So the meeting is Monday and I actually feel sick!
Have any of you been in a similar position?"
no but just thought you'd like to know I had the sexiest social meet ever xx  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So, I'm already dreading a meeting I have on Monday.
A few years ago I met someone on fab. It was a one off and I thought nothing more of it.
Last month I was referred to someone through work for a project I'm working on. He looked me up on linked in and said he recognised me. Sadly and embarrassingly I couldn't place him.
Fast forward a week and he messages me on here.. now I remember. He said he found it naughty and exciting. I made it clear my work is very seperate and that I didn't want anyone to know. I'd appreciate some professionalism.
So the meeting is Monday and I actually feel sick!
Have any of you been in a similar position?"
no but just thought you'd like to know I had the sexiest social meet ever xx |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah but was he a good shag or not.
Well I forgot him...
Forgot him.
So has there been a lot then and its become one big blur.?
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He rememberd you. "
That really is not your business, how many the OP has met. Sounds a tad judgemental, given the nature of the site. |
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By *yldstyle OP Woman
over a year ago
A world of my own |
"Yeah but was he a good shag or not.
Well I forgot him...
Forgot him.
So has there been a lot then and its become one big blur.?
He rememberd you.
How rude, typical male attitude x"
Its fine, I deserve it probably |
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By *yldstyle OP Woman
over a year ago
A world of my own |
"i don't think he should've said the naughty and exciting thing. very unprofessional of him and what makes it awkward i'm guessing?
but i think it's ok to warn you who he is.
That's exactly what makes it awkward. And for what it's worth I recognised the profile just not the LinkedIn!
has he said anything since you warned him about monday being professional?
if not i don't think you have anything to worry about but can understand why you still would worry. he's basically breached a boundary. hopefully he has recognised that and rectifies his behaviour based on it."
No I made it clear I think. However I'm now also worrying I may have hurt his feelings too. I'm too nice for stuff like this at times |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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"Yeah but was he a good shag or not.
Well I forgot him...
Forgot him.
So has there been a lot then and its become one big blur.?
He rememberd you.
How rude, typical male attitude x"
Is it? I'm sure he wasn't the only one thinking that. If the roles were reversed and the OP was a guy 'he' would have been slated for daring to forget a meet. I've never forgotten any of the men I've slept with...I'm not that casual about sexual encounters 
OP he gave you a heads up before the meeting. If he brings it up again, be clear that your personal life has nothing to do with your professional life and you do not want it mentioned further. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yeah but was he a good shag or not.
Well I forgot him...
Forgot him.
So has there been a lot then and its become one big blur.?
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He rememberd you.
That really is not your business, how many the OP has met. Sounds a tad judgemental, given the nature of the site. "
Perfectly reasonable question to ask why she didn't and he still did.
She might of been d*unk ect met him on a night out most of us have at some point.
So only judgemental if you try to make it be. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Yeah, had a guy message me on here saying you're the fit bird that was on reception in the gym earlier, I said yeah and he just said he was dying to say something but waited till he saw me online on here.
Now whenever he comes in I just swipe his card as quickly as possible and go right red!
Not really the same is it cos I've not fucked him. |
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I'd spend a few private minutes discussing what you both agree is the appropiate plan - is it's past and distinct from work life.
It should then never need to be discussed or thought about again. Most people just want a separation between the two areas of their lives.
Until then, take the time to enjoy your weekend. |
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By *yldstyle OP Woman
over a year ago
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Just to set the record straight.. I forgot in that I've never given our encounter that night years ago much more thought. From his linkedin profile photo and name the two didn't link. Why would they? What I do on here stays on here. I met him once. It was years ago. I can't believe I'm having to justify myself or that I feel I need to. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Yeah, had a guy message me on here saying you're the fit bird that was on reception in the gym earlier, I said yeah and he just said he was dying to say something but waited till he saw me online on here.
Now whenever he comes in I just swipe his card as quickly as possible and go right red!
Not really the same is it cos I've not fucked him. "
hey why be embarrassed its life just say hi and bye he will be just as awkward as you x |
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By *orum TrollWoman
over a year ago
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"i don't think he should've said the naughty and exciting thing. very unprofessional of him and what makes it awkward i'm guessing?
but i think it's ok to warn you who he is.
That's exactly what makes it awkward. And for what it's worth I recognised the profile just not the LinkedIn!
has he said anything since you warned him about monday being professional?
if not i don't think you have anything to worry about but can understand why you still would worry. he's basically breached a boundary. hopefully he has recognised that and rectifies his behaviour based on it.
No I made it clear I think. However I'm now also worrying I may have hurt his feelings too. I'm too nice for stuff like this at times"
i don't think you need to apologise for hurting his feelings if you have done that, he was out of order really and not think professionally and all you did was explain that you felt differently to him. your feelings are just as valid as his, maybe even more so in this case as you are remaining professional and he is not.
wouldn't be surprised if his ego is bruised and that's all. he was expecting a little something to spice up his monday but you're not interested.  |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"Just to set the record straight.. I forgot in that I've never given our encounter that night years ago much more thought. From his linkedin profile photo and name the two didn't link. Why would they? What I do on here stays on here. I met him once. It was years ago. I can't believe I'm having to justify myself or that I feel I need to. "
You only have to justify your sexlife if you feel the need to.
Obviously it must mean something if you're worried about having to see again a bloke you had random sex with.?
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By *orum TrollWoman
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"Yeah but was he a good shag or not.
Well I forgot him...
Forgot him.
So has there been a lot then and its become one big blur.?
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He rememberd you.
That really is not your business, how many the OP has met. Sounds a tad judgemental, given the nature of the site.
Perfectly reasonable question to ask why she didn't and he still did.
She might of been d*unk ect met him on a night out most of us have at some point.
So only judgemental if you try to make it be. "
what started off as a funny comment did turn a little judgmental to me. nothing wrong with being judgmental but best to keep it in your head. especially in a supportive topic.
and most of my fab meets i've forgotten. not coz i fucked too many guys but coz most of them do not stand out for any reason and have nothing memorable about them and didn't give me anything any of the other guys gave me. |
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By *yldstyle OP Woman
over a year ago
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"i don't think he should've said the naughty and exciting thing. very unprofessional of him and what makes it awkward i'm guessing?
but i think it's ok to warn you who he is.
That's exactly what makes it awkward. And for what it's worth I recognised the profile just not the LinkedIn!
has he said anything since you warned him about monday being professional?
if not i don't think you have anything to worry about but can understand why you still would worry. he's basically breached a boundary. hopefully he has recognised that and rectifies his behaviour based on it.
No I made it clear I think. However I'm now also worrying I may have hurt his feelings too. I'm too nice for stuff like this at times
i don't think you need to apologise for hurting his feelings if you have done that, he was out of order really and not think professionally and all you did was explain that you felt differently to him. your feelings are just as valid as his, maybe even more so in this case as you are remaining professional and he is not.
wouldn't be surprised if his ego is bruised and that's all. he was expecting a little something to spice up his monday but you're not interested. "
Possibly. Thankfully it should be a quick meeting! |
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"Just to set the record straight.. I forgot in that I've never given our encounter that night years ago much more thought. From his linkedin profile photo and name the two didn't link. Why would they? What I do on here stays on here. I met him once. It was years ago. I can't believe I'm having to justify myself or that I feel I need to. "
You don't have to justify yourself, you have every right to have sex once with a guy and put it from your mind and make no connection with a guy you meet on a professional level.
I would feel as nervous as you but try and maintain a confident face in front of him. If he mentions it publicly look at him as if he's crazy, even if he makes oblique reference to it. If he mentions it privately tell him coolly and calmly that you enjoyed your encounter but it is no longer appropriate to refer to your liaison and you're sure that as a professional he will understand.
Some people truly have no idea of appropriate boundaries. |
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"Just to set the record straight.. I forgot in that I've never given our encounter that night years ago much more thought. From his linkedin profile photo and name the two didn't link. Why would they? What I do on here stays on here. I met him once. It was years ago. I can't believe I'm having to justify myself or that I feel I need to.
You only have to justify your sexlife if you feel the need to.
Obviously it must mean something if you're worried about having to see again a bloke you had random sex with.?
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She's worried because of his comments. |
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By *yldstyle OP Woman
over a year ago
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"Just to set the record straight.. I forgot in that I've never given our encounter that night years ago much more thought. From his linkedin profile photo and name the two didn't link. Why would they? What I do on here stays on here. I met him once. It was years ago. I can't believe I'm having to justify myself or that I feel I need to.
You don't have to justify yourself, you have every right to have sex once with a guy and put it from your mind and make no connection with a guy you meet on a professional level.
I would feel as nervous as you but try and maintain a confident face in front of him. If he mentions it publicly look at him as if he's crazy, even if he makes oblique reference to it. If he mentions it privately tell him coolly and calmly that you enjoyed your encounter but it is no longer appropriate to refer to your liaison and you're sure that as a professional he will understand.
Some people truly have no idea of appropriate boundaries."
Thank you. Its definitely how I plan to deal with it. Its just not a nice situation to be in. Especially since I'm asking for something from his company. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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Be a grown up speak to him now behind closed doors before the meeting.
Sort out rules before the meeting and depending on the typeof meet I g you can spin. It too your advantage |
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By *orum TrollWoman
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"i don't think he should've said the naughty and exciting thing. very unprofessional of him and what makes it awkward i'm guessing?
but i think it's ok to warn you who he is.
That's exactly what makes it awkward. And for what it's worth I recognised the profile just not the LinkedIn!
has he said anything since you warned him about monday being professional?
if not i don't think you have anything to worry about but can understand why you still would worry. he's basically breached a boundary. hopefully he has recognised that and rectifies his behaviour based on it.
No I made it clear I think. However I'm now also worrying I may have hurt his feelings too. I'm too nice for stuff like this at times
i don't think you need to apologise for hurting his feelings if you have done that, he was out of order really and not think professionally and all you did was explain that you felt differently to him. your feelings are just as valid as his, maybe even more so in this case as you are remaining professional and he is not.
wouldn't be surprised if his ego is bruised and that's all. he was expecting a little something to spice up his monday but you're not interested.
Possibly. Thankfully it should be a quick meeting!"
hope you stop stressing about it. and good luck. |
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By (user no longer on site)
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"So, I'm already dreading a meeting I have on Monday.
A few years ago I met someone on fab. It was a one off and I thought nothing more of it.
Last month I was referred to someone through work for a project I'm working on. He looked me up on linked in and said he recognised me. Sadly and embarrassingly I couldn't place him.
Fast forward a week and he messages me on here.. now I remember. He said he found it naughty and exciting. I made it clear my work is very seperate and that I didn't want anyone to know. I'd appreciate some professionalism.
So the meeting is Monday and I actually feel sick!
Have any of you been in a similar position?"
Can you not conference call in or video call in. Not ideal but provides some separation |
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"Yeah but was he a good shag or not.
Well I forgot him...
I hope he doesn't frequent the forums then or he might see this!
Seriously though, I'm sure he would rather people he works with didn't know his business either so it's likely he won't be shouting it from the rooftops. Just go in, be professional and I'm sure all will be fine
No he doesn't.
However surely he should never have mentioned it in the first place?"
Some people just lack discretion!  I've read some horror stories over the years on here.
Unfortunately, it's one of those things. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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I can totally understand why you'd feel that way. In your shoes I'd be pleased with the warning but find the naughty and exciting thing a worry. Hopefully on the day he'll give no hint of that and it will all be fine and totally professional. |
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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago
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I don't think you need to worry, you told him you want to remain professional. He should respect that
If you're concerned that he won't send him a message before Monday and enjoy the rest of the weekend.
I slept with a guy I worked with, he left then came back. I had to put my big girl pants on and make sure we were cool before I could relax around him |
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By (user no longer on site)
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He hasn't done anything wrong. He's getting a hard time really.
He's meeting you in a work capacity. He's looked you up on a professional networking site and messaged you. Nothing wrong with that. From what you say this message wasn't of a sexual nature. Furthermore, that's appropriate professional behaviour. That's precisely the point of LinkedIn
He's then messaged you as a previous meet on a site you met him on before. I think it's appropriate to do that? You've had sex together! He's keep it separate from work. Imagine if he hadn't and you'd turned up to realise.
You've made yourself clear. He hasn't approached since or made any indication he will act anything less than professional.
Don't worry about it. 0 |
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"Just to set the record straight.. I forgot in that I've never given our encounter that night years ago much more thought. From his linkedin profile photo and name the two didn't link. Why would they? What I do on here stays on here. I met him once. It was years ago. I can't believe I'm having to justify myself or that I feel I need to.
You don't have to justify yourself, you have every right to have sex once with a guy and put it from your mind and make no connection with a guy you meet on a professional level.
I would feel as nervous as you but try and maintain a confident face in front of him. If he mentions it publicly look at him as if he's crazy, even if he makes oblique reference to it. If he mentions it privately tell him coolly and calmly that you enjoyed your encounter but it is no longer appropriate to refer to your liaison and you're sure that as a professional he will understand.
Some people truly have no idea of appropriate boundaries.
Thank you. Its definitely how I plan to deal with it. Its just not a nice situation to be in. Especially since I'm asking for something from his company. "
I absolutely understand how you feel.
In an ideal world people would be able to separate fab from work. I don't think some guys realise how it makes women feel when they over step the mark in a professional setting. |
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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago
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It is Awkward but really think you will be fine as he doesn't want to expose himself (no pun intended).
My ex-wife and I worked together and ended up meeting many local people and from the same company by chance.
If he plays up then expose him.. funny how people shut up when they are on the receiving end.
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"Just to set the record straight.. I forgot in that I've never given our encounter that night years ago much more thought. From his linkedin profile photo and name the two didn't link. Why would they? What I do on here stays on here. I met him once. It was years ago. I can't believe I'm having to justify myself or that I feel I need to.
You don't have to justify yourself, you have every right to have sex once with a guy and put it from your mind and make no connection with a guy you meet on a professional level.
I would feel as nervous as you but try and maintain a confident face in front of him. If he mentions it publicly look at him as if he's crazy, even if he makes oblique reference to it. If he mentions it privately tell him coolly and calmly that you enjoyed your encounter but it is no longer appropriate to refer to your liaison and you're sure that as a professional he will understand.
Some people truly have no idea of appropriate boundaries.
Thank you. Its definitely how I plan to deal with it. Its just not a nice situation to be in. Especially since I'm asking for something from his company.
I absolutely understand how you feel.
In an ideal world people would be able to separate fab from work. I don't think some guys realise how it makes women feel when they over step the mark in a professional setting."
i dont think anyone is overstepping the mark they are both being adult about the situation it will be fine |
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"Yeah but was he a good shag or not.
Well I forgot him...
Forgot him.
So has there been a lot then and its become one big blur.?
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He rememberd you.
That really is not your business, how many the OP has met. Sounds a tad judgemental, given the nature of the site. "
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"Just to set the record straight.. I forgot in that I've never given our encounter that night years ago much more thought. From his linkedin profile photo and name the two didn't link. Why would they? What I do on here stays on here. I met him once. It was years ago. I can't believe I'm having to justify myself or that I feel I need to.
You don't have to justify yourself, you have every right to have sex once with a guy and put it from your mind and make no connection with a guy you meet on a professional level.
I would feel as nervous as you but try and maintain a confident face in front of him. If he mentions it publicly look at him as if he's crazy, even if he makes oblique reference to it. If he mentions it privately tell him coolly and calmly that you enjoyed your encounter but it is no longer appropriate to refer to your liaison and you're sure that as a professional he will understand.
Some people truly have no idea of appropriate boundaries.
Thank you. Its definitely how I plan to deal with it. Its just not a nice situation to be in. Especially since I'm asking for something from his company.
I absolutely understand how you feel.
In an ideal world people would be able to separate fab from work. I don't think some guys realise how it makes women feel when they over step the mark in a professional setting.i dont think anyone is overstepping the mark they are both being adult about the situation it will be fine "
That's fair enough. I do though, she feels awkward and his actions in messaging her on here to say he finds the situation i.e. they've had sex and now they're meeting professionally, naughty and exciting have contributed to that awkwardness.
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"Yeah but was he a good shag or not.
Well I forgot him...
I hope he doesn't frequent the forums then or he might see this!
Seriously though, I'm sure he would rather people he works with didn't know his business either so it's likely he won't be shouting it from the rooftops. Just go in, be professional and I'm sure all will be fine
No he doesn't.
However surely he should never have mentioned it in the first place?"
Better he mentioned it now rather than in public. Try and have a private chat with him.
I forget people I've worked with. I'm crap with faces and also have a bad memory. I just apologise and they think I'm a dick but oh well.
Hope he's professional. x |
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"Just to set the record straight.. I forgot in that I've never given our encounter that night years ago much more thought. From his linkedin profile photo and name the two didn't link. Why would they? What I do on here stays on here. I met him once. It was years ago. I can't believe I'm having to justify myself or that I feel I need to.
You don't have to justify yourself, you have every right to have sex once with a guy and put it from your mind and make no connection with a guy you meet on a professional level.
I would feel as nervous as you but try and maintain a confident face in front of him. If he mentions it publicly look at him as if he's crazy, even if he makes oblique reference to it. If he mentions it privately tell him coolly and calmly that you enjoyed your encounter but it is no longer appropriate to refer to your liaison and you're sure that as a professional he will understand.
Some people truly have no idea of appropriate boundaries.
Thank you. Its definitely how I plan to deal with it. Its just not a nice situation to be in. Especially since I'm asking for something from his company.
I absolutely understand how you feel.
In an ideal world people would be able to separate fab from work. I don't think some guys realise how it makes women feel when they over step the mark in a professional setting.i dont think anyone is overstepping the mark they are both being adult about the situation it will be fine
That's fair enough. I do though, she feels awkward and his actions in messaging her on here to say he finds the situation i.e. they've had sex and now they're meeting professionally, naughty and exciting have contributed to that awkwardness.
We'll have to agree to differ. "
but they are just words in reality they are both adults and it will be fine |
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